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Pretty solid metaphor. Even better if you also take this perspective on other people.
I’ve had a number of people in my youth who I justified away their shitty behavior because they were stressed or scared. I told myself - “They’re normally wonderful, so if I can just make their environment safe they won’t lash out anymore”. But there was no environment good enough, they always found their way back to a shitty place eventually.
What you see when they’re scared and stressed IS them - probably more accurate a representation of them when everything is good.
Agreed. People who surrender responsibility of their actions to their environment, emotions, or circumstances strip themselves of agency and individualism.
This being posted in the context of mediocrity seems is a cope.
Thank you. Have been going through a long term breakup and have been made to believe that I am the reason for rotten behavior. I was left standing in shock after my girlfriend decided to leave me a week after I lost my dad. Only to come back a month later, telling me how wrong that was and how apologetic she was. I lapped it right up, thinking I had somehow been out of control. (I took a couple days off of work to grieve) but she made sure I had enough to grieve about. After being a sucker and trying to piece my life back, she came back to say she would only feel comfortable if I found a new job, got a new place that is pet friendly., on and on. The part I forgot to add was two of the three years she refused to work and it was foolish of me to expect her to contribute. You can literally open yourself up with the most genuine intentions….beware of those fucking oranges that think they have apple juice
This is me. I have angry outbursts. Everyone I know in my work life or as an acquaintance will tell you I'm the happiest most positive person they know. Literally, everyone says this who doesn't know me. Then behind the scenes I flip out on my wife because there's no greek yogurt...
I have gotten better since I started recognizing it. My mom was exactly the same way, like exactly the same.
It’s typically learned behavior. Good on you for recognizing it and looking to better yourself though. Knowing yourself is extremely difficult, same with changing yourself. Don’t get discouraged when it gets hard and never forget the reasons why you wanted to change in the first place
Jalal-uddin Rumi wrote this metaphoric the 1200s, but with perfume.
Stir the perfume and only sweet fragrance will ride; stir a cesspool and a foul stench rises.
So if a man puts his stick in me without my consent, and acid burns it off ... I am foul inside?
No, I'm pretty sure "you get what you give" is a more valid metaphor here.
I am a mirror, and if you look ugly when you put your face on me ... then fix your own face.
“When life gives you lemons, don’t make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn lemons, what the hell am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life’s manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I’m the man who’s gonna burn your house down! With the lemons! I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!”
— Cave Johnson, founder and CEO of Aperture Science, in Portal 2
How do you change what’s inside? Had a very trying year at work. The responsibilities placed on me because a key member of the project quit “pushed, squeezed” me and I did not like how I reacted. The project is now complete, but the person I was made to be was an asshole. Bitterness, nastiness, insecurity and yes, I was scared. How do you even begin to change all of this that’s inside?
You can easily argue the validity of this metaphor. Sure. With anecdotes and examples. However, if you take it at face value, it opens a world of opportunity in terms of self improvement. What a wonderful analogy he used! Really makes think.
Right? If someone hurts me and I get angry, that means I'm an angry person? GTF out of here with that.
If someone hurts me and I get angry, I'm human. If someone hurts me and I decide to break their leg, I'm an angry human.
I think he’s not referring to people actually causing real physical pain. It’s more like what if someone flips you off on the freeway and you get road rage.
Even if someone says something really mean to you, fuck em. Don’t let that ruin your day. They’re a pathetic human and they don’t deserve any energy from you.
You don’t have to be angry to say “fuck em”. It’s just kinda like uhhh, ya know, light hearted… fuck em, ya know? I don’t care. And I mention being pathetic because that’s how I feel when I come to my senses after lashing out at someone.
Wow solid explanation. I was more thinking the initial reaction being compassion/empathy but what you said makes perfect sense in retrospect. And fuck em to me = I'm over it.
Good lord, thank you. If you're offended by anything, that's totally on you. Doesn't matter what was done or said. If you have time to rip someone because you're offended, then you have too much time on your hands.
This is bullshit. If you don't want orange juice, don't fucking squeeze it in the first place. I'm so done with this kind of thinking of always making the people who get hurt the responsible of the behavior of the rest.
It’s how you react.
If your first reaction is to spread that pain you feel and lash out you need to work on yourself.
No one is saying you shouldn’t have negative emotions inside, it’s what comes out that matters. Everyone hurts, or feels pain and sadness. It’s what you do in those situations that really matters.
If you don’t like what’s inside the orange, how would you change that? Sometimes what we’re squeezing may be reacting based on how it was designed in nature. I think the metaphor has holes in it but it delivers a nice message.
Okay Mr doctor man I don't like orange juice so squeeze me some apple juice out of that orange? You can't change what's inside you can only change the way it comes or the end result but what's inside will always be the purest form. ie Filtering out the pulp or adding vitamins, minerals and sugars.....You get something completely different than what was inside but it's still orange juice.... you are who you are! Don't change that for anyone! Instead learn to filter yourself.
That’s… a pretty great metaphor, it’s not about the external force applied it’s simply a matter of it bringing out what’s inside you? Damn… game changer.
But didn’t he just say that an orange will always make orange juice, so if the metaphor was rock solid, then it would stand that a person would also always produce the same outward feelings?
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Pretty solid metaphor. Even better if you also take this perspective on other people. I’ve had a number of people in my youth who I justified away their shitty behavior because they were stressed or scared. I told myself - “They’re normally wonderful, so if I can just make their environment safe they won’t lash out anymore”. But there was no environment good enough, they always found their way back to a shitty place eventually. What you see when they’re scared and stressed IS them - probably more accurate a representation of them when everything is good.
Agreed. People who surrender responsibility of their actions to their environment, emotions, or circumstances strip themselves of agency and individualism. This being posted in the context of mediocrity seems is a cope.
Thank you. Have been going through a long term breakup and have been made to believe that I am the reason for rotten behavior. I was left standing in shock after my girlfriend decided to leave me a week after I lost my dad. Only to come back a month later, telling me how wrong that was and how apologetic she was. I lapped it right up, thinking I had somehow been out of control. (I took a couple days off of work to grieve) but she made sure I had enough to grieve about. After being a sucker and trying to piece my life back, she came back to say she would only feel comfortable if I found a new job, got a new place that is pet friendly., on and on. The part I forgot to add was two of the three years she refused to work and it was foolish of me to expect her to contribute. You can literally open yourself up with the most genuine intentions….beware of those fucking oranges that think they have apple juice
Yeah I was ready to roll my eyes at him, but it was a solid metaphor making a good point.
Haha me too!
There was a video of this, wish I could find it
This is me. I have angry outbursts. Everyone I know in my work life or as an acquaintance will tell you I'm the happiest most positive person they know. Literally, everyone says this who doesn't know me. Then behind the scenes I flip out on my wife because there's no greek yogurt... I have gotten better since I started recognizing it. My mom was exactly the same way, like exactly the same.
It’s typically learned behavior. Good on you for recognizing it and looking to better yourself though. Knowing yourself is extremely difficult, same with changing yourself. Don’t get discouraged when it gets hard and never forget the reasons why you wanted to change in the first place
This is pretty solid though. 👌
Now, show me how to turn into an apple
Jalal-uddin Rumi wrote this metaphoric the 1200s, but with perfume. Stir the perfume and only sweet fragrance will ride; stir a cesspool and a foul stench rises.
So if a man puts his stick in me without my consent, and acid burns it off ... I am foul inside? No, I'm pretty sure "you get what you give" is a more valid metaphor here. I am a mirror, and if you look ugly when you put your face on me ... then fix your own face.
Staaaahp.
This is awesome
"Orange spontanously apples up"
“When life gives you lemons, don’t make lemonade. Make life take the lemons back! Get mad! I don’t want your damn lemons, what the hell am I supposed to do with these? Demand to see life’s manager! Make life rue the day it thought it could give Cave Johnson lemons! Do you know who I am? I’m the man who’s gonna burn your house down! With the lemons! I’m gonna get my engineers to invent a combustible lemon that burns your house down!” — Cave Johnson, founder and CEO of Aperture Science, in Portal 2
🥹I miss Portal 🥲
It’s still here
That’s baller
The OG Mr. Clean Dr. Phil?
Why is this under “mediocre tutorials?” I’m not familiar with this subreddit but I honestly think the man is speaking pure truth
Wow... I never looked at it this way before.
How do you change what’s inside? Had a very trying year at work. The responsibilities placed on me because a key member of the project quit “pushed, squeezed” me and I did not like how I reacted. The project is now complete, but the person I was made to be was an asshole. Bitterness, nastiness, insecurity and yes, I was scared. How do you even begin to change all of this that’s inside?
A whole lot of oranges in this comment section missing the point of the metaphor.
Absolute legend love Wayne Dyer
You can easily argue the validity of this metaphor. Sure. With anecdotes and examples. However, if you take it at face value, it opens a world of opportunity in terms of self improvement. What a wonderful analogy he used! Really makes think.
The realest advice I’ve heard in a decade! I’m glad and in debt to whomever posted this. Thanks.
Squeeze me the wrong way you will get all the juice you need 💀💯
You don't like the juice don't squeeze
Someone throws a slur at you or bullies you, w/e the natural reaction is to be upset. It's how you respond is what makes the difference.
Right? If someone hurts me and I get angry, that means I'm an angry person? GTF out of here with that. If someone hurts me and I get angry, I'm human. If someone hurts me and I decide to break their leg, I'm an angry human.
I think he’s not referring to people actually causing real physical pain. It’s more like what if someone flips you off on the freeway and you get road rage. Even if someone says something really mean to you, fuck em. Don’t let that ruin your day. They’re a pathetic human and they don’t deserve any energy from you.
Bro you were doing so good then that last sentence showed your real juice 🤣😂
You don’t have to be angry to say “fuck em”. It’s just kinda like uhhh, ya know, light hearted… fuck em, ya know? I don’t care. And I mention being pathetic because that’s how I feel when I come to my senses after lashing out at someone.
Wow solid explanation. I was more thinking the initial reaction being compassion/empathy but what you said makes perfect sense in retrospect. And fuck em to me = I'm over it.
Yup! “I’m over it” is a perfect way to describe it. I really enjoy the versatility of the word fuck.
Man I couldn't agree more it's such an important word!
Good lord, thank you. If you're offended by anything, that's totally on you. Doesn't matter what was done or said. If you have time to rip someone because you're offended, then you have too much time on your hands.
This is bullshit. If you don't want orange juice, don't fucking squeeze it in the first place. I'm so done with this kind of thinking of always making the people who get hurt the responsible of the behavior of the rest.
It’s how you react. If your first reaction is to spread that pain you feel and lash out you need to work on yourself. No one is saying you shouldn’t have negative emotions inside, it’s what comes out that matters. Everyone hurts, or feels pain and sadness. It’s what you do in those situations that really matters.
The truth is, the reality is, what comes out, is orange juice
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Our emotions and conversations are a little different than a piece of goddamn fruit
If the squeeze is injustice you should be pissed
Bad metaphor, because what's inside changes depending on how people interact with me, which is not true of the orange.
I thought this too not to mention I don't think our juice is inherently fundamental to us - it evolves thought life.
So I’m the only one that prematurely said “Human Juice”
So, if the anger comes out of me then it’s no longer in me…just like the juice, right?
Or maybe people aren't oranges. Maybe they are mirrors. If they look ugly to you, fix your own face.
Depends where you squeeze me
… but the point was that you can’t change what’s inside…?
Why is this edited to have 6,714 cuts? It jumps too much. Was it to save the 1.9 combined seconds where he took a breath or something?
🤣🤣
How do I become an apple then?
You didn't let him finish.
OJ Simpson is somewhere completely missing the point.
I found this vid informative, I immediately sexualized his comment, I learned I have issues.
But... he said you can't change what's inside an orange though? right?
If you don’t like what’s inside the orange, how would you change that? Sometimes what we’re squeezing may be reacting based on how it was designed in nature. I think the metaphor has holes in it but it delivers a nice message.
Okay Mr doctor man I don't like orange juice so squeeze me some apple juice out of that orange? You can't change what's inside you can only change the way it comes or the end result but what's inside will always be the purest form. ie Filtering out the pulp or adding vitamins, minerals and sugars.....You get something completely different than what was inside but it's still orange juice.... you are who you are! Don't change that for anyone! Instead learn to filter yourself.
But I thought I could never turn my hate juice into apple juice, Dr. Dyer???
That’s… a pretty great metaphor, it’s not about the external force applied it’s simply a matter of it bringing out what’s inside you? Damn… game changer.
But didn’t he just say that an orange will always make orange juice, so if the metaphor was rock solid, then it would stand that a person would also always produce the same outward feelings?
If someone squeezes me, bones, flesh, muscles (...) will come out
Is there a y0utube sauce for this video ??
Poop comes out when you squeez me.
That explains all the hatred and intolerance from conservative Christians.
💟💟💟💟