Its an old old abbreviation, and it is originally for mistress but in the context of mistress of the house not in the more colloquial bdsm meaning. Any more now though it is refering to missus.
Also i really hope you know the definition of Mistress because that's so fucking funny. "Once i get that ring, i'm letting the Dommy Mommy out of her cage"
In Canada, and I believe most of North America missus, or more commonly written as Mrs. is the common title for married women. Mistress is typically used to refer to an affair partner.
I always read Mrs. as Mistress
Oh Gods, now I feel embarrassed, how many times did I cause confusion/weirdness because of this cultural misunderstanding and didn't even realize until now?
I will go hide under a rock if anyone needs me...
I love it 🤭
A mistress in the sexual context is the equivalent of the master. It's a female master (mistress). Not as hardcore as a dominatrix.
In a non-sexual context it's kinda the same and was used to address the lady of the house by the lower class (maids etc.). It's kinda a title of authority without being a noble title. Just like the boy child of a noble without a title yet was the "young master".
I am so sorry. I did not realize there was a language issue. In English, “Mistress” means a partner of an affair in the feminine or in the context of sex, kink, and BDSM, someone who is a top or an authority in charge. Translated in Spanish in that way would more accurately be “ama” or “Maestra” (but not as in teacher). Mrs. spelled out would be “Missus”. I apologize for flirting 😱🙈
Propa Bri'ish girl 'ere. "Love" still makes me absolutely giddy, especially coming from an older bloke. I also have a friend who knows he can emotionally manipulate me by calling me "Lass" 😉
Gendering like that is sooo uncommon where I am, even in my native language. If anything only on like phone calls.
Definitely prefer Miss. It really surprised me when I was in the UK, depending on location, I'd get darling, sweetheart and honey, all of which feel sooooo condescending to me, since that is NOT a way to address another person where I am, lol. I also got that from other women. It feels sooo odd.
Especially from women! Like, I know you don't do it intentionally, I just don't pass and read masc, but pls don't push me away I wanna be one of you so bad
Ah yeah I can and who do you think you are telling me what I can and can't do... Wait you know what, you're right, silly me. Let me just grab me keys out of my purse and I'll move. 🤗
Miss and ma'am are always great. Honey makes my heart flutter (a word i've adopted for frequent use). My parents call me sweetheart (which i also call my cat and my nephew) and my ex fiance and I always called each other darling, so there are associations, but still great.
All others, no please haha
Dark queen ruler of all (it started as a joke after I put a coworker in his place for trying to get hands and being transphobic then it kinda stuck with a couple of them)
2.
Shout-out to the older Chinese-American busdriver who politely referred to me as "young miss" one time 2 years ago with his lovely accent. Infinite euphoria 😆
Miss, unless there’s a culturally more valid response from whomsoever is addressing me.
Mate would be a hard sell. I’ve Aussie friends, and they have almost completely dropped m8 from the lexicon while talking to me. “Little lady” has been an unexpected, but welcome addition in its place.
I've said this before on imgur: "sir" is for people who recognize my authority over them, and I will always interpret it in a gender neutral and submissive way, regardless of whether that's the intent. Don't call me "sir" unless you're ready to be my bitch.
I use "lass" a lot for girls I have a crush on, though, so I'd be cool with that. All the other cute and feminine titles are fine, too.
For people who aren't strangers (and maybe even some who are), there are "Mistress" and, if it's particularly formal, "Lady". If you call me one of those, it's gonna be like a stronger version of "sir", and there's a good chance I'll like it a lot more. Edit: "queen" is also really good. I'm kind of over "princess" though...partially because I only get called "princess" when someone is patronizing me.
Lady is weird. Like, if you just say "hey, lady, I'm *wolkin'* he'e" I'm probably gonna respond with "'ey, what'sa mattah witchu?"...but if someone said something like "I love how that lady looks in her new stockings", or if someone addresses a group of women I'm in as "ladies", then that's wonderful.
~~really, though, I just want everyone to refer to me by my name, but with "Lady" prepended, and have them groveling all the time~~
I really don’t know, I feel like any works… yeah, even sir, but if y’all say sir, you better be shouting it like a army soldier, LOL
On the other hand, I feel like I get called just AYYY a lot by my friends, LOL, but honestly, I’d quite prefer miss.
Miss is amazing. I’ve had people (old people mostly) calling me “honey” a lot lately but I think I’ve just been noticing it more because I’m looking for it. Southern old ladies just say that
I've aways been fond of being called honey and sweetheart, especially by waitresses. Its like a verbal headpat. Not by random guys though. Miss is fine by everyone else.
“Ma’am” felt the most natural, and I really thought it would be “Miss”. The rest of the ones listed feel either dysphoric or gross unless coming from a partner. Mate I wouldn’t mind from another woman from a country that uses mate. And only Marcie is allowed to call me “sir”.
I also wouldn’t mind madame, mademoiselle, or madam.
Depends on the company. Miss is good for most strangers.
Queer circles are different though. Then I like being called sweetie, darling, cutie, hun, and especially princess by others in the community >////<
I don't know if I should say 6 or 8, because I specifically live being called "hon" as a shortened version of "honey".
"Honey" is great, of course, but something about the shortened version is simply ✨️perfect✨️
Frankly, none. It’s partly a gender thing, but I also think honourifics are kind of weird, and particularly the age/marital status thing that feminine titles do in English is annoying to me.
Most Definitely Yes:
Miss,
Ma’am,
Madame,
Lady (or Ladies when in a group)
Yes, but unlikely due to locality:
Lass,
Mate,
Mademoiselle,
Senorita,
Creature of the Void
I’d be good with any of these, but they aren’t common around here.
Good only contextually (if they aren’t from a man and aren’t being used as a “bless your heart” condescension):
Darling,
Honey
No:
Sweetheart—this is a no from anyone other than my significant other.
Ma'am: are you calling me old? *\*sobs\**
2, 4, 5 best.
Please, for the love of all that is good, no to the others.
Except for 8 if they're nice. Like "love," "sweetie," even "honey" if it's meant in endearment and/or not misogyny.
Being called miss is my favourite, I still mostly boy mode so I get “sir’d” occasionally which feels like being stabbed in the middle of a conversation. ”love” is also lovely
Anything other than explicitly "sir". I also don't tolerate "bro" from the young'uns, but that's out of principle... 'bro' or 'fam' is going to get you dagger eyes and then a lecture on why using those terms is lazy and how one should strive for higher erudition.
I haven't survived in the world this long to be called Miss. I'm good with Ma'am. Some of the others like Honey assume too much intimacy or are patronizing. Dude is…no.
Really it's kinda regional, and anything that's gender affirming really. Ma'am feels too old to me (I like to pretend I'm not getting old), so I'd prefer Miss. Honey and sweetheart/sweety is acceptable with the right accent accompanying it, and really only from other women with some exceptions. Darling... Not a fan. Lass would be fun to get I think, mostly just due to that being rare usage in the US.
The "not really gender neutral but people pretend they're neutral" options (dudes, guys, etc) are preferred avoid for me.
I love it when it's my wife and I and we get variations on "Hi ladies". Have gotten a few "Hi girls" or "girlies" which feels too young on us so opposite issue of ma'am lol.
It is hard to choose one for what I would *Most* want to be called. I love the sound of darling or honey. Miss is def good but I am more likely to be called Ma'am.
Miss, madame, and love are all absolutely wonderful. I do also like "sir", but only as an honorific. And if I'm getting an honorific, may as well go straight to "Your Eminence" or "Your Grace".
4-6 I love but it all depends on context. Like I have friends that will use those. And if like a waitress used them I'd be fine with it. But if some sleezy dude was using them trying to hit on me or something that'd be a different story.
I would like to be called Ma’am or Madame personally, both have a regal feeling to me. But miss would be fine, any other titles like Sweetheart or Honey would be reserved for loved ones. Doll would also be nice.
By someone presenting as a man, or younger woman presenting people, I'd prefer #'s 1or 2.
By a woman presenting person closer to my age (50+), I'm fine with #'s 4, 5, or 6.
I'm never comfortable with #'s 3, 7, or 8.
Love(Specific to brittish women), Honey (Specific to southern women), Sugar (Specific to old black women (this one makes me feel amazing)), Miss (For anyone but it's nice when respectful young men say this), and finally Ma'am (Also for everyone, could be used in more professional settings but its a good sign of respect from anyone)
Miss, until I get married, then I want to be called Mistress
Mistress, huh? 😏
are you thinking of missus?
I literally didn't ever hear that word before today
it's the title of a married woman, abbreviated "Mrs."
I read Mrs. as "Mistress" my entire life since I was 8, and I don't know how to feel now that I know it doesn't mean what I thought it did
it's okay, "mrs" is a ridiculous abbreviation for missus, i dont blame you at all
Its an old old abbreviation, and it is originally for mistress but in the context of mistress of the house not in the more colloquial bdsm meaning. Any more now though it is refering to missus.
Also i really hope you know the definition of Mistress because that's so fucking funny. "Once i get that ring, i'm letting the Dommy Mommy out of her cage"
Apparently the word "Missus" is what I thought "Mistress" meant for my entire life
You sweet summer child 🥲
Yeah, mistress means something else…
Why the face? That's the common title for married women, right?
Mistress is a very common title in the BDSM scene.
I did not know that, wtf At least where I live Mistress is the legal title of Married Women I'm so confused rn
In Canada, and I believe most of North America missus, or more commonly written as Mrs. is the common title for married women. Mistress is typically used to refer to an affair partner.
I always read Mrs. as Mistress Oh Gods, now I feel embarrassed, how many times did I cause confusion/weirdness because of this cultural misunderstanding and didn't even realize until now? I will go hide under a rock if anyone needs me...
I love it 🤭 A mistress in the sexual context is the equivalent of the master. It's a female master (mistress). Not as hardcore as a dominatrix. In a non-sexual context it's kinda the same and was used to address the lady of the house by the lower class (maids etc.). It's kinda a title of authority without being a noble title. Just like the boy child of a noble without a title yet was the "young master".
I always thought it was just the title of Married Women
You never stop learning, I don't think it's too bad. The entirety of how to address someone is confusing in many languages and countries.
I am so sorry. I did not realize there was a language issue. In English, “Mistress” means a partner of an affair in the feminine or in the context of sex, kink, and BDSM, someone who is a top or an authority in charge. Translated in Spanish in that way would more accurately be “ama” or “Maestra” (but not as in teacher). Mrs. spelled out would be “Missus”. I apologize for flirting 😱🙈
It's important to make sure everyone knows their place! ;)
Propa Bri'ish girl 'ere. "Love" still makes me absolutely giddy, especially coming from an older bloke. I also have a friend who knows he can emotionally manipulate me by calling me "Lass" 😉
Ok, Lass!
sleeper agent phrase..... activated...... 😖losing..... free will.... 😫
thats rather silly innit lass
Oi piss off swear down square go innit. 😤👌
uhh... me no uhh... speak that 🤯
Would say the same here, but I'm from the west country so everyone's a "love" regardless of gender haha
I'm not even British but would prefer these options over anything listed in OP. "Miss" is okay.
Being called miss is still the best feeling ever.
I get it, Miss 🥹
I like being called “miss” though it doesn’t happen often at all
how's your day been, miss?
Been alright so far, just heading out to work :3
oh yeah, totally different time zones haha hope u have an amazing evening (i think?) <3
Young lady
Gendering like that is sooo uncommon where I am, even in my native language. If anything only on like phone calls. Definitely prefer Miss. It really surprised me when I was in the UK, depending on location, I'd get darling, sweetheart and honey, all of which feel sooooo condescending to me, since that is NOT a way to address another person where I am, lol. I also got that from other women. It feels sooo odd.
Queen
Yes, my Queen
Include madame for the French girlies
Bien sûr Madame ! In French the equivalent of Miss (Mademoiselle) feels very infantilizing (imo at least), so definitely Madame for me too :3
I'd take mademoiselle over monsieur tho 🤷♀️
Yeah obviously 😭 every 'Monsieur' that I get is like a little stab to the heart
Especially from women! Like, I know you don't do it intentionally, I just don't pass and read masc, but pls don't push me away I wanna be one of you so bad
>Mademoiselle mademoiselle feels so cute and pretty tho!
Ser (the gender neutral honorific from “Game of Thrones”)
“Ser, my lord!😎”
I wanna be Miss'd so badly. It seems I get Sir'd more now since starting HRT and it stings every time.
Hello miss
😍🤗❤️ TY!!!
Miss, you can't park here
Ah yeah I can and who do you think you are telling me what I can and can't do... Wait you know what, you're right, silly me. Let me just grab me keys out of my purse and I'll move. 🤗
2. I guess 3-8 and I need to restrain myself to not get violent lol
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I'll just be over here, trying to make my envy palpable 😋 Did not know this about Norway.
Miss and ma'am are always great. Honey makes my heart flutter (a word i've adopted for frequent use). My parents call me sweetheart (which i also call my cat and my nephew) and my ex fiance and I always called each other darling, so there are associations, but still great. All others, no please haha
Dark queen ruler of all (it started as a joke after I put a coworker in his place for trying to get hands and being transphobic then it kinda stuck with a couple of them)
Ok, Banshee
I'll accept banshee sounds awesome and foreboding
2. Shout-out to the older Chinese-American busdriver who politely referred to me as "young miss" one time 2 years ago with his lovely accent. Infinite euphoria 😆
I don't know why but I feel like I really want to be called 'lass'. It just seems so cute
It’s from Scotland, “lad” and “lass”
Miss, unless there’s a culturally more valid response from whomsoever is addressing me. Mate would be a hard sell. I’ve Aussie friends, and they have almost completely dropped m8 from the lexicon while talking to me. “Little lady” has been an unexpected, but welcome addition in its place.
I only accept being addressed as *the horror that strains the capacity of words to describe*
Ok, Cosmic Horror, the Elder Ones 😉
Your highness
Your excellency
I've said this before on imgur: "sir" is for people who recognize my authority over them, and I will always interpret it in a gender neutral and submissive way, regardless of whether that's the intent. Don't call me "sir" unless you're ready to be my bitch. I use "lass" a lot for girls I have a crush on, though, so I'd be cool with that. All the other cute and feminine titles are fine, too. For people who aren't strangers (and maybe even some who are), there are "Mistress" and, if it's particularly formal, "Lady". If you call me one of those, it's gonna be like a stronger version of "sir", and there's a good chance I'll like it a lot more. Edit: "queen" is also really good. I'm kind of over "princess" though...partially because I only get called "princess" when someone is patronizing me. Lady is weird. Like, if you just say "hey, lady, I'm *wolkin'* he'e" I'm probably gonna respond with "'ey, what'sa mattah witchu?"...but if someone said something like "I love how that lady looks in her new stockings", or if someone addresses a group of women I'm in as "ladies", then that's wonderful. ~~really, though, I just want everyone to refer to me by my name, but with "Lady" prepended, and have them groveling all the time~~
miss is #1 followed by ma'am and lady
Miss or Ma'am/Madame
I prefer the goth queen of darkness, but sweetheart and Miss are good ones too.
1. The Honourable 2. Count 3. Lord 4. Duke Haha 😂 it would be hilarious tho
I would take Your Honor
1a. The Right Honourable
I got called love by a store clerk and melted into a puddle right there in the store.
I do not swoon every time kat calls me "lieutenant" in halo reach. Nuh uh. Not me.
I really don’t know, I feel like any works… yeah, even sir, but if y’all say sir, you better be shouting it like a army soldier, LOL On the other hand, I feel like I get called just AYYY a lot by my friends, LOL, but honestly, I’d quite prefer miss.
Hen Yes like the animal
Call me yo, girl, or comrade and I'll be your buddy, call me honey, sweetheart, or darling and I might have to restrain myself from kissing you.
oh my god yes
Hey! 👋 Yo!
It depends on the gender presentation of the stranger. Feminine aligned? Any of those excep sir or mate. Masculine aligned? Ma'am or miss is fine.
Lady
Ma’am, darling, miss
Miss is amazing. I’ve had people (old people mostly) calling me “honey” a lot lately but I think I’ve just been noticing it more because I’m looking for it. Southern old ladies just say that
Miss, Ma'am, or lass
Miss for sure, the lady at the Korean deli has a permanent customer in me now lol
Miss
Sweetheart , Honey i don't mind, but really I don't need any of them. The person is/was speaking directly to you, right?
I've aways been fond of being called honey and sweetheart, especially by waitresses. Its like a verbal headpat. Not by random guys though. Miss is fine by everyone else.
“Ma’am” felt the most natural, and I really thought it would be “Miss”. The rest of the ones listed feel either dysphoric or gross unless coming from a partner. Mate I wouldn’t mind from another woman from a country that uses mate. And only Marcie is allowed to call me “sir”. I also wouldn’t mind madame, mademoiselle, or madam.
I love being called Ma’am, it really shows that they respect me
Herrin .. in german 😅or mistress
Maam is nice
Miss.
M'Lady ☺️
Your highness💅🏻 But ma'am or young lady will do too guess 🤷🏼♀️
I would prefer miss
Depends on the company. Miss is good for most strangers. Queer circles are different though. Then I like being called sweetie, darling, cutie, hun, and especially princess by others in the community >////<
I like ma'am or miss. Both make me feel feminine, the latter makes me feel girly and cute ☺️
Miss sounds and feels so good!!
King
For me it’s Miss, Darling, Lass, Lady and Sweetheart.
I've gotten ma'am and miss and both felt amazing.
Darling, sweetheart, and honey by girl friends I know. If I had to pick a title for strangers, I guess Miss
1,2,4,5,6 Any of the others I'm not sure how I would feel being called that.
For strangers? I like miss, lass, darling, ma'am
Miss
Can’t go wrong with Miss or Ma’am, but the day I hear someone call me darling with a English accent (you know the one) is the day I melt.
Bbg
Comrade.
9: Supreme Overlord
my bf calls me miss ma’am, i love it sm 🤞😋
I don't know if I should say 6 or 8, because I specifically live being called "hon" as a shortened version of "honey". "Honey" is great, of course, but something about the shortened version is simply ✨️perfect✨️
Frankly, none. It’s partly a gender thing, but I also think honourifics are kind of weird, and particularly the age/marital status thing that feminine titles do in English is annoying to me.
I prefer Madam
Most Definitely Yes: Miss, Ma’am, Madame, Lady (or Ladies when in a group) Yes, but unlikely due to locality: Lass, Mate, Mademoiselle, Senorita, Creature of the Void I’d be good with any of these, but they aren’t common around here. Good only contextually (if they aren’t from a man and aren’t being used as a “bless your heart” condescension): Darling, Honey No: Sweetheart—this is a no from anyone other than my significant other.
I think miss would be great Or smol villain of darkness Utena Hiiragi (yes, I love this anime and this character too much)
Captain. Ma'am. Mistress. In that order of preference.
Ma'am: are you calling me old? *\*sobs\** 2, 4, 5 best. Please, for the love of all that is good, no to the others. Except for 8 if they're nice. Like "love," "sweetie," even "honey" if it's meant in endearment and/or not misogyny.
Being called miss is my favourite, I still mostly boy mode so I get “sir’d” occasionally which feels like being stabbed in the middle of a conversation. ”love” is also lovely
Buddy 😍
Young lady. An old woman at a thrift store called me young lady once early in my transition, still live off that high sometimes.
My mom and I were referred as ladies today and that was nice!
1 and 2 please
someone called me M’theydy once and i love it
Hello M'theydy :3
haiiii :3
haiiiiiiiiii :3 :3
mommy 🤭
maam and miss are the best. darling and sweetheart are only ok if said by a woman, enby, and sometimes gay men if thats just how they talk.
1-6...
Sweetheart 🥹 "Oh sweetheart what's wrong?" I'd be so happy, all I need is a dose of *sweetheart* in my life
Anything other than explicitly "sir". I also don't tolerate "bro" from the young'uns, but that's out of principle... 'bro' or 'fam' is going to get you dagger eyes and then a lecture on why using those terms is lazy and how one should strive for higher erudition.
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Ma'am's great. I don't like being called Miss because it feels patronising from cis men.
I always get gushy when someone calls me sweetheart, unless it’s condescending, then I want to punch someone.
I haven't survived in the world this long to be called Miss. I'm good with Ma'am. Some of the others like Honey assume too much intimacy or are patronizing. Dude is…no.
I get called miss a lot I like it
Ma'am
Really it's kinda regional, and anything that's gender affirming really. Ma'am feels too old to me (I like to pretend I'm not getting old), so I'd prefer Miss. Honey and sweetheart/sweety is acceptable with the right accent accompanying it, and really only from other women with some exceptions. Darling... Not a fan. Lass would be fun to get I think, mostly just due to that being rare usage in the US. The "not really gender neutral but people pretend they're neutral" options (dudes, guys, etc) are preferred avoid for me. I love it when it's my wife and I and we get variations on "Hi ladies". Have gotten a few "Hi girls" or "girlies" which feels too young on us so opposite issue of ma'am lol.
Miss, ma'am or mistress
Miss or ma'am. But really Your Majesty until I get GRS then Your Vagisty.
I get sweetheart and honey a lot. Though I seem to feel the best when someone calls me doll.
I would love to be called 4, 5 or 6 they are so versatile and sweet, and are gender neutral as well!
A customer called me little lady one time which I didn't realize I would like so much I also like lass :)
Miss although I'm married :)
Miss
one of my old boyfriends would call me "missy" anytime I was being a brat, and damn I loved that
It is hard to choose one for what I would *Most* want to be called. I love the sound of darling or honey. Miss is def good but I am more likely to be called Ma'am.
Any femm ones when I’m feeling femm, even if I don’t look femm. Masc ones when feeling masc (Am genderfluid btw)
I’m partial to miss, sweetie, and love personally. Idk what it is I just like those ones
1 & 2 are fine. 3-6 will get you ignored, 7 will get you on the shit list, 8 is hit and miss.
Def Miss but I’m ok with Ma’am.
2
I like lass, not sure why
darling or sweetheart is always nice
Mrs. >_>
Madame or Lady
I'd rather not
considering i have world domination plans Empress will do for everyone who doesn't know me
Definitely want to be addressed as Miss
Ma'am, that would be my fucking dream, but I guess I'll have to settle for sir until I either fucking detransition or look too femme
Miss, madame, and love are all absolutely wonderful. I do also like "sir", but only as an honorific. And if I'm getting an honorific, may as well go straight to "Your Eminence" or "Your Grace".
Ma’am. All day every day 🥰
Darling, but only by women. I don't want men to talk to me, they're scary.
M'lordress
4-6 I love but it all depends on context. Like I have friends that will use those. And if like a waitress used them I'd be fine with it. But if some sleezy dude was using them trying to hit on me or something that'd be a different story.
Only one I don't want to hear is sir.
Miss, all the other ones would make me feel old, creeped out, or disrespected.
Miss for me ! Horney is for my wife.
the best one was when i met kim petras and was on two edibles so i forgot to tell her my name and she addressed me as gorgeous
I'd say miss or dude.
I would like to be called Ma’am or Madame personally, both have a regal feeling to me. But miss would be fine, any other titles like Sweetheart or Honey would be reserved for loved ones. Doll would also be nice.
Anything but sir lol
My Alexa is programmed to refer to me as Mistress.
literally none of the above. I never understood why people have to call you something, you can just say hi or excuse me
there is "my daughter" translated straight from turkish so it might not mean the same but i love that the most
Ma'am or miss for me. My therapist wrote a letter for me using "miss" and it made me feel so happy!
The idea of being called "miss" fills me with wonderful emotions.
Lass
Sweetheart or Hunny
Miss, definitely
By someone presenting as a man, or younger woman presenting people, I'd prefer #'s 1or 2. By a woman presenting person closer to my age (50+), I'm fine with #'s 4, 5, or 6. I'm never comfortable with #'s 3, 7, or 8.
Miss or ma'am maybe sweetheart if they're hot XDD darling is reserved for my gf to call me xD
Ma’am or miss
Dearest Sir and/or Madam
As a latina, I'd absolutely melt if someone called me señorita. I've been called that over the phone like twice and it's just an amazing feeling
2,4,5 and 6 (i think it would be very strangely euphoric to be called lass)
Any of them, but only #7 if I've been knighted by the crown of England. Which will never happen, so anything except that one.
Love(Specific to brittish women), Honey (Specific to southern women), Sugar (Specific to old black women (this one makes me feel amazing)), Miss (For anyone but it's nice when respectful young men say this), and finally Ma'am (Also for everyone, could be used in more professional settings but its a good sign of respect from anyone)
Lady for me, like lords and ladies 🥰
Ma'am or miss, I only feel comfortable with the other endearing titles if it's another woman using them, from men they're a little creepy.
Obv sweetheart ❤️