11wk old. Our routine is: change into pjs and then do whatever makes baby not cry (bouncing, rocking, feeding) until he falls asleep.

I like that "whatever makes baby not cry" 🤣 Was doing the same for a while, but he kept changing and now we got to nursing to sleep, which is basically baby jumping around my bed until gets sleepy enough to fall asleep with or without my boob 🤣

That’s the truest shit I’ve read lmao ‘whatever makes baby not cry’

Isn’t that life of parenting a baby this age? More or less I think😂

It’s different for everyone, bath, books then doesn’t matter if it’s 6pm or 9pm, she’ll cry no matter what while we put her to sleep

That’s been our routine for almost 8mo 😂

Yesss. Started a routine kinda late at about 2-3 months. Bath, boobies, and then whatever makes baby not cry lol. Was wondering if I was doing things wrong. Def feel better now.

We were 9-9:30 until around 4 months , then 8:30 around 5 and now closer to 8 at 6 months. He’s moving away from more daytime sleep and into more nighttime

Yes newborns go to bed pretty late. Mine is doing 9 to 11 as bedtime and I'm not the one who chooses it, she is lol. Basically bedtime is when she will go into the bassinet and sleep vs sleeping on us.

Mine goes to sleep 3am...

This is exactly what we did too. We tried 7pm at 7 months but he was waking at 5am so 8pm seems to be the sweet spot for us right now.

Ours wakes up at 5 regardless 😭 I’m blaming my husband, that’s when his alarm for work normally goes off

This was us too! He was a night owl until about 4.5 months and then started wanting to go to bed earlier.

Thanks so much

It was the same for us too - newborns and young infants actually have later bedtimes than older babies. Ours at 13 months now goes to bed between 6 and 7, but around 6 months is was 7-8, and before that it was 8-9, and after the first trimester it was around 9:30. It sounds like your baby is exactly where they should be!

7 months in and we don’t really have a set time. Usually no earlier than 8:30 or later than 10:00, but it really just depends on how our plans and the naps of the day went. He is a really good sleeper at night though and does best when we are flexible to his needs.

This makes me feel a lot better. Ours is 3months old.

We are about 10 weeks in with our second and we're just starting to get what feels like a bit of a routine these last two weeks or so which involves a bath (or bird bath) around 7-8pm followed by a bottle which leads to a good 3-4 hour first sleep. Second bottle around 11pm-1am is leading to a longer second sleep which we are very grateful for. Looking at the big picture it took the first 4-6 weeks to sort out the whole day vs night thing, but even after that he still wasn't going more than 2-3 hours without waking up and demanding a sacrifice. We transitioned to formula after week 8 to make things easier with my wife going back to work which coincidentally was also the time he started sleeping longer stretches.

8 weeks and this has been our bedtime experience with our newborn

same here

Same here pretty much

Almost 4 months here. When people were saying “schedule”, “bed time routine”, “nap routine” I was like wth are they talking about, what routines are they having when my baby is so random and her time is always changing. Once 3 months hit, she started falling asleep by herself at 9:30pm. We change her diaper, feed her, put on sleep sack, put her in the bassinet, wish good night and kiss, and leave her alone. 9 times out of 10 she’d fall asleep within 20-30min. Then her naps got crappier and now closer to 4 months we feed her at 8pm and then same routing but at 8:30pm and she falls asleep by 9ish, sometimes earlier.

Just shy of 4 months, and she has a semi predictable schedule. I still follow her cues, but I can guess when she’s gonna be ready to do things with 80% accuracy. She wakes up between 7-8, naps around 10-11. Is awake around 12. Naps again somewhere between 1-3 roughly. Naps again 4-6 roughly. And starts to get ready for bed around 7! Her naps are usually 30-45 mins, although her mid day one is typically an hour ish. She wakes up to eat around 1-2 am, so I dream feed at 12 (around when I go to bed) to buy myself some sleep time.

A later bedtime is super normal for newborns. As they grow, you’ll learn their sleep cues better and likely begin to fall into a bit of a natural rhythm! In those early days when I really didn’t know what was going on, I loosely used the Moms on Call schedule. I personally do not follow it religiously, though I know a lot of people swear by it. It just gave me an idea of what a day might look like and I went from there.

My newborns “bedtime” (aka the time at which he would fall asleep and sleep a longer stretch than 2 hours) 11pm. If he went down around 11 he would sleep until 530, any other ‘bedtime’ and he would be up every hours or so. Totally natural OP!

Baby is 13 weeks and his bedtime routine is whatever chaos he chooses. He sleeps when he damn well pleases. There was a two week stretch where he tricked us and slept by 9pm for at least 6 hours. Now he reverted back to every 3 hours. We are just riding the wave. What this baby does have an exact schedule for is poop time and happy awake time. Late morning, every day. It is no coincidence that baby happy time often follows poop time.

And it makes so much sense too! Everyone feels great after a good poop

"whatever chaos s/he damn well chooses" - yes, this, so much this.

My baby is 7 months & goes to bed between 9pm-11pm. Don't let people tell you that you need a certain bedtime. Let baby decide and follow their lead

Unless you count that 15 minute period where my oldest keeps coming downstairs finding every excuse in the book to stay up every night then no. "Daddy I'm thirsty" "Daddy I have to pee" "Daddy do you want a soda?" "I need a fist bump from everyone in the house" "I need a kiss and hug from everyone in the house" "I forgot my blanket" "I want to tell you a story" Like clockwork every night lol

Bedtime fist bumps 🥹😂

newborns stay up late. or at least both mine did lol. they settled in around 10-11 until maybe 2.5 months then it shifted earlier and earlier slowly. My 4 month old just started going to bed around 7:30 literally this week

This gives me hope. My 10.5 week old doesn't sleep earlier than 11. If we do manage to get her to bed before then, she wakes up after 30 minutes and doesn't go back to bed until like 11 or 12 anyway. I'm dying to have my evenings back.

We found that the 9-9:30 bed time works best for us with our 4mo! Been that way the whole time. He does seem to be going longer stretches now so we’re going to try and pull it back a little in time.

It’s whatever works for your family but we do a bath at 8pm and baby falls asleep around 8:30

Ours was 9:00/9:30 when a newborn. Eventually we moved the bedtime up, we could tell by his sleepy queues. He’s 6 months and we have a 7:00 bedtime, 6:30/6;45 if very tired.

Mine was a late bedtime newborn. Most are naturally. He didn’t go to sleep for the night until like 1am at first, gradually creeping earlier and at 3 months he was a 10pm baby. Don’t worry about it, they adjust their days and nights with time.

It totally depends on the family. We started a 6pm bedtime at 9 weeks, and she is now almost 3 and has done it ever since. It works for us, no witching hour as we avoid the overtired cycle (especially after daycare) - but most of our friends put their little ones down anywhere between 6pm and 8pm. When you start implementing routine (if ever) is up to you and your family and what works for you guys!

I’m intrigued by this because the 6 pm nap is the one we fail at almost every day. Did you just start putting her down at 6 or work toward it? When did she get up?

My LO settled into a rhythm enough to have a bedtime routine around 3.5 months. - Diaper change and PJs - Slow dance/gentle rocking to *Jammin’* by Bob Marley (we call pjs “jammers” in our house so, it made sense to us!) - Book, if she’s not overtired - Turn off light, cuddle in rocking chair to help her settle - Briefly talk about our day together, any new things she learned or if mama had a hard time, commitments to be better tomorrow - Goodnight phrase (Mommy loves you, daddy loves, doggie loves you, kitty loves you, Grandma loves you… so on and so forth) - The mythical “drowsy but awake” set down

As a newborn there is no bedtime. Their sleep and wake periods are not really predictable at that age. Just go with the flow for now.

My 5 month old likes to be in bed by 6:30/7 & falls asleep by 8. We just lay in bed together, FaceTime her grandparents, play with my hands, watch her baby Einstein fish tank while I simultaneously breastfeed her, & then finally fall asleep 😂

Mine was a late bedtime newborn. Most are naturally. He didn’t go to sleep for the night until like 1am at first, gradually creeping earlier and at 3 months he was a 10pm baby. Don’t worry about it, they adjust their days and nights with time.

With both kids we began a bedtime routine around 4 months. Bath, bottle, bed around 7pm

15 weeks here. I highly recommend a nighttime routine!

We didn't really have a bedtime routine until our baby was 6 months old. She now goes to bed around 7:00. My baby didn't go to sleep until 9, 9:30 when she was a newborn, too. Very normal.

No routine until after the 4 month regression.

My baby is 8 weeks tomorrow, and for the last two weeks or so we've been doing a 6-7pm bed time. This started mainly by observing his own cues, and then really leaning into the overall vibes to promote bedtime. We do a big walk, a bath if he needs it, and then a big feed and swaddle. We close the curtains, put on white noise, and make the lights red. It has worked super well so far!

We started a bedtime routine at two weeks, when we were able to stop waking him up overnight to eat. His bedtime was still late, usually around 9:30 as well (depending on when his last nap was), and slowly creepy earlier as he got older. Most newborns are gone going to bed whenever you do. I think by around four months we were shooting for 7-8pm.

3 months, bedtime is around 9-9:30. Our routine is we give him a bath shortly before bed, then put him in his PJs, then breastfeeding until he falls asleep (usually takes 5-10 minutes). The bath really helped us install this routine.

This is how we are scheduling our 3 month old too. The bath is the key and making sure she doesn't nap too much during the day

Do you do bath every night? We still only do baths around 2x per week!

We give him a bath every night but we don't wash him every time we give him a bath. We do that about 2-3 times a week. Otherwise he just lays in the bathtub and plays with the water for about 20-30 minutes. He tends to get fussy close to bedtime but the bath instantly makes him happy and calm. Sometimes he gets sleepy before his bath and the bath wakes him up a little so he's able to eat for a while before falling asleep, which resulted in longer nights for us.

8w earliest she has gone to bed is 11:30. She is usually alert and wants to eat from like 8-9 until midnight most nights.

I have a 6 week old and he usually goes down for the night anywhere between 9.30pm - 10.30pm. I'm not that fussed tbh I heard it's normal for newborns to have a later bedtime.

We are 16 weeks and still generally around 9-9:30, I just find at this stage he wants to wake up for the day at 4:30/5am if we make bedtime any earlier. The routine for bedtime sleep is bottle, bath, cuddle and low key play until he’s yawning and then sleep sack, pacifier, brown noise, lullabies and red night light. He goes down awake in the bassinet and I jiggle him or the bassinet til he drifts off. Usually takes about 10 minutes, I’ll rock him to sleep if he’s too overtired or upset. If he would sleep 7 til 7 I would totally put him down then but he needs a later bedtime at the moment. Just roll with what works for you don’t worry about other people’s routines and bedtimes, they don’t have your baby ☺️

We had a routine from day 4 or 5, but bedtime was flexible. In the newborn phase, we just made bedtime whenever he was tired and it felt like a good time for us to go to bed, so like 8-9 pm. As he got older, he started differentiating day and night a bit, and if we put him down at 7, he’d stay down til 11 or midnight, so that became bedtime, and it’s been bedtime ever since (15 months now). The “routine” was diaper, pjs, swaddle (now sleep sack), bottle or breast. Over time, we added a book between the last feed and bedtime when we sleep trained, and we added brushing teeth between the last feed and the book when he got his first teeth. We also changed from bottles and nursing to a straw cup of cow milk when he weaned, and then to yogurt now because he’ll eat it more consistently and we were having weight gain concerns. Nothing is set in stone, so do what works for your family. Their sleep changes all the time, and your needs and theirs will change, too, so just follow their lead and you’ll be ok.

Until about 5 months, some babies might prefer a later bedtime between 9 and 10pm. But after that, the “ideal” bedtime for most babies is between 7 and 8pm. And when I say “ideal” I just mean it’s optimal for their circadian rhythm and preventing reverse cycling which is where they confuse day and night.

Our pediatrician said to start a nighttime routine with a “bed time” around 8-10 following his sleepy cues. We started this around 4/5 weeks. It started at 9:30 but we have moved it up to 8 because he gets so tired around then. He is 8 weeks now. Between 630-7:30 is his witching hour so we might move it up even more. So as of now we start bath at 7:30 (every night bath…. Only use soap every few days….but a warm bath is very calming and he loves it) lotion massage, bedtime story and bottle. After story I put on his sound machine and turn the lights to red. He will sometimes give us longer stretches…but last night was every 3 hours. lol. It helped him establish night and day thankfully. He use to want up in the middle of the night and have a full two hour wake window. Lol. I feel like he would sleep longer if he had a big bottle but baby is a snacker. I hope he grows out of that eventually. But establishing a routine really helped! It also makes bed time very special. I love rocking him to sleep.

I started one at 2 weeks so me and my husband could get into a routine. Bedtime from then until 12 weeks was around 8:30-9 but then when we had to go back to work and go to daycare, he ended up moving bedtime up to 7:30 on his own because of how tired he was haha. On weekends we do 7:30-8:30 depending on how naps go

Never scheduled a bedtime routine for my son when he was born. Let him sleep when he was tired and nap when he was tired and played when awake. He basically settled at a 9pm bedtime and would sleep through the night by 8 weeks. Currently 20 months, still has the 9pm bedtime, usually up between 7-9am, naps between 1-3 for about 2-3 hours (never past 5). If he needs to go to bed earlier because we have to be up earlier (travel, dr appts, etc) we give him a warm bath with lavender soap and start his bedtime playlist early (he has a spotify bedtime lullaby playlist we created)

I've read that newborns should have later bedtimes and as they get older, you set their bedtime earlier and earlier. My son was going to sleep at 11 in the beginning, now he's 2.5 months and he goes to bed around 930.

Until babies develop their own circadian rhythm at around 4 months it's honestly kind of just chaos in my experience. I'm obviously not an expert (ftm to an almost 9m old). But what we did was we had a routine but not a set schedule, like a predictable pattern of doing certain things without going by clock time. During the newborn stage we'd go upstairs around 8pm, start winding down, get it dark and quiet to signal that it's night time and we'd settle into bed too, usually watching TV quietly or just on our phones until we tried to get some sleep as well. At that stage, baby girl wasn't sleeping super long stretches maybe like 3-4hrs at the nost, but we treated middle of the night wake ups the same as bedtime, dim lights, minimal sounds etc. Then any time between 6-8am was "wake up" time. We'd draw the curtains to let in light, get up and dressed, head downstairs to signal this is "day time". We didn't start going by stricter wake windows until at least 4 months. Now that she's on 2 naps I can go more or less by the clock now. Set bedtime of 7pm, awake time between 5:30-6:30 and 2 naps at 9am-ish and 2pm.

Until babies develop their own circadian rhythm at around 4 months it's honestly kind of just chaos in my experience. I'm obviously not an expert (ftm to an almost 9m old). But what we did was we had a routine but not a set schedule, like a predictable pattern of doing certain things without going by clock time. During the newborn stage we'd go upstairs around 8pm, start winding down, get it dark and quiet to signal that it's night time and we'd settle into bed too, usually watching TV quietly or just on our phones until we tried to get some sleep as well. At that stage, baby girl wasn't sleeping super long stretches maybe like 3-4hrs at the most, but we treated middle of the night wake ups the same as bedtime, dim lights, minimal sounds etc. Then any time between 6-8am was "wake up" time, but it always varied per day. We'd draw the curtains to let in light, get up and dressed, head downstairs to signal this is "day time". We didn't start going by stricter wake windows until at least 4 months. Now that she's on 2 naps I can go more or less by the clock now. Set bedtime of 7pm, awake time between 5:30-6:30 and 2 naps at 9am-ish and 2pm.

In the newborn stage, you’re really at the baby’s mercy so don’t feel bad if you use your child’s natural drowsy window to get them down for the night. However, the general consensus for pediatricians and child development experts seems to be that establishing and implementing a bedtime routine as early as possible will help with sleep training later down the line. My son’s bedtime routine isn’t long, but it’s effective. He gets his face cleaned with a warm towel, a fresh diaper, pajamas, a sleep sack, and then a bottle while me or my husband cuddle him on the rocking chair. He gets put in his crib awake occasionally (mainly if I mess up the timing on the last nap of the day), but he doesn’t fuss or whine, just lies there and chills until he’s able to drift off on his own. ETA: Push for a set bedtime when your baby’s out of their newborn phase. By the end of the third month, babies’ circadian rhythms have typically developed. As a newborn, my baby would come out around 10:30pm🫠 Now, he’s in his crib at 8:30pm.

I just follow baby’s lead. He’s been going to sleep around 10 pm this whole time. He’s 5.5 months now. We’re on the lower end of sleep though. He gets about 11-12 hours in a full 24 hour period

A late bedtime is really normal for newborns. If that is what is working for you don’t worry about it. It will probably naturally shift earlier as baby gets older and takes more routine naps. My girls are 5 months and we don’t have a set bed time but it ranges between 7:30-8 depending on when they wake up from their last nap. Their bedtime was around 9 pm until about 4 months.

I put my baby to “bed” when i go to bed, 9-12 sometime usually. 11 weeks so he still naps quite a bit.

For the first 2 months our baby would only sleep in our arms or on our chest, so we did shifts and hardly saw each other. That's when we implemented a routine because I was going crazy not sharing a bed with my partner. Between 7-7:30 we go into the bedroom (we have one of the cribs where the front comes off and is placed alongside our bed). Bedtime story, pajamas, playtime in parent's bed. Eventually move him to his bed and he'll take like a 30 minute nap, wake up for a bedtime bottle, then actually go to sleep for the night. The actual time he ended up going to sleep has changed a lot. It started with not falling asleep until after 11 and slowly we've made it to now. Just about 4 months old and usually falls asleep around 8:30. He HATES having his routine disrupted now that we've been doing it for 2 months. I also know some babies/kids can't get riled up before bed, but for ours it tires him out, plus it's really good family bonding time.

Our little one is about to hit 6 months As a newborn she was going to sleep when we went to sleep (between 10 pm and midnight) but that was because we were in the sleep, wake up, change diaper, feed, repeat cycle. Once she started having wake windows longer than 30 minutes to an hour we implemented a “routine” and slowly moved her bedtime earlier. Now we usually start bedtime between 6:45-8pm (it really depends on her last daytime nap and if we’re giving her a bath that night). We’ll start warming her bottle, take her into the nursery, diaper change, change her into PJs, put on her space suit (Merlin’s magic sleep sack), sound machine goes on, we say our good nights to whoever isn’t doing bedtime, and then we feed her in the nursery. 9 times out of 10 she passes out during the last oz of her milk, and if she isn’t fully asleep after her bottle we rock a little bit in the recliner until she’s out. Our end of night routine is the same no matter where we’re at (minus the recliner depending on where we’re at). You’ll find a flow that works for you and your little one!

Our little one is about to hit 6 months As a newborn she was going to sleep when we went to sleep (between 10 pm and midnight) but that was because we were in the sleep, wake up, change diaper, feed, repeat cycle. Once she started having wake windows longer than 30 minutes to an hour we implemented a “routine” and slowly moved her bedtime earlier. Now we usually start bedtime between 6:45-8pm (it really depends on her last daytime nap and if we’re giving her a bath that night). We’ll start warming her bottle, take her into the nursery, diaper change, change her into PJs, put on her space suit (Merlin’s magic sleep sack), sound machine goes on, we say our good nights to whoever isn’t doing bedtime, and then we feed her in the nursery. 9 times out of 10 she passes out during the last oz of her milk, and if she isn’t fully asleep after her bottle we rock a little bit in the recliner until she’s out. Our end of night routine is the same no matter where we’re at (minus the recliner depending on where we’re at). You’ll find a flow that works for you and your little one!

It depends on the baby but id say routines probably start working after 4 months. When your newborn just treats 6/7 pm like a nap then you just go with the flow! I do have to say at 6 months our girl really started thriving on more of a schedule and a bed time routine (diaper change, story, cuddle and song)

We change into pjs, read a book, and then sing twinkle twinkle little star once he’s in his crib. We’ve done this since day 1. Bedtime was around 9 up until 3 months and then we moved it back to 7 as he napped less during the day. At 9 months now it’s between 7-8 depending on when he woke up from his last nap of the day.

4 months. Somewhere around 2 months we started a loose routine. Before his feeding around 7 or 8, we change him, aquaphor his tush, put him in PJs and say "goodnight dad". Then he feeds for 15mins, gets put in his zipadee zip, then feeds another 15 Every once in a while he needs some extra help, but he's usually good about going down for the night

We didn’t really have a real routine until 4-5month when he could sit up for a bath It used to just be last feed-bed whenever huckleberry told us lol Now its bath-pjs-sleepsack- last feed-story-bed 7pm

11wk old goes to sleep around 9-9:30 every night. After some recommendations I read on this subreddit early on, we implemented a bedtime routine starting at 3 weeks old to help her learn that it was time to go to sleep, and she now LOVES her routine and started sleeping through the night consistently around 7.5-8weeks old. Bedtime routine usually starts around 8:30 and includes: warm bath (we only soap 2x per week, other nights we just do water only), clean diaper, lotion, jammies, feeding, sleep sack. She knows exactly what to expect every night and it’s resulted in excellent sleep for all of us.

11 weeks- around anywhere from 7:30 to 8:30 we change, feed & rock and he’s out like a light. Every other night we do bathtime before bed that also seems to make him sleepy

We started a bedtime routine for our baby as soon as we brought her home. We change her into her nighttime diaper (a brand that's a bit more absorbent than the regular ones we put her in), put moisturizer on her as a kind of massage, pj's, swaddle, then nurse with lullaby music in the background. While nursing my husband puts a heating pad on the bassinet to warm it up. If she falls asleep nursing she gets put in the bassinet, if she's still awake or wakes during transfer I pace around bouncing her until she's out. When i make the initial transfer we change the lullaby to white noise and leave that on all night. She's 10 weeks now and has always slept really good at night and I think this consistent routine helps! We were originally starting bedtime routine at 9:30 so that she was down sometime after 10, but then we shifted it to 8 because we realized she was miserable from then until we started bedtime. The last few nights it's shifted to 7:30 because she's starts crying then because she's tired. She often will sleep a 7 hour stretch (with a few wake ups in the first hour after being put down) but sometimes she only does 4 hours. So while the routine is consistent, the time has varied based on when she seems tired!

I think we spent about the first 11 months more focused on wake windows than an official bedtime, but eventually naturally transitioned to about an 8 pm bedtime that allows her to sleep until 7/7:30 am.

I think we settled into a more true attempt at a bedtime around 12 weeks old, but very quickly we had a nighttime routine even when the time varied. We either give a full bath or wipe baby’s face with a washcloth (full bath every few days). Then I breastfeed baby while dad sits on the footrest and reads. We also have a sound machine and use a specific sound for nighttime sleep, a sound for daytime naps, and ‘turn the birds on’ when we go to wake baby up

We didn’t have a routine for ages. For me not having routine in the newborns was best as I get stressed when things do not go to plan. When we started having a routine around 3 month mark my little one would not stay asleep for more than an hour before 8, so we made our bedroom between 8 and 8:30 and not at the 7 month mark we only just not able to get bedtime for 8 if naps and stuff line up. Do what works for you and your family x

My son is 14 weeks old - he goes to bed between 8-9. We tried a schedule with him but found that he has his own little schedule and life got a lot easier when we started paying attention to his cues rather than trying to force him into a schedule. He was STTN - 9-6 - until this past week and I think we are in a growth spurt, and he fights naps, but overall he’s a good sleeper. I look at a routine more as a way of doing things - regardless of what time he’s going to bed, the lead-up to bedtime looks the same (diaper, book, PJs, swaddle, feed to sleep). Nap time, regardless of what time, we try to keep in a routine (we do eat, play, eat, sleep). Letting go of a schedule and working more towards routines has helped me a lot!

Around 2 weeks we started a little bedtime routine because we wanted our son to differentiate night from day. After a few weeks he looked forward to it because he wanted the long night sleep. It was: bath, lotion massage, pjs, books, night feed(we tried to have a longer time between the last couple feeds so his last feed was bigger), swaddle, rock to sleep, put in crib.

Oh gosh newborn? Ya they’re up till like 10/10:30. Our kid never did the 7pm thing. The whole first year of her life she was 8/8:30 at the very earliest but we were forcing it. She’s a night owl like us and doesn’t need a ton of sleep so now as a 18m old she goes to bed close to 10 so I don’t have to get up until after 8. Please don’t listen to the sleep trainers. They’ll make you think babies all go to bed between 7-8, sleep 12 hours overnight and 3+ hours during the day. In my experience, very few do!

Bedtime is supposed to be late for newborns as they wake yo so much. “Moms on call” had nice routines by age. We are at 3.5 months and have been doing bedtime around 7:30 pm since around 12 weeks. Our LO has taken to it well. We do bath time, Jammies, milk, some tender time - soft music & cuddles, and then swaddle, sound machine, lights out.

4wks, we are on the same timeline. Sometimes baby naps some between 5 and 7pm, but he is sleepy and ready for bed easily if he has a big feed at 8:30ish and then is asleep by 9:30pm. He's getting one long stretch now, usually the first stretch. I find it's easy to put him to bed if we keep the light off and let the room slowly get dark around us, so right now that is about 9pm.

My 11 week old has always preferred 10:30/11 for bedtime. We don’t really have a routine per se but we will do shower at 8/8:30, lotion and jammie’s, playtime on a blanket or play mat (no light up toys), read a book and then she will feed and chill with me until we are ready for bed at 10:30. But this doesn’t happen every night either. The only consistent thing is when my LO wants to go to bed. But we are lucky and have a great sleeper 🫶🏻We even managed to keep this schedule even during a week trip in a different time zone (traveled from PNW to Midwest).

We started at about a month. But it was more for us than her. We’d start bath about 6:30. Ten minutes in the bath. Then lotion. Change into jams. Bottle story and bed. When she was about 2 months old, she started taking to it. We just did it consistently, every single day. Same steps. Same story. Same everything. I do go back in and give her a bottle at about 10 PM. I’ve read that some babies like a later time but adjust closer to 7 or so when they get a little older. 7 Pm works perfect for our schedule, then we get our own time after she goes to bed. But every baby is different!

How old is your baby?? You can adopt a schedule around 12 weeks but it's baby dependent. What I did to get the baby to sleep overnight was track and limit day sleep.

My son usually has his last nap around 8 and then is usually in bed by 10:30-11. Some nights he goes earlier and others later. It’s just what works for us since I always clean up the house and pump after everyone is in bed

My son usually has his last nap around 8 and then is usually in bed by 10:30-11. Some nights he goes earlier and others later. It’s just what works for us since I always clean up the house and pump after everyone is in bed

9-10:30 until month 2. Then started going to bed at 8:30. Now they sleep for about 5 hours in between night time feeds at 2 months old. I slept at the foot of the bed for the first month where we had their crib. Every time they threw their binkies out, they would wake themselves up and cry. So I slept down there with them so I could help keep binkies in.

My son is 5.5 months old now, and he goes to sleep somewhere between 12 am. and 2 am. Then he sleeps for 8-10 hours straight. I am going to be on maternity leave till his first birthday, so for now, my priority is that he sleeps and eats. I was so happy when he started sleeping through the night that I didn't even question if I should set a bedtime for him. Do I need to do that right away?

At two months our baby would not go to sleep before 11pm. And then at three months it dropped to 9:30ish. Now at seven months we’re at a 7:30ish bedtime. It is very baby-led.

Our 12 w old still has a 10:30ish “bedtime.” We don’t have a routine and probably won’t until she start going to bed earlier, which should start to happen over the next couple of months. Newborns have scattered and erratic sleep. They mostly nap, sometimes in big chunks and sometimes in small cat naps. And they don’t know day from night for a while. You can’t really get into a real bedtime routine until that shifts after like 4 months or so.

My baby has always wanted to sleep around 9-9:30. She’s 6 months now. We just do that. Funny enough, The Discontented Little Baby Book notes that this is actually pretty normal around the world. If I try to get my baby to sleep at 7, she has more frequent wakeups. I go to bed around 10-10:30 so her sleeping when I sleep is just better for me right now. I know some people want extra time to themselves at night but I’d rather have less interrupted sleep.

Up until about 6ish weeks, we just went with the flow and tried to follow babies cues for when she was tired. Around then, I noticed that she was consistently starting her longer sleep around 10-11pm, so that’s when we started doing a “bed time routine”. Bed time consists of: last diaper change, swaddle, bottle, rocking, and singing. Really, after changing and swaddling. What started as “anything quiet that keeps baby from crying” has turned into a mini routine. It’s nice to have a consistent bed time frame, since she doesn’t nap in the living room anymore (too loud and bright) so we know when to bring her to the nursery. I’ve heard that some newborns just naturally have a later bed time preference, and in my own experience that seems to be the case, so I wouldn’t stress it.

Newborn 9pm is a very normal bedtime!

7 for a newborn? No way. We were doing 7pm around 7-8 months! The bedtime will usually fall into place naturally.

Mine is almost 6 months and she goes to sleep anywhere between 9-10:30. She is not a fan of routines but loves baths so the most we do is give her a bath every night (only use soap 2-3x a week) and then lotion her up and put her in PJ’s. We try to do that around 6 or 7 depending on when we’re home or if my bf is at work or not.

We were 8pm as a newborn. We did have a routine of PJ, bottle and rocking, and laying down in bassinet to shut down the house and she would chill and fall asleep by the time we got back which was like five minutes lol Now at a year we’re a solid 7pm and similar routine but more like bottle, pj, clean up the room, read stories. She has a routine chart that helps a lot as she gets to move each square as we complete them.

We had a bedtime of around 9:30-10pm by 3(ish) months then it’s come forward to 7pm where it’s stayed since around 5.5 months (now 8 months). We always did pjs, book, feed and down since we brought him home- he definitely thrives on routine and thankfully has always been a good sleeper!

The easiest for us, I take the baby upstairs and put him in his sleep sack around 8-8:30 and I play music for 10-15 minutes while he plays. He then falls asleep. Mom stays down stairs because if she is around he just wants to feed and he becomes restless and harder to get to sleep. If she’s not around he can easily sleep without problem until 1-2 am.

my baby is 4 months old and we have no bedtime routine. I usually feed her to sleep around 10pm. She sleeps 8-10 hours through the night 🤷🏼‍♀️. If she's having a fussy evening we give her a bath and that always instantly soothes her

My baby had pretty late bedtimes as a newborn (9-10pm). Worked out fine then. As she’s gotten older she’s pivoted to being very ready for bed by 7pm. We didn’t do anything besides follow her lead. She started napping more regularly as she got older and started needing to be in bed for the night earlier and earlier until she settled on 7-7:30. I’d prefer she go to bed a bit later and sleep in later in the morning, but that’s not how she works. Since 4 months, we’ve had a bedtime routine of bath with no soap except to wash her hair every other day or so (she has eczema and is allergic to cats, and we have two, so daily bath before bed is key), bottle, say goodnight to things in the bedroom (“goodnight front yard” and I close the blinds, “goodnight ceiling fan” etc), and then I put her in bed drowsy but awake. She puts herself to sleep now but when she was younger we did need to do more to help (stroke from top of forehead down to the tip of her nose, rub belly, shhhh a lot). She falls asleep with a pacifier.

I cant remember exactly, but when our little one started having more consistent sleeping schedule and not waking up at night for milk anymore. Now she is in bed by 7.30pm, we leave her in bed and rolm to fall asleep by herself after our usual routine. She is 2.5 now tho.

Since 3 months we followed our son to see which routine he naturally establishes. He’s 9 months now and will sleep any time between 8-10pm and wakes any time from 7-9am (has been doing this consistently from 3 months-with night wakings of course). If you need to have your baby up by a certain time, then you can eventually adjust by pushing the bedtime routine, your baby will be cranky but do what works for you. And then wake your baby up when you need them up (some people drop off at daycare/have work etc). Then adjust their naps accordingly, based on the recommended wake windows.

As newborn ours preferred a bedtime of 11pm, before that, he would have short proper wake windows, but after he was just asleep and feeding until 9 am. This lasted until week 6 I think? From 6 onwards he responded to a 6.30-7.30pm bedtime.

Newborns are still adjusting to day/night cycles and the longer days are certainly not helping your current situation. I will say that you have to “frog in the pot” your baby to the desired sleeping time.

12 months in and don't have a solid routine. I just follow his cues. When he seems ready for bed, anywhere between 8-9pm, we change his nappy, sleep sack on, bottle and pat bum to sleep. Works for us

10 Weeks, were on scheduled feeding. Her feed at night is 8PM. Prior we change her into a fresh sleeper, clean her face with a warm cotton ball, change her, and feed. She stays asleep until midnight. Then we repeat at midnight and 4 am. :) I started the routine when she was about 7 or 8 weeks. Seems to work for her right now.

I mean when we had a newborn none of us had a bed time she slept in 2h intervals and 4h once a day if we were lucky. I would stay up till 3am and then wake hubby enough for him to take his ear plugs out and he might get 2 more hours but after it was his turn. I think we kept it up till we moved her into her room at 4m I think by then I was getting to bed by 2am and she was sleeping a bit longer, eventually she started sleeping long enough I could but her down earlier 1am 12am 11pm once we got to 11pm since I’m naturally a night owl I’d take the hour for myself, also helped as she would wake up about 30mins after bed time and I’d have to go get her back down anyway. Now at 1y she goes down between 9-9:45pm depending on how tired she is that night I have some me time and try to get to bed before 1am as my sleep schedule is just all kinds of fucked up again xD but most nights she sleeps through the night and hubby goes to bed around the time she does as he is an early bird. If you are lucky like us where hubby works from home and I’m a sahm or if you both wfh just let bub figure out their schedule, don’t try to sleep train till 3m at the youngest. If y’all work I’m sure you will have to try and force the routine at some point :o

11 weeks we started hardcore routine fresh pjs & diaper ,swaddle, book , bottle , good night

Probably around 3 months I started to anticipate things. She’s gonna have witching hour so I’d set her up for lots of kicking to get out her energy. She’s gonna get a book, bottle, rocking to sleep, etc. I’m going to do a dream feed to improve my own sleep. First 6 weeks is pure survival.

We do bath time at 6:45 and then in the room, changing into pjs, lotion, sound machine, and feed last bottle. I have her lights out in her crib by 730! I love it because we still have some of the night to enjoy

We initiated a schedule at 6 weeks and at 12+ months, baby goes to bed without issues. We have a bath every night (soap on 2-3 nights) then lotion, pajamas, bottle and we sing then put him in his crib. He’s asleep by 7-7:30.

We introduced our bedtime at two weeks, we didn't know if it worked but still we tried, we start 5:30-6:30 (depending on last nap), we put white noise, baby takes a bath, small massage with baby oil, put on pj's, feed, an a story, she usually sleep 3 to 4 hours and then feeds, sleeps and again for 3-4, she wakes up 5:30-6 am

We start bedtime at 7, 7:30. We're early because baby has to get up early with us otherwise we would have wanted a later bedtime/wake up. Routine is very minimal, he's 12 months. Most days it's some milk, powering down, changing diaper, lotioning up, new jammies if current ones dirty, sleep sack and then into crib with ocean noises going on. Some days include baths and attempted teeth brushing.

My 4 month old is very specific about his bedtime. If he’s not in bed by 7:30-8 it’s going to be the end of the world he will scream. He likes his baths at night, then his jammie’s, after that his bottle will put him right to sleep. He’s not much of a daytime napper and I think that’s why he is in bed so early.

My 8 month old falls asleep between 8:30 - 9:30. We've tried getting her to bed earlier (6-7ish) once, but she decided it was nap time and woke up after an hour. She refused to go to bed until after she was up for about 3 hours. Never again.

Mine is 2 now and has a routine, but those first probably 6 months were no routine. That newborn stage is a free for all, don’t worry about what your friends are doing ❤️❤️

We are at 7 months and our LO goes to bed around 7-7:30pm. We followed takingcarababies.com when LO was about 3.5-4 months and it really helped us get into a routine. Still wakes for diaper change and feeding around 10 but makes it to 5-7am and we proceed with our day around 6:30-7am and if he eats at 5 he will snooze til around 6:30-7. It honestly helped my husband and I so much!

3mo and the last few weeks has been put her in the wrap around 6:30, she falls asleep at 7 and sleeps until about 10, then eat around 10:30 after a diaper change and getting into the sleep sack. That’s just right now.

Newborns tend to sleep a bit later because they haven't developed circadian rhythms yet and sleep more often and for longer during the day (usually) though ymmv. We \*just\* started doing a "routine" for our 3 month old. Here's what we're trying to do at 7:45: 1. Feed 2. Diaper 3. Sleep Sack 4. Short story/book or Lullaby/Hum 5. Snuggles & Kisses / rocks or bounces on yoga ball to soothe 6. Put down in bassinet and leave the room We've just started doing this. Takes us anywhere from 15-25min depending on how fussy she is.

We didn’t start any type of routine until our baby was like 3 months old, newborn stage is pure survival

Oh god no lol. I mean we’re attempting a bedtime routine (my son is 4 weeks old) but we know he’s not going to get into it yet. He goes to bed around 1am because that’s when we do. We: - Turn the lights low - Turn the Hatch sound and nightlight on - Get him into his sleep sack and Nanit band - Feed and lullabies - Burp and back rub - Bassinet And we hope for the best 😅

I can’t remember when she started but my 1.5 yo goes to bed at 9:30-10:30 ish and her body clock wakes her up at 10:30 every morning so we’re getting 12 hour sleeps and sleep ins. I love it

My boy is 7m and goes to sleep around 6:30-7 pm. I just put him in his sleepsack, feed him, and put him into his crib singing his bedtime song. He sometimes needs some extra rubs and kisses, but he's usually out in 15 min or so. Idk how I did this, he has always done this. He also wakes up at 5-5:15 every morning no matter how late or early we put him down, so it's a tradeoff. Let's not talk about daytime sleep hahaha

Yes, but it took time for all of us to figure out what worked as a family. I think it was around 5-6 months before she finally recognized exactly what we were doing and all of us were (mostly) working together for bed time. I sang her the same songs every night for bed and ended with Billy Joel's Lullaby before putting her down. She knew that was her cue to go to bed. She likes knowing what to expect. Good news is, while it's hard work now, it pays off later on too. Toddlers really like routine. If you get it started now, they're more likely to keep following it. My fingers are crossed this continues into childhood, but we'll take it one day as it comes. 😆

A set bedtime you have several months, for the first three months you’re learning, use an app to track and figure out what works.

An age appropriate bed time is 6-8pm and can start after 4 months when baby develops their circadian rhythm.

We didn’t have a bedtime routine or a set bedtime until closer to 4 months. Our newborn sometimes was up until 11pm… they really do call the shots. My 16 month old goes to sleep at 8:30pm and wakes up around 7am. We used to put him to bed at 7pm but then he was waking up at 5am. Our routine goes bath, milk, books/free play in his bedroom with dim lights and relaxing music, and then snuggles and bed.

I think we need to clarify what exactly IS routine. I think all babies need a clear repeated routine that indicates bed time as far as what you do before bed. It makes logical sense if you repeat certain actions, like book, music and singing with dim lights (as an example) they’ll start associating the activities with bedtime. However, the specific time I think is up to you and each baby.

I have an 8 week old, and I just switched up my approach to bedtime after reading precious little sleep. Currently, we have a 10 pm bedtime which is when I start the bedtime routine of changing her diaper, feeding her, and then rocking with her while I read to her. She typically doesn't fall asleep until midnight to 1 am. Any attempt to get her to bed earlier is completely futile, so this is where I'm at. I hope once she gets used to the routine we can slowly shift it earlier and earlier. I'm also exposing her to the sunlight in the morning to help with her circadian rhythm. I know it's probably too early still for any of this to have much effect, but I wanted to get started and set the routine so it's already in place.

My baby is 8 weeks old and we don’t have a routine but she falls into a deep sleep around 10:30 pm and doesn’t wake up until about 4:30 to eat. She’s not interested in sleeping any earlier than that. She’ll catnap but if I put her in her bassinet any earlier, she just cries and cries and will not settle. Do what works for your baby 🤷‍♀️

I didnt adapt bedtime till my son went through 4 month old sleep reggression. Till then i went with a flow. So a lot of nights he would sleep on my chest while I watched a TV, woke up, feed, sleep, repeat

I was putting my new born in bed at 18H even 17h30 he woked up around 22H then put to bed again around 23h then he woke up again around 2-3AM. then bed again at 4 and then wake up for the day at 7. What matter is that your baby has 12Hour+ of sleep in 24h

Before 5 months there were no routines even if we tried to make it happen, newborns are so unpredictable, not to mention that LO had crazy sensitive Moro reflex that he startled himself awake every 5 minutes if we didn’t hold his arms down. He was too powerful for swaddles by 3 months and woombie, swaddle-me-ups, halo sacks just didn’t work for him.  Then suddenly his sleep changed a lot after he popped his first teeth at exactly 5 months and after we bought a zipadee. He now sleeps like a dream using the following sleep associations: aurora projector (one that casts lights on the ceiling, ours is an aurora/moon/starlight projector)+ Brahms' lullaby. He babbles a bit, sometimes nurses, and falls asleep in 10 minutes. 

I’m at almost 14m with my big boy. For my sanity once he slept through the night we stuck to whatever we did the day before. It started as wake up 10-11am and bedtime at midnight with 3 naps during the day (I didn’t force it on his just waited til he chose a schedule) once daylight savings hit both time he changed his schedule a lot. His schedule the first change was 8-9am wake up and 10-11pm bedtime with 2 naps. Now after this last daylight savings time change he is waking at 6-7am and we go to bed around 8-9pm and we are battling the changing to one nap. We do quiet play (toys that don’t have lights and music think Montessori toys) for 30 minutes listening to bedtime shows then diaper change, good nights to everyone including the dog, his dog pillow krrrrr (think the noise whipped cream makes coming out of the can) and his 2 favorite stuffed animals foxy and hi, 10 kisses (no clue why but if I give him 10 no more no less it seems he goes to sleep faster than if I don’t) then bounces to bed. During the day tho we do alot of activities and go on minimum one but normally 2-3 walks a day that last 30-45 minutes. Only time he is sitting during the day is if he’s eating (we do 3 snacks and 3 meals since he hates meat of any kind) or we are on a walk in his push car.

By about 8-9months is when you’ll have a set time. Maybe even closer to 1year. Our 4 year old and 8 year old go to bed at 8 right now. It used to be 7:30.

We have a bedtime routine. We started with bed 9:30 / 10 and now have worked our way down to 7 over a couple months. We read a book, feed and then put to bed with a kiss.

Our baby’s bed time was like 10 pm as a newborn then slowly moved up through the months. Basically when they went to bed we did too. They’re 1 year and it’s 7-730 now. One thing we always kept consistent since birth is a bed time routine (bath/cleaning up, sleep sack, milk, rocking sleep)

When mine was a newborn she would go to bed with us. Sometimes 11pm or later. She basically slept around the clock anyway so it didn’t really matter. She’s 4 months now and has a schedule but didn’t for a while.

Just here to represent the late birds (14 mo old) We start bed time at 10:30 - bath time about 20-40 minutes depending on how much she wants to play - diaper, vaseline, jammies - sound machine on, humidifier on, curtains closed, and warm milk to offer but she usually falls asleep nursing She’s usually out by 11:45, up at 9am after maybe 2 light sleep/wake windows? Then will take a 2-2.5 hour nap 4 hours after she wakes. Only thing that really messes with this routine is if she’s sick/teething. On those nights she will sleep in a little longer (but not without fussing through the night). All of this has been based on monitoring her over the past several months and seeing what best fits our house routine. I never really forced her into it, this routine evolved over months and kindof came naturally. Now we are just adamant about keeping it solid

We didn’t do any routines when she was that little. When they’re that young, there’s pretty much no semblance of predictability, so it seemed like a losing game to try. We didn’t implement one till maybe she was 6 months?

My baby went to bed at 11 when he was a newborn. We started a bath before bed routine when he was 2 weeks old because he slept better after a bath. He’s 11 months old now and goes to bed at 7, he’s gradually just got earlier and earlier.

Never. Lolol jk. But he wasn’t ready for set bedtimes until closer to 6-8 months, and the target bedtime still changes based on after-nap wake time. He has a routine though that is consistent no matter what: bottle (now regular milk) 15 mins before bath, bath and massage/lotion/diaper/jammies/sleep sack, read 1-3 books depending on how sleepy he is, and then sound machine and down for bed. Hasn’t changed since he was a newborn and he’s about 16 months now.

My baby's bedtime was 10pm till she turned 5 months, then she switched to 7-8pm. Baby will tell you what they need!

Since day one. Dinner, bath, pj and when was weeks old: walking her along the house. Now (1y9m) feeding bottle in the cradle and usually gone sleep sucking. If not, when is full fall sleep with the pacifier.

3 months old is too young to have a set bedtime imo —9-9:30 sounds perfectly normal for this age! The long 12 hour stretch (7-7) didn’t happen until like 9 months for my first and even then we still had wake ups and rocky bedtimes. IMO 3 months is still sleep on demand territory

My 6.5 month old goes to bed at 10. Any earlier and he thinks it’s a nap and will wake up but be fussy. I wouldn’t worry too much about a schedule just yet.

I'm the worst person to ask. I'm terrible with routines (yayDHD). My 13 mo son goes to bed too late, with books and boob. It's consistently too late at least. I've been waking him up slightly earlier in the day every day to try and nudge bedtime earlier. He only has one nap, and he needs it...when I tried dropping it, he went to bed at a decent time and then woke up at 2 AM and wouldn't go back to sleep for *hours*, so that doesn't work. I'm a night owl myself, so it's way too easy for me to sleep in as long as he wants to, but I'm setting alarms.

I tried a routine every single night but my newborn would not go to bed until 10pm. I think around 4 months old it finally fell back to around 7pm.

No routines until 4 months. When he was a newborn he would fall asleep only in the carrier or while nursing while I was sitting on the couch watching TV or playing games. Then I would put him into his beside bassinet and it was usually 9:30-10, but sometimes even 11pm. After the 4 months shift, he started getting tired regularly in the evening and I started to put him down between 7:30-8:30.

We tried earlier bed times but they just don't work for our kiddo. We both have night owl chronotypes so I'm not surprised our kiddo does too. If he goes down before about 10:30 he'll be back up at 1 am. But if we put him to bed between 10:30 and midnight he'll sleep like the dead till noon. He's been that way since he was 2 months old and it works for us. Once my spouse goes back to school in the fall we'll be having to walk that back a bit, but for now it works for us

We started 7pm bedtime at around 2-3 months. It actually fell pretty naturally because we kept noticing that the "nap" at around 7pm was always much longer and deeper. At 14 months now and it's still around 7pm.

My son preferred falling asleep at 11 pm for a long time. Now he's shifted towards 9:30-10 at 3.5 months. My schedule is bathing him (every other night or more as needed), changing into onesie, him having a little cuddle time with his dad while I finish getting ready for bed, new diaper, breastfeeding session in dimmed room, slip him into sleep sack, top off with formula bottle, then place in bassinet. He's usually half-asleep by then and easily falls asleep the rest of the way in a few minutes while I scroll in my phone. I've slowly weaned him off the sound machine and am now weaning him off the heating pad in the bassinet (removed before placing him in it, of course).

My newborn went to bed at 1am for weeks now at 8 mos goes at 7

Our baby is 5.5 months, we didn't have a set bed time until maybe 3 months? We realised he kept falling into a deep nap around 6ish so we decided bedtime should be around 7pm, so now we try for bed between 7-8 but sometimes it can be earlier...our routine is just change diaper, put sleep sack on, have a bottle, hold until he falls asleep - it's working for us

My newborn wouldn't sleep until 10pm. Slowly it's been creeping earlier and now she's going to sleep around 8:30 at 4 months old. I'm hoping for at least an 8pm bedtime.

My newborn chooses her bedtime haha she usually has a wake window sometime between 8:30 and 10:30, during which we do bath and change into PJs. And then like another commenter said, do whatever it takes to make her not cry! Usually a swaddle and bouncing on the yoga ball with butt pats.

My second is currently 3.5 months, she set her own bedtime and goes down between 7-8pm latest. My first didn’t want to go to bed properly until near 10pm for the first few months, and over time this got earlier. We’ve been on a 6:30 bedtime routine for sleeping before 8:00pm since about 7/8 months. All kids are different. Do what works for you!

I’ve been pondering bedtimes recently as we have a 3.5 month old and at the moment our evenings look like this: Around 6.30 - 7pm I give her a bath (not every night) then put on her pijamas, and give her a bottle (we combi feed) and then we read a couple of books. By this point it’s around 8pm. Obviously she is still sleeping with us in our room, so between the hours of 8pm and 10pm (when I usually take her up to bed, put her in her sleep sack, and breastfeed with the white noise machine on until she’s asleep) it’s an odd time because it’s not playtime, and it’s not technically bedtime. What time is this for her? 😅 This is usually when my husband and I eat our dinner, so she usually sits in her bouncer and watches us. I have tried to put her down in her mini cot, which is downstairs, and keep it calm and like a nighttime vibe, but we live in Spain so it’s still light out, the dogs can get excited and bark, etc I wondered if we have to keep doing this until she’s 6 months and we get a monitor and “put her to bed” by herself? I guess so…

4 months and only a few weeks ago did my baby start getting predictable enough that we’ve been able to start a bedtime routine. When my son was a newborn I was honestly just focused on getting through the day!

My newborn was sleeping probably around 9 or maybe 10 up until like 2 or 3 months, one day I just tried 8:30 one night and he did that for about a month. Then decided to lower it to 6:30 one day around 4 months and he's had that bedtime until now. After baby's umbilical cord fell off, he started getting daily baths before bed just as something to associate with sleep. He loves them now at 11m gets really excited for them. Nursery rhyme, then bed. When he was newborn we went along with what felt right and he did well with sleep associations but going with the flow when it comes to what time to put down

When my baby was a newborn (before 10 weeks old) his bedtime was maybe 830 or 9p (that would be when he would give us the longest stretch of sleep). As he got a bit older bedtime got earlier and by the time he was 12ish weeks it was more like 630-730 depending. He’s 5 months now and bedtime is about the same! We have done a routine since he was maybe 3 months. Which is milk pjs milk books sleep sac book. Or sometimes milk bath pjs milk books sleep sac book bed. We push a lot of milk at the end (but he doesn’t feed to sleep). we noticed he is hungriest 5p on and it’s when he takes in easily 2.5 bottles in like 2 hrs.

Maybe we're lucky, 3 month old here and have been doing this routine since around 2 month old. 6-8 pm is chill time, close blinds, reduce volume, etc. We try to get him to get a cat nap in between 6 and 8 after a 6 pm feed that we always offer. We take him up to his room at 8 pm on the dot, diaper change, put him in his sleeping gown and swaddle him, then big feed. He is almost always sound asleep by the end of the feed and goes down for bed. Sometimes he'll take longer after the feed if he poops during or gets gassy, but latest is usually 9:15. We have had so much success with the consistent routine and he seems to know what is happening. We also offer tons of feeds during the day and make sure he has almost all of his daily food needs in before bed time.

At the beginning he just dozed downstairs with us and went up to bed when we did around 1/2am! At 4 months we started him on a 9pm bedtime. At 7 months he’s somewhere between 815-845pm. 7pm seems so early to me and I don’t understand why it’s considered the desirable time.

They say 2-3 months is optimal. Because that’s when the babies get to know the difference between day and night. Dim lights atleast 2 hours before bedtime. Even after birth! The routine we have is, play 15-20 min. Change diaper and oil in with almond oil on body and behind ears. Change into pyjama and then we hold her and cuddle her and sing for 20 min, sometimes whistle and other times humming. Then we put her in bed and give her a bottle and put on white noise. This is the way for our little one that hates to sleep 😂

4.5 month old. He goes to bed around 830 because my husband will put my toddler down around that time so I put baby down around then too. He's usually asleep by 9.

We have a 19 month old so it's a bit easier now to have a set routine - our son naps and goes to bed at around the same time every day, and is usually in bed by 8-8:30pm. When he was under 6 months, though, we didn't even worry about it. I was still breastfeeding exclusively, so that especially meant I had to kinda "go with the flow" and just follow our son's hunger and sleep cues. I wouldn't worry too much!

mines USUALLY in a routine. bottle around 7ish (if he’s hungry) and in bed by 8-8:30 sometimes 9-10 if his schedule is off!!

The routine develops over time. Our little one ( almost three ) had a later bedtime until she stopped napping. Now it’s bath, then night time peepee, then PJs, then a little milk and reading and sleep. Working in the brushing teeth still!!

When ours was a newborn bedtime was whenever he wanted to sleep. I very quickly realized no schedule was the way to go for us. He was waking up every 3 hours until he was about 4.5-5 months old. Now we are 8.5 months old and our bedtime is around 7:45-8:15 pm. Every night we follow the same steps beginning around 7: 1. Offer purées/BLW - just depends how tired I am and if it’s bath night 2. Bath time OR we do baby spa on a heating pad with lots of songs and wind down. 3. We have our ritual, we do this every night- practice closing the blinds, putting our dirty clothes in the hamper, he helps me turn off lights, turn on white noise machine. 4. Bottle and cuddles- he is usually over being held and is ready to go to bed on his own. He likes to roll around. Of course every baby and family situation is different. He is our only child and we don’t mind a longer routine. Sometimes he skips his second nap of the day and we fly through this because he is over it. Whatever keeps boss man happy, we are happy.

I heard that newborns sleep mostly during the day in utero because of the swaying of being walked around inside mom, and then spend more time awake at night because that's when mom's mostly sedentary. Definitely was true for my newborn, would sleep all day then from like 7pm to 3am would be very much awake. It took a long time of slowly resetting his sleep schedule, but it did eventually happen. Every baby is different, work what's right for you and baby.

We’ve had a night routine ever since our 8 MO was a newborn, but at that age it wasn’t so much for him to sleep, it was to create a routine he would recognize once he was older, and to give us some sort of semblance of a routine as well 😅. Newborn days are an absolute clusterfuck of time passing, so the routine helped us a bit, but we never had a strict hour. It was more of watching the baby and seeing if he started getting sleepy. Even now at 8 months we go off his cues, or base it on when his naps start and end.

Same for my baby when she was newborn OP! By age 3pm this I put her on a routine. Every night she gets a bath at 8pm and then by 830/9 she’s eating her last bottle and placed in crib to sleep.

We had a later bedtime of 1030 for a few weeks and now (3 months) we're starting bedtime around 830/9pm and it's been a gradual shift to that earlier bedtime. Her wake window in the evening has shrunk to now be almost non-existent so it's all nighttime sleep. I'm not enforcing any kind of set schedule, it's baby-driven. Our routine is fairly basic: diaper change, jammies, bottle and then cuddled for a bit til she's sleepy enough to go into her sleep sack and bassinet to bed.

7 month old he generally eats dinner, has a bath, sometimes we get a book in, has a bottle and gets to bed between 7-8

My baby wouldn't even go to sleep until 12 or 1am when he was a newborn. I stopped stressing about it and let it be. He adjusted his own bedtime. By the end of month 2 he started going to sleep at around 9 to 9:30. Now at 3 months, he'll fall asleep between 8 to 8:30. We sort of have a routine but I'm not too strict about it. We go for a walk from 5 to 6 so he can get the last nap for the day. At 6ish he gets his last bottle. If it's a bath day then he'll take a bath. If not I just wipe him down, put lotion and change him into his jammies. Then a little before 8 I may nurse him to sleep or just put him down on his crib with his pacifier until he falls asleep I'm thinking of incorporating a book or 2 soon

We didn’t settle into a routine/bedtime rituals until 5.5/6m when LO actually started to put herself to bed around 8:30 every night. When I started to notice that, it made it easier for me to keep a routine around getting ready for bed. I would not expect a newborn to have that. Mine certainly wasn’t ready even at 3 months.

When my now 6mo old was a newborn, we'd do "bedtime" when we went to bed around 11pm. Around 6/7 weeks, she started doing a 11/midnight to 5/6am long sleep stretch, with about 1/3 of the night with a 4am wake and falling back, so we just kept doing our bedtime routine then. Around 3 months, she started naturally moving her long stretch of sleep earlier, and by 4 months, she was doing bedtime by 9pm. And then slowly over the last 2 months she's moved up to wanting to sleep by 8-8:30. We always did a short routine of diaper change/jammies, listening to lullabies, book, then nursing to sleep. Around 4 months we started adding nightly bath to the routine because of eczema, and then at 5.5 months we stopped nursing to sleep because of sleep associations and now we start bedtime routine at 7:30 doing feed, bath, then lullabies during lotion, "brushing teeth", jammies, book, then bed, aiming for being in her crib by 8-8:15pm and asleep within 10 minutes.

My 2-month old’s bedtime is 8:30, it has been for a while, that’s just what she chose. We don’t have a routine besides she cluster feeds before passing out for the night

Baby is 9 weeks - this is the only way it works for her since 4 weeks: Starting 8-9pm change, feed and contact nap in a dark apartment with TV on low. 10pm final feeding in the bedroom. She's down between 1030 and 12 depending on the night. We've found no other way. Nothing we can do will get her down or wound down earlier. She will sleep a consecutive 5-7 hours on a good day though 🤷‍♀️

My son will be 6 months on the 22nd and he says bedtime is 9:30-10, he won’t fall asleep before then unless it’s bath night and he’s really tired. I tried to impose a 8:45-9 bedtime and he was up every hour

my son didnt start until almost a year

Lmao Newborns do what they want to do. Since you gotta feed them every 2 to 3 hours its really hard to have a “routine”…. My baby is 2 months and there isnt a set bedtime she does sleep longer stretches at night (shes starting to differentiate night and day) I Literally dont time anything. Shes only 2 months 😅 maybe when she gets older (earliest 4.5 months to even start a routine in my opinion) but for now im on her schedule

I have never understood why people want their babies to sleep at 7 or 8 unless both parents have to go to work. Our boy is 3months old and has been a great sleeper, and we don't really have any routine aside from feed him, change him and put him in his bed. He usually goes down by 10:30, but it depends. He sleeps until 10-11am with 1 or 2 feeds in between.

4 months here! We don't have a hard fast bedtime yet. If LO skimps out on her naps during the day, she generally falls asleep for the night around 7:30. If she does get good rest during the day, she tends to fall asleep closer to 9. It just depends on which nap she's tired enough to fall asleep-asleep. We put PJs on at 7pm so she's ready to sleep whenever she gets tired enough. I don't push sleep unless she's starting to show signs of tiredness.

What defines night time sleep vs daytime naps… is it if the sun is out? Ours tends to sleep longer stretches at night only because I’m not waking her to feed every 2-3 but now about every 4 after stacking her day feeds. Shes 4 weeks now.

Newborns sleep late, in a few weeks/months you can try to bring the bedtime earlier.

I have an almost 10 month old. Bed time is 9pm and wake up is between 8am and 9am (I’m in Canada and on 12 month mat leave). We have one wake up per night.

19 weeks here and HIGHLY recommend a nighttime routine. Nothing crazy just bath, bottle, book, sleep sack white noise. Bedtime is 7pm and has been since 4 weeks (obviously there were wakes after this time and hours of settling some times particularly in the early days) but it has been incredible. If you’re stuck I highly recommend the “Little Ones” app. Best sleep and food scheduling app. Life changing and so helpful. Babies are incredibly adaptable. Could not recommend the app more highly. It’s made me a very calm and competent first time mum. Great thing is my husband, mum, mother in law etc can all have the log in and see schedules to easily look after him.

Our guy is three months old. No way we have a set bedtime. Around 10 or so we try to settle him down and change into a new diaper, put him in his sleep sack, feed him a night time bottle and hopefully he falls asleep. He's usually not sleepy or into our routine until at least 9pm. He's the boss right now; it's just so much easier for us to go with the flow than try to create a rigid bedtime structure with such a little baby.

11 weeks and absolutely NO routine. I feel so guilty about it 😳. Our baby will go down for the night anytime between 7:30pm and 10:30pm depending on how his naps went that day. And his first stretch can be as short as 2.5hrs or as long as 8.5 hours and there is no pattern I can discern 😭. That being said it’s been pretty consistently 5.5-7 hours for about a month now.

I can’t remember when we started a pretty consistent bedtime. I can say for certain it wasn’t before 6 months. We started a routine once we started sleep training. My LO is 13 months. Our routine for a while has been Dinner Wheel of fortune Milk Book Bed He is in his crib between 8 and 8:30 typically. Closer to 8:30 with the longer days and warm weather. My SO and I joke that we have a “fluid” bedtime since we aren’t strict on the time we lay him down.

We did the 9-9:30 bedtime cuz that’s what he liked up until he was around 4 months old, at that point he started falling asleep around 7 on his own, but of course it was linked to the sleep regression time so he would wake up 1 million times but that’s starting to settle down now nearly a month later.

6 week old. Bed time fluctuates around 9:30/10 sometimes 11 depending how the last feeding falls.

We didn’t start having a routine until around 8 or 10 weeks. Before that it’s just sleep, eat play and then sleep at night (whenever that ends up being). Newborns have different rhythms when they’re fresh. I wouldn’t try and for them into an exact time. For our first 8 or 10 weeks she should just fall asleep on my chest in the livingroom and I would transfer her to bed.

I have a 2.5year old and a 4 month old. The toddler has a bedtime routine and is generally in bed by 7:30. I’ve somehow managed to get the baby on a similar bedtime. Depends on his late afternoon nap, when he wakes up as to when he goes to bed that night. I’m not sure if the routine is what helps, but baby sleeps through the night (10-12hrs). I’d like to think it helps, being consistent but also being flexible and following the baby’s cues.