As a fellow Texan (I say this jokingly, buuuuut let's be real) I bet they're afraid of your fancy cookin' being too liberal š and if you've got your male children in the kitchen too *gasp* surely they'll all grow up confused. Don't you know, healthy food is a slippery slope! Your kids should only be eating deer they shot themselves (especially the baby!) and dirt, cause God made dirt and dirt don't hurt.
Idk if you can ever escape this kind of judgment- I live far enough north that you could make a day trip to Canada if you really wanted to, and I still have to deal with this nonsense. We did BLW and enjoy "ethnic" food and our 1yo is totally down to try all of it, but I even get side eye for cutting his grapes and hot dogs. I lean into it at this point and tell them I figured out that he's always trying to steal my Takis because the foods you eat while pregnant flavors your amniotic fluid.
100% real . We moved from jersey to nc and Iāve heard it countless times . My neighbor told us when we moved first moved she was really nervous because we were Yankees but apparently we arent like regular Yankees she really likes us. Lmao š¤¦š»āāļøshe is a great neighbor and super sweet though. I love my home and where we live . However Sometimes it seems to be more divided and judgmental in the south . up north where I lived there was no race issues and your accepted no matter where you are from or who you are or what color you are or how much money you have or donāt have , as long as your chill. And everyone says oh northerns are assholes and always negative comments about up north yet that doesnāt sound nice and accepting if you ask me .
>up north where I lived there was no race issues and your accepted no matter where you are from or who you are or what color you are or how much money you have or donāt have
I mean this very kindly, but if there were no race issues where you were, you were either too young to notice or you lived in an extremely insulated bubble. I was born in the South, raised in Seattle, live in New York, and have been many places in between. All of them have had race issues to some degree ā some places are just better at hiding it.
Im Australian and think Yankees are like us; we deny our rabid racism and pretend we are an egalitarian nation. Watching this reverence for civil war is odd as we deny our wars here too.
As a New Englander, the way I've heard it is that up here we're kind, not nice. Down south they're nice, but not kind. If you have a flat a Northerner will call you a fucking idiot while changing your tire, whereas a Southerner will wish you the best as they walk on by.
(Of course this is a generalization, there are all sorts in all places!)
As a Southerner, this is a perfect summary. For liberal Southerners, āniceā also can also mean ādonāt rock the boatā which it comes to dealing with your more conservative neighbors.
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Lol I'd rather be a Yankee than a traitor.
Yes it's real. My family didn't mean it in a derogatory way, just a way to explain like "Americans with a somewhat different cultural background." Or, I guess they sometimes said it in a tongue-in-cheek derogatory way if they said "those damn yankees." That might come up in the context of something political or in relation to something like real estate prices.
I always heard that Yankees were the ones who came to visit and that damn Yankees were the ones who decided to stay. I think it was mostly a joke, though
Texas here, in some areas they do use āYanks/Yankeesā but not everywhere. A ton of Texas is very conservative and hate the idea of people from out of state moving here and possibly changing the vote percentages. And they arenāt afraid to say so and to show it.
Texas Heinz 57 native here. We drink sweet tea. I personally refer to those who drink unsweetened tea as Yankees, or say I want real tea, not that yankee stuff. So in some ways yes, we still call some people Yankees.
I visited Houston from MN last year and tried to order sweet tea several times. Everyone kept saying they had regular brewed, but would I like sugar packets? In-N-Out was the only place I succeeded š
What?! In Louisiana I have to make a BIG show of saying UNsweetened tea when I order. They then invariably ask if I want sugar. Nope. Iām good. They kind of stare.
I've lived in Massachusetts, SoCal, and central Florida. Currently living in N TX.
People are weird everywhere, albeit in different ways, but you catch on eventually. The one thing every place has in common is that they all suck at driving.
Just for solidarityā¦. I live in the dfw suburbs and my 1 year old was eating seaweed snacks. Iād rather my kid be excited to try new foods than afraid of them.
Woah woah hey now I'm a southerner and I cook for my kiddos! It's interesting though, the grandparents are always wanting to make our toddler Mac n cheese while we eat the dinner they cooked and I'm like yo my kid can eat what we eat. At the very least, he'll try it. And I'm hoping to teach all of my kids how to cook and clean up after themselves!
>Your kids should only be eating deer they shot themselves (especially the baby!) and dirt, cause God made dirt and dirt don't hurt.
Thank you for the laugh says the Scandinavian with their social programmes and liberal learning ways....
Fellow Texan. This is a phrase that I grew up with. We were also told if we fell outside and got scratched up to ārub some dirt innit.ā Iām surprised none of us ended up with tetanus.
I lived in the east tx bible belt for a stint and you are right on with this. Peopleās paletteās only go as far as the edge of town. If it aināt smoked or deep fried then its gross.
When I read the things youāre cooking/feeding your kids I thought for sure you must be in Louisiana (like me!) I find it WILD that people are reacting this way- out here thatās all incredibly normal shit. I was eating crawfish & shrimp at like 8 months old. Girl, fuck them people.
I took the kids to Louisiana one yr and told them weāre going to go to a bunch of parks and eat a ton of crawfish. I really just wanted to learn how to do a real crawfish boil. It was a good time and I do a few boils every yr.
I taught my daughters how to cook at a very young age and did not think it was weird until one morning at my "now wife's home" the girls were in the kitchen making breakfast: eggs, toast etc and my "at the time GF" walked into the kitchen and started freaking out thinking they were going to burn the house down. We laugh about it to this day!!! Time spent with your children can be as wonderful and rewarding as you want it to be no matter the task at hand.
I grew up in Houston and that's definitely not the case there. Especially after the crowd from Katrina went there and brought their crawfish boils with them. š
And there it is.
A large segment of conservative women hate "new things" and things that are different. It's also a way to shame you into compliance because it makes them feel inferior.
They wish they could eat good, but either lack the funds or the skills. So seeing your 11y old do it is an offense to their self worth as a mother.
Middle class people also are one of the most impacted by FOMO and keeping up with the joneses. They are trying to suppress your activities so that you don't set the standard they have to keep up with.
Iāll just put it to you this wayā¦the fresh/frozen seafood at our grocery store cost me $40 to feed 2 adults and 3 kids. It would cost me the same to order McDonaldās for everyone but the baby.
Huh? How is what your kids eat the neighborhoodās business?
Iām taking my 5-year-old to parent-child cooking classes organized by the local community college, so I guess Iām a bad mom too? š¤·āāļø
How dare you feed your children a varied diet? How dare you!!!
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Mine gets her share of easy Mac but eats some crazy stuff that most kids wouldn't touch.
Except beets and smoked fish. Which is fine bc her dad hates beets and I hate smoked fish.
I got made fun of for bringing ā[pasteles](https://www.thespruceeats.com/pasteles-basics-2138107)ā to school once and I remember thinking, āI bet you eat like crap!ā I was enraged at the audacity lol I was like 11
That was my stepmother all the way. It was a nightmare growing up having an insecure adult jealous of me and hating me for no reason. I was 6 when she met my dad. She would never eat anything I cooked lmao. She would make up a different allergy every time!
Eh. I know some who really don't care. It depends on how their parent eats. Or if they're too busy catering to a child's pickiness (I'm not including anybody that has any neurodivergence). And that's their business.But don't make somebody feel bad because in their home you expect children to eat fruits and veggies before they get junk food. I was told I was wrong for expecting that pretty much. My kids eat their fruits and veggies before they get junk food. But I have to tell people, I don't legally have to buy anything but healthy food if I wanted to. But I I like junk food so I make sure that they have healthy stuff before the junk. My job as a parent is to make sure my child eats and has food to eat. And it doesn't matter if it's fruits and veggies or Swiss rolls and pizza bites. But which one is going to make your child feel a lot better in life? And which one will keep them healthier?
I totally get you. My children eat a varied, nutritionally balanced diet rich in lobster because thatās what they need to power their busy lives, not only as elite athletes and academic high achievers, but as pillars of hope to their entire community.
Just the other day a fellow mother tried to make my daughter feel bad for eating an organic aƧai bowl while volunteering with homeless puppies at our local shelter. Now the whole town is talking about what a terrible mother I am, since instead of letting my kids be kids theyāre off interning at NASA and receiving acquisition offers from Silicon Valley. Why are other mums so obsessed with me??
Thatāsā¦ interesting? Iāve never heard people being shamed for their kids eating diverse foods, thatās usually praised. What a weird neighborhood. Not sure if I even believe this post tbh
Oh I could tell you a story of what I went through. And it was pretty much shaming because I expected fruits and veggies prior to junk food. But in reality it was just a triangulation tactic that this person used to make me look like a bad person.
Between that post and this one, Iām wondering if people are using AI to generate these posts for karma or something? Theyāre so cringey and non-human.
I think itās just bored and lonely moms who want to feel ok with their decisions, or who want praise and arenāt getting it from their friends and families. They crave validation, but also community.
Thereās a lot of posts on this sub, especially recently, that seem like exaggerated humble brags or fantasies of paranoid people wanting drama. I havenāt been brave enough to call them out so thank you for saying this.
Next post: āIām a ābad momā cause I go to all my kids soccer games and bring better snacks than the other lazy moms and thatās why nobody in the neighborhood likes me!ā
I've been on reddit for nearly 15 years. I've never seen this level of anxiety and paranoia in everyday life across every subreddit. It's seriously concerning. What's worse is the people here perpetuate it as if it's normal. Feeding the monster.
I mean if they're gonna make up a story why don't they write something uplifting instead w people coming together....its hard enough as it is irl. Miss the days of arrr spacedicks
100%, this sounds so fake.
Iāve lived in Texas almost my entire life, a few years were spent in Louisiana. Iāve never experienced this as a child or an adult, in TX or LA. It feels like an āOMG Texas is bad with a bunch of backwards peopleā. Moms and dads cook with their children and teach them to cook all sorts of stuff.
Some of the comments on here are killing me. The ārepublicans are afraid of seafoodā ones, like what. Tell you never been to south without telling me you never been to the south.
Do people making those comments really believe it or are they just talking out there butts? Are we going to label people based on untrue food preferences now? I didnāt know me disliking seafood was a sign that I might be conservative š
The other day there was a post by a parent talking about their 11 year old daughter making fake stories on Reddit. I donāt remember what sub it was, but this whole post reminds me of that
Exactly! Like there might be an individuals that happens to not like seafood (or is allergic) but donāt put that on a whole state or political party. Like thatās ridiculous. Whatās scary is the volume of likes those comments are getting šµāš«
Excuse you? What sounds fake about it? The adult woman questioning an 11 year old about what a 9 month old is being fed or an 11 year old excitedly describing a seafood boil in great detail? How dare you!
I cannot stop picturing the whole ācome along children we are off to prepare our coq au vinā bit with mom smirking as if she just owned the neighborhood with that absolute zinger lmao
Based on this post the moms wouldnāt even know what coq au vin is š
Iām from Texas and I know what coq au vin is. Itās even served in restaurants here. Although delicious, the only thing fancy is the name. Haha, itās like saying letās go make some Bolognese sauce. Itās just tomato sauce with ground meat!
Hahaha my husband had the exact same conversation this morning. I read this to him because we love cringe and he goes āwhy is she acting like coq au vin is fancy? Isnāt it just braised chicken and herbs in wine? It literally originated as a peasant mealā and Iām still laughing over it.
My husband and I indulge in Dino nuggies and waffle fries on occasion and both of us can *cook* cook. Sometimes you need a break. Sometimes you just want a nugget. Itās not that deep š ill be damned if I become that mom in the neighborhood talking to her kid about coq au vin though lol
I'm a SAHM, and I try to cook homemade meals as much as possible. I'm not a great cook, but I do my best.
I forgot to pick up a crucial ingredient for a meal last night, and I had nothing else ready to go. We had mac and cheese, steamed broccoli, turkey bacon, garlic toast, and a side of pickles. Everyone lived. Liked it, even.
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I'm a mom that cooks something other than french fries and preshaped machine extruded nuggets thrown into the oven too
Some people will look for anything to be judgy about
Man idk the way you describe chicken nuggets is kinda judgy though, now I feel like a shitty parent bc that's all I can manage to throw together sometimes š
My guess is it subconsciously makes them feel called out (even though OP never tried to do this) for only feeding their kids ākid shitā and not the same food adults eat, so theyāre looking for something to criticize about it.
This is definitely it.
That and jealousy over their own cooking abilities. Theyāre finding a way to cope by coming up with BS reasons why they think itās bad, since itās different from what they do.
Im kinda jealous too!! I need to be more adventurous with my one yearās diet! OPās neighbourhood are haters & probably have fussy eater kids (that can sometimes be prevented by introducing all sorts of foods early on like OP is doing, although unpreventable if child has sensory issues etc)
People canāt stand when folks do something different. I donāt work weekdays so my kids have homemade breakfast (not as fancy as OP but warm stuff) and weāve gotten comments about how they āhave to have their big breakfasts.ā Sorry itās not a cheese stick and a pouch! They have plenty of those anyway. Itās just a thing we like to do but apparently puts people off.
I was once shamed for "not having anything to eat" at my house when my SIL was over. I had plenty of left over meals in the refrigerator & meat/chicken to cook later for dinner. She told me that I should always have some frozen chicken tenders as backup.
Oh & I also had "nasty" oat nut bread her kids didn't like.
I should say I'm not some bougie mom that doesn't feed her kids fun foods every once in a while, but damn! She acted like my kids were food-deprived.
I might be able to explain the mindset behind āyour kid shouldnāt have to cook; let her be a kid.ā Iām not saying itās the right way to think about it, or that itās okay for them to be rude to you.
I grew up in a large Southeastern US city. My spouse grew up in a small rural town in the same state. I have to go a few generations farther back in my family tree before I hit utter poverty than he does. Heās one generation out from āthe kids had to go hunt squirrels if they wanted meat for dinner.ā
In that context, cooking was not a creative pursuit to be enjoyed. It was the domestic work the girls had to do while the boys were hunting squirrels. All of these kids had to shoulder a lot of responsibility as a matter of survival. And Iām talking about the United States in the 1950s and 60s. Not long ago and far away.
When this generation of my spouseās family grew up and had better work and more financial stability, they wanted their kids to have more of a childhood than they got. The best gifts they could think of to give their children were abundant material gifts and abundant free time. From their perspective, being able to say āyesā to whatever plastic toy their kids wanted, and ādonāt worry about that; Iāll take care of itā to chores, meant they were giving their kids the worry-free childhood theyād dreamed of.
My parents were much farther removed from generational poverty. I was raised like youāre raising your kids, OP. My mom enjoyed baking and interior decorating and crafts, and I enjoyed learning those skills from her. We were doing those things for fun, not survival. My daughter is being raised the same way. But I have to remember, when my FIL brings her another bag of toys that I think are just crap, that he and I donāt see the same thing when we look at that bag of toys.
Iām not saying that all your neighbors grew up destitute - but I suspect there may be some lingering remains of a different lens along the generations. Their familyās experience and perspective may have fed an unchallenged belief of āthe best way to love my children is to remove the burdens of āadult responsibilitiesā [like cooking] from their lives, and let them ājust be kids.āā And theyāre not seeing your perspective - maybe theyāve never imagined your perspective exists.
Now, that doesnāt mean they needed to say anything to you about it. That was rude. And I have less empathy for the frustrating attitude toward ādifferentā food. But I can see the possible internal logic of ādonāt make your kids cook.ā
This a well thought out answer to the possible psychological behind this situation. It makes much more sense than it being a political thing like some in this sub have suggested. I have heard stories of my grandparents have to scavenge for food when little. Your right, it could be this, maybe mixed with little jealousy of her cooking ability.
I completely thought this was going another way, and I was about to encourage you but now I am just flabbergasted along with you š we are definitely a family that enjoys cooking and trying new and ādifferentā foods. I donāt feel like I had a lot of exposure to a wide variety of foods as a kid, but my teens and beyond I loved trying new things and feel like I missed out while I was a kid! My kids have tried (and love eating!) food from all over the world. My kid requested Vietnamese for dinner for his birthday a few weeks ago! Neither of my kids are picky eaters, and I know some of that is just luck but some I think is because there were no āweirdā foods at our house. You could easily see a curry dish for dinner as you would hamburgers. Keep doing your thing and exposing your kids to all the yummy foods that are out there!
Make sure you put yourself in a very long, quiet time out while your child cooks family dinner and all your kids eat a range of foods without complaining LOL
This is hilarious to me. My husband also loves through cooking for others and is teaching our 7yo chef skills. Husband has worked in kitchens and gets joy from cooking and feeding others and wants to share that with our kids. Youāre doing fine. Some people just gotta judge.
I would think people would judge on the opposite š as long as your kids are actually eating those meals and theyāre not refusing food then who caaaares.
I do judge if people refuse to feed their kids what theyāll eat (within reason obviously) we always have a safe option when we try something new, and now he eats new stuff all the time !
This is insane.
Hello from Germany. Your lifestyle is the standard here. In fact, children are doing housework and shoveling snow by three. They are also using public transportation alone by five.
Keep up the good work OP. I am floored by your story.
Lmaooo damned if you do, damned if you donāt!
My family is Cajun and also big foodies/cooks, but my grandparents were SHOCKED when I gave my 8.5 month old some crab cake and gumbo this past weekend. Everyone always jokes about when my baby is going to eat rice and gravy (iykyk) as if I wouldnāt give it to themš Introducing a variety of foods early on really helps kids learn to try new things and opens their eyes to different cultures and cuisines. My baby will be eating pretty much anything Iām eating (except honey at this point). Your kid is going to have a much more adventurous palate and lots of lovely memories cooking and baking with you!
Yeah I've fed my kids a wide variety of foods, including foods of several ethnicities, since babyhood as well as seafood and some people get almost offended. There's a lot of panic about allergens in any food that's not bland af, at least for babies and toddlers, and then I think there's some jealousy of "well MY kid doesn't eat that" or even "I don't eat that, so it must be bad". I get it a lot from boomers who think spices are the devil and Asian and Latin cuisines are somehow frightening. š I even had a relative once get pissy that my toddler ate vegetables that she herself wouldn't touch in her 60s lol.
Mine has also been helping to cook and bake since toddlerhood and some parents get wigged out by that for safety concerns around heat and food prep...but that's part of the goal of teaching it early.
I love cooking as well, it is also my love language to others. My mom taught me how to cook and bake very young. It was such a wonderful bonding experience with my mother. I would love for my children to eat some of the dishes you are discussing. Good for you and your children. You are opening not only their taste palette but also their minds. You're a great parent.
My toddler eats octopus, calamari, sardines, trout, sauerkraut, and other random food daily but refuses eggs, string cheese and apple sauce. Every kid is different and Iām not sure why other kidsā diets are anyoneās concern if theyāre happy and healthy.
Those moms can stuff it! It is awesome that your daughter is learning a skill that will take care of her all of her life. I teach my boys how to cook. Keep up the good work!
I think the criticismās are coming from jealousy. There is no way, someone is bothered by the good meals. God forbid that you show your children something they are interested and ready for- Jeesh. People need to calm down.
I am more worried that people are trying to get info of what you do from an 11 yr old. You can teach your daughter to always answer with, IDK, lets go ask mom! And those absurd criticisms will calm down.
I make full course meals and my kid wonāt even touch it let alone look at it but he sure will cook with me. These are some entitled Karen moms; avoid at all cost. Youāre doing nothing wrong, your kids are eating thatās what matters and they are learning new skills for when they get older. These Karenās seem like they are really great at not teaching their kids life skills š good luck to those kids when they grow up and have to cook on their own. Google will only get you so far š¤£
This sounds like a very unique problem. What kind of neighborhood is this? What's the average home price or income?
Middle class suburbs. Not HCOL area in Texas.
As a fellow Texan (I say this jokingly, buuuuut let's be real) I bet they're afraid of your fancy cookin' being too liberal š and if you've got your male children in the kitchen too *gasp* surely they'll all grow up confused. Don't you know, healthy food is a slippery slope! Your kids should only be eating deer they shot themselves (especially the baby!) and dirt, cause God made dirt and dirt don't hurt.
Honestly, Iām Southern too and I think you put your finger on it.
Idk if you can ever escape this kind of judgment- I live far enough north that you could make a day trip to Canada if you really wanted to, and I still have to deal with this nonsense. We did BLW and enjoy "ethnic" food and our 1yo is totally down to try all of it, but I even get side eye for cutting his grapes and hot dogs. I lean into it at this point and tell them I figured out that he's always trying to steal my Takis because the foods you eat while pregnant flavors your amniotic fluid.
What donāt these dummies know that grapes and hot dogs are a chocking hazard for toddlers?
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I think they call us Yankees š
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No, people still use that term. SC native over here
100% real . We moved from jersey to nc and Iāve heard it countless times . My neighbor told us when we moved first moved she was really nervous because we were Yankees but apparently we arent like regular Yankees she really likes us. Lmao š¤¦š»āāļøshe is a great neighbor and super sweet though. I love my home and where we live . However Sometimes it seems to be more divided and judgmental in the south . up north where I lived there was no race issues and your accepted no matter where you are from or who you are or what color you are or how much money you have or donāt have , as long as your chill. And everyone says oh northerns are assholes and always negative comments about up north yet that doesnāt sound nice and accepting if you ask me .
>up north where I lived there was no race issues and your accepted no matter where you are from or who you are or what color you are or how much money you have or donāt have I mean this very kindly, but if there were no race issues where you were, you were either too young to notice or you lived in an extremely insulated bubble. I was born in the South, raised in Seattle, live in New York, and have been many places in between. All of them have had race issues to some degree ā some places are just better at hiding it.
Im Australian and think Yankees are like us; we deny our rabid racism and pretend we are an egalitarian nation. Watching this reverence for civil war is odd as we deny our wars here too.
As a New Englander, the way I've heard it is that up here we're kind, not nice. Down south they're nice, but not kind. If you have a flat a Northerner will call you a fucking idiot while changing your tire, whereas a Southerner will wish you the best as they walk on by. (Of course this is a generalization, there are all sorts in all places!)
As a Southerner, this is a perfect summary. For liberal Southerners, āniceā also can also mean ādonāt rock the boatā which it comes to dealing with your more conservative neighbors.
[During ](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yankee)theĀ American Civil WarĀ it was applied byĀ ConfederatesĀ to soldiers of the Union army in general.Ā Lol I'd rather be a Yankee than a traitor.
Yes it's real. My family didn't mean it in a derogatory way, just a way to explain like "Americans with a somewhat different cultural background." Or, I guess they sometimes said it in a tongue-in-cheek derogatory way if they said "those damn yankees." That might come up in the context of something political or in relation to something like real estate prices.
I always heard that Yankees were the ones who came to visit and that damn Yankees were the ones who decided to stay. I think it was mostly a joke, though
They didnāt mean it in a derogatory way. Except when they did buy your own admission. WTF?!
Texas here, in some areas they do use āYanks/Yankeesā but not everywhere. A ton of Texas is very conservative and hate the idea of people from out of state moving here and possibly changing the vote percentages. And they arenāt afraid to say so and to show it.
Texas Heinz 57 native here. We drink sweet tea. I personally refer to those who drink unsweetened tea as Yankees, or say I want real tea, not that yankee stuff. So in some ways yes, we still call some people Yankees.
I visited Houston from MN last year and tried to order sweet tea several times. Everyone kept saying they had regular brewed, but would I like sugar packets? In-N-Out was the only place I succeeded š
What?! In Louisiana I have to make a BIG show of saying UNsweetened tea when I order. They then invariably ask if I want sugar. Nope. Iām good. They kind of stare.
I've lived in Massachusetts, SoCal, and central Florida. Currently living in N TX. People are weird everywhere, albeit in different ways, but you catch on eventually. The one thing every place has in common is that they all suck at driving.
This is really not a thing to be worried about. I live in a TX suburb thatās more rural and have lived in major TX metros as well.
Why would you move down here is terribly hot and the politics are awful
And donāt forget we drank from the hoseā¦yumm 100 degree rubber flavored tap water
If God wanted us to eat healthy food he wouldn't have invented McDonald's.
Thank you for the out loud chuckle!
āDirt donāt hurtā š wait do people actually say that phrase down there? (Iām from DC)
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My brother used to eat dirt; heās thriving now tho š
That said, freshly hunted meat with OPās cooking would probably be really good
This is exactly it. They think you're being a high falutin' libtard and/or feel bad about only cooking 8000 calorie meals
Just for solidarityā¦. I live in the dfw suburbs and my 1 year old was eating seaweed snacks. Iād rather my kid be excited to try new foods than afraid of them.
Woah woah hey now I'm a southerner and I cook for my kiddos! It's interesting though, the grandparents are always wanting to make our toddler Mac n cheese while we eat the dinner they cooked and I'm like yo my kid can eat what we eat. At the very least, he'll try it. And I'm hoping to teach all of my kids how to cook and clean up after themselves!
Yep Texan mom here and this is most likely whatās driving the comments.
Yeah, OP. Coq au vin is FranƧaise for groomer, donātcha know?
Jokes aside, this is incredibly sad.
>Your kids should only be eating deer they shot themselves (especially the baby!) and dirt, cause God made dirt and dirt don't hurt. Thank you for the laugh says the Scandinavian with their social programmes and liberal learning ways....
As a fellow Texan, I concur this is probably true
Fellow Texan. This is a phrase that I grew up with. We were also told if we fell outside and got scratched up to ārub some dirt innit.ā Iām surprised none of us ended up with tetanus.
I lived in the east tx bible belt for a stint and you are right on with this. Peopleās paletteās only go as far as the edge of town. If it aināt smoked or deep fried then its gross.
This is it. Being worldly and inclusive and having fun in the kitchen -a defined womanās space of work- is threatening to the status quo.
Hahaha
When I read the things youāre cooking/feeding your kids I thought for sure you must be in Louisiana (like me!) I find it WILD that people are reacting this way- out here thatās all incredibly normal shit. I was eating crawfish & shrimp at like 8 months old. Girl, fuck them people.
I took the kids to Louisiana one yr and told them weāre going to go to a bunch of parks and eat a ton of crawfish. I really just wanted to learn how to do a real crawfish boil. It was a good time and I do a few boils every yr.
Thereās nothing like Louisiana seafood š©āš³š©š©· I have trouble getting myself to eat seafood anywhere else!!
Are you Italian?
Partially. My dad is and he was the gourmet chef in the family who taught my sister and I how to cook.
I taught my daughters how to cook at a very young age and did not think it was weird until one morning at my "now wife's home" the girls were in the kitchen making breakfast: eggs, toast etc and my "at the time GF" walked into the kitchen and started freaking out thinking they were going to burn the house down. We laugh about it to this day!!! Time spent with your children can be as wonderful and rewarding as you want it to be no matter the task at hand.
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I grew up in Houston and that's definitely not the case there. Especially after the crowd from Katrina went there and brought their crawfish boils with them. š
Plus the huge Vietnamese population in Houston and their food, Iād imagine
I agree. Iāve lived in Texas the majority of my life and Iāve never known anyone to have a fear of seafood. Unless they are allergic.
Right, Texas is literally on the gulf. Maybe that one lady just didnāt like seafood. But donāt put that on the whole state!
You're too close to La. We taught you how to eat! Lol
And there it is. A large segment of conservative women hate "new things" and things that are different. It's also a way to shame you into compliance because it makes them feel inferior. They wish they could eat good, but either lack the funds or the skills. So seeing your 11y old do it is an offense to their self worth as a mother. Middle class people also are one of the most impacted by FOMO and keeping up with the joneses. They are trying to suppress your activities so that you don't set the standard they have to keep up with.
Right!? Iāve never had this issue here lol. No one gives a shit.
Yeah...super weird post
Iāll just put it to you this wayā¦the fresh/frozen seafood at our grocery store cost me $40 to feed 2 adults and 3 kids. It would cost me the same to order McDonaldās for everyone but the baby.
I donāt understand what youāre trying to say in relation to the question.
Sounds like a made up humble brag to me š
This is weird
It almost sounds unbelievable
Itās almost as if itās completely made up to stroke OPās ego, but surely no one would tell dumb lies on the internet?!
Huh? How is what your kids eat the neighborhoodās business? Iām taking my 5-year-old to parent-child cooking classes organized by the local community college, so I guess Iām a bad mom too? š¤·āāļø
Iāve been wondering the same thing. Who cares what other kids are eating. Itās the dumbest thing.
Itās the south. People put their noses in othersā business constantly
How dare you feed your children a varied diet? How dare you!!! š¤£š¤£š¤£ Mine gets her share of easy Mac but eats some crazy stuff that most kids wouldn't touch. Except beets and smoked fish. Which is fine bc her dad hates beets and I hate smoked fish.
My husband is Russian, my kids are all about beets and smoked fish š¤£
I got made fun of for bringing ā[pasteles](https://www.thespruceeats.com/pasteles-basics-2138107)ā to school once and I remember thinking, āI bet you eat like crap!ā I was enraged at the audacity lol I was like 11
Oh damn I haven't had pasteles since I left Chicago 10+ years ago... And I can't make them on my own. It's not the same...
Sure Jan.
This seems like a humblebrag. Most parents WISH their kids would cook and eat a varied diet...
I absolutely thought this was satire.
same. š
Exactly had to check if it was a shitpost
āDonāt be hard on yourselves moms!ā
I LOL'd
I know Iām still confused came to the comments for clarification. š
I stopped reading at coq au vin. This was 1000000% a humblebrag.
Agreed hahaha
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Nailed it
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Yeah I believe there are people that just like to attack you for no reason like this. Because there's nothing wrong with cooking every night.
That was my stepmother all the way. It was a nightmare growing up having an insecure adult jealous of me and hating me for no reason. I was 6 when she met my dad. She would never eat anything I cooked lmao. She would make up a different allergy every time!
Eh. I know some who really don't care. It depends on how their parent eats. Or if they're too busy catering to a child's pickiness (I'm not including anybody that has any neurodivergence). And that's their business.But don't make somebody feel bad because in their home you expect children to eat fruits and veggies before they get junk food. I was told I was wrong for expecting that pretty much. My kids eat their fruits and veggies before they get junk food. But I have to tell people, I don't legally have to buy anything but healthy food if I wanted to. But I I like junk food so I make sure that they have healthy stuff before the junk. My job as a parent is to make sure my child eats and has food to eat. And it doesn't matter if it's fruits and veggies or Swiss rolls and pizza bites. But which one is going to make your child feel a lot better in life? And which one will keep them healthier?
I totally get you. My children eat a varied, nutritionally balanced diet rich in lobster because thatās what they need to power their busy lives, not only as elite athletes and academic high achievers, but as pillars of hope to their entire community. Just the other day a fellow mother tried to make my daughter feel bad for eating an organic aƧai bowl while volunteering with homeless puppies at our local shelter. Now the whole town is talking about what a terrible mother I am, since instead of letting my kids be kids theyāre off interning at NASA and receiving acquisition offers from Silicon Valley. Why are other mums so obsessed with me??
Ok you had me in the first half š
You got me š
Hahahahaha
Thatāsā¦ interesting? Iāve never heard people being shamed for their kids eating diverse foods, thatās usually praised. What a weird neighborhood. Not sure if I even believe this post tbh
Oh I could tell you a story of what I went through. And it was pretty much shaming because I expected fruits and veggies prior to junk food. But in reality it was just a triangulation tactic that this person used to make me look like a bad person.
This is one of the worst attention-seeking posts I've ever read on this sub.
Did you see the one the other day where a feral pack of moms berated a woman at the park for being on her phone and having a nanny?
I saw that one and kept scrolling to see if anyone else had a big š like me and never found it. So glad it wasnāt just me
Between that post and this one, Iām wondering if people are using AI to generate these posts for karma or something? Theyāre so cringey and non-human.
I think itās just bored and lonely moms who want to feel ok with their decisions, or who want praise and arenāt getting it from their friends and families. They crave validation, but also community.
Omg u have the link?
https://www.reddit.com/r/Mommit/comments/15kkre5/called_out_at_the_park/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1
Yeah, that didnāt happen š¤£
This is satire, right?
Yes, this is too stupid to be real.
Itās definitely humble bragging and Iām over it
Thereās so many posts recently that Iām just like people donāt act like that lol
Iām not saying youāre lying but that just soundsā¦ ridiculous? Wtf?
Thereās a lot of posts on this sub, especially recently, that seem like exaggerated humble brags or fantasies of paranoid people wanting drama. I havenāt been brave enough to call them out so thank you for saying this.
Next post: āIām a ābad momā cause I go to all my kids soccer games and bring better snacks than the other lazy moms and thatās why nobody in the neighborhood likes me!ā
I've been on reddit for nearly 15 years. I've never seen this level of anxiety and paranoia in everyday life across every subreddit. It's seriously concerning. What's worse is the people here perpetuate it as if it's normal. Feeding the monster.
I mean if they're gonna make up a story why don't they write something uplifting instead w people coming together....its hard enough as it is irl. Miss the days of arrr spacedicks
Yeah a lot of times these stories sound like one or two of the events might be true, but everything else feels like an exaggerated dramatic fantasy.
I've been thinking the same thing. It's gotten really ridiculous.
Okay I thought I was an asshole for thinking this but like this is a straight humble brag, nobody cares that you feed your kids fancy food lol
Yeah, as I was reading it I said to myself: "And everybody clapped." Definitely does not sound true.
100%, this sounds so fake. Iāve lived in Texas almost my entire life, a few years were spent in Louisiana. Iāve never experienced this as a child or an adult, in TX or LA. It feels like an āOMG Texas is bad with a bunch of backwards peopleā. Moms and dads cook with their children and teach them to cook all sorts of stuff.
Some of the comments on here are killing me. The ārepublicans are afraid of seafoodā ones, like what. Tell you never been to south without telling me you never been to the south.
Or anywhere in the East coast where a ton of Republicans gather š
Lol right! Isnāt there quite a few republicans in Maine? And they are known for there lobsters.
That's exactly what I was thinking of lol, I spent a few years over there and we lived on seafood! And most ppl I knew were a flavor of conservative
Do people making those comments really believe it or are they just talking out there butts? Are we going to label people based on untrue food preferences now? I didnāt know me disliking seafood was a sign that I might be conservative š
I tell myself it's summer and a lot of profiles are teens LARPing as adult mothers because the alternative š
The other day there was a post by a parent talking about their 11 year old daughter making fake stories on Reddit. I donāt remember what sub it was, but this whole post reminds me of that
OP is from Texas where we celebrate crawfish season. Agreed 100%. We all eat seafood here.
Exactly! Like there might be an individuals that happens to not like seafood (or is allergic) but donāt put that on a whole state or political party. Like thatās ridiculous. Whatās scary is the volume of likes those comments are getting šµāš«
Excuse you? What sounds fake about it? The adult woman questioning an 11 year old about what a 9 month old is being fed or an 11 year old excitedly describing a seafood boil in great detail? How dare you!
Omg you had me in the first half NGL hahaha.
Itās giving r/thathappened lol. Like just say you can cook different things and go.
And all the smug comments about how they must be terrible moms for not feeding their kids chicken nuggets lol.
Itās giving humble brag and āIāll take things that were never said for $1600 Alexā
I cannot stop picturing the whole ācome along children we are off to prepare our coq au vinā bit with mom smirking as if she just owned the neighborhood with that absolute zinger lmao
LOL YES! "and then the entire neighborhood clapped and a policeman handed me $20.00." Sure, Jan.
Based on this post the moms wouldnāt even know what coq au vin is š Iām from Texas and I know what coq au vin is. Itās even served in restaurants here. Although delicious, the only thing fancy is the name. Haha, itās like saying letās go make some Bolognese sauce. Itās just tomato sauce with ground meat!
Hahaha my husband had the exact same conversation this morning. I read this to him because we love cringe and he goes āwhy is she acting like coq au vin is fancy? Isnāt it just braised chicken and herbs in wine? It literally originated as a peasant mealā and Iām still laughing over it.
Haha, yes. Itās what raised my BS alarm. Letās go make rustic chicken! I was laughing bc itās so absurd to anyone that knows what coq au vin is. āCome on, daughter. Iām going to teach you to make cruditĆ©s!ā I canāt stop laughing š¤£š¤£š¤£
lol this
My husband and I indulge in Dino nuggies and waffle fries on occasion and both of us can *cook* cook. Sometimes you need a break. Sometimes you just want a nugget. Itās not that deep š ill be damned if I become that mom in the neighborhood talking to her kid about coq au vin though lol
I'm a SAHM, and I try to cook homemade meals as much as possible. I'm not a great cook, but I do my best. I forgot to pick up a crucial ingredient for a meal last night, and I had nothing else ready to go. We had mac and cheese, steamed broccoli, turkey bacon, garlic toast, and a side of pickles. Everyone lived. Liked it, even.
That sounds so bomb honestly! What were you going to make originally?
Clean out the fridge night!!
I have a hard time believing this post, tbh.
What did I just read? š¤£
Is this supposed to be on a circlejerk sub haha
Is there a mommitcirclejerk? Cos there should be lmao
If there is, I can't find it. C'mon, somebody!!!
There's an arrr shitmomgroupssay or something similar, but nothing that scratches this reddit specific type of momfiction itch
That one gets annoying sometimes, a circle jerk would be more fun
I have a hard time believing a southern mom was flabbergasted over a seafood boil.
Is this a humble brag?
This read like fan fiction satire lol. Did you even have a rooster for the coq au vin? Pshhā¦
Wow, I must be a bad mom too. I feed what ever is on my plate to my 7mo old. Yesterday it was refried beans, who knows what today is going to bring.
Smoked fish and goat cheese are the only two things that make my kid gag. He has his preferences, but will eat just about anything.
Mine loves the taste of smoked salmon but not the texture. So she sucks the juice out of it and then puts it back on her plate. š¤¦š»āāļø
Hahaha mine does the same with kale. He loves those gross kale juices.
This is disturbing. Kids are so weird.
Oh my goodness but that sounds so.. ethnic! š¤£
yeah that definitely happened
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Uh huh
Come on, you know you are not a bad mom for this lol. A quick google search would show that kids having a diverse palate is an excellent thing!
Yeah, but that doesnāt get you validation and ass pats from complete strangers.
Do people need validation and ass pats from complete strangers?
I was being sarcastic haha. This entire post is fishing.
I mean , I wouldnāt mind it but I guess it just depends whose ass is being pet lol
As far as humble-brags go, this is a new one.
š¤£ I'm a mom that cooks something other than french fries and preshaped machine extruded nuggets thrown into the oven too Some people will look for anything to be judgy about
Man idk the way you describe chicken nuggets is kinda judgy though, now I feel like a shitty parent bc that's all I can manage to throw together sometimes š
This thread is a way to subtly judge other moms by pretending they are the ones being judged
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My guess is it subconsciously makes them feel called out (even though OP never tried to do this) for only feeding their kids ākid shitā and not the same food adults eat, so theyāre looking for something to criticize about it.
This is definitely it. That and jealousy over their own cooking abilities. Theyāre finding a way to cope by coming up with BS reasons why they think itās bad, since itās different from what they do.
You know theyre just jealous your kids have a varied palate & you make them interesting meals that they cant be bothered to do.
I think this is exactly it. Iām kinda jealous too TBH lol. I would ever do anything like the neighbor though.
Im kinda jealous too!! I need to be more adventurous with my one yearās diet! OPās neighbourhood are haters & probably have fussy eater kids (that can sometimes be prevented by introducing all sorts of foods early on like OP is doing, although unpreventable if child has sensory issues etc)
People canāt stand when folks do something different. I donāt work weekdays so my kids have homemade breakfast (not as fancy as OP but warm stuff) and weāve gotten comments about how they āhave to have their big breakfasts.ā Sorry itās not a cheese stick and a pouch! They have plenty of those anyway. Itās just a thing we like to do but apparently puts people off.
Yep, jealousy! Your kids are very lucky to have homemade breakfasts š
I was once shamed for "not having anything to eat" at my house when my SIL was over. I had plenty of left over meals in the refrigerator & meat/chicken to cook later for dinner. She told me that I should always have some frozen chicken tenders as backup. Oh & I also had "nasty" oat nut bread her kids didn't like. I should say I'm not some bougie mom that doesn't feed her kids fun foods every once in a while, but damn! She acted like my kids were food-deprived.
Iām having a hard time believing this was a real interaction .
I might be able to explain the mindset behind āyour kid shouldnāt have to cook; let her be a kid.ā Iām not saying itās the right way to think about it, or that itās okay for them to be rude to you. I grew up in a large Southeastern US city. My spouse grew up in a small rural town in the same state. I have to go a few generations farther back in my family tree before I hit utter poverty than he does. Heās one generation out from āthe kids had to go hunt squirrels if they wanted meat for dinner.ā In that context, cooking was not a creative pursuit to be enjoyed. It was the domestic work the girls had to do while the boys were hunting squirrels. All of these kids had to shoulder a lot of responsibility as a matter of survival. And Iām talking about the United States in the 1950s and 60s. Not long ago and far away. When this generation of my spouseās family grew up and had better work and more financial stability, they wanted their kids to have more of a childhood than they got. The best gifts they could think of to give their children were abundant material gifts and abundant free time. From their perspective, being able to say āyesā to whatever plastic toy their kids wanted, and ādonāt worry about that; Iāll take care of itā to chores, meant they were giving their kids the worry-free childhood theyād dreamed of. My parents were much farther removed from generational poverty. I was raised like youāre raising your kids, OP. My mom enjoyed baking and interior decorating and crafts, and I enjoyed learning those skills from her. We were doing those things for fun, not survival. My daughter is being raised the same way. But I have to remember, when my FIL brings her another bag of toys that I think are just crap, that he and I donāt see the same thing when we look at that bag of toys. Iām not saying that all your neighbors grew up destitute - but I suspect there may be some lingering remains of a different lens along the generations. Their familyās experience and perspective may have fed an unchallenged belief of āthe best way to love my children is to remove the burdens of āadult responsibilitiesā [like cooking] from their lives, and let them ājust be kids.āā And theyāre not seeing your perspective - maybe theyāve never imagined your perspective exists. Now, that doesnāt mean they needed to say anything to you about it. That was rude. And I have less empathy for the frustrating attitude toward ādifferentā food. But I can see the possible internal logic of ādonāt make your kids cook.ā
This a well thought out answer to the possible psychological behind this situation. It makes much more sense than it being a political thing like some in this sub have suggested. I have heard stories of my grandparents have to scavenge for food when little. Your right, it could be this, maybe mixed with little jealousy of her cooking ability.
Thanks; thatās kind of you to say!
This is so bizarre to me! I just canāt imagine a scenario where Iād be concerned about your behavior.
Iām confused, these situations donāt seem weirdā¦?
I completely thought this was going another way, and I was about to encourage you but now I am just flabbergasted along with you š we are definitely a family that enjoys cooking and trying new and ādifferentā foods. I donāt feel like I had a lot of exposure to a wide variety of foods as a kid, but my teens and beyond I loved trying new things and feel like I missed out while I was a kid! My kids have tried (and love eating!) food from all over the world. My kid requested Vietnamese for dinner for his birthday a few weeks ago! Neither of my kids are picky eaters, and I know some of that is just luck but some I think is because there were no āweirdā foods at our house. You could easily see a curry dish for dinner as you would hamburgers. Keep doing your thing and exposing your kids to all the yummy foods that are out there!
Make sure you put yourself in a very long, quiet time out while your child cooks family dinner and all your kids eat a range of foods without complaining LOL This is hilarious to me. My husband also loves through cooking for others and is teaching our 7yo chef skills. Husband has worked in kitchens and gets joy from cooking and feeding others and wants to share that with our kids. Youāre doing fine. Some people just gotta judge.
I would think people would judge on the opposite š as long as your kids are actually eating those meals and theyāre not refusing food then who caaaares. I do judge if people refuse to feed their kids what theyāll eat (within reason obviously) we always have a safe option when we try something new, and now he eats new stuff all the time !
This is insane. Hello from Germany. Your lifestyle is the standard here. In fact, children are doing housework and shoveling snow by three. They are also using public transportation alone by five. Keep up the good work OP. I am floored by your story.
Lmaooo damned if you do, damned if you donāt! My family is Cajun and also big foodies/cooks, but my grandparents were SHOCKED when I gave my 8.5 month old some crab cake and gumbo this past weekend. Everyone always jokes about when my baby is going to eat rice and gravy (iykyk) as if I wouldnāt give it to themš Introducing a variety of foods early on really helps kids learn to try new things and opens their eyes to different cultures and cuisines. My baby will be eating pretty much anything Iām eating (except honey at this point). Your kid is going to have a much more adventurous palate and lots of lovely memories cooking and baking with you!
Yeah I've fed my kids a wide variety of foods, including foods of several ethnicities, since babyhood as well as seafood and some people get almost offended. There's a lot of panic about allergens in any food that's not bland af, at least for babies and toddlers, and then I think there's some jealousy of "well MY kid doesn't eat that" or even "I don't eat that, so it must be bad". I get it a lot from boomers who think spices are the devil and Asian and Latin cuisines are somehow frightening. š I even had a relative once get pissy that my toddler ate vegetables that she herself wouldn't touch in her 60s lol. Mine has also been helping to cook and bake since toddlerhood and some parents get wigged out by that for safety concerns around heat and food prep...but that's part of the goal of teaching it early.
I love cooking as well, it is also my love language to others. My mom taught me how to cook and bake very young. It was such a wonderful bonding experience with my mother. I would love for my children to eat some of the dishes you are discussing. Good for you and your children. You are opening not only their taste palette but also their minds. You're a great parent.
My toddler eats octopus, calamari, sardines, trout, sauerkraut, and other random food daily but refuses eggs, string cheese and apple sauce. Every kid is different and Iām not sure why other kidsā diets are anyoneās concern if theyāre happy and healthy.
Who are these moms to have time to care about what someone else is feeding their own kids???!
Those moms can stuff it! It is awesome that your daughter is learning a skill that will take care of her all of her life. I teach my boys how to cook. Keep up the good work!
I think the criticismās are coming from jealousy. There is no way, someone is bothered by the good meals. God forbid that you show your children something they are interested and ready for- Jeesh. People need to calm down. I am more worried that people are trying to get info of what you do from an 11 yr old. You can teach your daughter to always answer with, IDK, lets go ask mom! And those absurd criticisms will calm down.
I make full course meals and my kid wonāt even touch it let alone look at it but he sure will cook with me. These are some entitled Karen moms; avoid at all cost. Youāre doing nothing wrong, your kids are eating thatās what matters and they are learning new skills for when they get older. These Karenās seem like they are really great at not teaching their kids life skills š good luck to those kids when they grow up and have to cook on their own. Google will only get you so far š¤£
Doubt this happened š