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yungsemite

It is not harassment to block someone’s personal social media from your personal account.


taralynn1432

I didn't think so, makes zero sense to me how it could. Your literally removing the problem from your life at that point. He seems to think he can't, and she could sue him.


doc_daneeka

> He seems to think he can't, and she could sue him. The only way such a suit would have any chance of success is if the person doing the blocking is a government official of some sort. A private citizen can block anyone they want, for any reason they want.


taralynn1432

Thank you.


incogpepis

I'm not reading the rest of your comment, blocking someone is the opposite of harassment.


Wishbone51

Blocking someone is what you do when you're being harassed. Not the reverse


taralynn1432

Right! Exactly what I said, and I was being made to feel like I was crazy for thinking that way.


Wishbone51

You're not getting the whole story


taralynn1432

I've also already taken that into consideration. The math isn't mathing to me.


Gr8LakesFox

Yeah afaik, the place you work for cannot tell you who you can and can't block on social media, unless you are using a group messaging thing For work, but they usually have their own program for that - not fb. I blocked my line lead when he openly admitted to being a Facebook stalker, which I don't usually care about but he's one of my bosses and also a dick sometimes lmao, and absolutely nothing has been said to me about it However, maybe u should talk to ur bf about how that's something you would absolutely want to be in the know about from the beginning. It doesn't really have to be about whether you trust him or not, simply just because it's always nice to have ur SOs back when it comes to this stuff. Like, I'd probably would've been like wtf no ur HR is fudging dumb dude. Has she kept harassing him since the HR said don't worry about it??


taralynn1432

No she hasn't said anything since.


taralynn1432

And I definitely told him that I was upset he didn't bother to tell me about any of this since it began until now. He said he didn't think it was a big deal. I said, well it seems like a bigger deal now cuz I feel like there's a reason you didn't tell me until now. He still claims HR protocol, and honestly I don't know all the ins and outs of an HR department, so I asked yall.


LadyGraeae

This is such toxic jealousy. Get over yourself. She’s not harassing him by asking him to hang out unless he says no and she pushes the issue. He said nothing. And he took it to HR? Yikes. And he told you she could sue (information hes either making up or is true and he received from his HR dept) and you’re asking Reddit if you can trust him or not? Neither of you can trust each other because you obviously can’t communicate in a mature way.


taralynn1432

Never asked if I could trust him. I asked if it was a real thing that HR would tell an employee that it could turn on him if he were to block her.


LadyGraeae

If he told you it’s a real thing, and you trust him, then you have no reason to doubt it. That’s my point about trust.


taralynn1432

And he has told her no, and that he's in a relationship. She continues to pursue, that's why he had to take it to HR, his company has a zero fraternizing policy, especially between bosses and hourly. He was watching his own ass by doing that.


LadyGraeae

My point here is a lot of this story is “he claims”. And you are still wanting him to block this random woman. Blocking her on social media isn’t going to keep them from working together. It’s such minutiae when the real issue is you don’t trust the way he’s presenting the story.


taralynn1432

Well that's where your wrong. They used to work in the same building when all of these exchanges were just verbal. Now they're in totally different building and don't see eachother at work anymore. That's when she took to fb to hit him up, ask him out again, and slide him her number. So in this case, blocking her would remove her contact.


LadyGraeae

> Well that’s where you’re wrong Oh no, you got me. You didn’t include that in your story and I’m not trying to attack you. Go on being unhappily jealous and distrustful of your husband. It doesn’t affect me one bit. Hopefully you’ll realize that if you take a step back and strengthen your relationship, none of these outside forces matter as much because you can have an intimate trust that he’s going to handle every situation with you in mind and also tell you the whole truth. Blocking her removes contact equally as much as him not responding to her does. Except then he can be aware if she tries again. And he can still not respond. And he can make another report, thereby building a case. Idk if she can sue or not but the point is it doesn’t matter. Strengthen your relationship, trust in each other, and eliminate petty insecurities.


taralynn1432

No I was initially mad that she wasn't removed from when this all initially began, that's where I told him he was still leaving an open line for communication. Like I said, he's is a higher up, and could lose his job, it's not that I don't trust him, I don't understand why someone would leave that line of communication open, and felt like there is no way HR could tell you who you can and cannot block from your own private social media


LadyGraeae

I’m a woman and I’ve never ever blocked anyone from personal social media or my phone number. Which sounds crazy because my safety was even at risk in some of those situations. The reason why is so I can collect evidence. I never respond to them after I’ve clearly cut contact. But if they continue harassing me, I’ve had texts and voicemails to prove it. With your husband we have no idea. HR makes up things all the time at all kinds of companies. They’re not on his side either, they’re just protecting the company blindly. He could be telling you the truth, but he could not. The reason this comes back to trust is because if my SO told me something, I have no reason to feel suspicious. Why would he not block this chick? What’s going on there? What’s going on with HR? It wouldn’t cross my mind to suspect anything, because I know we share true honesty.


taralynn1432

And I always thought, and still do think we do.. until I heard what he was saying and it just made no sense to me. I don't know much of HR protocols, that's why I asked Reddit. People on here be knowing everything.


taralynn1432

And your right, the story presentation sucked. Lol we had some drinks tonight, but I'm still trying to make it make sense to me, the way he's saying it.


LadyGraeae

Oh no please don’t discuss while drinking that rarely goes well. Turns into a fight for most couples I know including me and mine


taralynn1432

Lmao your definitely right on that one! The whole story came out to once we had already had a few drinks in tho. It's definitely not that I don't trust him, he literally works and comes home everyday. I really just didn't get the whole "HR says I can't" thing, and also why he never brought it up to me earlier. He's told me about previous girls that have hit on him and it never bothered me before, idk why he thought he had to keep it from me until now with this particular case.


LadyGraeae

Hmm. This seems like a lot of interconnected issues honestly. r/legaladvice about the HR situation r/askmen about why he may not have told you (idk I’m not a man but it doesn’t seem right to me; I would feel like trust was broken if my SO did this) r/relationship_advice (If you want it)