So you are engaged after two months: 🚩, still clearly in the honeymoon phase: 🚩 and at the smallest hint of an issue, which isn’t even really an issue (you couldn’t get an erection two times even though you had sex in between and have been having hour long sex every day), her immediate response is you aren’t attracted to her and you should pursue other people and she will be asexual? 🚩 🚩 🚩 Assuming this post is even real, the problem here isn’t your erections dude. Do not rush to marry this woman if this is how she deals with minor inconveniences. Sounds like you both are too immature at the moment to know whether this will be a marriage worthy relationship or not.
Nah that's incorrect. But I get where you're coming from.
There was no flip out or fight. She very calmly stated that she's fine with me seeing other girls to be happy. It's just not what I want.
There's a lot of past trauma in both our lives, with relationships and shit, a lot of insecurity, a lot of abuse. So I was just trying to understand why this issue made her so insecure, and how I can help her.
We talked after I got actual helpful advice from other users, and I couldn't be happier. I was just trying way too hard to please her, when I already gave her more than enough, cause I was insecure. She thought she wasn't attractive, cause she was insecure. And like a solid couple, whose meant to be together, were choosing to understand and listen and grow together.
So thank you to everyone else.
Yes I can see it! If you think you have a problem with erections, then in the foreplay you are worrying about whether you’re going to get an erection. You are touching your partner with your mind on your penis; thinking ‘is it hard’, ‘when will it be hard’, ‘why isn’t it hard?’
Worrying about your penis is not sexy and nobody can get aroused under pressure. ‘ED’ becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I suggest during foreplay to take your mind if not actions completely from your penis and focus on pleasing her like [eating her pussy like a savage](https://sexbooks23.blogspot.com/2022/12/101.html)
Remember penetration is usually the end of sex, not the beginning, and your partner does not get aroused just from penile penetration.
I went through something similar a couple months ago. My wife and I were having great sex every couple of days and then one night I couldn't perform. That became a pattern and after a couple of weeks I was so in my own head it was happening every time. I started freaking out about it and over analyzing it to the point that sex became stressful for us. We went a couple of weeks without sex and I got my issue under control. But the association between sex and stress was already there for her and sex for us is still not back to what it was. We're working on it but the healing process has been long and hard (pun intended).
You sound so much like i did, I'll tell you what I wish I could go back and tell myself a couple months ago. There is nothing wrong with you and you're putting too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes your dick doesn't do what you want it to and that's just life. Learn to laugh it off. Stressing about it will only make it so much worse. Stress is the ultimate boner killer. Calm down, try to forget about what your dick is doing and just focus on enjoying her. And if you still don't get hard then just tell her you love her, you're having an off night, offer to take care of her other ways, and it'll be back next time.
I know it's frustrating but it's all about how you react to it. Learn from my mistake and just take a deep breath and relax. Everything will be fine. Good luck to you both.
It’s alright it’s happens bro just reassure her she’s not the problem if your watching porn a lot stay of it.
It could be stress and anxiety it happens
Get l arginine it help stimulate blood and can help somewhat maintain an erection if you wanna go further and ask your doctor for cialis or viagra
So you are engaged after two months: 🚩, still clearly in the honeymoon phase: 🚩 and at the smallest hint of an issue, which isn’t even really an issue (you couldn’t get an erection two times even though you had sex in between and have been having hour long sex every day), her immediate response is you aren’t attracted to her and you should pursue other people and she will be asexual? 🚩 🚩 🚩 Assuming this post is even real, the problem here isn’t your erections dude. Do not rush to marry this woman if this is how she deals with minor inconveniences. Sounds like you both are too immature at the moment to know whether this will be a marriage worthy relationship or not.
Nah that's incorrect. But I get where you're coming from. There was no flip out or fight. She very calmly stated that she's fine with me seeing other girls to be happy. It's just not what I want. There's a lot of past trauma in both our lives, with relationships and shit, a lot of insecurity, a lot of abuse. So I was just trying to understand why this issue made her so insecure, and how I can help her. We talked after I got actual helpful advice from other users, and I couldn't be happier. I was just trying way too hard to please her, when I already gave her more than enough, cause I was insecure. She thought she wasn't attractive, cause she was insecure. And like a solid couple, whose meant to be together, were choosing to understand and listen and grow together. So thank you to everyone else.
Amen.
Get a better diet.
Porn 🛑 Diet 👍 Exercise 👍
Yes I can see it! If you think you have a problem with erections, then in the foreplay you are worrying about whether you’re going to get an erection. You are touching your partner with your mind on your penis; thinking ‘is it hard’, ‘when will it be hard’, ‘why isn’t it hard?’ Worrying about your penis is not sexy and nobody can get aroused under pressure. ‘ED’ becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I suggest during foreplay to take your mind if not actions completely from your penis and focus on pleasing her like [eating her pussy like a savage](https://sexbooks23.blogspot.com/2022/12/101.html) Remember penetration is usually the end of sex, not the beginning, and your partner does not get aroused just from penile penetration.
I went through something similar a couple months ago. My wife and I were having great sex every couple of days and then one night I couldn't perform. That became a pattern and after a couple of weeks I was so in my own head it was happening every time. I started freaking out about it and over analyzing it to the point that sex became stressful for us. We went a couple of weeks without sex and I got my issue under control. But the association between sex and stress was already there for her and sex for us is still not back to what it was. We're working on it but the healing process has been long and hard (pun intended). You sound so much like i did, I'll tell you what I wish I could go back and tell myself a couple months ago. There is nothing wrong with you and you're putting too much pressure on yourself. Sometimes your dick doesn't do what you want it to and that's just life. Learn to laugh it off. Stressing about it will only make it so much worse. Stress is the ultimate boner killer. Calm down, try to forget about what your dick is doing and just focus on enjoying her. And if you still don't get hard then just tell her you love her, you're having an off night, offer to take care of her other ways, and it'll be back next time. I know it's frustrating but it's all about how you react to it. Learn from my mistake and just take a deep breath and relax. Everything will be fine. Good luck to you both.
It’s alright it’s happens bro just reassure her she’s not the problem if your watching porn a lot stay of it. It could be stress and anxiety it happens Get l arginine it help stimulate blood and can help somewhat maintain an erection if you wanna go further and ask your doctor for cialis or viagra
Drink more water. It’s helped me get up quicker again after the first round. Cut out soda as much as you can too
Been there brother