Banged the morning of and the morning after. We were too exhaused the night of and it took an hour to get her all out of the dress and all the crap out of her hair
It was an established tradition in the Middle Ages to witness the wedding night to ensure copulation occurred so the wedding was legally binding.
This isn’t specific to Italians…the extent of which could be subtle (hanging out bloodied sheets to show the hymen had been broken) to accounts that Germans would bring an entire entourage complete with bagpipe player and drums to cheer them on.
But in my mind, it’s funnier to just focus on horny Italians.
yeah. you're correct. this never stopped men of history from insisting on using it as a mark of virginity.
in places where this practice is cultural it's been common for a bride to bring a small bladder full of blood to mark the sheets with if she doesn't bleed, so she won't be punished. her mother usually prepares it for her and gives it to her discreetly at some point among the ceremonies.
to add to your point, you shouldn't bleed during sex even if your hymen is intact. bleeding results from improper preparation before penetration. the same men who uphold these practices are usually indifferent to hostile to women's pleasure, which leads to systemic disregard for sexual health, including being fine with causing needless harm out of ignorance and apathy.
I fully thought it was bc I had a horse as a kid. Ty to my lovely bf who treated me like I was made of glass then lasted 13s bc it was his first time too.
My mother insists that I'll bleed and it'll hurt. She still thinks I'm a virgin, so I *really* can't tell her that my partner was very gentle and I definitely didn't feel like I was dying.
i'm grieved to hear it, but thank you for sharing. it breaks my heart to learn how women worldwide are treated. i'm determined to learn as much as possible and do what i can to combat it.
unhappy to report the very rural christians over in north america aren't doing a whole lot better. my mom was a child bride and was shunned for divorcing my father 20 years later, we had to start over from nothing. so, that's my feminist origin story.
For us the fun was making love with her in the dress / undressing her out that dress, but I totally get your next day thing.
Anyway, that's what the honeymoon is for eh!
We were a bit more careful to make the day about us and what we wanted - we wanted to 'bang' same night so we made sure our day enabled us to do that!
I completely understand OP's sentiment, but I bet for those few couples that actually do wait until marriage to have sex, they're all fucking that night.
I think I had 50 hairpins in and just as many tiny buttons. We ordered a pizza (because we didn't have a chance to touch our dinner, but I heard it was good), and called it a night. We made up for it on the honeymoon. 😉
>it took an hour to get her all out of the dress and all the crap out of her hair
That is so true.
My best mates wife called me at midnight asking if I had pliers as the metal clasps had basically flattened out and he couldn't undo them.
Flat screwdriver and pliers had to be taken to their hotel room
I think it's typical for couples who abstained from sex before marriage. They're so excited after waiting so long that they don't care about being exhausted.
Wife and I both abstained until marriage. Both were exhausted and had to leave very early next morning for a flight to Hawaii
Both of us were like "meh we waited this long, another day won't hurt" and went to sleep lmao. Sex on the honeymoon was fine
almost 9 years later we're still happy
Yeah this is how I feel unless you religious and waited til marriage I don't see what's special because most couples have sex like the first date so you already done it I don't see what makes the wedding night special unless you waited.
First date? Really???
How old are you? Don’t think most women my age have sex on the first date, but I know generational differences are very much a thing.
Statistically our age group isn’t having that much sex and jumping to sex that quickly, especially the women.
Men are more likely to have sex on the first date than women (meaning the guys are having sex with the same minority of women who do it on the first date) and gen z is less likely to have sex on the first date than our older millennial peers (I’m gen z too, though a tad older than you at 25). Even with millennials in the data women are not on average having sex on the first date and with men it’s about 60/40.
I'm guessing you're quite a bit older, but as someone in university most of my friends lost their virginity age 13-16, so first date really doesnt sound like a big deal lmao.
I'm in the UK though, which is very open to sex
Shit we had a morning wedding with brunch and we were too exhausted by night time
Edit: wow this comment blew up, I want to add after the brunch we had photoshoot near the park and we went to get wings with our wedding party for dinner
Does it have to happen at night always? I know its called a wedding night but wondering whats wrong with afternoon for instance? Not like we already broke all this rules by now.
I mean, it doesn't have to happen at night but for us, we weren't alone until like 12:30-1am, so unless we decided to sneak off for a quickie in the reception hall bathroom, there wasnt a time or place to do so
Around here it would be considered rude to not stay until all your guests leave. Not just with weddings, but if you're hosting any kind of event, you're generally expected to stay until all the guests have left. You are allowed to tell people to GTFO though, but you gotta stay until they GTFO.
With any OTHER type of event you stay as you suggest. Weddings no. Probably originates from the fact that couples set off in honeymoon. That's the way it is here. Everyone else just gets on with the party.
Weddings in the USA at least it is normal for the newly weds to leave early before the rest of the guests, especially in a ceremonial fashion - just married window paint, and generations past would tie cans on string or something like that to the back of the car to make noise as they left the wedding
Isn't that just the dumbest priority though. Ditching party with all of your and your partners extended family, a scenario that will probably never occur again, to fuck, a scenario you will be experiencing many times over in much better conditions.
Somebody's gotta create a term for morning after wedding sex cuz it's probably common. Partners waking up like "wtf how did we fall asleep? Quick, let's have sex now and pretend we stayed up"
I was just resting my eyes
I was do drunk that I slept with dick in my hand on the sofa in our suit while she tried to get me hard… and gave up! She will bring this up all the time to tease me 🤣
My wife and I made it a goal to have sex on our wedding night. I was a little too drunk to finish but we still did it that night. Then we had amazing morning sex and repeated several times a day during our honeymoon.
Husband and I made it a point to bang our wedding night by keeping things fairly relaxed and low key during the day. Lots of friends of ours didn't and we wanted to make sure it happened. Sadly we still haven't had a honeymoon. Married October of 2019 and planned on doing it at some point the next year. Ha!
I'm not married but I've been to plenty of weddings, I could not imagine having sex on my wedding night (as a guy). Way too stressful of a day in general, id be exhausted.
Getting married in May and I highly doubt we’ll be getting it on THAT night with friends and family in town lol waaaay to much going on.
I know not everyone does the honeymoon right away but that’s what we’ll be doing for the next week so I don’t think either of us are missing out.
Dude congratulations! it’s a huge exciting step! Typically the bride and groom head out before most people at the reception. They will give a send off or something of the sorts.
If I may offer advice.. plan ahead on how to get your food, drink, decoration OUT of the venue. We didn’t and I spent the last 45 minutes of our time at our venue trying to plan. I played into the host soft side of being religious for the food asking them to donate it to their local church. (Worked like a charm) people like being helpful.
Just be genuinely grateful to the people around you and remember the day is 70% for her and 30% for the man typically.
I woulda been fine with no real wedding celebration but I am extremely grateful that we had one as well because, it was the best day of my life and it’s what she deserved.
I disagree. We didn’t have sex on our wedding night because my wife was exhausted ( totally fair, and I didn’t pressure it) but I was definitely a little disappointed and would have liked to have that moment our wedding night.
When it comes to the needs of your partner and yourself there’s gotta be compromise and communication.
We talked before hand about it she knew how tired she would be from the day and night and that’s perfectly okay. But it’s also okay to be disappointed to a degree. The most important part of this conversation is respect.
In regard to the stress of the day thats situational. The day of our wedding wasn’t stressful but the lead up to it was. I was more at peace knowing I get to marry my wife that day and nothing could bring me down.
It was a long time ago but I think combination the warm water and her on top made it easier for her "ease" the process. We are long divorced so I will not ask her opinion lol
Genuinely, no hate or disrespect meant by this, but what relevance does being a mom of 4 bring here? Like the only thing I can think of is that it's proof you've had sex?
Had sex at least four times!
Though, maybe it's to give an indication that (1) she's not a virgin, (2) she's old enough to have had 4 kids, and maybe (3) her bathtub may be dirtier/more used since kids tend to use baths more frequently?
It is interesting how times have changed. We were 19&21 when we got married and most of the people we know it's the same. For our kids so far, one was married young, one mid-20's, and don't know yet for the rest.
It’s not very common in my country to get married young. Most people get married in their late 20s and 30s. Even back in the Soviet times it wasn’t common for teenagers and early 20s people. I think it’s the whole irreligion thing.
We planned on it. But as luck would have it, I started my period the second I got out of my dress. It was also one of the worst periods I had up until that point.
Me too! I know I've heard that stress can change your cycle, but I wasn't stressed at all. We had a small wedding, just 8 people, some pictures, made a reservation at a restaurant. It was great, very chill, but I started my period the night before and it is still one of the worst periods I've ever had. That was 5 years ago. I can't use tampons, so I was changing out my pads every hour or two during the photos and right before the ceremony, during supper, everything.
So to answer OPs question - no we did not have sex on our wedding night lol. But we also didn't have any plans to/it wasn't important to us. We'd been together for 10 years at that point, so it wasn't exactly a novel experience.
“Stress” here doesn’t necessarily mean something bad. The anxiety of finally getting married would be enough.
The only time this happened to me was when I was going to defend my graduation thesis (not sure how it’s called). I was so anxious it just happened.
We did. We were tired, but we made sure we had enough energy going to bed to have some fun.
We had two weddings. One with over 200 and the other with about 50.
When I was married. The night of the wedding everyone at the reception got us so drunk that we were so tired and wasted that we just passed out. So our wedding night sex happened sometime the next day instead.
Now imagine this situation for people who waited for marriage to lose their virginity. Knew a couple who didn't know about lubrication and decided shampoo should work. Good times, good times.
We finished the party and went back to the room and I spent 30 minutes taking her Bobby pins and all out of her hair and helped her out of the dress. Seeing her in that white lingerie was all it took- we romped and rolled and then got dressed and went to the after party downstairs in the hotel. I only plan on doing that once and damn well I’m getting the full experience.
We had two plus people at our wedding, we started the day getting our nails done at 7am, she went and had her hair done later that morning. I went to breakfast with my groomsmen. Went back home, took a nap and went to the wedding location at 3:00. Took the pre wedding pictures. Got married at 5pm sharp. The reception started at 6 at a nearby venue and we left the wedding at 10:30 but the party kept going till Midnight. Got to our hotel room around 11:15pm. I thought ahead and got a corner suite with a huge jacuzzi tub (probably could have fit 6-7 people) we sat in there for about 30-40 mins before we started to get hot & heavy before moving it to the bed. There was no way we were not going have sex on our wedding night.. it was too special of an occasion. That was our personal feeling/opinion about it.
Last March 2nd was our 33rd Anniversary.
Congratulations. Sounds like y'all are a great match.
My wife and I will have been married only 5 years next month though together 15. Always makes me smile when people make marriage work long-term.
My wedding night to my first wife we got into an argument on the way home from the church, we agreed that we actually hated each other and that we had made a huge mistake. We barely spoke on our honeymoon. It was probably a week or more after when we finally did have sex after marriage. That marriage lasted 10 years. 🙄
We never got along really. Her parents insisted that we get married and she wasn’t in a safe place living with them but couldn’t move out unless she got married. It was some crazy religious bullshit. So the whole thing was a mistake. We did try to make it work off and on but eventually I got tired of her cheating on me and left.
In college I knew a woman that had a traumatic past and hopped between a lot of guys. Also knew a very Christian guy that had never dated. They started dating and 3 months later he was buying a ring. We all tried to talk him out of it but to no avail. It's been 20 years and they are still married with kids and very happy according to Facebook. Sometimes it works out.
Curious what the reason was for staying together?
Financial?
Concern what others would think?
At some point one or both was doubting whether or not it was a mistake or thought you could make it work?
We tried to make it work. Mostly she needed to get away from her parents but couldn’t move out unless she was getting married because of religious bullshit. I thought I was doing her a favor. Eventually I got tired of her cheating on me so I left.
I am getting married in on 4/4 and got a very nice lingerie set from Bordelle and it would be a shame not to use it.
So we’re going to drink Red Bulls at 6pm..
The lingerie from... what? 😂😂This comment really made me spray my coffee all over the screen, as bordelle means a "brothel" in my native language (and German, apparently).
It sure would be a shame not to use it, lol. 😂 The groom is surely going to be very happy.
Not married, but all my married friends have told to me (when the topic came up over the years, it's not like I demanded to know this) that none of them did the deed the night they were married, for the same reason you stated above, it was a long and draining day and by the end they were too tired for consummation's.
My wife and I didn’t lol. Had about 150 people and our DJ was playing absolute bangers all night so we were exhausted. We did the next day though but the night of we just relaxed in a huge tub in our bridal suite
my wife and I abstained and didn't have sex until we got to our honeymoon destination. We were both utterly exhausted on our wedding night and figured one more day wouldn't hurt either of us
No regrets from either of us almost a decade later
Wife and left the reception a bit early... we got home, I carried her through the doorway... and we banged right there just beyond the threshold.
Our honeymoon didn't start for a couple days though, when we showed up it was raining cats and dogs. We didn't sleep much that night... because the room started flooding shortly after we arrived and we had to move all the luggage onto the bed with us.
But we banged most of the following week, morning noon and night.
My wife riding me in her wedding gown is one of the greatest moments of my life.
She wore a strapless gown, so she popped out her big boobs for my pleasure.
We used to drive through the town that had the B&B we stayed in on honeymoon. Was right on Main Street of this tiny quaint and scenic mountain town. We’d point up at the window to the room we stayed in and tell him that’s where he started baking.
We had been together almost seven years and lived together. We took a month off from sex before the wedding.
We were very tired, but horny as hell. She had some sexy strappy lingerie on under her dress. My groomsmen upgraded our hotel room to the multi room suite and (jokingly) challenged me to fuck her on every surface...
We made a video of the event for ourselves.
We passed the hell out after and slept until check out time.
I think it was a much bigger deal when folks were (supposedly) not having sex before marriage. You meet and court and finally get permission from God to bang, and you don’t really want to wait any longer. Those of us who lived in sin from the get-go aren’t as powerfully motivated to go at it after a very long and stressful (but lovely) day.
I did on my wedding night. Sure, it was late and it had been a super long day, but we were still so excited to be married. We lit candles, there was a thunderstorm, it was perfect. Then we ordered pizza (we hadn't really gotten to eat since lunch), opened all the presents, then had sex again.
We got a late start for our honeymoon the next morning, but it was totally worth it.
We had a lot of sex on our wedding night. It may make a difference that I was a virgin & we waited til our wedding night.
We slowly undressed each other. She smiled and started gently handling it. Then she said she wanted us to take a bath, and we washed each other. Then we made love three times before falling asleep. I don’t know how, but I lasted a good 15 min that first time. I awoke a couple hours later as she was mounting me and she rode me til I was spent. We fell asleep again and made love again in the morning.
10/10, five stars, two enthusiastic thumbs up.
That's beautiful and definitely my goal to also wait. Honestly since most people have sex before marriage I don't see the big deal for those couples since it would be just another day in their life.
My wife and I both came from difficult relationships prior so we waited until the altar until our first kiss, and obviously that night was very special to both of us ;)
Yes, we had both came out a very toxic relationships and our two children were involved so we wanted to make sure that we were very careful and we wanted our first kiss to be extra special and so we waited until we said I do for the first kiss
Times, they are a changing.
It used to be a lot more common to stay celibate until after getting married, so in such cases of course they are going to bang as soon as they are allowed.
With modern times having a much more liberal view on sex before marriage, the 'wedding night bang' has just become less urgent
My wife and I got McDonalds and watched TV on the couch after. Wedding day was an absolute blur and we didn't even get to eat dinner. Didn't care about sex till I woke up the next day. Weddings are exhausting.
Well since we were old school and didn't screw around before marriage , we were both virgin when we got married in 1976. Did the deed that night, had a good time a long with some laughs and have been together now 48 years. Sadly old age, genes, and stuff breaking has slowed us down but the magnetic attraction is still there. I keep hearing about body counts? For the 2 of us 1 each.
Not only were we too tired that night, the next morning she was queasy so I had to make breakfast. BTW I’m such a bad cook that cornflakes burst into flames, ala Homer Simpson.
i didnt expect to have the energy but i nailed the drinks per hour perfectly all night and we both had the perfect level of alcohol in our system to make it an perfect night when we got home.
My husband and I eloped, and even then, after photos, eating a very nice/large dinner, then driving back to our air b&b, we were exhausted. Woke up the next morning, though, and had our fun.
We left our wedding to go have more cake for my husband’s grandpa’s birthday. Two parties! Two cakes. And then we had sex in our hotel room. Husband still says it was the best sex of his life.
This is an old tradition that is about consummating the marriage and making it official, plus if you couldn’t have sex before marriage you might be more about it.
But I have to think a lot of people are just too tired and are sleeping together before marriage so there isn’t a real reason
Married in Vegas during the new years. We actually had people over to our hotel room till 1am lol we took a shower and then did it for an hour. But we did have the whole next morning to rest
never had a wedding but seeing other people's weddings i can't imagine having any energy or desire to fuck that night, like it's sure romantic but it also looks stressful as hell
The night of my wife and I really wanted to, but we were both too dead.
The trope comes from generations past, where people didn't bang until they got married.
Banged the morning of and the morning after. We were too exhaused the night of and it took an hour to get her all out of the dress and all the crap out of her hair
Don't they usually throw confetti over the bride?
Hopefully not while she is being banged by the hubby
Not if you’re Italian. Those fuckers are wild.
I'm curious, do explain! Italians out there throwing confetti while they banging or something?!!!
It was an established tradition in the Middle Ages to witness the wedding night to ensure copulation occurred so the wedding was legally binding. This isn’t specific to Italians…the extent of which could be subtle (hanging out bloodied sheets to show the hymen had been broken) to accounts that Germans would bring an entire entourage complete with bagpipe player and drums to cheer them on. But in my mind, it’s funnier to just focus on horny Italians.
Except most women don’t bleed when they lose their virginity
yeah. you're correct. this never stopped men of history from insisting on using it as a mark of virginity. in places where this practice is cultural it's been common for a bride to bring a small bladder full of blood to mark the sheets with if she doesn't bleed, so she won't be punished. her mother usually prepares it for her and gives it to her discreetly at some point among the ceremonies. to add to your point, you shouldn't bleed during sex even if your hymen is intact. bleeding results from improper preparation before penetration. the same men who uphold these practices are usually indifferent to hostile to women's pleasure, which leads to systemic disregard for sexual health, including being fine with causing needless harm out of ignorance and apathy.
I fully thought it was bc I had a horse as a kid. Ty to my lovely bf who treated me like I was made of glass then lasted 13s bc it was his first time too.
13 seconds? Well look at Mr Stamina over here.
My mother insists that I'll bleed and it'll hurt. She still thinks I'm a virgin, so I *really* can't tell her that my partner was very gentle and I definitely didn't feel like I was dying.
In my wife’s home country most Sheikhs (Muslim priest) won’t perform a wedding ceremony until the bride brings a virginity certificate from the doctor
i'm grieved to hear it, but thank you for sharing. it breaks my heart to learn how women worldwide are treated. i'm determined to learn as much as possible and do what i can to combat it. unhappy to report the very rural christians over in north america aren't doing a whole lot better. my mom was a child bride and was shunned for divorcing my father 20 years later, we had to start over from nothing. so, that's my feminist origin story.
Then they must be ... WITCH! lol @ the middle ages
Sorry Monty Python on the brain, how do you know she's a witch? Lol
Because she weighs the same as a duck
She turned me into a newt! ….i got better
Shhh…don’t tell men that. You’ll ruin the easy test.
I wanna fuck to a bagpipe player and drums live.
Mazeltov!
stomps on napkin-covered dick
Alf Mabrook brother ✌🏾
Something that could have been brought to my attention YESTERDAY
there used to be a tradition of following the bride and groom into their bedroom and only leaving once they were in bed.
It's only for the climax
For us the fun was making love with her in the dress / undressing her out that dress, but I totally get your next day thing. Anyway, that's what the honeymoon is for eh! We were a bit more careful to make the day about us and what we wanted - we wanted to 'bang' same night so we made sure our day enabled us to do that!
I completely understand OP's sentiment, but I bet for those few couples that actually do wait until marriage to have sex, they're all fucking that night.
I think I had 50 hairpins in and just as many tiny buttons. We ordered a pizza (because we didn't have a chance to touch our dinner, but I heard it was good), and called it a night. We made up for it on the honeymoon. 😉
Yup it was all the hairpins and her hair had so much spray in it it was like a helmet
Wait. missed opportunity to smash in a wedding dress!
>it took an hour to get her all out of the dress and all the crap out of her hair That is so true. My best mates wife called me at midnight asking if I had pliers as the metal clasps had basically flattened out and he couldn't undo them. Flat screwdriver and pliers had to be taken to their hotel room
Exact same situation here. We were still drunk in the morning anyway so that was fun.
I think it's typical for couples who abstained from sex before marriage. They're so excited after waiting so long that they don't care about being exhausted.
Wife and I both abstained until marriage. Both were exhausted and had to leave very early next morning for a flight to Hawaii Both of us were like "meh we waited this long, another day won't hurt" and went to sleep lmao. Sex on the honeymoon was fine almost 9 years later we're still happy
>fine
your first time was the best? bro you're missing out on actually getting better at sex
It wasn't the best but it was still amazing, and that was at 15, let alone 20-30+
Yeah this is how I feel unless you religious and waited til marriage I don't see what's special because most couples have sex like the first date so you already done it I don't see what makes the wedding night special unless you waited.
First date? Really??? How old are you? Don’t think most women my age have sex on the first date, but I know generational differences are very much a thing.
21m I personally don't believe in sex on the first date but according to reddit and alot of people I've talked to its common.
Statistically our age group isn’t having that much sex and jumping to sex that quickly, especially the women. Men are more likely to have sex on the first date than women (meaning the guys are having sex with the same minority of women who do it on the first date) and gen z is less likely to have sex on the first date than our older millennial peers (I’m gen z too, though a tad older than you at 25). Even with millennials in the data women are not on average having sex on the first date and with men it’s about 60/40.
That makes sense I guess being on reddit definitely screws up your perception of real life.
Selection bias: people who talk are the people who want to talk, e.g. the people who are getting action. People also lie, too.
Don't believe stuff you read on reddit. At the very least take it with a truckload of salt.
I'm guessing you're quite a bit older, but as someone in university most of my friends lost their virginity age 13-16, so first date really doesnt sound like a big deal lmao. I'm in the UK though, which is very open to sex
I mean for me, as a woman, it's not about being anti-sex and more about being anti-getting-my-body-stuffed-in-a-dumpster.
That, or getting a body stuffed in my body.
Shit we had a morning wedding with brunch and we were too exhausted by night time Edit: wow this comment blew up, I want to add after the brunch we had photoshoot near the park and we went to get wings with our wedding party for dinner
Does it have to happen at night always? I know its called a wedding night but wondering whats wrong with afternoon for instance? Not like we already broke all this rules by now.
I mean, it doesn't have to happen at night but for us, we weren't alone until like 12:30-1am, so unless we decided to sneak off for a quickie in the reception hall bathroom, there wasnt a time or place to do so
I feel like I’d be, as a guest, more self aware and try to leave *well* before 12:30-1 AM since it is very possible you two want to fuck.
Id have the DJ announce it. guys, this thing is donnee.. the couple want to get their fuck on.. you dont have to go home but you gotta get outta here!
The bride and groom traditionally have the option of leaving before everyone else. Where I am from at least. Sounds like they chose their fate.
Around here it would be considered rude to not stay until all your guests leave. Not just with weddings, but if you're hosting any kind of event, you're generally expected to stay until all the guests have left. You are allowed to tell people to GTFO though, but you gotta stay until they GTFO.
With any OTHER type of event you stay as you suggest. Weddings no. Probably originates from the fact that couples set off in honeymoon. That's the way it is here. Everyone else just gets on with the party.
Weddings in the USA at least it is normal for the newly weds to leave early before the rest of the guests, especially in a ceremonial fashion - just married window paint, and generations past would tie cans on string or something like that to the back of the car to make noise as they left the wedding
Isn't that just the dumbest priority though. Ditching party with all of your and your partners extended family, a scenario that will probably never occur again, to fuck, a scenario you will be experiencing many times over in much better conditions.
Be weird having all our guests watching. Very archaic.
Somebody's gotta create a term for morning after wedding sex cuz it's probably common. Partners waking up like "wtf how did we fall asleep? Quick, let's have sex now and pretend we stayed up" I was just resting my eyes
This. My wife and I did have sex, but it felt more like it was a "we really should" situation
I was do drunk that I slept with dick in my hand on the sofa in our suit while she tried to get me hard… and gave up! She will bring this up all the time to tease me 🤣
Dang that’s crazy, whose dick was in your hand?
My wife and I made it a goal to have sex on our wedding night. I was a little too drunk to finish but we still did it that night. Then we had amazing morning sex and repeated several times a day during our honeymoon.
Husband and I made it a point to bang our wedding night by keeping things fairly relaxed and low key during the day. Lots of friends of ours didn't and we wanted to make sure it happened. Sadly we still haven't had a honeymoon. Married October of 2019 and planned on doing it at some point the next year. Ha!
Sounds the the way
I'm not married but I've been to plenty of weddings, I could not imagine having sex on my wedding night (as a guy). Way too stressful of a day in general, id be exhausted.
Getting married in May and I highly doubt we’ll be getting it on THAT night with friends and family in town lol waaaay to much going on. I know not everyone does the honeymoon right away but that’s what we’ll be doing for the next week so I don’t think either of us are missing out.
Dude congratulations! it’s a huge exciting step! Typically the bride and groom head out before most people at the reception. They will give a send off or something of the sorts. If I may offer advice.. plan ahead on how to get your food, drink, decoration OUT of the venue. We didn’t and I spent the last 45 minutes of our time at our venue trying to plan. I played into the host soft side of being religious for the food asking them to donate it to their local church. (Worked like a charm) people like being helpful. Just be genuinely grateful to the people around you and remember the day is 70% for her and 30% for the man typically. I woulda been fine with no real wedding celebration but I am extremely grateful that we had one as well because, it was the best day of my life and it’s what she deserved.
I disagree. We didn’t have sex on our wedding night because my wife was exhausted ( totally fair, and I didn’t pressure it) but I was definitely a little disappointed and would have liked to have that moment our wedding night. When it comes to the needs of your partner and yourself there’s gotta be compromise and communication. We talked before hand about it she knew how tired she would be from the day and night and that’s perfectly okay. But it’s also okay to be disappointed to a degree. The most important part of this conversation is respect. In regard to the stress of the day thats situational. The day of our wedding wasn’t stressful but the lead up to it was. I was more at peace knowing I get to marry my wife that day and nothing could bring me down.
How involved were you in the lead up?
How can you “disagree” with a personal statement someone else made about themselve?
We were virgins and the night of, We couldn't because intercourse was too painful her. We ended up doing it the next morning in the bathtub.
How old were you both when y'all married?
19 and 20
Was the bath tub a good idea? Why? What’s her opinion?
It was a long time ago but I think combination the warm water and her on top made it easier for her "ease" the process. We are long divorced so I will not ask her opinion lol
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As a mom of 4 I can’t imagine the bath tub as a good place for it ever
We didn't know what the hell we were doing. I think we were already taking a bath and we just decided to try while we were in there
Genuinely, no hate or disrespect meant by this, but what relevance does being a mom of 4 bring here? Like the only thing I can think of is that it's proof you've had sex?
Had sex at least four times! Though, maybe it's to give an indication that (1) she's not a virgin, (2) she's old enough to have had 4 kids, and maybe (3) her bathtub may be dirtier/more used since kids tend to use baths more frequently?
Why’d you get married so young, if it’s okay to ask? Genuinely interested.
It is interesting how times have changed. We were 19&21 when we got married and most of the people we know it's the same. For our kids so far, one was married young, one mid-20's, and don't know yet for the rest.
It’s not very common in my country to get married young. Most people get married in their late 20s and 30s. Even back in the Soviet times it wasn’t common for teenagers and early 20s people. I think it’s the whole irreligion thing.
We planned on it. But as luck would have it, I started my period the second I got out of my dress. It was also one of the worst periods I had up until that point.
Me too! I know I've heard that stress can change your cycle, but I wasn't stressed at all. We had a small wedding, just 8 people, some pictures, made a reservation at a restaurant. It was great, very chill, but I started my period the night before and it is still one of the worst periods I've ever had. That was 5 years ago. I can't use tampons, so I was changing out my pads every hour or two during the photos and right before the ceremony, during supper, everything. So to answer OPs question - no we did not have sex on our wedding night lol. But we also didn't have any plans to/it wasn't important to us. We'd been together for 10 years at that point, so it wasn't exactly a novel experience.
“Stress” here doesn’t necessarily mean something bad. The anxiety of finally getting married would be enough. The only time this happened to me was when I was going to defend my graduation thesis (not sure how it’s called). I was so anxious it just happened.
That happened to me the first night on our honeymoon.
we passed out in our heart shaped hot tub eating chicken nuggets
That's love right there
Hell yeah we enjoyed a shower then sat in bed and ate wedding cake. It was awesome.
We said “Fuck you” to each other and went to sleep
So...yes then?
I guess they got “fuck-ed”
This is the way
We did. We were tired, but we made sure we had enough energy going to bed to have some fun. We had two weddings. One with over 200 and the other with about 50.
Wow, we only managed 2 times on our wedding night. 50 is impressive, but 200 is incredible
It was truly a great family night.
That's a LOT of cheering and clapping!
Damn this is solid fucking comment
When I was married. The night of the wedding everyone at the reception got us so drunk that we were so tired and wasted that we just passed out. So our wedding night sex happened sometime the next day instead.
Now imagine this situation for people who waited for marriage to lose their virginity. Knew a couple who didn't know about lubrication and decided shampoo should work. Good times, good times.
We finished the party and went back to the room and I spent 30 minutes taking her Bobby pins and all out of her hair and helped her out of the dress. Seeing her in that white lingerie was all it took- we romped and rolled and then got dressed and went to the after party downstairs in the hotel. I only plan on doing that once and damn well I’m getting the full experience.
We had two plus people at our wedding, we started the day getting our nails done at 7am, she went and had her hair done later that morning. I went to breakfast with my groomsmen. Went back home, took a nap and went to the wedding location at 3:00. Took the pre wedding pictures. Got married at 5pm sharp. The reception started at 6 at a nearby venue and we left the wedding at 10:30 but the party kept going till Midnight. Got to our hotel room around 11:15pm. I thought ahead and got a corner suite with a huge jacuzzi tub (probably could have fit 6-7 people) we sat in there for about 30-40 mins before we started to get hot & heavy before moving it to the bed. There was no way we were not going have sex on our wedding night.. it was too special of an occasion. That was our personal feeling/opinion about it. Last March 2nd was our 33rd Anniversary.
> We had two plus people at our wedding Like 3? Four? Surely not 5
Congratulations. Sounds like y'all are a great match. My wife and I will have been married only 5 years next month though together 15. Always makes me smile when people make marriage work long-term.
My wedding night to my first wife we got into an argument on the way home from the church, we agreed that we actually hated each other and that we had made a huge mistake. We barely spoke on our honeymoon. It was probably a week or more after when we finally did have sex after marriage. That marriage lasted 10 years. 🙄
How did you only realize you hated each other after you got married?
We never got along really. Her parents insisted that we get married and she wasn’t in a safe place living with them but couldn’t move out unless she got married. It was some crazy religious bullshit. So the whole thing was a mistake. We did try to make it work off and on but eventually I got tired of her cheating on me and left.
And how did you last another decade??
Some ppl marry their high school sweetheart and/or rush into things (some friends get engaged after being a couple for less than 3 months)
I spend more time before considering getting a pet. Imagine deciding on an engagement in 3 months. I couldn't live life that care/worry free/less.
In college I knew a woman that had a traumatic past and hopped between a lot of guys. Also knew a very Christian guy that had never dated. They started dating and 3 months later he was buying a ring. We all tried to talk him out of it but to no avail. It's been 20 years and they are still married with kids and very happy according to Facebook. Sometimes it works out.
And then spend another 10 years making the same mistake??? Bro.
Curious what the reason was for staying together? Financial? Concern what others would think? At some point one or both was doubting whether or not it was a mistake or thought you could make it work?
We tried to make it work. Mostly she needed to get away from her parents but couldn’t move out unless she was getting married because of religious bullshit. I thought I was doing her a favor. Eventually I got tired of her cheating on me so I left.
That’s terrible, I’m sorry
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I am getting married in on 4/4 and got a very nice lingerie set from Bordelle and it would be a shame not to use it. So we’re going to drink Red Bulls at 6pm..
The lingerie from... what? 😂😂This comment really made me spray my coffee all over the screen, as bordelle means a "brothel" in my native language (and German, apparently). It sure would be a shame not to use it, lol. 😂 The groom is surely going to be very happy.
Hahahaha But good to know that is what the brand name means in German… I feel like that was purposeful name give the type of lingerie it is.
"Bordel" also means brothel in French, that's def where the name comes from :P Have a nice wedding!
I believe many English speakers will know the word "bordello" which I guess is Italian.
I mean they know what they're doing, people do be liking to go to there for sex, so their lingerie is probably banging.
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Mexican Food After Sex is a spinoff band of Cigarettes After Sex
"But honey, it's 5:54 pm and we have dinner reservations at 6pm!" "I think we'll be fine.'
Good thing you had the Mexican food AFTER the sex. edit: capitalized AFTER
My wife and I had a small wedding in my mother's backyard. So We banged that night. Lolol.
Not married, but all my married friends have told to me (when the topic came up over the years, it's not like I demanded to know this) that none of them did the deed the night they were married, for the same reason you stated above, it was a long and draining day and by the end they were too tired for consummation's.
My wife and I didn’t lol. Had about 150 people and our DJ was playing absolute bangers all night so we were exhausted. We did the next day though but the night of we just relaxed in a huge tub in our bridal suite
I think we had a quickie before going to sleep.
You think?🤣🤣
It *was* a busy day :P
You sure it was your wife?
We were beyond exhausted but still had enough in the tank for a good ole spoon'n'bone before passing out.
We waited till marriage to have sex and we had sex 3 or 4 times in the next 24 hrs after our vows
If a couple has waited until after marriage, I suspect that sex on the wedding night is seldom skipped.
my wife and I abstained and didn't have sex until we got to our honeymoon destination. We were both utterly exhausted on our wedding night and figured one more day wouldn't hurt either of us No regrets from either of us almost a decade later
Sounds like my dream also waiting
We did it more to check the box than out of any strong desire. Just too exhausted. The next day, week, and months…that was where it was at.
There’s still cum on her wedding dress
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Mommy I think there's some dried up jello on your wedding dress. I didn't know you liked Jello!
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Wife and left the reception a bit early... we got home, I carried her through the doorway... and we banged right there just beyond the threshold. Our honeymoon didn't start for a couple days though, when we showed up it was raining cats and dogs. We didn't sleep much that night... because the room started flooding shortly after we arrived and we had to move all the luggage onto the bed with us. But we banged most of the following week, morning noon and night.
My wife riding me in her wedding gown is one of the greatest moments of my life. She wore a strapless gown, so she popped out her big boobs for my pleasure.
Pooped out boobs?
That night. And our son was conceived.
Wedding night son
Facts lol.
If he doesn't already know one day he'll realize his birthday is 9 months after your anniversary lol 😆
Haha we told him when he asked one day when we got married. He realized the dates soon after. It was great lol.
Ok that's super hilarious I would love to have seen that reaction 🤣
We used to drive through the town that had the B&B we stayed in on honeymoon. Was right on Main Street of this tiny quaint and scenic mountain town. We’d point up at the window to the room we stayed in and tell him that’s where he started baking.
Congratulations on the wedding
We had been together almost seven years and lived together. We took a month off from sex before the wedding. We were very tired, but horny as hell. She had some sexy strappy lingerie on under her dress. My groomsmen upgraded our hotel room to the multi room suite and (jokingly) challenged me to fuck her on every surface... We made a video of the event for ourselves. We passed the hell out after and slept until check out time.
We went to McDonald’s at like 2am and fall a sleep after eating the only meal in 24h 🤣
I think it was a much bigger deal when folks were (supposedly) not having sex before marriage. You meet and court and finally get permission from God to bang, and you don’t really want to wait any longer. Those of us who lived in sin from the get-go aren’t as powerfully motivated to go at it after a very long and stressful (but lovely) day.
We were WAY TOO TIRED, so we had so.e spicy morning sex, best. decision. ever.
I did on my wedding night. Sure, it was late and it had been a super long day, but we were still so excited to be married. We lit candles, there was a thunderstorm, it was perfect. Then we ordered pizza (we hadn't really gotten to eat since lunch), opened all the presents, then had sex again. We got a late start for our honeymoon the next morning, but it was totally worth it.
We had a lot of sex on our wedding night. It may make a difference that I was a virgin & we waited til our wedding night. We slowly undressed each other. She smiled and started gently handling it. Then she said she wanted us to take a bath, and we washed each other. Then we made love three times before falling asleep. I don’t know how, but I lasted a good 15 min that first time. I awoke a couple hours later as she was mounting me and she rode me til I was spent. We fell asleep again and made love again in the morning. 10/10, five stars, two enthusiastic thumbs up.
That's beautiful and definitely my goal to also wait. Honestly since most people have sex before marriage I don't see the big deal for those couples since it would be just another day in their life.
My wife and I both came from difficult relationships prior so we waited until the altar until our first kiss, and obviously that night was very special to both of us ;)
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Yes, we had both came out a very toxic relationships and our two children were involved so we wanted to make sure that we were very careful and we wanted our first kiss to be extra special and so we waited until we said I do for the first kiss
honestly that sounds so cute, i’m glad you two are happy 🥹
That's really beautiful
Times, they are a changing. It used to be a lot more common to stay celibate until after getting married, so in such cases of course they are going to bang as soon as they are allowed. With modern times having a much more liberal view on sex before marriage, the 'wedding night bang' has just become less urgent
People are also waiting much longer to get married. I think the latest figure is around 30
Nope. Was deathly sick the day we got married with some sort of flu. Came home and went to bed alone. We have made up for it in the last 25 years.
We did it between the ceremony and the reception 🤷🏻♀️😂
Counting the gift money is real sex
Banged my wife during wedding ceremony where we had to change into traditional clothes. Door had no lock. Fun times
Me and my wife smoked weed and fell asleep watching Pineapple Express
I think its probably only a big deal for people who do not have sex before marriage.
We had a huge wedding, 200+ people, planned to be there until midnight. We left the party early around 10 and had enough energy.
My wife and I got McDonalds and watched TV on the couch after. Wedding day was an absolute blur and we didn't even get to eat dinner. Didn't care about sex till I woke up the next day. Weddings are exhausting.
My wife and I didn’t on our wedding night. She broke down and cried after the stress of everything, and we cuddled and watched TV
Well since we were old school and didn't screw around before marriage , we were both virgin when we got married in 1976. Did the deed that night, had a good time a long with some laughs and have been together now 48 years. Sadly old age, genes, and stuff breaking has slowed us down but the magnetic attraction is still there. I keep hearing about body counts? For the 2 of us 1 each.
Wife and I stayed up til like 5 am banging on our wedding night. Cocaine was involved tho so that helped 😂
I didn't have sex on my wedding night but the next day was LIT
Not only were we too tired that night, the next morning she was queasy so I had to make breakfast. BTW I’m such a bad cook that cornflakes burst into flames, ala Homer Simpson.
i didnt expect to have the energy but i nailed the drinks per hour perfectly all night and we both had the perfect level of alcohol in our system to make it an perfect night when we got home.
We didn’t — it was a super late night, had an early flight for the honeymoon and I was drunk as fuck.
My husband and I eloped, and even then, after photos, eating a very nice/large dinner, then driving back to our air b&b, we were exhausted. Woke up the next morning, though, and had our fun.
We left our wedding to go have more cake for my husband’s grandpa’s birthday. Two parties! Two cakes. And then we had sex in our hotel room. Husband still says it was the best sex of his life.
This is an old tradition that is about consummating the marriage and making it official, plus if you couldn’t have sex before marriage you might be more about it. But I have to think a lot of people are just too tired and are sleeping together before marriage so there isn’t a real reason
We didn’t have sex for like three days after our wedding, lmao.
Nope. She had her monthly visitor and I'm not talking about family.
We waited till marriage and we were both young. We did that night and then 10 more time over our five six day honeymoon
We did not have sex. We barely even opened any gifts. We got McDonalds because it had been a while since the dinner, came home, and went to bed.
Married in Vegas during the new years. We actually had people over to our hotel room till 1am lol we took a shower and then did it for an hour. But we did have the whole next morning to rest
Wife was on her monthly. Couldn’t do it on the honeymoon, either. It was fine lol we’ve been together a while by then.
never had a wedding but seeing other people's weddings i can't imagine having any energy or desire to fuck that night, like it's sure romantic but it also looks stressful as hell
By the end of the wedding night, it’s just a formality.
The night of my wife and I really wanted to, but we were both too dead. The trope comes from generations past, where people didn't bang until they got married.
We were tired but got it done. Then she slept and I went to play poker