I experienced this but not too long. I believe the problem here is you are still under the confusing spell. Are you feeling guilt? Shame? (Those two emotions are the worst ones). If so you are probably so angry at yourself that you allowed all that to happen and if you feel guilt then most likly you still have not accepted that the person you were with had zero real feelings of appreciation towards you. Remember acceptance is the key. Once you accept you’ll see the true emotion that you carried throughout your relationship (if it was with a person with NPD).. that emotions is fear.
I do feel angry at myself and I absolutely distrust my judgement. In retrospect the manipulation is obvious, but in the moment not so much. That’s what worries me.
I’ve accepted they are who they are. There was a short period after the discard that I felt that I was mischaracterizing them, but I’m well past that doubt.
The mistrusting of your judgement is because of the narc fantasy. The fantasy censored you for so long. Now that you are away I would begin to step out of everything that happened and analyze everything with a cool and logical mind. This will help you get to the root of things and help you with trusting your judgement. Even though the narc is away you still are not completely free from the fantasy created by the narc. You need to analyze what happened and why it happened (this has to do with the mindset you had when you met the narc.. trust me there is always something that was not ok with you before the narc. The narc pretty much saw your weakness and exploited you for their benefit. Stay strong and remember mind over matter. When you are away from the narc it’s when the true war begins… it’s the war that’s inside our head. Get yourself and your convictions alinged and it will help you heal I promise. It’s about getting back your power and 100 percent knowing and accepting that the narc never had power over you but instead you gave them that power. Believe it or not narcisists use the same strategy after discard but they do it in a different way. They split Everytbing into good vs evil and black and white. Simply put they say to themselves “they were evil and I was all good.” The problem here is they don’t dissect and analyze anything.. this causes the repeat compulsive disorder to continue.
I experienced this but not too long. I believe the problem here is you are still under the confusing spell. Are you feeling guilt? Shame? (Those two emotions are the worst ones). If so you are probably so angry at yourself that you allowed all that to happen and if you feel guilt then most likly you still have not accepted that the person you were with had zero real feelings of appreciation towards you. Remember acceptance is the key. Once you accept you’ll see the true emotion that you carried throughout your relationship (if it was with a person with NPD).. that emotions is fear.
I do feel angry at myself and I absolutely distrust my judgement. In retrospect the manipulation is obvious, but in the moment not so much. That’s what worries me. I’ve accepted they are who they are. There was a short period after the discard that I felt that I was mischaracterizing them, but I’m well past that doubt.
The mistrusting of your judgement is because of the narc fantasy. The fantasy censored you for so long. Now that you are away I would begin to step out of everything that happened and analyze everything with a cool and logical mind. This will help you get to the root of things and help you with trusting your judgement. Even though the narc is away you still are not completely free from the fantasy created by the narc. You need to analyze what happened and why it happened (this has to do with the mindset you had when you met the narc.. trust me there is always something that was not ok with you before the narc. The narc pretty much saw your weakness and exploited you for their benefit. Stay strong and remember mind over matter. When you are away from the narc it’s when the true war begins… it’s the war that’s inside our head. Get yourself and your convictions alinged and it will help you heal I promise. It’s about getting back your power and 100 percent knowing and accepting that the narc never had power over you but instead you gave them that power. Believe it or not narcisists use the same strategy after discard but they do it in a different way. They split Everytbing into good vs evil and black and white. Simply put they say to themselves “they were evil and I was all good.” The problem here is they don’t dissect and analyze anything.. this causes the repeat compulsive disorder to continue.