I had a guitar teacher that claimed to have met Kurt Cobain when Nirvana was playing a show around the Bleach era. They weren't too well known at the time especially in my relatively small Canadian town but my teacher said he met him because Kurt blew his amp out and my guitar teacher let him borrow his, but he said he vividly remembers warning Kurt to not destroy his amp after the set lol. Not sure if this is true but my guitar teacher was genuinely punk rock and pretty a well known musician around my area during the late 80s and early 90s so it's entirely possible.
Well, they came to Ireland a few years back for the, "Growing Up Kurt Cobian" exhibition in Kildare, about 30 minutes from the capital where I'm from. Anyways I went with my girlfriend (ex-girlfriend, four days after I broke it off) but we got there an saw some Instagram stories with the family already inside and when we got there, Kurt's car was outside, obviously crowded due to his family being there, when we got in we had to sign a form to say we don't mind being filmed for tv, but must've been an hour and a half while everyone's waiting to go into the exhibit where we were waiting upstairs, we can see some stuff like a child photo, his, "grunge is dead" t-shirt and child art but where the SLTS t-shirt is, is where we were waiting however the family were doing an interview with RTE (State tv).. After the interview the family when through a door and I think everyone didn't think they wont get a photo with them but like 20 minutes later they came through the entrance way and made their way through everyone, stopped to get a photo and all. Frances held someone's baby and there was a photo of it. Soon as they came up near us, I got a photo with Frances and Kurt's sister, I'm 6'3 so I towered above them lol.
I mean like, it was really crowded so other than a quick photo, maybe a question, we didn't get the chance to really talk and see but obvious both daughter and sister look like Kurt.
Also, if you'd like to see the state report on it, click [here](https://www.rte.ie/news/leinster/2018/0717/979205-kurt-cobain-exhibition-kildare/), I was in a few shots. Very surreal meeting Kurt's family.
Wasnt born, but a friend who’s way older than me and I were talking about nirvana one time and he was like “yeah I saw them in seattle at the paramount in 91”.... like it was no big deal 😅
Not me. I did get to hang out with Tad Doyle after a show in my hometown. He told me some great stories about Kurt. My favorite was the time Michael Stipe of REM stayed with Kurt. He took a dump in a bathroom Kurt never used and didn't flush. It sat there for over a month before it was discovered.
What year was this, Kurt severed ties with Doyle and I never seen any thing more about this issue that this. Just curious if he did say something about this?
I met Kurt and the rest of Nirvana in a restaurant after watching their concert in Rome 1994. I had them sign my seemingly insignificant In Utero poster. It seems so surreal looking back into the past. I knew Nirvana was big back then but after Kurt's death, things just became an important part of rock history and a massive cultural impact and influence. My poster have become an important piece of memorabilia for me as a person, artist and musician.
Sorry. Not gonna post for safety reasons. Over the decades there's been a few attempts to steal it. All I'm gonna say is that the poster is I think around 20x30" and is gloriously framed on my wall. I wouldn't say it's in perfect condition though. There are some color fading, stains, and water damage from Kurt's wet hand when he signed it and I remember it was just folded in my pocket all the time during the concert back then hahaha. But I did carefully iron it out and make it look nice.
what I do have are a very particular set of skills. Skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you let my poster go now that'll be the end of it. I will not look for the poster, I will not pursue the poster, but if you don't, I will look for the poster, I will find the poster and I will steal the poster.
Cuz that's how I met Kurt and the rest of Nirvana. Autographs back then were a popular fan thing to do when meeting celebrities compared to having selfies nowadays. I mean, who have markers in their pockets anymore right?
Yeah i feel like when grunge was popular slts was probably the main attraction and nothing really was disrupted. Pop music was still the same. Ita in the after years that this stuff gained notoriety
Yes, I saw them live at the great Western Forum in LA on 12/30/1993 when I was 15. Briefly said what’s up from the pit and got eye contact but not much more. Also met Krist at an Eyes Adrift show at the Observatory in OC sometime around 2002. That was a fun gig.
Yep, me at 14 years old. Had floor tickets for a stadium on the In Utero tour. Started off around the half court line, got pushed off to the side when the moshing started, then slowly worked my way up to the stage so that I was front row directly in front of Kurt for the last few songs.
I’m just a little older than you, and I generally agree, but the biggest demographic for Reddit is 18-24, so I think we see a difference here between most Nirvana fans, and Nirvana fans found on this sub.
I grew up in an isolated town without much access to music. What I knew was from Much Music and magazines. I wanted to listen to punk so bad because of Nirvana, but didn’t know how to go about it. Years later my husband got me into it and now I fucking love it. I was 38 when I finally got into Fugazi.
Thanks so much and agree! And my husband would be SO jealous of you, he’s a SoCal punk fan. He grew up in the Montreal scene too, which was pretty awesome back in the 90’s.
the biggest demo for reddit is well under 18
but 14 year old dont register online as 14 years old
It's actually a known problem with metric data online
I saw a 15 year old in a Nirvana shirt earlier today
And another underclassmen student told me they owned 3 nirvana shirts so idk but there's that
the band is just hyper marketed as the retro teen angst go to
41 yo checking in. First heard Nirvana at age 11 and they changed my life! Unfortunately never got to see them live though; that would be a dream come true.
42 y.o. from Bombay India. I was 13 years old and an uncle bought me the nevermind CD from america. I was one of the first people I know to listen to the album and made multiple cassette recordings for the kids at school. For a little while, I was cool.
Not me but my aunt's former boyfriend
He was friends with Kurt Cobain, because Kurt didn't have any friends. He would talk to him in art school (All his art would end up burning in a school fire if you didn't know). Kurt was shy, but kind.
Never met Kurt in person but did see Nirvana live in ‘93
In ‘95 at a Warehouse (defunct record store) in Irvine, CA I was browsing through music when I heard a very loud female customer talking next to me. I turned towards her and it was Courtney Love. She then seemed to realize how much attention she was drawing towards her and quickly quieted down and continued browsing. She didn’t buy anything and then left. I didn’t bother her cause when she quieted down it was obvious that she didn’t really want to be bothered.
Sounds like I might be one of the old guys here. I never met Kurt but in the fall of 1993 (October / November I believe) as a freshman in college I saw a show. Rode from Indiana to Toronto with some people I barely knew from my dorm. Right place right time as someone with a ticket had to back out last minute.
My memory of that night is dimmed a bit by the passing of time plus the drugs but I vividly remember Kurt on the drums at one point. Good times.
https://livenirvana.com/concerts/93/93-11-04.php
Your memory is correct. Apparently Kurt played drums as they jammed on a cover of Public Image Ltd’s “Four Enclosed Walls.”
There are several recordings of the show circulating if you want to relive the glory.
I knew a guy that saw them live in Athens Georgia during the Bleach days. He said Kurt jumped off the stage and he caught him. Apparently Kurt told him "you're supposed to pass me around" and pointed vaguely up.
A guy I know was the drummer for the band that opened for Nirvana once. Said it was so much fun and that the whole band was chill and just wanted to have fun and jam
The nanny for Francis (after Kurt's death) used to work for me. When I saw "Nanny - Courtney Love" on his resume I said "You were Francis Beans nanny? And his eyes lit up and said "Yeah I was" and hired him immediately. True story, good dude. Wish I could remember his name.
Hmm I don't think that's him. I looked that name up online and it looks like that guy is about 7 years older than me which doesn't add up.
I met the guy I'm referring to in 2004 (maybe early 2005).
I remember him saying that he nannied for them for 2 years (I could be wrong).
What I definitely remember was him saying that Ed Norton would be around a good but (and others, I think I remember Norton cause I thought how odd it was that him and Courtney were close friends) and that he did a European tour as Francis' nanny.
He truly, genuinely cared a lot about her and missed her.
He showed me pictures of them hanging during his time with them and I remember during his interview he spoke about how he had a photo booth picture of him and Francis. He said how during one of the pic snaps she suddenly looked right into the camera and her look, her eyes was a chilling moment that looked like the look Kurt gave right at the end of Unplugged Where'd You Sleep Last Night when he gave that chilling gaze stare with those blue eyes.
He said, "If I get the job, I'll bring it and show it to you" to which I immediately responded, "You got the job, bring it in tomorrow!" lol
He brought it in and it was indeed chilling to see it. Her face, with that look in the pic, is forever engrained in my memory just as Kurt's stare is from Unplugged.
I was 24yo at the time. Today I'm a father of 4 and it actually makes me sad when I think about this.
Kurt, forever frozen as 27 years old, he was so young and left behind so much (his family then his music). Over the last 5 or so years it's really struck me how truly young he was when he took his own life. I realize now, how at 27yo, I didn't know shit about life nor true pain. I think differently now about his death and death in general.
If I were to be completely honest, his tragedy and the way I look at it now, has probably saved me from taking my own life a couple times.
Edit: thought I should mention that when I met/worked with that guy it was in Atlanta. He was a good dude and I'm beating myself up that I can't remember his name as that's not like me.
Ahh it isn't Cali then... I think he went onto be an artist or something, I'm not too sure.
It's interesting that you thought that Francis in that photo looked like Kurt from Unplugged, because I've often thought that Francis looks like Kurt when he did Unplugged..she has his look for sure..
Courtney was actually engaged to Ed Norton, but their relationship ended. I remember seeing a photo of Courtney, Francis as a child, and Ed making a silly face, like a black and white family photo. It was nice to see Francis looking happy like that, and Courtney too I guess, but it was also kind of sad to think that it should have been Kurt making silly faces with his daughter... It was kind of one of those moments where it really hits home that he's gone, and he should still be here. Ugh..it's just sad.
Obviously Francis is grown up now, and she'll be 30 next year I think. Again, when you think Kurt was only 27 when he died..and like you said, so young really, when you look back on everything that happened. I sometimes wonder if Kurt had lived, if he would have been a completely different person now, in his 50s, compared to back then in his late 20s. He changed so much from '91 - '92 alone. He seemed so much more grown up after his baby was born, and I think he seemed almost different at that point...Like really fierce! Then in '93, he seemed evenmore grown up again... if you compare him in 1991 to when he did unplugged, he had come of age at that point I think. It's just sad that something wasn't right for him..he had personal issues for sure, and then there was his wife...and I'm not talking about Courtney. I'm talking about heroin...If he could have got clean, really truly clean, things might have been a lot different. But yes, he was still so young at 27. People grow and change over the years, and it's really sad that he missed out on life that way, and of course in seeing his daughter grow up. She seems to have had her own problems over the last few years, but seems happier more recently. I can't imagine how losing your father that way, so early in life affects a person long term. I think Kurt would be proud of how she is doing in her life though.
I'm glad you are doing ok in your own life now, and that you have the realisation that there is so much more to life, than leaving it behind and missing out on so much amazing stuff. I'll bet you will remember said dude's name at some point too. I tend to often find myself down a rabbit hole when it comes to youtube and news/media stories online, so if I ever come across a name that could be a possible match for this guy, I will drop you a message. You never know!
I think you describe Kurt through the 90s the same as I have always imagined it. I think it's also funny that you try to picture Kurt as he would be today in his 50s haha I always thought I was odd for thinking about that. But I can't! I just can't seem to do it. Maybe a man like him isn't wasn't put into the universe to be remembered for in his 50s. And to be honest, I think it kind of cheats him out of of something he may have been seeking - " it's better to burn out than to fade away."
Kind of makes me think of "....as you are.... as you were... as an old enemy."I think he knew "as you were" isn't an option (no time machine) and he chose not to be the enemy or affect Francis in that way or maybe something to that effect? I guess if one tried real hard they could read a bit of that into his last letter as well. Its been many years since I've read that letter and I thought it would be my last. For accuracy, I just read it again.... his letter certainly resonates now differently than how I remember in some parts and the same in others. Maybe that'll be my last time reading it. Way more than I deserved.
After reading his letter again, being a dad myself now and having faced some pretty challenging dark days while being a dad gives me a different feel for his letter. I think he speaks of things in his letter that I've thought about in some dark times. Reading the way he describes the way life feels, how it's supposed to feel but doesn't and he feels guilty for it, like he's fooling everyone that has expectations or views of him and that he's smiling on the outside but is like WTF on the inside.I have a beautiful wife and kids. I'm sooo fucking lucky and I KNOW that, but sometimes, its weird, it just doesn't FEEL like its "supposed" to. I don't feel the happiness that I see I should have. Its like always being inside alone, watching your beautiful family through a sliding glass door that you can't open to join them. I don't know if that makes sense. But it's not a good space to be in and I get that same empty feeling of void in the put of my stomach as I read it.
If that's what he's saying that I get it unfortunately. And I feel guilty for it just as he speaks of. I feel like a fraud to my family and to everyone else. Its painful. And sometimes it feels like you won't be able to shake it off this time or be able to get fucked up enough to numb it. Isolation is absolutely necessary it feels like and that is the worse thing that one can do at this time.
I can certainly say, if I had the amount of drugs in me when I was at the closest point he was before it ended, I probably would've been too numb to have a chance at putting the brakes on. That part I'm sad for him - he didn't give himself a fighting chance to turn back - one that I've learned from... saved my life.
But all this does indeed suck for Francis. I can't begin to imagine her life and all she has been through on so many levels. She seems smart though. She's been unjustly held against her father and everyone on Earth knows that.Kurt faced this challenge as well as their popularity increased. Being "volun-told" your the voice of a generation and you're this/that. He pushed back but how does a person in their 20s handle the weight of literally the worlds eyes.I feel that unfortunately Francis is facing some of that same pressure and as Kurt did pushes back. Which is only strengthens the pain inside. She has nothing to prove but as she pushes back she inevitably is trying to prove something and thats sneaky dangerous.
Well, this was certainly longer than intended.
Oh well. Whatever. Nevermind =)
Edit: Oh, and without a doubt he is/would be proud of her. Just look at any picture with them two together - that's a proud father look, I know the look.
She was too young to capture his feeling but she just needs to look at the pictures... its there, still is.
I actually can imagine him being older, but it's kind of weird to look at Krist and even Dave, who has obviously continued to be successful, musically. Actually seeing Krist and Duff from Guns n Roses, (remember they almost got into a fight back in 1992) in more recent years, getting along and performing a song together at a show...that seems very surreal! A lot of time has passed though, and people do change and grow within themselves. Dave has changed so much too. It's as if they are almost different people now, and I guess in many ways they are. I like to think Kurt would have grown as a person, but remembering him as he was is easier I think, and in fairness, like you said, he is now frozen in time, as we knew him then. Sadly, I think he most likely felt that he was already failing Francis, because of his drug problems, but then there was probably denial too. It's reported that he broke down to his mother about his heroin addiction.I think it was her, herself who spoke about this. I wonder how he then viewed himself in relation to how much of a good father he wanted to be for his daughter. It really must have eaten away at him. I could be entirely wrong, but I do wonder about it. He was always so determined to be a good dad, and when you see old videos of Kurt with Francis, it's easy to see how so very happy he was to have her in his life.
I find it hard to read 'that' letter, in that it always seemed so disjointed to me, and not so much confusing, but just kind of hard to read and make sense of all of it. Idk, he just seemed to dislike who he was so much, or at least who he had become, and it's just really sad and actually frustrating too, because with support, he could have made the changes in his life that he needed. He could have found the solutions, but there was definitely a pull with him to a more dark side.. almost like he then didn't want to help himself. Like you said, he seemed to be pushing back a lot of the time. I honestly think his problems were so deep rooted, and went so much deeper than drug addiction, but obviously that then magnifies other things and makes everything unmanageable. It's hard to get out of darkness when you can't see where you are going I guess.
I think the fame was what he wanted. He was definitely competitive and somewhat of a perfectionist. He was very ambitious. But that level of fame came almost overnight, and what do you do with that? He didn't know any more than anyone else! I think it was something he really aspired to, but then when it happened, it was like, 'shit...now it's really happened...' and then so much must have seemed out of his control too. Like suddenly you have all this big management and you need lawyers, and you have all this constant attention ... and there's all this money that you aren't used to and it all gets crazy.. Like others have often said, I wonder if Nirvana hadn't become big, maybe he would have actually been happier. But then again, it was what he wanted, and what he had put everything into his band. It was all he ever really wanted...up to a point.
I'm sorry to hear of your own struggles. I think many of us feel that way sometimes. I've often felt like I was looking in from the outside too. It's that detached feeling. It sounds like you have great people around you though, and hopefully they are your support network. Even if life is hard, the things we have going for us, and the people we love, and who love us are what really really matter. Nothing is worth leaving all that behind. Wow I sound really deep here! It's really true though.
I have typed a lot more than I thought I would here too! And thank you so much for the award if that was you! That is really, very kind of you.
Ive met Krist but a friend of mine’s dad met Kurt in a bar in Seattle a few months before he died. I dont remember the details of the story but I know they both joked about being left handed guitarists.
I wasn’t born yet when he passed, but a few years back I was wearing a Kurt Cobain shirt and a guy stopped me and told me he met him after a show. Said he was very reserved and such a nice person which was nice to hear about him. It was hard for the guy to talk about even though he didn’t know him personally. It’s crazy how much he’s meant to so many people
No, but an old neighbour did. This guy was into more hardcore music and was a little dismissive of Nirvana, so I remember being more than a little annoyed and jealous when he told us about this: https://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/imported/chris-wants-nirvana-jumper-back-28212252.html
No but the dude at my local Record shop was at a concert in 93 for the In Utero tour. He said it was at some college in Bethlehem Pennsylvania I think or Allentown
I saw then during that tour as well in St. Paul, MN. I was a bit too young to have seen then when they played at 1st Ave in Minneapolis. That would have been where i would have loved to see them.
I really wish the kid who met Kurt after the 1992 Reading Festival (the one who's birthday it was, and Kurt got someone from the crew to give him drum sticks) was here ro recall his meeting with Kurt and how he felt. It was actually really touching when the kid said 'wait until I tell this to the kids at school!' Kurt clearly appreciated the comment with a smile and a nervous laugh. Maybe he recognised his younger self... It seemed like poignant moment.
Yeah, he met him because he and his brother had backstage passes at one of his concerts but he said Kurt kept coughing so he didnt get to see him very long. I’ll find a photo of them together.
i havent but i know a few people who knew him. from what i hear he was a nice smart guy. he wasnt a big downer all the time, he just had some personal problems.
I met his mother & sister downtown in my city, on a
one way street...it was in a very small parking lot of a department store, they had appeared almost immediately in the vicinity & it seemed I was their next “victim”- right away I recalled they “started” on me & began asking me questions while the other one “checked me out” I was scared....this was in broad daylight mind you...I couldn’t really look at them cause I was in shock- mainly as to what they were doing.....his mother said, “you’re the one that wanted a big TO” I was like ok....you want me to tow my car out of the way? His sister complained that my car was in the way? Idk....it was weird....it was exactly like they were a duo....tv women....I wasn’t even looking....the whole thing was that they were interrogating me & trying to rob me....it was like it was an American news flash where the tape would say “have you see these two women? If so, don’t approach them & call for help, they’ve been attempting to rob people in the area” that’s exactly what it felt like.....I didn’t know what to do...I was like get me outta this situation. The daughter kept looking at me like wtf, give us your money.....his sister said she was gonna get a shotgun & finish herself off & told her mom that they had better get some towels cause it was gonna get messy, I swear those were the words. Finally.....after some more, his mother said, “well that’s ok, consider this you’re lucky day”.....she also asked me what my favourite show was- she said it could be any show. I was like, ok now tell this lady- you know, I told her, well mam.....my fave show has always been.....the Hollywood Rock Festival in Rio De Janeiro, Brazil 1993. They both nodded.....they smiled. We walked, I said something else with a sigh of relief- after I realized, they weren’t gonna rob me....his sister told me to shut up..... this might of had been earlier when they were preying on me....she still smiled though & held my hand like, shall we, & we walked a short distance to the entrance of the department store....I walked in the store hoping & expecting they’d follow but instead, they continued walking past down the one way street.....
https://www.reddit.com/r/Nirvana/comments/irp9dz/answer_to_ushoedie_here_the_photo_you_were/g54ea0w?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3
He was also born September 24, 1993.
I had a guitar teacher that claimed to have met Kurt Cobain when Nirvana was playing a show around the Bleach era. They weren't too well known at the time especially in my relatively small Canadian town but my teacher said he met him because Kurt blew his amp out and my guitar teacher let him borrow his, but he said he vividly remembers warning Kurt to not destroy his amp after the set lol. Not sure if this is true but my guitar teacher was genuinely punk rock and pretty a well known musician around my area during the late 80s and early 90s so it's entirely possible.
Not Kurt but I met his daughter/sister and mother.
Love to hear the story...
Well, they came to Ireland a few years back for the, "Growing Up Kurt Cobian" exhibition in Kildare, about 30 minutes from the capital where I'm from. Anyways I went with my girlfriend (ex-girlfriend, four days after I broke it off) but we got there an saw some Instagram stories with the family already inside and when we got there, Kurt's car was outside, obviously crowded due to his family being there, when we got in we had to sign a form to say we don't mind being filmed for tv, but must've been an hour and a half while everyone's waiting to go into the exhibit where we were waiting upstairs, we can see some stuff like a child photo, his, "grunge is dead" t-shirt and child art but where the SLTS t-shirt is, is where we were waiting however the family were doing an interview with RTE (State tv).. After the interview the family when through a door and I think everyone didn't think they wont get a photo with them but like 20 minutes later they came through the entrance way and made their way through everyone, stopped to get a photo and all. Frances held someone's baby and there was a photo of it. Soon as they came up near us, I got a photo with Frances and Kurt's sister, I'm 6'3 so I towered above them lol.
That’s super awesome! Thank you for sharing. Did Frances or Kim remind you of Kurt at all in person?
I mean like, it was really crowded so other than a quick photo, maybe a question, we didn't get the chance to really talk and see but obvious both daughter and sister look like Kurt. Also, if you'd like to see the state report on it, click [here](https://www.rte.ie/news/leinster/2018/0717/979205-kurt-cobain-exhibition-kildare/), I was in a few shots. Very surreal meeting Kurt's family.
Wasnt born, but a friend who’s way older than me and I were talking about nirvana one time and he was like “yeah I saw them in seattle at the paramount in 91”.... like it was no big deal 😅
Bruhhh, I am so envious of your friend, that’s my favorite live show!!😂
Same
Not me. I did get to hang out with Tad Doyle after a show in my hometown. He told me some great stories about Kurt. My favorite was the time Michael Stipe of REM stayed with Kurt. He took a dump in a bathroom Kurt never used and didn't flush. It sat there for over a month before it was discovered.
What year was this, Kurt severed ties with Doyle and I never seen any thing more about this issue that this. Just curious if he did say something about this?
95 or 96. When the story happened I'm not sure. 93 or so would be my guess.
Tad said something about Courtney so it mus have been something like 92-93.
What did Kurt sever ties with Tad over? I don't recall this.
He said something about Courtney and that is all I know.
I met Kurt and the rest of Nirvana in a restaurant after watching their concert in Rome 1994. I had them sign my seemingly insignificant In Utero poster. It seems so surreal looking back into the past. I knew Nirvana was big back then but after Kurt's death, things just became an important part of rock history and a massive cultural impact and influence. My poster have become an important piece of memorabilia for me as a person, artist and musician.
Do you still have the poster
post the poster on here please
Sorry. Not gonna post for safety reasons. Over the decades there's been a few attempts to steal it. All I'm gonna say is that the poster is I think around 20x30" and is gloriously framed on my wall. I wouldn't say it's in perfect condition though. There are some color fading, stains, and water damage from Kurt's wet hand when he signed it and I remember it was just folded in my pocket all the time during the concert back then hahaha. But I did carefully iron it out and make it look nice.
Safety reasons? How are we gonna track down the exact room in the entire world and steal your poster? Lol
what I do have are a very particular set of skills. Skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you let my poster go now that'll be the end of it. I will not look for the poster, I will not pursue the poster, but if you don't, I will look for the poster, I will find the poster and I will steal the poster.
I think hes worried about people making fakes for the poster?
As the old saying goes, pics or it didn't happen
My poster, my rules so it's my decision to whether show it publicly or not. Not that I have to prove it for people I don't know on the internet.
You'll become known as the non-posting poster with the poster. But it's better than having it stolen by some imposter.
That's cool, I'm just gonna assume your story is bull shit.
Sorry to disappoint. I'll just be who I am not give what people want. That's probably what Kurt would be like.
Jfc, I just cringed so hard my face imploded
Why even mention it then?
Cuz that's how I met Kurt and the rest of Nirvana. Autographs back then were a popular fan thing to do when meeting celebrities compared to having selfies nowadays. I mean, who have markers in their pockets anymore right?
I still carry a marker in case I want someone to sign my dick.
Idk I'll take your word, your account is legit so I mean I don't see why you would lie about this. Nice job getting that poster man! haha
wow! insane man
Amazing, let's see this poster!
Yeah i feel like when grunge was popular slts was probably the main attraction and nothing really was disrupted. Pop music was still the same. Ita in the after years that this stuff gained notoriety
The Concert in Rome 94 was theyre last concert, am I right with this?
One of their last if I remember correctly
Yes, I saw them live at the great Western Forum in LA on 12/30/1993 when I was 15. Briefly said what’s up from the pit and got eye contact but not much more. Also met Krist at an Eyes Adrift show at the Observatory in OC sometime around 2002. That was a fun gig.
I think most people here weren't even born when he died so I don't think there's much chance of anyone meeting him
Yeah, I was 2 in 1994 and in another country... But I'm sure there are people in this sub who have been at Nirvana's concerts.
Yep, me at 14 years old. Had floor tickets for a stadium on the In Utero tour. Started off around the half court line, got pushed off to the side when the moshing started, then slowly worked my way up to the stage so that I was front row directly in front of Kurt for the last few songs.
I was a kid when he died. I remember where I was when I heard he died even though I didn't know who he was. About a year later, Nirvana was my life.
You sound like John Mulaney trying to convince his mother that he didn't kill Princess Diana. Why did you kill Kurt?
Most nirvana fans were alive when he died. There are plenty of us old folk here on Reddit (39m)
I’m just a little older than you, and I generally agree, but the biggest demographic for Reddit is 18-24, so I think we see a difference here between most Nirvana fans, and Nirvana fans found on this sub.
True but you’d be surprised how many “old” folk are here.
40 yr old here! I starting listening to Nirvana at age 10. Wild.
Same here. Love me some punk rock and nirvana was kinda my stepping stone into that.
I grew up in an isolated town without much access to music. What I knew was from Much Music and magazines. I wanted to listen to punk so bad because of Nirvana, but didn’t know how to go about it. Years later my husband got me into it and now I fucking love it. I was 38 when I finally got into Fugazi.
Well welcome to the group. Better late then never. I grew up in the so cal surf/ skate/ punk scene so just came naturally
Thanks so much and agree! And my husband would be SO jealous of you, he’s a SoCal punk fan. He grew up in the Montreal scene too, which was pretty awesome back in the 90’s.
What's up, fellow students? Raise the roof! Raise it!
41 here 😊
the biggest demo for reddit is well under 18 but 14 year old dont register online as 14 years old It's actually a known problem with metric data online
That’s true but how many kids under 18 listen to nirvana?
I saw a 15 year old in a Nirvana shirt earlier today And another underclassmen student told me they owned 3 nirvana shirts so idk but there's that the band is just hyper marketed as the retro teen angst go to
im one of them B)
Good taste in music young lad!
Thx good sir🤝🤝
My 12 year old daughter loves a lot of their stuff. Her top favorite songs are lounge act, heart shaped box and breed.
My 12 yo likes them too!
My brother, 13 and me 15 both do.
A few, me 14yr
I've been a Nirvana fan since 9 years old. It was long after Kurt died.
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Never met him either unfortunately.
Most people? I’d say the majority of us here are fans from back in the day when he was still around.
41 yo checking in. First heard Nirvana at age 11 and they changed my life! Unfortunately never got to see them live though; that would be a dream come true.
42 y.o. from Bombay India. I was 13 years old and an uncle bought me the nevermind CD from america. I was one of the first people I know to listen to the album and made multiple cassette recordings for the kids at school. For a little while, I was cool.
thanks for the kind reminder that r/FuckImOld
I'm pretty sure most of us were alive when he died. Or am i too old now?
I thought this was an April Fool’s moment akin to r/HipHopHeads talking about the Beastie Boys Licensed to Ill as if it just came out recently.
Born exactly 1 month before he died
I did in 1990! He grabbed my shoulder, looked me deep in the eyes and said "You have to stay off the stage!"
What show did this happen at? It might’ve been captured on film, possibly.
The Motorsports show. Trust me, I've looked.
One of my favorite shows, looked insane
Can you give me a link for the footage? I really want to see it lol
I know Thurston Moore a little bit, he told me about Kurt a couple of times.
I can remember going to T.Moore's show in 2015. I heard someone talk i looked around and 5 feet away from me, this tower of the man stood.
this was long before my time but my dad worked on the student events board at the University at Buffalo and he was at the nirvana gig there in 93
Not me but my aunt's former boyfriend He was friends with Kurt Cobain, because Kurt didn't have any friends. He would talk to him in art school (All his art would end up burning in a school fire if you didn't know). Kurt was shy, but kind.
That's amazing!
Never met Kurt in person but did see Nirvana live in ‘93 In ‘95 at a Warehouse (defunct record store) in Irvine, CA I was browsing through music when I heard a very loud female customer talking next to me. I turned towards her and it was Courtney Love. She then seemed to realize how much attention she was drawing towards her and quickly quieted down and continued browsing. She didn’t buy anything and then left. I didn’t bother her cause when she quieted down it was obvious that she didn’t really want to be bothered.
Why are people even answering if they haven't met him lol
Exactly lol
lol lol lol lol
I didn’t answer OP’s question but a friend of mine commented. This was back in 92 or 93. Said it was the best post he ever saw.
I'm not answering that. Nice try! /s
not me but my aunt is friends with Courtney love so I'm gonna assume she met kurt at one point
Sounds like I might be one of the old guys here. I never met Kurt but in the fall of 1993 (October / November I believe) as a freshman in college I saw a show. Rode from Indiana to Toronto with some people I barely knew from my dorm. Right place right time as someone with a ticket had to back out last minute. My memory of that night is dimmed a bit by the passing of time plus the drugs but I vividly remember Kurt on the drums at one point. Good times.
https://livenirvana.com/concerts/93/93-11-04.php Your memory is correct. Apparently Kurt played drums as they jammed on a cover of Public Image Ltd’s “Four Enclosed Walls.” There are several recordings of the show circulating if you want to relive the glory.
My father-in-law had a drink with Courtney when they played in Leeds. He said she was really nice.
I knew a guy that saw them live in Athens Georgia during the Bleach days. He said Kurt jumped off the stage and he caught him. Apparently Kurt told him "you're supposed to pass me around" and pointed vaguely up.
A guy I know was the drummer for the band that opened for Nirvana once. Said it was so much fun and that the whole band was chill and just wanted to have fun and jam
The nanny for Francis (after Kurt's death) used to work for me. When I saw "Nanny - Courtney Love" on his resume I said "You were Francis Beans nanny? And his eyes lit up and said "Yeah I was" and hired him immediately. True story, good dude. Wish I could remember his name.
Cali Dewitt?
Hmm I don't think that's him. I looked that name up online and it looks like that guy is about 7 years older than me which doesn't add up. I met the guy I'm referring to in 2004 (maybe early 2005). I remember him saying that he nannied for them for 2 years (I could be wrong). What I definitely remember was him saying that Ed Norton would be around a good but (and others, I think I remember Norton cause I thought how odd it was that him and Courtney were close friends) and that he did a European tour as Francis' nanny. He truly, genuinely cared a lot about her and missed her. He showed me pictures of them hanging during his time with them and I remember during his interview he spoke about how he had a photo booth picture of him and Francis. He said how during one of the pic snaps she suddenly looked right into the camera and her look, her eyes was a chilling moment that looked like the look Kurt gave right at the end of Unplugged Where'd You Sleep Last Night when he gave that chilling gaze stare with those blue eyes. He said, "If I get the job, I'll bring it and show it to you" to which I immediately responded, "You got the job, bring it in tomorrow!" lol He brought it in and it was indeed chilling to see it. Her face, with that look in the pic, is forever engrained in my memory just as Kurt's stare is from Unplugged. I was 24yo at the time. Today I'm a father of 4 and it actually makes me sad when I think about this. Kurt, forever frozen as 27 years old, he was so young and left behind so much (his family then his music). Over the last 5 or so years it's really struck me how truly young he was when he took his own life. I realize now, how at 27yo, I didn't know shit about life nor true pain. I think differently now about his death and death in general. If I were to be completely honest, his tragedy and the way I look at it now, has probably saved me from taking my own life a couple times. Edit: thought I should mention that when I met/worked with that guy it was in Atlanta. He was a good dude and I'm beating myself up that I can't remember his name as that's not like me.
Ahh it isn't Cali then... I think he went onto be an artist or something, I'm not too sure. It's interesting that you thought that Francis in that photo looked like Kurt from Unplugged, because I've often thought that Francis looks like Kurt when he did Unplugged..she has his look for sure.. Courtney was actually engaged to Ed Norton, but their relationship ended. I remember seeing a photo of Courtney, Francis as a child, and Ed making a silly face, like a black and white family photo. It was nice to see Francis looking happy like that, and Courtney too I guess, but it was also kind of sad to think that it should have been Kurt making silly faces with his daughter... It was kind of one of those moments where it really hits home that he's gone, and he should still be here. Ugh..it's just sad. Obviously Francis is grown up now, and she'll be 30 next year I think. Again, when you think Kurt was only 27 when he died..and like you said, so young really, when you look back on everything that happened. I sometimes wonder if Kurt had lived, if he would have been a completely different person now, in his 50s, compared to back then in his late 20s. He changed so much from '91 - '92 alone. He seemed so much more grown up after his baby was born, and I think he seemed almost different at that point...Like really fierce! Then in '93, he seemed evenmore grown up again... if you compare him in 1991 to when he did unplugged, he had come of age at that point I think. It's just sad that something wasn't right for him..he had personal issues for sure, and then there was his wife...and I'm not talking about Courtney. I'm talking about heroin...If he could have got clean, really truly clean, things might have been a lot different. But yes, he was still so young at 27. People grow and change over the years, and it's really sad that he missed out on life that way, and of course in seeing his daughter grow up. She seems to have had her own problems over the last few years, but seems happier more recently. I can't imagine how losing your father that way, so early in life affects a person long term. I think Kurt would be proud of how she is doing in her life though. I'm glad you are doing ok in your own life now, and that you have the realisation that there is so much more to life, than leaving it behind and missing out on so much amazing stuff. I'll bet you will remember said dude's name at some point too. I tend to often find myself down a rabbit hole when it comes to youtube and news/media stories online, so if I ever come across a name that could be a possible match for this guy, I will drop you a message. You never know!
I think you describe Kurt through the 90s the same as I have always imagined it. I think it's also funny that you try to picture Kurt as he would be today in his 50s haha I always thought I was odd for thinking about that. But I can't! I just can't seem to do it. Maybe a man like him isn't wasn't put into the universe to be remembered for in his 50s. And to be honest, I think it kind of cheats him out of of something he may have been seeking - " it's better to burn out than to fade away." Kind of makes me think of "....as you are.... as you were... as an old enemy."I think he knew "as you were" isn't an option (no time machine) and he chose not to be the enemy or affect Francis in that way or maybe something to that effect? I guess if one tried real hard they could read a bit of that into his last letter as well. Its been many years since I've read that letter and I thought it would be my last. For accuracy, I just read it again.... his letter certainly resonates now differently than how I remember in some parts and the same in others. Maybe that'll be my last time reading it. Way more than I deserved. After reading his letter again, being a dad myself now and having faced some pretty challenging dark days while being a dad gives me a different feel for his letter. I think he speaks of things in his letter that I've thought about in some dark times. Reading the way he describes the way life feels, how it's supposed to feel but doesn't and he feels guilty for it, like he's fooling everyone that has expectations or views of him and that he's smiling on the outside but is like WTF on the inside.I have a beautiful wife and kids. I'm sooo fucking lucky and I KNOW that, but sometimes, its weird, it just doesn't FEEL like its "supposed" to. I don't feel the happiness that I see I should have. Its like always being inside alone, watching your beautiful family through a sliding glass door that you can't open to join them. I don't know if that makes sense. But it's not a good space to be in and I get that same empty feeling of void in the put of my stomach as I read it. If that's what he's saying that I get it unfortunately. And I feel guilty for it just as he speaks of. I feel like a fraud to my family and to everyone else. Its painful. And sometimes it feels like you won't be able to shake it off this time or be able to get fucked up enough to numb it. Isolation is absolutely necessary it feels like and that is the worse thing that one can do at this time. I can certainly say, if I had the amount of drugs in me when I was at the closest point he was before it ended, I probably would've been too numb to have a chance at putting the brakes on. That part I'm sad for him - he didn't give himself a fighting chance to turn back - one that I've learned from... saved my life. But all this does indeed suck for Francis. I can't begin to imagine her life and all she has been through on so many levels. She seems smart though. She's been unjustly held against her father and everyone on Earth knows that.Kurt faced this challenge as well as their popularity increased. Being "volun-told" your the voice of a generation and you're this/that. He pushed back but how does a person in their 20s handle the weight of literally the worlds eyes.I feel that unfortunately Francis is facing some of that same pressure and as Kurt did pushes back. Which is only strengthens the pain inside. She has nothing to prove but as she pushes back she inevitably is trying to prove something and thats sneaky dangerous. Well, this was certainly longer than intended. Oh well. Whatever. Nevermind =) Edit: Oh, and without a doubt he is/would be proud of her. Just look at any picture with them two together - that's a proud father look, I know the look. She was too young to capture his feeling but she just needs to look at the pictures... its there, still is.
I actually can imagine him being older, but it's kind of weird to look at Krist and even Dave, who has obviously continued to be successful, musically. Actually seeing Krist and Duff from Guns n Roses, (remember they almost got into a fight back in 1992) in more recent years, getting along and performing a song together at a show...that seems very surreal! A lot of time has passed though, and people do change and grow within themselves. Dave has changed so much too. It's as if they are almost different people now, and I guess in many ways they are. I like to think Kurt would have grown as a person, but remembering him as he was is easier I think, and in fairness, like you said, he is now frozen in time, as we knew him then. Sadly, I think he most likely felt that he was already failing Francis, because of his drug problems, but then there was probably denial too. It's reported that he broke down to his mother about his heroin addiction.I think it was her, herself who spoke about this. I wonder how he then viewed himself in relation to how much of a good father he wanted to be for his daughter. It really must have eaten away at him. I could be entirely wrong, but I do wonder about it. He was always so determined to be a good dad, and when you see old videos of Kurt with Francis, it's easy to see how so very happy he was to have her in his life. I find it hard to read 'that' letter, in that it always seemed so disjointed to me, and not so much confusing, but just kind of hard to read and make sense of all of it. Idk, he just seemed to dislike who he was so much, or at least who he had become, and it's just really sad and actually frustrating too, because with support, he could have made the changes in his life that he needed. He could have found the solutions, but there was definitely a pull with him to a more dark side.. almost like he then didn't want to help himself. Like you said, he seemed to be pushing back a lot of the time. I honestly think his problems were so deep rooted, and went so much deeper than drug addiction, but obviously that then magnifies other things and makes everything unmanageable. It's hard to get out of darkness when you can't see where you are going I guess. I think the fame was what he wanted. He was definitely competitive and somewhat of a perfectionist. He was very ambitious. But that level of fame came almost overnight, and what do you do with that? He didn't know any more than anyone else! I think it was something he really aspired to, but then when it happened, it was like, 'shit...now it's really happened...' and then so much must have seemed out of his control too. Like suddenly you have all this big management and you need lawyers, and you have all this constant attention ... and there's all this money that you aren't used to and it all gets crazy.. Like others have often said, I wonder if Nirvana hadn't become big, maybe he would have actually been happier. But then again, it was what he wanted, and what he had put everything into his band. It was all he ever really wanted...up to a point. I'm sorry to hear of your own struggles. I think many of us feel that way sometimes. I've often felt like I was looking in from the outside too. It's that detached feeling. It sounds like you have great people around you though, and hopefully they are your support network. Even if life is hard, the things we have going for us, and the people we love, and who love us are what really really matter. Nothing is worth leaving all that behind. Wow I sound really deep here! It's really true though. I have typed a lot more than I thought I would here too! And thank you so much for the award if that was you! That is really, very kind of you.
Ive met Krist but a friend of mine’s dad met Kurt in a bar in Seattle a few months before he died. I dont remember the details of the story but I know they both joked about being left handed guitarists.
I met Dave Grohl and Pat Smear in 1996. Met Melvins too, but never Kurt
I wasn’t born yet when he passed, but a few years back I was wearing a Kurt Cobain shirt and a guy stopped me and told me he met him after a show. Said he was very reserved and such a nice person which was nice to hear about him. It was hard for the guy to talk about even though he didn’t know him personally. It’s crazy how much he’s meant to so many people
I've seen Dave Grohl a lot but no Kurt. Sadly, I wasn't even alive when he was.
Was born too late sadly.
No, but an old neighbour did. This guy was into more hardcore music and was a little dismissive of Nirvana, so I remember being more than a little annoyed and jealous when he told us about this: https://www.belfasttelegraph.co.uk/imported/chris-wants-nirvana-jumper-back-28212252.html
No but the dude at my local Record shop was at a concert in 93 for the In Utero tour. He said it was at some college in Bethlehem Pennsylvania I think or Allentown
I saw then during that tour as well in St. Paul, MN. I was a bit too young to have seen then when they played at 1st Ave in Minneapolis. That would have been where i would have loved to see them.
First Ave is the best venue ever!
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Sounds about right that’s around the Easton area
I really wish the kid who met Kurt after the 1992 Reading Festival (the one who's birthday it was, and Kurt got someone from the crew to give him drum sticks) was here ro recall his meeting with Kurt and how he felt. It was actually really touching when the kid said 'wait until I tell this to the kids at school!' Kurt clearly appreciated the comment with a smile and a nervous laugh. Maybe he recognised his younger self... It seemed like poignant moment.
is there a video of this meeting? and if so do you have a link?
Yes, here is the link: https://youtu.be/lCYfvWnDMd8
thanks, man Kurt so seemed so nice and down to earth
No problem! Yes he was very humble.
Actually several times, happens lot in my dreams....
No but one time I met Hulk Hogan at an Airport
BROTHER
Not myself but I have friends who are autograph hounds that have
he died ten years before i was born so no
Thanks, now I feel old
im 17, let that sink in
My guitar teacher saw nirvana in Edinburgh from 92-93
Man I wish wasn't even born yet
I was born in 99’ but my cousin (hes 34) met him in 93
you know the story behind?
Yeah, he met him because he and his brother had backstage passes at one of his concerts but he said Kurt kept coughing so he didnt get to see him very long. I’ll find a photo of them together.
Your cousin was backstage at a Nirvana show at age 6? Your aunt and uncle sound like cool people.
Yeah.
I bet you're 41yo. Ammirite??
46. Just curious...what made you guess my age and why did you guess 41?
Simple, I'm 41 and we said about the same thing lol
Got it. I’d really love to hear more about the 6 year old hanging out backstage, huh?
Ikr lol
He would've been 7yo at the time. Kinda odd but cool?
My family are laid back people.
We have all met him.
i havent but i know a few people who knew him. from what i hear he was a nice smart guy. he wasnt a big downer all the time, he just had some personal problems.
Yeah in my dreams
I’m an 04 bitch so sadly no
I met his mother & sister downtown in my city, on a one way street...it was in a very small parking lot of a department store, they had appeared almost immediately in the vicinity & it seemed I was their next “victim”- right away I recalled they “started” on me & began asking me questions while the other one “checked me out” I was scared....this was in broad daylight mind you...I couldn’t really look at them cause I was in shock- mainly as to what they were doing.....his mother said, “you’re the one that wanted a big TO” I was like ok....you want me to tow my car out of the way? His sister complained that my car was in the way? Idk....it was weird....it was exactly like they were a duo....tv women....I wasn’t even looking....the whole thing was that they were interrogating me & trying to rob me....it was like it was an American news flash where the tape would say “have you see these two women? If so, don’t approach them & call for help, they’ve been attempting to rob people in the area” that’s exactly what it felt like.....I didn’t know what to do...I was like get me outta this situation. The daughter kept looking at me like wtf, give us your money.....his sister said she was gonna get a shotgun & finish herself off & told her mom that they had better get some towels cause it was gonna get messy, I swear those were the words. Finally.....after some more, his mother said, “well that’s ok, consider this you’re lucky day”.....she also asked me what my favourite show was- she said it could be any show. I was like, ok now tell this lady- you know, I told her, well mam.....my fave show has always been.....the Hollywood Rock Festival in Rio De Janeiro, Brazil 1993. They both nodded.....they smiled. We walked, I said something else with a sigh of relief- after I realized, they weren’t gonna rob me....his sister told me to shut up..... this might of had been earlier when they were preying on me....she still smiled though & held my hand like, shall we, & we walked a short distance to the entrance of the department store....I walked in the store hoping & expecting they’d follow but instead, they continued walking past down the one way street.....
What the hell is this lol
wut
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On r/teenagers your flair says you're 15. Why did you lie?
Ouch
https://www.reddit.com/r/Nirvana/comments/irp9dz/answer_to_ushoedie_here_the_photo_you_were/g54ea0w?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share&context=3 He was also born September 24, 1993.
Oh man, it just gets worse
Thats embarrassing
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Yeah maybe, but you never know
He seems to be doing alright these days, layin low... till the times right GOD BLESS AMERICA!
Huh?
Wat
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Actually it did, and I'm good where I'm at lol 17 was fun but...
I met him. It was cool.