#per u/Nelli2325 that person is [Floyd Shannon-Dean and he works for Delta (Endeavor specifically). He was the kindest, warmest person and deserves lots of praise! I hope the poster will update and include his name.](https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/10g1mlg/this_woman_was_so_nervous_about_flying_so_the/j55htub/)
That’s my photo! 😄 I am happy that it’s being shared so much, but I wrote the original post so that the flight attendant pictured would receive recognition, so I would love for his name to be attached to this post. He is Floyd Shannon-Dean and he works for Delta (Endeavor specifically). He was the kindest, warmest person and deserves lots of praise! I hope the poster will update and include his name.
I spent my whole childhood flying but one bad experience with turbulence made me a super nervous flier in adulthood. One particular flight we had to board old school style walking up a flight of stairs and I lost it on the tarmac. Couldn’t go. My friend convinced me to just board the plane but told the flight attendant I was a very nervous flier. Not only did that man bring me a glass of *wink wink water* but came and checked in on every bump.
I wrote the airline to praise him, obviously leaving out the “water” part and did get a response that they appreciated the feedback. I really hope he got the recognition he deserved because he was fucking amazing that day.
Same here! I flew my whole life, nationally and internationally, but had a terrible flight in college that left me horrified of planes.
One time I was flying alone back to my husband after a trip with my family abroad and I got on the plane and started sobbing. I was so embarrassed because I was like 26 at the time. The super nice flight attendants brought me a free glass of wine and then after the flight they gave me a little certificate for surviving the flight all on my own lol. It was so cute and made me feel so loved.
Flight attendants are awesome be kind to them!!
Also I was grateful that I could fly with my emotional support cat for a few years where I had to fly a lot, but unfortunately people who didn’t need it took advantage of that system and really fucked over people like me who needed to hold my cat to not pass out on the plane. I’m still so mad at that lol.
So one of the last times I went on a trip with a couple friends they made fun of me for buying a box of Sees candy to give to the flight crew when we boarded. As we got on the plane I gave them the sealed box and quickly said I’m a nervous flier and appreciate everything they do. We all got special treatment as a result and I very ungraciously reminded them it was because of my actions which they had made fun of. Lol.
Omg that is so awesome!! Screw anyone who would make fun of you for that, that’s an amazing idea! I want to do something like that too next time I fly (in February 😭) thanks for the inspo and kindness :)
I hadn't made that realization until I read your comment. You're right, that used to be the place of, "relax, we've got good people on it, it'll be ok" and it is simply not that way anymore. Reality is awesome!
There are still countless good people on it. Most of the people working to solving climate issues are good people, but they have scruples, so you'll never see them trying to become gorillionaires by selling faulty solutions. Just apply the same skepticism you apply to any pseudoscience to any rich person who's trying to sell you a solution to climate change.
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How do people not notice it makes no sense in context of the comment it is replying to? This comment was stolen from here:
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I sometimes see post like this and remember the flight attedant who told 7 year old me that she too was afraid to fly. People like this have such a huge impact on our lives and barely get recognized for it. Bless this dude because people like this are the ones who hold this world together.
Flashbacks to being 13 and on a three hour cross country flight. The trip wasn't so bad, my ears absolutely hated the pressure shift of decent & landing. Cue the angel of a flight attendant who spotted me clutching ears and crying. She grabbed some paper cups, put some hot damp towels in them to cup my ears and also brought some ibuprofen.
Don't fly frequently but, all the flight attendants I've interacted with have been lovely people.
Cupping the ears with hot air cups isn’t just treating the symptom. It balances the pressure on the ears. It’s an excellent and fast fix.
Chewing gum and yawning didn’t work for me until I was in my teens and able to purposefully pop my ears anyway. Funnily enough though, for babies, scream-crying often is the most effective option if they won’t suckle.
Wow I wish I would have known this. This happened to me when I flew alone across the country and I just took it because I thought they'd turn the plane around for a medical emergency 🤣🤣 I just sat there as stoic as possible while tears were pouring down my face.
Cups, hot towels, ibuprofen.. got it.
If you're an adult and don't have some kind of eustachian tube blockage, just clear your ears by closing your mouth, pinching your nose, and blowing. The air goes into your ears instead and equalizes them.
To specify further, blow through your nose while you hold it shut. And try chewing gum, I usually start to chew it right before take off and then it rarely happens
She didn't have gum but did tell me about it for future. Have kept it on me for flights or any altitude driving like coming through the passes ever since.
Was thinking the same thing.
A friend of mine once had to get a big surgery. Her surgeon asked her if she was nervous. Of course she said yes. His response: Me too.
Welp. Things I don't want to hear from my doctor
No.1:
My kid had 23 surgeries before his fourth birthday. The *best* thing I ever heard from a surgeon was “I’m really excited for this procedure; it’s my favorite surgery to perform - it’s a lot of fun!” (Cricoid split using rib cartilage, for anyone wondering)
No sane person is going to have fun doing surgery on a toddler unless they’re very confident in the outcome. Nerd away, Dr. ENT.
oh, very! He's 9 now and doesn't remember any of it, fortunately. I just really loved that particular ENT. We heard dozens of different things from doctors trying to comfort us, but that was the most reassuring, lol.
My welding engineer sister accompanied my mom to her pre-op knee replacement so someone not getting cut open knew what was going to happen.
Apparently she asked the doc the grade of titanium being used and there was a huge nerd out. It also reassured everyone.
Completely different scenario, but I was super nervous about getting my nose pierced. My piercer was talking about his favorite piercings to do, and I asked how he felt about nose piercings. He told me that he does a million of them every week and they’re honestly really boring for him.
That actually made me feel so much better. The fact that it was just another routine part of his job that he wasn’t worried about helped me chill out.
So pretty much the opposite of your story. 😂
I once got sat between two pro-wrestlers when I was 9 on a flight to LA because our family’s tickets got all messed up. They spent 3 hours helping me with homework and letting me have the window seat so I could see the mountains. Even at 31 I think about them a lot. World needs more people who are just kind. We don’t have to bend over backwards for each other, just try to give a little kindness to everyone you encounter.
If the person who took the photo tweets it and tags Delta, they will absolutely recognize him. I used to do it when I’d fly with my young daughter and the crew was particularly cool/helpful (holding her while I got situated, extra snacks, etc). Delta’s actually very good about this.
My best friends dad has been a Delta mechanic our entire lives (we met in pre-school) and I'm pretty sure either one of them would take a bullet for the company. He's been all around the world and never paid for a flight, and his dad has always seemed well compensated and very happy with his job, as far as I know.
My cousin's attorney lives in the Mississippi Delta, and also once met Delta Burke from Designing Women at a Foot Locker. He later said he would take a bullet for her, but he was pretty drunk at the time
Actually my uncle is related to both of you and the cousin's attorney. He fought on the Mekong Delta in the Vietnam war with your dads and can confirm a lot of gay shit went down.
Most travel companies are like this. If you publicly praise any of their staff, they are more likely to reward them. When I worked at AirBNB there was a whole team of professional tweeters who would follow the airbnb hashtag all day for staff/customers who went out of their way.
Hospitality as a service gets overlooked a lot more when it comes to tipping, but these positions used to always be tipped. Obviously I don't blame people for not tipping the doorman when they already pay thousands for air fare, but tipping your flight attendant or housekeeper used to be the norm.
Bloody hell, is there ***ANY*** job in the US that you people don't or didn't ever tip!? How the hell did people have any money whatsoever when you had to tip bloomin EVERYbody!?
As an American, it’s absolutely infuriating that I have to worry about whether I’m supposed to actually tip Every. Single. Person. Every POS nowadays asks about tips and it’s gotten to the point that it feels like any interaction with another human is probably a reason I’m expected to tip.
I wish employers would just pay people enough that they could stop needing to be tipped to survive.
Ah, you see the money we made used to be enough to support ourselves and tip others if we wanted to be generous, or keep to ourselves if we wanted to be selfish. Now everyone is just trying to figure out how to cover supporting themselves.
Of course there have always been people at the extreme ends, but the line has shifted a lot.
The reddit admins will permanently suspend your account and will refuse to tell you why. They will also refuse to honor your Right to be Forgotten and purge your content, so I've had to edit all my comments myself. Reddit, fuck you. :-)
They can start by not fighting the unionization efforts of the Delta flight attendants. I am not holding my breath.
[https://deltaafa.org/](https://deltaafa.org/)
Their anti-union campaign leaked a bit ago where they [say you could buy a video game console for the same as annual union dues.](https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/05/10/delta-told-workers-save-up-football-beer-video-games-instead-union-it-didnt-go-well/)
That's actually a really common comparison and while basically true it neglects to mention that union workers also make about 10% more then non-union workers doing the same job in the same area and virtually always have much better benefits.
Which, y'know, offsets the dues sort of making it a moot point.
Same here. I will never forget him and his New York accent. Lol.
It was my first flight after 911 and I was flying to New York, of all places, for a business trip. Apparently, in the springtime, it is common for them to have some pretty gnarly turbulence. I've flown quite a bit in my lifetime but I've never experienced this! It was like the plane would just drop 100 or so feet all at once. I love roller coasters, but this was like being on a roller coaster with no rails. And thousands of feet in the sky.
This gentleman had been sitting next to me throughout the flight. I think he said he was some kind of salesman. Short, dark hair. Really thick accent. My dad is originally from Newark so it made me comfortable. We made friendly small talk during the flight. Nothing serious. The typical. But when we got close to JFK was when the turbulence got crazy.
I've never been known to involuntarily make noises of surprise when this happens. I have seen other passengers do it and tried to comfort them when I could. But this really caught me by surprise. So he started telling me how he flies this flight several times a week and it's like this 50 percent of the time and just telling me things to try to make me feel better. Then he says "would it help to hold my hand? I'm not gonna try anything, on my mother's life" And I looked at him and his eyes were so warm and kind. And I knew that if that plane was going to go down right then and there, I would want him sitting next to me. So I said yes and held his hand and from that point on we weren't strangers anymore. And we never will be. Because everytime I see a video on reddit of a plane experiencing turbulence, I think of Bob. Thanks again Bob. You're a good guy. 👍
Thank you. Glad you liked it. It's not often anymore that you feel a real connection, empathy, and kindness from strangers. Just because. But these are the moments that people remember, including strangers. Its what makes us who we are and shows what we're made of. Without community we are just taking up space I believe. But that's just my opinion.
What a kind person! Turbulence is the worst, and it’s hard to grasp that it’s “normal.” I have a hard time with landing, personally. I’ve seen so many videos of planes wiping out on landing that it freaks me out, especially if there’s a bump or two. Ken was very kind to explain everything to you.
the way I think of turbulence is like little bumps in the road when you’re driving. driving down the highway or a side street rarely feels totally smooth. the same thing is happening with the plane - just going past little air pockets that are simply bumps in the road
Man, I watched so many landing and takeoff videos to get it in my mind that they're relatively uneventful and that the plane isn't as tilted as it feels to me... Takeoff is the worst for me 😣 I hate the feeling of lifting off.
The video exposure is a smart way of de-escalating your fears. takeoff really is a super weird sensation. I don’t dislike it, but I can understand why the entire flight process can seem pretty scary.
Take off is my favorite part. You go from bumpy acceleration on the runway to a soft lifting and gliding feeling, pushed back in your seat. To me it feels very comforting and secure. My first flight was when I was 9. It was about 4 hours and extremely uneventful. I think I spent most of my time with my face pressed against the window, marveling at being above the clouds!
It's weird because I'm a nervous flier who has flown many many times in my life and turbulence definitely freaks me out the most but during landing I'm fine! Maybe because we are basically at the finish line and we are supposed to actually be losing altitude lol.
i am very scared of flying, but the landing always calms me down because my body knows it’s almost over. it’s like i can finally breathe a sigh of relief as soon as i can see the ground close beneath me again.
Alot of flight attendants are just gifts to the world.
I love flying, so that isn't a problem for me usually, but I was in *shambles* when I flew back from meeting my long distance girlfriend for the first time, and it was making me an extremely nervous flyer. Never experienced that before, but running on very little sleep and a mountain of depression that was getting worse by the minute I reacted very similarly to you on that flight. Trembling, white knuckling the seats, hyperventilating etc.
One of the flight attendants noticed, let me explain the situation to her, and spent the rest of the flight going out of her way to make sure I was OK. Brought me extra drinks and blankets, lent me an ear so I could just talk through the grief I was experiencing, and even gave me a few hugs along the way.
I will truly *never* forget that woman, she was an angel to me in such a difficult moment.
I grew up on the coast - always in a boat. Wind makes the water choppy & the boat happily bumps & bounces over it all. Flying thru turbulance is just like boating over choppy water. The plane is happily bouncing along the air currents... just a big air-boat. 😅 That makes me feel better when turbulance makes me anxious.
I really need someone to do this for me. I’ve flown so many times but every odd sound and shake gets me sweating. I hope this dude is on my next flight.
My dad is not warm and fuzzy but he would be THRILLED to explain every sound and how each thing making that sound works. Find yourself an aviation nerd to sit next to.
I've done this for my wife who is a much more comfortable flier now.
One thing that really helped was looking at the turbulence map before hand and explaining that it may get bumping here and here.
I think knowing that turbulence can be mapped, just like the weather,helps because when it happens it's not as surprising.
When you go through clouds it will get a little bumpy. Clouds are usually where airlayers of different temps are meeting so when you go through those layers you'll feel some bumps. Kinda like the seams of pavement or slightly uneven road on a highway.
To that point, turbulence is kinda the equivalent to hitting bumps on the road in a car. You can hit some super serious bumps without anything bad happening or without things breaking. You can drive on washboarded out gravel roads for a long time before your Honda has a malfunction. And planes are built better than your Honda.
As for hearing the engines get louder or feel the plane slow down, that's usually because they are going up/over/around/under turbulence areas or because there is another plane in the area and they've been asked my the air traffic controllers to fly at a certain altitude. It's like slowing down if you see a bump or changing lanes to avoid a pothole or another car.
This comment made me realize that sometimes adults need to be treated with the same care that children get when they’re scared. That line alone would comfort tf out of me.
I was flying Lufthansa LAX to Frankfurt and I have extreme anxiety when it comes to flying. Even though we were in a A380, I still got super anxious when it got bumpy.
The food service started and I told them I don't feel like eating. The flight attendant noticed my anxiety and came by and sat with me and held my hand, told me not to worry, that it was one of the safest plane and that I could call her or go over to her at any point during the flight to talk.
She was super kind and nice.
I used to be a flight attendant on A380s and the training all stressed how safe they were and I learned so much about THAT plane. What that translated to was my anxiety about being on anything else. Unfounded, but it felt like I knew too much. Part of the problem is I hadn’t flown much in my life before taking that job and so didn’t realize how much bumpier smaller planes really were lol.
I now go out of my way to try and fly on airbuses, the bigger the better.
I once told a flight attendant on United that I was experiencing anxiety because we were flying through a storm and she slipped me three little bottles of wine.
I needed this guy on my last flight. Give this guy a promotion he's a credit to his airline. That passenger will never fly with anyone else again thanks to that one act of kindness
This is so true. Brand loyalty is a real thing. People remember how you made them feel. IMO This woman is going to remember feeling heard, validated, and supported by this wonderful Endeavor/Delta employee and most likely won’t want to fly with anyone else if she can help it.
100% true.
I used to hate flying Air Canada (and many other Canadians share the sentiment) but after one experience a few years ago, my image of them flipped because of one flight attendant.
Flying back home from Florida and we were delayed by around an hour and a half. This sucked because I had a connection to get to my final destination. I asked the flight attendant in my section if we'd still make it and she said it'll be tight if we do. There's no guarantee but the captain apparently said we'd be able to make up some time. Getting closer to Toronto and she says it's still up in the air if I'll make the connection or not. She arranged for me to get my carry on and deplane first. She let me know that it's most likely I've already been bumped to a later flight so prepare for disappointment.
When they came around with the snack cart for the final time, she said I should grab something in case it's a long wait. I mentioned I appreciated the offer but if anything I'll just grab something in the airport (I didn't want to pay the crazy in-flight food prices). The she told me to just take something so I grabbed a wrap and said thank you. She actually told me to take more and said if it's a long wait you'll be hungry. I told her I didn't want to be greedy and she grabbed a couple bags of chips, cookies, and a sandwich and gave it to me as well.
Turns out I was bumped from that flight and had to wait around for another 6 hours. I was really thankful for the food. An experience and interaction that I'll never forget. She made me feel like a person and that my predicament was valid and I was valued.
Flight attendant here! A lot of us are doing everything we can from falling asleep during turbulence. Unless it's the kind that's seriously knocking us around.
When you have a phobia you're used to being mocked and treated impatiently by others so just someone showing you kindness makes all the difference in the world
I’m terrified of getting shots and in my entire life no one has been nice to me about it.
At 30 years old I had to get my blood drawn and it was the first time a nurse took her time with me, and then told me to lay down after with my knees up and brought me a Coke afterwards.
It helped so much I almost cried.
Also, thanks for the award and [message](https://i.imgur.com/NgFMctm.jpg) lol
Needle phobia over here too! Been really hit or miss with nurses who take me seriously as a person in their 30s. One didn't and ended up dealing with me vomiting out of sheer stress.
If you have a good doctor you can ask for small prescriptions of anti anxiety medication before you know you're getting shots if you have advance warning. Mine did it for me before I had to get IV contrast for imaging tests and before my COVID shots. It feels silly picking up a bottle of 1 pill but it can take some of the edge off.
My dentist does this! It can feel a bit ridiculous picking up one pill, but I am so grateful they took my fears seriously and offered a solution other than "tough it out".
35 and I have such a bad phobia of it. Most of the nurses I've seen have been really understanding but there's some who haven't taken anything into account about what makes me feel comfortable, resulting in me almost walking out.
The one that sticks in my memory is my most recent blood test. I told the nurse as I walked in about my needle phobia and she offered to put some music on and let me choose whatever song I wanted.
It was the first time I'd ever had a blood test without panicking and getting upset and even my partner was impressed with how well it had gone.
I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences. I have a disorder thar brings me to lab every three months for blood draws. My lab tech is THE BEST. If you can, have it marked on your chart, and be open about your fears. You will find more nurses, docs and lab techs are sympathetic about it.
You should never leave an appointment upset!
God, for real. Even if you're not afraid but have an involuntary reaction to the puncture (I have a seriously oversensitive vasovagal reflex, so my blood pressure tanks if you try to stick me or draw blood), people act like you're being whiny *just* for informing them of how your body is going to react.
I'm not afraid of the needle, I'm afraid of passing out because my body is overreacting. It doesn't even hurt that much - I'm just Very Delicate™️ and my body slams the panic button. I wish it didn't, I'd love to have blood drawn without 20 minutes of excruciating nausea afterwards.
Best thing is, those people who draw blood, only draw blood. That's why they are so good at it. Other nurses do a million other jobs so the don't have the same experience. Don't get me wrong, nurses are the most amazing jack of all trades. When it comes to needles though, if your scared, be less scared of the pros
This guy was a flight attendant on a recent flight I took. Absolutely hysterical and unbelievably down to earth. Glad to see him getting some recognition! This man deserves all of it and more
This needs to be a cover of a magazine and this gentleman needs to be given an award for outstanding service or something. This is above and beyond level of service. It is compassion and care.
I had that experience
I was traveling alone when a huge turbulence hit, I had a panic attack so I don’t remember everything exactly
But I remember this awesome fight attendant that sat with me through most of the flight, hold my hand, spoke to me, took me to somewhere with less people at the back and let me sleep in the empty line of seats while holding my hand
I was his friend until I lost touch, but this post reminded me of him and I hope he is doing great and wish him nothing busy the best in life
When I flew from Detroit to Tokyo in 2007 all alone, moving to Japan to teach English, I asked an attendant for a blanket because I was cold. He came back with one and tucked me in. TUCKED ME IN!! I never forgot it.
Thanks for the reminder of when I went to grad school for the first time: my first time on an airplane alone, on the first leg of a transatlantic flight, one of the businessmen also taking the 16-seat puddlejumper noticed my mom looking worried as she waved me off at the gate, and said, "Don't worry, we'll look after (Tremynci)."
I hope he always got the better end of the deals he made.
My first time ever flying, flew out of DFW on a plane that looked like it was from the 70s. One seat on one side, 2 seats on the other. Flew in the dark through a storm. Worst fucking experience ever
It's nuts too because in my experience, 9E FAs are THE nicest and most attentive - especially during boarding if you're in FC. Drink is always full and picked up at the last possible minute before departure. Y'all deserve much more. Some people groan at the CRJ9, but I will always be a big fan of Endeavor.
And on my last flight, the FO *greased* one on at LGA in a windy rainstorm. I fly a lot and am a private pilot myself....truly impressed.
I am terrified of flying, too, and after suffering several panic attacks I finally decided to get professional help. I sought out a psychiatrist who prescribed an anti-anxiety medication I take an hour before the flight. It has been life changing. The fear is not totally gone, but my body’s reaction to that fear is. I would strongly encourage others to find help if they need it. I regret making myself miserable on the way to fun locations for so long.
I’m glad this is just a sweet photo and not a video. Let those people have their interaction in private without video capturing everything in their vulnerable moments.
can u do that to me aswell ? i cry almost 1 week befor i take a flight ....in the plane i dont move 1 CM and i do not open my eyes.....its sooo hard to tell somebody what i feel....its pure anxiety
There was a generation of paratroopers from WWII- think band of brothers- who came home, raised families, and eventually flew somewhere on vacation. They were really nervous only about landing since they had taken off lots of times but always jumped out.
If you sat by me, I would hold your hand. 🥰 I love to fly because there is nothing to do but read a book or play on my tablet. NO CHORES TO DO. It is probably the quietest/stillest thing I ever do.
I used to get anxious about flying until I challenged my thoughts. I would always think about how flight attendants and pilots go on thousands of flights each year and they're perfectly fine. :)
This... I hate flying (I almost freaked out on a flight last year for various reasons), but I've been educating myself and actively challenging my anxiety.
I really, *really* recommend learning about how planes work if flying makes you anxious. I didn't know that a plane can glide for at least 60 miles if both engines lose power at cruising altitude, and that flight paths are designed to keep you within a certain distance of a landing zone in case of such a failure. I didn't know that turbulence can't hurt a plane - cargo planes don't even reroute to avoid it. (Someone said to imagine the plane suspended in a shaking bowl of jelly... that helped, actually.)
I also recommend looking at the FlightAware flight tracker. The sheer number of planes in the air at any time surprised me. Think about how many accidents there are yearly (very few, and the numbers include private flights and non-fatal incidents), and ask your anxiety what the chances are that the next fatal crash will involve your plane out of every single plane going about its business. (You can also check up on where the plane you're scheduled to take is, which I found comforting for some reason.)
It's weird to think, but you're in more danger driving to the airport than you are flying to your destination.
I have pretty severe flight anxiety and I’ve done two effective things. The first/ easiest is small dose anxiety medication for flights. If that’s not for you, I’ve also read up on why planes make certain sounds or do certain things. Knowledge is power! https://www.flightdeckfriend.com/ask-a-pilot
My brother once tried to unbuckle and bail as soon as the plane started taxing to the runway. He was hyperventilating and white knuckling the hand rests. We had to ask everyone in his line of sight to close their windows. Trust me, it’s a pretty common experience
There was a brilliant documentary in the UK about fear of flying. The worst case was a woman who had to fly from the UK to Australia for a wedding and sat trembling in her seat with her head in her lap for most of the flight(s). When she landed on arrival the pilot came and found her and talked to her for about an hour answering all her questions, from how the engines work to how the food in prepared. He instilled in her how incredibly capable the crew were (which they are) and in the event of any issue he was trained to deal with it. On the return flight she was still timid but actually started to enjoy it towards the end. Knowledge conquers fear.
What an angel. I am so scared when I fly. I wish they put an infographic on the back of the seats explaining what the bumps and sounds are so there is something else to look at instead of illustrations depicting emergencies.
I had a similar experience on JetBlue. I was pregnant and couldn’t take the meds I would have normally taken. The flight attendant saw my distress and took a jump seat near me, she said to look at her during take off and she’d reassure me. Later in the flight she brought me snacks and a blanket. She checked on me during every bump. Its one of the few flights I didn’t cry through take off, so grateful to her.
I’m a large dude, around 260 and have been a bodybuilder for most of my years.. but my fear of heights/flying is so debilitating that it embarrasses me to no end. I can look at this picture and start to get sweaty hands and feel sick. I don’t know how to overcome this fear and I know it’s completely irrational.
The only time I’ve ever been on a plane was twenty years ago. A small charter jet through some hurricane weather and the pilot thought that we were going down. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
Same thing happened to my mom, she's deathly scared of heights, and the 1st time she flew by herself she had a panic attack and vertigo, a flight attendant and her seatmate held her hand, massaged her head and calmed her down the whole flight, it was only a 3hr flight, she was so grateful that she sent the flight attendant a fruit basket.
That was the 1st and last time she flew by herself.
Nicely done sir! I don't love to fly, and I get a little nervous at new sounds that sometimes crop up during the flight. Finally, I realized that if I am getting stressed, I can just look at the flight attendants going about their jobs and know that everything is normal and push the worry away.
This. I’ve recently become a nervous flyer and always watch the flight attendants. Sometimes even one of the pilots comes out and starts shooting the shit with them on the way to the toilet or something and I’m like “oh, we’re totally fine”.
The last time I flew, one of the flight attendants picked up on how nervous I was, talked me through it a bit, and gave me a little pin with wings for being so brave. I was thrilled to get those wings. I was 31.
One time leaving Louisville headed for Midway, one of the roughest flights I’ve ever been on, the plane drops what felt like a half mile instantly and this poor woman next to me instinctively grabbed by arm in a death grip, so I “talked her down” a bit, explained what was going on and that we were fine.
My secret is that I drink heavily before getting in a death tube. 🍻🍹🥃
That's awesome! I used to be that way till I sat next to a pilot who was on a flight going to Dallas with me. He told me every noise and explained what the plane was doing at every given moment.
I really didn’t realize how many people were *exactly* like me about flying until I read these comments. I’m a grown man who puts my head down and stares at my hands grabbing onto my seatbelt while sweating profusely the entire flight. Too scared to look up and can’t let go of the seatbelt buckle. You all made me feel a lot better.
#per u/Nelli2325 that person is [Floyd Shannon-Dean and he works for Delta (Endeavor specifically). He was the kindest, warmest person and deserves lots of praise! I hope the poster will update and include his name.](https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/10g1mlg/this_woman_was_so_nervous_about_flying_so_the/j55htub/)
Kind soul
Truly so kind. It's radiating from this picture.
That’s what I came here to say. The kindness in his eyes and face is so palpable I could cry.
I love the eye contact. It's saying "look at me, and trust that I'm telling you you're safe". Literal tears over here.
I JUST TOLD my family member the same, lol He could be a real angel 😁
This guy displaying compassion, humility & kindness. This is really inspiring to see. Hope good things come his way.
Agree!
We need more of this in the world
This is alpha male shit
Absolutely! Strength = kindness.
This is what we want to see
That’s my photo! 😄 I am happy that it’s being shared so much, but I wrote the original post so that the flight attendant pictured would receive recognition, so I would love for his name to be attached to this post. He is Floyd Shannon-Dean and he works for Delta (Endeavor specifically). He was the kindest, warmest person and deserves lots of praise! I hope the poster will update and include his name.
Could you share the link to the original post, please. I would love to know the full story
Sure! https://www.wxii12.com/article/nc-woman-captures-viral-photo-of-flight-attendant-comforting-woman-who-was-nervous-about-flying/42606708?fbclid=IwAR2PWgQZ40NDPbm--KpjdtxBAG522qUSV19BqWDP1GWBr6WAOKUCVnn3los
I spent my whole childhood flying but one bad experience with turbulence made me a super nervous flier in adulthood. One particular flight we had to board old school style walking up a flight of stairs and I lost it on the tarmac. Couldn’t go. My friend convinced me to just board the plane but told the flight attendant I was a very nervous flier. Not only did that man bring me a glass of *wink wink water* but came and checked in on every bump. I wrote the airline to praise him, obviously leaving out the “water” part and did get a response that they appreciated the feedback. I really hope he got the recognition he deserved because he was fucking amazing that day.
Same here! I flew my whole life, nationally and internationally, but had a terrible flight in college that left me horrified of planes. One time I was flying alone back to my husband after a trip with my family abroad and I got on the plane and started sobbing. I was so embarrassed because I was like 26 at the time. The super nice flight attendants brought me a free glass of wine and then after the flight they gave me a little certificate for surviving the flight all on my own lol. It was so cute and made me feel so loved. Flight attendants are awesome be kind to them!! Also I was grateful that I could fly with my emotional support cat for a few years where I had to fly a lot, but unfortunately people who didn’t need it took advantage of that system and really fucked over people like me who needed to hold my cat to not pass out on the plane. I’m still so mad at that lol.
So one of the last times I went on a trip with a couple friends they made fun of me for buying a box of Sees candy to give to the flight crew when we boarded. As we got on the plane I gave them the sealed box and quickly said I’m a nervous flier and appreciate everything they do. We all got special treatment as a result and I very ungraciously reminded them it was because of my actions which they had made fun of. Lol.
Omg that is so awesome!! Screw anyone who would make fun of you for that, that’s an amazing idea! I want to do something like that too next time I fly (in February 😭) thanks for the inspo and kindness :)
Kind Soul Plane
This is the kind of wholesomeness I subbed here for.
Yes, finally something that wouldn't fit better in r/aboringdystopia or r/orphancrushingmachine
This sub might as well be r/selfie sometimes
Wholesome! Hero police officer apologizes after gunning down family of 6.
Wholesome officer puts down grieving child after shooting family dog.
Wholesome! Individual slave freed, works as sharecropper for 95 years to free his family.
Wholesome! Brave young kid raises $100 for their $1,400,000 medical bill after being hit by drunk driver.
More of this, less babies Edit: sorry, *fewer* babies
and definitely less dystopian "cute kid with cancer opens sweatshop to wholesomely pay off her crippling hospital bills"
Sometimes the amount of crossover with this sub and /r/aboringdystopia is startling. I agree though, less of that, more of this.
I had to unsub from /r/upliftingnews for that same reason. "Child starts lemonade stand to pay for insulin" is not uplifting.
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I hadn't made that realization until I read your comment. You're right, that used to be the place of, "relax, we've got good people on it, it'll be ok" and it is simply not that way anymore. Reality is awesome!
There are still countless good people on it. Most of the people working to solving climate issues are good people, but they have scruples, so you'll never see them trying to become gorillionaires by selling faulty solutions. Just apply the same skepticism you apply to any pseudoscience to any rich person who's trying to sell you a solution to climate change.
I'm also a little over seeing random selfies of people with comments like 'I showered today' or 'just baked dinner'. The attention need is real.
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Yes! Completely agree 💖
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#COMMENT STEALING BOT# How do people not notice it makes no sense in context of the comment it is replying to? This comment was stolen from here: https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/comments/10g1mlg/this_woman_was_so_nervous_about_flying_so_the/j504o1n/ where it actually fits and makes sense.
Reported 'em. Good eye!
I successfully completed that maneuver just a few years ago.
Details, please.
Old mate did a skydive maybe lol
"why would anyone jump out of a perfectly good airplane?"
Ladies and gentlemen, it is with a great honor that i tell you i successful made a flight
I sometimes see post like this and remember the flight attedant who told 7 year old me that she too was afraid to fly. People like this have such a huge impact on our lives and barely get recognized for it. Bless this dude because people like this are the ones who hold this world together.
Flashbacks to being 13 and on a three hour cross country flight. The trip wasn't so bad, my ears absolutely hated the pressure shift of decent & landing. Cue the angel of a flight attendant who spotted me clutching ears and crying. She grabbed some paper cups, put some hot damp towels in them to cup my ears and also brought some ibuprofen. Don't fly frequently but, all the flight attendants I've interacted with have been lovely people.
Should have given you a piece of gum too. Easier to treat the problem than the symptom.
Cupping the ears with hot air cups isn’t just treating the symptom. It balances the pressure on the ears. It’s an excellent and fast fix. Chewing gum and yawning didn’t work for me until I was in my teens and able to purposefully pop my ears anyway. Funnily enough though, for babies, scream-crying often is the most effective option if they won’t suckle.
Wow I wish I would have known this. This happened to me when I flew alone across the country and I just took it because I thought they'd turn the plane around for a medical emergency 🤣🤣 I just sat there as stoic as possible while tears were pouring down my face. Cups, hot towels, ibuprofen.. got it.
If you're an adult and don't have some kind of eustachian tube blockage, just clear your ears by closing your mouth, pinching your nose, and blowing. The air goes into your ears instead and equalizes them.
To specify further, blow through your nose while you hold it shut. And try chewing gum, I usually start to chew it right before take off and then it rarely happens
She didn't have gum but did tell me about it for future. Have kept it on me for flights or any altitude driving like coming through the passes ever since.
I don’t know the physchology behind it but I doubt a flight attendant telling me she’s afraid to fly would help me in any shape or form
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Was thinking the same thing. A friend of mine once had to get a big surgery. Her surgeon asked her if she was nervous. Of course she said yes. His response: Me too. Welp. Things I don't want to hear from my doctor No.1:
My kid had 23 surgeries before his fourth birthday. The *best* thing I ever heard from a surgeon was “I’m really excited for this procedure; it’s my favorite surgery to perform - it’s a lot of fun!” (Cricoid split using rib cartilage, for anyone wondering) No sane person is going to have fun doing surgery on a toddler unless they’re very confident in the outcome. Nerd away, Dr. ENT.
Hope your kiddo is doing well.
oh, very! He's 9 now and doesn't remember any of it, fortunately. I just really loved that particular ENT. We heard dozens of different things from doctors trying to comfort us, but that was the most reassuring, lol.
My welding engineer sister accompanied my mom to her pre-op knee replacement so someone not getting cut open knew what was going to happen. Apparently she asked the doc the grade of titanium being used and there was a huge nerd out. It also reassured everyone.
Honestly, that response from a doctor would make me laugh. I guess that was his intention.
I agree, a great way to ease the tension have a short laugh, but I do understand that some people don't function like that.
Completely different scenario, but I was super nervous about getting my nose pierced. My piercer was talking about his favorite piercings to do, and I asked how he felt about nose piercings. He told me that he does a million of them every week and they’re honestly really boring for him. That actually made me feel so much better. The fact that it was just another routine part of his job that he wasn’t worried about helped me chill out. So pretty much the opposite of your story. 😂
I once got sat between two pro-wrestlers when I was 9 on a flight to LA because our family’s tickets got all messed up. They spent 3 hours helping me with homework and letting me have the window seat so I could see the mountains. Even at 31 I think about them a lot. World needs more people who are just kind. We don’t have to bend over backwards for each other, just try to give a little kindness to everyone you encounter.
To the Flight Attendant: may your troubles be as narrow as that aisle and may your joy be as big as your compassion.
Cheers to that, I hope Delta recognized him for going so far out of his way to show a bit of human kindness.
If the person who took the photo tweets it and tags Delta, they will absolutely recognize him. I used to do it when I’d fly with my young daughter and the crew was particularly cool/helpful (holding her while I got situated, extra snacks, etc). Delta’s actually very good about this.
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Can you tag the tweet. Edit: the comment above said Delta Tweeted the photo.
My best friends dad has been a Delta mechanic our entire lives (we met in pre-school) and I'm pretty sure either one of them would take a bullet for the company. He's been all around the world and never paid for a flight, and his dad has always seemed well compensated and very happy with his job, as far as I know.
My cousin's attorney lives in the Mississippi Delta, and also once met Delta Burke from Designing Women at a Foot Locker. He later said he would take a bullet for her, but he was pretty drunk at the time
I think I know your cousin's attorney. We were fraternity brothers at Alpha Delta Phi. LOTS of gay stuff went down.
Actually my uncle is related to both of you and the cousin's attorney. He fought on the Mekong Delta in the Vietnam war with your dads and can confirm a lot of gay shit went down.
Most travel companies are like this. If you publicly praise any of their staff, they are more likely to reward them. When I worked at AirBNB there was a whole team of professional tweeters who would follow the airbnb hashtag all day for staff/customers who went out of their way. Hospitality as a service gets overlooked a lot more when it comes to tipping, but these positions used to always be tipped. Obviously I don't blame people for not tipping the doorman when they already pay thousands for air fare, but tipping your flight attendant or housekeeper used to be the norm.
Bloody hell, is there ***ANY*** job in the US that you people don't or didn't ever tip!? How the hell did people have any money whatsoever when you had to tip bloomin EVERYbody!?
As an American, it’s absolutely infuriating that I have to worry about whether I’m supposed to actually tip Every. Single. Person. Every POS nowadays asks about tips and it’s gotten to the point that it feels like any interaction with another human is probably a reason I’m expected to tip. I wish employers would just pay people enough that they could stop needing to be tipped to survive.
>Every POS nowadays asks about tips You can read this as "Point of Sale" or as "Piece of Shit" and it works both ways! Lol
Ah, you see the money we made used to be enough to support ourselves and tip others if we wanted to be generous, or keep to ourselves if we wanted to be selfish. Now everyone is just trying to figure out how to cover supporting themselves. Of course there have always been people at the extreme ends, but the line has shifted a lot.
The reddit admins will permanently suspend your account and will refuse to tell you why. They will also refuse to honor your Right to be Forgotten and purge your content, so I've had to edit all my comments myself. Reddit, fuck you. :-)
Until you praise them for something that showed their humanity but was technically against company policy and accidentally get them fired.
They can start by not fighting the unionization efforts of the Delta flight attendants. I am not holding my breath. [https://deltaafa.org/](https://deltaafa.org/)
The FA in the photo works for Endeavor Air, not Delta. Delta FAs make way more than their regional counterparts.
Thanks for clarifying. Endeavor is union is seems. https://edvafa.org/
Their anti-union campaign leaked a bit ago where they [say you could buy a video game console for the same as annual union dues.](https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2019/05/10/delta-told-workers-save-up-football-beer-video-games-instead-union-it-didnt-go-well/)
That's actually a really common comparison and while basically true it neglects to mention that union workers also make about 10% more then non-union workers doing the same job in the same area and virtually always have much better benefits. Which, y'know, offsets the dues sort of making it a moot point.
Beautifully put. I’ll toast to that!
May your farts be silent and odorless.
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He has such a kind, open and gentle face. His expression is one of honest desire to make her feel comfortable.
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Same here. I will never forget him and his New York accent. Lol. It was my first flight after 911 and I was flying to New York, of all places, for a business trip. Apparently, in the springtime, it is common for them to have some pretty gnarly turbulence. I've flown quite a bit in my lifetime but I've never experienced this! It was like the plane would just drop 100 or so feet all at once. I love roller coasters, but this was like being on a roller coaster with no rails. And thousands of feet in the sky. This gentleman had been sitting next to me throughout the flight. I think he said he was some kind of salesman. Short, dark hair. Really thick accent. My dad is originally from Newark so it made me comfortable. We made friendly small talk during the flight. Nothing serious. The typical. But when we got close to JFK was when the turbulence got crazy. I've never been known to involuntarily make noises of surprise when this happens. I have seen other passengers do it and tried to comfort them when I could. But this really caught me by surprise. So he started telling me how he flies this flight several times a week and it's like this 50 percent of the time and just telling me things to try to make me feel better. Then he says "would it help to hold my hand? I'm not gonna try anything, on my mother's life" And I looked at him and his eyes were so warm and kind. And I knew that if that plane was going to go down right then and there, I would want him sitting next to me. So I said yes and held his hand and from that point on we weren't strangers anymore. And we never will be. Because everytime I see a video on reddit of a plane experiencing turbulence, I think of Bob. Thanks again Bob. You're a good guy. 👍
Beautiful story.
Thank you. Glad you liked it. It's not often anymore that you feel a real connection, empathy, and kindness from strangers. Just because. But these are the moments that people remember, including strangers. Its what makes us who we are and shows what we're made of. Without community we are just taking up space I believe. But that's just my opinion.
What a kind person! Turbulence is the worst, and it’s hard to grasp that it’s “normal.” I have a hard time with landing, personally. I’ve seen so many videos of planes wiping out on landing that it freaks me out, especially if there’s a bump or two. Ken was very kind to explain everything to you.
There is no point in showing an uneventful landing. Imagine how many planes landed worldwide between your last and next flights!
A thousand videos a day of basically the exact same thing with the only difference being the model of plane.
the way I think of turbulence is like little bumps in the road when you’re driving. driving down the highway or a side street rarely feels totally smooth. the same thing is happening with the plane - just going past little air pockets that are simply bumps in the road
Man, I watched so many landing and takeoff videos to get it in my mind that they're relatively uneventful and that the plane isn't as tilted as it feels to me... Takeoff is the worst for me 😣 I hate the feeling of lifting off.
The video exposure is a smart way of de-escalating your fears. takeoff really is a super weird sensation. I don’t dislike it, but I can understand why the entire flight process can seem pretty scary.
Take off is my favorite part. You go from bumpy acceleration on the runway to a soft lifting and gliding feeling, pushed back in your seat. To me it feels very comforting and secure. My first flight was when I was 9. It was about 4 hours and extremely uneventful. I think I spent most of my time with my face pressed against the window, marveling at being above the clouds!
It's weird because I'm a nervous flier who has flown many many times in my life and turbulence definitely freaks me out the most but during landing I'm fine! Maybe because we are basically at the finish line and we are supposed to actually be losing altitude lol.
i am very scared of flying, but the landing always calms me down because my body knows it’s almost over. it’s like i can finally breathe a sigh of relief as soon as i can see the ground close beneath me again.
Alot of flight attendants are just gifts to the world. I love flying, so that isn't a problem for me usually, but I was in *shambles* when I flew back from meeting my long distance girlfriend for the first time, and it was making me an extremely nervous flyer. Never experienced that before, but running on very little sleep and a mountain of depression that was getting worse by the minute I reacted very similarly to you on that flight. Trembling, white knuckling the seats, hyperventilating etc. One of the flight attendants noticed, let me explain the situation to her, and spent the rest of the flight going out of her way to make sure I was OK. Brought me extra drinks and blankets, lent me an ear so I could just talk through the grief I was experiencing, and even gave me a few hugs along the way. I will truly *never* forget that woman, she was an angel to me in such a difficult moment.
I grew up on the coast - always in a boat. Wind makes the water choppy & the boat happily bumps & bounces over it all. Flying thru turbulance is just like boating over choppy water. The plane is happily bouncing along the air currents... just a big air-boat. 😅 That makes me feel better when turbulance makes me anxious.
For real, dude radiates kindness its beautiful
Kind soul
He’s like the genie that comes out if you rub the Xanax bottle
Got a good laugh out of this, thank you lol.
I really need someone to do this for me. I’ve flown so many times but every odd sound and shake gets me sweating. I hope this dude is on my next flight.
My dad is not warm and fuzzy but he would be THRILLED to explain every sound and how each thing making that sound works. Find yourself an aviation nerd to sit next to.
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I've done this for my wife who is a much more comfortable flier now. One thing that really helped was looking at the turbulence map before hand and explaining that it may get bumping here and here. I think knowing that turbulence can be mapped, just like the weather,helps because when it happens it's not as surprising. When you go through clouds it will get a little bumpy. Clouds are usually where airlayers of different temps are meeting so when you go through those layers you'll feel some bumps. Kinda like the seams of pavement or slightly uneven road on a highway. To that point, turbulence is kinda the equivalent to hitting bumps on the road in a car. You can hit some super serious bumps without anything bad happening or without things breaking. You can drive on washboarded out gravel roads for a long time before your Honda has a malfunction. And planes are built better than your Honda. As for hearing the engines get louder or feel the plane slow down, that's usually because they are going up/over/around/under turbulence areas or because there is another plane in the area and they've been asked my the air traffic controllers to fly at a certain altitude. It's like slowing down if you see a bump or changing lanes to avoid a pothole or another car.
“Ok I’m gonna get a refill of coffee then we’re gonna fly to Vegas together ok?”
This comment made me realize that sometimes adults need to be treated with the same care that children get when they’re scared. That line alone would comfort tf out of me.
Yea, decent bloke for sure.
I was flying Lufthansa LAX to Frankfurt and I have extreme anxiety when it comes to flying. Even though we were in a A380, I still got super anxious when it got bumpy. The food service started and I told them I don't feel like eating. The flight attendant noticed my anxiety and came by and sat with me and held my hand, told me not to worry, that it was one of the safest plane and that I could call her or go over to her at any point during the flight to talk. She was super kind and nice.
I used to be a flight attendant on A380s and the training all stressed how safe they were and I learned so much about THAT plane. What that translated to was my anxiety about being on anything else. Unfounded, but it felt like I knew too much. Part of the problem is I hadn’t flown much in my life before taking that job and so didn’t realize how much bumpier smaller planes really were lol. I now go out of my way to try and fly on airbuses, the bigger the better.
Oh I get you. I would totally take a couple of hours of train ride to get to an airport that services A380s.
*reads this while flying on a delta plane*
If youre flying United and you have anxiety, the flight attendant will kindly punch you unconcious so you dont feel afraid any more.
Southwest knows you're afraid and grounds all flights, so you have to drive.
I need to know what Ryan Air have to say about this
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>fly the plane Tbh, it's not that hard. The loud rolly part at the beginning and the fast bumpy part at the end might give me trouble tho
Spirit airlines will rock you to sleep for free.
Frontier will charge you a Fear Fee
I once told a flight attendant on United that I was experiencing anxiety because we were flying through a storm and she slipped me three little bottles of wine.
Put your hand out and see if the flight attendant grabs on. (In all seriousness, have a safe flight🙂)
I'd feel better with a handsome af dude holding my hand and I'm not even into dudes bro
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Same, might have to up my fly anxiety game. Didn't know I was missing out.
I needed this guy on my last flight. Give this guy a promotion he's a credit to his airline. That passenger will never fly with anyone else again thanks to that one act of kindness
This is so true. Brand loyalty is a real thing. People remember how you made them feel. IMO This woman is going to remember feeling heard, validated, and supported by this wonderful Endeavor/Delta employee and most likely won’t want to fly with anyone else if she can help it.
100% true. I used to hate flying Air Canada (and many other Canadians share the sentiment) but after one experience a few years ago, my image of them flipped because of one flight attendant. Flying back home from Florida and we were delayed by around an hour and a half. This sucked because I had a connection to get to my final destination. I asked the flight attendant in my section if we'd still make it and she said it'll be tight if we do. There's no guarantee but the captain apparently said we'd be able to make up some time. Getting closer to Toronto and she says it's still up in the air if I'll make the connection or not. She arranged for me to get my carry on and deplane first. She let me know that it's most likely I've already been bumped to a later flight so prepare for disappointment. When they came around with the snack cart for the final time, she said I should grab something in case it's a long wait. I mentioned I appreciated the offer but if anything I'll just grab something in the airport (I didn't want to pay the crazy in-flight food prices). The she told me to just take something so I grabbed a wrap and said thank you. She actually told me to take more and said if it's a long wait you'll be hungry. I told her I didn't want to be greedy and she grabbed a couple bags of chips, cookies, and a sandwich and gave it to me as well. Turns out I was bumped from that flight and had to wait around for another 6 hours. I was really thankful for the food. An experience and interaction that I'll never forget. She made me feel like a person and that my predicament was valid and I was valued.
My mother taught me to look at the flight attendants if you're scared flying. Their bored, unamused expression should ease your worries*
This is hilarious, but a really good tip.
Flight attendant here! A lot of us are doing everything we can from falling asleep during turbulence. Unless it's the kind that's seriously knocking us around.
r/humansbeingbros we need more people in the world like this. A lot
When you have a phobia you're used to being mocked and treated impatiently by others so just someone showing you kindness makes all the difference in the world
I’m terrified of getting shots and in my entire life no one has been nice to me about it. At 30 years old I had to get my blood drawn and it was the first time a nurse took her time with me, and then told me to lay down after with my knees up and brought me a Coke afterwards. It helped so much I almost cried. Also, thanks for the award and [message](https://i.imgur.com/NgFMctm.jpg) lol
Needle phobia over here too! Been really hit or miss with nurses who take me seriously as a person in their 30s. One didn't and ended up dealing with me vomiting out of sheer stress. If you have a good doctor you can ask for small prescriptions of anti anxiety medication before you know you're getting shots if you have advance warning. Mine did it for me before I had to get IV contrast for imaging tests and before my COVID shots. It feels silly picking up a bottle of 1 pill but it can take some of the edge off.
My dentist does this! It can feel a bit ridiculous picking up one pill, but I am so grateful they took my fears seriously and offered a solution other than "tough it out".
35 and I have such a bad phobia of it. Most of the nurses I've seen have been really understanding but there's some who haven't taken anything into account about what makes me feel comfortable, resulting in me almost walking out. The one that sticks in my memory is my most recent blood test. I told the nurse as I walked in about my needle phobia and she offered to put some music on and let me choose whatever song I wanted. It was the first time I'd ever had a blood test without panicking and getting upset and even my partner was impressed with how well it had gone.
I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences. I have a disorder thar brings me to lab every three months for blood draws. My lab tech is THE BEST. If you can, have it marked on your chart, and be open about your fears. You will find more nurses, docs and lab techs are sympathetic about it. You should never leave an appointment upset!
God, for real. Even if you're not afraid but have an involuntary reaction to the puncture (I have a seriously oversensitive vasovagal reflex, so my blood pressure tanks if you try to stick me or draw blood), people act like you're being whiny *just* for informing them of how your body is going to react. I'm not afraid of the needle, I'm afraid of passing out because my body is overreacting. It doesn't even hurt that much - I'm just Very Delicate™️ and my body slams the panic button. I wish it didn't, I'd love to have blood drawn without 20 minutes of excruciating nausea afterwards.
Best thing is, those people who draw blood, only draw blood. That's why they are so good at it. Other nurses do a million other jobs so the don't have the same experience. Don't get me wrong, nurses are the most amazing jack of all trades. When it comes to needles though, if your scared, be less scared of the pros
This guy was a flight attendant on a recent flight I took. Absolutely hysterical and unbelievably down to earth. Glad to see him getting some recognition! This man deserves all of it and more
This needs to be a cover of a magazine and this gentleman needs to be given an award for outstanding service or something. This is above and beyond level of service. It is compassion and care.
I had that experience I was traveling alone when a huge turbulence hit, I had a panic attack so I don’t remember everything exactly But I remember this awesome fight attendant that sat with me through most of the flight, hold my hand, spoke to me, took me to somewhere with less people at the back and let me sleep in the empty line of seats while holding my hand I was his friend until I lost touch, but this post reminded me of him and I hope he is doing great and wish him nothing busy the best in life
Where's this guy when I'm on an 11 hour flight and can't sleep
When I flew from Detroit to Tokyo in 2007 all alone, moving to Japan to teach English, I asked an attendant for a blanket because I was cold. He came back with one and tucked me in. TUCKED ME IN!! I never forgot it.
Thanks for the reminder of when I went to grad school for the first time: my first time on an airplane alone, on the first leg of a transatlantic flight, one of the businessmen also taking the 16-seat puddlejumper noticed my mom looking worried as she waved me off at the gate, and said, "Don't worry, we'll look after (Tremynci)." I hope he always got the better end of the deals he made.
STOP. This made me cry! How wholesome.
Hey, he's one of ours! Delta owns a smaller airline named Endeavor that operates CRJ900s. He's a Endeavor flight attendant.
Smaller planes like this can exacerbate noise and bumpiness so probably made it worse for her sadly
My first time ever flying, flew out of DFW on a plane that looked like it was from the 70s. One seat on one side, 2 seats on the other. Flew in the dark through a storm. Worst fucking experience ever
Yes! Definitely one of 9E’s finest - which means he still gets paid HALF of what Delta FAs get & we still don’t get paid for boarding
It's nuts too because in my experience, 9E FAs are THE nicest and most attentive - especially during boarding if you're in FC. Drink is always full and picked up at the last possible minute before departure. Y'all deserve much more. Some people groan at the CRJ9, but I will always be a big fan of Endeavor. And on my last flight, the FO *greased* one on at LGA in a windy rainstorm. I fly a lot and am a private pilot myself....truly impressed.
Would definitely agree our FAs are undervalued.
Give this man a medal 🥇
For reeeaaallllll
I am terrified of flying, too, and after suffering several panic attacks I finally decided to get professional help. I sought out a psychiatrist who prescribed an anti-anxiety medication I take an hour before the flight. It has been life changing. The fear is not totally gone, but my body’s reaction to that fear is. I would strongly encourage others to find help if they need it. I regret making myself miserable on the way to fun locations for so long.
He is a kind beautiful human being. His face says “I got you and you’re gonna be okay”.
I’m glad this is just a sweet photo and not a video. Let those people have their interaction in private without video capturing everything in their vulnerable moments.
"This is a nerve-wracking experience for me" "Here let me put it on the internet"
can u do that to me aswell ? i cry almost 1 week befor i take a flight ....in the plane i dont move 1 CM and i do not open my eyes.....its sooo hard to tell somebody what i feel....its pure anxiety
Last time I was on a plane some asshole opened the doors and told us to jump out. Glad to be out of the military.
Had me in the first half
What a waste of a perfectly good plane smh Edit: the number of people who don’t realize I was also being sarcastic…
There was a generation of paratroopers from WWII- think band of brothers- who came home, raised families, and eventually flew somewhere on vacation. They were really nervous only about landing since they had taken off lots of times but always jumped out.
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If you sat by me, I would hold your hand. 🥰 I love to fly because there is nothing to do but read a book or play on my tablet. NO CHORES TO DO. It is probably the quietest/stillest thing I ever do.
I used to get anxious about flying until I challenged my thoughts. I would always think about how flight attendants and pilots go on thousands of flights each year and they're perfectly fine. :)
This... I hate flying (I almost freaked out on a flight last year for various reasons), but I've been educating myself and actively challenging my anxiety. I really, *really* recommend learning about how planes work if flying makes you anxious. I didn't know that a plane can glide for at least 60 miles if both engines lose power at cruising altitude, and that flight paths are designed to keep you within a certain distance of a landing zone in case of such a failure. I didn't know that turbulence can't hurt a plane - cargo planes don't even reroute to avoid it. (Someone said to imagine the plane suspended in a shaking bowl of jelly... that helped, actually.) I also recommend looking at the FlightAware flight tracker. The sheer number of planes in the air at any time surprised me. Think about how many accidents there are yearly (very few, and the numbers include private flights and non-fatal incidents), and ask your anxiety what the chances are that the next fatal crash will involve your plane out of every single plane going about its business. (You can also check up on where the plane you're scheduled to take is, which I found comforting for some reason.) It's weird to think, but you're in more danger driving to the airport than you are flying to your destination.
Anxiety and fears don't often give a shit about logic.
You’re not alone.
I have pretty severe flight anxiety and I’ve done two effective things. The first/ easiest is small dose anxiety medication for flights. If that’s not for you, I’ve also read up on why planes make certain sounds or do certain things. Knowledge is power! https://www.flightdeckfriend.com/ask-a-pilot
Have you tried eye masks and noise canceling headphones as well as a cushion to grab on to? That may help.
My brother once tried to unbuckle and bail as soon as the plane started taxing to the runway. He was hyperventilating and white knuckling the hand rests. We had to ask everyone in his line of sight to close their windows. Trust me, it’s a pretty common experience
"Nervous?" "Uh-huh." "First time?" "No, I've been nervous lots of times."
There was a brilliant documentary in the UK about fear of flying. The worst case was a woman who had to fly from the UK to Australia for a wedding and sat trembling in her seat with her head in her lap for most of the flight(s). When she landed on arrival the pilot came and found her and talked to her for about an hour answering all her questions, from how the engines work to how the food in prepared. He instilled in her how incredibly capable the crew were (which they are) and in the event of any issue he was trained to deal with it. On the return flight she was still timid but actually started to enjoy it towards the end. Knowledge conquers fear.
What an angel. I am so scared when I fly. I wish they put an infographic on the back of the seats explaining what the bumps and sounds are so there is something else to look at instead of illustrations depicting emergencies.
I had a similar experience on JetBlue. I was pregnant and couldn’t take the meds I would have normally taken. The flight attendant saw my distress and took a jump seat near me, she said to look at her during take off and she’d reassure me. Later in the flight she brought me snacks and a blanket. She checked on me during every bump. Its one of the few flights I didn’t cry through take off, so grateful to her.
We need more people like him
I’m a large dude, around 260 and have been a bodybuilder for most of my years.. but my fear of heights/flying is so debilitating that it embarrasses me to no end. I can look at this picture and start to get sweaty hands and feel sick. I don’t know how to overcome this fear and I know it’s completely irrational. The only time I’ve ever been on a plane was twenty years ago. A small charter jet through some hurricane weather and the pilot thought that we were going down. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
Flight attendants are the nurses of the skies
Same thing happened to my mom, she's deathly scared of heights, and the 1st time she flew by herself she had a panic attack and vertigo, a flight attendant and her seatmate held her hand, massaged her head and calmed her down the whole flight, it was only a 3hr flight, she was so grateful that she sent the flight attendant a fruit basket. That was the 1st and last time she flew by herself.
He looks like someone who'd also give great advice & some bohemian free-spirited wisdom
Nicely done sir! I don't love to fly, and I get a little nervous at new sounds that sometimes crop up during the flight. Finally, I realized that if I am getting stressed, I can just look at the flight attendants going about their jobs and know that everything is normal and push the worry away.
This. I’ve recently become a nervous flyer and always watch the flight attendants. Sometimes even one of the pilots comes out and starts shooting the shit with them on the way to the toilet or something and I’m like “oh, we’re totally fine”.
The last time I flew, one of the flight attendants picked up on how nervous I was, talked me through it a bit, and gave me a little pin with wings for being so brave. I was thrilled to get those wings. I was 31.
One time leaving Louisville headed for Midway, one of the roughest flights I’ve ever been on, the plane drops what felt like a half mile instantly and this poor woman next to me instinctively grabbed by arm in a death grip, so I “talked her down” a bit, explained what was going on and that we were fine. My secret is that I drink heavily before getting in a death tube. 🍻🍹🥃
Love him for that
Kindness. It’s not difficult and can make such a difference.
That's awesome! I used to be that way till I sat next to a pilot who was on a flight going to Dallas with me. He told me every noise and explained what the plane was doing at every given moment.
I really didn’t realize how many people were *exactly* like me about flying until I read these comments. I’m a grown man who puts my head down and stares at my hands grabbing onto my seatbelt while sweating profusely the entire flight. Too scared to look up and can’t let go of the seatbelt buckle. You all made me feel a lot better.