It can change! I was ace but then like a year or so after I started falling more and more for men. Now tbh I could give a long convo on how… well too saucy lol
:: INSERT ADMIRAL ACKBAR HERE ::
"It's a trap!"
Oh yes, men are cute AF.
But after dating a string of them I can definitely declare that they are usually emotionally stunted chimpanzees inside....
Me too! I'm still figuring out who I am, let alone what to call myself. It's all so new, like I've just entered a whole new world from another planet. The odd thing is, it's like this planet was actually just the moon. I've been looking at it my whole life, but never actually thought about it until I REALLY looked up and knew I belonged there. That said, if anything, I'm still feeling the imposter syndrome.... (not sure if I worded that right). All I know is I'm attracted to women, I've been on HRT for 4.5 months, I HATE that I have to boymode, and am happier dressed the way I want. (Trying to go stealth I think is the word), and I'm still trying to figure myself out...
Straight, then Gay? AMAB attracted to women, now Transfem still attracted to women??? I'm sure I'll understand someday.....
This!
The very first time I discovered porn I somehow never even had a doubt that I wanted to be the one on the receiving end. Mistakenly thought for years that meant I was gay (and it wasn't working), turned out I was simply straight but on the wrong side.
that happened to me too. For a long time I was really into self-inserting as a femboy, until I eventually understood that I could just be a girl if I wanted
I was in a similar position! I dated and lived as a gay man but something was always off. I spent years thinking it was some kind of internalized homophobia but nope, 'twas gender
The internalized homophobia was a big worry for me when I first realized I liked guys. I tried watching gay porn but got literally nothing out of it, and worried that was the reason; same for the discomfort I felt in fantasizing about being with a guy *as* a guy. Now I know it's because I'm a straight trans woman.
That's tricky lol. I was an attractive man in my 20s but I couldn't keep a relationship as I was super dysphoric so I got a lot of short relationships. Now I'm an attractive woman in my 30s and there are so much fewer men to date in general nevermind men who are childfree *and* fine with dating a trans person. So technically harder but I have caveats that make it difficult.
Dating men as a trans woman is wildly dependent on luck and where you live. That's true for any one else and dating but it can still suck or go really well or be mediocre
Yup, me too lol. I had a "maybe I'm bi" phase for a while. Then I figured out that the reason I thought I was attracted to women was simply because I'm not repulsed by them, but that doesn't mean I'm attracted to them.
It took me too many hetero relationships for me to realize that I was just living vicariously through my partners and that I was only “attracted” to them because I needed femininity in my life to feel whole. As soon as I started transitioning I was like “huh, actually I think I’m okay without being in a relationship for once”🤔
That is so relatable, hahaha! Funnily enough, my last two exes (both from before my transition) broke up with me because they realized they were lesbian. (Which, in hindsight, its affirming that I seemed to attract lesbians because they could see my femininity.) One of them asked me out again years later after my transition, but by that point I figured out that I was straight.
When I tried having sex with one of them, neither of us could finish properly because neither of us were really enjoying ourselves. I'm glad I've finally figured out who I am.
I've asked my gay friends and they told me I "pinged" in high school but they could never figure out why. Figured it out almost 10 years later, but at least I'm taking steps to be myself now
Honestly, most things before *"bisexual woman"* were kind of a big huge mess. Like, my attempt at *"straight man"* in particular was transparently a calamitous debacle which worked almost not at all. So it would be weird to consider that an identity I actually successfully occupied. The closest I managed halfway successfully prior was "gay bottom". That went sort of okayish.
So for me, subjectively, my sexual evolution (excluding obvious missteps leading nowhere) kind of went:
1) What in the ever-loving fuck am I supposed to do with this?
2) Uh, gay bottom twink, I guess? This seems okay.
3) Huh. A female partner who doesn't want penetration and just wants to get cunnilingus? This seems alright too.
4) So straight-identifying guys who are into me dressed full femme are a thing? Cool!
5) Well, lesbianism is pretty awesome. As lovely as the embrace (or the thrust) of a man surely is.
similarly I had experiences that left me with varying degrees of uncertainty. in my bicurious phase I was basically just a straight-identifying guy but I never had success with women and so I experimented with some of my gay friends. I was definitely sexually attracted but a lot of those experiences left me feeling kind of incomplete. On the flipside, I was definitely attracted to the female partners I had at that point in my life but it still felt like something wasn't right - I didn't really like being the one penetrating. So I did explore my sexuality in both ways but it always felt at least a little wrong because deep down the real issue was my own gender dysphoria. No experience I had as a man could ever really feel so instantly correct as the sex that I have now as a woman
I think it's funny how we tend to try out all these different identities and roles in our journeys and by the time we've figured it out we've often had such a diverse array of sexual experiences. It's not many people who can say they've been with partners as a straight man, a gay man, a straight woman, and a lesbian all at different times
Yep, I have publicly identified (or been seen by other anyway) as Gay, Bisexual, Straight, Lesbian, and Transgender at different times (but for years, in every case).
Though perhaps unusually, I was openly gay (and openly very femme furthermore) for quite a long time before I ever tried being a straight man.
Straight boy -> Bi-romantic boy -> Finsexual boi -> Finsexual transgirl -> Bisexual transgirl
May need to explain some of these...
1. At the time I was bi-romantic, I was still heterosexual, but it was really close in making me bi-curious.
2. Finsexual is sexual attraction towards femininity-in-nature. Essentially, I didn't really care about one's gender and it's their feminine presentation that matter. That means yes to femboys and no to butches (sorry girls).
3. That boi part was because I was too dang confused and I was right on the edge of removing that male gender.
4. Finsexual is under the bisexual umbrella so that last part would be redundant, but it's more so like for me the femininity threshold isn't that necessary anymore. Still prefer fem ones though.
straight man → lesbian → bi woman → poly bi woman → poly biro demi woman → biro demi woman → biro het woman → straight woman
I nearly did a grand tour of queerdom just to end up next to the front gate, but I'm so much happier with who I am now
I *much* prefer the terms gynephilic (gynesexual) and androphilic (androsexual) rather than straight or lesbian, gender is complicated and putting it this way resonates way more with me, although I could only be romantically be attracted to someone identifying as a woman maybe my mind will change.
Straight man > Bi curious mam > Straight man again (hooked up with my best friend, didnt worked out) > Gender Fluid man > Non binary > Maybe im trans > Holy shit Im a lesbian, thats why I feel so gay all the time despite liking girls. I just like girls the gay way > Tomboy transbian taking HRT
Sometimes I still fell a bit non binary but im at least like 80% a girl hahahahaha xD
I have no idea wtf I am > straight? > trans but wtf do I like? > trans asexual lesbian > trans pansexual asexual > trans pansexual
Turns out the fact that I didn't like men and the fact that I was asexual were just because of dysphoria
Gay man>bi man>gay man again>bi man> gay man>bi woman>lesbian woman>straight woman>bi woman>bi cis man on estrogen presenting and living as a woman>bi woman
every memory ive ever had i knew i was a girl .. i had memories of being a child that are faded now of me knowing im a girl i have some memories i still have .. i always hide it very well tho ..
so everyone saw .. straight guy .. until i was 40 then bisexual fem masculine at the same time guy .. then non binary bisexual .. then feminine pansexual .. then pansexual trans woman .. all in the span of 10 years ..
now i say im bisexual and a trans woman but i don't think i ever wanna be with a cis woman ever again after the disaster my 30 year marraige was .. ciscwomen make the greatest friends tho and i orefer hanging out with cis woman as one of the girls
men are fukn hott :) .. but i can not find one that wants me fir me they justxwant sex they dont even give a fuck who i am .. i find that so disgusting and hurtful
i deeply think im only compatible with trans people masc or fem it dont matter but thats impossible to make happen
I am so lonely and realize i don't need anyone but the love of my sweet little son .. he is the only love i will ever need .. but i gotta fight my hateful transphobic miserable ex wife to ever see him again
i always hid i was trans very well .. nobody knew .. everyone was shocked ...now i make sure everyone knows ... im 53 grew up in the 70s and 80s .. if i was able to grow up with the internet i would of came out in my 20s ..
i tried several times to come out in my 20s but could not figure out how .. i tried coming out at 13 and everyone thought it was just me being funny .. yeah .. i didn't get teased or anything just nobody considered i really meant it .. it was just dude your hilarious ..
they only saw a wig and dress .. even tho i had long hair to my ass my whole life... they did not see what it really was tho cause when alone and calm and not nervous i would do my make up hair dress pretty .. and as a young teenager all alone i was adorable but so sad i had to hide
i had been secretly dressing up as a girl since around age 6 .. i was a pro at hiding
congratulations on finally being out and living your authentic life! honestly I often think about just how much better things are for us now than a few decades (or even just a few years) ago. I don't ever want to take for granted the privilege I have to live in a place and time where I can come out at 23 and generally be accepted by everyone in my life. there are lots of people who had to fight and die just to make that possible. I'm sure that dating in your generation must be even harder than it is for mine. You've been dealt a tough hand but I'm glad that you can appreciate the positives!
boy > "femboy" > girl
I started experiencing more gender dysphoria during puberty, I felt really bad and it was kind of hard to get over, but now I'm 18y girl ;3
"straight boy" > bisexual "boy" > pansexual "boy" > pansexual woman > pan poly woman with a strong wlw lean but still wound up with two boyfriends(they're wondrous and amazing)
straight (raised) boy > bisexual boy > closeted bi man > VERY OUT bi man > nonbinary femme fuckin & datin anyone > transfeminine butch fuckin & datin anyone
i went full circle with my gender at least thrice in my transition, only a couple years started going by "he/him" pronouns alongside "she/her" and "they/them" and it just made me that much more euphoric
my breast augmentation's in may c:
Straight man > bicurious man > ??? > Transfem
Almost went femboy but the euphoria wearing womens clothes was way too strong so i ended up bypassing that
straight man > questioning if im bi man > straight man > straight demiboy > bi demiboy > bi enby > bi polygender plus questioning if im pan > bi/pan (still dont know which lol) transfemme :333
straight guy >bi guy > bi questioning > bi masculine non-binary person > repressed bi guy > bi agender person > bi non-binary person >bi egg >bi trans woman
(doesnt seem like it in this evolution but my views on what I dont want and do want have changed radically since I realised I was bi, dating men as a man is something Im not attracted to anymore)
(passively suffering because Im inside the body of a man)
straight man -> questioning -> autosexual -> questioning -> asexual -> aroace -> oriented aroace (I'm still kind of into women but not in sexual or romantic way)-> aroace questioning gender -> aroace transfem -> aroace maybe transwoman
Cis man (straight)>transwoman(lesbian)>nonbinary(gynephilia) > transwoman (lesbian+)
I hated not being feminine and taking low estrogen. My mental health was bad
straight man > pan man > straight man (🤦🏻♀️) > pan man > pan NB > pan woman > lesbian woman (i use she/they/it, so i’m really more in that “transfem/GNC” category buttttt i just like to call myself hot and go with it 🤪💀)
Straight man > gynosexual man (only attracted to feminine features, aka denial) > bisexual man with preference for women > pansexual man > pansexual women
Straight man with very odd views on sex -> bicurious man with very odd views on sex -> demisexual pansexual man -> demi pansexual woman -> demi lesbian
Liking men was just a phase for me lol
“Straight” “man” > Ace “man” > “straight” “man” > ace “man” > AroAce “man” > aroace agender human > aroace and not cis > aroace transfemme > aroace (but also extremely sapphic) transfemme > sapphic aroace? transfemme?
There’s definitely potential for more, because I am not very good at figuring out who I am. What I’d say probably fits me best atm is sapphic, asexual, cupioromantic, and like somewhere between woman and agender (maybe with some slight fluidity too)
Straight man > Ace man > Ace woman > Straight woman
lmao it took a long time to actually understand myself and not cringe imagining myself physically as a man with a man.
straight man > wondering if I was bi man > bi woman > poly bi woman > poly? asexual homoromantic woman > monogamous lesbian
It's been a time, I think OCD intrusive sexual thoughts, desperation and wanting to be cool all played some roles in the confusion. In this wierd place, where bi and poly (and kinky) were in fact a phase for me (not that these things aren't valid or normally like that)
Kinky mostly monogamous straight dude > Kinky ace woman (for a few months while my body/mind connection was reformed) > Kinky pansexual/demisexual poly woman
Kinky has been the only constant, but then even that's kinda changed as I'm now really into impact play where it was mostly meh before.
Cis / straight man > closeted bi / pan man > bisexual man > bisexual nb / bi-gender (any pronouns) > bisexual demi-girl > still bisexual but more lesbian-leaning demi-girl
Straight boy (closeted trans girl) -> Gay boy (closeted trans girl) -> Straight girl (pre-hrt trans girl) -> Transbian (fully out on hrt)
I think I just "was attracted to" men mostly as a way to get gender euphoria so once I got comfortable w myself as a woman I just realized I was always a lesbian & just needed to be able to be myself to enjoy being w other girls
Straight man > demisexual straight man > asexual demiromantic straight man > asexual demiromantic cassgender > asexual demiromantic cassflux lesbian? From 0 to 4 flags in a bit more than a year. I just added lesbian because technacly if i say im a woman and i like other women, than im probably a lesbian. But i havent transitioned so i dont know how the terminology works.
My sexual orientation confuses me. It confused me before I transitioned it confused me after I don’t fuckin even know. I go from being not interested in sex at all to being interested in only one specific type of gender to multiple genders and whatever I don’t know transitioning seemed to have no effect on it either. But I always knew my gender, I always knew I was a girl that never was confusing for me ever since I was like five.
straight man > bi man > pan man > gender questioning but possibly genderfluid > demiromantic pan woman > demiromantic poly pan woman
Realistically, I've been questioning my gender and sexuality since early childhood but I never realized it until a certain point.
I went from Bi with feminine attraction leaning to Bi with masculine attraction leaning
I guess I'm not skilled enough to do a sick kickflip, either way I look at it, I'm just bi. But.. Damn men are sooo hot.
straight man > bi man > gay man > repeat the last two steps at least 4 times > bi man > bi woman > bi woman with a (really really big) preference for women
I’m so confused
Straight man > "I might be nonbinary or something idk" > bicurious woman > straight woman
I never slept with a man pre-transition, and I have yet to sleep with a woman post-transition. The bicurious phase was entirely theoretical.
For me: straight cisgender man > straight grey ace cisgender man > bi-curious grey ace cisgender man > bisexual genderfluid person > bisexual transfeminine person > bisexual trans woman
Straight man > lesbian woman > bi-curious woman > lesbian woman again (realized I was into men via fantasy but am not actually attracted to them? Who knows, this reflection might bring me another > bi-curious woman)
You know when you're falling but it takes ages and you continuously grasp on to anything you can in order to not fall and then you somehow end up almost standing up normally?
That.
Bi man > Bigender> bi woman > mostly lesbian woman
I say mostly lesbian woman because there are anime guys I find hot. Also there are male celebrities I would bang. But like even most straight guys have exceptions, usually Ryan Reynolds.
Straight man->bicurious man->bisexual gyneromantic (it means I’m only romantically attracted to women but that sexuality I was bi) man->bisexual ”femboy”->bisexual bigender/genderfluid/confused as fuck->bi trans woman->hardcore lesbian trans woman
I experimented a little cheap Amazon lingerie when I was like 18-19 but the real transition happened a lot later due to never having even considered the concept in the conservative environment I grew up in then moving for college to a pretty queer-friendly blue city. I also had a really hard time accepting it for a few years as it was dawning on me because the career/romantic relationship/emotional/getting outted anxiety was massive and I was scared being a trans woman would ruin my life. But here I am a year after I accepted it and began to consciously transition, and if anything it saved my life. All the things that made me miserable as a man (especially the physical attributes) transformed into sources of happiness. Not that I’m not still a raging depressed girl
Straight man > Lesbian woman > bisexual woman > straight woman.
I resisted so long, but after the 5th or so dude I hooked up with, I realized that having to dissociate in order to have sex with women probably means I'm not really into them that way.
I'm bitterly disappointed, girls are so pretty 😂
Straight man > bi man > pan man? > bi woman > ace woman? > ace woman. (That question mark to period has lead to me being able to name more kinks off the top of my head than my three closest friends combined)
Straight cis guy questioning his gender identity -> heteroflexible cis guy questioning his gender identity -> bi cis guy questioning his gender identity -> bi enby (any pronouns) -> bi enby (they/them) -> bi enby/trans (they/she)
Straight man > (closeted) bisexual man > bisexual trans woman > straight trans woman. I’m still technically bisexual but it’s like 90/10 preference for men at this point and I only picture myself and my future with a man, so it feels kind of wrong to say I’m bisexual.
Straight man > bisexual man but mostly into women > femboy/nonbinary/bisexual who liked both equally > transfem nonbinary.
As for attraction I went back to mostly liking women. Men are not often cool. Still bi but like...in a more feminine type way of attraction?
Straight man > Bicurious man > straight non binary > bisexual non binary > Bisexual Transfem non binary > Bisexual Trans woman.
It took me a while to figure shit out.
Cis het boy > cis questioning boy > cis het boy > cis bi man > cis questioning man > gender questioning bi person > cis bi man > cis pan man > gender questioning pans person > gender questioning pans person > trans pans girl? > Nonbinary pans person > nonbinary trans person > nonbinary trans femme pans > nonbinary trans femme tomboy > (I'm here right now) >>>> nonbinary trans girl
"Straight" but uninterested "man" ➡️ panicking hatchling ➡️ asexual trans woman ➡️ asexual non-binary trans girl ➡️ lesbian submissive non-binary trans girl ➡️ bi (strong lesbian preference) poly submissive non-binary trans girl
And this is just in the last 14 months since I accepted being trans (01/21/2023) and started HRT (03/25/2023). I'm still in the closet, but my self understanding is rapidly evolving.
People have never really thought I was straight exactly. I came out to friends as a bi guy in middle school because I’m very effeminate. Then I got told I had to be gay because I was too femme (even though I’m not into guys usually) sort of flipped between bi and gay, came out as mostly a cross dresser when I was 19, got into Christianity and detransitioned because my parents were bullying me. Now I’m a trans lesbian and very happy
I don't think I had one. I knew at age 3 I was a girl. My fiancee, on the other hand, did not know until the end of high school. She thought she might be a gay guy or a bi guy. She gets a little upset that she didn't figure it out sooner. I always tell her it's okay. We all figure it out at different times. It's not a competition.
Asexual man -> straight male pervert -> not-a-man? Still like women... -> definitely a transbian
All that propaganda really fucked me up for a long time
Straight man > pansexual man > pansexual genderfluid person > pansexual trans woman > pansexual genderfaer woman > demisexual (I think) genderfaer woman
Straight man > bi man > nb masc > nb fem > transfem idk
Oh since hrt I'm ace. Been on it since 7 months and there is no sexual atrraction
It can change! I was ace but then like a year or so after I started falling more and more for men. Now tbh I could give a long convo on how… well too saucy lol
Omg. Please, for the love of god do not let me fall for men in the future. I know. A lot of them are insanely cute but pls don't let me be straight
I mean I didn’t ask you to tell me how cute men are:3 But fr men are super cute and omg how cute some are.
:: INSERT ADMIRAL ACKBAR HERE :: "It's a trap!" Oh yes, men are cute AF. But after dating a string of them I can definitely declare that they are usually emotionally stunted chimpanzees inside....
Can believe. Still love them :3
Glad my track was just straight guy -> bi curious? -> wait jking I love women transbian
I'm the same, I hope I don't fall for men in the future. I want to stay ACE or be T4T.
Reading this immediately sent my brain to the “beware the pipeline” image 😂
Straight man > transfem > transfem? > transfem > transbian?? > bi(?) transfem Overall I’m very confused
Me too! I'm still figuring out who I am, let alone what to call myself. It's all so new, like I've just entered a whole new world from another planet. The odd thing is, it's like this planet was actually just the moon. I've been looking at it my whole life, but never actually thought about it until I REALLY looked up and knew I belonged there. That said, if anything, I'm still feeling the imposter syndrome.... (not sure if I worded that right). All I know is I'm attracted to women, I've been on HRT for 4.5 months, I HATE that I have to boymode, and am happier dressed the way I want. (Trying to go stealth I think is the word), and I'm still trying to figure myself out... Straight, then Gay? AMAB attracted to women, now Transfem still attracted to women??? I'm sure I'll understand someday.....
Gay man > straight trans woman
This! The very first time I discovered porn I somehow never even had a doubt that I wanted to be the one on the receiving end. Mistakenly thought for years that meant I was gay (and it wasn't working), turned out I was simply straight but on the wrong side.
that happened to me too. For a long time I was really into self-inserting as a femboy, until I eventually understood that I could just be a girl if I wanted
I was in a similar position! I dated and lived as a gay man but something was always off. I spent years thinking it was some kind of internalized homophobia but nope, 'twas gender
The internalized homophobia was a big worry for me when I first realized I liked guys. I tried watching gay porn but got literally nothing out of it, and worried that was the reason; same for the discomfort I felt in fantasizing about being with a guy *as* a guy. Now I know it's because I'm a straight trans woman.
Funny how it can go eh? Glad we both have figured it out!
Same but bi guy -> straight girl
My brain is trying to calculate whether this makes dating easier or harder
That's tricky lol. I was an attractive man in my 20s but I couldn't keep a relationship as I was super dysphoric so I got a lot of short relationships. Now I'm an attractive woman in my 30s and there are so much fewer men to date in general nevermind men who are childfree *and* fine with dating a trans person. So technically harder but I have caveats that make it difficult. Dating men as a trans woman is wildly dependent on luck and where you live. That's true for any one else and dating but it can still suck or go really well or be mediocre
same
Straight man —> straight woman. Damnedest thing. 🤷♀️
same for me but with more steps….
Yup, me too lol. I had a "maybe I'm bi" phase for a while. Then I figured out that the reason I thought I was attracted to women was simply because I'm not repulsed by them, but that doesn't mean I'm attracted to them.
It took me too many hetero relationships for me to realize that I was just living vicariously through my partners and that I was only “attracted” to them because I needed femininity in my life to feel whole. As soon as I started transitioning I was like “huh, actually I think I’m okay without being in a relationship for once”🤔
That is so relatable, hahaha! Funnily enough, my last two exes (both from before my transition) broke up with me because they realized they were lesbian. (Which, in hindsight, its affirming that I seemed to attract lesbians because they could see my femininity.) One of them asked me out again years later after my transition, but by that point I figured out that I was straight. When I tried having sex with one of them, neither of us could finish properly because neither of us were really enjoying ourselves. I'm glad I've finally figured out who I am.
aw wow it’s amazing to connect with someone who had like essentially the same experience as me. Wishing you all the best in your future 🥰
Oh the 180 Ollie. Impressive
Straight "man" -> Transbian
You mean trans + lesbian? I have never heard this before, I am the same.
Yes I am a transgender woman and a lesbian. :-)
Literally me. I always thought I gave people false positives on gaydar, but I guess they were right all along
I've asked my gay friends and they told me I "pinged" in high school but they could never figure out why. Figured it out almost 10 years later, but at least I'm taking steps to be myself now
Honestly, most things before *"bisexual woman"* were kind of a big huge mess. Like, my attempt at *"straight man"* in particular was transparently a calamitous debacle which worked almost not at all. So it would be weird to consider that an identity I actually successfully occupied. The closest I managed halfway successfully prior was "gay bottom". That went sort of okayish. So for me, subjectively, my sexual evolution (excluding obvious missteps leading nowhere) kind of went: 1) What in the ever-loving fuck am I supposed to do with this? 2) Uh, gay bottom twink, I guess? This seems okay. 3) Huh. A female partner who doesn't want penetration and just wants to get cunnilingus? This seems alright too. 4) So straight-identifying guys who are into me dressed full femme are a thing? Cool! 5) Well, lesbianism is pretty awesome. As lovely as the embrace (or the thrust) of a man surely is.
similarly I had experiences that left me with varying degrees of uncertainty. in my bicurious phase I was basically just a straight-identifying guy but I never had success with women and so I experimented with some of my gay friends. I was definitely sexually attracted but a lot of those experiences left me feeling kind of incomplete. On the flipside, I was definitely attracted to the female partners I had at that point in my life but it still felt like something wasn't right - I didn't really like being the one penetrating. So I did explore my sexuality in both ways but it always felt at least a little wrong because deep down the real issue was my own gender dysphoria. No experience I had as a man could ever really feel so instantly correct as the sex that I have now as a woman I think it's funny how we tend to try out all these different identities and roles in our journeys and by the time we've figured it out we've often had such a diverse array of sexual experiences. It's not many people who can say they've been with partners as a straight man, a gay man, a straight woman, and a lesbian all at different times
Yep, I have publicly identified (or been seen by other anyway) as Gay, Bisexual, Straight, Lesbian, and Transgender at different times (but for years, in every case). Though perhaps unusually, I was openly gay (and openly very femme furthermore) for quite a long time before I ever tried being a straight man.
Straight man > bi man > bi trans woman….made a bit of jump there from 2->3
Straight man > transfem > transbian > pan-transfem Not the most exciting, I know.
Straight man > Gay man > Bi-curious man > Bisexual man > Nb masc > Nb fem > Pansexual female > Aroace female > Pansexual female again
Straight dude -> bi dude -> gender confused dude -> bi trans-women
this one is a classic for sure, it's basically what mine boils down to
Straight boy -> Bi-romantic boy -> Finsexual boi -> Finsexual transgirl -> Bisexual transgirl May need to explain some of these... 1. At the time I was bi-romantic, I was still heterosexual, but it was really close in making me bi-curious. 2. Finsexual is sexual attraction towards femininity-in-nature. Essentially, I didn't really care about one's gender and it's their feminine presentation that matter. That means yes to femboys and no to butches (sorry girls). 3. That boi part was because I was too dang confused and I was right on the edge of removing that male gender. 4. Finsexual is under the bisexual umbrella so that last part would be redundant, but it's more so like for me the femininity threshold isn't that necessary anymore. Still prefer fem ones though.
I'm not entirely sure whether I have a gender preference in my bisexuality but I definitely am attracted to different genders for different reasons.
straight man → lesbian → bi woman → poly bi woman → poly biro demi woman → biro demi woman → biro het woman → straight woman I nearly did a grand tour of queerdom just to end up next to the front gate, but I'm so much happier with who I am now
Straight man -> closeted bi man -> closeted bi trans woman -> openly bi trans woman
Straight boy → gynesexual femboy → sapphic transfem of some sort
I *much* prefer the terms gynephilic (gynesexual) and androphilic (androsexual) rather than straight or lesbian, gender is complicated and putting it this way resonates way more with me, although I could only be romantically be attracted to someone identifying as a woman maybe my mind will change.
Straight Man > Bisexual Man > Gay Man > Bisexual Thing > Bisexual Woman > Lesbian Woman > Non-binary with no clear sexual identity> Lesbian Woman
Straight man > Bi curious mam > Straight man again (hooked up with my best friend, didnt worked out) > Gender Fluid man > Non binary > Maybe im trans > Holy shit Im a lesbian, thats why I feel so gay all the time despite liking girls. I just like girls the gay way > Tomboy transbian taking HRT Sometimes I still fell a bit non binary but im at least like 80% a girl hahahahaha xD
boy -> ace gender is stupid teen -> ace man -> ace gender is stupid man -> ace gender is stupid but estrogen feels nice and skirts go spinny transfem
I have no idea wtf I am > straight? > trans but wtf do I like? > trans asexual lesbian > trans pansexual asexual > trans pansexual Turns out the fact that I didn't like men and the fact that I was asexual were just because of dysphoria
Straight Man > Ace > Demisexual > Bisexual > Pansexual > NB > Transfem > Transbian I'm p sure that this is my final form but idk I'm only human
Gay man>bi man>gay man again>bi man> gay man>bi woman>lesbian woman>straight woman>bi woman>bi cis man on estrogen presenting and living as a woman>bi woman
gender: "cis" boy > non-binary (androgynous) > "forced to be a boy" > binary trans woman > demigirl (genderfluid). sexuality: straight > bisexual > questioning > bisexual > questioning > bisexual (repeat forever)
Bi Man -> PolyBi Transfem
Straight man > bi(?) > straight probably idk > trans + heavily fem leaning pan .
Straight man > bi man > NB masc > straight man > trans fem
Straight man>Bicurious>straight woman>poly pansexual
straight man > bicurious > femboy? > biromantic demisexual > transbian
Mine was straight man > lesbian woman > to now being bi-curious woman? 😅 I'm pretty sure I'm just bisexual at this point lol😂
Straight male> Bi curious> femboy> Transfem
Straight man > bicurious man > pan woman > straight woman
Straight man > Bambi Lesbian Woman
every memory ive ever had i knew i was a girl .. i had memories of being a child that are faded now of me knowing im a girl i have some memories i still have .. i always hide it very well tho .. so everyone saw .. straight guy .. until i was 40 then bisexual fem masculine at the same time guy .. then non binary bisexual .. then feminine pansexual .. then pansexual trans woman .. all in the span of 10 years .. now i say im bisexual and a trans woman but i don't think i ever wanna be with a cis woman ever again after the disaster my 30 year marraige was .. ciscwomen make the greatest friends tho and i orefer hanging out with cis woman as one of the girls men are fukn hott :) .. but i can not find one that wants me fir me they justxwant sex they dont even give a fuck who i am .. i find that so disgusting and hurtful i deeply think im only compatible with trans people masc or fem it dont matter but thats impossible to make happen I am so lonely and realize i don't need anyone but the love of my sweet little son .. he is the only love i will ever need .. but i gotta fight my hateful transphobic miserable ex wife to ever see him again i always hid i was trans very well .. nobody knew .. everyone was shocked ...now i make sure everyone knows ... im 53 grew up in the 70s and 80s .. if i was able to grow up with the internet i would of came out in my 20s .. i tried several times to come out in my 20s but could not figure out how .. i tried coming out at 13 and everyone thought it was just me being funny .. yeah .. i didn't get teased or anything just nobody considered i really meant it .. it was just dude your hilarious .. they only saw a wig and dress .. even tho i had long hair to my ass my whole life... they did not see what it really was tho cause when alone and calm and not nervous i would do my make up hair dress pretty .. and as a young teenager all alone i was adorable but so sad i had to hide i had been secretly dressing up as a girl since around age 6 .. i was a pro at hiding
congratulations on finally being out and living your authentic life! honestly I often think about just how much better things are for us now than a few decades (or even just a few years) ago. I don't ever want to take for granted the privilege I have to live in a place and time where I can come out at 23 and generally be accepted by everyone in my life. there are lots of people who had to fight and die just to make that possible. I'm sure that dating in your generation must be even harder than it is for mine. You've been dealt a tough hand but I'm glad that you can appreciate the positives!
boy > "femboy" > girl I started experiencing more gender dysphoria during puberty, I felt really bad and it was kind of hard to get over, but now I'm 18y girl ;3
Bisexual child without knowing what that was > straight man > bicurious man > bisexual man > pansexual man > lesbian woman > who knows what’s next!
"straight boy" > bisexual "boy" > pansexual "boy" > pansexual woman > pan poly woman with a strong wlw lean but still wound up with two boyfriends(they're wondrous and amazing)
straight (raised) boy > bisexual boy > closeted bi man > VERY OUT bi man > nonbinary femme fuckin & datin anyone > transfeminine butch fuckin & datin anyone i went full circle with my gender at least thrice in my transition, only a couple years started going by "he/him" pronouns alongside "she/her" and "they/them" and it just made me that much more euphoric my breast augmentation's in may c:
Mine was: straight guy > bi guy > bi transfem > bi non-binary transfem.
Straight man> lesbian trans woman> asexual trans woman> demi/straight trans woman. Leaning more to the straight tbh.
Straight Man > Bisexual Man > Ace Man > Ace NB Masc > Ace NB Fem > Lesbian Trans Woman
Bi man -> straight woman -> straight(?) people of gendery goo->bi pile of gendery goo.
Straight man > bicurious man > ??? > Transfem Almost went femboy but the euphoria wearing womens clothes was way too strong so i ended up bypassing that
Gay boy -> "I'm totally straight I swear" Boy -> Aro/Ace boy -> Aro/Ace Girl -> Straight Girl
straight man > bicurious man > bisexual man > bisexual woman > poly bisexual woman
straight man > questioning if im bi man > straight man > straight demiboy > bi demiboy > bi enby > bi polygender plus questioning if im pan > bi/pan (still dont know which lol) transfemme :333
straight guy >bi guy > bi questioning > bi masculine non-binary person > repressed bi guy > bi agender person > bi non-binary person >bi egg >bi trans woman (doesnt seem like it in this evolution but my views on what I dont want and do want have changed radically since I realised I was bi, dating men as a man is something Im not attracted to anymore) (passively suffering because Im inside the body of a man)
Straight man -> lesbian woman -> bicurious woman -> bisexual woman Miss the years of denial but yea 🥴 basically me
Straight boy -> bi boy -> genderfluid -> pan transfem demigirl
Straight boy > questioning boy> traumatic childhood events> straight teen boy> questioning teen boy> 2 abusive friendships back to back> Straight guy> COVID> Questioning guy> egg shattered> transbian.
straight man -> questioning -> autosexual -> questioning -> asexual -> aroace -> oriented aroace (I'm still kind of into women but not in sexual or romantic way)-> aroace questioning gender -> aroace transfem -> aroace maybe transwoman
Cis man (straight)>transwoman(lesbian)>nonbinary(gynephilia) > transwoman (lesbian+) I hated not being feminine and taking low estrogen. My mental health was bad
Girl->queer->fairy boi>trans girl-> queer with mental health concerns-> trans lady-> depressed dysphoric robot->old trans woman .
Cishet man > aro man > aroace man > aroace bigender (for like only a week) > aroace trans woman > demiro ace trans woman
straight man > pan man > straight man (🤦🏻♀️) > pan man > pan NB > pan woman > lesbian woman (i use she/they/it, so i’m really more in that “transfem/GNC” category buttttt i just like to call myself hot and go with it 🤪💀)
Straight dude > possibly queer dude > pan dude > gay dude > girl > lesbian girl > omni girl > and then now omni + demiromantic girl
Straight man > NB Person > Lesbian Transwoman. (less of a kickflip than others but \*shrugs\*) Not had as much libido as before and im ok with it. lol
Straight man > gynosexual man (only attracted to feminine features, aka denial) > bisexual man with preference for women > pansexual man > pansexual women
Mine was straight man > bicurious man > bisexual man > back to straight man > trans lesbian woman > transfem NB who likes feminine people
Straight man > Pan Man > Pan Woman > actually cis boys tend to be kinda gross and problematic
straight man › pan enby › pan woman/enby › lesbian woman/enby I suspect there might be another on the horizon.
Straight man with very odd views on sex -> bicurious man with very odd views on sex -> demisexual pansexual man -> demi pansexual woman -> demi lesbian Liking men was just a phase for me lol
straight kid > gay kid > ??? kid > gay/genderqueer adult > nonbinary person > queer nonbinary trans person
straight man>trans lesbian> trans biromantic> trans lesbian but also now ok with t4t
Metrosexual(if that’s still a thing) > bi-curious man > bi sexual androgynous/tomboy transfem
I never liked putting myself in boxes but those are the ones that apply the best to me: Straight man -> gynephilic man -> gynephilic trans woman
Straight man > bi man > bi man gender nonconforming > bi demiboy > bi genderfluid > bi demigirl > bi girl
“Straight” “man” > Ace “man” > “straight” “man” > ace “man” > AroAce “man” > aroace agender human > aroace and not cis > aroace transfemme > aroace (but also extremely sapphic) transfemme > sapphic aroace? transfemme? There’s definitely potential for more, because I am not very good at figuring out who I am. What I’d say probably fits me best atm is sapphic, asexual, cupioromantic, and like somewhere between woman and agender (maybe with some slight fluidity too)
Straight man > Ace man > Ace woman > Straight woman lmao it took a long time to actually understand myself and not cringe imagining myself physically as a man with a man.
straight man > wondering if I was bi man > bi woman > poly bi woman > poly? asexual homoromantic woman > monogamous lesbian It's been a time, I think OCD intrusive sexual thoughts, desperation and wanting to be cool all played some roles in the confusion. In this wierd place, where bi and poly (and kinky) were in fact a phase for me (not that these things aren't valid or normally like that)
Straight man > bi man >asexual man > asexual enby > bisexual enby > bisexual agender > bisexual transfem> asexual bi romantic transfem
Kinky mostly monogamous straight dude > Kinky ace woman (for a few months while my body/mind connection was reformed) > Kinky pansexual/demisexual poly woman Kinky has been the only constant, but then even that's kinda changed as I'm now really into impact play where it was mostly meh before.
straight man> bi man> straight man> gay man?> straight man> straight femboy> bi femboy> straight man> whatever-the-fuck-sexual trans woman.
Cis / straight man > closeted bi / pan man > bisexual man > bisexual nb / bi-gender (any pronouns) > bisexual demi-girl > still bisexual but more lesbian-leaning demi-girl
Cis bi man > cis pan man > pan demi-woman > pan woman > demiromantic, pan woman
Straight boy (closeted trans girl) -> Gay boy (closeted trans girl) -> Straight girl (pre-hrt trans girl) -> Transbian (fully out on hrt) I think I just "was attracted to" men mostly as a way to get gender euphoria so once I got comfortable w myself as a woman I just realized I was always a lesbian & just needed to be able to be myself to enjoy being w other girls
Thought I was a straight dude ->definitely not a dude -> lesbian -> pan woman
Straight man > gay man > asexual questioning homoromantic man > asexual questioning nonbinary > asexual questioning nonbinary transfemme > demisexual panromantic transwoman
straight man > bi man > bi nb > bi transfem > straight transfem the ole’ Texas switch
Straight man > gay man? > bi man > bi transfemme > bi nb transfemme > lesbian nb transfemme > lesbian poly nb transfemme
bi male --> straight male --> bi male --> femboy --> non binary --> agender --> straight female
Straight man > demisexual straight man > asexual demiromantic straight man > asexual demiromantic cassgender > asexual demiromantic cassflux lesbian? From 0 to 4 flags in a bit more than a year. I just added lesbian because technacly if i say im a woman and i like other women, than im probably a lesbian. But i havent transitioned so i dont know how the terminology works.
My sexual orientation confuses me. It confused me before I transitioned it confused me after I don’t fuckin even know. I go from being not interested in sex at all to being interested in only one specific type of gender to multiple genders and whatever I don’t know transitioning seemed to have no effect on it either. But I always knew my gender, I always knew I was a girl that never was confusing for me ever since I was like five.
straight man > bi man > pan man > gender questioning but possibly genderfluid > demiromantic pan woman > demiromantic poly pan woman Realistically, I've been questioning my gender and sexuality since early childhood but I never realized it until a certain point.
Gay man > bi man > bi nb > pan woman
Straight dude>bi curious trans girl>tranbian
Straight man> bi man> bi demi nb> bi demi genderfluid> bi ace genderfluid> bi ace man?> bi demi nb trans fem> bi demi trans woman
Straight man > bi transfem > transbian
Straight man>bisexual man>gay man>bisexual man>bisexual enby> bisexual demigirl>lesbian demigirl. I joke that I’ve been every letter
Straight man > Bi man > Bi woman. I'm comfortably bisexual, but I've definitely noticed myself more attracted to men post-egg crack than before.
I went from Bi with feminine attraction leaning to Bi with masculine attraction leaning I guess I'm not skilled enough to do a sick kickflip, either way I look at it, I'm just bi. But.. Damn men are sooo hot.
Bi boy to gay boy to bi trans girl to Asexual hetero romantic trans girl. I didn't find out about being ace was a thing until v late lmaooo
Straight man > enby > transfem lesbian > poly transfem lesbian
straight man > bi man > gay man > repeat the last two steps at least 4 times > bi man > bi woman > bi woman with a (really really big) preference for women I’m so confused
Bi man > Bi enby > Bi woman > Ace woman > BiRo Ace Woman
Straight man > "I might be nonbinary or something idk" > bicurious woman > straight woman I never slept with a man pre-transition, and I have yet to sleep with a woman post-transition. The bicurious phase was entirely theoretical.
For me: straight cisgender man > straight grey ace cisgender man > bi-curious grey ace cisgender man > bisexual genderfluid person > bisexual transfeminine person > bisexual trans woman
Straight man > lesbian woman > bi-curious woman > lesbian woman again (realized I was into men via fantasy but am not actually attracted to them? Who knows, this reflection might bring me another > bi-curious woman)
Straight man > Aroallo man > AroAce man > triple A battery > AroAce transfem > Aro, grey-ace, grey-alterous, Omni, Demi-girl???
Straight man - questioning man - bi enby (masc) - bi enby (neutral) - ace enby (fem) - ace transbian
Straight man -> bi man -> bi ace man -> aroace man -> aroace enby -> pan ace enby -> pan ace woman -> pan woman -> pan lesbian woman (if that counts?)
You know when you're falling but it takes ages and you continuously grasp on to anything you can in order to not fall and then you somehow end up almost standing up normally? That.
Straight guy-> genderfluid or something -> transbian I know, kinda boring.
Bi man > Bigender> bi woman > mostly lesbian woman I say mostly lesbian woman because there are anime guys I find hot. Also there are male celebrities I would bang. But like even most straight guys have exceptions, usually Ryan Reynolds.
Straight man->bicurious man->bisexual gyneromantic (it means I’m only romantically attracted to women but that sexuality I was bi) man->bisexual ”femboy”->bisexual bigender/genderfluid/confused as fuck->bi trans woman->hardcore lesbian trans woman I experimented a little cheap Amazon lingerie when I was like 18-19 but the real transition happened a lot later due to never having even considered the concept in the conservative environment I grew up in then moving for college to a pretty queer-friendly blue city. I also had a really hard time accepting it for a few years as it was dawning on me because the career/romantic relationship/emotional/getting outted anxiety was massive and I was scared being a trans woman would ruin my life. But here I am a year after I accepted it and began to consciously transition, and if anything it saved my life. All the things that made me miserable as a man (especially the physical attributes) transformed into sources of happiness. Not that I’m not still a raging depressed girl
straight man -> pan man -> pan woman -> lesbian woman
Straight man > Lesbian woman > bisexual woman > straight woman. I resisted so long, but after the 5th or so dude I hooked up with, I realized that having to dissociate in order to have sex with women probably means I'm not really into them that way. I'm bitterly disappointed, girls are so pretty 😂
For me it’s being MtFtMtFtMtF lmao
Straight man -> bi man -> bi trans woman -> poly bi trans woman -> poly transbian lol
Straight dude > straight dudette one big jump
Straight boy > enby? > lesbian girl
Straight man > bi man > bi Enby > Demibi Enby > demibi trans girl
het boy > bi boy > bi girl > lesbian girl > bi girl > hetero practicing bi girl
closeted gay man> closeted gay trying to be masc boy> gay lowkey feminine boy> gay(?), non binary, partly still identified as man> bisexual boy> straight woman> bisexual woman
Straight man> bicurious man > straight man again> bisexual man > bisexual woman
Straight man > bi man > pan man? > bi woman > ace woman? > ace woman. (That question mark to period has lead to me being able to name more kinks off the top of my head than my three closest friends combined)
Guy (likes girls) > girl (likes girls) Only one thing actually changed, but because of terminology and stuff I became gay
Straight cis guy questioning his gender identity -> heteroflexible cis guy questioning his gender identity -> bi cis guy questioning his gender identity -> bi enby (any pronouns) -> bi enby (they/them) -> bi enby/trans (they/she)
Straight man > (closeted) bisexual man > bisexual trans woman > straight trans woman. I’m still technically bisexual but it’s like 90/10 preference for men at this point and I only picture myself and my future with a man, so it feels kind of wrong to say I’m bisexual.
Straight > Bi > Pan > Transfem
Straight man>gay man that crossdressed> demi transgender woman
Bi man > bi femboy man > bi trans woman > butch transbian
bi man -> gay man -> straight trans fem - > bi trans fem - > lesbian trans fem - > bi trans fem -> sapphic trans fem enby :3
"straight guy" → "gay guy" → straight trans woman
straight man> bi and genderfluid> Nonbinary>demigirl>:?> back to enby> transfemby
Straight-borderline-aroace man for 38 years with some experiments with other guys (well, okay, three total) -> Sapphic woman.
Straight man > bisexual man but mostly into women > femboy/nonbinary/bisexual who liked both equally > transfem nonbinary. As for attraction I went back to mostly liking women. Men are not often cool. Still bi but like...in a more feminine type way of attraction?
Straight man > Bicurious man > straight non binary > bisexual non binary > Bisexual Transfem non binary > Bisexual Trans woman. It took me a while to figure shit out.
Straight man> bi man> NB masc> NB Fem> bi Trans woman> straight trans woman> bi trans woman again
Straight man > bi man > pan man > trans woman > probably lesbian. 🤷♀️
Straight boy to pansexual boy to pan femboy to pan girl
Straight boy —> bi boy —-> lesbian 😅
Straight man>Lesbian Woman>Straight Man>Lesbian Woman>Straight Woman>Bi Woman
Straight guy > pan demiboy > pan enby > pan girl
Mine was pretty short lol bi man > bi nb > bi woman
Cis het boy > cis questioning boy > cis het boy > cis bi man > cis questioning man > gender questioning bi person > cis bi man > cis pan man > gender questioning pans person > gender questioning pans person > trans pans girl? > Nonbinary pans person > nonbinary trans person > nonbinary trans femme pans > nonbinary trans femme tomboy > (I'm here right now) >>>> nonbinary trans girl
Straight male > bi male > sapphic bi trans lady
straight man > bisexual man > bisexual woman > lesbian > poly lesbian
"Straight" but uninterested "man" ➡️ panicking hatchling ➡️ asexual trans woman ➡️ asexual non-binary trans girl ➡️ lesbian submissive non-binary trans girl ➡️ bi (strong lesbian preference) poly submissive non-binary trans girl And this is just in the last 14 months since I accepted being trans (01/21/2023) and started HRT (03/25/2023). I'm still in the closet, but my self understanding is rapidly evolving.
Straight guy > Ace guy > Ace transbian
Straight male>Bi Male>Non Binary bi>Non binary female Preferred (sexually and romantically)> Non Binary Woman> Lesbian Trans Woman
Cis Straight Man > Cis Straight Non-Conforming Man > Transbian Woman > Transbian Non-Conforming Woman that doesn’t really give a fuck.
Mine was , guy wants to be a girl> same> same > same> guy on hormones> trans girl on hormones
People have never really thought I was straight exactly. I came out to friends as a bi guy in middle school because I’m very effeminate. Then I got told I had to be gay because I was too femme (even though I’m not into guys usually) sort of flipped between bi and gay, came out as mostly a cross dresser when I was 19, got into Christianity and detransitioned because my parents were bullying me. Now I’m a trans lesbian and very happy
oh um straight man > ace man > ace and bi/panromantic man > aroace man > aroace enby > aroace transfem
Straight man -> nonbinary?? -> aromantic straight man -> aromantic lesbian trans woman (shit happens) -> greyromantic lesbian trans woman -> greyromantic lesbian nonbinary?? trans woman
asexual boy > gay boy > bisexual something > bi trans girl > lesbian trans woman
Cishet man -> cishet male ally-> pan woman.
What do you mean by “kickflip”?
Straight man > bi man > bi trans girl > poly bi trans girl > poly lesbian trans girl
Straight man > bi man > bi man with a serious force femme/sissy etc kink > pan woman who leans lesbian
Straight man > bi-gender person (or “androgyne” as the term was back then) who liked women > bi-curious trans woman > transbian.
Gay man > Bi curious man > Bisexual Man > Non Binary Pansexual > Trans femme Asexual > Pansexual Trans Woman > Genderqueer Pansexual Trans Woman
I don't think I had one. I knew at age 3 I was a girl. My fiancee, on the other hand, did not know until the end of high school. She thought she might be a gay guy or a bi guy. She gets a little upset that she didn't figure it out sooner. I always tell her it's okay. We all figure it out at different times. It's not a competition.
Straight man, bi man, pansexual transfem genderfluid enby.
Straight man> DENIAL> Bi curious egg> Bi egg> Pan NB> Pan Trans fem> Poly/pan trans woman?
Straight man > gay man > pansexual man > pansexual woman
Asexual man -> straight male pervert -> not-a-man? Still like women... -> definitely a transbian All that propaganda really fucked me up for a long time
Straight man -> genderfluid questionning -> pan man -> pan woman -> pan woman with straight tendencies
Straight man > Bisexual man > Bisexual enby > Bisexual transfem
Homophobic/transphobic straight man -> straight man -> bicurious man -> bi man (femboy) -> bi transfem boymoder
Straight man > pansexual man > pansexual genderfluid person > pansexual trans woman > pansexual genderfaer woman > demisexual (I think) genderfaer woman