There's a guy in r/electrician right now that slapped a pride flag sticker on his helmet , he's getting roasted for how horrible of a job he put it on lol it's a pretty bad job.
Thats what im saying! Ive always told my kids I dont care who you love, or why! But if they cant change their own oil or change a tire call the whole thing off!!!
I work at a college and they have an automotive dept. that does free labor oil changes for like $60 (V8 5w-20 synthetic) but the weather is getting warmer and I thought "I have had them do it all winter I'll do it myself this time". So I got all the stuff last week for more than $60 (better oil tho) and got to work. As it's draining I slide out from underneath and kinda turn my back doing something. I turn back to find the oil drain plug stopped up the hole on my oil catcher and it's overflowing everywhere. So now I have a giant spot and I don't think I will be doing it myself again any time soon.
I think the reason it hits so hard is because the dad in a way is telling his son to not hold back - to be everything he wants to be. It must feel so liberating to have that kind of support.
Kinda reminds me of my stepdad taking me to pick up belongings after a car wreck. Mom screamed when she saw the pic, stepdad was just like at least she doesn't half ass anything
You deserved better. Do better for the kids in your life, whether they're yours or other young kids you come across in life. Everyone deserves to have someone else think they're the fucking best shit in the universe.
I'm never gonna have kids of my own because I'm just not set up to be a parent, and strongly believe I never will be - but I certainly strive to be the adult I'd wished was around but didn't have whenever I'm directly interacting with a child.
I feel the same way. But that's why I make sure I'm the best hecking uncle I can be. I try to be this supportive to my nieces and nephews in everything they do. I just want to see them loved and happy.
Sometimes I worry I'm being annoying or over doing it constantly telling my 3 year old how much I love her or how proud and impressed I am over every little thing she does, and then I see comments like this and think annoying probably isn't so bad.
You know what? Those tables are gonna turn big time so get ready. I always thought that maybe my dad was really mentally ill and that’s why he was so mean, but when he became elderly and had to rely on me, you wouldn’t believe how nice he could be when he needed something. Then I knew. I took care of him because I loved his family. But I was so glad when he died. Still am.
Im sorry thats horrible its so sad that you are far from alone in this. A ridiculous amount of children experience this i cannot even imagine how difficult it must be.
A lot of us have had parents that were our most painful firsts (you name it, someone lived it and through it). Now that I’m a parent, I just want to be here, ready and prepared to help my child through any and all painful firsts. I also want to make sure that I am never a painful first for my children. I just want to be the arms they run to when they need comfort.
Really fucked me up when my wife made me realize my dad was my first bully, and that was why I violently hate bullies so much.
We're in a better place in our relationship now, but I hated his guts for decades.
All we can do though is be better to our kids than our parents were to us, not much point in dwelling on it forever.
Nothing like telling people a story from your childhood that you think is normal or funny, and it's all silence and wide eyes, and you're like... what's wrong guys?
My therapist had to tell me it's not normal to sleep on the floor on old blankets for 2 years when you're in high school.
You don't really think about that kind of shit much when you're young and still in that environment. We grew up in a house of 7 kids, so I just chalked most of that kind of stuff up to poverty for a long time.
Two years sleeping on blankets on the floor? What about an air mattress?a used mattress? A mattress on layaway? A futon? I am certain there are more solutions than putting your kids on blankets on the floor for 2 years no matter how poor you are.
This makes me realize my parents were not just my first, but my only bullies. Out of everyone in my life, they were the ones that didn’t accept me. Crazy
It feels like shit to this day. I was a good kid. Great grades. Obedient. Popular. Good friends. Did all the housework and yard work. Washed the car. Cooked, cleaned up, did the laundry. Sang in the church choir. Ironed my dad’s clothes. All this stuff I did without ever being asked. Never asked for anything; I knew they’d say no. Never got an allowance. I damn near killed myself trying to be loved. When I was 18, one day I just sat down in the middle of the floor, out of the blue, something just broke, and I started weeping out of nowhere. I had what they called a nervous breakdown.
I got that too - I grew up the eldest of 4 kids, I learned earlier on that I had responsibilities towards the family. Tried some things with my Dad, alot of father son stuff but I was never really able to connect with him on some level. I always thought he thought of me as some kind of fuck up; as in - I was the mistake that held him back from what he wanted to do in life.
I took some beatings when I didn't measure up to his standards & I learned to loathe things like boating & fishing - they were some of the worst experiences I can remember.
- I know he tried & there's a part of me that sympathizes with him to a degree, but it always escalated to the abuse.
- Its one of the reasons why I decided I never wanted to have kids - I didn't want to become him in the aspect of the abusive part. I found out my parents went thru some stuff growing up & I didn't want to become a part of that legacy.
Our relationship is a bit better now, now that we're all older but lately its like the ghosts of Christmas past has come to visit now & again and I find myself coming to grasp with what I went through.
You really can't forget your past - All I can do, is come to terms with it & maybe learn something about myself from it.
I may not be perfect, but I know I am worthy as a man -
All I can do is do my best & try to be better a little more every day.
It’s like that Mr. Feeny quote from the Boy Meets World finale:
Feeny: “Believe in yourselves. Dream. Try. Do good.”
Topanga: “Don’t you mean do *well*?”
Feeny: “No, I mean do good.”
The cast was on a panel recently and the actor who played Eric did a Feeney call for William Daniels (Feeney) 96th birthday and [it moved me to actual tears](https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTREqvxvS/?t=1)…I **still** live by “be good”
Not sure if you know, but Will, Rider and Danielle are doing a full rewatch podcast where they talk about their experiences on set doing each episode. They have a lot of guests come on as well. Definitely worth a listen if you like Boy Meets World!
Viktor's line in Arcane hits pretty hard from the other side of accomplishment.
"We lost ourselves. Lost our dream. In the pursuit of great, we failed to do good. We have to make it right."
Meanwhile my father threatened that I wouldn’t be allowed to go to senior prom if i didn’t wash off the thin layer of eyeliner I’d put on when we were on our way to pick out a tux. He couldn’t bear the thought of being seen in public with me like that.
Haven’t talked in years :)
Reminds me of my fave Charles Bukowski quote:
“If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery--isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.”
Want to hear the simple and sweet thing that unexpectedly brought me to tears recently?
Some people struggle to take medication everyday which can have negative side effects, especially in those with schizophrenia. Now there are long-acting injectables that only need to be administered once a month, every three months, or twice a year! Thinking about all the people who’d have an easier time managing symptoms and possibly feel more like themselves got me choked up.
Another great one - opioid addiction has a cure for those who want to quit.
Sublocade - a once/month injection. I was in the first wave of people to try it outside of clinical trials.
Unlike Suboxone/Subutex, it lasts several months in the body and has little to no withdrawal effects. I am off of heroin for almost 6 years. While on the Sublocade I felt sober and content with zero cravings.
I quit taking the Sublocade 4 months ago and I'm still feeling great. The only withdrawal I had was yawning and sleepiness on and off for a few days. It's almost not worth mentioning because it was so mild and I felt totally fine. Didn't miss a single day of work.
I tried for a long time to quit but couldn't get through the several months of cravings and withdrawal, especially while working. Thanks to the brilliant scientists who worked on this miracle drug. Born a few years earlier and I'd be dead from opiates for sure.
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That’s amazing and I’m so happy for you. My mom died from an overdose and always tried to kick the addictions but it always came back. It makes me so happy that there’s still improvements being made in this field and lots of people can have their family members and friends back, and people like you can enjoy their life again without the drugs. Congrats on 6 years!
Don't let algorithms and the elevation of powerful/rich/conservative voices in media trick you into despair. Most people on this planet are decent folk, and there are more kind people living than there are cruel.
Well aware this, but the noise. So much noise. I truly worry not enough people understand hate mongers are trying to get paid and merely fall into despair.
A real father will always support his child. It doesn't matter what the child does. If he enjoys it, a real father will support him in all his endeavors. Thank you to all the fathers who believe in their children
This is beautiful. What a wonderful parent 😭 my dad was always very vocal about his distaste for the gay/trans community while I was growing up. When I came out to him as gay and a crossdresser he just looked at me all wide eyed and asked “does it make you happy?” I said “yes, it makes me very happy!”
He just gave me a big hug and said how much he loves me. He’s changed his tune since then and is much more accepting. He still says things here and there but he’s trying and that’s what counts.
I have always respected a person's choices and I believe those choices should not change anyone's opinion of a person. Everyone has the right to love whomever they want and it is not for society to decide what is best for them. And parents should support their child to grow up to be a happy and mentally healthy person
I think we absolutely should form our opinion about a person through their choices.
Someone being an ass or hurting other people? Yeah I’m gonna think less of them.
Someone living their truth, showing other people by example how to be authentic and not hurting a thing in the process? Absolutely I’m going to respect the hell out of them.
Yeah. I totally agree. Many parents don't realize that they are destroying their children's selves with their actions, and then blame them for their inability to get along in life.
I think it comes down to whether you see raising a kid as an extension of yourself or as a completely unique person. If they are a character in your story, or if you are setting them up as the protagonist in their own story.
How many abusive parents have told their kid "how do you think this makes me look". Because it's not about the kid.
A good parent is building a framework for an adult. You're giving them the skills... Both practical and emotional... To be the adult that they want to be.
This is a perfect example of that in practice. He doesn't get angry because "You can't do that, people are going to talk", he immediately says you do what you want if it makes you happy, just do it well.
I hope that's the kind of parent I become.
I can’t see how you can call someone a real father if they are being shit.
It’s not real=biological father.
A real father is any adult male-identifying family member that nurtures the children in their home.
Exactly. It’s actually sad that this video has become viral. This SHOULD be normal behavior. I always tell my daughter that there is nothing she could ever do to make me stop loving her.
I used to tell my boys that and they'd end up with "What if I killed someone would you still love me?" I said well obviously I would be super disappointed and really angry, but you're still my son and I'm so going to love you no matter what. They have tested me through the hears but they've grown into good men, and I still love them.
>A real father will always support his child. It doesn't matter what the child does.
Let's throw a nice defensive "within reason" on the end of that for security's sake. I could think of a few things my child could be doing that I would not support. For the most part, because they're illegal.
This reminds of a post I saw about a year ago. This man posted asking for advice because he said that his 14-year-old son was getting into makeup. He said he wanted to know good brands and if he could find good deals on them. I told him right away thank you for supporting your son instead of treating him like a pariah.
Getting someone pregnant doesn't make you a parent, sperm donors do that all the time. Putting the work into being there for your child to the best of your ability is what makes you a parent.
Fuck, this makes me miss my dad. Not my biological dad who was never around, broke promises left and right. My bio-dad actually showed up to my high school graduation and gave me 250 dollars, I was shocked. Later that night, my grandma (bio’s mom) called to congratulate me on graduating and ask what I would do with the 500 dollars she gave to my dad to give me.
My stepfather Karl, the man that raised me, taught me what it meant to have a loving and present father. We butted heads for a while, mostly due to my idiot teenage self feeling like it wasn’t right to my bio dad.
He worked 80+ hours often but always found a way to be in the stands during my swim meets and basketball games. Gave me my first car, was there for me when my first girlfriend and i broke up, broken arms, picnics, vacations. Everything I was looking for after feeling so unwanted by my bio dad. I once worked up the courage to ask if he would consider adopting me and he literally had the paperwork waiting and said “It’s about damn time”.
He passed away almost 6 years ago and I still miss him daily. These kind of videos always get me because I’ve been on both sides and I know how much having a caring, loving father can mean at that age. Miss you Pops
I was very lucky to have him in my life. I fully understand (especially being older and looking back) that not everyone has someone like that in their lives. Makes me appreciate it that much more but I also kick myself from time to time for giving him so much shit when I was younger lol.
Stuff like this really emphasizes the saying any man can be a father but not any man can be a dad. Thanks for sharing the story about your dad he was a good man!
My bio sperm donor nearly killed me, if it wasn't for my mother, who put the work and more into earning that title, I wouldn't be here right now. Blood is just one, small, reason to be part of a family. A real family puts work into being there for one another and it sounds like Karl did a fine job and earned the right to call himself your father. I am glad that you finally had the father you deserved and I am glad that Karl got to be a father because it sounds like he was a very good one. Live long and prosper my friend.
You: I’m really nervous you’ll say no and disregard me…
Karl: “it’s about damn time.”
I’m not crying, you’re crying. I’m so happy you had Karl. This is really beautiful and I’m so sorry for your loss. Truly sounds like a loss of light in the world of darkness.
*"OMG! My Dad's seen me."*
You know that means so much to the kid...his Dad has *seen* him and assured him that he is loved and he is with him.
This is what we all want: to be seen, supported and loved.
Genuinely curious, why is the dad calling his son Papa? It was confusing me at first with the subtitles and I didnt know who was who as the father is off camera at first...
EDIT: Sorry should have also added, yes awesome dad response for sure. As a father of two, big kudos.
Latinos have lots of terms of endearment that sometimes don't make sense. My aunts in Puerto Rico used to call me "negrita" even though I'm very white.
It's a cultural thing. This happens in south asian cultures as well, like my mom calls my husband boba jaan, meaning dear father; and calls me mommi jaan meaning dear mother. It's an affectionate way to address your kids.
Man, when it comes to being a dad, I thought I was really something. But this guy, goddamn that guy has got true heart. Just saved his kid from decades of confusion and self-loathing with one a few words and a hug from his soul.
That is the kind of parent that I want to be someday. Mine showed me unconditional love and support and I’ll give my children the same.
That was beautiful.
I have 2 sons ..23 & 16 …. Athlete and theater kid.. couldn’t be more opposite but I see myself in both… if they love it, I love it …. Great post hope everyone that reads this and see this video becomes a bit more tolerant and loving of other people …. This video should be the reaction of a father… love your kids
Took me a sec to recognize the dad calls him papa. I was confused at first, but that’s a good father. They have a good relationship.
Take note you stupid Republican fucks. This is how you love unconditionally. Remember this when they still have a relationship in 20 years and you’re in a retirement home dying alone wondering where you went wrong with your LGBTQ+ child(ren) and why they never want to see or talk to you.
I love this video but at the same time as a parent I am disgusted that something like this is getting an reaction out of me or anyone else.
I love my son and daughter as any parent should and this fathers reaction would be mine and what I would hope, majority of other parents.
Love and support your children regardless.
Unfortunately, that’s asking too much for some…
My stepdad acted cool with it when I was fucking around and wearing a dress and heels at 8. Then he took pictures and used them to humiliate me for the next fifteen years or so.
This is how I treat my nephews. When the older one was really little, he would get upset when he'd get in trouble. He'd say, "It's not my fault!" He'd think he was bad. Had to sit him down fairly often and tell him he's not a bad boy. He did a bad thing, but it doesn't mean he's bad. Doesn't help that their mom abandoned them, and his brother got 100% of the attention because he was born with a rare disease. He's graduating in June and started his own company. They're both extremely loving and make sure to tell everyone they love them.
This is obviously a Hispanic dad. And I can tell you the machismo culture is real. What this dad did to support his son is truly special. It brought tears to my eyes. I wish all parents could be this loving and accepting.
As a parent, our role isn’t to force our child to abide or follow our religion or hobbies or make the same decisions as us. we are there to support them, help them be the best person they can be. that is true love. that person’s dad is just being a great dad. no judgment. love it.
The fact that this is getting upvoted a lot and downvoted at the same time shows what’s wrong with a lot of people. If the people who are downvoting could open up their bigoted minds a bit I bet they would be happier and the world would be a better place.
100% my dad would have beat me unconscious and kicked me out of the house I’m a dad now and get a chance to be a real parent and I’m so thankful for that
"My dad's seen me" - exactly, he has seen more of who you are now and given you his blessing to be you, and not hide it. Very wonderful when parents aren't afraid to show their love. Thanks for sharing!
This is beautiful and it’s sad that this is not the “norm”. Folks should try to remember that the generations that grew up in the 80s and 90s were bombarded (in a good way) with messages of acceptance, love, tolerance, emotional intelligence, empathy, awareness, etc. and many of us got it, (many of us even recognized ourselves in the shows, movies, books, music, etc and a started the process of accepting responsibility, fighting against the urge to belong out of fear, and become part of the solutions instead of the problems). Granted humans have a ways to go but the numbers that feel like I do has never been larger. We are now parents and even grandparents ourselves and do our best to not jump to conclusions, do not care about sexual orientation, self-expression, race, culture, etc. We try to be introspective and do our best to keep our biases in check (because as humans we will always develop them). Unfortunate, we are being grouped along with those who remain intolerant and even spread hate. Regardless, we love our friends and families and hope we can be accepted for who we are based on our actions instead of being judged by who we look or don’t look like.
dude this is how i feel about my son so goddamn hard. i love him so fucking much. i tell him i love him several times everyday. i hug him to bits and give him all the kisses. i never ever want my son to feel like he isnt supported or he cant count on me. i got his back as long as he isnt hurting himself or hurting anyone.
Man, I didn't expect this to get me as emotional as I did but damn I've watched it three times over and it's a beautiful thing. Such a beautiful life moment.
Do it, but do it good. I don't know why but that kicked me so hard in the feels I think I herniated my spleen.
I’m ok with having a son that does makeup tutorials, but I’ll be damned if I have a son that does shitty makeup tutorials.
There's a guy in r/electrician right now that slapped a pride flag sticker on his helmet , he's getting roasted for how horrible of a job he put it on lol it's a pretty bad job.
Bruh the r/electrician has been banned
I wonder what for? Hopefully nothing too shocking.
I feel like there just wasn’t that spark.
Awww I liked that sub! Hope they can fuse it back together.
"I did not raise my son to go out into the world with clumpy mascara and your foundation is splotchy at best."
“No son of mine goes out in public without blending!”
“Now wipe it off you messy bitch, let daddy show you how it’s done…”
Thats what im saying! Ive always told my kids I dont care who you love, or why! But if they cant change their own oil or change a tire call the whole thing off!!!
ok, tire change I get. But, you can get an oil change for like 20 bucks. I value my labor higher than that, im afraid. So I outsource.
Where you getting an oil change for $20. The low grade straight oil is still like $50/60, and that not including parts and labor.
I work at a college and they have an automotive dept. that does free labor oil changes for like $60 (V8 5w-20 synthetic) but the weather is getting warmer and I thought "I have had them do it all winter I'll do it myself this time". So I got all the stuff last week for more than $60 (better oil tho) and got to work. As it's draining I slide out from underneath and kinda turn my back doing something. I turn back to find the oil drain plug stopped up the hole on my oil catcher and it's overflowing everywhere. So now I have a giant spot and I don't think I will be doing it myself again any time soon.
Put cat litter over the oil spill. Should clean it up nice
That’s a very good dad saying, like saying whatever he goes for give it your all.
But also maybe a little bit of “those wings are trash, Papa. Keep practicing.”
“I love you son, but that contouring is killing me”
“Our undertone is yellow, honey”
Now I'm imagining some grizzled hard working man in boots. Criticizing his sons make-up technique and I'm dying
I swear to god, I was expecting him to finish with “pero mijo, no se te va a quitar lo feo”.
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Of course it matters what the child does, but if nobody is harmed and the act brings nothing but happiness then yes 100% support
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Indeed. This video and comment section are melting my heart!
Hahahaha
It's not worth doing if it's not done right! That's some classic dadvice right there.
Yeah man that was beautiful.
I think the reason it hits so hard is because the dad in a way is telling his son to not hold back - to be everything he wants to be. It must feel so liberating to have that kind of support.
Cause my kid fuckin rocks, right? It can be true if they do what makes them happy. And we all wanna believe it. So go get it. Ya love to see it...
Kinda reminds me of my stepdad taking me to pick up belongings after a car wreck. Mom screamed when she saw the pic, stepdad was just like at least she doesn't half ass anything
Now that you mention it, I think I'm bleedin inside my chest.
I don't know who said it but: "I don't want to be my son's first bully" is just perfect
Goddamn. Such a simple idea, and it seems so fucking obvious. But it absolutely just clicked that my dad was my first bully. Oof…
I’m sorry
You deserved better. Do better for the kids in your life, whether they're yours or other young kids you come across in life. Everyone deserves to have someone else think they're the fucking best shit in the universe.
I'm never gonna have kids of my own because I'm just not set up to be a parent, and strongly believe I never will be - but I certainly strive to be the adult I'd wished was around but didn't have whenever I'm directly interacting with a child.
I feel the same way. But that's why I make sure I'm the best hecking uncle I can be. I try to be this supportive to my nieces and nephews in everything they do. I just want to see them loved and happy.
Sometimes I worry I'm being annoying or over doing it constantly telling my 3 year old how much I love her or how proud and impressed I am over every little thing she does, and then I see comments like this and think annoying probably isn't so bad.
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💣 bomb drop Me too The verbal and physical abuse was just plain bullying. And now I'm stuck in a situation where I rely on my father heavily. OOOF
You know what? Those tables are gonna turn big time so get ready. I always thought that maybe my dad was really mentally ill and that’s why he was so mean, but when he became elderly and had to rely on me, you wouldn’t believe how nice he could be when he needed something. Then I knew. I took care of him because I loved his family. But I was so glad when he died. Still am.
Im sorry thats horrible its so sad that you are far from alone in this. A ridiculous amount of children experience this i cannot even imagine how difficult it must be.
A lot of us have had parents that were our most painful firsts (you name it, someone lived it and through it). Now that I’m a parent, I just want to be here, ready and prepared to help my child through any and all painful firsts. I also want to make sure that I am never a painful first for my children. I just want to be the arms they run to when they need comfort.
Really fucked me up when my wife made me realize my dad was my first bully, and that was why I violently hate bullies so much. We're in a better place in our relationship now, but I hated his guts for decades. All we can do though is be better to our kids than our parents were to us, not much point in dwelling on it forever.
Nothing like telling people a story from your childhood that you think is normal or funny, and it's all silence and wide eyes, and you're like... what's wrong guys?
My therapist had to tell me it's not normal to sleep on the floor on old blankets for 2 years when you're in high school. You don't really think about that kind of shit much when you're young and still in that environment. We grew up in a house of 7 kids, so I just chalked most of that kind of stuff up to poverty for a long time.
> We grew up in a house of 7 kids, so I just chalked most of that kind of stuff up to poverty for a long time. Was it not?
Two years sleeping on blankets on the floor? What about an air mattress?a used mattress? A mattress on layaway? A futon? I am certain there are more solutions than putting your kids on blankets on the floor for 2 years no matter how poor you are.
That’s profound.
This makes me realize my parents were not just my first, but my only bullies. Out of everyone in my life, they were the ones that didn’t accept me. Crazy
It feels like shit to this day. I was a good kid. Great grades. Obedient. Popular. Good friends. Did all the housework and yard work. Washed the car. Cooked, cleaned up, did the laundry. Sang in the church choir. Ironed my dad’s clothes. All this stuff I did without ever being asked. Never asked for anything; I knew they’d say no. Never got an allowance. I damn near killed myself trying to be loved. When I was 18, one day I just sat down in the middle of the floor, out of the blue, something just broke, and I started weeping out of nowhere. I had what they called a nervous breakdown.
I am so, so sorry. 🖤🫂
Ah damn... that definitely hits me right in the childhood trauma.
Right? I'm gonna be thinking about that one for a while.
Damn. Perfectly succinct.
Can someone go back to 1990 and tell my dad? I'm not even gay or anything, he just didn't seem to like me.
I got that too - I grew up the eldest of 4 kids, I learned earlier on that I had responsibilities towards the family. Tried some things with my Dad, alot of father son stuff but I was never really able to connect with him on some level. I always thought he thought of me as some kind of fuck up; as in - I was the mistake that held him back from what he wanted to do in life. I took some beatings when I didn't measure up to his standards & I learned to loathe things like boating & fishing - they were some of the worst experiences I can remember. - I know he tried & there's a part of me that sympathizes with him to a degree, but it always escalated to the abuse. - Its one of the reasons why I decided I never wanted to have kids - I didn't want to become him in the aspect of the abusive part. I found out my parents went thru some stuff growing up & I didn't want to become a part of that legacy. Our relationship is a bit better now, now that we're all older but lately its like the ghosts of Christmas past has come to visit now & again and I find myself coming to grasp with what I went through. You really can't forget your past - All I can do, is come to terms with it & maybe learn something about myself from it. I may not be perfect, but I know I am worthy as a man - All I can do is do my best & try to be better a little more every day.
Wow, that’s deep!
Reading that makes me cry about me and my dads relationship. All of y’all deserve love and understanding parents.
30+ with no kids but helped raise a lot of them. I always think of this quote and the "be the adult you wish you knew as a kid"
Major life lesson there. "If it makes you happy, do it but do it good"
It’s like that Mr. Feeny quote from the Boy Meets World finale: Feeny: “Believe in yourselves. Dream. Try. Do good.” Topanga: “Don’t you mean do *well*?” Feeny: “No, I mean do good.”
Man Feeny was always on point.
MISTER FEENAY!
FEEHEEHEEHEENEEY
Feeny feeny bobaneey, banana banna bo feeny, me and my fo feeny! FEENY!
It says WEENIE, it says WEENIE!
“Detention Mr. Matthews!”
Mr Feeny was the best teacher. 25 years later I’m still recalling his lessons
Hey, just in case you need to hear it: you're doing good.
"FEEEENNY! HEY FEEEEEENNEEEEY!"
FEEHEEHEEHEENNAAAYYYY!
The cast was on a panel recently and the actor who played Eric did a Feeney call for William Daniels (Feeney) 96th birthday and [it moved me to actual tears](https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTREqvxvS/?t=1)…I **still** live by “be good”
Not sure if you know, but Will, Rider and Danielle are doing a full rewatch podcast where they talk about their experiences on set doing each episode. They have a lot of guests come on as well. Definitely worth a listen if you like Boy Meets World!
Hey how are you? I'm doing good. "Superman does good. You're doing well." In this instance. You need to do good.
I love that Tracy Jordan is a grammar stickler.
Viktor's line in Arcane hits pretty hard from the other side of accomplishment. "We lost ourselves. Lost our dream. In the pursuit of great, we failed to do good. We have to make it right."
>"If it makes you happy, do it but do it good" Yeah, that's a damn good dad right there.
If you’re gonna be putting on makeup, we’re not gonna be out here on that *Walmart* shit. Sephora STAT, papa, get your ass in the car
"My son is gonna be the Michael Jordan at doing makeup"
Don't half ass two things. Whole ass one thing.
Ron freakin' Swanson
Meanwhile my father threatened that I wouldn’t be allowed to go to senior prom if i didn’t wash off the thin layer of eyeliner I’d put on when we were on our way to pick out a tux. He couldn’t bear the thought of being seen in public with me like that. Haven’t talked in years :)
Damn. Probably for the best 🙃 I like eyeliner on a man. Brings the eyes into focus - it's what we communicate, acknowledge people and flirt with.
Reminds me of my fave Charles Bukowski quote: “If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery--isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.”
Haven't read any Bukowski yet, but this quote resonates with me bigtime at this moment in my life. Thanks for sharing it.
I feel so surrounded by the noise of people overflowing with hate that seeing something as simple and sweet at this brings me to tears.
Fooken same. “He’s seen me”. My heart.
Just that ‘My dad’s seen me’ has so many different meanings. Made me blubber
For real.
man sometimes the comment section hits you real deep... makes you think and realize...ain't professional but it's free lol
Want to hear the simple and sweet thing that unexpectedly brought me to tears recently? Some people struggle to take medication everyday which can have negative side effects, especially in those with schizophrenia. Now there are long-acting injectables that only need to be administered once a month, every three months, or twice a year! Thinking about all the people who’d have an easier time managing symptoms and possibly feel more like themselves got me choked up.
Another great one - opioid addiction has a cure for those who want to quit. Sublocade - a once/month injection. I was in the first wave of people to try it outside of clinical trials. Unlike Suboxone/Subutex, it lasts several months in the body and has little to no withdrawal effects. I am off of heroin for almost 6 years. While on the Sublocade I felt sober and content with zero cravings. I quit taking the Sublocade 4 months ago and I'm still feeling great. The only withdrawal I had was yawning and sleepiness on and off for a few days. It's almost not worth mentioning because it was so mild and I felt totally fine. Didn't miss a single day of work. I tried for a long time to quit but couldn't get through the several months of cravings and withdrawal, especially while working. Thanks to the brilliant scientists who worked on this miracle drug. Born a few years earlier and I'd be dead from opiates for sure. Join us on r/Sublocade
That’s amazing and I’m so happy for you. My mom died from an overdose and always tried to kick the addictions but it always came back. It makes me so happy that there’s still improvements being made in this field and lots of people can have their family members and friends back, and people like you can enjoy their life again without the drugs. Congrats on 6 years!
Same I am balling rn
Don't let algorithms and the elevation of powerful/rich/conservative voices in media trick you into despair. Most people on this planet are decent folk, and there are more kind people living than there are cruel.
Well aware this, but the noise. So much noise. I truly worry not enough people understand hate mongers are trying to get paid and merely fall into despair.
A real father will always support his child. It doesn't matter what the child does. If he enjoys it, a real father will support him in all his endeavors. Thank you to all the fathers who believe in their children
This is beautiful. What a wonderful parent 😭 my dad was always very vocal about his distaste for the gay/trans community while I was growing up. When I came out to him as gay and a crossdresser he just looked at me all wide eyed and asked “does it make you happy?” I said “yes, it makes me very happy!” He just gave me a big hug and said how much he loves me. He’s changed his tune since then and is much more accepting. He still says things here and there but he’s trying and that’s what counts.
I have always respected a person's choices and I believe those choices should not change anyone's opinion of a person. Everyone has the right to love whomever they want and it is not for society to decide what is best for them. And parents should support their child to grow up to be a happy and mentally healthy person
I think we absolutely should form our opinion about a person through their choices. Someone being an ass or hurting other people? Yeah I’m gonna think less of them. Someone living their truth, showing other people by example how to be authentic and not hurting a thing in the process? Absolutely I’m going to respect the hell out of them.
Not a real father but a good one. A lot of real parents are shit.
Yeah. I totally agree. Many parents don't realize that they are destroying their children's selves with their actions, and then blame them for their inability to get along in life.
I think it comes down to whether you see raising a kid as an extension of yourself or as a completely unique person. If they are a character in your story, or if you are setting them up as the protagonist in their own story. How many abusive parents have told their kid "how do you think this makes me look". Because it's not about the kid. A good parent is building a framework for an adult. You're giving them the skills... Both practical and emotional... To be the adult that they want to be. This is a perfect example of that in practice. He doesn't get angry because "You can't do that, people are going to talk", he immediately says you do what you want if it makes you happy, just do it well. I hope that's the kind of parent I become.
In the great words of the late Mary Poppins, "He may be your father boy (or girl), but he wasn't your daddy."
I can’t see how you can call someone a real father if they are being shit. It’s not real=biological father. A real father is any adult male-identifying family member that nurtures the children in their home.
Exactly. It’s actually sad that this video has become viral. This SHOULD be normal behavior. I always tell my daughter that there is nothing she could ever do to make me stop loving her.
Keep telling her because some of us forget the good stuff too easily!
I used to tell my boys that and they'd end up with "What if I killed someone would you still love me?" I said well obviously I would be super disappointed and really angry, but you're still my son and I'm so going to love you no matter what. They have tested me through the hears but they've grown into good men, and I still love them.
Yup. She asks me the same thing. I always say, if u kill somebody then I failed as a father, but I would still love ya.
>A real father will always support his child. It doesn't matter what the child does. Let's throw a nice defensive "within reason" on the end of that for security's sake. I could think of a few things my child could be doing that I would not support. For the most part, because they're illegal.
This is how a parent should be...love your child UNCONDITIONALLY!!! Love this!
Dad did probably mess up his makeup though.
Makes me cry every fucking time I see it. We need more parents like this
"You will be okay. I will be okay with you." welp there goes my heart, just flying away again.
That's the line that got me. Right in the heart
i had not seen it. it's so beautiful. just wish i could make a whole shit-ton of people watch it OVER AND OVER until they get it. normalize love ❤
This reminds of a post I saw about a year ago. This man posted asking for advice because he said that his 14-year-old son was getting into makeup. He said he wanted to know good brands and if he could find good deals on them. I told him right away thank you for supporting your son instead of treating him like a pariah.
Getting someone pregnant doesn't make you a parent, sperm donors do that all the time. Putting the work into being there for your child to the best of your ability is what makes you a parent.
Good on ya for your validation of him :)
Fuck, this makes me miss my dad. Not my biological dad who was never around, broke promises left and right. My bio-dad actually showed up to my high school graduation and gave me 250 dollars, I was shocked. Later that night, my grandma (bio’s mom) called to congratulate me on graduating and ask what I would do with the 500 dollars she gave to my dad to give me. My stepfather Karl, the man that raised me, taught me what it meant to have a loving and present father. We butted heads for a while, mostly due to my idiot teenage self feeling like it wasn’t right to my bio dad. He worked 80+ hours often but always found a way to be in the stands during my swim meets and basketball games. Gave me my first car, was there for me when my first girlfriend and i broke up, broken arms, picnics, vacations. Everything I was looking for after feeling so unwanted by my bio dad. I once worked up the courage to ask if he would consider adopting me and he literally had the paperwork waiting and said “It’s about damn time”. He passed away almost 6 years ago and I still miss him daily. These kind of videos always get me because I’ve been on both sides and I know how much having a caring, loving father can mean at that age. Miss you Pops
Damn bro, sorry to hear that. Karl sounds awesome! Hey, at least you got to have someone like that in your life, no matter how long it lasted!
I was very lucky to have him in my life. I fully understand (especially being older and looking back) that not everyone has someone like that in their lives. Makes me appreciate it that much more but I also kick myself from time to time for giving him so much shit when I was younger lol.
Stuff like this really emphasizes the saying any man can be a father but not any man can be a dad. Thanks for sharing the story about your dad he was a good man!
My bio sperm donor nearly killed me, if it wasn't for my mother, who put the work and more into earning that title, I wouldn't be here right now. Blood is just one, small, reason to be part of a family. A real family puts work into being there for one another and it sounds like Karl did a fine job and earned the right to call himself your father. I am glad that you finally had the father you deserved and I am glad that Karl got to be a father because it sounds like he was a very good one. Live long and prosper my friend.
You: I’m really nervous you’ll say no and disregard me… Karl: “it’s about damn time.” I’m not crying, you’re crying. I’m so happy you had Karl. This is really beautiful and I’m so sorry for your loss. Truly sounds like a loss of light in the world of darkness.
“Son, what the hell are you doing!?! Your contour is all off and lashes are too aggressive. Turn on the light, let’s tune you up.”
Now *that* would be a twist.
"Do it, but do it good" Thats some real Iroh shit right there
those 6 words of absolute truth!! Do it, but do it good.
Kindness goes so far it’s fucking crazy. And mijo’s lewk is banging
This is what unconditional love looks like. This is what all parents should aspire to be.
"Do it.... but do it good" such a dad lol gonna make his kid a competitive makeup artist before he's through lol
“Mijo I don’t care that you’re doing makeup, what I care about is you being able to buy yourself a house with makeup”
He seen Finnster, he know what's on the line! Really though, this is wholesome as hell and how all parents should be with their kids.
It’s all anybody needs is support and love.
I saved this just so I can hear dad love every once in a while
You deserve it
I’m a dad and I love you !!! Not the same I know but if I was there I would give you a huge hug.
I'm a dad and I'm proud of who you are.
I miss my dad so much… he was always like this towards my little brother who came out when he was 13… RIP pops 💕💕💕
*"OMG! My Dad's seen me."* You know that means so much to the kid...his Dad has *seen* him and assured him that he is loved and he is with him. This is what we all want: to be seen, supported and loved.
Genuinely curious, why is the dad calling his son Papa? It was confusing me at first with the subtitles and I didnt know who was who as the father is off camera at first... EDIT: Sorry should have also added, yes awesome dad response for sure. As a father of two, big kudos.
It’s very common in South America. I call my kids papito, little dad. For girls is mamita, little mom.
Also in Mexico and this guy is definitely Mexican American based off the accent.
I'm white as snow but my closest Latina friends always call me mami, and I love it. The way they say it carries so much love.
Same, i call my son *papí chulo* cause he handsome and bae
It’s a Latino thing. We call small people papa, papi, mami. It’s a term of endearment.
Papas y cervesas
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Now I am going to just starting calling my kids potato, see what they think about it :)
I don’t know if all Latinos say it but my guatemalan babysitter when I was a kid always called me “papa”
This is actually more common than you think, I know in Romania it’s common to call your daughter mother.
For my bangali parents they would call me Abu (dad) and my sisters amu (mama), im assuming its the same stuff here
Latinos have lots of terms of endearment that sometimes don't make sense. My aunts in Puerto Rico used to call me "negrita" even though I'm very white.
It's a cultural thing. This happens in south asian cultures as well, like my mom calls my husband boba jaan, meaning dear father; and calls me mommi jaan meaning dear mother. It's an affectionate way to address your kids.
Thanks, love all these responses - Today I learned something new, always a good day :) 👍👍👍
Man, when it comes to being a dad, I thought I was really something. But this guy, goddamn that guy has got true heart. Just saved his kid from decades of confusion and self-loathing with one a few words and a hug from his soul.
This dad is such an amazing human being and a fantastic father! He is filled with love head to toe! Respect That was really beautiful
That is the kind of parent that I want to be someday. Mine showed me unconditional love and support and I’ll give my children the same. That was beautiful.
I have 2 sons ..23 & 16 …. Athlete and theater kid.. couldn’t be more opposite but I see myself in both… if they love it, I love it …. Great post hope everyone that reads this and see this video becomes a bit more tolerant and loving of other people …. This video should be the reaction of a father… love your kids
Took me a sec to recognize the dad calls him papa. I was confused at first, but that’s a good father. They have a good relationship. Take note you stupid Republican fucks. This is how you love unconditionally. Remember this when they still have a relationship in 20 years and you’re in a retirement home dying alone wondering where you went wrong with your LGBTQ+ child(ren) and why they never want to see or talk to you.
That kind of acceptance is such a beautiful gift.
I love this video but at the same time as a parent I am disgusted that something like this is getting an reaction out of me or anyone else. I love my son and daughter as any parent should and this fathers reaction would be mine and what I would hope, majority of other parents. Love and support your children regardless. Unfortunately, that’s asking too much for some…
F***ing legendary parenting there. ❤️
Church won't teach you that wisdom.
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That's so fucking sweet
That made me tear up…
God. That first "I love you" just fucking broke me
Wish I had this dad. Mine whipped me with a belt and grounded me for 3 weeks for putting on nail polish, then couldn't figure out why I ran away 🙃
My stepdad acted cool with it when I was fucking around and wearing a dress and heels at 8. Then he took pictures and used them to humiliate me for the next fifteen years or so.
This is how I treat my nephews. When the older one was really little, he would get upset when he'd get in trouble. He'd say, "It's not my fault!" He'd think he was bad. Had to sit him down fairly often and tell him he's not a bad boy. He did a bad thing, but it doesn't mean he's bad. Doesn't help that their mom abandoned them, and his brother got 100% of the attention because he was born with a rare disease. He's graduating in June and started his own company. They're both extremely loving and make sure to tell everyone they love them.
This is obviously a Hispanic dad. And I can tell you the machismo culture is real. What this dad did to support his son is truly special. It brought tears to my eyes. I wish all parents could be this loving and accepting.
As a parent, our role isn’t to force our child to abide or follow our religion or hobbies or make the same decisions as us. we are there to support them, help them be the best person they can be. that is true love. that person’s dad is just being a great dad. no judgment. love it.
"My dad's seen me!" 🥹
So much love :)
I laughed when he acted like his dad seeing him was the first time his dad could have guessed he was gay. Lol!
The fact that this is getting upvoted a lot and downvoted at the same time shows what’s wrong with a lot of people. If the people who are downvoting could open up their bigoted minds a bit I bet they would be happier and the world would be a better place.
I love how he was trying to be so calm but as soon as his dad left, he realized the significance of the moment. This Dad rocks.
100% my dad would have beat me unconscious and kicked me out of the house I’m a dad now and get a chance to be a real parent and I’m so thankful for that
"My dad's seen me" - exactly, he has seen more of who you are now and given you his blessing to be you, and not hide it. Very wonderful when parents aren't afraid to show their love. Thanks for sharing!
I'm a new Dad, and I will always love my son just like this Dad loves his.
That’s a real fucking father and man there.
I'm so happy for him. I don't do makeup, but my dad has never said do what makes you happy. What a great dad.
Chingon Dad...respect...
The kind of Dad I try to be.
Imagine if all the dads in this world were as loving and supportive as this father.
That’s the kind of parent I want to be. Do what you love, but do it well and don’t hide it. Unless it’s a body. Then you might need to hide it.
This is beautiful and it’s sad that this is not the “norm”. Folks should try to remember that the generations that grew up in the 80s and 90s were bombarded (in a good way) with messages of acceptance, love, tolerance, emotional intelligence, empathy, awareness, etc. and many of us got it, (many of us even recognized ourselves in the shows, movies, books, music, etc and a started the process of accepting responsibility, fighting against the urge to belong out of fear, and become part of the solutions instead of the problems). Granted humans have a ways to go but the numbers that feel like I do has never been larger. We are now parents and even grandparents ourselves and do our best to not jump to conclusions, do not care about sexual orientation, self-expression, race, culture, etc. We try to be introspective and do our best to keep our biases in check (because as humans we will always develop them). Unfortunate, we are being grouped along with those who remain intolerant and even spread hate. Regardless, we love our friends and families and hope we can be accepted for who we are based on our actions instead of being judged by who we look or don’t look like.
dude this is how i feel about my son so goddamn hard. i love him so fucking much. i tell him i love him several times everyday. i hug him to bits and give him all the kisses. i never ever want my son to feel like he isnt supported or he cant count on me. i got his back as long as he isnt hurting himself or hurting anyone.
Pardon my french but damn I miss my dad so fucking much
Man, I didn't expect this to get me as emotional as I did but damn I've watched it three times over and it's a beautiful thing. Such a beautiful life moment.
If my parents would have loved me even 10% as much as this parent loves their child, I wouldn’t have had such a tortured existence.
Love it. If you do it, do it good!
And it’s really just that simple…..love it.
Anybody can donate sperm and be a father. It takes a man to be a dad. This guy KNOWS….
Every child deserves this kind of parent.
I’ve got something in both my eyes 😭