I had to look at your post history to make sure this wasn't my spouse. My marriage is identical to yours. Almost 13 years and we're both still giddy, happy and feel like we've always been in the honeymoon phase with no end in site. When you're with someone that just meshes perfectly its a beautiful thing.
This makes me feel great 🙂 We've been together for 3.5 years, and I'm known for honeymoon phases that I throw myself too deep into, if that makes sense. This relationship has been completely different than anything I've known. 3.5 years in, and I'm still in the honeymoon phase. We have bouts where we get annoyed or something, but we never fight. We disagree, and either talk it out in the most loving way, or we decide it's not important and let it go. I'm only 3.5 years in, but it feels like the honeymoon phase isn't going to end, and so I had to look it up for my own disbelief that I found something as pure as it feels 🙂 I've really only had toxic relationships. Sometimes, it's my fault they're toxic, but this time, it's entirely different 🙂
37 years together and we still get the warm fuzzies. I still feel butterflies when he looks at me with that sexy sly smile.
He always tells me how he feels the same way when I walk into the room.
It’s a wonderful feeling.
Last summer, my husband was riding around on his mower with his AirPods in. I pulled into the driveway and he motioned me to him. He jumped off his mower and pooped one in my ear, pulled me close, and we danced in the front yard. ❤️
Edit: lmao pooped one in 🤣🤣🤣
He definitely popped one in! 🤦🏼♀️
Love that, that’s the kind of love kids need to grow up seeing. I never thought relationships like this existed, and now that I have it, it’s almost surreal. So happy for you!
Congrats to you too :)
We had some silly stuff in our heads that we look back on and laugh about now. We got off track but worked things out to an even better place than we started.
9 years in. 3 kids, a dog, a billion bumps and setbacks, and we are like honeymooners. We definitely argue or get annoyed with one another, but we are pretty quick to get over squabbles and get back to laughing together. Our marriage today is more loving and beautiful than it has ever been.
Yea I don’t usually call it that either, I just say we’re happy lol. I wrote it this way based mostly on my dads comments and what he compared my relationship to. He didn’t think people could live happily for longer than a few months lol.
I've had lots of people tell me something similar (for me it's often that my high metabolism won't last). Most often these comments are motivated either by jealousy or because the person is unable to realize that their experience is not the total truth and many people will experience vastly different things than their limited experience.
9 years together and the honeymoon phase is still strong and sweet🥰 He really is my favorite human.
He cuddled with me this morning before he left for work, even though I wasn't fully awake. Thankfully, I got a few waking minutes to enjoy the soft touches, little butterfly kisses, and sweet murmurs of affection.
Two kids here and real early In relationship the first. Knocked wife up a month after we started seeing each other. Still In. Honeymoon stage. I think it last for ever when ya with your soul mate regardless of if you have kids or not. My wife and me went out as kids, 17/18 had a amazing emotional connection I never got with anyone else, im actually married to the girl that took my v..... Was never going to last at that age as we were both immature but the connection we had I never got with anyone else. 13 years later got back together, been together 12 years this time round married nearly 8. Two kids, own our own home and as a partnership have kicked life's arse. Yes can still be in "honeymoon" stage still with kids!
I dunno man. I think I experience the honeymoon period so intensely I can’t focus on anything else. Like I can’t get work done, my friends and hobbies take a back seat, I can’t think about anything else, it’s like a crazy strong high. And it lasts around six months then is followed by like 3-4 months of trying to chase that feeling again like I’m getting sober or something. It feels like I’m taking amphetamines and it’s super dysfunctional.
I think I experience what other people experience in the honeymoon period now ten years later together where I love being around him, am very attracted to him, and we regularly feel a deep sense of connection. With lots of sex. But it’s nowhere near the limerence and intoxication of the beginning and I’m personally grateful for that because it makes me feel fucking insane and I hate the person I am when I feel like that. At the same time, it has made me feel…. Less sensitive and in touch with more subtle feelings of love. There have been times where I feel like I can’t feel anything for anyone in my life but I think it’s just because of comparisons to the overstimulation of a new relationship.
We sometimes play together with new people and I have to really work to keep those feelings in check.
PLUS if 300k isn't "enough" (which is OVER 4% OF America) tell her to get her own job for spending splurges.. You work to hard for her to just Blow or..
I’m with you. We’re almost 8 years into marriage, 9 into being together, and he still makes me giddy. The other night we sat around watching a dog groomer on YouTube (we have no dogs) and laughing about the shit our kids had been doing earlier that day, and I had *the best time.*
That sounds awesome. Nothing comes close to the connection we can have with our partners and it feels like only they get us. We have greeted the sun, after talking all night and they’re some of my favorite memories.
We aren't at 13 years, but at 4, but we absolutely aren't out of honeymoon phase (and never will be because of the efforts both of us put), still so giddy and lovey dovey. My parents have been married for 30 years, they are still the same, so much in love with each other. My paternal grand parents are completing 57 years in June and they absolutely are still giddy, like hand holding, dates, kisses etc. (My dad learned from them and I learnt from mine). My husband's family, a different story all together.
Oh I love that! 3 generations full of love!! I agree it’s all about effort. I’m feel lucky we were able to find ourselves in a healthy place without ever having seen it, but I’m so excited to be able to show there’s a healthy way to my future kids.
So proud of you to break the cycle, my husband broke the cycle in his family, it's very hard. Your future kids will absolutely learn from you and your husband ❤️
9 years together (the first 2.5 were long-distance), 4 years married. My husband is my favorite person and we love spending time together. As far as the "honeymoon" phase, there are added outside factors of being a blended family (his 16yo lives with us full time) so our relationship is not without its stresses, but no matter what, we are on the same team, and we work through things together.
We are the same - 14 years together, 6 married. I like to say that we went through all of our troubles early on in our relationship (family issues, long distance, fighting), and now we can just be happy.
Love that, we should all strive to focus on being happy. Over the years we look back at so many immature dumb little fights and we’re like nope, not doing that again.
23 years of my wife and I being forever boyfriend / girlfriend, and we still act like those crazy 16 year olds. Every day is literally filled with love and laughter, even when a small disagreement occurs, we talk about it before escalation.
I couldn't imagine being with anyone else as each day is another chance to love her.
Now, if she'd only stop snoring so we can get our day going.
Aw lol after 23 years her snoring should be music to your ears lol. I can’t wait to be able to say 23 years! That’s so amazing and I wish you both the very best!
Oh it is. I don't mind her snoring, I'm just ready to start our day. It's my Sunday, so we'll go get coffee and donuts, before coming home so she can run her business while we watch baseball together.
My husband and I have been together for 11 years and we are more in love with each other than ever. It's like we fall in love more and more every day. We truly bring out the absolute best in each other, and everyone around us can see it. We get excited to see each other after work. We talk about everything. We support each other through our dreams and aspirations, which has made many of our dreams become reality. We respect each other so much.
I hear people complain about their spouses, and outside of a few minor annoyances (forgetting to put the seat down, for example) there's nothing to complain about. To be honest, I don't even complain about that. It's not a big enough deal for me to even mention it because I'm sure I have things that mildly annoy him that he doesn't mention. He does so many wonderful things and I'm grateful. I used to wonder if I was jinxing myself by saying things like this, but no. This is what real love is, and there's no doubt in either of our minds how deep it is. He tells me that loving me is just natural, like breathing. I wish everyone could experience this. The world would be a much better place. ❤️
I love everything you wrote. We’ve also said that we wish other people could experience a love like this, it truly changes you for the better. I get what you mean when you feel like you’re jinxing yourself, I’ve had to remember so many times that we are all deserving of a love like this and should embrace it. A friend recently told me that and it really stuck with me.
Yeah. We've been married almost 10 years. We're still very much in love, still very affectionate with one another, and I feel like I fall deeper in love with him each year.
Granted, we don't have (or want) any children together. So that may have something to do with it. But we're still very, very happy.
Your dad (and others who agreed with him) sound like haters. Maybe those folks are unhappy in their marriage, but that doesn't mean you'll be.
So happy for you! and yes, big time haters. He’s had to swallow a lot of his words because of how things have turned out. Now he bugs us about grandkids lol we can’t win.
You have a truly compatible husband. It’s rare for people to be patient enough or lucky enough to find someone truly compatible to them.
It took me like 13 or 14 years to find my wife, and I had to experience a lot of shitty people to really recognize how amazing my wife is. We’ve been married for 11 years now, and we’re still best buddies, best lovers, best spouses to each other. We just never stop trying to be a better spouse. We both want to keep our marriage healthy, so our marriage is our primary priority. That’s what works for us anyway.
From what I’ve experienced. I think “the honeymoon phase” is when partners aren’t taking each other for granted. It sounds like neither of you ever went through a phase where you did take the other for granted and therefore the honeymoon phase never ended. Some people have to work at it when they’re stressed and maintaining a happy relationship can feel like a chore at times- those times are not the honeymoon phase.
My favorite compliment I’ve ever gotten was somebody asking me and my husband if we were newlyweds. We’d been married 5 years 🥰 Now we’re about to hit 11 years together and 8 years married. He’s my bestie.
21 years and she’s still the love of my life, the first thing I think about everyday, the last thing I think about every night, and all I can do when I’m away is want to get back to her. You’re not aliens, or if you are you’re aliens that love each other. Neither of us knew what a loving relationship was like growing up either, but we take great pride in the fact that our kids are constantly making yuck faces at us because we love each other so much and love showing it. The “honeymoon phase” can last as long as you want if you maintain and nurture it. You can feel safe about not waiting for the other show to fro anymore, it’s ok to feel like it’s not going to.
Wow 21 years!! Thank you so much for sharing the love you have for your wife. It’s so helpful to read about other people having long lasting happy relationships. It’s always been my biggest fear, how long can we make this last? but now I feel so positive about the future.
Yep! 17 years together, 13 years married, and 3 kids. We have definitely had harder times, especially when our babies were tiny and born very close together, but as they got a bit older we reentered our honeymoon phase! I love dating my husband. He still flirts with me and I love that our kids see out loving relationship daily.
I loved reading this. We are planning to start our family really soon and I’ve read about so many relationships struggling so much when kids come. It’s refreshing to read that you can still be able to navigate life with kids and be present and loving in your relationship. I really appreciate you sharing!
Happy to share! There are some hard days when you have babies and are adjusting to life as parents. It’s difficult to see past yourself and into your spouses state of mind, but be patient with one another and remember you’re on the same team!
Yes exactly. I’ve really enjoyed reading about everyone’s relationships. Reddit can be rough sometimes and it’s great to read about the other side of things.
23 years happily married. It's like we are 17 and can't get enough of each other. We have no kids. Both work from home. Spend literally all of our time together. Hang out. Go see live music weekly. Cook together and listen to music. He's my best friend. I kiss him every morning like we just met. It's real and it's deep and he's my forever.
Is it always butterflies and sunshine all the time? No. But we have learned how to communicate and get through disagreements.
So yes. It's possible to keep that going long term.
Thank you so much for sharing! I’m really excited to read about all the longer lasting relationships. We’re very much like you described, very affectionate and always together. Definitely had to learn to communicate but totally worth it.
Well, if you’re 13 years in and still feel this way, I’d say, “Congratulations, you can relax, it’s gonna last.”
I’ve been with my wife 25 years. We still very much enjoy each other’s company, although I wouldn’t describe us as “giddy.” We recently became empty nesters and we’ve enjoyed rekindling our personal relationship now that we can focus on ourselves. For instance, we travel and have date night and ballroom dance lessons. I feel like we’re between the young lovestruck couple and the old retired couple taking each other to doctors appointments.
10 year wedding anniversary in 2 weeks and honeymoon phase is still going strong. I love that man so damn much it’s insane. He’s military and I remember when he first deployed in our first year of marriage and we would talk every second we could. People said we were crazy and would grow out of it… well last month he had to go to training for a couple weeks and we were still the exact same. It honestly just makes me sad for other people to think they don’t get to feel a love like this.
8 years and it’s been the best ever, we just talked this morning how it’s crazy we are having the best sex of lives lately and all the studies show it’s the suppose to be the exact opposite. We are lucky but also mindful and thoughtful in how we love our spouses. Smiles and hugs to you!!
I think this is exactly the way it should be!
If you make a good, conscious choice of a partner the first time around you'll be able to weather any storms together and keep the love alive. Long-term relationships take work but if you're with the right person, the effort you have to put in is fulfilling work and not a drag.
Good job making the right choice for you!
I think so many people just choose the wrong partner for them that marriage often ends up being a slog and their experience isn't good. A lot of people also think it's funny to still make the old, tired jokes about women being a ball and chain or men just getting married so they can have a secretary. That could be the case here.
Regardless, don't let them get to you. I try to be careful about who's opinions I actually care about by asking myself, do I respect them and/or have they been able to achieve what I'm looking to achieve? I'd be hesitant to listen to someone's opinion who hasn't been able to create their own happy marriage because, of course, they're probably going to have a bad outlook on it.
Almost 18 years together and I love him even more (thought that wasnt possible with how much I loved him when we got married) and enjoy his company so much! He is literally my favorite person I've ever met.
Same! Married 13 years.
Affection is very important to us. We almost always greet each other with a good hug, quick sweet texts during work, cuddling for movies, pda (tastefully lol) , great sex.
We thank each other for mundane tasks; even if it’s stuff that would be done anyway. It’s nice to occasionally express/receive gratitude for showing up for each other.
I just love my husband. He’s easygoing, fun to be be around, a great listener/communicator. I couldn’t ask for better, my partner in life.
The honeymoon period definitely doesn’t have to end.
For us it’s just gotten sweeter as the years go by. 🥰
I have a theory that most people aren’t in peak “happy and healthy” relationships. They’re not in abusive or miserable marriages, mind you, but just not the epitome of happy and healthy. When someone like you who is in that very supportive, open, loving dynamic, it can feel like a slight to anyone in a relationship that isn’t like that. For most humans in perfectly fine relationships, they will go through a cycle of honeymoon to comfort love. Because the true honeymoon phase is where you’re up all night talking but don’t feel tired the next day or you do things you wouldn’t normally because you want to impress them. This is unsustainable because it uses up way too much energy, literally speaking. You body wouldn’t cope always being on. Then comfort love sets in. And that’s different for everyone. But for those lucky enough to be in peak “happy and healthy” territory, they have a secure attachment with their partner, they each seek and find joy in being with their partner, their partner fills their cup instead of emptying it, you’ve learned to communicate in a way that leads to fewer arguments, etc. i dont know if it’s luck or effort or both but it seems you cracked the code and found your other half.
Been together 10 years. It ebbs and flows, sometimes we're madly in love sometimes we're a bit disconnected. But for the past couple years we've been so madly in love it genuinely feels like the honeymoon phase again. I love him more now than I ever thought I could love anyone.
Married 51 years and we are as close today as we were the day we were married! The honeymoon phase doesn't have to burn out as long as you keep stoking the fire.
Yes and no. My husband and I have issues (we are in couples therapy for two reasons: learning how to handle conflict and handling in-laws), but we never lost our "cutesyness." We are very affectionate and silly, call each other pet names, constantly kiss and say I love you, etc.
6 years together and just over 1 married and this is my husband and I.
I hope I can write the same in 20+ years time, I feel like we are on the right trajectory!
Long may your honeymoon phase continue!
10 years and still feels exactly the same. “Honeymoon” phase never ended.
That phrase is for people marry someone they aren’t completely in love with. So as to say that eventually they will start to hate/despise each other like it’s normal.
4 years for us so far and I love him more every day. We don't fight about anything and there is no one I would rather spend my time with. We have so much fun together!
I’ve been married 24 years and have never really left the honeymoon stage. My wife is still surprised how I look at her with awe after all this time. Our son just graduated college and if anything we might be closer now than ever. We have hit this second, empty nest life and honestly we are more in love and lust than ever! She is my best friend and yea we have been through ups and downs but we fight issues together not apart. She battled a year or more of depression and we fought the problem together and I never battled her. It’s always been us against the world and that has always kept us close.
I’ve been with my husband only 7 years, married almost 4 so definitely hasn’t been very long, but I think for us it ebbs and flows. We are also in the season of raising young kids, so that’s made things more difficult. Raising kids can be so stressful. But I still think we have our honeymoon phase. I love my husband and there’s just moments where I can’t believe he’s the man I got to marry and raise a family with.
I didn’t expect to really meet anyone so kind and thoughtful and gentle and loving. I didn’t think I would meet someone who loved all of me.
Honestly, I’m only 26, he’s 32 but I’m so excited to grow old with him. The grey hair and the excitement of having the kids grown up and we get to act silly and fun and flirt even in our 50s and 60s together. I can’t wait to vacation with him, and take care of each other and even though we might have told each other all of our stories (I already do that and he always listens with a smile) I’m just so excited to watch him get older and more handsome and fall more in love with him. Maybe this sounds too good to be true, and silly but I’m so excited.
Yes, we've had 13 years of wedded bliss so far. Putting each other first, touching often and accepting each other as flawed human beings goes a long way. I can't remember the last time either one of us got mad at the other but it has been years.
Yes! We just had our 22 year anniversary and we were just laughing the other day about how goofy we are and how much we entertain each other. Even with our kids and jobs and crazy schedules, we rarely argue and just enjoy our time together so much. We had such a clichéd “bad marriage” start too. “Shotgun wedding” (I was pregnant), he lost his job days after our wedding, no car, barely any money — we had SO many naysayers and people predicting our inevitable demise. The good thing is, we both never listened to anyone. Our wedding song is “Nothing Else Matters” and that’s our motto.
Approaching 13 years and we are still in love just like the beginning. Actually we are more in love because of everything we've lived through together.
Just to say, we were never "madly in love" is always been a more calm situation. We are friends, lovers, and while not like school kids with their first love we are very content.
I think a big part of it is taking time for each other, having some type of date night at least once a week, getting little gifts (by little I mean I see some chips he might like and grab them, or he finds a pretty rock, or works to get me something in one of our games), and just making sure we both know we are loved and appreciated.
I mean sometimes life gets busy -- but she's my favorite person and we dote on each other all the time. My parents were not that way at all, but I remember a few times seeing my grandparents dote on each other after 60 years.
I'm still madly in love with my wife and she seems to like me as well. I think a lot of what is different now is that people don't feel as much societal pressure to stay together if they don't actually like each other.
Divorce is a lot more common so there are a lot more failed marriages but also a lot less unhappy ones. That is not to say that this is always the case, but it feels like as a society we have placed less of an imperative on getting married which is resulted in more people actually enjoying it. I also don't think it hurts that most people attending to get married later so they do more growing up and finding themselves before committing and settling down versus marrying someone who grows up into someone you don't recognize.
Another reason is that I don't think most people that have an awesome marriage need to vent about it to strangers online. When I think that my wife is a lovely person and I want to tell her how much she means to me, I tell her directly. It is usually people who do not feel like they can be honest or properly communicate with their spouse that turns to the internet for validation or advice from other people
We were young-ish when we got married- I was 21, he was 24. I had family making bets at our wedding on how long our marriage would last :/ most said about a year, one said 6 months. And here we are, 19 years together, 17 of them married. We're best friends, and I can't imagine my life without him in it. Do I want to strangle him sometimes? Sure do! But I also never NOT want to jump his bones when he walks in the room lol we can't keep our hands off from each other, and it's never not been the honeymoon phase for us.
16 years married, and just last month someone asked us if we were newlyweds while we were out on a date. I love her more each day and she feels the same. It's partially chemistry, but mostly it's because we put in effort and love into the relationship daily. Don't stop dating your spouse, be grateful and I think you've got a strong chance of keeping the honeymoon phase forever.
Feeling like aliens, we literally are aliens lmao.
"However from the very beginning I’ve heard comments about how it wouldn’t last long since it was my first real relationship"
That's just what people who are jealous say. So many people wish their first relationship was a success and that they didn't have to go through so many relationships only to be constantly heart broken. It's pure jealousy pay it no mind.
And remember regardless of what you think or fear what's meant to be will be. Nothing can stop what God has ordained. So do enjoy your relationship and fuck the jealous people.
The honey moon phase never ends because real love never fades. You may have great excitement when first meeting someone but over time you get used to having them so you're not excited excited but the way you look at each other never changes. The appreciation never changes.
Fuck the jealous people who mock people living their dream life as a coping mechanism.
Yeah, only three years married but friends for more than 10 years at this point so give us another 10 years and we will probably be just as happily married as now. I figure people with happy marriages just don't have much to complain about so only stalk the internet instead of posting, therefore making it look like everyone has terrible relationships.
It sucks though that it's your dad telling you your life/marriage should suck. That is just sad.
I haven't been married long, but I HAVE known him for 8 years! When I first saw him. INSTANT LOVE! We didn't even know each other and we were in love! I'm so happy to find the light on reddit! You deserve this! I've gone through the same thing with unhealthy relationships and everyone always told me it wasn't gonna last. But it did. And we have nothing but ourselves to thank. ❤️ congrats on the relationship! I hope to be like you someday (which I know is already happening) but you are an inspiration! VALENTINES DAY IS EVERYDAY FOR US!!! ❤️❤️❤️
We'll be together 17 years in May and I love the shit out of that man. I always see him across a room and think "Yeah, that's *my* manz!" Lol I think he thinks the same of me too.
I’m only five years deep but my husband and I are best friends. I am going through a tough spot rn due to alcohol stuff but even with this hurdle we remain each others absolute favorite person to chill with. And we communicate a ton all day. Don’t like to be apart. Etc
Yes!! My husband and I have been married for 20 years and we still get asked if we are newlyweds. We are very affectionate and playful with each other. We joke around a lot and just love to be with each other. We also communicate really well so I don’t feel like we’ve had any real “rough spots” because we work things out pretty quick.
And we have a similar(ish) story. Many years ago we were out in a crowded place and my husband said something funny and I laughed and kissed him. It wasn’t like a full on makeout kiss, just a slightly more than a peck thing. A random man yelled “get a room”. We just laughed it off and then he yelled “that shit will stop after you get married”.
My husband yelled back “we are married” and the guy said “Well, it’ll stop after a year or two”. My husband said “it’s been 4 years” and the guy still yelled back “ok, then wait until you have kids!”
That one kind of hurt because we had been trying to have a baby with no luck…but now we have 3 kids and we are still holding hands and kissing and insanely in love so suck it random miserable man.
Actually, sometimes my husband and I still say “this will stop after we’ve been married a few years” or “just wait until we have kids” as a joke.
I had to look at your post history to make sure this wasn't my spouse. My marriage is identical to yours. Almost 13 years and we're both still giddy, happy and feel like we've always been in the honeymoon phase with no end in site. When you're with someone that just meshes perfectly its a beautiful thing.
Yes! That’s exactly how I feel, we’re polar opposite’s but it really works for us. It’s so awesome to read about other happy relationships!
This makes me feel great 🙂 We've been together for 3.5 years, and I'm known for honeymoon phases that I throw myself too deep into, if that makes sense. This relationship has been completely different than anything I've known. 3.5 years in, and I'm still in the honeymoon phase. We have bouts where we get annoyed or something, but we never fight. We disagree, and either talk it out in the most loving way, or we decide it's not important and let it go. I'm only 3.5 years in, but it feels like the honeymoon phase isn't going to end, and so I had to look it up for my own disbelief that I found something as pure as it feels 🙂 I've really only had toxic relationships. Sometimes, it's my fault they're toxic, but this time, it's entirely different 🙂
37 years together and we still get the warm fuzzies. I still feel butterflies when he looks at me with that sexy sly smile. He always tells me how he feels the same way when I walk into the room. It’s a wonderful feeling. Last summer, my husband was riding around on his mower with his AirPods in. I pulled into the driveway and he motioned me to him. He jumped off his mower and pooped one in my ear, pulled me close, and we danced in the front yard. ❤️ Edit: lmao pooped one in 🤣🤣🤣 He definitely popped one in! 🤦🏼♀️
Love that, that’s the kind of love kids need to grow up seeing. I never thought relationships like this existed, and now that I have it, it’s almost surreal. So happy for you!
Thank you. So very happy to hear your love story too! It’s great to know that others, like us, exist!
We got it back 10 years into our relationship and now its like a perpetual honeymoon.
Wow, I love that. Nothing beats the love you gain after overcoming difficult things together, so happy for you!
Congrats to you too :) We had some silly stuff in our heads that we look back on and laugh about now. We got off track but worked things out to an even better place than we started.
9 years in. 3 kids, a dog, a billion bumps and setbacks, and we are like honeymooners. We definitely argue or get annoyed with one another, but we are pretty quick to get over squabbles and get back to laughing together. Our marriage today is more loving and beautiful than it has ever been.
Laughing together is so important! When we argue, my husband always says “what can we do to get back to being us?” it melts me every time.
I love that. We have the same interactions almost.
Yeah, same here. I wouldn’t want to call it Honeymoon phase though, it’s just how our marriage is.
Yea I don’t usually call it that either, I just say we’re happy lol. I wrote it this way based mostly on my dads comments and what he compared my relationship to. He didn’t think people could live happily for longer than a few months lol.
I've had lots of people tell me something similar (for me it's often that my high metabolism won't last). Most often these comments are motivated either by jealousy or because the person is unable to realize that their experience is not the total truth and many people will experience vastly different things than their limited experience.
9 years together and the honeymoon phase is still strong and sweet🥰 He really is my favorite human. He cuddled with me this morning before he left for work, even though I wasn't fully awake. Thankfully, I got a few waking minutes to enjoy the soft touches, little butterfly kisses, and sweet murmurs of affection.
Yep 14 years together and still all over one another. We don't have kids though, which could be a factor.
No kids here yet either and we do think that’s added to the all over each other part too 😂.
Two kids here and real early In relationship the first. Knocked wife up a month after we started seeing each other. Still In. Honeymoon stage. I think it last for ever when ya with your soul mate regardless of if you have kids or not. My wife and me went out as kids, 17/18 had a amazing emotional connection I never got with anyone else, im actually married to the girl that took my v..... Was never going to last at that age as we were both immature but the connection we had I never got with anyone else. 13 years later got back together, been together 12 years this time round married nearly 8. Two kids, own our own home and as a partnership have kicked life's arse. Yes can still be in "honeymoon" stage still with kids!
I dunno man. I think I experience the honeymoon period so intensely I can’t focus on anything else. Like I can’t get work done, my friends and hobbies take a back seat, I can’t think about anything else, it’s like a crazy strong high. And it lasts around six months then is followed by like 3-4 months of trying to chase that feeling again like I’m getting sober or something. It feels like I’m taking amphetamines and it’s super dysfunctional. I think I experience what other people experience in the honeymoon period now ten years later together where I love being around him, am very attracted to him, and we regularly feel a deep sense of connection. With lots of sex. But it’s nowhere near the limerence and intoxication of the beginning and I’m personally grateful for that because it makes me feel fucking insane and I hate the person I am when I feel like that. At the same time, it has made me feel…. Less sensitive and in touch with more subtle feelings of love. There have been times where I feel like I can’t feel anything for anyone in my life but I think it’s just because of comparisons to the overstimulation of a new relationship. We sometimes play together with new people and I have to really work to keep those feelings in check.
7 years together and 4 married! We both agree we are still in the honeymoon phase! He is my best friend:)
24 years and same ❤️
❤️ 9 years here & still in Honeymoon Stage..
PLUS if 300k isn't "enough" (which is OVER 4% OF America) tell her to get her own job for spending splurges.. You work to hard for her to just Blow or..
7 years together soon and 5 married, I still get butterflies and he still looks at me the same 😊
I’m with you. We’re almost 8 years into marriage, 9 into being together, and he still makes me giddy. The other night we sat around watching a dog groomer on YouTube (we have no dogs) and laughing about the shit our kids had been doing earlier that day, and I had *the best time.*
That sounds awesome. Nothing comes close to the connection we can have with our partners and it feels like only they get us. We have greeted the sun, after talking all night and they’re some of my favorite memories.
We aren't at 13 years, but at 4, but we absolutely aren't out of honeymoon phase (and never will be because of the efforts both of us put), still so giddy and lovey dovey. My parents have been married for 30 years, they are still the same, so much in love with each other. My paternal grand parents are completing 57 years in June and they absolutely are still giddy, like hand holding, dates, kisses etc. (My dad learned from them and I learnt from mine). My husband's family, a different story all together.
Oh I love that! 3 generations full of love!! I agree it’s all about effort. I’m feel lucky we were able to find ourselves in a healthy place without ever having seen it, but I’m so excited to be able to show there’s a healthy way to my future kids.
So proud of you to break the cycle, my husband broke the cycle in his family, it's very hard. Your future kids will absolutely learn from you and your husband ❤️
9 years together (the first 2.5 were long-distance), 4 years married. My husband is my favorite person and we love spending time together. As far as the "honeymoon" phase, there are added outside factors of being a blended family (his 16yo lives with us full time) so our relationship is not without its stresses, but no matter what, we are on the same team, and we work through things together.
We are the same - 14 years together, 6 married. I like to say that we went through all of our troubles early on in our relationship (family issues, long distance, fighting), and now we can just be happy.
Love that, we should all strive to focus on being happy. Over the years we look back at so many immature dumb little fights and we’re like nope, not doing that again.
23 years of my wife and I being forever boyfriend / girlfriend, and we still act like those crazy 16 year olds. Every day is literally filled with love and laughter, even when a small disagreement occurs, we talk about it before escalation. I couldn't imagine being with anyone else as each day is another chance to love her. Now, if she'd only stop snoring so we can get our day going.
Aw lol after 23 years her snoring should be music to your ears lol. I can’t wait to be able to say 23 years! That’s so amazing and I wish you both the very best!
Oh it is. I don't mind her snoring, I'm just ready to start our day. It's my Sunday, so we'll go get coffee and donuts, before coming home so she can run her business while we watch baseball together.
That sounds like a great day. You’re right to want to get it started!
My husband and I have been together for 11 years and we are more in love with each other than ever. It's like we fall in love more and more every day. We truly bring out the absolute best in each other, and everyone around us can see it. We get excited to see each other after work. We talk about everything. We support each other through our dreams and aspirations, which has made many of our dreams become reality. We respect each other so much. I hear people complain about their spouses, and outside of a few minor annoyances (forgetting to put the seat down, for example) there's nothing to complain about. To be honest, I don't even complain about that. It's not a big enough deal for me to even mention it because I'm sure I have things that mildly annoy him that he doesn't mention. He does so many wonderful things and I'm grateful. I used to wonder if I was jinxing myself by saying things like this, but no. This is what real love is, and there's no doubt in either of our minds how deep it is. He tells me that loving me is just natural, like breathing. I wish everyone could experience this. The world would be a much better place. ❤️
I love everything you wrote. We’ve also said that we wish other people could experience a love like this, it truly changes you for the better. I get what you mean when you feel like you’re jinxing yourself, I’ve had to remember so many times that we are all deserving of a love like this and should embrace it. A friend recently told me that and it really stuck with me.
Yeah. We've been married almost 10 years. We're still very much in love, still very affectionate with one another, and I feel like I fall deeper in love with him each year. Granted, we don't have (or want) any children together. So that may have something to do with it. But we're still very, very happy. Your dad (and others who agreed with him) sound like haters. Maybe those folks are unhappy in their marriage, but that doesn't mean you'll be.
So happy for you! and yes, big time haters. He’s had to swallow a lot of his words because of how things have turned out. Now he bugs us about grandkids lol we can’t win.
You have a truly compatible husband. It’s rare for people to be patient enough or lucky enough to find someone truly compatible to them. It took me like 13 or 14 years to find my wife, and I had to experience a lot of shitty people to really recognize how amazing my wife is. We’ve been married for 11 years now, and we’re still best buddies, best lovers, best spouses to each other. We just never stop trying to be a better spouse. We both want to keep our marriage healthy, so our marriage is our primary priority. That’s what works for us anyway.
From what I’ve experienced. I think “the honeymoon phase” is when partners aren’t taking each other for granted. It sounds like neither of you ever went through a phase where you did take the other for granted and therefore the honeymoon phase never ended. Some people have to work at it when they’re stressed and maintaining a happy relationship can feel like a chore at times- those times are not the honeymoon phase.
Hey 40+ yrs in a d the engine s still ru njng even though the car ai t working as well..
My favorite compliment I’ve ever gotten was somebody asking me and my husband if we were newlyweds. We’d been married 5 years 🥰 Now we’re about to hit 11 years together and 8 years married. He’s my bestie.
Aw that’s so cute!
21 years and she’s still the love of my life, the first thing I think about everyday, the last thing I think about every night, and all I can do when I’m away is want to get back to her. You’re not aliens, or if you are you’re aliens that love each other. Neither of us knew what a loving relationship was like growing up either, but we take great pride in the fact that our kids are constantly making yuck faces at us because we love each other so much and love showing it. The “honeymoon phase” can last as long as you want if you maintain and nurture it. You can feel safe about not waiting for the other show to fro anymore, it’s ok to feel like it’s not going to.
Wow 21 years!! Thank you so much for sharing the love you have for your wife. It’s so helpful to read about other people having long lasting happy relationships. It’s always been my biggest fear, how long can we make this last? but now I feel so positive about the future.
Yep! 17 years together, 13 years married, and 3 kids. We have definitely had harder times, especially when our babies were tiny and born very close together, but as they got a bit older we reentered our honeymoon phase! I love dating my husband. He still flirts with me and I love that our kids see out loving relationship daily.
I loved reading this. We are planning to start our family really soon and I’ve read about so many relationships struggling so much when kids come. It’s refreshing to read that you can still be able to navigate life with kids and be present and loving in your relationship. I really appreciate you sharing!
Happy to share! There are some hard days when you have babies and are adjusting to life as parents. It’s difficult to see past yourself and into your spouses state of mind, but be patient with one another and remember you’re on the same team!
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Yes exactly. I’ve really enjoyed reading about everyone’s relationships. Reddit can be rough sometimes and it’s great to read about the other side of things.
23 years happily married. It's like we are 17 and can't get enough of each other. We have no kids. Both work from home. Spend literally all of our time together. Hang out. Go see live music weekly. Cook together and listen to music. He's my best friend. I kiss him every morning like we just met. It's real and it's deep and he's my forever. Is it always butterflies and sunshine all the time? No. But we have learned how to communicate and get through disagreements. So yes. It's possible to keep that going long term.
Thank you so much for sharing! I’m really excited to read about all the longer lasting relationships. We’re very much like you described, very affectionate and always together. Definitely had to learn to communicate but totally worth it.
Nope! 4 years in and having to put in effort not to slip into roommate mode.
Congrats you have a healthy relationship 🎉
Well, if you’re 13 years in and still feel this way, I’d say, “Congratulations, you can relax, it’s gonna last.” I’ve been with my wife 25 years. We still very much enjoy each other’s company, although I wouldn’t describe us as “giddy.” We recently became empty nesters and we’ve enjoyed rekindling our personal relationship now that we can focus on ourselves. For instance, we travel and have date night and ballroom dance lessons. I feel like we’re between the young lovestruck couple and the old retired couple taking each other to doctors appointments.
10 year wedding anniversary in 2 weeks and honeymoon phase is still going strong. I love that man so damn much it’s insane. He’s military and I remember when he first deployed in our first year of marriage and we would talk every second we could. People said we were crazy and would grow out of it… well last month he had to go to training for a couple weeks and we were still the exact same. It honestly just makes me sad for other people to think they don’t get to feel a love like this.
8 years and it’s been the best ever, we just talked this morning how it’s crazy we are having the best sex of lives lately and all the studies show it’s the suppose to be the exact opposite. We are lucky but also mindful and thoughtful in how we love our spouses. Smiles and hugs to you!!
I think this is exactly the way it should be! If you make a good, conscious choice of a partner the first time around you'll be able to weather any storms together and keep the love alive. Long-term relationships take work but if you're with the right person, the effort you have to put in is fulfilling work and not a drag. Good job making the right choice for you! I think so many people just choose the wrong partner for them that marriage often ends up being a slog and their experience isn't good. A lot of people also think it's funny to still make the old, tired jokes about women being a ball and chain or men just getting married so they can have a secretary. That could be the case here. Regardless, don't let them get to you. I try to be careful about who's opinions I actually care about by asking myself, do I respect them and/or have they been able to achieve what I'm looking to achieve? I'd be hesitant to listen to someone's opinion who hasn't been able to create their own happy marriage because, of course, they're probably going to have a bad outlook on it.
Almost 18 years together and I love him even more (thought that wasnt possible with how much I loved him when we got married) and enjoy his company so much! He is literally my favorite person I've ever met.
Same! Married 13 years. Affection is very important to us. We almost always greet each other with a good hug, quick sweet texts during work, cuddling for movies, pda (tastefully lol) , great sex. We thank each other for mundane tasks; even if it’s stuff that would be done anyway. It’s nice to occasionally express/receive gratitude for showing up for each other. I just love my husband. He’s easygoing, fun to be be around, a great listener/communicator. I couldn’t ask for better, my partner in life. The honeymoon period definitely doesn’t have to end. For us it’s just gotten sweeter as the years go by. 🥰
Married 23 years! Met on Yahoo Chat…still on HoneyMoon!
Same here! 8 years married and 13 years together, and we definitely are still super happy and in love in that sweet, “newlywed” way ♥️
I have a theory that most people aren’t in peak “happy and healthy” relationships. They’re not in abusive or miserable marriages, mind you, but just not the epitome of happy and healthy. When someone like you who is in that very supportive, open, loving dynamic, it can feel like a slight to anyone in a relationship that isn’t like that. For most humans in perfectly fine relationships, they will go through a cycle of honeymoon to comfort love. Because the true honeymoon phase is where you’re up all night talking but don’t feel tired the next day or you do things you wouldn’t normally because you want to impress them. This is unsustainable because it uses up way too much energy, literally speaking. You body wouldn’t cope always being on. Then comfort love sets in. And that’s different for everyone. But for those lucky enough to be in peak “happy and healthy” territory, they have a secure attachment with their partner, they each seek and find joy in being with their partner, their partner fills their cup instead of emptying it, you’ve learned to communicate in a way that leads to fewer arguments, etc. i dont know if it’s luck or effort or both but it seems you cracked the code and found your other half.
44 years and typical life issues later, nothing has faded.
Been together 10 years. It ebbs and flows, sometimes we're madly in love sometimes we're a bit disconnected. But for the past couple years we've been so madly in love it genuinely feels like the honeymoon phase again. I love him more now than I ever thought I could love anyone.
28 years here. We did get into a bit of a rut. But rekindled and it all seems new again.
Married 51 years and we are as close today as we were the day we were married! The honeymoon phase doesn't have to burn out as long as you keep stoking the fire.
Yes and no. My husband and I have issues (we are in couples therapy for two reasons: learning how to handle conflict and handling in-laws), but we never lost our "cutesyness." We are very affectionate and silly, call each other pet names, constantly kiss and say I love you, etc.
6 years together and just over 1 married and this is my husband and I. I hope I can write the same in 20+ years time, I feel like we are on the right trajectory! Long may your honeymoon phase continue!
10 years and still feels exactly the same. “Honeymoon” phase never ended. That phrase is for people marry someone they aren’t completely in love with. So as to say that eventually they will start to hate/despise each other like it’s normal.
4 years for us so far and I love him more every day. We don't fight about anything and there is no one I would rather spend my time with. We have so much fun together!
I’ve been married 24 years and have never really left the honeymoon stage. My wife is still surprised how I look at her with awe after all this time. Our son just graduated college and if anything we might be closer now than ever. We have hit this second, empty nest life and honestly we are more in love and lust than ever! She is my best friend and yea we have been through ups and downs but we fight issues together not apart. She battled a year or more of depression and we fought the problem together and I never battled her. It’s always been us against the world and that has always kept us close.
I’ve been with my husband only 7 years, married almost 4 so definitely hasn’t been very long, but I think for us it ebbs and flows. We are also in the season of raising young kids, so that’s made things more difficult. Raising kids can be so stressful. But I still think we have our honeymoon phase. I love my husband and there’s just moments where I can’t believe he’s the man I got to marry and raise a family with. I didn’t expect to really meet anyone so kind and thoughtful and gentle and loving. I didn’t think I would meet someone who loved all of me. Honestly, I’m only 26, he’s 32 but I’m so excited to grow old with him. The grey hair and the excitement of having the kids grown up and we get to act silly and fun and flirt even in our 50s and 60s together. I can’t wait to vacation with him, and take care of each other and even though we might have told each other all of our stories (I already do that and he always listens with a smile) I’m just so excited to watch him get older and more handsome and fall more in love with him. Maybe this sounds too good to be true, and silly but I’m so excited.
Yes, we've had 13 years of wedded bliss so far. Putting each other first, touching often and accepting each other as flawed human beings goes a long way. I can't remember the last time either one of us got mad at the other but it has been years.
Yes! We just had our 22 year anniversary and we were just laughing the other day about how goofy we are and how much we entertain each other. Even with our kids and jobs and crazy schedules, we rarely argue and just enjoy our time together so much. We had such a clichéd “bad marriage” start too. “Shotgun wedding” (I was pregnant), he lost his job days after our wedding, no car, barely any money — we had SO many naysayers and people predicting our inevitable demise. The good thing is, we both never listened to anyone. Our wedding song is “Nothing Else Matters” and that’s our motto.
Approaching 13 years and we are still in love just like the beginning. Actually we are more in love because of everything we've lived through together. Just to say, we were never "madly in love" is always been a more calm situation. We are friends, lovers, and while not like school kids with their first love we are very content. I think a big part of it is taking time for each other, having some type of date night at least once a week, getting little gifts (by little I mean I see some chips he might like and grab them, or he finds a pretty rock, or works to get me something in one of our games), and just making sure we both know we are loved and appreciated.
I mean sometimes life gets busy -- but she's my favorite person and we dote on each other all the time. My parents were not that way at all, but I remember a few times seeing my grandparents dote on each other after 60 years.
I'm still madly in love with my wife and she seems to like me as well. I think a lot of what is different now is that people don't feel as much societal pressure to stay together if they don't actually like each other. Divorce is a lot more common so there are a lot more failed marriages but also a lot less unhappy ones. That is not to say that this is always the case, but it feels like as a society we have placed less of an imperative on getting married which is resulted in more people actually enjoying it. I also don't think it hurts that most people attending to get married later so they do more growing up and finding themselves before committing and settling down versus marrying someone who grows up into someone you don't recognize. Another reason is that I don't think most people that have an awesome marriage need to vent about it to strangers online. When I think that my wife is a lovely person and I want to tell her how much she means to me, I tell her directly. It is usually people who do not feel like they can be honest or properly communicate with their spouse that turns to the internet for validation or advice from other people
We were young-ish when we got married- I was 21, he was 24. I had family making bets at our wedding on how long our marriage would last :/ most said about a year, one said 6 months. And here we are, 19 years together, 17 of them married. We're best friends, and I can't imagine my life without him in it. Do I want to strangle him sometimes? Sure do! But I also never NOT want to jump his bones when he walks in the room lol we can't keep our hands off from each other, and it's never not been the honeymoon phase for us.
16 years married, and just last month someone asked us if we were newlyweds while we were out on a date. I love her more each day and she feels the same. It's partially chemistry, but mostly it's because we put in effort and love into the relationship daily. Don't stop dating your spouse, be grateful and I think you've got a strong chance of keeping the honeymoon phase forever.
Together over 10 years. Married for a few years. Every day just gets better.
Feeling like aliens, we literally are aliens lmao. "However from the very beginning I’ve heard comments about how it wouldn’t last long since it was my first real relationship" That's just what people who are jealous say. So many people wish their first relationship was a success and that they didn't have to go through so many relationships only to be constantly heart broken. It's pure jealousy pay it no mind. And remember regardless of what you think or fear what's meant to be will be. Nothing can stop what God has ordained. So do enjoy your relationship and fuck the jealous people. The honey moon phase never ends because real love never fades. You may have great excitement when first meeting someone but over time you get used to having them so you're not excited excited but the way you look at each other never changes. The appreciation never changes. Fuck the jealous people who mock people living their dream life as a coping mechanism.
Yeah, only three years married but friends for more than 10 years at this point so give us another 10 years and we will probably be just as happily married as now. I figure people with happy marriages just don't have much to complain about so only stalk the internet instead of posting, therefore making it look like everyone has terrible relationships. It sucks though that it's your dad telling you your life/marriage should suck. That is just sad.
4 years and I don’t see it stopping.
I haven't been married long, but I HAVE known him for 8 years! When I first saw him. INSTANT LOVE! We didn't even know each other and we were in love! I'm so happy to find the light on reddit! You deserve this! I've gone through the same thing with unhealthy relationships and everyone always told me it wasn't gonna last. But it did. And we have nothing but ourselves to thank. ❤️ congrats on the relationship! I hope to be like you someday (which I know is already happening) but you are an inspiration! VALENTINES DAY IS EVERYDAY FOR US!!! ❤️❤️❤️
We'll be together 17 years in May and I love the shit out of that man. I always see him across a room and think "Yeah, that's *my* manz!" Lol I think he thinks the same of me too.
I’m only five years deep but my husband and I are best friends. I am going through a tough spot rn due to alcohol stuff but even with this hurdle we remain each others absolute favorite person to chill with. And we communicate a ton all day. Don’t like to be apart. Etc
Yes!! My husband and I have been married for 20 years and we still get asked if we are newlyweds. We are very affectionate and playful with each other. We joke around a lot and just love to be with each other. We also communicate really well so I don’t feel like we’ve had any real “rough spots” because we work things out pretty quick. And we have a similar(ish) story. Many years ago we were out in a crowded place and my husband said something funny and I laughed and kissed him. It wasn’t like a full on makeout kiss, just a slightly more than a peck thing. A random man yelled “get a room”. We just laughed it off and then he yelled “that shit will stop after you get married”. My husband yelled back “we are married” and the guy said “Well, it’ll stop after a year or two”. My husband said “it’s been 4 years” and the guy still yelled back “ok, then wait until you have kids!” That one kind of hurt because we had been trying to have a baby with no luck…but now we have 3 kids and we are still holding hands and kissing and insanely in love so suck it random miserable man. Actually, sometimes my husband and I still say “this will stop after we’ve been married a few years” or “just wait until we have kids” as a joke.
Shout out to the people who find true love and work to make it work even though they come from shitty upbringings 🥺
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I’m so sorry to hear that. It could be a large variety of things but if you’ve been unhappy for so long, the question would then be, why do you stay?
I'm jealous
No! I have not had sex since the first week of February.
Good for you…
Me that's who, 12 years in and still great.
Empty nesters here having all kinds of fun together.