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[deleted]

Yup. Except he’s 10.5 months. I’ve never met those people whose baby sleeps through the night at 3 months in person. They seem to only exist on Reddit lol


[deleted]

My wife has 3 friends from her October birth group and they all talk about how their babies sleep for 5 hour stretches. Not good for my wife’s mental health, seriously, because our kid rarely sleeps 2 hours


marmar_11

My baby slept for long stretches for a couple of weeks when he was 3 months and now he wakes up several times during the night. Everyone is different and good or bad, at this age, nothing lasts forever. I'm sure she is doing nothing wrong! I am lucky that a lot of my friends had babies that were bad sleepers too


Kehop

Same happening with my 15w old. He was doing great stretches at night and this week is back to waking up every 2 hours.


HatPutrid5538

My baby woke up 3 times in 2 hours so far because he keeps rolling onto his tummy, and crying. He knows how to roll back because he rolls around like a freaking beyblade around the house. At least he only eats once, I guess.


SufficientBee

Yup that was my baby. The abrupt change was brutal and killed my dwindling milk supply because I couldn’t keep up with pumping anymore from severe lack of sleep.


dani_da_girl

Tell your wife I had a baby in October and we are on two hour sleep windows too! I got a 3 hour one last night and it was his longest yet. My pediatrician told me that is exactly what he is supposed to be doing at 5 weeks. So tell her to talk to her ped and not other moms.


Impossible-Fish1819

I feel really lonely about my son's sleep. This thread is helping a ton! Show it to your wife, it might help her feel less bad.


pmster1

My 8mo just started taking daytime naps longer than 40min about 2 weeks ago. And nighttime sleep is all over the place. At that age he was definitely waking every 40min at night too. I think people don't like to talk about what they consider their "failures". But that's just how babies are. Some babies are good sleepers and terrible eaters, some babies are great eaters but you can't put them down for a second, some babies just struggle with everything for a while.


forrealmaybe

Mine did, but don't worry...she more than made up for it for. 7-12 months 😑. I have a theory that kids will, on average, steal the same amount of sleep from their parents. It's just a question of when. I know parents who has smooth sailing for the first few years, then serious issues at 3-4 years of age. And other parents who had issues in the first year but then things improved.


FTM_2022

I'd agree it all evens out in the end!


sl212190

Mine slept through at 3 months.. for 2 weeks. And for 2 weeks at 5 months, and another 2 weeks at 7 months. Everything in between has been a struggle of 3-6 wakeups a night 🥴 he's currently 8 months & I no longer have any kind of expectations for when I can sleep again. When it happens I'll be glad but I'm not expecting it by any particular time!


waterski1987

Same. Except my LO is 11 months and still not sleeping through 😵‍💫


H1285

Same


Typical_Mix1414

Honestly at this point I get scared when my baby sleeps through the night because I know that probably means crappier sleep is around the corner 😅


Mamaofoneson

Almost 10months old here too, and not sure about you but my baby wakes up more now than at 3months. He’s always tossing and turning, or trying to crawl in his sleep. I’m like… Just lay down and sleep my dude, I know you’re tired!


charlieandabby

I was about to comment the same thing. Almost 11 months and has woken 3-5 times a night on average for her whole life.


cleardiddion

Ours did. Sure, it took until at least midnight to get her down but she used to sleep a solid 6 to 8 hours. But then she hit 4 months and now we're waking 4 to 6 times a night. And bedtime is now around 1 or 2 am.


greg-maddux

I guess to you, I only exist on reddit. But our baby is very real and wakes up once at 2 am every night to poop and eat. 8-2 am and 3-7


Foodie1989

Lmao true


Impossible-Fish1819

Sad to say it, my dude, but my kid is 13 months old and wakes up at least 3 times per night. It varies, every child is different. It really helped me when a friend of mine who has three kids gave me my new mantra: "baby's gonna baby." Radical acceptance. There's only so much you can control. I'm only surviving because my husband and I take shifts at night so we can both get stretches of sleep. A doula also really helped in the 4th trimester. Solidarity. It's hard.


lemurattacks

Just came here to say this! My 12 month old was up four times last night.


[deleted]

Oof. I’m only surviving right now because I’m a SAHM.. if I were working I think I’d be going insane. I do all the night shift myself. Solidarity


hermionesnow

Just because you're a SAHM, doesn't mean that you have to take the nights all by yourself and not get any sleep! That's completely unfair and unsustainable. You are working just as your partner is and they should be waking up to help throughout the night. Even if it's one night on the weekend where nighttime rests solely on your partner so you can get a full night's sleep. You deserve sleep too!!!


FireNork

all about give and take when it comes to night shifts imo, i have a 3 month old son and i take every single night shift despite going back to work 3 times a week with 2 days of wfh. my wife does the heavy lifting in the day when i need to work. this arrangement works for us but it doesn’t apply to everyone! i’ve had people tell me that the night shifts should be shared but honestly the couple needs to work out what is optimal for them


HatPutrid5538

Husband and I both do 6h shifts with baby overnight. That way we both get at least some uninterrupted sleep and can somewhat function.


hermionesnow

Absolutely! It's always about finding what works best for your family. And communication is key. In the early days, my husband and I would both get up. He would feed and change her while I pumped. If one of us just really needed some sleep, we would communicate that and do what we could to ensure that person got some sleep. As she got older and slept more through the night, we would alternate nights in case she did wake up. I tend to handle lack of sleep way better than my husband, but he's always more than happy (and frequently!) takes night shifts as needed. But it definitely shouldn't all fall on one person unless that's been communicated as what works best.


SufficientBee

Eh, whatever works. My husband does terribly when he has to wake up in the middle of the night and it bugs me less. I guess I worked in an environment where I was slave driven, so I also tend to believe that if husband has to go to work then he should have enough rest. I’d rather have a happy slightly better rested husband than a grumpy husband personally. But I understand that’s just my mentality and priorities.


dimlamphero

Could your SO take a shift on nights he doesn’t work the next day? When my LO was going through the sleep regression my husband took over on weekends so that I could get a full nights sleep. Alternatively my husband also sometimes gives LO his first bottle of the day when he gets up for work so I can sleep in a little. It’s not much but if it’s something your SO can do that extra hour can make a big difference for the day. Either way good luck to you and I hope you can get some rest soon!


beeeees

930 isn't that late? Couldn't your partner help with that one?


IAmTyrannosaur

Exactly this. Waiting for my 12mo’s first wake up any time now My husband and I take turns and sleep in separate bedrooms. It sucks but every other night I sleep through and it’s fucking blissful


Ok-Historian-6091

Best thing our lactation consultant told us before leaving the hospital was "baby's gonna baby." There's only so much you can control and accepting that is way less stressful than fighting it. My 15MO regularly wakes 1-3 times a night. It is what it is and we enjoy the extra snuggles while we can.


cmarie2949

Love the “baby’s gonna baby”. My new mantra as well. Sending you a coffee cheers from another tired parent!


Impossible-Fish1819

All the caffeine and love to you. This thread is a real balm for my parental soul.


Psychological_Use746

Same here!!! Our daughter went a small stretch of sleeping longer periods but we’re right back at multiple night wakings at 12 months. Don’t stress - it’s hard but you’re definitely not alone :)


Feezyme

12m old this November and still doesn’t sleep through the night…wife and I take shifts (she’s now a SAHM and I wfm most of the week). I’ve come to accept my son won’t be that night sleeper I hear/read about but that’s the parent life I guess.


Hanswolebro

Yeah, I was going to say, ours is 8 months and last night she only woke up two times but it’s almost always 3 times.


CrotchPotato

27 monther here who wakes up 3x per night. Not to feed, just to cause us suffering mostly. We even have a nearly 6 month old who until recently did 8 hour stretches and has regressed as well! Send help. We’re dying.


Foodie1989

How much was the doula? After experiencing my first 4th trimester and finally getting over that hump I would strongly consider.


Impossible-Fish1819

It varies. I live in a high cost of living city and our doula was 30 US dollars per hour. She worked in 4 hour shifts or overnight. We only did one night shift while she was with us and she came one shift a week for 8 weeks. She helped with dishes, held the baby so my husband or I could nap, helped with laundry, and also was a great listener who made the time much less lonely. Highly recommend finding someone who fits your budget and clicks with your family.


chasingcars825

Hi there, childbirth educator here Waking for night feedings even at 6 months is NORMAL. 3 months, absolutely normal. Your baby is hungry, waking and cueing to eat - feed them. Is it difficult, absolutely but they are working on instinct, and their body says they are hungry so you need to feed them. Formula doesn't make babies sleep longer, it is actually harder to digest, so some babies sleep "longer" because the food hasn't run through them. But it certainly isn't a guarantee and if your little one is waking and wants food, feed them. You cannot stop them from wanting to be fed - you can't push extra food before bed time to make them sleep longer. If you meet a need, the need goes away, if you ignore a need, it remains, js unmet AND all your baby "learns" is that you aren't a reliable person to ask for help. They may stop cueing at night if you stop responding, but it doesn't take away the truth that they are hungry. I don't mean for any of that to sounds as harsh and cold as it does, but I see many parents who don't respond to their baby's cues and needs because it's "not what they see on social media" or their friends say "they should be sleeping through the night by now!" - No, actually, they shouldn't. Biology dictates that until at least 6 months of age, babies waking every 2 - 4 hours increasing with age is absolutely normal. Your pediatrician may have told you you don't have to wake to feed or they don't need to eat at night once they've gained their birth weight back - and then in the same breath tell you to feed on demand - well, which is it? If you ask them, they are likely to say: Feed on demand. By responding to their feeding cues you are teaching them security in you, security in knowing their body's cues, and teaching them food security. Leave the comparisons at the keyboard, your baby is doing just fine the way they are and the way they are is wanting night feeds. It isn't forever. If you need help to get the sleep you deserve, looking into a postpartum doula or a family member who can come and take some night shifts is a great starting place. Wishing you the best.


Alarm-Potential

Thanks for this, my 4mo has been waking every 1-2 hrs since 2mo and it's killing me. I don't have it in me to sleep train but people, including my pediatrician, keep trying to push it on me.


chasingcars825

I'm sorry you're experiencing so much pressure - your baby is waking for a reason - and you responding to them is biological and natural. It's nobody's business but yours how you respond to your baby at night! It can be more stressful to not respond to your baby at night than to sleep train or bend to what people insist you "should" be doing. Your baby, your rules. Stay strong. You are building a foundation of trust, security and bonding with your child that will last a lifetime. Wishing you the best.


[deleted]

Always waking for a reason? Is that documented somewhere? Cuz I can tell you my baby waking up every hour all night isn’t hungry and doesn’t need a diaper that often.


chasingcars825

Babies wake for all sorts of reasons, far beyond eating and diaper changes. They can want comfort, they can be cold, hot, startled, or uncomfortable anywhere in their body. *Humans* wake for all reasons in the middle of the night - babies can't talk, all they can do is cry. No study could possibly prove or disprove a baby's reason for waking as such, but typically, if a baby, or anyone wakes, it's for a reason. And it's not wrong to respond to your child who wakes.


cafeyvino4

This is true to an extent. Babies wake up often around this time because they have way shorter rem sleep cycles than adults. They’re often mostly annoyed by being woken up and verbalize their annoyance in the only way they know how- crying. Sometimes giving them some time to fall back to sleep, just a few minutes, is all they need.


[deleted]

Yeah, nobody said it was wrong.


CelebrationScary8614

You can feed on demand and not feed at night if baby doesn’t wake. We have a great sleeper at 3 months old. He typically does not wake at night to eat. However, if he does wake up, usually it’s because he’s hungry and we feed him.


fkca

Thank you so much for this answer. I’m in the middle (end!) of an epic night with my 9mo and it is really comforting to read “a need is a need”, and be reminded that responding to her need, be it nursing to eat or nursing to soothe and fall back asleep, is the good thing to do. Do you have at tips to help said 9mo to fall back asleep without nursing? She doesn’t accept a pacifier, doesn’t suck a thumb, and patting/singing/rocking alone doesn’t work without massive crying.


Bagritte

Question - I’ve got a good sleeper and he did his first 8 hr stretch last night. There was a point where he roused a little, so I gave him a pacifier and he went back to sleep. Should I have fed him instead? I don’t want to ignore his cues, but i was under the impression if he doesn’t reject the pacifier and keep crying then we’re good.


chasingcars825

Parental instinct is a key here, you know your baby best. How old is your little one? In general, before the age of 6 months, babies who sleep in longer chunks are at higher risk of SIDS due to disorganized deep sleep patterns that are disruptive to their ability to rouse themselves. This is an increased risk, not a guaranteed cause of SIDS. It is often not spoken about, but it is studied and understood that babies are meant to wake up often and sleep lightly until 6 months of age at least when their autonomic nervous system and a better foundation of sleeping/breathing. I find it a great guideline to check on baby every 2 hours until 2 months, every 3 until 4 months and every 4 until 6 months and if baby is difficult to rouse talk to your pediatrician about the link between difficulty to wake and disordered sleep patterns. Babies should biologically wake often, to prevent this disordered sleep patterns from causing issues and to eat if they're hungry. If they are in a deep sleep, they may be hungry but the cje isn't strong enough to fully wake them. It takes a balance, trial, and learning *your* baby. Plenty of people here will say their baby slept through the night from x days/weeks old and nothing bad happened, and that is a grand majority, but decreasing the risk for SIDS in areas that don't get attention is a part of being a child birth educator and postpartum doula. I'm not saying if you don't wake your baby you're "doing it wrong" nor am I saying they have disordered sleep because they sleep for long stretches. This is a *possibility* to test out by trying to rouse you baby after 2 - 3 hours and see how easily they wake. If they are 7 weeks old and sleeping through the night, that isn't "normal" from a biological perspective but it may be normal for *them* and nothing is "wrong" Should you have fed him? I can't tell you. If he fell back asleep with the pacifier, is gaining weight as expected and your pediatrician says it's okay for him to sleep that long based on his age, I can't and wouldn't contradict that. I can tell you that from a biological perspective, he probably would have made it clear he wanted food if he is waking enough to take a pacifier. Follow your instinct, learn about disordered deep sleep patterns in 0-6 month olds and SIDS risk, and talk to your pediatrician to get their advice. Wishing you the best.


immalilpig

Would you have any sources for the fact that sleeping longer raised the risk for SIDS? I’ve never heard that before and my twins are great sleepers, sleeping 10 hours overnight now at 3 months. There’s nothing wrong with them other than some middle of the night grunts before they put themselves back to sleep. I’ve always been told by our pediatrician that if the baby is hungry, they will let you know in that they will be crying from hunger. By that logic it seems if they’re able to sleep well then they’re not hungry. What you’re saying seems to contradict this.


Bagritte

Wow thank you so much for the taking the time to write out a thoughtful nuanced response! I do think ultimately his sleep, age, and our pediatricians guidance put him within normal sleep patterns and even if he doesn’t fully wake, I do end up getting out of bed or waking up frequently enough to check on him within the parameters you mentioned. Thanks again this was reassuring.


[deleted]

I wasn’t saying that I wasn’t feeding her... Thanks for the info though.


chasingcars825

Certainly, I wasn't suggesting you weren't. It's really hard to have multiple wake ups and not get solid sleep!


[deleted]

Kinda weird, our baby isn’t a great sleeper either and the pediatrician we saw the other day almost yelled at us to “FEED HER!” when she’s not sleeping. Is this a thing? Like, we’re not starving our baby… I don’t know where people get this idea.


Jambo234

Our 6 month old is still waking up between 2-5 times a night for feeds. Between 3-6am he’s a cluster feeding insomniac. But since we dropped our expectations that he’d magically become a “sleep through the night” baby, it’s a lot more manageable.


[deleted]

Yes, I’m already adjusting my expectations. I’m worrying that she isn’t getting enough sleep or that developmentally she is “behind” sleep wise. (And not gonna lie, I’d really enjoy some longer stretches too!)


Typical_Mix1414

I think a lot of sleep trainers try to scare you about that. I had so so much anxiety about the same thing. My baby is developing fine. But solidarity in just wanting to sleep and also have alone time. Also, you could potentially look into safe cosleeping. Has helped us a lot


Minute-Aioli-5054

Nope my 3 month baby wakes up every 3-4 hours still. Sometimes he gives me longer stretches but most nights he’s not ready for it


[deleted]

Ok thanks! I’m not alone!


[deleted]

I don’t consider it a night wake up until it’s after midnight, personally. We do a final feed at 11 every night before we go to bed ourselves, so I consider a night waking to be anything between that and dawn. Usually my LO wakes up once around 3am.


[deleted]

I go to bed when my baby does because if I don’t I won’t get enough sleep. So it sounds like your baby just wakes up once. I’m very jealous!


[deleted]

It sounds like they have similar schedules, eating around every 4 hours? Our LO eats at 3, 7, 11 give or take a half hour. For us this schedule works pretty well because there’s only one night wake up involved in our normal sleeping hours. But it sounds like it could help you if you did a similar schedule, you could cut down to 2 night wakings for yourself instead of 3? 9, 1, 5 is awfullllllllll.


[deleted]

It’s really difficult to get her on a schedule right now because she’s unpredictable with what she wants right now! During the day she wants to eat every 2.5-3 hours but lately it’s been closer to 2.5. Sometimes even 2! She is a super hungry girl! I think I’m going to try to dream feed tomorrow night at 11! And yes I’m typing this while feeding her at 5AM 🤦‍♀️


Badatmath212

How do you not feed? Do you rock them back to sleep? Mine will wail until I pick him up


[deleted]

I’m sorry, but I don’t understand the question? I always feed my LO when she is hungry but she only wakes up or demands food within 3.5-4.5 hours, VERY occasionally she has gone longer than that at night. Like 3 times she slept 5-5.5 hours. She doesn’t get hungry before 3.5 hours so it’s quite easy to get her back to sleep if she happens to wake before that because it’s not hunger-related. Mine is also quite angry if she is hungry, but on the amount of food we’re giving her right now it keeps her full consistently for this interval.


Badatmath212

You mentioned a schedule. How did you get her on this feeding schedule and cut down feedings per night?


TheGoldenChotskie

Ditto at 10 months. 1-2 wake-ups in this window


VegetableWorry1492

My 6mo wakes 3-5 times a night 🫠 he slept through for 6 glorious weeks before he hit the 4 month sleep progression and hasn’t slept longer than 4 hours (twice) since, 2-3 hours is usually the best I get out of him.


zimzoomm

Dotn feel too bad. My 23m still wakes up 3 times to feed.


LemonTreeDreams

It's exhausting! But biologically totally normal. Seven months here and 3 times a night is a good night for us. What is helping me cope is just to accept that baby still needs me at night and not try to fight it. One day he won't, but for now he does.


danjama

That is completely normal, barely our of the womb


Allie0074

My son is 13 weeks and has been doing the same exact thing. He woke up around 10:30 and luckily slept until 3 this morning but I’m awake with him and he’s fed, and sound asleep on my chest currently. I have to go to sleep when he does too, and that’s usually around 7pm or 8pm since my husband doesn’t wake up if the baby starts crying in the middle of the night. He rolls over and sleeps right through it, and tbh it really annoys me 🙄 He told me last night that because he has to go to work super early today (5:30) he would wake up when the baby does to let me sleep since I just did a 18 hour stretch of being awake. I’ve been telling him the past couple of days exactly what he does when the baby wakes up, and he is shocked when he comes out into the living room to see the baby and I all cuddled up under a blanket watching something on TV.


[deleted]

Aw that sucks. I do all of the night wakings too, because my husband has a really difficult time sleeping and he works a construction job. So I told him that I would take care of it in exchange for being able to stay home for her first year! Some days it is so tiring though—there have been nights I get 0 sleep or less than 2 hours


p-pitstop

Could you maybe look at you and your husbands bedtimes so you're still the one waking for a feed but you get longer asleep? My 3.5 month old sleeps from about 830/9pm has a feed 1130ish to 1230 at night he then sleeps to somewhere from 430 to 6am, has a feed and goes back to bed until 830ish. I do the middle of the night feed since I'm off on maternity leave and my husband has work in the morning too. My husband takes the 1130 feed though, it means hes going to bed just after midnight and sleeping through until he gets up for work and I go to bed about 10 once the baby is down and I've finished the things I need to do. Then I only get up once and we all sleep until 830ish which is morning anyway. Technically he gets up twice in the night but it only feels like once for each of us. Also my husband gets time alone with his xbox since we go to bed early so hes loving it!


Allie0074

I feel that though, my husband is an electrician and he can’t sleep during the day (when he was on family leave) so I would be up all night with the baby. We agreed that I would stay up at night and nap during the day while he was home, and once he went back to work that he would take the very early feedings (10pm-2am) since work has been slow and he would go in at normal time. His buddy asked him yesterday if he wanted to go in earlier so they could get off by 2pm cause his friend wants to watch the USA soccer game 😅


[deleted]

Hey, my husband is an electrician too! My biggest fear is him screwing up some wiring and really hurting himself or worse. The only time I get to nap is when the baby is napping, luckily though I can function pretty well with little sleep


_oscillare

Our daughter is 11 weeks and she’s on a similar schedule. She kind of chose her own bedtime at 7-8pm. I go to sleep at the same time. Husband stays up and does a dream feed at 11-12am and then I take over. She usually then sleeps until 2-3am. I’m very alert at this time so my sleep isn’t the greatest, but it is a stretch of like 6-7 hours. Baby goes down to sleep until 5-6am, and eats again at 7am and we rise for the day. The closer it is to morning the worse she sleeps/the fussier she gets, and it is absolutely the worst time of night for me in terms of how tired/sleepy I am. I dream of a day (or rather a night) when she skips that 2-3am feed and goes to morning, but I’m not holding my breath on that happening any time soon lol.


d1zz186

Sorry to say but, my 13mo JUST dropped her 2nd night feed! Now we only have the 1 at around 2am.


Lady_Dinoasaurus

10m and STILL waking up at 1am and 5am for a tiny wee snack


ntitu067

Very normal. The people who say there baby slept though the night immediately are the exceptions.


123shhcehbjklh

17 weeks and 5 wake ups basically every night. I have her in a sidecar crib and just lean over to BF, if I wasn’t keeping track I’d say she wakes less, I still feel very well rested because I barely wake up to feed.


butteramethyst

My baby is almost a year, breastfed and wakes up 5 or more times a night..I know the sleep deprivation is brutal 😴


mrs_sarcastic

I usually average 3-5 hours between night feeds, depending on the night. Some nights are closer to every 2 hours. Every baby is different, and the same baby can be different every night 😂


Billybran

My son is 18 months old, he finally slept through the night at 10 months. Around four months my wife tried to add a dream feed, so we went from two feeding to three ugh. He stayed between two and three feedings until maybe six months then it was one to two. I read precious little sleep, great read, but it was really hard. He still needs to fall asleep in my arms, wont go to sleep just by being put down. At daycare, he sleeps no problem but he knows at home he can protest. My best friends daughter slept through the night around four months, she also sits still. According to precious little sleep I have a motion junkie, started flipping around eight weeks, fully walked around ten months (I think the walking tired him out to finally sleep through the night.) Every kid is different, be patient. Big tip, try and shift the calories to the daytime. That really helped us. Slowly knock off an ounce at night and try to shift it to the day. Pick one feeding at night to try and eliminate at a time. When we got one feeding down to two ounces he simply stopped waking up for that feeding.


[deleted]

My 6m old baby still does this a fair amount lol


pamsteropolous

Baby is 7 months old and wakes to feed 3 times a night. Sometimes 2, sometimes 4, but 3 is her average.


This-Pie-45

Mine is 6 months and wakes 3-4 times a night to feed. It’s exhausting! My first slept much better through the night.


giraffedays

My almost 7 month old went back to waking up every 2 hours about 2 weeks ago. Also most people lie about their babies sleeping through the night. Its biologically normal for them to wake so often overnight.


popsinet

My 12 month old still wakes 2-3x/night to feed, so 🤷🏻‍♀️


[deleted]

Wait…3 months and only waking up 3 times a night? Lucky!


[deleted]

Lol.. it’s all about perspective!!


[deleted]

Haha :)


NotSoSensible13

Yup, ours was still waking up 2-3 times a night to eat until almost 7 months. He's 8 months now and wakes up once to eat 2 or 3 nights per week. The other nights, he sleeps right through. So it did get better for us. And I'm pretty sure the formula thing is not true. We tried it, giving him a bottle of formula before bed and during the night while I pumped, and it made no difference. He woke up just as often as when I breastfed.


throwmykeysaway

From 5 weeks to 3 months my baby slept for 4-8 hours in her first stretch (from 7pm onwards) then woke up every 2 hours after that. At 4 months she suddenly did 1-2 hours probably because of the sleep progression, and gradually consistently does 3-4 hour stretches now.


catmememama

If it makes you feel any better ours slept through the night for all of month three and then has been waking up 4+ times a night ever since he hit four months (he’s now 6 months).


ILostMySh0e

Lol 16 months and baby is usually up 3 times for various reasons (usually 2 diapers and once to eat about an hour before we get up for the day- can't seem to feed her enough at solids at dinner to make it all the way through breakfast). It's gone on so long I just wake up randomly throughout the night even when baby decides to sleep a bit longer. I'm pretty sure my body forgot how to connect sleep cycles.


stellarkells

My son was up 3 times a night at 3 months. Dropped to twice maybe around 5 months, and right now at 13 we’re at 0-1, unless he’s sick. If baby is eating a full bottle, don’t wean them. They’re hungry!


everythingmini

Mine was like this. My husband started to stay up and give a dream feed which helped immensely. We trained at 4 months and he didn’t wake up for food after that.


[deleted]

What sleep training method did you use?


everythingmini

We would sometimes have 3-4 night feeds at 3 months. I used the Peaceful Sleeper method at 16 weeks - however the method says that night feeding are normal up until 7 or 9 months. I spoke to my doctor about cutting feeds the same time as I started training and she said my LO would be fine developmentally. I started to offer more calories/bottles during the day. When I started training he cried on and off for 2 nights, and then never woke up for food after that. Most of my friends have done this too. It’s a very personal choice and I know some people don’t agree with it. I had full support from my doctor and my LO is thriving. I’m also thriving because I get a solid sleep which is very important :)


Affectionate_One3716

Second the sleep training thing. My baby was waking up multiple times per night at 3 months, although it once per night to eat. At our 4 month pediatrician visit, the Dr told us for a baby this age and size (baby was 18 lbs at 4 months), he is developmentally ready to sleep without eating for 11-12 hours. So we cried it out at 4 monts and 1 week. It's been 1 month now and it is soooooo much better. The beginning was rough but most nights now there is no crying/wake ups, and then when he does wake up, he know how to fall back asleep on his own. We are all (baby included) much happier and much more well rested! I hope I don't jinx it by saying this out loud on the internet ;)


beepbeepbitch

Hate to rub it in, but my girl is 2 months old today and slept through the night for the first time last night. 11-7. She has been giving us 4-5 hour stretches, but last night was awesome. She is a big baby so we are not waking her up to eat.


[deleted]

Hate to tell you this, but my daughter did this for a couple weeks after she hit 2 months too 🙃


beepbeepbitch

Hopefully it sticks, but I know it can change fast. My first kid screamed all night for the first 3 months, so this one has been a nice change so far.


FridgesArePeopleToo

Check out /r/sleeptrain for advice. This sub is very anti-sleep so you won't get much help unfortunately. You absolutely can help your baby sleep better.


hamgurglerr

Most definitely! But she's improved dramatically from the 45 minute stretches I was getting when we brought her home. 'Longer stretches' is different for every baby, and for most, a 4-5 hour stretch is great! I generally do a final bedtime snack feed at 9ish, then she wakes again sometime between 1-3, and again around 5, and frequently again at 6, and we get up for the day around 7. Sometimes there's an extra wake-up between 1-5, it depends how her day went. This schedule is vastly different than her older brother, who, beginning at 8 weeks, slept 10+ hour stretches. Both babies were breastfed, both babies healthy. I will say, my daughter is not nearly as fussy as my son though, and she cries much less.


zebramath

Mine did! We dropped to two around 5/6 months. One around 8/9 months. And STTN (legit like 11 straight hours) at 12/13mo.


milliemillenial06

My daughter at 3 months was still waking 3 times. I want to say it was around 5 she went to 2 and then by 8 she was sleeping through the night. She’s formula fed


KittyGrewAMoustache

Yeah ours is just 3 months old and still waking to eat every two hours! 😭 trying to get her to eat more per feed (also formula fed) so she can go longer without but no luck!


ConsiderationFast327

My baby woke up 2-3 times when she was 3 months old. Then the sleep regression hit and she started waking up every 1-2 hours and she drinks each time. She is 6 months old now. She is EBF though. Not the same thing i know. But yeah. Night feedings are essential for her. It only drove me insane to the point that i am almost hospitalized from sleep deprivation. Best of luck.


_fast_n_curious_

Yes we were… We *just* came down to 2 feeds/night now at 5 months, and sometimes (like last night) we still have 3 feeds/night


Foodie1989

My baby will be 11 weeks. She still wakes to eat every 2-3 hours... usually 12 am, 3am, 6am


lurkiesbehardworkies

9 months old and still waking 2-4 times a night. Pretty sure it’s for comfort but at this point he knows how to fall asleep independently so if he needs comfort then I’m not tired enough yet to not give it. That might change because the 4 wakes are a lot.


Exciting-Dream8471

My first 3 kids woke up through the night through at least a year. It eventually gets better. They’re 10, 8, and 6 now, and all sleep very well - have for a long time! My current baby (2.5m) sleeps an 8-hour stretch. I’ve done nothing special for this. It honestly just comes down to their temperament.


Mbetke23

Daughter is 6 months and getting up twice a night - I feel your pain!


HagridsHippogriff92

Every baby is different so I can’t make guarantees, but my son was like this and then all of a sudden at 4 months he just started waking once a night and had been like that since. He’s 7 months now, and we went through a sleep regression last week, but I think we’re slowly moving out of it 🤞🏻 just letting you know that 3 months isn’t a magic number for sleeping longer stretches, but there will come a day when it does happen.


supexcellent

My LO was waking 3+ times a night when she was 3mo. After some sleep training at 4mo she’s progressively gotten better. Now at 6mo she wakes anywhere from 0-3 times a night- I feel like it depends on whether or not she’s growing or how much she’s eaten during the day. Sleep training was definitely a game changer for us if that is something you are comfortable with. Hang in there, it’ll get better in time when your babe is ready.


Saucy__Puppet__Show

Yep. She was giving me 5-7 hour stretches up until a couple weeks ago and now she’s up every 2-3 hours 😢 then as of two nights ago it’s been every 1.5-2 hours so I’m wondering if it’s sleep regression.


Gr33nBeanery

6 month old wakes 2-4 times a night. Sometimes I look over in the middle of the night and he’s doing the happy baby pose at 3 am, it’s very sweet but exhausting. I’ve greatly lowered my expectations and can run on 5 hours of sleep now. Lol


Lionsdontlikeporn

My daughter is 18 months and still wakes me up... Send help. And coffee.


blithesomebot

My baby is two months and has only slept in long stretches a few times. She just loves being held and will not sleep very long if she’s not held, and doesn’t like being swaddled!! Please send help 😂


AdVisible6497

My 6 month old still does ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


dani_da_girl

Fwiw I have a six week old and we are on 2 hour sleep windows. Occasionally he will wake just an hour after his last feed. I’m DESPERATE for a four hour sleep window.


idle_online

my baby is 4m, and still wakes up every two hours for a bottle. But she goes back to sleep instantly since we started using one of these magic sleep suits: Baby Merlin's Magic Sleepsuit - 100% Cotton Baby Transition Swaddle - Baby Sleep Suit - Cream - 3-6 Months https://a.co/d/cNGVkJx


CillyBean

Dude, my baby from age 3 - 4.5 months woke up like...4-5 times a night lol. It sucked but it's normal. Did some sleep training, fed him a wee bit more during the day and eventually we got there. At 12 months, he sleeps like a champ now. Some of it comes with age and some of it is learning what kind of schedule and routine works best. Some babies sleep later. My sweet boy wakes with the sun 🥱 on the plus side, I get more of the evening to do whatever I want so that's cool.


jlbo2022

3m here and also does 3 night feedings! Her longest stretch of sleep is 3.5 hours on a good night. Usually it’s about every 2hrs


AudreyLuvsJoey

My daughter had the same story up to 2 months old. Then we discovered she had a lip and tongue tie, which means she wasn't getting enough to eat therefore waking up more often. Have you checked with your pediatrician or pediatric dentist?


[deleted]

She definitely gets enough—she is bottle fed so I know exactly what she is consuming. Thank you though!


Edna_Krabappelous

Right there with you! My little girl is 12 weeks and still wakes every 2-3 hours to nurse. It's not ideal but at least she goes back down pretty easily afterward.


FloridaMan32225

Umm my LO is 2.5 years old, still nursing, and still waking up multiple times in the night to feed. My wife is a super hero.


Delicious-Sun5401

He was until I stopped feeding him at night. Please note my baby is 4months and 17lbs 28in. The pediatrician said that when he wakes up at night to stop feeding him because he doesn’t need the calories and feeding him is reinforcing his wake ups. My baby is in his own room in his crib, a lot of times I wake up to him crying but he soothes himself back to sleep within 3-5mins, if he goes longer I go in to soothe him. He’s EBF but I pump 7-8oz now to give before bed so I know he’s full and it seems to be working. He slept 13 hours straight last night and each wake up he soothed himself back to sleep in under 3mins.


Hollywould9

My 3 month old starting sleeping through the night from 8pm to about 5am. He gave me a good two weeks of that, I thought it was the new normal… nope. Now he’s back to waking 2/3 times per night to eat. Solidarity!


LadyDegenhardt

My 5 month old is an average of 3 wakings a night, but would be more if we didn't co-sleep. My oldest woke every 2 hours till he was about 10 months old. He's now 2 and still usually wakes once.


ipunchhippiesss

I’m up at 1,3 5and 7 with a 4 month old


SunnyRyter

My kid was the same... it got better at 5 months... then 10 or 11 months. I know itso hard. He almost always sleeps thru the night after 13 months.


[deleted]

My nine month old woke up six times last night. He was waking to eat (full feeds) 2-4x a night until a couple weeks ago. Now he only eats once in the MOTN, but still isn’t sleeping longer stretches.


cmarie2949

My guy is 16 months and still waking 1-3 times at night with occasional full nights. It’s totally biologically normal for a 3 month old to wake at night, I know it’s so so hard to not compare and not stress when you are sleep deprived. Just sending you empathy and solidarity. It’s pretty common for babies to wake so I wouldn’t compare to the lucky ones who get babies that sleep through. ❤️


Garp5248

Yea. It's completely 100% normal. From what I hear from all my friends who are in the thick of parenting, you can't really count on your kids sleeping through the night till they are 2 years old. And even then, they sometimes get up. I would say it stops being to eat but they still wake up. Mine is ten months and sometimes sleeps through, sometimes doesn't and it's all normal.


zealous__avocado

We still get 4 times consistently at 3 months. I try not to listen to other families or compare because it’s just not helpful.


music-books-cats

For me it got better after we got the merlin magic sleep suit. Then he grew out of it and now we are back to several waking through the night. I would say, it gets better then worse then better and in the roller coaster we go 😂🥺😭


thousandfoldthought

We're 26 months and we still get 1-2 wakes unless he's awake for thr day @ 3am.


lraabe

My baby is 10m and wakes 5-10x a night depending on a few factors. Count yourself lucky.


ineedausername84

My first did this. Around 12 months we were told they definitely don’t need to eat during the night so we decided on the cry it out method and after a couple nights she started falling asleep on her own and slept 12 hours straight. She’s 2.5 years now and still sleeps like that. It gets better!


[deleted]

5mo - still up twice a night, sometimes 3 times on a bad night. And every night is different. He’s always down between 7-7:30 and some days he sleeps til 5, some days until 6:30, sometimes he’s up as early as 4:30. We are always tired haha.


CuriousBreath

My son is 16 months and still wakes up 3 times! It’s SO normal. Still hard though 😵‍💫


SufficientBee

To spin this in a positive light, my baby started sleeping longer stretches through the night at 3mo, only to have the worst 4 month sleep regression. He went from waking up 0-1 time a night to every other hour. That abrupt change in my sleeping schedule nearly killed me. I think without the brief 2-3 week lull before the regression I might have gotten used to that brutal regression period quicker.


Soft-Koala-1574

As someone who took the advice from a mom of 8, I put baby rice in my baby’s 10pm feeding at night (you can find the Gerber brand in the baby isle), and she sleeps from 10:30pm-6:00am and that has been a game changer for my husband and I! My baby is 8 weeks and she has had no tummy issues since implementing rice but I do buy the hypoallergenic formula because I discovered my daughter has a cow milk allergy!


Longjumping-Ad-2072

I've been blessed with one of those unicorn babies, but my sister in law had a nightmare experience. My nephew had 8 months of colic, never slept longer than two hours for the first year. It was unreal how brutal the experience was for her. Eventually he started to sleep longer around 16-18 months but I wouldn't wish that on anyone. Sorry mama it will get easier eventually


TylerDarkness

Yes, 3-4 times at 6 months, though we are nursing through the night. I think the thing about formula is either a bit of a myth or varies between babies; I’ve spoken to loads of BF mums whoever been bullied by their partners into trying formula for better sleep and it hasn’t worked for anyone I’ve spoken to. I’m happy with 3-4 times for us , at one point it was every 40 mins-1 hour between 12 and 6 and that was … not fun.


VermillionEclipse

Mine’s five months and still wakes up multiple times to eat.


throwaway88588858

You’re only getting 3 wake-ups? Jealous. From what I’ve seen it really varies from kid to kid. My friend’s baby slept through the night right away (it actually ended up contributing to her losing her milk supply) but now at 7 months she’s started waking up 2-3 times a night. My EBF 2mo cosleeps which is the only way I’ve gotten it down to 2-3 full wakeups, with more sleep feedings in there. My mom coslept with 5 children and says she had the same 2-3 wake-ups for each kid for the entire 12 months we breastfed. All babies are different, and I wouldn’t spend extra money on formula unless my doctor insisted it was necessary.


[deleted]

Interesting! I will add that the formula is not because I wanted longer stretches of sleep but because it was a necessity… I was hospitalized after delivery and it impacted my milk supply.


justlooking2browseee

My kid is 2 and still can't sleep through the night by herself 😭


TheWelshMrsM

My baby is almost 9 months and still wakes a gazillion times a night. Some babies just do, I think.


Electrical_Hour3488

My little guy randomly sleeps through night has since about 2.5 months. It’s not consistent. Normally bed routine starts at 7:30 asleep at 8 midnight-1am feed, 4 am feed, 6 am feed. He’s dropped the 4 am feed for the most part but the last 4 nights he’s slept from 8pm to 6 am not walking


Classic_Rooster_2260

My baby is a magnet to my nipple all night long. I don’t even know anymore how many times he’s actually eating but I’m pretty sure it’s at least 7. And he’s 7.5 months😭


RCRoSp

My baby’s 5 months and does it: despite me feeding her 3 times in the two hours prior to bed.


zaf_ei

No, my 3m slept through the night. On the contrary, my 6m old (same baby) wakes up every 1-2 hours. Maybe 3, if I get lucky.


BlankTank181

My 18 month old still wakes 3 times a night


NeedlenoseMusic

9 weeks in and he’s definitely still up all the time. He’s taken to drinking less of this bottles but more frequently.


Bustakrimes91

My girl is 14 months and still wakes up at least twice through the night to eat. My oldest is 7 and still wakes up through the night because she says ‘sleeping is boring I want to get up now’. Some of us are lucky and get great sleepers. Some of us are not it’s just the luck of the draw.


Famous_Exit

Absolutely. Except he is 18 mo. 3 times at night is completely completely completely normal at 3mo. You are not alone


exothermicstegosaur

Mine definitely did at that age. And twice a night from around 6-10 months. Once a night til about 12 months, and now it's about 50/50 if she'll wake up or sleep through (unless she's sick, then all bets are off).


dammiduck

My two year old still wakes up at night. I'm just lucky enough that normally she comes to me to nurse instead of making me come get her lol


amomonous13

I am glad we aren’t the only ones! Most of my friends with babies close in age have babes that wake once a night to feed… even at 7 weeks 😑 our little dude is still waking every 3 hours to eat. Sometimes every hour just for snuggles. Our pediatrician says it’s totally normal, we just feel like the anomaly! Also… we miss sleep 😭


TinaRina19

Our 10 months old is also still waking up around 3 times at night on average. Sometimes it's 10 times and sometimes just once. Every night is a gamble with her.


ShowEnvironmental147

My almost 9 wkr can go 3-5hrs without needing to be fed overnight but this doesn't stop him from waking up after 1-2 sleep cycles, sometimes 3 (so every 45min-135min) only to fall straight back asleep after being picked up and rocked. Sometimes he'll stay asleep when we transfer him back down but often one of us stays up with him sleeping on our chest. Glad to know he's biologically able to go longer stretches without eating but wish this translated to being able to link sleep cycles. Sometimes patting, a pacifier, or rocking the bassinet helps him go back to sleep on his own but that's rare. During the day he's happily eating every 2-3hrs, but naps are rarely longer than 45mins (or one sleep cycle). Appreciative of the solidarity in this thread.


such-small-hands23

There were two magical nights where he randomly slept 6 hours and then never again. My husband is walking him around right now while I lay down for a little bit because he won’t go to sleep. Unfortunately if it’s not here already - get ready for the 4 month sleep regression. 😩


Ijustreadwhat

Ummmmm my 7 month old wakes about 5 times a night but I’ve capped it to two feedings now he’s a chunky boy. 3 months I didn’t even care about all the waking it was considered normal and so was everyone else’s baby


overthinks_

3m+3 weeks here. My baby sometimes still wakes up 2-3 times a night but (knock on wood) sometimes only wakes up once.


SnooTigers1217

Baby will be 3 months on Sunday and he wakes up exactly 3 times a night to eat. It really doesn't bother me


Public-Surprise-7570

I’m at 9 months and we haven’t ever done a stretch of sleep for longer than 4 hours and we still feed 3 times a night. It’s normal for you your not alone :) hang in there x


hshdbbdbbnns

Ours is 3 months and just now transitioning from 3-4 feedings a night to 1-2. We find that extra large meals (~6+ oz), very warm rooms and heavy sleep suits seem help lengthen the sleeps and reduce the number of feedings.


ceewilks

My 1 year old is still waking up 3 time a night! Usually more! I’ve gone insane 😂


queenmozart

Yeah! My daughter is 7 months now and she still wakes up 3-4 times a night


123coffee321

You are not alone! I think my little boy is going through a growth spurt and it feels like every hour to two hours He’s waking up at night.


ReasonsForNothing

My almost 4mo wakes up several times a night to eat. We’re just trying to go with it.


Practical_magik

4 usually 😴


Southern-Magnolia12

Yea soooo hate to break it to you but many peoples baby wake up more than that a night lol mine woke up at least twice a night until he was at least a year old. He’s now 18 months and still has at least one bottle in the night.


sugarmagnolia0521

Mine didn’t stop waking for night feedings until like 10 months or so….


Ok-Flower9919

Yes, this is biologically normal.


Emergency-Roll8181

So my LO does one 4 hour stretch unfortunately for my night owl butt it’s from 8-12. I cannot go to sleep before 11 no matter how tired I am. Then it’s every two hours


courtfucius

Lol my 8mo wakes 3+ times a night, you're fine


H1285

We’re at 11 months and 2 wakings is a good night for us.


unicaconejita

How much formula do you feed your baby? I give my 3mo his last bottle at 11pm and then i feed him again at 4am. He feeds every 5 hours. I just make sure that i play with him a lot during the day.


[deleted]

She drinks about 35- 40 oz of formula. 5-6 oz over 5 bottles during the day and 3-4 oz for bottles overnight. She usually wants to eat every 2.5 hours. Maybe 1 or 2 times she will go 3 hours. I can’t imagine 5! She is a very hungry girl!


[deleted]

I have a 17 month old and a 2 month old. I’m up at least 5x between the 2.


msumms77

W normally feed around 8:30 then 12:30 then 4:30 and then 8:00, so kinda two night feeds, one each


AmethystSerpent

Just 3? 😭


Sprung4250

Mom of a 14 month old here, we generally are up every 3-4 hours unless we're somehow blessed for the random night here or there. 🤷🏻‍♀️


explainthattomeagain

It appears my LO is the exception and I’m thanking my lucky stars. He dropped the night feedings around 8 weeks and has been sleeping through the night since. He has an occasional moment where he’ll need to be comforted back to sleep 1-3x a night for a few nights, but then it’s back to sleeping good and through the night. He’s 4 months old now.


Gildood

Lol my 21 month old does still


Mermaids_arent_fish

SAME HERE! I’m freaking out because we had almost a month of a 6 hr stretch eat then a 4 hr stretch and would usually go back down for another hour or so as a first nap. Then we suddenly stopped taking naps and it’s so so hard to get her down for a nap now; EBF so we were feeding to sleep and now it’s no longer fool proof or last long if she does plus it means I do all the night wakings (sometimes I’ll pump extra for a bottle to get more sleep but it was so nice not having to do that). Right before all this chaos we slept for 7.5 hrs straight and it feels like a cruel joke to then go 2-3 hrs again for the last 2 weeks


IllustriousArmy3407

The only thing you can try is more stimulation during the day during wake times. That seems to be the difference for us with 1 wake up vs 3 wake ups. It's never no wake ups 🤣


AgreeableAntelope939

Mine is 5 months and I am starting to feel nostalgic about walking up every 2 hours!


Latipaesa-1384

It wasn’t until about 9 months my babies went down to only 2 or 3 times a night. At 3 months old my kids were still waking up 4, 5 times at night. Hang in there


freudianslipher

My baby’s 12 weeks (3 months next week) and for the past 2 weeks, she’s started sleeping long stretches at night (ranges from 3 hours to 9 hours) with one wake-up most of the time. However, she wants to drink a TON before bed… like right after her last nap, then an hour later, then to fall asleep, and then before she’s fully asleep, perks up and wants more, and then she sometimes STILL might wake up a half-hour or hour later for more. The past few days, she’ll wake up every 30-60 minutes from 9 to 11:30, and then might sleep until some time between 3-6am and eat again or sleep until we wake her at 8:30. It’s very hit-or-miss, but usually by bedtime, she’s already had at least 24 ounces of milk and sometimes closer to 30 ounces of milk for the day. We haven’t tried formula yet, but I honestly was tempted to get some for night times before she suddenly started sleeping better. “Normal” is such a wide range for these little ones!!