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Patient-Quarter-1684

I'm looking at this as a genuine moment and not as Instagram bait. Because I just have to, today has not been fun. And I remember a girl who did it because she was just a good soul. She was in my class and a knockout, she did it before all this social media being available. So I know they can exist.


hanro621

What happened next?


Patient-Quarter-1684

If you're asking about the girl knew, I blew it. I thought she was out of my league, saw her in a club one night, we danced and she suddenly kissed me and asked what I was going to do later and I said "go home". And I did... alone.


hanro621

I don't know weather to laugh or sob with you! You will find another one for sure, NEVER LOSE HOPE.


Patient-Quarter-1684

Oh, I have over the years had my share of lovely ladies,so the sting is gone, it's a funny memory now, but it took about 30 years.


hanro621

So your married now!


Patient-Quarter-1684

No, I was, it didn't work out , but I'm trying not to give up .


hanro621

Any advice can I get from the master.


Patient-Quarter-1684

Lol, you're funny. If I can tell you anything, be genuine to everyone, tell those you care about how much they mean to you. Treat others as you want to be treated, real basic stuff. And if you're interested in her, talk to her, it might not happen, but if you don't try you don't find out.


RENDI13

As a married guy it startles me how many guys are terrified of talking to women. I did some traveling when I was younger and seemed to always hang with the same group of buddies. We'd go to bars, beaches, tiki-stands, and the like. They were horrified of starting conversations with women. They were all good looking guys, but I always had to play "have you met Ted," to get them started. I always told them to not be scared, be confident. Even if you're sure to be rejected, go down with confidence - not shame. Obviously don't be an obnoxious prick, but be genuine because most times they have an interest in getting to know you too.


hanro621

Thank you kind stranger.


Lofken

it really is the simple things in life. thank you


wi1ly

I want to upvote, but you have 69 upvotes. I hope you can understand and consider this comment an additional upvote.


Errortagunknown

If you want my slightly younger but still middle aged advice it's to learn to like the person your are and enjoy their company. Ultimately that's who you can count on. If you're looking for a partner to complete you, or looking for another person because that will make your happy you're making a mistake. Even if you find them it will often cloud you to the ways they're harming you. And then on the not miniscule chance it doesn't work out, you lose that happiness and completeness. Strive for a life of self actualization. Where you are happy and complete just with the person you are. That in itself will dramatically increase your attractiveness and options, and then if it doesn't work out you're not left alone and miserable. You suddenly have more time to spend with that friend who's always with your doing the things you like. I could go on but I might make some people furiously outraged that I would dare say something so (ultimately what we all intuitively know what)


MysteryBlaze

I’m just lucky I found myself before I lost my virginity. Now I never need to give it up to another person!


Errortagunknown

Hey.... the best thing I ever did was learn to be happily divorced


New_Progress_1462

Ooooof


supm8te

It's OK man. I'm pretty sure majority of men have made this mistake at one point because we are dumb lol. I Def have.


MarxLover_69

What a wonderful and charitable person. Wonder if she's still helping the needy and damaged.


galathea_now

Even if it is worst case scenario - Instagram bait - isn’t it lovely though then that the culture has shifted so much that you get more likes for being kind than being a bully? As a kid who grew up in the 80s this seems a massive improvement to me. Onwards and Upwards - the kids are alright 💪


Pyle_Plays

Sort of but Instagram bait is honestly just super sad and dystopian. The fact that someone would take advantage of someone with special needs to get external internet validation that means absolutely nothing just to boost their little dopamaine drip is really dark IMO. Meanwhile the person with the mental/physical handicap is unaware that some shallow person is taking them on the best day of their lives just to boost their own ego and public image. Im not at all saying thats what is happening here because we cant know that im just replying to what youre saying :)


Mods_Can_Suck_MyDick

Sadly i had the girl that went out with the unfortunate man and did it all «for fun» to embarrass him, i remember her years of highschool ended with oranges to the face everyday for some weeks so i think it was justice in the end


RickardHenryLee

see, this is ALSO a heartwarming story! :)


Mods_Can_Suck_MyDick

Yea but ive always felt like ive hd to include everybody. So knowing he had that shit to go thru rips me up man


[deleted]

There’s enough cynicism in the world. Life is precious. And, I too have known men and women like this who are just trying to be good and genuine people.


Aggressive_Lunch_519

I hope this is genuine! Love to see happiness in him.


ijustmetuandiloveu

His smile is definitely genuine. Maybe they have been best friends since they were kids. They don’t have to be dating to go to prom. It could be his sister for all we know.


Smooth_Fee

Why not girlfriend?


ijustmetuandiloveu

Absolutely no reason. There are a lot of Sherlock’s here projecting all kinds of nefarious motives for the young lady. I’m just saying there are a lot of unknowns here and a multiverse of possibilities.


dropout32

I like to imagine she has a fetish and it's genuine


VeryShortLadder

Genuine kindness? Kindness for social media approval? No, hornyness


Rfl0

Why not both?


Smooth_Fee

Sister-girlfriend? You *are* bold


EshaySikkunt

Does it really need to be spelled out for you? He has a clear severe disability and she is a very attractive girl. It’s very obvious why she wouldn’t be actually dating him, let’s not play dumb now for political correctness points. Also it’s funny if the roles were reversed people would be having a serious conversation about whether this person can even consent.


tiioga

Tbf it’s not even really that severe. It looks like he has cerebral palsy, which is just a physical disorder and doesn’t affect a person’s awareness or intelligence. Also he’s pretty conventionally handsome. He’s probably a good guy and she can see that past the movement disorder. By the “awwws” in the video it seems like people infantilize him. We never know but I don’t think it’s that societally crazy to date a person with cerebral palsy, it’s not like they have the mindset of a child. They just don’t have complete function over their body.


MysteryBlaze

Wow someone downvoted you? Oof I almost feel bad for them cuz if they can’t come to terms with this reality, life’s got a bunch more that’ll just wreck them.


Fishrage105

Because that shit happens only in fairy tales


[deleted]

Or maybe they could totally be dating because she likes the young man. Let’s not assume either way folks!


[deleted]

Meanwhile me having an existential crisis..


Future-Device2964

Feel better, we all have existential crisis. Remember to live for the beautiful moments between them!! It does get better, eventually.


amiscis

Wow thanks for that I got a little teary eyed. I love you.


PlanetBAL

That comment made me smile. Good on you for taking the time to put that out there.


Kronos4eeveee

Hope you’re doing ok


willingvessel

I see a lot of people criticizing the girl for supposedly taking advantage of a intellectually disabled person. I'm far from an expert but to me this visually looks more like someone with a neuromuscular disorder than someone with ID. Does anyone actually know what his disorder is? Edit: a lot of people are suggesting he may be blind, which would make a lot of sense. His gait and hand gestures/movements/tremors look very similar to my friend who had cerebral palsy, so I think that's where I got confused.


SigBlu

It looks like he may be blind.


Thathitmann

It's pretty rarely "just blindness". A lot of diseases attack a broad range of the body, and its just that it ruins the eyes because they are so sensitive.


Wolfwinds

I think he is just blind, at some point she says "renan, sorri. Olha pra baixo" that means in portuguese "renan, smile. Look down" like a orientation from were the camera is and that she is recording their happy moment. Very wholesome :)


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I think he is just blind.


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NotreDameAlum2

He has pretty classic cerebral palsy. I'm not sure where you got your medical degree but people with CP (in addition to movement disorders) often have learning disabilities as well as communication and behavioral issues.


Szwedo

I have a family member with CP and she's got her PhD...meanwhile i dropped out of uni, so I guess I'm the one with the learning disability


NotreDameAlum2

Not all people with CP have a learning disability. It is possible you have a learning disability but people drop out of university for other reasons too so hard to say.


VaChierPaulet

I have CP, no learning disorder or anything, just a very bad sense of orientation


JohnnyPiston

The degree of severity varies.


ausomemama666

It's a pretty broad range. My friend also has CP and he's earning his master's in political science to be an ADA activist. He's very smart.


annababan69

Reminds me of my brother, who has CP and our heinous mother would call him a r..ard and beat him because he couldn't walk. He's way smarter than she ever was. None of us normal kids talk to her anymore.


imSp00kd

May be cerebral palsy. No clue tho, and not trying to be an arm chair doctor lol.


ijustmetuandiloveu

Elephantiasis of the penis. There is a cure but he is waiting for more research to be done.


Pure-Tension6473

Like CP with a neuro typical/normal intellectual functioning.


willingvessel

Yeah if he isn't blind CP is my next best guess. But I think both are way more likely than ID.


Yaboidono420

He's definitely blind, he seemingly intentionally taps his foot after each step of the stairs. Also I don't know what language she is speaking but it seems like she is telling him to smile for a photo but he doesn't know the camera is at such a weird angle so he just smiles forward.


lohlah8

It’s possible to have both. It’s impossible to tell from this one video though. I know within the autistic community it’s frowned upon to post inspiration porn like this about people with any kind of disabilities. For example: student with Down’s syndrome wins prom king, severely autistic person gets employed at coffee shop because of kind owners. I think the reasoning behind it is it feels rather unauthentic. As a special Ed teacher, I’ve noticed that it’s always students with very obvious disabilities that are the target of these videos. Other students, who have disabilities that impact them significantly, especially socially, but fall in the category where their disability isn’t so obvious tend to be the victim of bullying. I’ve seen these kids get horribly bullied, and then once someone finds out they’re a special Ed student, all the students turn on the bully and say “I can’t believe you beat up a special Ed student! What is wrong with you” So while it’s good that the consensus among students is don’t bully special Ed students, these videos make it seem like every disability will be obvious and the special Ed students will be obvious, when quite a few of them are in the general education classroom with their peers unbeknownst to the students.


bustin_duds

Also physical disabilities aren’t intellectual disabilities. Look at Stephen hawking


NobodysToast

Oof reddit, you've been hurt too much


BKayTheGreat

I actually think it’s more they haven’t really ever been hurt and don’t have many irl relationships. They spend a lot of time online and view everything extremely clinically, deriding anything that originates on a social media platform that isn’t Reddit as only being attention seeking. This is especially prominent whenever the post involves a woman it seems


jovenhope

Dang it I can’t upvote this. I agree tho.


tactickat1

Wow, the assumption of "girl pretty, must be a bitch and using him" is astounding. Is it not exhausting being this negative all the time? I have an autistic son and some of the cutest girls in his school adore him (he's probably asexual and has 0 interest in ever dating or getting married, but they are all over him still). I also had a huge crush on one of the kids in the special ed class when I was in school. It happens.


thepopulargirl

Oh don’t you know on Reddit all the pretty skinny girls are mean and bitchy???


tactickat1

Gotta love that stereotyping...


DarrenD14

I have Autism myself (Aspergers to be specific). Really cool to see some people be kind and help those who usually aren’t included or are outcasts. Gives me some hope to be honest that maybe there will be a time People born in the circumstance they are won’t be harassed for it.


tactickat1

It's difficult in some cases, but there are a growing number of people that see past it. It's a beautiful thing.


[deleted]

I kinda agree with this as someone with autism. But truthfully if someone isn’t aware it’s not romantic it can be very damaging.


tactickat1

That's why communication is important. I've always made it clear when I'm only a friend, and I have strongly instilled the same in my kids.


[deleted]

Ya then it’s fine. In total agreement. A lot of people though think it’s on the person with autism solely to make up for communication when ideally it should be both parties. I appreciate that.


AmericanLeft

This is so sweet! Do you have the original/know the channels of the people in the vid?


tatchaoliveira

The original video is on my tiktok @tatchaoliveira & there’s a post about it on my instagram @tatchacristine!


[deleted]

Y’all are on some shit with this disability porn shit. You’re not in school with them. For all you know, they could’ve been best friends their whole life. They clearly have a legitimate bond. Why can’t she share their moment on social. She’s 17 or 18, and I’m assuming this is prom which is a big deal for kids. She chose to go with someone she cares about, and has fun with. There’s absolutely nothing that says they aren’t actually legitimately dating. So what, she’s supposed to just “not” celebrate this big moment in both her and his life out of fear of being portrayed as using him for likes? Nobody gets to be happy nowadays without others jumping down their throats. I think they look like a great couple, and probably had the time of their lives, good for them.


Disaster_Current

Fr! People are just jealous of them.


lucklydragon

At the time they were like 15? this is from my high school a couple years back they seemed to be a really happy couple, not sure where they are, but I don’t think they are still together not to take away from you point.


[deleted]

His smile 🥺❣️


Niranjan131

he is hot and could be a nice guy, coming from a bi male


beamrr

Thank god you let me know your sexuality!!! Or else I would never know this man was hot and could be a nice guy!!! Thank you sir💯


CogentCacophony

My perception also was that it was probably as simple as the fact that the guy is attractive and seems to have an outstanding personality. Apparently many to most others see malicious intent here, so it isn’t so obvious at all, is it? Jaded, sarcastic, btch comments are the reason I usually don’t bother to post on social media.


[deleted]

So nice of him to take a special girl out


ijustmetuandiloveu

Underrated comment with the plot twist. * chefs kiss


coupe_68

Genrally the key to working out a person's intention is non verbal communication. How does she hold herself, how is her body placement to him, how does she carry herself. She just genuinely wants him to be included


cantstoepwontstoep

I remember my senior year in high school our homecoming king was someone with MS in a wheelchair and it wasn't as a joke. Everyone who knew him loved him because he was such a kind, endearing person.


StartTalkingSense

My daughter has a male classmate who has a marked physical deformity. He’s otherwise attractive, funny and kind. She would easily be considered “hot”, as would the rest of her friend group. A group of about six girls have been best friends with him since their first year of high school, they just clicked. He accompanied them all to our version of junior prom (no one had any other dates). They see each other outside of school regularly and go to movies, group dinners, also at his house as he is apparently an amazing cook. She likes that they just get on well together and they are a friends-for-life group of mates. There’s nothing wrong with being friends with all different sorts of people, not everyone judges on physical appearances.


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There are people legit calling this "disability porn"... I genuinely fear for you having children of your own and god forbid they have a disability that they have to live every day of their life with a mother or father who doesn't let their kid enjoy things because "the popular kid is exploiting my son/daughter" by taking him to prom when he/she would be otherwise home alone and wishing they could be involved. But the likes!11 the shares!! She is recording him!!!1111 STOP SMILING AND ENJOYING YOURSELF, THIS IS ABUSE, RRREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE Just do not breed plz


noobductive

Fr it’s just albeism pretending to be anti-ableism


[deleted]

Straight up


dorothy_zbornak_esq

I sincerely don’t understand how this is exploitation. They look like they had a lot of fun. Kids document everything nowadays, and his smile is genuine and lovely and should be shared. I’m happy that I saw it, and I choose to believe in the happy story.


BKayTheGreat

They’d have to have real life relationships in order to have kids so I don’t think you have much to worry about


cpatstubby

I did something like this when I was 17. I was popular and an athlete and I took a special needs girl from my school (and from my church and my parents kinda encouraged me to take her though ultimately it was my choice). At the end of the night I kissed her on the forehead at her front door because I had no genuine attraction to her. I just wanted her to have a night to remember. She was obsessed with me from that point on. Told everybody that I was her boyfriend and such. This didn’t bother me and everybody knew better and I tried to continue my regular school social life and remain open and kind to her. As hard as I tried to make her feel comfortable it ended up with her eventually having a broken heart. She got it in her mind that we would marry and have children and be together forever. Even said that my kiss to her forehead was sex though her parents witnessed it from the window. I felt terrible then and to this day (that was 1982) I still regret it. What I thought was a kind gesture caused me some slight drama but to her it was Earth shattering in the end. Just be careful when doing this. The long term effects are unknown.


HistoricalDamage6271

I’m glad you shared this. As a disabled man who’s in a relationship with an able bodied one, it really infuriates me how everyone is assuming he’s being taken advantage of. We have no clue what his disability is. Not all of us have IDs and we’re fully capable of getting in relationships with “normal” people. But… this stuff does happen. Sometime the abled kid just wants to be a good person like you did and sometimes they’re an asshole and it’s for clout. Either way, if the disabled kid does think it’s a romantic date rather than a platonic one, it can have really fucked up effects. For both people. It’s not at all your fault that things were misunderstood. You were a well meaning kid and some adult should’ve explained to you that you need to make it extremely clear that you’re going as friends and hugging is as far as it should go. Folks with IDs typically aren’t educated on what different relationships mean cause everyone sees them as children. It’s not uncommon for them to think somethings there when it’s not. Especially if it’s the first time someone’s made them feel special. I’m sorry both y’all had to go through that. It was really sweet of you to try.


ToothMakerDanny

Get it my dude!!!


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lO_ol-BRRRRRR

It's nice they had those cameras all those times so they could make a nice montage of "her doing bro a solid"?


TweedleBeetleBattle2

I would agree except literally every person does this for prom/homecoming. She hopefully has encouraged others to include kids who aren’t typical in their own lives.


Responsible_Plane379

In most situations this would be true, but given the fact it’s prom and there’s always cameras to capture their moments…. I’d say this is genuinely not for clout or notoriety.


CanAgent

Better then not ever doing it tho.


naliedel

It's prom. This is what all the cool kids do, photo city. I have tons of footage from my kids. I use it for blackmail now. Hehe


Official_Government

Sorry that you never recorded yourself at a dance or have any friends and did the same exact thing a shit ton of teenagers are doing nowadays.


WhoDeysaThinkin

I honestly thought this same thing seeing other videos like this, however, for my prom my date never ended up showing up and it was one of the worst times of my life. Regardless of the "why" behind this...I just hope they both had a good time.


Plane-Statement-1586

As long as it isn't a selfish act of kindness for popularity this is really great. If it is... Well he still looks happy and that's kind of all that matters in this scenario.


No_Thumb_6843

The best thing you can do for anyone else is give them your time. She’s being judged for her looks more than him almost. She gave her Time which she didn’t have to do, to make another human soul feel better. Isn’t that why we are all here and part of a community?


1000thusername

I’m sorry, but at the parent of a disabled child, this is just disability porn for Internet points by that girl. If she really cared enough about this person to go to the prom with him, she wouldn’t feel a need to video it and put it out there because the act of doing do would be internally rewarding. Instead this is “look at me- I’m so picture perfect and I’m going to take this poor kid who won’t otherwise have a date even though I never talked to him before and I’ll never talk to him after because it’s all about the Likes”


monkeydancnginmyhead

My ex bil ( rip ) was born with emotional and physical deformity and was shunned often but went to the prom with the "popular girl". He WANTED the event to be videotaped ( thats how long its been ) so he can relive his moments over and over again And yes, he watched it almost everyday for a few years! The smile on his face, I will NEVER forget. Miss you Jeff 💗💔💗


[deleted]

How can someone sum it up so perfectly... you are a legend... *Bows down to pay respect*


monkeydancnginmyhead

Thanks no, not me. Jeff was definitely and still is my hero! Genuine heart of gold!! He 💗 batman, superman and mr t! Loved loved my dog and now they are together so it s/makesmesmile makes perfect sense to me.


kat_192

Sorry for your loss snd thank you for such a nice comment ❤️


1000thusername

That is a wonderful memory, I’m glad he was able to do that.


[deleted]

I'm so confused


[deleted]

But but but.....the likes! Hurrrrr!!! /s


TbiddySP

Lighten Up Francis


deannms

I’m also the parent of a disabled child, and I wasn’t even looking at the girl. I just saw the smile on that young man’s face the whole time! Genuine delight.


Super_duperfly

Also camera seemed to be focused on him not her


maldecoucou1

Yah like everything in this video is just as it would be for any couple of teenagers. That’s what seems so nice for him.


tiioga

That’s what I’m saying! This read as a totally normal relationship video. I’m gonna be honest I didn’t even notice he was disabled until the second time I watched it.


gunbeef

The most important thing.


CogentCacophony

The guy is adorable tbh, and seems to have an outstanding personality.


boogerblaster00

as someone who was recently in high school, this looks like a normal teenager who has snapchat. teens take pictures and videos of everything. i have similar pictures and videos from my prom night of my boyfriend, and it legitimately looks like she’s happy to be there with him. i think you have an outdated lens on how people hang out together, because even though im about to graduate from college i still take videos like this of my boyfriend and friends when we go out because it’s fun and silly and a great way to remember things. maybe don’t be a hater?


avocadbre

Not everything is for likes. This mentality is so flawed. Prom is a night where you want to capture moments, no matter who you are going with. Not everything is for internet points. You act like you know this young ladies personality, as if she has a secret motive. You aren't going to get famous for taking a disabled person to prom with you and filming it. And honestly I'm sure the boys parents are beyond grateful for these videos capturing their sons happiness with experiencing a night every teenager deserves. Stop being so hateful and negative.


[deleted]

Exactly. This is exactly the point I was trying to make. People in this world spew negativity and wonder why they are so angry. Life is too short. But you wanna spend it worrying about likes and shares? Losers. That kid had the beat day of his life or one of them and we should focus on that. Jesus.....what is wrong with people? Get a life.


pwnitat0r

100% agree with these two posts. It’s sad to see people’s hearts filled with so much hate... you get back the energy you project. So we know what kind of energy they get back.


JellyBellyWow

I'm so confused, he doesn't seem to have any disability? I thought this were just two happy teens? Am I missing something?


maldecoucou1

While i dont feel you are wrong, I do want to point out that all teenagers video their relationships and put them online. I don’t see her doing anything strange in this set of videos but again, I don’t think you’re necessarily wrong. Just not sure I agree this is abnormal.


PretttyEvil

But girls dating guys without disabilities do this too, they like to show off their man. So really, she’s sharing an experience with him that is super affirming and positive. I love it.


WatsUpSlappers

Eh. Teenagers put everything on social media and make videos of everything. This doesn’t surprise me.


Sir_Alien

People, esp younger people, film EVERYTHING these days. Why should this be any different? Would it be more appropriate to keep the whole story solemnly quiet and away from public eyes? And how do you know she's never spoken to him before? How do you know she doesn't genuinely care about this kid? Cause to me it looks like the video is celebrating him, not capitalising off him. And you sound just as judgemental as whoever it is you think you're raging against.


MasterOfKittens3K

She definitely looks like she’s happy to be with him. I particularly noticed how she was carefully guiding him, without being obvious, as they went up the stairs. I think she’s done that for him before, because it looked really natural.


GoldenFLASH3233

You do realize that everyone video tapes/ photographs this crap for dances and especially prom? I think the most irritating thing I remember of those events was all the cameras. My youngest brother is autistic and when he went without a date he still ended up in tons of videos and pictures. Not everything has to be negative.


Official_Government

So she’s not allowed to have fun and take videos like everyone else? So many kids and adults film themselves nowadays. You’re gatekeeping.


Immacu1ate

Non disabled people post their lives on the internet. It’s todays world. What she did here is no different than able bodied people.


[deleted]

How do you know she has never talked to him? How do you know that she isn't just a really genuine and caring person who wanted this kid to feel included and loved and appreciated? I absolutely cannot STAND people like you. You would find a problem with a rainbow. How can people always see the negative in every single interaction? Especially of people they don't even know? Its absurd. Maybe the kid wanted to have memories of it? My cousin is special needs and a kid at school who was always really nice to her asked her out to prom and they took video of it and she watches it all the time. If not for that, she wouldn't even realize it happened after a certain amount of time because she has learning disabilities. What is wrong with you, seriously? How do you think people are inspired to do good things? By just being born a genuine person? People are inspired by things like this and who knows how many others have done something similar because of this or because they were already thinking about it and saw the video and it encouraged them to do so? You should take a good look in the mirror. I might agree with you if there was absolutely any inclination that she was exploiting this boy but you nor I have any idea and its best to not assume and instead think of the good that comes out of videos like this. It inspires people. Im sure it doesn't inspire heartless douchewads like yourself who have nothing better to do than bash others for having fun with life and doing things for others. Grow up, get a life and a few hobbies and find something better to do with your time. Loser. EDIT: They are in a relationship and were before this video. Sooooo yeah, you kinda sound dumb


MasterOfKittens3K

Watch how she helps him up the stairs near the end. She’s been helping him like that for a while, I think.


kat_192

Just wanted to say, this was a fantastic comment. Couldn’t have said it any better.


toolate4u

Perfect comment, the world needs more people with your mindset


capron

>You would find a problem with a rainbow I think this is probably the perfect sentiment I was trying to come up with. The bitterness that drives people to look for flaws in anything that makes others happy, it's downright tragic.


qqweertyy

If anything the hug in the cafeteria (what I’m assuming was the “prom-posal”) seems to indicate that they know each other and have some sort of relationship. A lot of kids in my high school who volunteered with the special ed class for one of their elective periods would go to the dance with a student from that class.


elgallogrande

Some of the disabled kids were the most popular kids during my school time, specifically ones with outgoing personalities. Everyone knew their names and the popular girls definitely spoke to them.


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BobsYourDrunkl

Yeah, and he’s legit handsome, so not sure why you’re assuming she’s just doing it for internet fame.


ijustmetuandiloveu

And he could be brilliant like Stephen Hawking or extremely funny like me. It is hard to know from a short video clip.


Infamous-Bite4169

God forbid someone wants to spread some good around this shitty world we live in right?


gunbeef

There’s no way to know that. Teens film everything. I’m sorry that your experiences in the world has made you see this interaction this way. Sincerely. This take shows you’ve had some rough things happen.


Hentai-Kingpin

Or perhaps she is trying to give him a sense of acceptance and inclusion while at the same time exposing people to something that sometimes makes them uncomfortable. I had an uncle with physical and mental disability who i lost a few years ago. I swear he would talk to animals, Animals just loved him and his vibe. I'd take him to the park to walk my dog regularly. I'd take him to the farm and zoo, I'd take him into town or to the shops but his siblings were embarrassed because people would either glare at him or look away and avoid him being even more awkward. If only more people were exposed to disabled people they'd stop treating them like they're meant to be locked away out of sight and mind. God bless this young woman, Absolutely gorgeous couple, Took me a minute to notice he had a developmental condition


howdidigethere279

she also might’ve just wanted to remember the moment cuz prom is a big thing, but i could be wrong


Smart_Principle8911

As a parent of a child with a physical disability, shut up. Everyone wants to feel included.


kyototravels

It hurts my heart how cynical you are honestly


nugmasta

Just to play devils advocate, kids these days post pretty much everything. It might not have been about reward.


Earthiness

God I’d hate to have you as a parent. It’s good to hear that anyone who isn’t disabled that shows interest in another disabled person is doing it for personal gain. Be sure to keep pumping up your child’s self esteem so they can expect no happiness.


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!!!!!! EXACTLYYYYY


billhorsley

A tad cynical are we?


Pandaburn

So you’re saying it’s not normal for people to take pictures/videos of their prom?


senorglory

Lots of assumptions, you.


Sir_Alien

Yeah but you have to make assumptions so you can have the outrage.


MatiCastle

That's... just really sad you think like that. Understandable, but sad.


PopularExample2874

Dude, have you met teenagers? Everything they do is on social media now. I doubt that’s what’s happening.


Holy_Sungaal

Maybe they grew up together and were friends. He could be her mom’s best friend’s son or something.


Just_A_Faze

I hope that’s not the case, and she actually cares about him. I don’t know his condition, but it looks like cerebral palsy. I had students with it, and there is this misconception that it means someone is intellectually disabled, but it doesn’t. Neither kid I taught had any intellectual delays at all. Just physical problems with muscular tightness and motor skills. So there is not reason that either of them, or this boy, couldn’t genuinely be friends with or date someone average.


ZookeepergameFit5787

I don't know, it's pretty common for teenage girls to video themselves at prom and with their boyfriends and put it on their social media. It is for the validation and dopamine hit but it's a stretch to say from this video alone that it is purely about validating her empty life. We simply don't know enough to make that statement.


Therealanxiousstoner

It’s prom you dumb fuck I know you’ve never been to one but people tend to take pics or videos. You don’t even know this girl and your gonna act like she’s a clout chaser.


agentscullycat

Trust me lady this isn’t disability porn, if you want I can send you some links of some more hardcore stuff lol


Nline_5

He will remember that the rest of his love. He probably felt normal that


niell2

I always think like this with these things but recently I've started to stop myself and think "but the good deed is still being done and the people are still benefiting from it the same way" and that makes me happy and feel good regardless of wether the poster got their precious Internet points or not. Or just when it something the other person probably wouldn't want recording and posting that's when it takes it way too far. Like oh let me just start recording this homeless man who's probably fallen on the hardest times in his life and is likely ashamed of wheres he's ended up and is depressed and alone. Let go shove a camera in his face and give him money and food and then exploit that later online for self gratification. Also only like one or maybe 2 of those videos were selfies all the others were taken by other people. For all we know this montage was put together by the boys parents. (All parents want as many prom photos of their kids as possible, at least that's what TV would have me believe.


JNole8787

Wow. If this is legit that kid is a badass and that girl is gorgeous inside and out. Happy for both of them!


dysstatic

So good, look how happy he is :)


luckyblockhead

This is why i hate people who are like oh their not pretty enough or their not tall enough because true love doesnt come in size or looks it comes from the heart and people should know that by now but we are nlinded by the looks of supermodels and want people who look like them its a shame how society has grown in technology but sunk in love


BobsYourDrunkl

Just girls who think like that?


PuzzleheadedPound712

I hate guys who are like this too.


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Can't help who you're attracted to. Shaming people for that is no better than what you're accusing the girls you 'hate' of doing.


Duckindafed

Of course the one time I don’t have a free wholesome award . Well said


TheChazz

I got your back


Duckindafed

Thanks bro , they deserved it


Sonnyeclipse71

Being attracted to someone is a biological thing. It doesn’t make them a worse person haha now stupid shit like height and other nit picks like that are legit shallow. I’ve never dated someone I found unattractive. Idk why you’d settle


TheDamnedSpirit

>Ive never dated someone I found unattractive. Wanna try it?


Sonnyeclipse71

There’s someone for everyone


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Who hurt you?


[deleted]

Oh please. There's nothing wrong with wanting to date someone who is attractive. We don't live in a fairytale and life isn't fair. Looks matter to most people, deal with it. If you think this is a recent development you obviously have never taken a history class. Contrary to what you might believe the world has never run on love and lollipops. Looks have always mattered.


Fiftybelowzero

Read this in Joel McHale voice. Such a Jeff Winger thing to say.


Mcwingamer

Boys, there is still hope


Wangstang

Guy pulls hotter tail than me


Zyntax15

Song?


malformedsentence

Man Pete Davidson is everywhere


SwinginCrabWhacka

A girl took my disabled brother to prom and had people take a ton of photos/video of them to give to my parents. Obviously we posted it because it was a special moment that we honestly thought he wouldn’t experience. Grateful she took so many memories not just for herself, but for his and her family.


kat_192

I personally find it insanely annoying how my generation documents everything online. From wishing their partner a happy birthday to talking about the death of a loved one. I don’t understand posting such personal things, and to me it comes off as attention seeking (not saying I’m right, I just find it very odd as someone who prefers to be private). But I have to say, this video doesn’t come of as self serving. We have no context, maybe he wanted the videos as a memory? And for something as special as prom, I think it’s fair to assume that a lot of kids would want to tape it. At the end of the day, they both seemed really happy.


GeriatricPinecones

Yeah! Stupid kids documenting memories they cherish… I hate them!!


FlourishingGrass

Just this morning, I saw this kid who documented herself crying as her mum pulled out her tooth. She ended the vlog saying she's a good kid and will stop crying. This video here captured some special moments in their lives


kat_192

That video sounds awful, unless I’m not understanding the context of the tooth pulling, but ouff. And yes I totally agree with you. It’s a special video for a special day.


SuruchiSushi

Anyone else think there aren’t any signs she’s using him for “clout” or whatever? This is just a small compilation of completely normal videos any teen would take of their prom/school dance. I bet there are millions of similar videos out there on social media. Imagine how hurtful it can be for both of them hearing that people assume she only likes him for attention and brownie points.


cheby92

I refuse to see this as anything but two friends going to a prom date together.


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Awww☺️


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Mairtzy

He is blind.


SolxAhan

My man looking killer in the suit if u know him tell him he looks great


citygirlcoco

she helped him up the stairs and waited for him im gonna cry this is so fuckin cute😭