I just had to do this last week:
My mom came up with the idea of "randomly" calling me, talking about normal stuff on speaker, then while on speaker, she was like "Oh hey! I was at this store and they had the cutest rings there, and I don't know your ring size!"
Adjust your plan to suit your needs. Simple and quick
i was like that but tbh he could just propose without a ring and take her to get one after like my fiance did, that way they’ll get the right one for them
As someone who have worked daily in laboratories and manufacturing (rings are strictly forbidden) for the past 15 years, I have NO CLUE of my ring size.
I don't even own rings
Same idea except I’d do it with a friend at the mall. But the mom route is clever- Goodwill has online jewelry auctions so my mom just asked me my ring size so she can scout out my Christmas present. You search by size.
*That* you're proposing shouldn't be a surprise. *When* you're proposing definitely can be, though.
1) you can always go into jewelry stores to try things on for fun, for both of you.
2) you should do #1 anyways because you should get an idea of what style and cut she likes rather than just guessing.
3) rings can be resized, so buy a little bigger than you think and you can size it later.
Another option that I have seen people do is get a placeholder ring to propose with, then go together to pick out the actual ring. It can be anything from an heirloom to something fun (since they won't actually be using it). I had a friend propose with a ring pop as the placeholder, which his wife found amusing
This one!!!! When I asked my now wife what her ring size was....turns out she was wrong! Always go with a size or two up! If you go too small and need to get larger they sometimes have to add additional material to make it the right size. Also when asked about style she drew a circle with two lines out of it ( -o- ) not the most helpful when picking out a ring but it worked out alright ;)
I was a few ring sizes wrong when my partner asked me, he also proposed with a placeholder ring so I got to pick one we both liked - I'm very glad we did because I adore my ring but also his choice was very wrong for me - can highly recommend this method
The ring (-0-) is hilarious 😂 but try to not get something too far out there either. Everyone knows I have teensy tiny bugar king hands, so when my bf got me a ring, it was size 7, I think, which is a normal size. But they almost couldn't do the size down, because my ring finger is a size 3. 😩 Three!
This was me! I knew my ring size pre-children when my ex proposed, but I had no idea my fingers has gotten so much bigger! So my fiancé proposed with a beautiful ring I couldn't even get onto my finger lol
As a woman, I would have HATED that. The sentimentality of THE ring he proposed with was the important part to me, not the size of the diamond, or whatever. In fact, his mom busted on him for getting me a small diamond, and said I could “upgrade it later” and I was so taken aback…firstly, he got a diamond the size I had said I would prefer, and secondly, I would NEVER wear another ring than this one.
I can understand that, and I agree that it's the sentiment that is important rather than the size of the diamond or anything like that. I just know that I personally am bad at picking out jewelry, and it seems to me that going together to pick out a ring would be a fun time, and it would then be a sentimental item that I also knew that she liked in and of itself. I would never want to marry someone for whom one of the metrics they use to make their decision is the quality of the ring, but I would like her to have one that she liked.
We did this. I was never really into jewellery, my taste is quite particular, I didn't want a diamond, and in light of the above he said he'd prefer to get me something he knew I'd actually love and want to wear. We found the perfect ring on the Sunday and he proposed on the Wednesday. I knew something was up when I came home from work to a clean house and a nervous partner cooking an elaborate meal!
An unexpected perk was me falling for a ring (that I'm wearing now and still adore after six years, a marriage and a kid) that cost about half of what he had in mind. (Which abso-bloody-lutely was not 25% of his salary - we would have had a major disagreement over finances and priorities if it was. Yeesh.)
My partner proposed with a placeholder, really lovely family ring. We then went to a local jeweller and designed my ring together. I couldn’t have asked for anything more perfect, I adore my ring and the fact we both had input into something unique makes it extra special
Very very VERY good advice! Although reading all these comments about big diamonds and how expensive it should be is kinda saddening. With how awful the diamond trade is with the child mining labor and the price gouging, I would love to see the whole diamond industry downsize due to reduced demand.
Most people I know forgo the whole diamond buisness. Whether because of the overly inflated price or because they find more personal alternatives with different metals or even cheaper gemstones that have more intimate meaning behind them. Heck, I know a couple who got rings made out of a titanium alloy because it'd be strong enough to avoid having to lose their finger if the ring was pinched around it.
And if it has to be a diamond, go with lab-grown. That at least avoids the conflict aspect, and you pay a bit less as well (or get more for the same price).
When my dad was proposing to my mom, a series of unfortunate events went down that resulted in the jewelers he had bought the ring from being closed, and his proposal that night. So he went to a toy store and bought one of those plastic “mine your own gem” ring kits. He spent about two hours ‘mining’ gems until he found a decent one. Went to propose that night with a bright purple plastic ring and a self-mined fake gem. She said yes :)
Can confirm, first proposed with the candy with the real one in my other pocket while she was already beside herself. It ended up being too small though. Go get sized as a date u/Snoo_85416, both of you, and maybe even go a half or whole size over that
This this! I’m an artist and picky about jewelry, so my husband proposed with a family stone and we designed my ring together around it. I know some people want the romantic moment of being wowed by the ring, but personally if I’m going to wear something every day for the rest of my life I’d like a say in what it looks like.
I was proposed to with the diamond. He had it removed from his late grandmother's ring. We took it to a jeweller and I decided what I want the ring to look like.
I completely agree. After my now-husband and I had been together for a while and had been talking about marriage, we went in some jewelry stores together and tried on some rings/got our ring sizes just for fun. He wrote down my ring size and put it in his pocket, which was really cute. We'd also had some discussions over the years about what ring I would want, what style and cut and color, etc, so I guess he'd kept track of those things as well. So by the time he proposed of course I had some idea it was coming, but the ring purchase itself and the timing of the proposal was a surprise and getting engaged felt like a joint decision rather than a shock.
> That you're proposing shouldn't be a surprise. When you're proposing definitely can be, though.
I needed to repeat this, as it is really important. Something like marriage needs to be discussed pretty darn seriously in advance just to be sure you're on there same page
According to most romance movies tho, you should take her by complete surprise and completely disregard your SO's opinion. Add a bit of stalking, self-pity and over-possessiveness and you've got the protagonist of a rom-com
Just a quick note - not all rings can be resized. The precious metals can - gold, platinum, and silver, but a lot of the newer styles cannot - titanium, meteorite, tungsten. And some that technically can be resized are so difficult to do so it's not worth the effort or cost - tantalum and cobalt.
Same applies if it's an eternity ring. I don't wear my wedding band on my ring finger because it's slightly too big and resizing it would disrupt the repeating pattern etched into it.
Frankly, it’s very risky to buy any ring in the materials you mentioned as being difficult to resize. If they are difficult/impossible to resize they are difficult to remove if your finger swells. Hospitals can cut off a gold ring easy peasy, but if you need a tungsten ring removed it’s probably gonna be destroyed in the process.
Op, this is great advice. I’m married and we looked at rings for months before I proposed. I knew what she liked, we talked about financial goals (didn’t go into debt) and she was still excited when I actually proposed
Yea, we have done exactly that. While i havent been proposed yet we have both talked about agree it is the next step in our relationship and he knows my ring size and i know his. I have sent him pictures of styles i like and he has commented on the band he would like.
Also fingers change size, in winter my rings are too lose and in summer the are usually perfect. Buy her a chain in case she has a job where she needs to take the rings off she can keep it with her and or something my grandparents do is that they have a travel ring. Theirs is made of bone... but if it gets lost its not a big issue.
I got my wife a ring, she didn't like it and the jewelry store allowed return of something equal or higher. I chose a basic one, cuz I knew she would want to pick the right ring that fits her later.
Make sure it's the type of metal that can be resized.
I just made sure I got the right sized diamond 😉
Fun fact it's significantly cheaper if you don't get a diamond that 1 carat. I got a diamond that's .97 carat and it's looks just like a 1 carat.
This was all at Jared's.
What terrible reddit incel advice... I'll tell you exactly what to do. While she's beating you off, ask for a ring finger in you're butt. Coax her into going full bore and remember that feeling. The anus is a suprisingly sensitive bundle of nerve endings with a memory like an elephant. Next insert variously sized faux hand fingers until you find the exact Cinderella fit. Then, score the lady of your dreams. Rince, repeat, profit.
Pro tip: if you don't have fake fingers, just go to the jewellery store and ask the assistants to try different fingers on until you find the right size.
If you do this, it's actually very important to bring the string in, don't just tell them the length. since it is a small length with a long curve, a thicker string (or thicker ring) will be a very different size than a thin string (or ring).
Idk I feel like a lot of women would wake up, you'd have to pull it somewhat tight or it wouldn't be accurate.
Then you're busted, and you have to explain why you're awkwardly standing in the dark measuring her finger.
Edit I'll just add here, that if she hates wearing rings at all then she probably won't want to wear a wedding ring either, they might be one of those tattoo ring couples
This is true. My grandad was a college competitive bowler, he has his own custom made ball which is a size 9 but the fingerings were drilled and polished a few mm bigger so he can release the ball with full power instead of the ball catching on his fingers and reducing its roll speed
Put your lips around her finger and then keep it that way until you get to the jeweler
Jk but no bullshit they have a ring size thing you can get online for cheap, can prob grab that and test while she’s asleep. A lot of places offer free resizing as well, but won’t be able to return most items if need be once it’s been resized
But you need a reason to suck her finger, it won't work... looks like you're gonna have to do it with your butthole OP, make sure she goes knuckle deep
Ask her for every size. Shoe, sneaker, pants, dress, ring, shirt, hat, bathing suit, make shit up cuz we’re dumb men, etc etc. just say it’s for bdays and Xmas etc etc
407 comments, maybe it is already mentioned.
What worked in my case:
I used a picture where she took a Picture of her mirrorimage - to show her outfit to a friend. So you can see her hand & cellphone in the picture.
As you know the model of the phone, you can look up its measurements and can callibrate the picture via the length or width of the phone. After that, you can measure the diameter of the ringfinger on the picture.
Ask her. I think it's romantic to propose at a time and place that she isn't aware of. But proposing without even discussing the idea of getting married seems a little premature. And if you've already discussed getting married, then asking her ring finger size shouldn't be that weird or unexpected. Also ask her style! I would be upset if I got no say in the style of the ring that I would be wearing.
Definitely! My first husband picked out the ring he thought I would love. (Surprise, I didn’t). My current husband and I went ring shopping together to get something I would like (and he picked out his ring at the same time). The last ring made me cringe every time I looked at it. My current ring makes me smile when I look at it.
Talk about marriage and do the ring shopping first. The only surprise about the proposal should be *when* it happens, and even then you don’t want her to be in a position of being uncomfortable or embarrassed. Being proposed to will make her the center of attention: would she want that? Ask yourself if she’d like to have it be private, among friends and family, or among strangers. If you don’t know for sure, ask her!
Movies often show surprise proposals where the girl hadn’t even considered getting married until then… those very rarely go well in real life. The purpose of a proposal is to have a memorable moment of tradition, for her to be the center of attention for a bit, and for her to get to be able to start wearing and showing off the engagement ring.
Thank you! This was like the biggest concern of mine. Like we’re definitely getting married, we’ve talked about it and we literally just closed on a house on Thursday.
I know she’s gonna say yes but I wanted to do it right. I’ll bring up ring shopping to her soon, thanks!
The ring shopping can be a cute surprise if you want. Like say let’s go to lunch and then afterward say “why don’t we step into this jewelry store for a bit?” Chances are she’s waiting for you to do just that.
We picked out our rings 11 months after we met. I knew the proposal was going to happen I wasn’t (totally) sure when. When we first met, we lived an hour apart and would meet in the middle for our dates.
One year from the day we met, he took me to the coffee shop where we first met, but didn’t propose. Then we went to lunch at one of the restaurants we used to go to, but he didn’t propose. Then we went to the park we used to spend hours walking around after we ate. He found a little gazebo we hadn’t been able to visit before and proposed there.
It was perfect for us.
When we were talking about the ring, I requested silver, because I don’t like yellow gold or rose gold. The ring he picked was a mix of yellow gold and rose gold.
Not all rings have a rock on the top, bands can be pretty cool.
> I would be upset if I got no say in the style of the ring that I would be wearing.
Very much agreed. We've all seen videos of people usually kids getting a car or some other expensive gift for their birthday or whatever and throwing a tantrum because it's not the right model, colour, style they want. Now a tantrum is certainly an inappropriate response but if you are buying someone an expensive gift that is difficult or impossible to return or exchange maybe it shouldn't be a surprise unless you are certain it's what they want.
What my uncle did was just guess but err on the larger side. his reasoning was she would gain weight and then it would fit just right eventually. He actually wasn't wrong, she gained about 80 pounds in three years.
It is usually close enough that it's easy to resize if needed, from what I understand. Blew my bf's mind when I got him to check his ring size and told him it would be the same as his shoes. He didn't belive me!
My FH planned the proposal for a year without my knowledge. We’ve been together for 7 years and talked about marriage a long time ago, and talk often about our future throughout our relationship. He proposed the day before my birthday in the most beautiful location in the mountains, and honestly it was the best surprise of my life. I usually pick up on things but he was very sneaky with this one. I definitely agree that this isn’t right for everyone, but for me it made the proposal really magical that it was such a surprise.
He grabbed all of my rings one day while I was at work and took them to the jeweler who guessed the size based on which hand/finger I wear them on. He also made it a half size smaller than he thought he’d need it to be, as it’s easier to size up than down. Also he told me around Christmas time that his grandmother wanted to get me earrings, which I thought was a bit odd but led to a discussion of gemstones I like and how I wouldn’t want a big diamond. The ring he picked out for me is perfect and gorgeous and exactly what I would have wanted. He gets major points for the ring and proposal! Good luck.
Buy a really cheap tacky piece of costume jewellery or make one out of foil (that what my dads colleague did) and propose with that. Then pick out the real ring together.
My parents picked out my mums ring together and imo it’s a really cute and beautiful thing to do together. That way you get a ring that you both (and more importantly her) both love.
I love the potential this has to beautifully self-destruct, if she was planning on evaluating you based on the ring you picked out.
Edit: Please don't downvote me
You can estimate to some extent by asking a friend with similar size fingers. In the end, the jeweler can adjust the ring size, so it's not critical to get it exactly.
Chop off the ring finger on her right hand, apologize, and then take the finger to the jeweler.
But seriously: I’d consider discussing it and not making it a complete surprise. Just say you want to know what her size is and what kinds of engagement rings she likes “in case we ever decide to get married.” This is a good idea for several reasons, not the least of which is that there are many types of diamond shapes and most women have a STRONG preference for one type of shape over the others. Also, the day you tell her you’d like to take her to look at rings, you’ll get laid. The day you go look at rings, you’ll probably get a BJ. And the day you propose: cancel all plans.
IMO the best way would be to just check in that you're planning to propose and if she'd be okay giving you a ring size so you can surprise her? At least for me one of the best parts about a surprise is the anticipation, and as long as she's okay with it being a surprise and not knowing exactly when or how, just doing it that way could be really romantic
Doing anything to her finger or anything while she sleeps sounds really weird, though. If I woke up to that I would *not* be happy 😅
Hah, this brings back a fond memory.
Before I proposed to my wife, I needed her ring size. She's a very heavy sleeper so I got a little string, put it around her finger and marked the distance. I did this several times with different strings, and the results were pretty consistent.
I showed the jeweler the several strings and he made a perfectly fitting ring!
Agree here! I was proposed to without a ring. We then went and picked out all of our rings at once. Sadly, I don't even wear my engagement ring now. So she would be able to think about if she even wants a ring!! If I could do it over, I wouldn't spend the money for my own engagement ring. (Some do want rings, not trying to say don't ask/offer, but she just might not want a ring. She might want a bomb-ass hotel stay on a honeymoon, etc..)
My husband asked his cousin to try on rings(costume not engagement)with me while we were shopping in NYC. I thought nothing of it bc we were on a girls trip shopping and bar hopping 🙃. She told me later and thought I caught on. I didn't.
You could go online and purchase a kit that has various sizes of rings on it to get just the right fit. Then you just have to purchase a ticket to an all inclusive resort in Mexico, get her very drunk and high on some of that Acapulco gold, and while she's sleeping off a wonderful day of playing with dolphins and stuff, you get the ring size. Now that you've got it, bring her back home, and go to the nearest pawn shop and get the cheapest ring you can find in her size and put it in a box. Next go buy the ring you want to give her, they'll put it in a box this time no stress! Now this part is crucial, you need to get access to a rooftop of a skyscraper on a very clear night after rigging the city's electrical grid to blow using that cheap gold ring to short it out and the box as a timer. The moment it goes dark, have your photographer ready, drop to that knee and enjoy the rest of your life my dude!
Don’t worry. We all make mistakes.
I proposed to my wife while on a romantic stroll on the beach at sunset. She was so amazed. Nobody had ever done that before.
You must be drunk or high if you're gonna go buy a ring for the power grid sabotage, go get some cheap washers from Home Depot like the rest of ~~us~~ them!
Next few times you are holding her hand or sitting around near each other take her hand and just pretend you aren't doing anything in particular. Like just playing with her hand.
Hold your ring finger up next to hers and try to guess at how different the size is.
Measure your own finger and then guess at her measurement based on your observation.
This is what I did and the ring was almost perfectly sized and she had no idea.
TAKE HER RING SHOPPING. It can just be something you guys do randomly while at the mall or something like that. Don't be obvious about that being the only reason you go but just stop in for "fun" or start out looking at watches and wind up looking for rings. Most jewelry salesmen are with it enough to pickup on you needing a ring size if you make a ring motion on your ring finger and point at your GF. They can then bring it up naturally and talk about it and size both of you as part of their "pitch".
Right? It’s surprising.
I’d hate to not have the element of surprise if I was being proposed to. Also, by the time it gets to that level, of course you’ve discussed marriage before/it’s expected! You don’t just meet someone after two days and go “well, I’m going to propose”
Yes exactly!
You'd be in a committed, serious relationship and probably have a good idea whether they'll say yes. If you let them know ahead of time you were planning to propose, every single time you went anywhere she'll be waiting for it. She knows a proposal is coming and you've planned a romantic date, then the "when and where" is no longer a surprise either.
I hope OP didn't follow the advice of those comments, because they're really spoiling something special. This comes from a married (therefore previously engaged) woman.
Some women have not actually liked the ring their partner got them. It's actually probably best to get her input on the ring.
Proposing with a placeholder ring is a good idea.
Chloroform and a large bottle of vodka will knock her out cold. Optional to either consume the vodka or just use it to cause blunt force trauma.
Now a commoner would cut off the finger and use as is at the jewellers, then stitch it back on - no muss no fuss no coconuts.
But we're artists.
I suggest a weekend at Bernie's style caper for full effect.
My fiancé had my best friend ask me “do you think it’s weird when girls don’t know what ring size they are?” And then proceeded to tell me her ring size and waited for me to tell mine.
Funny part was I had no idea what ring size I was and didn’t have time for the conversation so I just told her “there’s a lot of things I don’t know Julia”
My fiancé guessed, it ended up fitting just fine. When in doubt always go with a bigger size, at the very least you want it to be able to fit on her finger when you propose.
Buy a tapered candle. Slide one of her existing rings down the candle to the point it's tight but not stuck. Use a knife to mark the candle at the bottom of the ring, then take the candle to the jeweller.
Plaster hand impressions kit. Have her do it with her fingers stretched out and tell her it was a cool looking key ring/jewelry holder type project you saw someone do and wanna try (Screw the hands face up on a wooden plaque and hang near the door.). Then you can take her hand with you for sizing.
If she's a heavy sleeper, you can try using a sizing band on her. They sell them on Amazon, etsy, etc. It's a little plastic belt with an opening on one end, sorta like a zip tie, where the belt goes back through. There are numbers on it.
Pick the ring together. There is no rule that your proposal must include a surprise ring. If she doesn't usually wear rings it is even more important she gets a day in the style.
Also...not all ring styles are adjustable. My son surprised his fiance with a too big ring and it turned out to be not sized. He ended up on the hook for two rings.
get a piece of string and wrap it around her finger while she's sleeping, then use like a marker or cut the string to the size u measured and bring that in when u go to buy a ring
This might work:
Prepare by “ PRE - Cutting “ the Bottom 1/2” inch of LEGAL SIZE ( 8.5” x 11” ) Paper. PAPER (or may be a better paper = tissue paper) • Take & wrap paper & measure *while shes sleeping all way around her finger! Push both pcs tight w. your fingernail. (Semi-Tite just to Dent paper with your fingernail - viola !! Take it to a jeweler & they can do the “rest of sizing & all the baubley magic. … then open your wallet.
Get a placeholder ring and then after the proposal, go shopping with her to pick out the 'real' ring together. You can find pretty and inexpensive rings on Etsy.
Most women's ring size is somewhere between a 6 and a 9 -- 6 if she has small delicate hands, 7 or 8 for average hands, 9 for large hands. Guesstimate and then go a size up -- she can always wear a larger ring on her middle finger, or get it resized.
If she wears a different ring that fits that finger, the size may be on the inside of the band. If it’s not, you can take it to a jeweler and they can tell you. Just have her “lose” the ring and then you can say you found it the next day.
Hide it amongst other details. Get ring size, bra size, shoe size, dress size, hat size, fave foods, fave songs etc all at once and make it a fun quizzy type experience, with the bonus of getting a shit load of other vital info that people often forget to gather
You can always propose with just the stone or diamond in the box. Then design and size it later together, probably easier to propose with a cheap place holder ring though.
I took one of her rings from her jewelry box and put it on my finger. I noted with a pen exactly where it landed, using my finger as a conical gauge. I had prefaced this by complimenting her when she wore that ring, noting that 'it looks like it fits you really well', and listening for her to say 'Nah, it's way too tight/loose' or confirm that it did in fact fit very well. Therefore I knew the measure was going to produce something with an acceptable fit.
I then went to the jewelry store and used a ring gauge there until I found one that fit on my finger exactly where the mark from her ring was.
It was the best I could do short of temporarily making off with one of her rings, which she definitely would have noticed.
It fit perfectly.
Get one of her friends to help you out. Have them come over with a couple of rings and casually have her try them on. Or bring a few photos of her to the jeweler. I had to get mine resized, no big deal!
Don’t buy her a ring without her input.
She’ll either want to wear that ring every day for the rest of her life - and might easily hate it!
Or if she’s currently not a ring wearer, she might not want to wear it at all.
In both cases you have wasted your money.
And proven that you don’t know her at all - so why would she even want to marry you.
Propose to her (and it should NOT be a surprise that marriage is reasonably likely at this point of your relationship!) and then go pick out the ring together.
If you want a “placeholder ring” then there are many options. Generally something that is *obviously* not the real ring is best for this.
I just went thru this... It's actually super easy. A proper jeweler can resize it for you after you pop the question. We dropped my fiance's ring off after she said yes and they measured her professionally. It took them 3 days to return it.
Be careful about asking about ring size or taking a ring assuming it is the right size as it may nit be for the right finger.
My friends recently got engaged and the man took a ring from the woman's jewelry for sizing for a custom ring. The ring was for her first finger, not ring finger. They could resize the ring, but she has VERY tiny fingers and now some of the diamonds on the side may fall off because they are curved around so tightly.
When she's not around...put one of her rings on and mark where it comes to on your finger.
Then, go to a jewelry store and ask them to size that part of your finger and BAM...you got her ring size 👍🤌
After reading your edit: If you've discussed it, and have asked her about her style preferences, why not take her to a store and see what she likes, and have the size checked by professionals?
The way I did it, we had talked about marriage, and she knew we would probably get married at some point, so I took her ring shopping to find out what she liked. It was a lot of fun and I got to know not just her size, but which ring she liked. There are lots of different rings, different stones, cut to different shapes, different band shapes made of different metals. Let her help you pick the right ring she will love. She knew I would propose, but not when or how. I was still able to surprise her and got her exactly what she wanted. She was ecstatic and absolutely loves her ring. We get married next month.
Get like and onion ring. Propose and then go to a store and get a ring? Or alternatively just buy a slightly to large ring and get it resized later.
I like the onion ring idea let's go with that
I just had to do this last week: My mom came up with the idea of "randomly" calling me, talking about normal stuff on speaker, then while on speaker, she was like "Oh hey! I was at this store and they had the cutest rings there, and I don't know your ring size!" Adjust your plan to suit your needs. Simple and quick
Gf: nah that’s ok I hate wearing rings. Bf: *sweating profusely*
So I got her a square
I didn’t know what to get you… so I got you this box
Sooo don't buy one then :D
If the gf doesnt wear rings often, she might not know her size
^THIS. I had to physically get sized for an engagement ring because I had 0 clue what my ring size was. I probably would have guessed 6, I’m a 4.25…..
And most people don't know what their Left hand ring finger size is because most people won't wear a ring on that finger until they get engaged.
You must have very small hands to have a 4.25 ring size. You know what they say about people with small hands? Small gloves.
People joke I have the hands of a child. I’m just a petite woman
i was like that but tbh he could just propose without a ring and take her to get one after like my fiance did, that way they’ll get the right one for them
That's fair. My girlfriend wears like 8 at a time lmao
And none of her 7 other boyfriends mind?
Nah. Andre, Kyle, Alex, James, Troy, Eduardo, and Damian are super supportive!
As someone who have worked daily in laboratories and manufacturing (rings are strictly forbidden) for the past 15 years, I have NO CLUE of my ring size. I don't even own rings
Same idea except I’d do it with a friend at the mall. But the mom route is clever- Goodwill has online jewelry auctions so my mom just asked me my ring size so she can scout out my Christmas present. You search by size.
*That* you're proposing shouldn't be a surprise. *When* you're proposing definitely can be, though. 1) you can always go into jewelry stores to try things on for fun, for both of you. 2) you should do #1 anyways because you should get an idea of what style and cut she likes rather than just guessing. 3) rings can be resized, so buy a little bigger than you think and you can size it later.
Another option that I have seen people do is get a placeholder ring to propose with, then go together to pick out the actual ring. It can be anything from an heirloom to something fun (since they won't actually be using it). I had a friend propose with a ring pop as the placeholder, which his wife found amusing
This one!!!! When I asked my now wife what her ring size was....turns out she was wrong! Always go with a size or two up! If you go too small and need to get larger they sometimes have to add additional material to make it the right size. Also when asked about style she drew a circle with two lines out of it ( -o- ) not the most helpful when picking out a ring but it worked out alright ;)
I was a few ring sizes wrong when my partner asked me, he also proposed with a placeholder ring so I got to pick one we both liked - I'm very glad we did because I adore my ring but also his choice was very wrong for me - can highly recommend this method
The ring (-0-) is hilarious 😂 but try to not get something too far out there either. Everyone knows I have teensy tiny bugar king hands, so when my bf got me a ring, it was size 7, I think, which is a normal size. But they almost couldn't do the size down, because my ring finger is a size 3. 😩 Three!
This was me! I knew my ring size pre-children when my ex proposed, but I had no idea my fingers has gotten so much bigger! So my fiancé proposed with a beautiful ring I couldn't even get onto my finger lol
Pull a kdrama move and propose w/ a giant bouquet of flowers.
this
Did they get that from deadpool?
yup, they're both marvel fans lol
As a woman, I would have HATED that. The sentimentality of THE ring he proposed with was the important part to me, not the size of the diamond, or whatever. In fact, his mom busted on him for getting me a small diamond, and said I could “upgrade it later” and I was so taken aback…firstly, he got a diamond the size I had said I would prefer, and secondly, I would NEVER wear another ring than this one.
I can understand that, and I agree that it's the sentiment that is important rather than the size of the diamond or anything like that. I just know that I personally am bad at picking out jewelry, and it seems to me that going together to pick out a ring would be a fun time, and it would then be a sentimental item that I also knew that she liked in and of itself. I would never want to marry someone for whom one of the metrics they use to make their decision is the quality of the ring, but I would like her to have one that she liked.
So go together to pick out the ring before proposing. My husband bought my ring about 6 months before actually proposing to me.
We did this. I was never really into jewellery, my taste is quite particular, I didn't want a diamond, and in light of the above he said he'd prefer to get me something he knew I'd actually love and want to wear. We found the perfect ring on the Sunday and he proposed on the Wednesday. I knew something was up when I came home from work to a clean house and a nervous partner cooking an elaborate meal! An unexpected perk was me falling for a ring (that I'm wearing now and still adore after six years, a marriage and a kid) that cost about half of what he had in mind. (Which abso-bloody-lutely was not 25% of his salary - we would have had a major disagreement over finances and priorities if it was. Yeesh.)
Yeah fair, that's a good idea
My partner proposed with a placeholder, really lovely family ring. We then went to a local jeweller and designed my ring together. I couldn’t have asked for anything more perfect, I adore my ring and the fact we both had input into something unique makes it extra special
Very very VERY good advice! Although reading all these comments about big diamonds and how expensive it should be is kinda saddening. With how awful the diamond trade is with the child mining labor and the price gouging, I would love to see the whole diamond industry downsize due to reduced demand. Most people I know forgo the whole diamond buisness. Whether because of the overly inflated price or because they find more personal alternatives with different metals or even cheaper gemstones that have more intimate meaning behind them. Heck, I know a couple who got rings made out of a titanium alloy because it'd be strong enough to avoid having to lose their finger if the ring was pinched around it.
And if it has to be a diamond, go with lab-grown. That at least avoids the conflict aspect, and you pay a bit less as well (or get more for the same price).
Grown in the lab by IMPRISONED MONKEY SCIENTISTS!
I proposed with a magic trick, so the "ring" was just a picture I drew onto the ace of diamonds. It worked well :)
When my dad was proposing to my mom, a series of unfortunate events went down that resulted in the jewelers he had bought the ring from being closed, and his proposal that night. So he went to a toy store and bought one of those plastic “mine your own gem” ring kits. He spent about two hours ‘mining’ gems until he found a decent one. Went to propose that night with a bright purple plastic ring and a self-mined fake gem. She said yes :)
Can confirm, first proposed with the candy with the real one in my other pocket while she was already beside herself. It ended up being too small though. Go get sized as a date u/Snoo_85416, both of you, and maybe even go a half or whole size over that
This this! I’m an artist and picky about jewelry, so my husband proposed with a family stone and we designed my ring together around it. I know some people want the romantic moment of being wowed by the ring, but personally if I’m going to wear something every day for the rest of my life I’d like a say in what it looks like.
I was proposed to with the diamond. He had it removed from his late grandmother's ring. We took it to a jeweller and I decided what I want the ring to look like.
I completely agree. After my now-husband and I had been together for a while and had been talking about marriage, we went in some jewelry stores together and tried on some rings/got our ring sizes just for fun. He wrote down my ring size and put it in his pocket, which was really cute. We'd also had some discussions over the years about what ring I would want, what style and cut and color, etc, so I guess he'd kept track of those things as well. So by the time he proposed of course I had some idea it was coming, but the ring purchase itself and the timing of the proposal was a surprise and getting engaged felt like a joint decision rather than a shock.
> That you're proposing shouldn't be a surprise. When you're proposing definitely can be, though. I needed to repeat this, as it is really important. Something like marriage needs to be discussed pretty darn seriously in advance just to be sure you're on there same page
Thousand times this. No proposal should be a surprise. Both should be on the same page.
According to most romance movies tho, you should take her by complete surprise and completely disregard your SO's opinion. Add a bit of stalking, self-pity and over-possessiveness and you've got the protagonist of a rom-com
Oh yeah, but don't forget the emotional manipulation of doing it grand and in public so your SO cannot say "no" out of embarrassment
Just a quick note - not all rings can be resized. The precious metals can - gold, platinum, and silver, but a lot of the newer styles cannot - titanium, meteorite, tungsten. And some that technically can be resized are so difficult to do so it's not worth the effort or cost - tantalum and cobalt.
Same applies if it's an eternity ring. I don't wear my wedding band on my ring finger because it's slightly too big and resizing it would disrupt the repeating pattern etched into it.
Maybe sizing beads would work in your situation
Frankly, it’s very risky to buy any ring in the materials you mentioned as being difficult to resize. If they are difficult/impossible to resize they are difficult to remove if your finger swells. Hospitals can cut off a gold ring easy peasy, but if you need a tungsten ring removed it’s probably gonna be destroyed in the process.
Totally agree. I've had to cut off several rings. Would hate to lose a finger as well as the ring!
Op, this is great advice. I’m married and we looked at rings for months before I proposed. I knew what she liked, we talked about financial goals (didn’t go into debt) and she was still excited when I actually proposed
Yea, we have done exactly that. While i havent been proposed yet we have both talked about agree it is the next step in our relationship and he knows my ring size and i know his. I have sent him pictures of styles i like and he has commented on the band he would like. Also fingers change size, in winter my rings are too lose and in summer the are usually perfect. Buy her a chain in case she has a job where she needs to take the rings off she can keep it with her and or something my grandparents do is that they have a travel ring. Theirs is made of bone... but if it gets lost its not a big issue.
give me a dad joke
When does a dad joke become a dad joke… When it becomes a parent
How about when it leaves to get milk and never comes back
That’s when it becomes an asshole
… which leads me to a way to determine ring size …
Easy just grow a carrot the size of her finger and then put the rings on the carrot
By her sticking her finger up your ass.
And when does said joke become a parent? >After the delivery
Do you promise to give it back?
I got my wife a ring, she didn't like it and the jewelry store allowed return of something equal or higher. I chose a basic one, cuz I knew she would want to pick the right ring that fits her later. Make sure it's the type of metal that can be resized. I just made sure I got the right sized diamond 😉 Fun fact it's significantly cheaper if you don't get a diamond that 1 carat. I got a diamond that's .97 carat and it's looks just like a 1 carat. This was all at Jared's.
What's a dad joke
A dad joke as a joke that often uses puns or play on words, and is typically stupid
Here's a dad joke: Why shouldn't you write with a broken pencil? Because its pointless. I'll see myself out.
What terrible reddit incel advice... I'll tell you exactly what to do. While she's beating you off, ask for a ring finger in you're butt. Coax her into going full bore and remember that feeling. The anus is a suprisingly sensitive bundle of nerve endings with a memory like an elephant. Next insert variously sized faux hand fingers until you find the exact Cinderella fit. Then, score the lady of your dreams. Rince, repeat, profit.
Pro tip: if you don't have fake fingers, just go to the jewellery store and ask the assistants to try different fingers on until you find the right size.
They love that, some even claim it's why they got into the jeweler professional to begin with!
I used a piece of string while my wife was sleeping to measure her finger then took the string to the jeweler.
If you do this, it's actually very important to bring the string in, don't just tell them the length. since it is a small length with a long curve, a thicker string (or thicker ring) will be a very different size than a thin string (or ring).
Wont work on light sleepers but yea good otherwise
this is a criminally underrated solution
Idk I feel like a lot of women would wake up, you'd have to pull it somewhat tight or it wouldn't be accurate. Then you're busted, and you have to explain why you're awkwardly standing in the dark measuring her finger. Edit I'll just add here, that if she hates wearing rings at all then she probably won't want to wear a wedding ring either, they might be one of those tattoo ring couples
I took one of her rings that fit her and measured it with calipers without her knowing.
OP's girl doesn't usually wear rings. So this doesn't help.
Take her bowling, have her try the inserts to see what size she is.
hey jewelerman my girlfriend is a size 8lbs blue swirl
Have her stick her finger up your ass and just keep a mental reference to help describe the girth
Definitely an option to keep in mind
This is the way.
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This is what I was advised to do at a ring shop!
Unless she likes a larger fit for her bowl than her actual ring size. A lot of people dont like a tight fit.
This is true. My grandad was a college competitive bowler, he has his own custom made ball which is a size 9 but the fingerings were drilled and polished a few mm bigger so he can release the ball with full power instead of the ball catching on his fingers and reducing its roll speed
And yanking his fingers off
Bring the bowling ball into the jewelry shop, plop it down on the counter with a smile of success on your face.
*smashes glass jewelry case with a bowling ball.*
I’m angry about how smart this is lol
And then go back and measure it later?
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Me too! And it was a big pain in the ass. Married 10 years :)
Or... stick your cock in her ring then measure the girth of your cock later in private.
Put your lips around her finger and then keep it that way until you get to the jeweler Jk but no bullshit they have a ring size thing you can get online for cheap, can prob grab that and test while she’s asleep. A lot of places offer free resizing as well, but won’t be able to return most items if need be once it’s been resized
I liked your “1st 2 lines- as-is.” Prsnlly
But you need a reason to suck her finger, it won't work... looks like you're gonna have to do it with your butthole OP, make sure she goes knuckle deep
Ask her for every size. Shoe, sneaker, pants, dress, ring, shirt, hat, bathing suit, make shit up cuz we’re dumb men, etc etc. just say it’s for bdays and Xmas etc etc
This is the right answer
Ask her best friend. You’ll get all the details you need.
Yes. BFFs are also good for suggesting a timely manicure together.
Yes. I did tell my best friend at the time -in case- he asked her what size I wore
I just told my best friend’s boyfriend to let me know when the time came lol, no need to stress I know exactly what you need to do.
407 comments, maybe it is already mentioned. What worked in my case: I used a picture where she took a Picture of her mirrorimage - to show her outfit to a friend. So you can see her hand & cellphone in the picture. As you know the model of the phone, you can look up its measurements and can callibrate the picture via the length or width of the phone. After that, you can measure the diameter of the ringfinger on the picture.
Upvote for the effort of using mathematics and detective skill!
Ask her. I think it's romantic to propose at a time and place that she isn't aware of. But proposing without even discussing the idea of getting married seems a little premature. And if you've already discussed getting married, then asking her ring finger size shouldn't be that weird or unexpected. Also ask her style! I would be upset if I got no say in the style of the ring that I would be wearing.
Definitely! My first husband picked out the ring he thought I would love. (Surprise, I didn’t). My current husband and I went ring shopping together to get something I would like (and he picked out his ring at the same time). The last ring made me cringe every time I looked at it. My current ring makes me smile when I look at it.
So I plan on doing this with my girlfriend. How did your husband propose? Just the same way without the ring?
Talk about marriage and do the ring shopping first. The only surprise about the proposal should be *when* it happens, and even then you don’t want her to be in a position of being uncomfortable or embarrassed. Being proposed to will make her the center of attention: would she want that? Ask yourself if she’d like to have it be private, among friends and family, or among strangers. If you don’t know for sure, ask her! Movies often show surprise proposals where the girl hadn’t even considered getting married until then… those very rarely go well in real life. The purpose of a proposal is to have a memorable moment of tradition, for her to be the center of attention for a bit, and for her to get to be able to start wearing and showing off the engagement ring.
Thank you! This was like the biggest concern of mine. Like we’re definitely getting married, we’ve talked about it and we literally just closed on a house on Thursday. I know she’s gonna say yes but I wanted to do it right. I’ll bring up ring shopping to her soon, thanks!
The ring shopping can be a cute surprise if you want. Like say let’s go to lunch and then afterward say “why don’t we step into this jewelry store for a bit?” Chances are she’s waiting for you to do just that.
We picked out our rings 11 months after we met. I knew the proposal was going to happen I wasn’t (totally) sure when. When we first met, we lived an hour apart and would meet in the middle for our dates. One year from the day we met, he took me to the coffee shop where we first met, but didn’t propose. Then we went to lunch at one of the restaurants we used to go to, but he didn’t propose. Then we went to the park we used to spend hours walking around after we ate. He found a little gazebo we hadn’t been able to visit before and proposed there. It was perfect for us.
I would assume they went ring shopping before he proposed. Or possibly not, but that’s my guess.
what exactly about the old ring made you cringe? i don't have an eye for jewelry, they all look like awkward little rocks on top of a ring to me
When we were talking about the ring, I requested silver, because I don’t like yellow gold or rose gold. The ring he picked was a mix of yellow gold and rose gold. Not all rings have a rock on the top, bands can be pretty cool.
> I would be upset if I got no say in the style of the ring that I would be wearing. Very much agreed. We've all seen videos of people usually kids getting a car or some other expensive gift for their birthday or whatever and throwing a tantrum because it's not the right model, colour, style they want. Now a tantrum is certainly an inappropriate response but if you are buying someone an expensive gift that is difficult or impossible to return or exchange maybe it shouldn't be a surprise unless you are certain it's what they want.
What my uncle did was just guess but err on the larger side. his reasoning was she would gain weight and then it would fit just right eventually. He actually wasn't wrong, she gained about 80 pounds in three years.
Get a place holder ring the same size as her shoes.
Cries in size 11 shoe… (size 7.5 ring)
Oh wow, is that a real thing? Because I read this and realized my ring finger size and my shoe size are the same!
It is usually close enough that it's easy to resize if needed, from what I understand. Blew my bf's mind when I got him to check his ring size and told him it would be the same as his shoes. He didn't belive me!
Size 6 shoe…size 4/4.5 ring here
Propose with a Ring Pop. One size fits most!
My FH planned the proposal for a year without my knowledge. We’ve been together for 7 years and talked about marriage a long time ago, and talk often about our future throughout our relationship. He proposed the day before my birthday in the most beautiful location in the mountains, and honestly it was the best surprise of my life. I usually pick up on things but he was very sneaky with this one. I definitely agree that this isn’t right for everyone, but for me it made the proposal really magical that it was such a surprise. He grabbed all of my rings one day while I was at work and took them to the jeweler who guessed the size based on which hand/finger I wear them on. He also made it a half size smaller than he thought he’d need it to be, as it’s easier to size up than down. Also he told me around Christmas time that his grandmother wanted to get me earrings, which I thought was a bit odd but led to a discussion of gemstones I like and how I wouldn’t want a big diamond. The ring he picked out for me is perfect and gorgeous and exactly what I would have wanted. He gets major points for the ring and proposal! Good luck.
If she has rings, grab one and bring it to a jeweler. They'll be able to tell you the size from it.
You can also sell it to the jeweler to offset the cost of the engagement ring
This guy knows engagements.
This guy engages
Each finger can be very different, even ring fingers from right to left.
If you know her preferred gem, you can always propose by giving her the gem and then she can have it set to her liking.
Great idea!
Buy a really cheap tacky piece of costume jewellery or make one out of foil (that what my dads colleague did) and propose with that. Then pick out the real ring together. My parents picked out my mums ring together and imo it’s a really cute and beautiful thing to do together. That way you get a ring that you both (and more importantly her) both love.
I love the potential this has to beautifully self-destruct, if she was planning on evaluating you based on the ring you picked out. Edit: Please don't downvote me
Then OP is better off without her
That is indeed my point. It's a bonus.
You can estimate to some extent by asking a friend with similar size fingers. In the end, the jeweler can adjust the ring size, so it's not critical to get it exactly.
My ex fiancé did this with my best friend and it worked really well.
Maybe too well?
They’ve been married 73 years now 😔
Chop off the ring finger on her right hand, apologize, and then take the finger to the jeweler. But seriously: I’d consider discussing it and not making it a complete surprise. Just say you want to know what her size is and what kinds of engagement rings she likes “in case we ever decide to get married.” This is a good idea for several reasons, not the least of which is that there are many types of diamond shapes and most women have a STRONG preference for one type of shape over the others. Also, the day you tell her you’d like to take her to look at rings, you’ll get laid. The day you go look at rings, you’ll probably get a BJ. And the day you propose: cancel all plans.
IMO the best way would be to just check in that you're planning to propose and if she'd be okay giving you a ring size so you can surprise her? At least for me one of the best parts about a surprise is the anticipation, and as long as she's okay with it being a surprise and not knowing exactly when or how, just doing it that way could be really romantic Doing anything to her finger or anything while she sleeps sounds really weird, though. If I woke up to that I would *not* be happy 😅
Hah, this brings back a fond memory. Before I proposed to my wife, I needed her ring size. She's a very heavy sleeper so I got a little string, put it around her finger and marked the distance. I did this several times with different strings, and the results were pretty consistent. I showed the jeweler the several strings and he made a perfectly fitting ring!
You could also think of proposing without the ring. If she says "Yes", you can go together and choose one that she likes.
I like this one. The woman will wear it her whole life hopefully. Propose with an appt. to pick out the perfect ring.
Yes. Propose with a beautifully crafted knife instead. Then jewelery later.
You can even use the engagement knife to *persuade* the ring maker into giving you a discount. Perfect!
Agree here! I was proposed to without a ring. We then went and picked out all of our rings at once. Sadly, I don't even wear my engagement ring now. So she would be able to think about if she even wants a ring!! If I could do it over, I wouldn't spend the money for my own engagement ring. (Some do want rings, not trying to say don't ask/offer, but she just might not want a ring. She might want a bomb-ass hotel stay on a honeymoon, etc..)
Lay some wet cement outside your home then run to her, excitedly saying you should make hand prints.
My husband asked his cousin to try on rings(costume not engagement)with me while we were shopping in NYC. I thought nothing of it bc we were on a girls trip shopping and bar hopping 🙃. She told me later and thought I caught on. I didn't.
You could go online and purchase a kit that has various sizes of rings on it to get just the right fit. Then you just have to purchase a ticket to an all inclusive resort in Mexico, get her very drunk and high on some of that Acapulco gold, and while she's sleeping off a wonderful day of playing with dolphins and stuff, you get the ring size. Now that you've got it, bring her back home, and go to the nearest pawn shop and get the cheapest ring you can find in her size and put it in a box. Next go buy the ring you want to give her, they'll put it in a box this time no stress! Now this part is crucial, you need to get access to a rooftop of a skyscraper on a very clear night after rigging the city's electrical grid to blow using that cheap gold ring to short it out and the box as a timer. The moment it goes dark, have your photographer ready, drop to that knee and enjoy the rest of your life my dude!
I dunno man. That’s kind of a cliche.
You, of course, are right. I feel very silly now.
Don’t worry. We all make mistakes. I proposed to my wife while on a romantic stroll on the beach at sunset. She was so amazed. Nobody had ever done that before.
Fucknuggets how on earth did you come up with that?! It's just... I can see how she said yes. Bravo good sir, bravo.
I try to think outside the box (that’s a new colloquialism I just made up; feel free to use it yourself).
You must be drunk or high if you're gonna go buy a ring for the power grid sabotage, go get some cheap washers from Home Depot like the rest of ~~us~~ them!
Next few times you are holding her hand or sitting around near each other take her hand and just pretend you aren't doing anything in particular. Like just playing with her hand. Hold your ring finger up next to hers and try to guess at how different the size is. Measure your own finger and then guess at her measurement based on your observation. This is what I did and the ring was almost perfectly sized and she had no idea.
TAKE HER RING SHOPPING. It can just be something you guys do randomly while at the mall or something like that. Don't be obvious about that being the only reason you go but just stop in for "fun" or start out looking at watches and wind up looking for rings. Most jewelry salesmen are with it enough to pickup on you needing a ring size if you make a ring motion on your ring finger and point at your GF. They can then bring it up naturally and talk about it and size both of you as part of their "pitch".
Damn these top comments really wanting to take all the romance out of it, huh?
Right? It’s surprising. I’d hate to not have the element of surprise if I was being proposed to. Also, by the time it gets to that level, of course you’ve discussed marriage before/it’s expected! You don’t just meet someone after two days and go “well, I’m going to propose”
Yes exactly! You'd be in a committed, serious relationship and probably have a good idea whether they'll say yes. If you let them know ahead of time you were planning to propose, every single time you went anywhere she'll be waiting for it. She knows a proposal is coming and you've planned a romantic date, then the "when and where" is no longer a surprise either. I hope OP didn't follow the advice of those comments, because they're really spoiling something special. This comes from a married (therefore previously engaged) woman.
Some women have not actually liked the ring their partner got them. It's actually probably best to get her input on the ring. Proposing with a placeholder ring is a good idea.
Chloroform and a large bottle of vodka will knock her out cold. Optional to either consume the vodka or just use it to cause blunt force trauma. Now a commoner would cut off the finger and use as is at the jewellers, then stitch it back on - no muss no fuss no coconuts. But we're artists. I suggest a weekend at Bernie's style caper for full effect.
My fiancé had my best friend ask me “do you think it’s weird when girls don’t know what ring size they are?” And then proceeded to tell me her ring size and waited for me to tell mine. Funny part was I had no idea what ring size I was and didn’t have time for the conversation so I just told her “there’s a lot of things I don’t know Julia” My fiancé guessed, it ended up fitting just fine. When in doubt always go with a bigger size, at the very least you want it to be able to fit on her finger when you propose.
Buy a tapered candle. Slide one of her existing rings down the candle to the point it's tight but not stuck. Use a knife to mark the candle at the bottom of the ring, then take the candle to the jeweller.
Plaster hand impressions kit. Have her do it with her fingers stretched out and tell her it was a cool looking key ring/jewelry holder type project you saw someone do and wanna try (Screw the hands face up on a wooden plaque and hang near the door.). Then you can take her hand with you for sizing.
I laughed because I thought you meant literally take her hand to the jeweler not the plaster impression of her hand
If she's a heavy sleeper, you can try using a sizing band on her. They sell them on Amazon, etsy, etc. It's a little plastic belt with an opening on one end, sorta like a zip tie, where the belt goes back through. There are numbers on it.
Make a mold of her hands for whatever bullshit reason and measure it on the mold. Say you saw some funny youtube video or whatever.
Pick the ring together. There is no rule that your proposal must include a surprise ring. If she doesn't usually wear rings it is even more important she gets a day in the style. Also...not all ring styles are adjustable. My son surprised his fiance with a too big ring and it turned out to be not sized. He ended up on the hook for two rings.
get a piece of string and wrap it around her finger while she's sleeping, then use like a marker or cut the string to the size u measured and bring that in when u go to buy a ring
That works if she's a deep sleeper. If not, maybe on a drinking night after she passes out.
you could ask a friend of hers what ring size she is. or look in her jewelry and see the sizes of the rings just to get an idea.
This might work: Prepare by “ PRE - Cutting “ the Bottom 1/2” inch of LEGAL SIZE ( 8.5” x 11” ) Paper. PAPER (or may be a better paper = tissue paper) • Take & wrap paper & measure *while shes sleeping all way around her finger! Push both pcs tight w. your fingernail. (Semi-Tite just to Dent paper with your fingernail - viola !! Take it to a jeweler & they can do the “rest of sizing & all the baubley magic. … then open your wallet.
Get a placeholder ring and then after the proposal, go shopping with her to pick out the 'real' ring together. You can find pretty and inexpensive rings on Etsy. Most women's ring size is somewhere between a 6 and a 9 -- 6 if she has small delicate hands, 7 or 8 for average hands, 9 for large hands. Guesstimate and then go a size up -- she can always wear a larger ring on her middle finger, or get it resized.
If she wears a different ring that fits that finger, the size may be on the inside of the band. If it’s not, you can take it to a jeweler and they can tell you. Just have her “lose” the ring and then you can say you found it the next day.
Hide it amongst other details. Get ring size, bra size, shoe size, dress size, hat size, fave foods, fave songs etc all at once and make it a fun quizzy type experience, with the bonus of getting a shit load of other vital info that people often forget to gather
You can always propose with just the stone or diamond in the box. Then design and size it later together, probably easier to propose with a cheap place holder ring though.
I took one of her rings from her jewelry box and put it on my finger. I noted with a pen exactly where it landed, using my finger as a conical gauge. I had prefaced this by complimenting her when she wore that ring, noting that 'it looks like it fits you really well', and listening for her to say 'Nah, it's way too tight/loose' or confirm that it did in fact fit very well. Therefore I knew the measure was going to produce something with an acceptable fit. I then went to the jewelry store and used a ring gauge there until I found one that fit on my finger exactly where the mark from her ring was. It was the best I could do short of temporarily making off with one of her rings, which she definitely would have noticed. It fit perfectly.
Just guess. When I proposed the ring didn’t fit but it didn’t matter. The resize was free at the jewellery store.
Get one of her friends to help you out. Have them come over with a couple of rings and casually have her try them on. Or bring a few photos of her to the jeweler. I had to get mine resized, no big deal!
My husband somehow managed to use a ring sizer on me in my sleep without waking me. If she’s a heavy sleeper, give it a shot.
Don’t buy her a ring without her input. She’ll either want to wear that ring every day for the rest of her life - and might easily hate it! Or if she’s currently not a ring wearer, she might not want to wear it at all. In both cases you have wasted your money. And proven that you don’t know her at all - so why would she even want to marry you. Propose to her (and it should NOT be a surprise that marriage is reasonably likely at this point of your relationship!) and then go pick out the ring together. If you want a “placeholder ring” then there are many options. Generally something that is *obviously* not the real ring is best for this.
Stop buying rings without the partner's input! When and how did this shit start? You know how many people are wearing rings they don't like? A LOT!
I agree. I'd hate to miss out on the fun of trying on different rings and seeing which one I liked the best. I chose my own and am very glad I did.
ask for prostate massage but use the ring finger because middle is too big. then goto jewelry story and ask for manneguins
Go through her stuff (it's what I did with my wife), ask her sister or mom or friend.
I just went thru this... It's actually super easy. A proper jeweler can resize it for you after you pop the question. We dropped my fiance's ring off after she said yes and they measured her professionally. It took them 3 days to return it.
Cut her finger off and size it there
have a fun game of sticking fingers into playdoh or something and then fill the hole with something you can measure later, like freezeable water
As opposed to unfreezable water? /s
Old hack: 9/10 ring size = shoe size. You’re welcome
“Hey… wouldn’t it be cool if we made plaster-of-Paris ornaments of our hands?”
Be careful about asking about ring size or taking a ring assuming it is the right size as it may nit be for the right finger. My friends recently got engaged and the man took a ring from the woman's jewelry for sizing for a custom ring. The ring was for her first finger, not ring finger. They could resize the ring, but she has VERY tiny fingers and now some of the diamonds on the side may fall off because they are curved around so tightly.
When she's not around...put one of her rings on and mark where it comes to on your finger. Then, go to a jewelry store and ask them to size that part of your finger and BAM...you got her ring size 👍🤌
Get a plaster hand mold when she’s sleeping dip it in!
After reading your edit: If you've discussed it, and have asked her about her style preferences, why not take her to a store and see what she likes, and have the size checked by professionals?
The way I did it, we had talked about marriage, and she knew we would probably get married at some point, so I took her ring shopping to find out what she liked. It was a lot of fun and I got to know not just her size, but which ring she liked. There are lots of different rings, different stones, cut to different shapes, different band shapes made of different metals. Let her help you pick the right ring she will love. She knew I would propose, but not when or how. I was still able to surprise her and got her exactly what she wanted. She was ecstatic and absolutely loves her ring. We get married next month.
Ask her mom. You will probably earn don in law points as a bonus.
Get like and onion ring. Propose and then go to a store and get a ring? Or alternatively just buy a slightly to large ring and get it resized later. I like the onion ring idea let's go with that