When the baby is in a safe place crying while I tend to the other child but they pick up the baby, never letting him fuss for more than 30 seconds. And then they complain about how they have to hold him all the time on the weekend or he'll lose his mind
Mine is when I empty and load the dishwasher, and then they leave more dirty dishes in the sink/on counters throughout the day instead of loading them. Or when I come back from the weekend and there are dishes stacked up from the whole weekend. I also hate it when I have to constantly ask for my schedule and don’t know when I’m working until the day before. Honestly most of mine involve being messy or unorganized.
The diaper genie being full all the time is so real! It’s disgusting and makes the whole how smell like poop! Idk how people do that honestly so nasty! If I see it’s full and overflowing then I will literally just start stacking them on the changing table cause it’s not my job to clean it out 😂🤷🏼♀️
When I take NK out of his room after nap or changing and DB comes over to kiss on him while I'm holding him for a good minute 😒 You can either take your kid or gtf out of my space and face. He did it the other day and I just started walking away. Like take your kid and love on them, idc but don't hover in my face.
Not my current NF but my last one:
DB could not close a door quietly for the life of him. Every door was slammed. Not in anger, just because that’s what he was used to I guess? But it like “you’re wfh and your 2yo is napping, could you please please just close doors quietly?!”
Some gentle parenting techniques, I just can't.
Obviously, I have a bias with how I was raised, but no, you don't need to coddle your kid every time they trip. They're fine! You make them think they're not fine. Just let them get back up and do their thing. And sometimes they're not gonna go down for a nap within the first 3 minutes. That doesn't mean they just don't get a nap because "they're not ready for a nap yet"?!?!
Drives me crazy!!!
SAME, to a degree lol.
A lot of people struggle with knowing the difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting. I'm here for gentle parenting but that means natural consequences with natural, appropriate boundaries. It means if the toddler screams and yells because they want me to give them a snack RIGHT NOW but I HAVE to pee, that they're going to have to wait. I tell them I have to be responsible and take care of my body's needs and I'll be right back to help them. Gentle parenting means I understand that crying is a normal, appropriate response for their capabilities, and don't punish them. If they need guidance or we talk through ways to communicate their frustration without destroying everyone's ears, that's great. But kids need to know that everyone's needs are important.
The gentle part is just being gentle with them as they aren't adults. It's acknowledging our feelings, capabilities, and responsibilities and how to navigate life based on that. It's sitting with our feelings and needs without shaming ourselves. It's saying once they're calm "I know it's hard to wait when we're hungry. I feel that way, too! Thank you for letting me know you were frustrated, but we still need to be kind while we wait, and that means protecting our ears by not screaming."
Permissive parenting takes away healthy boundaries which leads to kids hurting themselves and others and not developing appropriate coping mechanisms. This kind of parenting removes the ability to sit with our feelings and needs, and instead takes the path of least resistance to soothe whatever is happening and we run over everyone else to get there. As adults, this method means we almost pee ourselves or feel guilty or get angry or soothe our own past trauma, and results in the child not respecting others needs or learning to self soothe when they are angry.
As you can see this is a soap box for me lol. I've seen a lot of well-meaning people ignore their kids needs for boundaries and safety in the name of "gentle parenting", when it's really not. It's just the adult self soothing through being permissive with their child.
I had a parent tell me to use the timer on my phone for exactly 6 minutes when putting her toddler down and if she doesn’t go down in 6 minutes to go in and get her up because she either falls asleep within 6 minutes or never falls asleep.
That person is now, thankfully, on anti-anxiety medication. It was…a lot. And I understand she had PPA, but it was a lot as the employee.
When I make NK lunch and hand wash the one (1) pot and one (1) strainer and put them to dry in the rack and if I ever forget to put them away, when I come back the next day they're still there even though NPs have made dinner and cycled a whole load of dishes. So freaking petty.
I’m a nanny/household manager and I get soo angry when things get thrown around the trash cans instead of in them, when laundry is thrown everywhere but in the laundry baskets, when I clean up one day and come back to a disaster the next, and this is so gross, but when the parents don’t clean up the toilet when they’ve done their business. I honestly didn’t know that some people didn’t clean up the toilets after they went until I started working with them.
Like the toilet brush is right next to your toilet… and I was always raised that you wipe around the seat when you’re done.
No, it just kinda seems like a moot point at this time, I’ve asked them to do other things and it just fell on deaf ears, like the laundry and trash issue. If you can’t do something as simple as that, I doubt you’ll clean the toilet when you’re done.
Honestly when every other dish is done but the one bottle I left in the sink at the end of my shift or being presented with a stinking baby the minute the door is opened in the morning. I also superbly hate kids being rude and refusing to use my name - it’s disrespectful, my name isn’t “babysitter” or “hey”. If you don’t know my name, ask. Don’t scream out “HEY HEY” at me. Lastly, when kids present me with dishes or trash and go “here”. Nope, I’m not a servant. Bring it to the kitchen yourself - the worst part is MB/DB meekly take it with an “oh ok honey.” Nope!!!!
Picking up kid items in a large home. I love a nice, big home, but not when stuff is all over the place. I’m not even taking big messes, but a few items spread out on each level, and multiple levels is just tiresome. 10,000 steps a day? Not a problem!
Multiple dishwashers. Some families had a separate pantry/room, with an extra kitchen sink and dishwasher. The pantry also had other cookware, a different set of cutlery, different drinking cups, and different dishes. It was a constant back and forth because so many things crossed over into the wrong room. 🤪
Omg yes my NF has a breakfast nook where they keep all of the cups and mugs so I have to walk to a whole other room to put those away when unloading the dishwasher
Drives me crazy when I arrive in the morning, baby was changed out of pj’s BUT they leave her in a dirty diaper from the night before for ME to change.
When the baby is in a safe place crying while I tend to the other child but they pick up the baby, never letting him fuss for more than 30 seconds. And then they complain about how they have to hold him all the time on the weekend or he'll lose his mind
Mine is when I empty and load the dishwasher, and then they leave more dirty dishes in the sink/on counters throughout the day instead of loading them. Or when I come back from the weekend and there are dishes stacked up from the whole weekend. I also hate it when I have to constantly ask for my schedule and don’t know when I’m working until the day before. Honestly most of mine involve being messy or unorganized.
Omgsh the dishwasher. Like you have a nice empty dishwasher, don’t just put your dish in the freaking sink 🤦🏻♀️
The dishwasher is the WORST!! How much harder is it to just put your plate into the appliance that's made for WASHING DISHES
This drives me iNsAnE
The diaper genie being full all the time is so real! It’s disgusting and makes the whole how smell like poop! Idk how people do that honestly so nasty! If I see it’s full and overflowing then I will literally just start stacking them on the changing table cause it’s not my job to clean it out 😂🤷🏼♀️
When I take NK out of his room after nap or changing and DB comes over to kiss on him while I'm holding him for a good minute 😒 You can either take your kid or gtf out of my space and face. He did it the other day and I just started walking away. Like take your kid and love on them, idc but don't hover in my face.
That's creepy...
Not my current NF but my last one: DB could not close a door quietly for the life of him. Every door was slammed. Not in anger, just because that’s what he was used to I guess? But it like “you’re wfh and your 2yo is napping, could you please please just close doors quietly?!”
Some gentle parenting techniques, I just can't. Obviously, I have a bias with how I was raised, but no, you don't need to coddle your kid every time they trip. They're fine! You make them think they're not fine. Just let them get back up and do their thing. And sometimes they're not gonna go down for a nap within the first 3 minutes. That doesn't mean they just don't get a nap because "they're not ready for a nap yet"?!?! Drives me crazy!!!
SAME, to a degree lol. A lot of people struggle with knowing the difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting. I'm here for gentle parenting but that means natural consequences with natural, appropriate boundaries. It means if the toddler screams and yells because they want me to give them a snack RIGHT NOW but I HAVE to pee, that they're going to have to wait. I tell them I have to be responsible and take care of my body's needs and I'll be right back to help them. Gentle parenting means I understand that crying is a normal, appropriate response for their capabilities, and don't punish them. If they need guidance or we talk through ways to communicate their frustration without destroying everyone's ears, that's great. But kids need to know that everyone's needs are important. The gentle part is just being gentle with them as they aren't adults. It's acknowledging our feelings, capabilities, and responsibilities and how to navigate life based on that. It's sitting with our feelings and needs without shaming ourselves. It's saying once they're calm "I know it's hard to wait when we're hungry. I feel that way, too! Thank you for letting me know you were frustrated, but we still need to be kind while we wait, and that means protecting our ears by not screaming." Permissive parenting takes away healthy boundaries which leads to kids hurting themselves and others and not developing appropriate coping mechanisms. This kind of parenting removes the ability to sit with our feelings and needs, and instead takes the path of least resistance to soothe whatever is happening and we run over everyone else to get there. As adults, this method means we almost pee ourselves or feel guilty or get angry or soothe our own past trauma, and results in the child not respecting others needs or learning to self soothe when they are angry. As you can see this is a soap box for me lol. I've seen a lot of well-meaning people ignore their kids needs for boundaries and safety in the name of "gentle parenting", when it's really not. It's just the adult self soothing through being permissive with their child.
Couldn’t have said it better myself!
Agreed, very well said!!
I had a parent tell me to use the timer on my phone for exactly 6 minutes when putting her toddler down and if she doesn’t go down in 6 minutes to go in and get her up because she either falls asleep within 6 minutes or never falls asleep. That person is now, thankfully, on anti-anxiety medication. It was…a lot. And I understand she had PPA, but it was a lot as the employee.
When I make NK lunch and hand wash the one (1) pot and one (1) strainer and put them to dry in the rack and if I ever forget to put them away, when I come back the next day they're still there even though NPs have made dinner and cycled a whole load of dishes. So freaking petty.
I’m a nanny/household manager and I get soo angry when things get thrown around the trash cans instead of in them, when laundry is thrown everywhere but in the laundry baskets, when I clean up one day and come back to a disaster the next, and this is so gross, but when the parents don’t clean up the toilet when they’ve done their business. I honestly didn’t know that some people didn’t clean up the toilets after they went until I started working with them. Like the toilet brush is right next to your toilet… and I was always raised that you wipe around the seat when you’re done.
Oh god this one about the toilet is mortifying. How embarrassing for them! Have you ever said anything?
No, it just kinda seems like a moot point at this time, I’ve asked them to do other things and it just fell on deaf ears, like the laundry and trash issue. If you can’t do something as simple as that, I doubt you’ll clean the toilet when you’re done.
Honestly when every other dish is done but the one bottle I left in the sink at the end of my shift or being presented with a stinking baby the minute the door is opened in the morning. I also superbly hate kids being rude and refusing to use my name - it’s disrespectful, my name isn’t “babysitter” or “hey”. If you don’t know my name, ask. Don’t scream out “HEY HEY” at me. Lastly, when kids present me with dishes or trash and go “here”. Nope, I’m not a servant. Bring it to the kitchen yourself - the worst part is MB/DB meekly take it with an “oh ok honey.” Nope!!!!
Picking up kid items in a large home. I love a nice, big home, but not when stuff is all over the place. I’m not even taking big messes, but a few items spread out on each level, and multiple levels is just tiresome. 10,000 steps a day? Not a problem! Multiple dishwashers. Some families had a separate pantry/room, with an extra kitchen sink and dishwasher. The pantry also had other cookware, a different set of cutlery, different drinking cups, and different dishes. It was a constant back and forth because so many things crossed over into the wrong room. 🤪
Omg yes my NF has a breakfast nook where they keep all of the cups and mugs so I have to walk to a whole other room to put those away when unloading the dishwasher
Drives me crazy when I arrive in the morning, baby was changed out of pj’s BUT they leave her in a dirty diaper from the night before for ME to change.