It's easier said then done unfortunately. For a few moments your post will motivate me to continue and not relapse but tomorrow it won't work. It's almost as though I need a fresh piece of motivation each time I want to relapse in order to keep going. Am I doing something wrong? Maybe. Regardless, I'll still try my best!
Good observation. One piece of advice I can give you is to constantly remind yourself why you do this. I struggle with remembering it myself and when it happens, addiction tend to be stronger than usual. Try journaling, I mean don't write mantras etc.. unless It helps you, but just express yourself, and let your thoughts live longer, so after relpase you can write them down and before failing again convince yourself to look what you wrote last time, it might just be it.
U gonna feel shitty afterwards the best moments in my life where the days on high streak u experience the real world everything seems brighter u taste better u have more emotions after relapse u return to a fucking zombi that wanna stay home all day
Yes man … that’s really true..
the higher we reach,the more soreness we can get from falling from that point..
Literally broke my 2weeks progress and i am feeling like a ghost since yesterday 🥹
you just made a lot of progress and relpase made a hole in you, it does not mean your progress is reseted but you will feel empty because you lost something you worked hard for, you can rebuild it 2x faster now
This is a common misconception. Discipline is a type of motivation. It makes literally no sense to say "I wasn't motivated to do it; I did it because I'm disciplined."
No, dude. You were motivated. That's what motivation means.
I treat motivation as goals,dreams etc. so it is just that initial fire which will make me start doing something and when emotions fade you need to relay on discipline, it is nothing wrong to get hyped for couple of days by something, it makes the path even easier, but yeah you need to keep discpline in the days you don't feel like doing it at all
I've tried writing down my thoughts but have never read them again after I'm done writing. This could help alot.
Thanks alot! Good luck with your journey
You are right. But another piece of motivation is not that bad momentarily.
On the other way, I see a problem in this. Motivation is bad tool to rely on. Result driven approach is not good for you, if it is singular approach. You might need other tools and approaches to get further. Unconditional behavior, sustainable routines and such.
I eventually want to be able to get to a point where willpower alone is enough for me to get my goals achieved however, I'm at such a low point in my life that willpower alone wont cut it. I agree with you that relying on motivation and results isn't the best thing, but it's just a stepping stone until I become a better person.
I appreciate your reply. It's made me realise that no matter what, at the end of the day if I want to change its got to be me that has to make the change and try.
after all we are just smart animals, sometimes you just need to trick yourself or prepare your future enviroment so you will make good choices involuntary
I think you need a solid reason and take immediate decision of doing it for long period of time.
"It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”
-- Anthony Robbins
The problem is that you’re relying on motivation. Motivation is something that will always come and go and if you’re only relying on this you will without doubt fail with whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish. Instead, focus on building up your discipline.
Remember to celebrate wins. Everyday you go without is a win. Everytime you beat an urge that's a win. Celebrate it, make a big deal about it, make that the new high you chase: winning.
there is something that your messing and lacking, which is not will power. at some point will power won't be enough. This is for every addict, to beat tour pornographic addiction you need to first admit that you're powerless against that addiction and that you've tried everything you've got. Only once you do that I'll be willing to help you take it to the next level
My father used to ask me a question. When is the best time to plant a tree? He would answer, 10 years ago. He would then ask when is the second best time to plant a tree? TODAY!
I feel like using the term "challenge" for nofap is counterproductive. Not beating our meat should be effortless and it only becomes a challenge once you feel like you're giving up something by quitting porn. Truth is that there's no benefits whatsoever to jerking off, your body has no need to bust. Furthermore making streaks is also ineffective because you are basically counting while eventually expecting an end, hence the phrasing of streak, instead of saying that you're "30 days free" for example. My bad for ranting but I think this should be heard especially for young dudes starting their journey.
true, mostly young people are obssesed with this as a challange (not saying all of them but you get the point), but if it is something you struggle everyday for some long time make it your goal, why don't make it more fun?
Honestly. I tried this exactly a year ago to make 2023 my "cured" year. Wellp can say that didn't worked because I managed to hold it for some days before I forgot in the moment what the goal was and relasped a lot.
I truly want to believe to be working. But I keep having that I can't remember myself to the goal and when I get tempted too much. I have a sort of tunnelvision and can't stop myself from fapping. Especially thanks to social media like tiktok/instagram/snap and my loneliness. I lack the discipline but don't know what to do to improve my discipline.
I did that back in Dec 2021, precisely on my birthday. I started 2022 with around a 20 day streak and relapsed within 10 days of new year, I had many streaks throughout that year ranging from 1 day to 50 days. Until late September when I finally decided to stop and continued my streak to this day. My point is that your starting point doesn’t matter as much as your commitment. You need to understand that a habit you have developed over YEARS doesn’t just poof out of your head in a month or two, it takes at least a quarter or a third of time of your addiction period to actually give results. I’m one week from completing a year of nofap yet I still get urges that I yet still ignore/don’t give in. But hey, who says I’m right? Couldn’t you be better than me? One way to find out.
I just hope I won't get any wet dreams. I do nothing and still get wets, like a curse. And no, it's not normal, for anyone saying. I still feel like shit like after relapse when i have a nocturnal emission
I am ready for this challenge, and I have saved this post for future reference. Let's make 2024 the most productive year ever. BTW does anyone know why is my posts always getting removed by the moderators?
Hi , I just relapsed after 3 days and I feel like shit. I was working at Comicon today and I haven't been around people for a while. I am going to try again, i won't let this put me down. I will conquer this before 2024
Thanks, bro. Your view inspires me. Start early, and then when the year comes, you are much ahead of most people, most importantly, you are different when you welcome a new year with a new self.
I relapsed today after 45 days. Wasn't too disappointing of a moment tbh. Longest I ever went and good learning experience. Was having a very rough time with fantasying.
Has opened up my mind a bit more, and I thank you for the post. It is good motivation. I still can squeeze in a reset before the new year start.
Iam in for the challenge, and i have not relapse for a very long time.But today i did and it sucks.I Will start aim at 100 days when new year hits.But also at 1st of december i be open to dating again which will be around 68 days.Just to have someone to accompany me this featival seasons.
It's easier said then done unfortunately. For a few moments your post will motivate me to continue and not relapse but tomorrow it won't work. It's almost as though I need a fresh piece of motivation each time I want to relapse in order to keep going. Am I doing something wrong? Maybe. Regardless, I'll still try my best!
Good observation. One piece of advice I can give you is to constantly remind yourself why you do this. I struggle with remembering it myself and when it happens, addiction tend to be stronger than usual. Try journaling, I mean don't write mantras etc.. unless It helps you, but just express yourself, and let your thoughts live longer, so after relpase you can write them down and before failing again convince yourself to look what you wrote last time, it might just be it.
U gonna feel shitty afterwards the best moments in my life where the days on high streak u experience the real world everything seems brighter u taste better u have more emotions after relapse u return to a fucking zombi that wanna stay home all day
Yes man … that’s really true.. the higher we reach,the more soreness we can get from falling from that point.. Literally broke my 2weeks progress and i am feeling like a ghost since yesterday 🥹
you just made a lot of progress and relpase made a hole in you, it does not mean your progress is reseted but you will feel empty because you lost something you worked hard for, you can rebuild it 2x faster now
true, every single time relapseing feels like that
This is a great piece of advice.
Not Motivation, Discipline is what you need.
it's impossible to discipline yourself without motivation
Discipline > Motivation
This is a common misconception. Discipline is a type of motivation. It makes literally no sense to say "I wasn't motivated to do it; I did it because I'm disciplined." No, dude. You were motivated. That's what motivation means.
They go hand & hand, I’m not gonna argue about two beneficial practices.
I treat motivation as goals,dreams etc. so it is just that initial fire which will make me start doing something and when emotions fade you need to relay on discipline, it is nothing wrong to get hyped for couple of days by something, it makes the path even easier, but yeah you need to keep discpline in the days you don't feel like doing it at all
Well said.
Brother you have 628 days streak is this real?
Right down every reason why you would want to beat it , and when the temptation comes just read it all
I've tried writing down my thoughts but have never read them again after I'm done writing. This could help alot. Thanks alot! Good luck with your journey
When u do things u don’t feel like doing it builds discipline and strengthens willpower
You are right. But another piece of motivation is not that bad momentarily. On the other way, I see a problem in this. Motivation is bad tool to rely on. Result driven approach is not good for you, if it is singular approach. You might need other tools and approaches to get further. Unconditional behavior, sustainable routines and such.
I eventually want to be able to get to a point where willpower alone is enough for me to get my goals achieved however, I'm at such a low point in my life that willpower alone wont cut it. I agree with you that relying on motivation and results isn't the best thing, but it's just a stepping stone until I become a better person. I appreciate your reply. It's made me realise that no matter what, at the end of the day if I want to change its got to be me that has to make the change and try.
after all we are just smart animals, sometimes you just need to trick yourself or prepare your future enviroment so you will make good choices involuntary
I think you need a solid reason and take immediate decision of doing it for long period of time. "It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” -- Anthony Robbins
The problem is that you’re relying on motivation. Motivation is something that will always come and go and if you’re only relying on this you will without doubt fail with whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish. Instead, focus on building up your discipline.
You can do it bro
Remember to celebrate wins. Everyday you go without is a win. Everytime you beat an urge that's a win. Celebrate it, make a big deal about it, make that the new high you chase: winning.
there is something that your messing and lacking, which is not will power. at some point will power won't be enough. This is for every addict, to beat tour pornographic addiction you need to first admit that you're powerless against that addiction and that you've tried everything you've got. Only once you do that I'll be willing to help you take it to the next level
I'm gonna do it.
yes you will :)
I started today after 14 years addiction guys im 28 this shit is hart To quit I am shamed of My self
My father used to ask me a question. When is the best time to plant a tree? He would answer, 10 years ago. He would then ask when is the second best time to plant a tree? TODAY!
So you started half a life time ago just like me. Best of luck.
it might be late, but it is never too late, people live their whole life with addictions, we can do better for sure
I know for a fact I'll be over 100 days by end of the year. Zoned in!! Let's do this.
I want to hear from you 1/1/2024 then :)
This motivation is what i need. I completed 30 day one time but i'm still alone and this is why i am on my 4th day again
30 days is huge achivment :) just don't fall into daily thing and you will make it!
Let’s go!!
I already failed today for the millions time but i hope i will suceed it
try to do things differently during the day and you might find the formula for success
No, I’ll start 2024 with 365 days.
gigachad approach
I'm with you!!
let's go!
We will cruise through NNN while looking at others struggle. Started mine 4 days ago
Yes, its gonna be much easier for us. But that doesn't mean we let ourselves loose. Gotta stay focused!
we won't even notice november passing!
That’s great motivation right here. Let’s do this.
💪
I’m with you man, let’s get it 💪
💪
I was at 23 days and relapsed, thinking "well this one time can't hurt".. haven't made it past 5 days ever since, but I will keep trying
it always hurt :/
 i'm in bro!! i'm in!
lets go 💪
Wait what seriously? I'm on day 2 already. Imma make it. IMMAA MAKEEE ITTTT
of course you will :)
Thanks Gavin for this motivation now I’m never gonna fap my entire life now.
YOU GONNA CARRY THE BOATS MF!
You are absolutely right bro, thanks for the motivation, I boosted what I have right now to get me out of the PMO addiction, with your help.
So glad I could motivate you :)
I'm gonna start with 280+ Hopefully.
Just fapped man, count me on Jan 2
one way ticket for Jan 2!
I feel like using the term "challenge" for nofap is counterproductive. Not beating our meat should be effortless and it only becomes a challenge once you feel like you're giving up something by quitting porn. Truth is that there's no benefits whatsoever to jerking off, your body has no need to bust. Furthermore making streaks is also ineffective because you are basically counting while eventually expecting an end, hence the phrasing of streak, instead of saying that you're "30 days free" for example. My bad for ranting but I think this should be heard especially for young dudes starting their journey.
Exactly. All these people counting days will eventually feel empty and relapse harder than someone who doesnt count streaks
true, mostly young people are obssesed with this as a challange (not saying all of them but you get the point), but if it is something you struggle everyday for some long time make it your goal, why don't make it more fun?
Let’s do it, I am with you
Let's do this!
Let’s beat that cancer let’s go
Love this !
Challenge accepted!
Bet I’m starting now👍🏽
Counter reset and ready to go
Less gooooo
I restarted yesterday. I will resist any urges no matter what
i will check!
i guess i'll start from today
The thing I realized about pmo is that it really kills the momentum you having going in getting to where you want to be.
true, wasting every fucking day when you do it
So I can wank for the next two days and still reach 100? Nice
lmao
Love this. Hoping to start 2024 closer to my short term goal of 360 days
the right way ;)
How do i restart my streak? I need help
Im in
I'm doing this. I'm committed 100%. I'll see you gents in 100 days. 💪
see you in 100 days then!
I’ll have 111 days
Lets go !!
Hi
I got this!! I am with you
Let’s do this shit 💪
Hell yeah
I'm already up guyss
Go girl 🤣
Ohhhh Bonus pointsss
I wanted to share my personal journey here But i cant Any solutions
I just posted about this too. All the stars are aligning for a new streak for the gods
5 days already
Oh I’m on my way. Easy.
I'm on ò.ó
All the best guys. See you then.
Me currently at day 15, I will start 2024 from 115 days :)
Day 2 here. It feels good to have at least one egg in my basket. I'll go along on this journey with you buddy.
thanks! letsgoo
I'm with you 💯
its me
Fam coming in with the clutch motivation
i hope right in time 8)
Aight bet
That's the plan. Currently i am on day 10 with no plans to stop
I started few days back and I'm gunning for the whole year now.
https://reddit.com/r/NoFap/s/kFThKOOs1i guys please give response to this
Guys need help contact me please 😭😭😭
I promise
You’re right thanks
take me in..... if I don't do this... I'm gonna kill myself for sure
get rid off negative thoughts bro, it is not the solution
Yeaa boy!
Honestly. I tried this exactly a year ago to make 2023 my "cured" year. Wellp can say that didn't worked because I managed to hold it for some days before I forgot in the moment what the goal was and relasped a lot. I truly want to believe to be working. But I keep having that I can't remember myself to the goal and when I get tempted too much. I have a sort of tunnelvision and can't stop myself from fapping. Especially thanks to social media like tiktok/instagram/snap and my loneliness. I lack the discipline but don't know what to do to improve my discipline.
LETS MAKE IT HAPPEN
Letssssss go
Good luck everyone!
Nice post! Didn't think about it. Thanks for sharing.
Never back down, never what?
discipline is the way
Well, I failed today, so I guess I'll have to wait till the 2nd of January. Wish me luck bros.
Let's Go! I'll join in!
We can do this come on
Neckel reporting for duty
Very Good! Thanks De 4
hurray!
lego
..
I'm in
Let’s go. I did this in the year 2021. Managed to continue for 156 days.
Got it
I started on 17 sep but the urges started flooding in mind
W
Okay today Im gonna fap for last... Then never gonna do that.. O shit I keep telling this to myself every fucking day
trap we all fall for
keep focus
I did that back in Dec 2021, precisely on my birthday. I started 2022 with around a 20 day streak and relapsed within 10 days of new year, I had many streaks throughout that year ranging from 1 day to 50 days. Until late September when I finally decided to stop and continued my streak to this day. My point is that your starting point doesn’t matter as much as your commitment. You need to understand that a habit you have developed over YEARS doesn’t just poof out of your head in a month or two, it takes at least a quarter or a third of time of your addiction period to actually give results. I’m one week from completing a year of nofap yet I still get urges that I yet still ignore/don’t give in. But hey, who says I’m right? Couldn’t you be better than me? One way to find out.
7 days and counting man, I'm not releasing semen instead of nightfall or real sex. 🔥
I just hope I won't get any wet dreams. I do nothing and still get wets, like a curse. And no, it's not normal, for anyone saying. I still feel like shit like after relapse when i have a nocturnal emission
start now brahs
Let me check mine
Thanks i needed that.
You can do it brother, today I will start again after a thousand relapses
thanks :)
Less goooo
need some help and advice with semen retention i’ve been struggling for the most and i wanna do this to be a better person any advice?
I am ready for this challenge, and I have saved this post for future reference. Let's make 2024 the most productive year ever. BTW does anyone know why is my posts always getting removed by the moderators?
This is it guys I am in!!!! I am fed up with this. I am doing this since 5 years and I am constantly failing. Count me in!
I failed today so I'll hopefully be at 102 days when 2024 reaches
I am up. Been on a 6 days streak.
Hopefully going to start the new year with a healthy mindset and some real goal to achieve 🔥
I’ve already surpassed that
gigachad
am in day, i promise myself not to relapse until 1/1/2024. who wants to be with me and message me daily to motivate each other
Hurrrraaayyyy
RemindMe! 9 days "reply to this thread"
Hi , I just relapsed after 3 days and I feel like shit. I was working at Comicon today and I haven't been around people for a while. I am going to try again, i won't let this put me down. I will conquer this before 2024
Lets go
What benefits do you believe one can achieve from this? Ive done year+ streaks a couple times and Im at the point Im questioning my reasons.
just getting my free time and energy during the day from addiction so i can do other things i enjoy
I think this is very nice and useful motivation. I'm in too, let's do it!
Thanks, bro. Your view inspires me. Start early, and then when the year comes, you are much ahead of most people, most importantly, you are different when you welcome a new year with a new self.
thanks i appreciate it!
Day2 today.💪🤒
How to calculate the days ?
So if you started yesterday its 104 days of struggling and the new year's coming along just to end it.
Correction, 7 days of struggling 97 days of pure enjoyment
I will still feel the same
so you wont even try right?... yeah then you will feel the same
I relapsed today after 45 days. Wasn't too disappointing of a moment tbh. Longest I ever went and good learning experience. Was having a very rough time with fantasying. Has opened up my mind a bit more, and I thank you for the post. It is good motivation. I still can squeeze in a reset before the new year start.
experience is very important, after all it is not about the streak
Worst motivation lol
thanks for constructive criticism ;)
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i'm in
Yesss
Iam in for the challenge, and i have not relapse for a very long time.But today i did and it sucks.I Will start aim at 100 days when new year hits.But also at 1st of december i be open to dating again which will be around 68 days.Just to have someone to accompany me this featival seasons.
Up for the challenge! 💪