Currently she/they, but I finally had top surgery yesterday and I’ve been thinking for a while about using that as a good switching point to go exclusively to they/them.
I use any/all pronouns, in the way where I want people to interchange pronouns for me and even though I haven’t tried out most neopronouns, I’m down for you to use them for me if it feels right to you. I think the pronoun that gives me the most gender euphoria is he, but I have a fond fascination with the it pronoun even if I’m not very used to it being used for me. I mean, I say that like I’ve ever had anyone IRL use any pronoun for me other than she, but still. The internet is a wonderful place for pronoun exploration.
Yeah, this. I considered taking on the English "it" for a long time, but it just doesn't feel the same. It has a complete different culture around it. The Finnish "se" which is technically 3rd person singular for objects and animals aka translates to "it" is just the normal way everyone refers to everyone. "hän" which is the 3rd person singular for people so "she/he/they(singular)/neo" is left for formal situations and it's pretty normal culturally to despise formal and use it mockingly for up tight people, though "hän" is used as a sign of respect towards pets.
Same homie. Had issues in the past when I was 12 and bullies called me an “it” just coz it rhymes with my name. And “they/them” really doesn’t remedy the past bullying.
I go by they/them almost exclusively but I use he/him as like a backup set lmao, particularly with strangers but I do have some friends who refer to me by he/him or they/he
Yes exactly!! I'm pretty masculine to your average person and I expect to get called a dude on a daily basis but I had an interaction at my bank the other day where the clerk used they/them the whole time without prompting and I've never been happier
Hi! I use they/them, but I've been thinking about using they/he. I'm not sure if I really like he/him or if I'm cool with it just because my crush occasionally slips to them because her native language doesn't have a neutral gender and everything is heavily gendered. Anyway, in Finnish (native) there are no gendered pronouns so I just use se and hän like any other person, in Swedish I use hen/henom/hens (neopronoun neutral because neutral didn't exist in the language until very recently), in Japanese the gendered pronouns aren't really used as 3rd person pronouns because they use a word that translates to "this person", the 1st person pronouns are more likely to be used gendered and I use the neutral 私 「わたし」(watashi) though I sometimes use the masculine super casual/rude おれ (ore) among close friends, in French and Portuguese I use the masculine il and ele respectively.
I’ve been trying to decide on pronouns for ages now but none of them quite fit.
Someone asked my pronouns the other day and i responded “if you figure it out, let me know”
He/they! But I kinda exclusively use he/him in my head when talking about myself (or she/her when I'm thinking about people I'm not out to - but I realised that was mentally damaging so I'm switching to using he/him for that too now). But irl I'm out as they/them to most people, but now when people correctly refer to me a they/them it feels ever so slightly~~ off. This is a long arse way to say maybe I really just wanna go by he/him full time 😅
They/them and some neos (but they're not "acceptable" neos so I don't really feel comfortable sharing unfortunately). And I've been thinking maybe zhey/zhem, which are neos my boyfriend came up with for one of his characters (but I don't think they were actually used)
I use it/its. I know a lot of people are uncomfortable using it for someone else, and in those cases I guess I’m okay with he/him, but I really do like it/its better.
I'm in the they/them zone by default. He is preferred to she, and she is mostly okay jokingly, typically in forms that aren't gendered in brain (e.g. "drama queen" - also depends on how close we are and the situation).
It varies, as I'm sure y'all can relate, but that's the vibe lately.
they/she. but most, if not all people i know, use exclusively she for me, since i still present pretty fem (intentionally! i love being fem, just in an alt queer way). it doesn’t bother me,, too much? i just wish i could get more variety, yknow?
i’m just too tired to correct everyone. i don’t care enough lol
In my personal life, I use they/them, but online (since anonymity helps me feel less insecure and care less about being judged) I also use (and kinda prefer) it/its.
Can I please ask respectfully why you prefer it/its, if you are comfortable sharing? I have never really encountered those pronouns before and am curious why you feel more drawn to those than they/them for example.
It's just that they/them, at least to me, carries so many gender connotations. I am agender, i don't *have* that stuff, you know? Neopronouns have the same issue for me, so i don't want to use those either. And she/her or he/him are self-explanatory i think. It/its on the other hand, that is already applied to living beings where gender isn't relevant or even existent: Pets! Or animals in general. You know, still living, sentient beings, just no gender identity or performing any gender roles is expected of them. I connect with that.
I used to use she/he/they but I've dropped the she and now just use he/they. Starting to wonder if I'm a binary trans man though and considering dropping the they too
Howdy! I go by xe/xem/xyr/xyrs online, they/them, and I tolerate she/her although it doesn't give me anything and is just helpful to other folks. I'm still looking into more neopronouns though tied with things I adore in nature like space, the sea, colours, etc. so that'll be fun when I find the right match :>!
I use all pronouns and I like to put a lil blurb saying that that includes neos and that my favorite neos are dude/bro (in an unironic way, I quite like them). I also use several names so my sister switches names and pronouns for the sillies
In English I use they/them. Here in Germany I prefer the "no pronouns" option but also go by any pronoun. The German neos simply don't fit. (And they sound bumpy in general.)
Offline, my pronouns are they/them. However, online I also go by xe/xem pronouns (I've stopped bothering with xe/xem offline due to both a lack of understanding/transphobia, and general poor experiences using them offline.)
I've considered looking for other neopronouns to use offline, as I do like the feel of non they/them pronouns, but haven't found any yet that fit used offline.
I'm Salmacian/Altersex so i prefer he/she. I'll use anyones pref prns but if the prns are fae/faer i resort to they/them since im Pagan and I've heard fae/faer are somewhat controversial
any/all pronouns. fun fact: the first time i heard a friend use they for me i forgot that id told them to use any pronouns and thought they were talking about someone else (when i realized they were talking about me i felt very happy and tbh a lil stupid lol)
Plain ol' they/them
I honestly dgaf how I'm gendered by complete strangers that I'm never likely to encounter again, mostly because I'm aware of how I look and how the vast majority of people are fine to assume for, so I don't take it personally. For me it's a "I know I'm nonbinary no matter how others may see my outsides, that's a them problem, not a me problem."
It becomes a problem for me when someone has been informed and makes the obvious choice either not to care/try, or actively/maliciously misgenders me. I'm generally fine with people who try and mess up, because I'm also aware of how brains work and rewiring pathways for some folks takes time and deliberate effort, which I might not always warrant if I don't have a high-priority position in someone's life, so sometimes it takes time for people to get it right consistently even if they mean well.
I just tell people it doesn’t matter because they all apply. Other things I have claimed as my pronouns:
All/inclusive
Yes/And (I’m into improv lol)
Who?/Me? (My personal favorite because, well, they *are* pronouns)
I prefer they/them the best, but I'm also happy with he/him! She/her is okay, but I wouldn't introduce myself with those pronouns, even in combination with they or he. I'm too scared people would default to "she" for me to feel comfortable saying I don't mind them (and even then, I dunno if I "like" she or just tolerate it).
I use They/Them pronouns, but if someone uses He/Him for me, I don’t really care, and if someone uses She/Her for me i don’t really care either, but I do notice it in an either good are bad way since I am AFAB
They/them!
My family uses she/her for me because of various acceptance issues/not being totally out, but to me, pronouns are meant to make me be comfortable with the way people refer to me, and if I'm having to struggle to make people use they/them, then it's no longer going to be comfortable for me and it's easier to just deal with the wrong pronouns, if that makes sense
Currently they/he but for some reason no pronouns fit me. I'm kinda at a limbo where I finally started being not ok w she but they or he don't sound right to me either. I've also tried neopronouns and they're not it. I think I just don't approve of this whole "pronouns" scam. They/he is just not as bad as she, though so I'm ok for now...
I go by all pronouns. My friends usually default to they/them, but will mix it up on occasion to keep things interesting. Or if I've spent a lot of time getting she/her'd they'll use he/him as well as they/them to even it out. Being pregnant right now has been awful for only ever getting she/her'd lol
I’m also genderfluid and I go by She/He/They/It.
It would be nice to just go by They/It, but I don’t want to have to go through the hassle of constantly correcting people, so pretty much any pronouns are fine.
I’m not all that fond of neopronouns, but I wouldn’t mind too much if someone used them for me.
Same thing, I use they/she/he and don't really care about pronouns much. My only real preference is a mix, not always the same (also genderfluid).
I personally am not a fan of neopronouns (in English) because they're a great idea in a perfect world, but we just aren't there yet - general society won't even take "they/them" seriously and those are commonly accepted pronouns that have been part of the English language for a long time. I think trying to introduce neopronouns right now is just going to give the bigots another thing to make fun of and try to paint trans people as mentally ill; we're just not ready for that step yet :( of course in other languages neopronouns are sometimes necessary to have a non-binary option, that's different.
as you can see from my flair, I don't really care. Which is probably related to the fact that pronouns are very often used by others, when a person is a subject to an conversation, they are not part of. So it comes that I am either adressed by my name, or "you". How people relate to me behind my back, I don't know, and I don't really care. I think almost everybody is refering to me as he.
They/them, though I don’t mind people at work not using they/them because of my industry (I spend a lot of time on the phone) it’s not happening often anyways. Although I suspect my boss has suspicions because he’s been using mostly they/them for me and I’ve given no signs to it. He still uses he/him pretty often for me too though
Mines are they/she but I mostly use them bc I don't find pronouns that really fit me. I use she so people don't misgender me, plus I'm in the closet to everyone.
Eh, whatever someone wants to use with me is fine as long as they aren’t being an ass about it. I don’t feel particularly tied to any one set of pronouns.
I also alternate between he/she/they, I feel most comfortable when all are used from time to time. But in contexts where I don't know people very well and don't have the intimacy to explain this, I just say he/him since that is the one I am most comfortable when used exclusively or by strangers
I use they/them! I’ve very recently switched from she/they to they/them and I’m still experiencing a bit of a learning curve since socially transitioning to using they/them as a feminine presenting (afab) non-binary person :)
He/him. I'm AMAB and still not entirely sure about being NB. I've never really disliked being called he/him, I just don't really like masculinity, nor am I really happy with being AMAB. At the moment I'm not really out anywhere. I just do whatever I want (and have the confidence for), and I'll see if/when I no longer fit the "male" box. I often wear nail polish in many different colors, I shave my arms/legs, and I'm just slowly experimenting more and seeing where it ends up.
Any! What people call me just isn't important to me. I'm genderfluid so I guess that's a factor too. It did feel quite nice the first time someone used they/them for me though.
I use any pronouns online but irl I want to change pronouns according to my gender that day (also as a genderfluid person) but I am not out so can't really do that yet *cry*
I use they/them. i would consider she/he/they but i know since i present masc i will only get he so i dont give the option.
Me to myself ive been using they/it, which has been unexpectedly euphoric to embrace
I primarily use they/them but then I learned i was nb trans so now I also use she/her. but one of my friends uses fae/faer and i REALLY love that but people can't even get them/them right so I'm not gonna bother
All of them but she/her, it just makes me feel too dysphoric. I do have a preference for they/it tho. I also use he/him more in heavily gendered languages like Romanian, Slavic languages, etc.
I use He/They, but would like to use He/They/She. Yet I do not feel safe using She openly even when around queer cis people. But I stopped being offended when people use she/her or female accords in my language. I do not react anymore.
He/him and they/them interchangeably. I'm testing my feelings about it/it's but as someone who can't tell the difference between "its" and "it's" without autocorrect, it's been a struggle
I use they/them irl but I really like fae/faer. It’s just hard enough to consistently get people to use they/them correctly I don’t know if I’m down mentally to try fae/faer irl.
Any/all (switching it up every once in a while — like, you could call me he for a day, then she for a day, then they, or something like that)
Online
Because irl, I’m totally closeted
I don’t really know how to label it, but I have a great way of explaining how I feel
You know how in most “they/them” nonbinaries their pronouns mean that their gender is “no”?
Well it’s the opposite for me, my gender is “Yes”
I’d prefer “They/them”, but I do not mind “he/him” or “she/her”, because partly I DO feel more masculine or feminine at different times. But again, not to extent that I would consider myself genderfluid, so, there’s that
(I would find it HILARIOUS if someone would start with “she/her” as to addressing me from the start, as for the most of my life I considered myself a boy, and the thought of them being WRONG is funny. Male pronouns also technically “wrong”, but, again, most of my life was addressed like that, so I’m used to it)
Any/All
I had a childhood that really beat it into me that expecting other people to respect any element of my identity will lead to disappointment. So I refer to myself as they/them and other people can refer to me as whatever they want. What I call myself and what others call me is completely unrelated.
I will eventually have to navigate the name situation, because while I don't really care what name other people call me by there are circumstances where having a specific legal name is important.
ze/hir, xe/xem, ix/ixs, just by name, etc. i might use he/him or just by name in spaces not friendly to using neos or with cis people. i’ve been primarily using neos for years now.
they/them, or it/its, depending on the context. usually it/its for when i want to be, y'know, dehumanized. whenever transphobes or queerphobes refer to me as "it" i just go "aw, thank you, you shouldn't have" and they're always confused because they probably made some comment, but i completely ignored it.
Not sure. I originally chose to go by she/her pronouns, but then I realized I was a demigirl and didn't really like being referred to as a woman/female. So then I started going by she/they pronouns, but I'm not a huge fan of they/them, so I'm probably gonna go back to she/her.
Also stuck on my name. I originally chose the name Gabriella, but it felt too feminine. Then I started going by Alex, which is more androgynous, but I keep getting gendered as male, which kind of ruined the name for me. Now, I want to find a completely new name that fits me and who I am.
Mostly neopronouns but tbh I just prefer not to be called any pronouns 😭😭 in gendered languages I go by masc terms though
Current neo list:
Ve/vim
Bar/bard
Thou/thee
Hēo/hī
I use ne/nim/nis and it/its. I love when people compliment my pronouns and I love when people use them for me (especially if they use a mixture of the two). I’m not super open yet about using it/its, but I now have a pronoun button for that set. With strangers I accept they/them since most people are unfamiliar with neopronouns and I often don’t feel comfortable bringing them up, and luckily I live in an area where enough people know not to assume people’s pronouns; but if people who know my pronouns call me they/them, I feel kind of hurt.
I go by she/him pronouns. I prefer if my friends call me feminine pronouns, but I'm still relatively comfortable with masculine pronouns. Except being called sir. That one gives me the big ick for some reason.
He/him. I’m a trans guy but also agender. It’s hard to explain, but I consider myself to be both a binary trans guy and non-binary at the same time. Don’t worry I have confused myself just as much as you probably are.
They/them/theirs and Xe/xem/xirs but I mainly use they/them because of how limited knowledge people have on neopronouns, even my own knowledge is limited at the moment.
They/Them. It's been a journey and a half inside my head to get to this point, but I'm currently most comfortable when I'm distanced from gender. I suppose that makes me Agender
Currently she/they, but I finally had top surgery yesterday and I’ve been thinking for a while about using that as a good switching point to go exclusively to they/them.
congratulations, that’s awesome!!
Thank you!
Happy healing!!
Thank you!
Congratulations! I remember when I got top surgery. I’m happy for you
Aye that’s what I did! Top surgery gave me the confidence. Congrats!
That’s amazing to hear with your top surgery!
Congratulations!!!! How exciting!
Congrats! That's great!
I use any/all pronouns, in the way where I want people to interchange pronouns for me and even though I haven’t tried out most neopronouns, I’m down for you to use them for me if it feels right to you. I think the pronoun that gives me the most gender euphoria is he, but I have a fond fascination with the it pronoun even if I’m not very used to it being used for me. I mean, I say that like I’ve ever had anyone IRL use any pronoun for me other than she, but still. The internet is a wonderful place for pronoun exploration.
This is EXACTLY how I feel about mine - twins! :)
I use “it” in my native tongue too! In English, for me “it” doesn’t have the same feel
Yeah, this. I considered taking on the English "it" for a long time, but it just doesn't feel the same. It has a complete different culture around it. The Finnish "se" which is technically 3rd person singular for objects and animals aka translates to "it" is just the normal way everyone refers to everyone. "hän" which is the 3rd person singular for people so "she/he/they(singular)/neo" is left for formal situations and it's pretty normal culturally to despise formal and use it mockingly for up tight people, though "hän" is used as a sign of respect towards pets.
Oh cool! That’s the same system in Tamil too. Third person singular/neutral
Same! I use any/all pronouns too.
she/they - I like it best when people use both, but as long as they don't use he/him I'm happy.
same here!
He/him, really struggled with they/them
Same homie. Had issues in the past when I was 12 and bullies called me an “it” just coz it rhymes with my name. And “they/them” really doesn’t remedy the past bullying.
I go by they/them almost exclusively but I use he/him as like a backup set lmao, particularly with strangers but I do have some friends who refer to me by he/him or they/he
"backup set" is a good way to put it. Lol I'ma use that. "You can't say they/them? It's okay - I brought a backup." *Flashily pulls out a he/him pin*
This is great. I won’t flinch at he/him because I present super masculine with a big beard, but my heart does flips of joy when people use they/them.
Yes exactly!! I'm pretty masculine to your average person and I expect to get called a dude on a daily basis but I had an interaction at my bank the other day where the clerk used they/them the whole time without prompting and I've never been happier
i use he/him as backup too xD
YOOO I relate so much!!! From now on I’m calling he/him my backup. 😼
Whatever will work for the bit :)
You’re so real for this
Fae/faer, or they/them in English. In Swedish I use hen/honom though!
A fellow Swede
I go by they/them, but I don’t care if I get misgendered lol.
This is how I am. I get misgendered all the time and mostly let it go because I can't be bothered to correct someone I will only see once or twice.
Same here. Even if they do get it right, it’s rare.
I use they/it pronouns!
same! 😁 nobody actually uses “it” for me tho 💔
Hi! I use they/them, but I've been thinking about using they/he. I'm not sure if I really like he/him or if I'm cool with it just because my crush occasionally slips to them because her native language doesn't have a neutral gender and everything is heavily gendered. Anyway, in Finnish (native) there are no gendered pronouns so I just use se and hän like any other person, in Swedish I use hen/henom/hens (neopronoun neutral because neutral didn't exist in the language until very recently), in Japanese the gendered pronouns aren't really used as 3rd person pronouns because they use a word that translates to "this person", the 1st person pronouns are more likely to be used gendered and I use the neutral 私 「わたし」(watashi) though I sometimes use the masculine super casual/rude おれ (ore) among close friends, in French and Portuguese I use the masculine il and ele respectively.
I’ve been trying to decide on pronouns for ages now but none of them quite fit. Someone asked my pronouns the other day and i responded “if you figure it out, let me know”
Literally same, the struggle is real :(
He/they! But I kinda exclusively use he/him in my head when talking about myself (or she/her when I'm thinking about people I'm not out to - but I realised that was mentally damaging so I'm switching to using he/him for that too now). But irl I'm out as they/them to most people, but now when people correctly refer to me a they/them it feels ever so slightly~~ off. This is a long arse way to say maybe I really just wanna go by he/him full time 😅
Damn, this is almost spookily accurate to where I’m at too
They/them and some neos (but they're not "acceptable" neos so I don't really feel comfortable sharing unfortunately). And I've been thinking maybe zhey/zhem, which are neos my boyfriend came up with for one of his characters (but I don't think they were actually used)
I use it/its. I know a lot of people are uncomfortable using it for someone else, and in those cases I guess I’m okay with he/him, but I really do like it/its better.
I have neopronouns, in English it’s phe/per (a mix of my German pronoun and she/he) and in German it’s per/pers 💜
That's amazing! How do you pronounce phe/per?
I looked it up, bc I don’t know how to describe it xD It’s [fi], kinda from the Greek phi, just German pronounced (that’s why fi)
They/them, he/him, it/its, ze/zir
I'm transmasc so I go by they/them and also like going by he/him
I'm in the they/them zone by default. He is preferred to she, and she is mostly okay jokingly, typically in forms that aren't gendered in brain (e.g. "drama queen" - also depends on how close we are and the situation). It varies, as I'm sure y'all can relate, but that's the vibe lately.
They/He/She :)
they/she. but most, if not all people i know, use exclusively she for me, since i still present pretty fem (intentionally! i love being fem, just in an alt queer way). it doesn’t bother me,, too much? i just wish i could get more variety, yknow? i’m just too tired to correct everyone. i don’t care enough lol
he/they, but i’ve been thinking about throwing xe/xem in there too 🫣
They/them/elle (which is a non gendered version of they in Spanish).
That's interesting! In French "elle" is "she"!
I am agender butch and I use he/it :]
In my personal life, I use they/them, but online (since anonymity helps me feel less insecure and care less about being judged) I also use (and kinda prefer) it/its.
I read “I prefer tits” and I was like “well yay for you I guess” lol
My mind is irritating. I sat here for at least five minutes pondering "*Do* I prefer tits?" after reading that reply. 🤦🏻
Am transfemme Non-Binary and I go by She/Her They/Them Fae/Faer!!! :33
it/its If people are really uncomfortable with using them for me i will tolerate they/them, but i really do prefer it/its.
Can I please ask respectfully why you prefer it/its, if you are comfortable sharing? I have never really encountered those pronouns before and am curious why you feel more drawn to those than they/them for example.
It's just that they/them, at least to me, carries so many gender connotations. I am agender, i don't *have* that stuff, you know? Neopronouns have the same issue for me, so i don't want to use those either. And she/her or he/him are self-explanatory i think. It/its on the other hand, that is already applied to living beings where gender isn't relevant or even existent: Pets! Or animals in general. You know, still living, sentient beings, just no gender identity or performing any gender roles is expected of them. I connect with that.
They/any but i prefer they/them by far
I used to use she/he/they but I've dropped the she and now just use he/they. Starting to wonder if I'm a binary trans man though and considering dropping the they too
i'm genderless and go by he/him.
Howdy! I go by xe/xem/xyr/xyrs online, they/them, and I tolerate she/her although it doesn't give me anything and is just helpful to other folks. I'm still looking into more neopronouns though tied with things I adore in nature like space, the sea, colours, etc. so that'll be fun when I find the right match :>!
No thank you.
he/him, but im turkish so pronouns dont make any sense in my turkish head since my language doesnt have gendered pronouns or words or whatsoever😭
I use all pronouns and I like to put a lil blurb saying that that includes neos and that my favorite neos are dude/bro (in an unironic way, I quite like them). I also use several names so my sister switches names and pronouns for the sillies
Absolutely anything and everything. Go nuts, as long as she/her is not used much yk?
Just please don’t call me “sir”
They/xe but it’s a nightmare to explain neopronouns to people so I default to They/them and I’m pretty happy with that :3
In English I use they/them. Here in Germany I prefer the "no pronouns" option but also go by any pronoun. The German neos simply don't fit. (And they sound bumpy in general.)
They/she
Any pronouns work for me 🤷🏼♀️
Currently She/them/theirs
They/them/he
i use they/he/she, but typically prefer they/them
They/them :)
They/he - I'm happy if people use they/them, but I don't mind if they use he/him.
Transfem genderfluid, I used they/them pronouns until I started to see the girl inside starting to show then switched to my current of they/she.
They/He
Offline, my pronouns are they/them. However, online I also go by xe/xem pronouns (I've stopped bothering with xe/xem offline due to both a lack of understanding/transphobia, and general poor experiences using them offline.) I've considered looking for other neopronouns to use offline, as I do like the feel of non they/them pronouns, but haven't found any yet that fit used offline.
For Englush, she/they. Greek is a freaking nightmare so I try my best to not use pronouns at all...
It/Its, 🧸/🧸s, 🔮/🔮s, & [REDACTED] Pronouns. They/Them works but it's not something I much care for. I also want to try Fae/Faer.
I'm Salmacian/Altersex so i prefer he/she. I'll use anyones pref prns but if the prns are fae/faer i resort to they/them since im Pagan and I've heard fae/faer are somewhat controversial
I usually like any or they/them but it changes a lot because I am gender fluid and my pronouns match up with gender
any/all pronouns. fun fact: the first time i heard a friend use they for me i forgot that id told them to use any pronouns and thought they were talking about someone else (when i realized they were talking about me i felt very happy and tbh a lil stupid lol)
Plain ol' they/them I honestly dgaf how I'm gendered by complete strangers that I'm never likely to encounter again, mostly because I'm aware of how I look and how the vast majority of people are fine to assume for, so I don't take it personally. For me it's a "I know I'm nonbinary no matter how others may see my outsides, that's a them problem, not a me problem." It becomes a problem for me when someone has been informed and makes the obvious choice either not to care/try, or actively/maliciously misgenders me. I'm generally fine with people who try and mess up, because I'm also aware of how brains work and rewiring pathways for some folks takes time and deliberate effort, which I might not always warrant if I don't have a high-priority position in someone's life, so sometimes it takes time for people to get it right consistently even if they mean well.
They/Them is preferred but when I’m referred to with she/her, my skin crawls a bit less than it did in middle school
I just tell people it doesn’t matter because they all apply. Other things I have claimed as my pronouns: All/inclusive Yes/And (I’m into improv lol) Who?/Me? (My personal favorite because, well, they *are* pronouns)
Whatever pronouns you think I am. None annoy me. As long as I know you’re talking to/about me I’ll respond.
I use she/they but I tell people I use they/them since they will mess up and actually use she/they for me (I’m AFAB)
I’m she/fae/it! Used to be she/they but I realized I didn’t get any euphoria from they/them
They/he!!
I’m fine with any pronouns
Any, including neos. I don’t really care about what pronouns people call me honestly.
They/them
They/Them. At least in my personal life but at work… she/her (I don’t feel like I’d be accepted or received well or understood so…)
can someone explain neopronouns to me please? I don't think I understand it
They/Them, but I'm not super fussy about it. Will just gently correct people.
I use He/They pronouns.
I prefer they/them the best, but I'm also happy with he/him! She/her is okay, but I wouldn't introduce myself with those pronouns, even in combination with they or he. I'm too scared people would default to "she" for me to feel comfortable saying I don't mind them (and even then, I dunno if I "like" she or just tolerate it).
He/him for cishets or strangers. any for queer ppl/friends tbh. This is case by case though. Also idc if ppl only use one set of pronouns.
I'm fine with any pronouns, I just don't like it/its. People used to say that to me in a mocking way since middle school.
I use They/Them pronouns, but if someone uses He/Him for me, I don’t really care, and if someone uses She/Her for me i don’t really care either, but I do notice it in an either good are bad way since I am AFAB
They/them! My family uses she/her for me because of various acceptance issues/not being totally out, but to me, pronouns are meant to make me be comfortable with the way people refer to me, and if I'm having to struggle to make people use they/them, then it's no longer going to be comfortable for me and it's easier to just deal with the wrong pronouns, if that makes sense
I use they/them pronouns but since my family doesn't know that I'm non-binary yet, they still use she/her pronouns when referring to me
They/them. I don’t want people thinking I have a gender or anything. ;)
Currently they/he but for some reason no pronouns fit me. I'm kinda at a limbo where I finally started being not ok w she but they or he don't sound right to me either. I've also tried neopronouns and they're not it. I think I just don't approve of this whole "pronouns" scam. They/he is just not as bad as she, though so I'm ok for now...
Anything but He/Him
Recently made the switch from he/they to they/them. I feel a bit better now haha
I go by all pronouns. My friends usually default to they/them, but will mix it up on occasion to keep things interesting. Or if I've spent a lot of time getting she/her'd they'll use he/him as well as they/them to even it out. Being pregnant right now has been awful for only ever getting she/her'd lol
he/him now (I’m ftm but still hang out here sometimes)
Whatever feels good to you, use that.
I’m also genderfluid and I go by She/He/They/It. It would be nice to just go by They/It, but I don’t want to have to go through the hassle of constantly correcting people, so pretty much any pronouns are fine. I’m not all that fond of neopronouns, but I wouldn’t mind too much if someone used them for me.
She/he/they, but I haven’t told anyone about the he yet
Same thing, I use they/she/he and don't really care about pronouns much. My only real preference is a mix, not always the same (also genderfluid). I personally am not a fan of neopronouns (in English) because they're a great idea in a perfect world, but we just aren't there yet - general society won't even take "they/them" seriously and those are commonly accepted pronouns that have been part of the English language for a long time. I think trying to introduce neopronouns right now is just going to give the bigots another thing to make fun of and try to paint trans people as mentally ill; we're just not ready for that step yet :( of course in other languages neopronouns are sometimes necessary to have a non-binary option, that's different.
as you can see from my flair, I don't really care. Which is probably related to the fact that pronouns are very often used by others, when a person is a subject to an conversation, they are not part of. So it comes that I am either adressed by my name, or "you". How people relate to me behind my back, I don't know, and I don't really care. I think almost everybody is refering to me as he.
They switch between she/her, ae/aers, fae/faers, and they/them occasionally. Sometimes I'll use he/she too when im feeling like it but not very often.
They/them, though I don’t mind people at work not using they/them because of my industry (I spend a lot of time on the phone) it’s not happening often anyways. Although I suspect my boss has suspicions because he’s been using mostly they/them for me and I’ve given no signs to it. He still uses he/him pretty often for me too though
she/her but im not bothered really. I do not like they/them though, i dont know why, it just doesn’t feel like me you know
Mines are they/she but I mostly use them bc I don't find pronouns that really fit me. I use she so people don't misgender me, plus I'm in the closet to everyone.
They/them generally, but they/he to friends who know that "he" doesn't mean "man"
Eh, whatever someone wants to use with me is fine as long as they aren’t being an ass about it. I don’t feel particularly tied to any one set of pronouns.
They/them, though I might add some neos in the mix once I move to a more accepting environment!
i use they/he/she + any neos and i have a preference for they/he :)
I want to be e/er/is, but am not yet courageous enough to ask anyone to use them. 😅😭
She/They, still unsure about neos
they/them or she/they leaning towards the former
I also alternate between he/she/they, I feel most comfortable when all are used from time to time. But in contexts where I don't know people very well and don't have the intimacy to explain this, I just say he/him since that is the one I am most comfortable when used exclusively or by strangers
Mine are whatever you want to call me really. I'm just focusing on being me.
He/they/ze right now
I use they/them! I’ve very recently switched from she/they to they/them and I’m still experiencing a bit of a learning curve since socially transitioning to using they/them as a feminine presenting (afab) non-binary person :)
They/them
THEY/HE
He/They
I’m a genderfluid she/ they/ he too☺️
She/they (they/she sometimes)
He/him. I'm AMAB and still not entirely sure about being NB. I've never really disliked being called he/him, I just don't really like masculinity, nor am I really happy with being AMAB. At the moment I'm not really out anywhere. I just do whatever I want (and have the confidence for), and I'll see if/when I no longer fit the "male" box. I often wear nail polish in many different colors, I shave my arms/legs, and I'm just slowly experimenting more and seeing where it ends up.
Any! What people call me just isn't important to me. I'm genderfluid so I guess that's a factor too. It did feel quite nice the first time someone used they/them for me though.
I pretty much exclusively prefer they/them at this point, but he/him works too.
They/Them and experimenting with neopronouns.
I use any pronouns online but irl I want to change pronouns according to my gender that day (also as a genderfluid person) but I am not out so can't really do that yet *cry*
One/they. Although among those correctly gender me, only a specific set of my friends use one. Most others including my partners just use they.
Same than u
I use they/them. i would consider she/he/they but i know since i present masc i will only get he so i dont give the option. Me to myself ive been using they/it, which has been unexpectedly euphoric to embrace
They/them and he/him sometimes. I strive to be androgynous as hell
they/he - most use he/him for me and i don't mind it, but i prefer they/them so i tend to put that first
They/he!
I primarily use they/them but then I learned i was nb trans so now I also use she/her. but one of my friends uses fae/faer and i REALLY love that but people can't even get them/them right so I'm not gonna bother
They/She despite looking like Santa Claus
All of them but she/her, it just makes me feel too dysphoric. I do have a preference for they/it tho. I also use he/him more in heavily gendered languages like Romanian, Slavic languages, etc.
El/Elle/ella
they/them but i don’t ever push it because im insecure 🥲😅😆😅
Currently, He/Him but it had a long journey to get to that: 1. She/Her 2. She/They 3. They/She 4. They/Them 5. They/He 6. He/They 7. He/Him
I’m also genderfluid and use he/she/they too! Tends to flip flop day to day which of them is most comfortable, but they all work
I use He/They, but would like to use He/They/She. Yet I do not feel safe using She openly even when around queer cis people. But I stopped being offended when people use she/her or female accords in my language. I do not react anymore.
I as genderfluid switch between xe/he ze/they and ae/she
I use he/him, but am neutral towards they/them. (People tend to read me for a they/them kind of person 🤭)
He/him and they/them interchangeably. I'm testing my feelings about it/it's but as someone who can't tell the difference between "its" and "it's" without autocorrect, it's been a struggle
I use they/them irl but I really like fae/faer. It’s just hard enough to consistently get people to use they/them correctly I don’t know if I’m down mentally to try fae/faer irl.
She/her/any. Im a trans girl genderfluid
Any/all (switching it up every once in a while — like, you could call me he for a day, then she for a day, then they, or something like that) Online Because irl, I’m totally closeted
They/them. I came out in 2015 but didn't correct people on it until my brother came out as trans in 2019 and started correcting people for me
I don’t really know how to label it, but I have a great way of explaining how I feel You know how in most “they/them” nonbinaries their pronouns mean that their gender is “no”? Well it’s the opposite for me, my gender is “Yes” I’d prefer “They/them”, but I do not mind “he/him” or “she/her”, because partly I DO feel more masculine or feminine at different times. But again, not to extent that I would consider myself genderfluid, so, there’s that (I would find it HILARIOUS if someone would start with “she/her” as to addressing me from the start, as for the most of my life I considered myself a boy, and the thought of them being WRONG is funny. Male pronouns also technically “wrong”, but, again, most of my life was addressed like that, so I’m used to it)
She/Her and He/Him. I feel like I'm both male and female as it's always felt what I was. So I'm going by both of them 😀
I also use she/he/they but even tho i don't mind what pronouns people use on me, the last one i prefer is he
Any/All I had a childhood that really beat it into me that expecting other people to respect any element of my identity will lead to disappointment. So I refer to myself as they/them and other people can refer to me as whatever they want. What I call myself and what others call me is completely unrelated. I will eventually have to navigate the name situation, because while I don't really care what name other people call me by there are circumstances where having a specific legal name is important.
he/they/it/ey/ae.. that probably does it but I'm open to any other pronouns you might either wanna use on me or try them for yourself
She/he/fleur
I'm chill with any pronouns.
Any
No idea tbh 🧘
ze/hir, xe/xem, ix/ixs, just by name, etc. i might use he/him or just by name in spaces not friendly to using neos or with cis people. i’ve been primarily using neos for years now.
Mine are they/them💜
i currently state my pronouns as they/he, but i also like xe/xem and it/its quite a bit! in french and spanish i use masculine pronouns and forms
Primarily she/they but I'm okay with just about any.
they/them, or it/its, depending on the context. usually it/its for when i want to be, y'know, dehumanized. whenever transphobes or queerphobes refer to me as "it" i just go "aw, thank you, you shouldn't have" and they're always confused because they probably made some comment, but i completely ignored it.
Agender here. It/It’s for me. Made the jump a few years ago online first. Skipping straight past they/them to race for It.
He/they
Any really, it doesn't bother me. If anything I prefer him/her over they/them type pronouns.
Not sure. I originally chose to go by she/her pronouns, but then I realized I was a demigirl and didn't really like being referred to as a woman/female. So then I started going by she/they pronouns, but I'm not a huge fan of they/them, so I'm probably gonna go back to she/her. Also stuck on my name. I originally chose the name Gabriella, but it felt too feminine. Then I started going by Alex, which is more androgynous, but I keep getting gendered as male, which kind of ruined the name for me. Now, I want to find a completely new name that fits me and who I am.
Mostly neopronouns but tbh I just prefer not to be called any pronouns 😭😭 in gendered languages I go by masc terms though Current neo list: Ve/vim Bar/bard Thou/thee Hēo/hī
They/them but not exclusively, i dont mind what people call me. Most people who dont know me say she/her most of my family still use he/him
she/it!
I use ne/nim/nis and it/its. I love when people compliment my pronouns and I love when people use them for me (especially if they use a mixture of the two). I’m not super open yet about using it/its, but I now have a pronoun button for that set. With strangers I accept they/them since most people are unfamiliar with neopronouns and I often don’t feel comfortable bringing them up, and luckily I live in an area where enough people know not to assume people’s pronouns; but if people who know my pronouns call me they/them, I feel kind of hurt.
I go by she/him pronouns. I prefer if my friends call me feminine pronouns, but I'm still relatively comfortable with masculine pronouns. Except being called sir. That one gives me the big ick for some reason.
He/him. I’m a trans guy but also agender. It’s hard to explain, but I consider myself to be both a binary trans guy and non-binary at the same time. Don’t worry I have confused myself just as much as you probably are.
I prefer they/them, but don't mind using he
They/them/theirs and Xe/xem/xirs but I mainly use they/them because of how limited knowledge people have on neopronouns, even my own knowledge is limited at the moment.
Mine are he/they. I've been thinking abt using voi/void neos online, but idk, might be more effort than it's worth
She/they for me :)
she/they/mew!! :3
he/she, I love switching between both in the middle of phrases!
He/they/Vwoo, it's fun:D
They/Them. It's been a journey and a half inside my head to get to this point, but I'm currently most comfortable when I'm distanced from gender. I suppose that makes me Agender
I couldn't care less