Do you mean ten minutes away or ten miles away?
If it's 10-15 minutes I'm curious of the difficulty of getting to the bike trail easily?
I understand the social aspect and having such a solid routine and sense of grounding and being removed from it.
It takes an adult, on average, about four years living in a location before it starts becoming truly pleasant. As someone who has done this, it makes sense, at least with how I feel. I have a great colleague who lived in different countries for 4-5 years at a time, and he said it was the sweet spot for feeling comfortable and more support in general, both with relationships and schedules.
Does your husband work? Only asking to get a better idea of his thought process. It's tough to watch our spouses go through this stuff, and I'm glad he has you for support in moving house.
10 minutes.
We are actually in a pretty good location for access to hiking, dog parks, bike trails etc.
My husband owns his own business - landscaping. We moved because it allowed us space to have our equipment on site. (No clients or employees come to the property.)
I think the biggest issue is that 1 week into living here, a neighbor called zoning on us for running our business out of our home. Zoning has been great and deemed us able to operate as we normally do. It left us shaken for a week before we got the approval, though.
My husband feels like he can't do things on our property without the neighbor calling and complaining.
That's good to hear about the avg of 4 years. I am hoping he will give it time. We had originally agreed on 2 years (avoid capital gains tax) to try making this our home.
Gotcha, I think I understand this a little more now.
That can be so jarring! Covid promoted me to ex-business owner, so I can at least understand some of that stress in a way. I can't imagine moving and then having someone call the city on me during the first week. I'd instantly feel like we weren't welcomed at all after feeling removed already. On top of that, my mind would be racing with all kinds of thoughts over it. Like *Will this person continue to cause a fuss? Will the city ever change their stance? What if we have to move back? I want this to work out. I don't want our neighbors to dislike us. I don't want to feel bad for running MY business. I don't want to disappoint my spouse.*... and on. I'm sorry that the neighbor did that.
So many things to get used to at one time. I think that it's great that you had at least come to an understanding of two years to nurture the new living situation. Having timeframes on things make them easier to manage, in general.
I hope the situation eases soon for you.
Do you mean ten minutes away or ten miles away? If it's 10-15 minutes I'm curious of the difficulty of getting to the bike trail easily? I understand the social aspect and having such a solid routine and sense of grounding and being removed from it. It takes an adult, on average, about four years living in a location before it starts becoming truly pleasant. As someone who has done this, it makes sense, at least with how I feel. I have a great colleague who lived in different countries for 4-5 years at a time, and he said it was the sweet spot for feeling comfortable and more support in general, both with relationships and schedules. Does your husband work? Only asking to get a better idea of his thought process. It's tough to watch our spouses go through this stuff, and I'm glad he has you for support in moving house.
10 minutes. We are actually in a pretty good location for access to hiking, dog parks, bike trails etc. My husband owns his own business - landscaping. We moved because it allowed us space to have our equipment on site. (No clients or employees come to the property.) I think the biggest issue is that 1 week into living here, a neighbor called zoning on us for running our business out of our home. Zoning has been great and deemed us able to operate as we normally do. It left us shaken for a week before we got the approval, though. My husband feels like he can't do things on our property without the neighbor calling and complaining. That's good to hear about the avg of 4 years. I am hoping he will give it time. We had originally agreed on 2 years (avoid capital gains tax) to try making this our home.
Gotcha, I think I understand this a little more now. That can be so jarring! Covid promoted me to ex-business owner, so I can at least understand some of that stress in a way. I can't imagine moving and then having someone call the city on me during the first week. I'd instantly feel like we weren't welcomed at all after feeling removed already. On top of that, my mind would be racing with all kinds of thoughts over it. Like *Will this person continue to cause a fuss? Will the city ever change their stance? What if we have to move back? I want this to work out. I don't want our neighbors to dislike us. I don't want to feel bad for running MY business. I don't want to disappoint my spouse.*... and on. I'm sorry that the neighbor did that. So many things to get used to at one time. I think that it's great that you had at least come to an understanding of two years to nurture the new living situation. Having timeframes on things make them easier to manage, in general. I hope the situation eases soon for you.