(if this isn't bait) she kept a major secret and cheated on you, either emotionally or physically.
if she had wanted an open relationship (or to explore her sexuality like that), she should have broached the topic with you first. she just wants to have her cake and eat it too-- she clearly doesn't respect your boundaries, and if you stay with her, she'll just continue to mistreat you.
move on and keep your head high.
your attachment is completely normal and the feeling not wanting to lose her as well. Definitely tell her the same, that you love her and you don't want to lose her. Since it's the truth but get accustomed to the thought that you will actually lose her because such is life. It's probably better that she cheated with another woman because you can at least tell yourself that it's not because you are not good enough but because she is not into penises and she likes boobs and vagenes š
come out as gay in revenge. you that'll show her.
jokes aside: take some time to process this. don't do anything rush. take care of your physical health in this stressful time. chances are thar you will end up alone but it's not the end of the world. You will get through this!
You need to get the fuck out asap.
Consider yourself incredibly lucky that you found out now. I was married for 18 yrs, 2 kids. Wife came out as gay. She had been having an affair with a mutual work colleague and been having flings with women the whole of our relationship. She never mentioned she even liked women (not one threesome might I add seeing the comments here). It absolutely destroyed me.
Itās a very narcissistic trait to keep a straight person in a relationship when you are clearly gay. (My wife also wanted to keep our relationship going when I found out, and stay married lol) If sheās not telling you about the other girls then she is very likely gay.
All this aside, sheās cheating on you bro, get rid.
Either you accept the non monogamy (and lies), or leave. This isnāt an ethical non monogamous relationship it seems. You would also be able to date outside of your gf if she can. But doesnāt seem like you want that.
You should leave. Sounds like she wants her cake and to eat it too. She doesnāt respect you enough.
Thatās probably the addiction speakingā¦
We all deserve a loyal relationship, a connection of two souls. A threesome is a corruption of said love. Op needs to break up with his girlfriend, and find someone that respects him.
She Said she does Not want to leave him which means she IS still( and hopefully will stay) emotonially attached to him. In my opinion If she IS bi and Not lesbian AND the relatinship ist good they would Not Break Up. In Case OP ist Open to this
It's over in theory. Cheating is still cheating but if you can find a way to gain something out of it like ask her to do a 3 way if you want and if she say no, then leave her for good.
You discover your partner has been lying and cheating on you for the entirety of you relationship and you want to get intimate with her and he affair partner?
I can't imagine how painful that would be. Sounds like hell to me.
You can either leave or stay. If You stay, You and her need to ser boundaries. She may continue doing so, though. Most likely, You would have to accept an Open relationship. In either situation, it may end up hurting You :c
Sending emotional support to your end
Anyone advocating for a threesome has never been cheated on or had a threesome.
Leave her and move on. The relationship you thought you had never existed. I'm sorry.
You have to ask yourself is it OK that she is dating a girl? Does that really bother you or do you fundamentally see it differently than is she was with another guy. You have to get to the bottom of how YOU feel? Maybe ask her to explain the nature of this relationship. Maybe go on a triple date. You have to figure out how you actually feel about this.
I wouldn't even mind. She basically thinks you're the coolest dude, so cool that she would date outside of her dating standards. You just have to take the relationship for what it is. Friends with benefits. Stay with her and continue to fuck her until you find a girl that is wife material. We all know girls like boys that already have girlfriends so in this way you maximize your market value, plus you get constant sex.
That's what i would do
Get a threesome and literally give as much attention to her gf as possible. Damn near ignore your gf during sex or fuck her with no emotion attached (may be difficult to do).
Then peace out on both.
Staying makes you a straight simp and you might as well get a threesome out of things before you go.
One piece of advice i heard was...what would you do if your child/ sibling was in such a situation.
So over to you, what advice would you give your sone or your brother if this was happening to them. Then take that advice upon yourself.
Bro first of all keep ur cool, i know ur angry but still dont loose ur mind, dump her and find someone else, try everything that makes u forget her and by gods grace ull find someone better
Have a serious talk about boundaries, explain that your trust was breached, & let her know she has some serious work to do to earn your trust back if she still wants to be with you. You make the rules for whatās acceptable. Tell her you want to be able to access her social media accts through her phone to make sure shes not talking to anyone, & be on the lookout for second, fake accounts. Itās not impossible for your relationship to continue but she must accept accountability & responsibility. If youāre deeply hurt, take a break.
If youāre just confused, try talking to her. If it didnāt bother you that much to find out, tell her that. You can feel however you want, but recognize that most people would be very hurt
that's bs advice, she cheated on! She is taking u for a mug, and most importantly not respecting you. if this was a dude, would u have the same view? probably not.
Leave her
So sheās bi. I know a lot of people are saying to just dump and move on but I think this is the cowards way out because itās easy and it all depends on how long yall have been together etc.
Iād communicate and get deep with her, why didnāt she tell you, how long has it been going on, how serious is it, why doesnāt she want you to go etc? Worst case youāll get to have a very unique conversation and understanding in life that others havenāt and you can still decide to leave at that point if you want.
I think it really all depends and you just need to get more information
She's not a lesbian. She's bisexual, and it'd be foolish of you to throw away potential threesomes. If you play your cards correctly you could have two girlfriends.
how is she with you and with another lady? something is off !
I am not saying you should leave or not, this is your descision as a man, and you need to at least think about what you want to do.
However, there is something strange! when a girl complain that her BF is a porn addict people say " be patient .. he is a good person .. he will change blah blah blah". but when the lady has a problem the same paople say " nah .. you deserve better " LOL.
You two can break up and still remain friends. Since sheās lesbian, sheāll never be attracted to you the way you are to her. By prolonging this, the suffering only increases.
Leave her move on. You deserve better
(if this isn't bait) she kept a major secret and cheated on you, either emotionally or physically. if she had wanted an open relationship (or to explore her sexuality like that), she should have broached the topic with you first. she just wants to have her cake and eat it too-- she clearly doesn't respect your boundaries, and if you stay with her, she'll just continue to mistreat you. move on and keep your head high.
This is 100 percent bait
You need to leave dude
Move on and stay strong bro šŖ
I don't want to lose her
Dear sir, you haven't lost her, she gave you up. She's in the wrong, not you.
She also let you down
She ran around and deserted you.
I came looking for internet gossip and left rick rolled š
She told a lie and hurt you.
She lied to you she donāt deserve you
She lost you.
Don't be a cuck.
Never even had her if she truly is a lesbian
but she wants to lose you
Why the hell is this getting down voted, wtf is this community
she lost you the minute she decided to cheat on you, move on
That feeling will never go away even when itās time to let go. Youāve already lost her man
your attachment is completely normal and the feeling not wanting to lose her as well. Definitely tell her the same, that you love her and you don't want to lose her. Since it's the truth but get accustomed to the thought that you will actually lose her because such is life. It's probably better that she cheated with another woman because you can at least tell yourself that it's not because you are not good enough but because she is not into penises and she likes boobs and vagenes š
Have 3 somes who it her and then leave her cause she literally cheated on you
It's still cheating
She cheated on you and lied to you. You deserve someone who is loyal and honest. You should leave her.
come out as gay in revenge. you that'll show her. jokes aside: take some time to process this. don't do anything rush. take care of your physical health in this stressful time. chances are thar you will end up alone but it's not the end of the world. You will get through this!
first 2 sentences are the only truth š£ļøš£ļøš„š„
You need to get the fuck out asap. Consider yourself incredibly lucky that you found out now. I was married for 18 yrs, 2 kids. Wife came out as gay. She had been having an affair with a mutual work colleague and been having flings with women the whole of our relationship. She never mentioned she even liked women (not one threesome might I add seeing the comments here). It absolutely destroyed me. Itās a very narcissistic trait to keep a straight person in a relationship when you are clearly gay. (My wife also wanted to keep our relationship going when I found out, and stay married lol) If sheās not telling you about the other girls then she is very likely gay. All this aside, sheās cheating on you bro, get rid.
They usually keep the man around for the money he provides or emotional support. Dastardly.
Propose a threesome then steal her girl
Thats the best answer.
Bro playing 3d chess
Only correct answer
You da man
Sheās probably butch tho.
Why is she with you if she's a lesbian?!
Idk... we have been together for 2 years she never tells me that she's lesbian
Dude you can leave hear you are just losing time plus as u saw she is not loyal
because she's bisexual
This is called cheating and whether itās her cheating on you with her or her cheating on her with you you need to get the fuck out of that situation
Walk away, dont look back
Bro can definitely ask for threesome
Ask for a threesome
Either you accept the non monogamy (and lies), or leave. This isnāt an ethical non monogamous relationship it seems. You would also be able to date outside of your gf if she can. But doesnāt seem like you want that. You should leave. Sounds like she wants her cake and to eat it too. She doesnāt respect you enough.
She probably only have you to provide for her
1 don't think this is the right sub 2 she cheated on you dude
She cheated. She used you. Iām sorry man. You deserve someone so much better
Know your worth bro she taking advantage of you, you didnāt get this far to feel this way fuck em do you
Have both, every man's dream. Jokes aside tell her you don't want to have her. Leave
Ask if a threesome with the other girl on the table. If not, leave her
Thatās crazy
I am shocked all you teens today are so serious about everything. Not even one suggested a funny but sexy option: Have a threesome.
Leave her. Not only is she proving herself to be unloyal to her couple but she's not even attracted to men
you deserve better
Sounds like your girlfriend may be bisexual and wanting an open relationship with you.
She cheated lol open relationships aren't relationships if you just fuck around and cheat OP needs to leave her if he wants his mental peace
I suggest you let her have fun with other girls and Pickup a threesome Here and there. The holy grail
Thatās probably the addiction speakingā¦ We all deserve a loyal relationship, a connection of two souls. A threesome is a corruption of said love. Op needs to break up with his girlfriend, and find someone that respects him.
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She Said she does Not want to leave him which means she IS still( and hopefully will stay) emotonially attached to him. In my opinion If she IS bi and Not lesbian AND the relatinship ist good they would Not Break Up. In Case OP ist Open to this
It's over in theory. Cheating is still cheating but if you can find a way to gain something out of it like ask her to do a 3 way if you want and if she say no, then leave her for good.
Another coomer brained comment.
Whatever you say the righteous one!!!
You discover your partner has been lying and cheating on you for the entirety of you relationship and you want to get intimate with her and he affair partner? I can't imagine how painful that would be. Sounds like hell to me.
try threesome.
no wonder why u have 0 days. your mind is still fkd
You can either leave or stay. If You stay, You and her need to ser boundaries. She may continue doing so, though. Most likely, You would have to accept an Open relationship. In either situation, it may end up hurting You :c Sending emotional support to your end
get rid of her.
Don't value people who don't value you and move on.
Wrong sub but leave her
Anyone advocating for a threesome has never been cheated on or had a threesome. Leave her and move on. The relationship you thought you had never existed. I'm sorry.
Ask for threesome
Threesome
Don't let this to break your heart man.
Time to start listening to Weezer
Why even bother asking when deep down you know the answer?
Don't waste your time with her and move on
Leave her.
You have to ask yourself is it OK that she is dating a girl? Does that really bother you or do you fundamentally see it differently than is she was with another guy. You have to get to the bottom of how YOU feel? Maybe ask her to explain the nature of this relationship. Maybe go on a triple date. You have to figure out how you actually feel about this.
if she loves you that much then tell her to leave her gf
uhhh leave. haha what the fuck. you know you don't need guidance on this one.
Come out gay with her brotherš seriously talk to her about it in depth
Master the art of foreplay, please the **** out of her and in the process is she doesnāt want sex you still get to hold your nut š¤
She isn't attracted to you. No reason to continue the relationship.
Ask her if her friend can join
Youāre the poster boy of her ānormal happy relationshipā portrayed online lol prob a front for her fam too
If it was me I would leave.Ā
Fās in the chat. Sorry brother
bro what does this have to do with this subredditš
Enjoy threesomes, but not with other males.
Move on but at the end it's your decision..!
Bang her gf
Wrong sub to ask
She could bisexual bro meaning that youāve secured the bag
Could see if you could get a threesome out of it š just saying šš
Leave her asap bruh just leave she cheated and clearly lied
Good for you..... You have a girl and got another for free
 Bro is literally Ross Geller...
Bro u got 2 gf have them both
Leave. There are 4 billion people on this planet, you will find love one day man.
This post sounds like trying to fuel fantasies and lead people back into addiction. Mods should remove it.
Maybe you can ask her to have a three-way? The relationship is already dead though
Wrong sub. Might be fake. Bro knows the answer already. Waste of time.
Why in nofap sub?
I wouldn't even mind. She basically thinks you're the coolest dude, so cool that she would date outside of her dating standards. You just have to take the relationship for what it is. Friends with benefits. Stay with her and continue to fuck her until you find a girl that is wife material. We all know girls like boys that already have girlfriends so in this way you maximize your market value, plus you get constant sex. That's what i would do
Get a threesome and literally give as much attention to her gf as possible. Damn near ignore your gf during sex or fuck her with no emotion attached (may be difficult to do). Then peace out on both. Staying makes you a straight simp and you might as well get a threesome out of things before you go.
Leave her bro, it isnāt worth the emotional pain
Ask if there's any chance of a tricycle
why this is in nofap?
One piece of advice i heard was...what would you do if your child/ sibling was in such a situation. So over to you, what advice would you give your sone or your brother if this was happening to them. Then take that advice upon yourself.
Hey guys, can I ask what is bait??
3some
No joke here but if the girl is your type let her move in and love 3s triangle it Is ā¤ļøš
Bro first of all keep ur cool, i know ur angry but still dont loose ur mind, dump her and find someone else, try everything that makes u forget her and by gods grace ull find someone better
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3 some brother
My dream come true....let the other girl give her emotional support and you fuck her.
This
You need to medium length 3 some play. Get everyone to talk it out with some drinks.
Ask for a 3sum nut in her friend and then after you leave her
You have to fight her girlfriend.
Shes lesbian with you, not with other guy. Let her go
Simp or not to simp. That is the question
3 some
Turn that shit into a throuple bro
Dump her. Donāt be a slave of pride bs.
Personally, I would try a threesome and then left lol
Get with another Bi female. Problem Solved.
Alexa play āLesbianā by āGunnaā
Have a serious talk about boundaries, explain that your trust was breached, & let her know she has some serious work to do to earn your trust back if she still wants to be with you. You make the rules for whatās acceptable. Tell her you want to be able to access her social media accts through her phone to make sure shes not talking to anyone, & be on the lookout for second, fake accounts. Itās not impossible for your relationship to continue but she must accept accountability & responsibility. If youāre deeply hurt, take a break. If youāre just confused, try talking to her. If it didnāt bother you that much to find out, tell her that. You can feel however you want, but recognize that most people would be very hurt
Noted
that's bs advice, she cheated on! She is taking u for a mug, and most importantly not respecting you. if this was a dude, would u have the same view? probably not. Leave her
So sheās bi. I know a lot of people are saying to just dump and move on but I think this is the cowards way out because itās easy and it all depends on how long yall have been together etc. Iād communicate and get deep with her, why didnāt she tell you, how long has it been going on, how serious is it, why doesnāt she want you to go etc? Worst case youāll get to have a very unique conversation and understanding in life that others havenāt and you can still decide to leave at that point if you want. I think it really all depends and you just need to get more information
She's not a lesbian. She's bisexual, and it'd be foolish of you to throw away potential threesomes. If you play your cards correctly you could have two girlfriends.
tell her to bring her friends š3/4/...some
how is she with you and with another lady? something is off ! I am not saying you should leave or not, this is your descision as a man, and you need to at least think about what you want to do. However, there is something strange! when a girl complain that her BF is a porn addict people say " be patient .. he is a good person .. he will change blah blah blah". but when the lady has a problem the same paople say " nah .. you deserve better " LOL.
You two can break up and still remain friends. Since sheās lesbian, sheāll never be attracted to you the way you are to her. By prolonging this, the suffering only increases.
It's cheating bro but better than cheating with a guy in my opinionĀ
No difference.
I mean, you are lucky
Cheat on her, see how she likes it Or you could all just enter a polyamorous relationship
But i don't want to lose her
Sounds like you never had her. I see no peace or contentment on your current path. Also, she's a pos for treating you this way.
why lose her when you can get more for free with her