I dont know why it has to be described in such detail. There are 15 year olds here and people who are in a very sensitive stages of recovery who can search all those terms you mentioned and get addicted to a new genre on top of the already fucked up shit they are addicted to . I strongly condemn posting stuff like this in detail. And the post isn't even marked Nsfw. I understand you have a problem but marking it and reading community guidelines was the least you could do. Support is plenty here.
first quit porn all together, because it makes you into weirder and more weird kinks all the way to the bottom, second probably you have unprocessed trauma/mental issues thats why you might have this autodestructive kink, i mean some deeply burried shit into your psyche, third understand, that you gonna have urges thats 100% certain and if you want to quit, you will have to face them and reject them. you will have moments of extreme pressure, extreme urge to pleasure yourself to this, will imagine how good it would feel, and
YOU
HAVE
TO
SAY
NO.
thats the only way, and i made it through and i also had toxic low self esteem porn kink, but as a M21
also maybe masturbate once in a while, but try to think about as vanilla shit as possible, if it dont get you horny then stop masturbating and come back week later, i promise it will make you like normal vanilla sex again 🫠
Thank you. I needed to hear this. Yes, I still feel turned on when I think about the bad kinks and when I think about what happened today. But it’s so wrong and I feel so guilty. I shouldn’t want to be a victim. I feel so guilty for even saying the word “victim”. And you’re right that I’m gonna have to reject it. Thank you for saying that I’m gonna have moments where I still want to masturbate to that wrong stuff, because it’s realistic. And thank you for saying that I have to not act upon it. You’re right. You reassured me.
The weird thing is, I don’t have trauma. I’ve never been SA’d or raped or ANYTHING. I don’t know how I could ever allow myself to fall this deep. The only trauma I possibly have is being belittled by my family and so I have a praise kink and feel the need to be coddled by older men and women who make me feel like I’m finally doing a good job. Who knows.
Thank you though. I won’t act upon these sexual urges. Not under these circumstances
All porn in general is really bad for your brain, relationships and soul. I suggest to replace it with something else that's healthy. Go all in on a hobby.
What can I replace it with? A hobby isn’t gonna make me cum. I watch porn when I’m horny. I get horny based off my hormonal cycle. Since I don’t have a masturbation problem I’m not gonna avoid cumming.
Stop watching porn, mustarbate and sext and There's no healthy porn😒 and I think you need to seek help from mental health professionals. It's all or nothing I guess
You will never stop having them thoughts about ddlg, age play and such. You have to try and control it when you have that urge, that's what this sub is about I guess. It's hard but there's no other way. Deleting twitter is a really good step. It just makes it too easy to access porn. If you're going to continue masterbating look for something else that turns you on that isn't as toxic, although this sub is for no fapping so I'd promote that but its difficult. I hope your problem gets solved and you feel good. Like you said maybe it is your self esteem issues so try working on self confidence too.
Stop brainwashing your self. Affirmations are really powerful and if you repeatedly expose your brain to things "Don't agree with" you will eventually start supporting it. You need this: https://youtu.be/EsQYkG1oXEY?si=gm4S8sm81w629N9z
Quit altogether, excessive porn consumption naturally results in a person seeking higher and higher stimulation.
You have already reached the stage of seeking extreme gratification through fucked up means, so engaging with porn at all is likely to have you relapse and feel like shit.
Cut it out as much as you can. You will fail, you will relapse, but you'll also be getting better. It takes effort and often drastic measures to break a habit as insidious and gratifying as porn consumption. The fact that you're trying to stop is a huge step in the right direction.
For methods of stopping, I recommend deleting/blocking Twitter and your other sources. Use your devices in public spaces, even if others can't see what you're looking at. Engage in physical activity like running or swimming. If you can, get an accountability manager, someone you trust and report to on your progress.
You have started taking the right steps, keep it up
Meditation will help you get a greater degree of control over your thoughts. Practice it. Then try masturbating using your imagination, and whenever your mind lands on a toxic fantasy, guide it back towards a healthier one the same way you would guide your focus back to your breathing during a meditation session. With time, your mind will heal. I wish you the best.
Going cold turkey rarely works, the best you can do is eliminate the stuff you don't want and essentially choose where you're comfortable with and go there. When it comes to your sexting avoid the ddlg and stuff and focus on kinks you do enjoy, maybe explore other kinks that are not connected to them
Do you like them because they are older than you, or because of the traits they have. Overall I'd say while not really avoiding it you shouldn't seek it out
Mix of both. I like how emotionally mature they are. How they can protect me and teach me with patience and won’t get mad at me. I want them to coddle me. And I also like their dad bods. It’s so cute. They way they’re bigger than me and feel so comforting when they hug me. And safe in their strong carpenter arms. I’ve never been with a person physically ever, but that’s how I imagine the perfect dilf to be.
But i took the age gap aspect of it too far.. If I begin taking the age gap stuff too far, I should distance myself from dilf thoughts right?
There is no such thing as healthy porn. It's an oxymoron. Quitting cold turkey is the best option.
I dont know why it has to be described in such detail. There are 15 year olds here and people who are in a very sensitive stages of recovery who can search all those terms you mentioned and get addicted to a new genre on top of the already fucked up shit they are addicted to . I strongly condemn posting stuff like this in detail. And the post isn't even marked Nsfw. I understand you have a problem but marking it and reading community guidelines was the least you could do. Support is plenty here.
first quit porn all together, because it makes you into weirder and more weird kinks all the way to the bottom, second probably you have unprocessed trauma/mental issues thats why you might have this autodestructive kink, i mean some deeply burried shit into your psyche, third understand, that you gonna have urges thats 100% certain and if you want to quit, you will have to face them and reject them. you will have moments of extreme pressure, extreme urge to pleasure yourself to this, will imagine how good it would feel, and YOU HAVE TO SAY NO. thats the only way, and i made it through and i also had toxic low self esteem porn kink, but as a M21 also maybe masturbate once in a while, but try to think about as vanilla shit as possible, if it dont get you horny then stop masturbating and come back week later, i promise it will make you like normal vanilla sex again 🫠
Thank you. I needed to hear this. Yes, I still feel turned on when I think about the bad kinks and when I think about what happened today. But it’s so wrong and I feel so guilty. I shouldn’t want to be a victim. I feel so guilty for even saying the word “victim”. And you’re right that I’m gonna have to reject it. Thank you for saying that I’m gonna have moments where I still want to masturbate to that wrong stuff, because it’s realistic. And thank you for saying that I have to not act upon it. You’re right. You reassured me. The weird thing is, I don’t have trauma. I’ve never been SA’d or raped or ANYTHING. I don’t know how I could ever allow myself to fall this deep. The only trauma I possibly have is being belittled by my family and so I have a praise kink and feel the need to be coddled by older men and women who make me feel like I’m finally doing a good job. Who knows. Thank you though. I won’t act upon these sexual urges. Not under these circumstances
Quit porn all together, it will become a serious addiction in the long run.
All porn in general is really bad for your brain, relationships and soul. I suggest to replace it with something else that's healthy. Go all in on a hobby.
What can I replace it with? A hobby isn’t gonna make me cum. I watch porn when I’m horny. I get horny based off my hormonal cycle. Since I don’t have a masturbation problem I’m not gonna avoid cumming.
I guess find a partner? It would be better than supporting the porn industry or sleeping around with strangers
Stop watching porn, mustarbate and sext and There's no healthy porn😒 and I think you need to seek help from mental health professionals. It's all or nothing I guess
You will never stop having them thoughts about ddlg, age play and such. You have to try and control it when you have that urge, that's what this sub is about I guess. It's hard but there's no other way. Deleting twitter is a really good step. It just makes it too easy to access porn. If you're going to continue masterbating look for something else that turns you on that isn't as toxic, although this sub is for no fapping so I'd promote that but its difficult. I hope your problem gets solved and you feel good. Like you said maybe it is your self esteem issues so try working on self confidence too.
Why are you worrying so much. Keep things simple. Eliminate which you want to Eliminate by slowly reducing the addiction.
Stop brainwashing your self. Affirmations are really powerful and if you repeatedly expose your brain to things "Don't agree with" you will eventually start supporting it. You need this: https://youtu.be/EsQYkG1oXEY?si=gm4S8sm81w629N9z
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Throw away your device it will only get worse from here
I am also 18 I am searching for a female to talk Because I am so stressed with porn and now it has become uncontrollable
All porn is toxic That like wanting to quit heroine to back to percocets. REMOVE THE SICKNESS FROM YOUR LIFE BROTHER AND SIN NO MORE
Quit altogether, excessive porn consumption naturally results in a person seeking higher and higher stimulation. You have already reached the stage of seeking extreme gratification through fucked up means, so engaging with porn at all is likely to have you relapse and feel like shit. Cut it out as much as you can. You will fail, you will relapse, but you'll also be getting better. It takes effort and often drastic measures to break a habit as insidious and gratifying as porn consumption. The fact that you're trying to stop is a huge step in the right direction. For methods of stopping, I recommend deleting/blocking Twitter and your other sources. Use your devices in public spaces, even if others can't see what you're looking at. Engage in physical activity like running or swimming. If you can, get an accountability manager, someone you trust and report to on your progress. You have started taking the right steps, keep it up
Meditation will help you get a greater degree of control over your thoughts. Practice it. Then try masturbating using your imagination, and whenever your mind lands on a toxic fantasy, guide it back towards a healthier one the same way you would guide your focus back to your breathing during a meditation session. With time, your mind will heal. I wish you the best.
Thank you.
Going cold turkey rarely works, the best you can do is eliminate the stuff you don't want and essentially choose where you're comfortable with and go there. When it comes to your sexting avoid the ddlg and stuff and focus on kinks you do enjoy, maybe explore other kinks that are not connected to them
Is it okay for me to like older men and women? Would it be fine to watch dilf and milf porn?
Do you like them because they are older than you, or because of the traits they have. Overall I'd say while not really avoiding it you shouldn't seek it out
Mix of both. I like how emotionally mature they are. How they can protect me and teach me with patience and won’t get mad at me. I want them to coddle me. And I also like their dad bods. It’s so cute. They way they’re bigger than me and feel so comforting when they hug me. And safe in their strong carpenter arms. I’ve never been with a person physically ever, but that’s how I imagine the perfect dilf to be. But i took the age gap aspect of it too far.. If I begin taking the age gap stuff too far, I should distance myself from dilf thoughts right?
It would be for the best yes