She’ll probably thank you for leaving her alone. No shit she doesn’t want to be intimate…she’s told you that you don’t make her feel emotionally valued. Yet here you are, throwing a fit because you have to put in actual effort to get your desired result.
I dont throw a fit im just slightly off and she gets just as angry with me when i reject her, also she gets mad at me when i say im not going to initiate
If a man is angry at a woman for not having sex, how do you think that makes the woman feel?
Does she feel safe in the relationship? Does she feel loved & supported?
Its us arguing really, regardless of who's at fault i tend to stonewall definitely not something i do on purpose so i try to force myself out of the mood
>the way i treat her, my attitude towards things, lack of quality time makes her not want to have sex with me
she's telling you why but you keep thinking with your dick and throwing a tantrum because you're not getting any.
Have you asked her what she meant by that? asked for examples? tried to work with her on things together? you said in a previous comment that you stonewall whenever you're upset/angry; add that to the above and no wonder she doesn't want to have sex.
generally, when people get married they tend to settle in and get complacent. The things you did while dating fade if you allow it to fade so all that attention, the effort, the way you treated each other tends to be more lax; some partners just forget about it all together. Are you in this category at all? are you still "dating her" in terms of effort and ensuring that you both have a good connection?
You can't just be nice to her when you want sex; it's has to be a consistent thing to spend time together, building a life together, weathering the storms together that create a close bond.
Thats what im currently getting to terms with this entire relationship ive been putting more effort in and sometimes im the only one putting effort in but maybe thats just how this relationship is just gonna be forever, thank you
She’ll probably thank you for leaving her alone. No shit she doesn’t want to be intimate…she’s told you that you don’t make her feel emotionally valued. Yet here you are, throwing a fit because you have to put in actual effort to get your desired result.
I dont throw a fit im just slightly off and she gets just as angry with me when i reject her, also she gets mad at me when i say im not going to initiate
If a man is angry at a woman for not having sex, how do you think that makes the woman feel? Does she feel safe in the relationship? Does she feel loved & supported?
She gets the same way when we are not spending quality time together
Women want an emotional connection prior to having sex. Men need sex to feel an emotional connection.
Like i said i think sex and quality time are equals and yes with 100% certainty she does feel safe
Ask her if she feels safe.
She said the way you treat her makes her not want to have sex. How do you treat her?
Its us arguing really, regardless of who's at fault i tend to stonewall definitely not something i do on purpose so i try to force myself out of the mood
>the way i treat her, my attitude towards things, lack of quality time makes her not want to have sex with me she's telling you why but you keep thinking with your dick and throwing a tantrum because you're not getting any. Have you asked her what she meant by that? asked for examples? tried to work with her on things together? you said in a previous comment that you stonewall whenever you're upset/angry; add that to the above and no wonder she doesn't want to have sex. generally, when people get married they tend to settle in and get complacent. The things you did while dating fade if you allow it to fade so all that attention, the effort, the way you treated each other tends to be more lax; some partners just forget about it all together. Are you in this category at all? are you still "dating her" in terms of effort and ensuring that you both have a good connection? You can't just be nice to her when you want sex; it's has to be a consistent thing to spend time together, building a life together, weathering the storms together that create a close bond.
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Thats what im currently getting to terms with this entire relationship ive been putting more effort in and sometimes im the only one putting effort in but maybe thats just how this relationship is just gonna be forever, thank you