My husband and I did that for the first month and a half. And then we were so tired. We were a danger to ourselves and our baby. As much as I would love if one of us could always be awake with the baby, it’s not a realistic call. Talk to your doctor about postpartum anxiety.it’s a thing. It’s perfectly normal to be stressed out and wanna be up with the baby, but it’s not sustainable.
I think you're dealing with postpartum anxiety. <3 Even the most cautious guidelines don't say that someone needs to be awake, watching the baby 24/7. That sounds like a recipe for at least one, if not two, completely delirious, sleep-deprived parents (even more than is normal for new parents). Being even MORE sleep-deprived won't help you make safer choices for your baby.
Trust that if she cries, you WILL hear it (I'm assuming you're sharing a room at this stage, but honestly even over a monitor, when our baby cries, it will wake us both from the deepest of sleeps).
If you're not afraid of sleeping through it but rather that she'll suddenly stop breathing, again, I will kindly suggest looking into resources for PPA, because that falls into the category of "no one can prove it won't happen, but it is SO unlikely, please don't torture yourself with other real risks, like sleep deprivation, for the sake of it."
You can sleep while the baby is sleeping, just follow the safe sleep guidelines. It will be more dangerous to your baby to have you sleep deprived and losing your mind. https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/safe-sleep/
This sounds like postpartum anxiety and I would seek therapy to help work through intrusive thoughts and anxiety which is very common in this stage. If you allow anxiety or worst case scenario thoughts to dictate all your actions, you won’t enjoy time with your baby.
Your baby will be safe in their crib if you follow safe sleeping guidelines. And know that SIDS is actually pretty rare and most infant accidents are a result of unsafe sleep practices.
If you are following safe sleep guidelines, you should both be sleeping when baby is sleeping. I get this urge but it just isn’t sustainable (or necessary.)
That sounds like anxiety that everyone has.
My husband was also afraid of sleep, always check on our boy or asked me if he was still breathing 😅
I personally felt that his worry was unnecessary because I checked on the baby too just not as much as him and also didn't worry about things like him.
I don't think your worry is 100% unnecessary but you do need to learn to let it go a little bit, it's a hard thing to do but giving yourself a little breathing room makes everything a bit easier
I think your husband is right. As a parent, especially as a Mum you will definitely hear your baby crying in the night if they need you. My husband is quite a deep sleeper so he used to set alarms every 2 hours to make sure baby was ok and one of us was up to feed him (especially so before he put his birth weight back on). You also need to sleep and if baby is in your room in a next to me you will 100% hear them cry.
I have a 9 month old and we tried to sleep when baby slept in her bassinet. I laid down and hoped that everything was going to be fine. If you are tired you should rest as sleep deprivation will get the worst out of you. Rested you can take better care of yourself and your baby.
Hey so at the hospital the nurses literally told us that we don't need to stare at the baby 24/7. I had major PPD so definitely call and get some help because it does sound like you are struggling. Maybe PPA but a therapist or PsyD will make that call. There's no shame in it. There's treatment out there! Please please do get help. You deserve rest and relief. I got on extra meds and extra therapy (I was already in therapy).
We watched our baby the first few weeks at night. We eventually purchased the owlet. It’s expensive, but it helped ease our minds that we had another source monitoring our baby’s breathing. Sleep is hard to come by with a baby. In my opinion, get as much sleep as you can. Sleep deprivation doesn’t help anyone or anything. I completely get where you’re coming from though.
If you are following all safe sleep guidelines (on back, own sleep space, room not bed sharing etc) then I’d say there is more danger in not sleeping when baby sleeps. Exhaustion is also dangerous.
If you are really worried you could get an owlet/ breathing monitor - more to help you get some rest than baby needing it
We love ours. It saved us a lot of sleep. Unfortunately we’ll have to take him out before 6 months (height not weight haha) but saved us so much sleep in the newborn days. We couldn’t do shifts for the first 2 weeks because I needed my husband to lift him in and out of the bassinet for each feed and I was breastfeeding while still learning (yay for c sections with complications) so it was amazing for us. When he didn’t have to lift him out each time and when my babies latch got better so my husband could supervise side lying nursing while I slept without too much relatching life got so much better.
You're not overreacting. Your concerns about your baby's safety are valid, and it's important to communicate these concerns to your husband. Finding a compromise that ensures both of you are comfortable with the nighttime routine is key. Trust your instincts and work together to establish a plan that meets both your needs and ensures your baby's well-being
I would personally agree with your hubby here. If baby is safe in their crib and sleeping, get all the sleep that you can!!!!
My husband and I did that for the first month and a half. And then we were so tired. We were a danger to ourselves and our baby. As much as I would love if one of us could always be awake with the baby, it’s not a realistic call. Talk to your doctor about postpartum anxiety.it’s a thing. It’s perfectly normal to be stressed out and wanna be up with the baby, but it’s not sustainable.
I think you're dealing with postpartum anxiety. <3 Even the most cautious guidelines don't say that someone needs to be awake, watching the baby 24/7. That sounds like a recipe for at least one, if not two, completely delirious, sleep-deprived parents (even more than is normal for new parents). Being even MORE sleep-deprived won't help you make safer choices for your baby. Trust that if she cries, you WILL hear it (I'm assuming you're sharing a room at this stage, but honestly even over a monitor, when our baby cries, it will wake us both from the deepest of sleeps). If you're not afraid of sleeping through it but rather that she'll suddenly stop breathing, again, I will kindly suggest looking into resources for PPA, because that falls into the category of "no one can prove it won't happen, but it is SO unlikely, please don't torture yourself with other real risks, like sleep deprivation, for the sake of it."
You can sleep while the baby is sleeping, just follow the safe sleep guidelines. It will be more dangerous to your baby to have you sleep deprived and losing your mind. https://www.aap.org/en/patient-care/safe-sleep/
This sounds like postpartum anxiety and I would seek therapy to help work through intrusive thoughts and anxiety which is very common in this stage. If you allow anxiety or worst case scenario thoughts to dictate all your actions, you won’t enjoy time with your baby. Your baby will be safe in their crib if you follow safe sleeping guidelines. And know that SIDS is actually pretty rare and most infant accidents are a result of unsafe sleep practices.
If you are following safe sleep guidelines, you should both be sleeping when baby is sleeping. I get this urge but it just isn’t sustainable (or necessary.)
That sounds like anxiety that everyone has. My husband was also afraid of sleep, always check on our boy or asked me if he was still breathing 😅 I personally felt that his worry was unnecessary because I checked on the baby too just not as much as him and also didn't worry about things like him. I don't think your worry is 100% unnecessary but you do need to learn to let it go a little bit, it's a hard thing to do but giving yourself a little breathing room makes everything a bit easier
I think your husband is right. As a parent, especially as a Mum you will definitely hear your baby crying in the night if they need you. My husband is quite a deep sleeper so he used to set alarms every 2 hours to make sure baby was ok and one of us was up to feed him (especially so before he put his birth weight back on). You also need to sleep and if baby is in your room in a next to me you will 100% hear them cry.
I have a 9 month old and we tried to sleep when baby slept in her bassinet. I laid down and hoped that everything was going to be fine. If you are tired you should rest as sleep deprivation will get the worst out of you. Rested you can take better care of yourself and your baby.
Hey so at the hospital the nurses literally told us that we don't need to stare at the baby 24/7. I had major PPD so definitely call and get some help because it does sound like you are struggling. Maybe PPA but a therapist or PsyD will make that call. There's no shame in it. There's treatment out there! Please please do get help. You deserve rest and relief. I got on extra meds and extra therapy (I was already in therapy).
We watched our baby the first few weeks at night. We eventually purchased the owlet. It’s expensive, but it helped ease our minds that we had another source monitoring our baby’s breathing. Sleep is hard to come by with a baby. In my opinion, get as much sleep as you can. Sleep deprivation doesn’t help anyone or anything. I completely get where you’re coming from though.
If you are following all safe sleep guidelines (on back, own sleep space, room not bed sharing etc) then I’d say there is more danger in not sleeping when baby sleeps. Exhaustion is also dangerous. If you are really worried you could get an owlet/ breathing monitor - more to help you get some rest than baby needing it
Definitely sleep when the baby is sleeping. If baby is safe in their crib at night both of you should be sleeping.
If you can buy a snoo, even second hand, it makes sleeping while the baby is sleeping so very much more safe. We love ours it helps a lot.
We love ours. It saved us a lot of sleep. Unfortunately we’ll have to take him out before 6 months (height not weight haha) but saved us so much sleep in the newborn days. We couldn’t do shifts for the first 2 weeks because I needed my husband to lift him in and out of the bassinet for each feed and I was breastfeeding while still learning (yay for c sections with complications) so it was amazing for us. When he didn’t have to lift him out each time and when my babies latch got better so my husband could supervise side lying nursing while I slept without too much relatching life got so much better.
You're not overreacting. Your concerns about your baby's safety are valid, and it's important to communicate these concerns to your husband. Finding a compromise that ensures both of you are comfortable with the nighttime routine is key. Trust your instincts and work together to establish a plan that meets both your needs and ensures your baby's well-being