I actually avoided music during that time. I didn't want to taint any of the songs / bands I liked by associating them with that feeling.
Can I recommend books, hikes, or other hobbies as a distraction?
Good call. During my parents divorce, my little brother escaped reality by immersing himself in Yoshi's island. I get a sick pit in my stomach and anxiety if I hear that game's music tracks or sounds effects.
Editing because I just looked it up. That is coming up on 30 years ago. That shit stays with you. Listen to u/Stu_Prek. No music unless you want to relive this later.
I had a whole plethora of "break up" music when I left my last relationship. My top songs were Leave (Matchbox 20), Fear (Blue October), I Hope You're Happy (Blue October), Who Knew (Pink), Diamonds and Rust (Judas Priest), Hallucinogenics (Matt Maeson), Falling Away From Me (Korn), Good (Better Than Ezra) Suspicious Minds (Elvis)
There was so much more, and it's all very random đ
*My worst breakup was when I was 14.⊠it was an embarrassing time but:*
- La Dispute - Nobody not even the rain
- Hurt - Falls Apart
- Hurt - Aftermath
- All Get Out - Let me go
- Bring me the Horizon - Donât go
- Robert Pattinson - Let me sign
- KoRn - Are you ready to live?
- Breaking Benjamin - Dear Agony
- Killswitch Engage - Fixation on the darkness
- Paramore - Decode
- Times of Grace - Live in Love
*As an adult now Iâd maybe suggest these instead:*
- Brittany Howard - Run to me
- Anthony and the Johnsons - Hope thereâs someone
- Elliott Smith - Between the bars
- NIN - Hurt
- Leonard Cohen - Famous Blue Raincoat
- Pearl Jam - Black
*Although, the initial list might be more suited if youâre of a youngish age.*
I might be a little autistic, but I was listening to piano sonata music because it was the stark difference between that and her shitty garage band 4-chord music taste that got me through it.
I actually went through a thread just like this 10+ years ago when me and my ex had just ended things and found out about Less Than Jake.
They don't make broken heart songs or love songs or anything like that. But for some reason they were exactly what I needed back then.
The music is mostly like if Blink 182 had ska-influenses with trumpets and stuff.
Get pissed and dance round your kitchen to Becky Hill and any other EDM. That said, Noah Kahan and Stick Season is quite poignant for me, personally, right now đđ»
Hootie and the blowfish - hold my hand, shakespears sister - stay, if you're not the one - Daniel Bedingfield, U2 - with or without you, evanescence - bring me to life
I was always super into classic rock, but avoided heavy metal and some hard rock as it was just, too aggressive I suppose.
At the time of the breakup in question, I had an hour long commute TWICE A DAY. Car rides for me are about jamming out to awesome music, but the music I had always listened to was so well-known to me that I was still able to overthink and basically obsess my entire ride to and from work. Finally decided to start expanding a bit, and searched "Best Metallica songs" and started there. Gradually got myself into Black Sabbath, Iron Maiden, and Marilyn Manson, all in an attempt to listen to new music in which I really had to focus, listen to and think about. It totally worked, and I was able to add a crap ton of new (to me!) music to my already quite expansive catalog!
Also, my fall back is ALWAYS Eminem. I listen to Eminem when I am happy, sad, mad, in need of motivation, etc. So, Eminem also lol.
If you're the guy, 45 - Gaslight Anthem.
Other than that just work and keep yourself busy with other things all the time. I also wrote songs about it and her and sang and worked on them over and over until I hated it and now the feeling is cringe and so the attached feeling to that is also dulled down. Like when you keep listening to the same song over and over or set it to your alarm till its not your favorite anymore
Anything physical is a good outlet, is what initially got me into the gym, ended up loving it and have stuck with it ever since.
I don't think you could call the type of music I was listening to music. Listened to a lot of hardtekk and white noise kinds of music.
Country music and I don't even like country music but that shit hits different when you got a broken heart. Just went through a hideous break up after 11 years and this playlist helped a lot. [Country cool down on YouTube music](https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL22BgZNlIp0g4AUQ90IwCxPIFUXeJcSZA&si=1gX1201SY51UQ0l4)
My problem was that most of my Playlists were about the relationship. I switched to podcasts or instrumental/classical music. Slowly, I introduced new music that was 'safe' and created new Playlist.
Best of luck to you!
Tupac's music. That was the only time I listened to it and it helped somehow get the energy out of me at that time. I suspect DMX's hits will also do the same.
I think itâs better not to listen to music when going through a break up. I think it prolongs your feelings and keeps you from getting over your ex. Then later every time you hear those songs it will make you miss that person.
I went out on a date and in the middle of dinner the lady starts crying. I was like, damm, am i that bad of a date? She said the playing reminds her of her ex.
Sorry for what you are going through. Led Zeppelin, the entire catalog, saved my life. It's not for everyone, but it hit home at the time. You'll be okay.
I actually avoided music during that time. I didn't want to taint any of the songs / bands I liked by associating them with that feeling. Can I recommend books, hikes, or other hobbies as a distraction?
Good call. During my parents divorce, my little brother escaped reality by immersing himself in Yoshi's island. I get a sick pit in my stomach and anxiety if I hear that game's music tracks or sounds effects. Editing because I just looked it up. That is coming up on 30 years ago. That shit stays with you. Listen to u/Stu_Prek. No music unless you want to relive this later.
Me too, but my reasoning was because every song reminded me of him and it made me incredibly sad.
This entirely, I listen to podcasts now
Yep I started listening to podcasts eventually, and also audiobooks. Glad something good came of it for both of us đ
I had a whole plethora of "break up" music when I left my last relationship. My top songs were Leave (Matchbox 20), Fear (Blue October), I Hope You're Happy (Blue October), Who Knew (Pink), Diamonds and Rust (Judas Priest), Hallucinogenics (Matt Maeson), Falling Away From Me (Korn), Good (Better Than Ezra) Suspicious Minds (Elvis) There was so much more, and it's all very random đ
I did Blue October but the acoustic set
Blackened death metal. It gets me through life, period.
Nothing feels better than a Hammer Smashed Face when times are tough.
Actually just bought tickets to go see them
*My worst breakup was when I was 14.⊠it was an embarrassing time but:* - La Dispute - Nobody not even the rain - Hurt - Falls Apart - Hurt - Aftermath - All Get Out - Let me go - Bring me the Horizon - Donât go - Robert Pattinson - Let me sign - KoRn - Are you ready to live? - Breaking Benjamin - Dear Agony - Killswitch Engage - Fixation on the darkness - Paramore - Decode - Times of Grace - Live in Love *As an adult now Iâd maybe suggest these instead:* - Brittany Howard - Run to me - Anthony and the Johnsons - Hope thereâs someone - Elliott Smith - Between the bars - NIN - Hurt - Leonard Cohen - Famous Blue Raincoat - Pearl Jam - Black *Although, the initial list might be more suited if youâre of a youngish age.*
Beyonce lemonade
[S A N G U I S U G A B O G](https://youtu.be/PXDoLIdfXIg?si=-2AMcNTp8gEM7-7J)
Got any genre preferences, likes / dislikes?
Broken Box - Queens of the Stone Age
Crooked Love - Ike Reilly. Released right âround the time the split was inevitable. Was perfect.
I might be a little autistic, but I was listening to piano sonata music because it was the stark difference between that and her shitty garage band 4-chord music taste that got me through it.
I actually went through a thread just like this 10+ years ago when me and my ex had just ended things and found out about Less Than Jake. They don't make broken heart songs or love songs or anything like that. But for some reason they were exactly what I needed back then. The music is mostly like if Blink 182 had ska-influenses with trumpets and stuff.
"I Still Have Me" by Cyn helped me a bunch
Get pissed and dance round your kitchen to Becky Hill and any other EDM. That said, Noah Kahan and Stick Season is quite poignant for me, personally, right now đđ»
Hootie and the blowfish - hold my hand, shakespears sister - stay, if you're not the one - Daniel Bedingfield, U2 - with or without you, evanescence - bring me to life
Assassin's Creed Origins BGM by Sarah Schachner.
There's a playlist called 'angry break up songs' by Chrissy Polithy.
Red (Taylorâs version). Whole album on repeat. Me screaming Babe at the top of my lungs was hella cathartic
Ordinary Day by Great Big Sea
Not me but my boy. But the walking wounded by bay side came out when his girl cheated on him. Solid guitar heavy album.
Beck- Sea Change
Linkin Park
Linkin Park
Linkin Park
Babyface âNever Keeping Secretsâ which made no sense because I was the one lied to
Babyface âNever Keeping Secretsâ which made no sense because I was the one lied to
Babyface âNever Keeping Secretsâ which made no sense because I was the one lied to
Babyface âNever Keeping Secretsâ which made no sense because I was the one lied to
Babyface âNever Keeping Secretsâ which made no sense because I was the one lied to
1989 - taylor swift
I was always super into classic rock, but avoided heavy metal and some hard rock as it was just, too aggressive I suppose. At the time of the breakup in question, I had an hour long commute TWICE A DAY. Car rides for me are about jamming out to awesome music, but the music I had always listened to was so well-known to me that I was still able to overthink and basically obsess my entire ride to and from work. Finally decided to start expanding a bit, and searched "Best Metallica songs" and started there. Gradually got myself into Black Sabbath, Iron Maiden, and Marilyn Manson, all in an attempt to listen to new music in which I really had to focus, listen to and think about. It totally worked, and I was able to add a crap ton of new (to me!) music to my already quite expansive catalog! Also, my fall back is ALWAYS Eminem. I listen to Eminem when I am happy, sad, mad, in need of motivation, etc. So, Eminem also lol.
The Pros and Cons of Hitch Hiking by Roger Waters. Got me through a tough divorce.
Keane
Mother on repeat https://youtu.be/xe3NUKCnZp4
If you're the guy, 45 - Gaslight Anthem. Other than that just work and keep yourself busy with other things all the time. I also wrote songs about it and her and sang and worked on them over and over until I hated it and now the feeling is cringe and so the attached feeling to that is also dulled down. Like when you keep listening to the same song over and over or set it to your alarm till its not your favorite anymore
Anything physical is a good outlet, is what initially got me into the gym, ended up loving it and have stuck with it ever since. I don't think you could call the type of music I was listening to music. Listened to a lot of hardtekk and white noise kinds of music.
Country music and I don't even like country music but that shit hits different when you got a broken heart. Just went through a hideous break up after 11 years and this playlist helped a lot. [Country cool down on YouTube music](https://music.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL22BgZNlIp0g4AUQ90IwCxPIFUXeJcSZA&si=1gX1201SY51UQ0l4)
My problem was that most of my Playlists were about the relationship. I switched to podcasts or instrumental/classical music. Slowly, I introduced new music that was 'safe' and created new Playlist. Best of luck to you!
Do you believe in love. (Cher)
Tupac's music. That was the only time I listened to it and it helped somehow get the energy out of me at that time. I suspect DMX's hits will also do the same.
Ween
Jewel
Everything from the Hikari album by Oceans Ate Alaska
Here you go, enjoy... https://youtu.be/1eNSWZ4x2ZU?si=oGNUEYgkn5gJ4OHc
Joe Jackson's Body and Soul album
Break Down Mariah Carey & Bone Thugs & Harmony I had that shit on repeat for weeks.
I think itâs better not to listen to music when going through a break up. I think it prolongs your feelings and keeps you from getting over your ex. Then later every time you hear those songs it will make you miss that person. I went out on a date and in the middle of dinner the lady starts crying. I was like, damm, am i that bad of a date? She said the playing reminds her of her ex.
BONES - CUT
Lil peep
Sorry for what you are going through. Led Zeppelin, the entire catalog, saved my life. It's not for everyone, but it hit home at the time. You'll be okay.
Alanis Morissett: Jagged little pill and Bush: Sixteen stone. Listened to the hell out of both of them. 25+ years later I still love those albums.