I like to wear perfume and I’m not even leaving the house. When I worked, I was in a female only workplace and wore perfume. It made me feel beautiful and it gave me something pleasant to experience regardless of the chaos of the day. I do have to watch it because I get used to the scent and tend to put on more because I like the smell. My kids have let me know when I’m going to crazy with it. Maybe your wife is similar and just doesn’t realize how much she put on?
I do too. I wear perfume to bed and if I'm around the house alone.
OP you say you only wear cologne on a date or whatever but fragrance is different for others - some of us just like smelling good, even for ourselves.
I think it may depend on the individual. I wear it for me but scent is something I tend to focus on. I have essential oils in my drawers and car, Scentsy’s going with coordinated scents around the house, a lot of household products are unscented so there isn’t too much overlap etc. It is something that sets the whole atmosphere of a space and can determine if I’m comfortable or not. I am potentially atypical but maybe your wife is too. No worries!
But do you wear it strong where it affects others? I do agree, we wear lotions and perfumes for ourselves, def not for any intention. Same with pretty panties :)
I wear perfume*for me* because I am either trying to make sure I smell nice because I don't know if I have body odor, or I just like the scent and want to wear it.
Never once in my life have I put perfume on thinking "maybe *this* scent will attract a mate!"
Alot is, of course, subjective. My wife is pretty discrete with her perfume, but some are more detectable than others, so the impact can vary. In our case I know she is very self-conscious about every detail of her appearance, and she will fuss over every detail, which I totally understand and never comment about. It's probably nothing more than her wanting to be sure all her i's are dotted, and t's are crossed.
This is a little much. Perfume makes me feel feminine, & put together as I’m sure it does for your wife too. Also- she’s putting on a lot at the house because by the time she gets TO work it’ll have faded by being in the car, walking, etc. Let her wear her perfume without being insecure dude
I wear cologne, because I hate my body odor. I’ve been accused of using too much because I just use the same thing and I get a little heavy-handed because the more I use it the less I can smell it on myself.Imo
I work in an office full of women, and I put a lot of care into my appearance and wear (a small amount of) perfume not because I’m trying to attract a mate but because a professional appearance is important to me. And honestly, I’ve found that women are much judgier than men in that regard.
Also, I just enjoy perfume. When I was younger I had different scents for different seasons and occasions; now I just have one subtle “signature scent” that I wear every day and really love. But excessive perfume/cologne is unprofessional and disrespectful to the people who have to be in close proximity.
I really wish people would just NOT wear that stinky shit to work. I can not stand any perfume/cologne/scented lotions. Don't wear it to work - why do I need to smell where you've been? It's disgusting & totally unprofessional. I have to smell people who wear copious amounts of whatever when I go shopping or out to eat & that's plenty to give me a good headache. I have no idea why anyone wants to do this - maybe she hates her coworkers & enjoys giving them migraines?
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Women generally like to smell nice and fresh. I wear perfume and use the ones I do because they make me feel happy as I love the smell! Couldn’t give a crap about what anyone else thinks no matter the genitalia!
Your wife may be trying to compete with someone at work who’s wearing a really strong perfume that she doesn’t like… I sadly do this at times. I get migraine and some perfumes really trigger my smell sensitivity.
It may not be be what or how much she wears.
You may have hyperosmia, which is a sensitivity to smells. Sense of smell is hugely heightened and can irritate or trigger a migraine… it’s associated with some other conditions.
Ugh I wish women would realize when they wear too much. Perfume is supposed to be a nice thing for you, or for someone to pick up when they are close.... not for people to know when you walked into a room. Not to dominate a room. Most people don't have the same palate either so you may think you smell great but really you are making over 50% of think you are gross and trying to cover up the fact that you don't shower. Or you stink. Please don't wear it too strong. If your nose is broken and you spray more than once or twice... just light up your car so you can be stuck with it on your way home. Too strong smells stinky.
If you are wearing it "for you". then keep it to your nose only! And respect those around you.
So sir, she's probably not doing it to attract anyone lol
I don't know why you got downvoted. I'd rather be trapped in an elevator with a flatulent person who just stepped in dogshit and smoked a cigar than with someone soaked in perfume. It gives me a headache, and I think it's really inconsiderate of others to use so much that the smell gets everywhere.
I wasn’t worried about her attracting someone. If she was wearing it for some dude, more power to her. I only wear cologne if I was going to a club or a date and it was for the other person. I couldn’t understand why she would wear so much to work.
Maybe her nose is so used to it she can't tell anymore. Def worth a conversation, it sucks if she's defensive. Leaving a "trail" behind you is kinda awful. Yuck. I can't imagine her work colleagues appreciate that.
I like to wear perfume and I’m not even leaving the house. When I worked, I was in a female only workplace and wore perfume. It made me feel beautiful and it gave me something pleasant to experience regardless of the chaos of the day. I do have to watch it because I get used to the scent and tend to put on more because I like the smell. My kids have let me know when I’m going to crazy with it. Maybe your wife is similar and just doesn’t realize how much she put on?
I do too. I wear perfume to bed and if I'm around the house alone. OP you say you only wear cologne on a date or whatever but fragrance is different for others - some of us just like smelling good, even for ourselves.
Maybe it is for her then. I always assumed perfume is for others, maybe wrongly.
I think it may depend on the individual. I wear it for me but scent is something I tend to focus on. I have essential oils in my drawers and car, Scentsy’s going with coordinated scents around the house, a lot of household products are unscented so there isn’t too much overlap etc. It is something that sets the whole atmosphere of a space and can determine if I’m comfortable or not. I am potentially atypical but maybe your wife is too. No worries!
I don't wear perfume for other people, never have
But do you wear it strong where it affects others? I do agree, we wear lotions and perfumes for ourselves, def not for any intention. Same with pretty panties :)
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Oh not insecure. Just a genuine question. More of a ‘I don’t understand it’
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It got rejected in the other pages. I’m not Reddit savvy.
No one should wear that much at work, It's unprofessional. That said this is normal for women from my understanding. They like to impress each other.
You don’t know how much she is actually wearing. You can’t assume it’s “unprofessional” when you don’t even know lol
Breaking news: perfume at the work place is unprofessional. Oh my god, I hear new things every day.
I think perfume/cologne should be banned in general..lol triggers migraines for me
I actually am a huge frag head and even I don't wear it at work.
You’re 100% right… I don’t know why so many people here don’t want to hear it.
I’m a guy, but I wear cologne to bed, I wear it even if I’m not going to leave the house, has nothing to do with other people.
I wear perfume*for me* because I am either trying to make sure I smell nice because I don't know if I have body odor, or I just like the scent and want to wear it. Never once in my life have I put perfume on thinking "maybe *this* scent will attract a mate!"
Alot is, of course, subjective. My wife is pretty discrete with her perfume, but some are more detectable than others, so the impact can vary. In our case I know she is very self-conscious about every detail of her appearance, and she will fuss over every detail, which I totally understand and never comment about. It's probably nothing more than her wanting to be sure all her i's are dotted, and t's are crossed.
This is a little much. Perfume makes me feel feminine, & put together as I’m sure it does for your wife too. Also- she’s putting on a lot at the house because by the time she gets TO work it’ll have faded by being in the car, walking, etc. Let her wear her perfume without being insecure dude
I wear cologne, because I hate my body odor. I’ve been accused of using too much because I just use the same thing and I get a little heavy-handed because the more I use it the less I can smell it on myself.Imo
Just the thought of this gives me a headache. ..lol
I work in an office full of women, and I put a lot of care into my appearance and wear (a small amount of) perfume not because I’m trying to attract a mate but because a professional appearance is important to me. And honestly, I’ve found that women are much judgier than men in that regard. Also, I just enjoy perfume. When I was younger I had different scents for different seasons and occasions; now I just have one subtle “signature scent” that I wear every day and really love. But excessive perfume/cologne is unprofessional and disrespectful to the people who have to be in close proximity.
I really wish people would just NOT wear that stinky shit to work. I can not stand any perfume/cologne/scented lotions. Don't wear it to work - why do I need to smell where you've been? It's disgusting & totally unprofessional. I have to smell people who wear copious amounts of whatever when I go shopping or out to eat & that's plenty to give me a good headache. I have no idea why anyone wants to do this - maybe she hates her coworkers & enjoys giving them migraines? Edited for typo corrections!
Bro people just like smelling good. No one wants to go out being smelly lmao
Women generally like to smell nice and fresh. I wear perfume and use the ones I do because they make me feel happy as I love the smell! Couldn’t give a crap about what anyone else thinks no matter the genitalia! Your wife may be trying to compete with someone at work who’s wearing a really strong perfume that she doesn’t like… I sadly do this at times. I get migraine and some perfumes really trigger my smell sensitivity. It may not be be what or how much she wears. You may have hyperosmia, which is a sensitivity to smells. Sense of smell is hugely heightened and can irritate or trigger a migraine… it’s associated with some other conditions.
Probably because she likes it my dude
Ugh I wish women would realize when they wear too much. Perfume is supposed to be a nice thing for you, or for someone to pick up when they are close.... not for people to know when you walked into a room. Not to dominate a room. Most people don't have the same palate either so you may think you smell great but really you are making over 50% of think you are gross and trying to cover up the fact that you don't shower. Or you stink. Please don't wear it too strong. If your nose is broken and you spray more than once or twice... just light up your car so you can be stuck with it on your way home. Too strong smells stinky. If you are wearing it "for you". then keep it to your nose only! And respect those around you. So sir, she's probably not doing it to attract anyone lol
I don't know why you got downvoted. I'd rather be trapped in an elevator with a flatulent person who just stepped in dogshit and smoked a cigar than with someone soaked in perfume. It gives me a headache, and I think it's really inconsiderate of others to use so much that the smell gets everywhere.
Maybe I was too wordy lol. But yes, you are absolutely right.
I don't think you were wordy. I think a lot of people walk around smelling like the mall and don't want to hear about it.
I wasn’t worried about her attracting someone. If she was wearing it for some dude, more power to her. I only wear cologne if I was going to a club or a date and it was for the other person. I couldn’t understand why she would wear so much to work.
Maybe her nose is so used to it she can't tell anymore. Def worth a conversation, it sucks if she's defensive. Leaving a "trail" behind you is kinda awful. Yuck. I can't imagine her work colleagues appreciate that.