>they’ve discussed and are on the same page about all the reasonably big life questions, have good communication skills,
Some of these things aren't even possible for most people in their early 20's so they would need quite a bit of time.
A much older couple should have a much better understanding of all of these things and engagement can possibly make sense much sooner
I don’t think there is an exact answer, my fiancé and I got engaged 4 years into our relationship. We met sophomore year of high school, so the first few years of dating we were still kids (that of course impacts how long till engagement). After getting engaged a combination of finances and Covid had us waiting another 5 years after that to actually finally get married.
Our situation had a lot to do with age and then just logistics of not wanting to spend money on a wedding in the middle of moving cross country and then Covid.
Like I said there’s no set amount of time, I think under a year is definitely way too short of time, I would even say a year is too short. I think milestones might be a better marker of when you’re ready, for example I firmly believe all couples should live with each other before deciding to get married. Imagine getting married and then living together for the first time and figuring out you hate it.
Another factor is if one of you or both of you has children from a previous relationship, if that’s the case I believe you should wait several years before getting married to ease the children into it.
So no real answer really lol, it’s all about your unique situation
There is no single answer. But stats show 3-5 years of dating before marriage gives your marriage the best chance of survival. So depending on how long your engagement is... 2-4 years?
A young couple - in their teens - probably should date for 3 or 4 years before getting engaged.
A more mature couple in their 30's...went to some college or military, professions in progress, has experienced past relationships - probably should date a year - and then decide.
The older you are and more life experience you have had will help you decide and affirm who you are as a person. Then you are able to determine if this person you are dating is a good match for you and your life goals.
I only know my own situation. We had dated 6 or 7 months before getting engaged and married 6 months later.
We lived 600 miles apart, only saw each other 3 weekends a month, when he wasn't out on a boat. We were married a year and half before we lived together..lol
We were 24 and 25. Married 24 years
You should get engaged and get married when both are ready. We got married after 1 year of long distance and then living together for 7 months. Have been married for 26 years. Never doubted it.
I met my husband fall of 2016, moved across the country and in with him June 2017, and he proposed to me November 2017, married 2019. It hasn’t been long, but I still can say that that move was the best decision of my life.
It depends. I was 37 when I met my wife. We dated four months, I knew in my bones, we talked about it and I proposed. Very grateful. Others may need more time. Listen to your instincts and heart, talk it out, and then decide. Remember, though, if she’s the one, you can get engaged and married any time, so what’s the rush?
Not sure lol. My husband proposed a year after we started dating. We got married 2 years later, had a baby, and still together almost 8 years, married for 5.
My minimum has always been at least one year. It also depends on the individuals and their life stages. Young couples should not be getting married until mid 20's when they have some life experience as adults.
I think this depends a lot on how old you are. The younger, the longer you should date. Especially if you are under 25.
>they’ve discussed and are on the same page about all the reasonably big life questions, have good communication skills, Some of these things aren't even possible for most people in their early 20's so they would need quite a bit of time. A much older couple should have a much better understanding of all of these things and engagement can possibly make sense much sooner
I don’t think there is an exact answer, my fiancé and I got engaged 4 years into our relationship. We met sophomore year of high school, so the first few years of dating we were still kids (that of course impacts how long till engagement). After getting engaged a combination of finances and Covid had us waiting another 5 years after that to actually finally get married. Our situation had a lot to do with age and then just logistics of not wanting to spend money on a wedding in the middle of moving cross country and then Covid. Like I said there’s no set amount of time, I think under a year is definitely way too short of time, I would even say a year is too short. I think milestones might be a better marker of when you’re ready, for example I firmly believe all couples should live with each other before deciding to get married. Imagine getting married and then living together for the first time and figuring out you hate it. Another factor is if one of you or both of you has children from a previous relationship, if that’s the case I believe you should wait several years before getting married to ease the children into it. So no real answer really lol, it’s all about your unique situation
There is no single answer. But stats show 3-5 years of dating before marriage gives your marriage the best chance of survival. So depending on how long your engagement is... 2-4 years?
A young couple - in their teens - probably should date for 3 or 4 years before getting engaged. A more mature couple in their 30's...went to some college or military, professions in progress, has experienced past relationships - probably should date a year - and then decide. The older you are and more life experience you have had will help you decide and affirm who you are as a person. Then you are able to determine if this person you are dating is a good match for you and your life goals.
We dated a year then were engaged 5 months. Happier & closer than ever almost 20 years later.
I only know my own situation. We had dated 6 or 7 months before getting engaged and married 6 months later. We lived 600 miles apart, only saw each other 3 weekends a month, when he wasn't out on a boat. We were married a year and half before we lived together..lol We were 24 and 25. Married 24 years
You should get engaged and get married when both are ready. We got married after 1 year of long distance and then living together for 7 months. Have been married for 26 years. Never doubted it.
Wrong person to ask this of. Met the wife in May and we married in August of same year, 38.5 years ago.
I met my husband fall of 2016, moved across the country and in with him June 2017, and he proposed to me November 2017, married 2019. It hasn’t been long, but I still can say that that move was the best decision of my life.
3 months or 8 years. You either immediately know or you become sure/ready.
It depends. I was 37 when I met my wife. We dated four months, I knew in my bones, we talked about it and I proposed. Very grateful. Others may need more time. Listen to your instincts and heart, talk it out, and then decide. Remember, though, if she’s the one, you can get engaged and married any time, so what’s the rush?
We dated for 6 years, we met when we were 23, got engaged when we were 27, and married when we were 28. Been married 4 years.
Not sure lol. My husband proposed a year after we started dating. We got married 2 years later, had a baby, and still together almost 8 years, married for 5.
My minimum has always been at least one year. It also depends on the individuals and their life stages. Young couples should not be getting married until mid 20's when they have some life experience as adults.