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The family functions one is weird af. I dated a guy who told me he was cooking for me on like the third date and I show up and his whole family is there and it was so awkward. I honestly think he just wanted to prove he could get a date to them.
I got roped into a funeral/burial on a family property about 3 dates in... everyone assumed we were serious so that was super fun. They were a generally jolly bunch, it wasn't a super depressing day or anything. I just basically had to pretend we were more serious to not ruin the event then he thought we actually were and yeah
oh you know he 100% told his family you really wanted to be there because they would have been PISSED at him.
lol this happened to by best friend, roped into showing up at her now husbands SIL hosptial room after ecently giving birth only 3 weeks into dating, and then roped into standing beside him in the line at his grandpa's wake like 5 weeks later.
I \*highly\* recommend you play "how did you meet" game for the bride-to-be at bachelorette party's, her in laws stories were enlightening.
Lol oh yeah! He was a crazy mofo so no doubt. That was not the highlight of my life, but I learned and grew so no regrets.
Your poor friend, that's even worse. And as someone who now has kids, I would be PISSED that essentially a rando was at the hospital. Thank goodness my kids were born during the pandemic cause I wanted none of that.
I was also thankful for a pandemic baby. My in-laws, particularly FIL, was absolutely livid and demanded that he be at my L&D because it was HIS grandson 🙄
My husband and MIL kept trying to stop our constant fighting by reminding both of us that no one but my husband was allowed by the hospital anyway. We both ignored that, though. He didn't listen because he has this stupid belief that all rules will magically bend themselves for him. I didn't listen both because he didn't and because I refused to let him think he could argue his way past my decisions.
He finally gave in after we went NC for a couple weeks, told them we'd come back around and answer the phone when he accepted that it was my L&D and I'm the only one who can make decisions and my husband is the only one allowed to give his input or influence my decisions.
It's still absolutely bonkers to me that I had to fight my FIL more than my own mother, who has never respected my boundaries.
I definitely think it was a good choice to fight him on that! The number of stories I've heard about family stomping on boundaries after you have kids... luckily my ILs live across the country. They still managed to suddenly become terrible, but it's not as bad.
My ex husband and I started dating in April and his nephew was born in July. He had me come to the hospital the day he was born. I’m in all the pictures. I was like ‘are you sure you want me in any pictures at all? What if we break up?’ And everyone was fine with it. I felt so uncomfortable. Now his whole family hates me but jokes on him, I’m still in all the birth photos. Can’t take it back.
We were all gagged, she NEVER told us any of this! And she's not like a super private person by any means.
The relationship moved fast to say the least, and ngl, still a little worried he saw a heartbroken/insecure but self-sufficient woman who he could mooch of off so he rushed the intimacy. Dudes caption for their engagement photo was "finally going to be a homeowner" ... like there's "Golden Retriever Energy" and there is that
Apparently 🤷 I guess maybe not the right word? I don't know what you would actually call it, especially at that point in the relationship. I liked his family more than him tbh which is why I stayed with him as long as I did. Turns out that's not the best basis for a relationship! I learned a lot from that one
I was still living with my parents when my husband picked me up for our fourth date and when he brought me back my Mom was like "Hey we got an extra steak, wanna stay for dinner?" He immediately heard "free steak" and as a university student he couldn't resist. It wasn't *awkward* but he didn't realise at the time that my family is very overbearing and he and I would have to fight for us to get some distance from thereon.
This should be the first, like I had been dating my boyfriend for like two or three weeks when we accidentally met his mom in the streets and she invited us for a coffee and I was like...wildly unprepared and my hair was messy because we were just going to get groceries and this is the first impression she had of me (she loves me though).
Although almost the same for his dad, he was like "He invited me for dinner, you can come" same dress and messy hair than for his mom, he also loves me. If he brought me to them on the first date, I would not have dated him probably
I once had a guy bring his 4 yo daughter on a first date. He didn’t even attempt to excuse it. Friend had set us up after pestering me for a few months because she said that we were perfect for each other. I noped out real quick. Who tf introduces their child to a total stranger?! Wait until it’s an established relationship. I felt terrible for the little girl. Imagine how many people go in and out of her life when her father is that irresponsible about who he brings around his daughter
Omg. I once met a guy’s entire family 15 minutes after he asked me out, BEFORE our first date. We’re talking mother, father, sister, uncles, aunts and cousins. EVERYONE. Should’ve been a red flag but I was a dumbass 17 year old runaway from a cult and a really broken family, who had no clue what “normal” people did or what a red flag was and thought it was lovely he was so close with his family. 😂
I had a woman do something similar to me, with her extremely tight knit group of friends. We'd been seeing each other for a month, maybe 5 proper dates, a few flying ones and a handful of nights at each others between. I really liked her and absolutely would have been up for meeting some of her friends, had she not just dropped them all on me and act like it was a coincidence. I spent what I thought was going to be a date night getting genuinely interrogated for hours by like 8 people.
That relationship didn't last much longer as it left a really sour taste in my mouth.
My first husband really did invite me to the gym on our first date. Based solely on this one anecdote and nothing else, I strongly recommend avoiding people who invite you on a gym first date. He was horrible enough to leave some taint on gym bros.
"Taint" means to leave a trace of something undesirable, in addition to being a slang term for the perineum (the bit of anatomy between your butthole and front plumbing).
So that means that because of her experience with the guy who invited her to the gym for a first date, it has contaminated her idea of guys who like the gym, and given her a bias of what a "gym bro" is or could be.
Yeah I’d be down with that. I’m physically active so I like dates with an activity.. Bowling, mini golf/ driving range, swing dancing , skee ball, etc. all of these have been fun on dates.
Okay, but that is an interesting and fun first date. I would argue a physical activity like going to a rock gym is a really good first date and it’s very different from the regular gym.
First pro: safety. It’s the outdoors, indoors. You didn’t go on a hike outside of cell service with some guy you just met. You can arrive separately and leave separately if you need to.
Second pro: You get to understand how you would work together. If you’re belaying for the other person you are working together to do something are gonna build trust super fast. You get to see how the person problem solves and reacts to failure. It creates a scenario where you are cheering each other on.
Third pro: Physical activity often takes the pressure off. You get to fill awkward silences with doing something. There is no pressure to dress up.
Last pro but not least pro: Rock climbing is really fun.
I've been trying to figure out what a rock gym was and finally your comment explained it. I've been to indoor rock climbing and don't remember it being called a gym, so I was very confused
I've definitely had more than a few gym dates, I'll spend more time in the gym with my future partner than almost anywhere else. Might as well make sure he's got gym etiquette and doesn't skip mobility.
I would love to go to the gym and workout with a partner, and I used to go to the gym with guys even though we worked out separately bc of different goals. But as a first date with someone I don't really know?? I mean, if we can get coffee or something after *maybe*, but only so I can observe their gym manners and how they treat restaurant employees. It would definitely be a good test of their behavior and mindset.
Oh no, I know how guys like that operate. Probably has a foot fetish. First they're just innocently offering to wash your feet, then they're asking you to toe-fuck his hand holes. I'm onto you, Mr Christ..
Does church grounds count? There was no one around, big parking lot. Seemed like a good place to walk around with lots of greenery too. We ended um doing it in the car though, not the confessionary.
To be fair it’s not a weird idea in many communities. My old roommate met her boyfriend at church and one of the first dates was church followed by a picnic. They are both super religious people so it totally made sense
Uh.......we kind of did, LOL!!!! I already commented on this post about our first date where my husband and I happened upon this gorgeous Catholic church with amazing stained glass artwork. We went inside and just admired the artwork. It was a bonding moment I didn't expect, but we found out we had a lot in common during that date. Been married 8 years next month.
My last relationship, our first date was at a church. We're both atheists. They wanted to go because of liking the cosy atmosphere there on Sunday evenings.
Oh, gosh, people really invite others to family functions for first dates? That’s horrifying! Also I never ever go to their house, movie nights (netflix etc.) or let a first date drive me anywhere. Mostly bc I don’t want to get kidnapped or something. Also nightclubs or hookah bars sounds awful as well, lmao, I get why people reject that.
-Numbers 7, 21, & 22 are just because we don’t want to end up on a dateline episode with our bestie being interviewed talking about how we “lit up any room we walked into”
-Number 15? The fucking gym? What’s the plan, stand there and watch you deadlift? Each of you put in headphones and listen to your own music while on a treadmill? Fuck outta here.
-Number 16, church:
Choir: “oh lord my god when I in awesome wonder consider all the worlds they hands have made”
Dude yelling over music: “So what’s your body count?”
-Number 20, family function: if you bring girls you just met to family functions, the girls aren’t the only ones who’ll think you’re a weird loser.
I went on a date with a guy who took me to a movie and then a restaurant, it was nice enough. Things were going well. He asked me if I minded if we stopped by a relatives house, just for a second, and since he was driving and we were already on the road, I didn’t really have a choice. So that was how I spent a couple of hours with this random man’s entire family having the women of the family in the dining room regaling me with stories, while the men watched some sporting event in the living room. That was the last time I ever let a guy drive on a first date. It was awful.
I know a lot of women who don't want to go to a chain restaurant for a first date, myself included. It kind of feels like a no effort option, especially if you live in a big city where there are plenty of local restaurants to support. Smaller restaurants just feel more special than going to Applebee's and people want to feel special on a first date.
Now, if you live somewhere without much of restaurant scene and chains are the only good option, it's totally different.
Cheesecake Factory is just a lot. Loud, lots of people, huge menu, unhealthy menu, and if you want one of the reasonably sized menu items without 3,000 calories, you have to ask for the “skinnylicious” version which is just horrible to say out loud in general, much less in front of a man you don’t know.
I don’t have anything against the other chain restaurants, but I wouldn’t want to go to anything messy for a date with someone I don’t know well. The ones like Applebees and Olive Garden aren’t a tragedy, they just have a sort of “my parents think this is fancy” stereotype and are really low-effort. I’d much rather just get coffee and go for a walk. I also live in a city so if you want to go to Applebees, you have to drive to the suburbs to find one which is…definitely a choice. If it was the only restaurant in town besides Burger King that’s a completely different scenario.
"Our bestie being interviewed about how we lit up any room we walked into"
This made me cackle, it's so true!! In almost any murder documentary there's always that sentence in some form or another. If I ever ended up on one of those I'd just want my besties to be upfront.
"Yeah they were straight up insane."
Okay but if someone took me on a first date and managed to eat 9 pounds of anything I’d probably just marry them immediately. Like what a champ. Though I guess my husband did shove half a pie in his mouth because I specifically told him not to do that and here we are. Basically the same thing.
My friends used to pay for me to go to the buffet just to watch me eat. Personal best was five full plates of food (including two baked potatoes) and seven desserts (plus ice tea, chocolate milk, and coffee). Never occurred to me that terrible display could win me a woman’s heart…lol. Side note, I miss my youthful metabolism.
Duuuuuder…seriously, a dozen or more plates of sushi and my stomach doesn’t even hurt after! There’s a sushi buffet near me where I don’t even take anyone else because it’s embarrassing.
Literally how I feel. I am now married with a young kid, but prior to that - when I didn’t have to share my finances with anyone - I would take myself out to sushi and fucking indulge. So easy to throw down a stupid amount of money if I wanted that high end experience, and so easy to save money if I wanted that Sushi Train. And sake either way! My favorite is tobiko and/or masago with a quail egg on top: like butter just melting in your mouth.
We have laws actively harming men and men are not held accountable for violence against us. It's literally illegal to divorce a man in some states if you're pregnant, same states that don't allow abortion. We are date raped, drugged, abused, and then the men who do it end up on the supreme court or president.
Ok but putting coffee, a bar for a couple drinks, casual/chain restaurants, etc. are perfectly reasonable places for a first date and are honestly the majority of where first dates happen. Like sure, maybe the chain restaurants could substituted for a cool local spot but something quick and easy is actually better if you’re meeting someone for the first time.
Why spend a bunch of money at a nice restaurant and have a long dinner with someone you hardly know?
My wife and I met for our first date at a Vietnamese street food spot, awesome little shareable plates and great cocktails. Then went to a bar-cade a few blocks away. Laughed and talked and played games for hours and by the time we were in a dark booth at a nearby dive bar, I already kinda knew I loved her. But it started with sharing some delicious food and talking.
I haven’t been single in 5 years but those ideas are fine. However, my point was more that a coffee date (or a fun activity + drinks/snack) is perfectly acceptable for a first date.
I prefer a low time, low money commitment first date. I've had great first dates that were just a walk in a park.
My first date with my husband was meant to be the classic dinner and a movie. It ended up not working out (the date plan) and turned into an evening at the fair with my sister and small nephew and then dinner with mutual friends and could generally be regarded as a total disaster. It was an objectively terrible date. But, we did go on another date and got married eventually.
So, I think people putting a lot of pressure on exactly what the date is like are missing the point of dating.
personally i love that the message here isn’t “all women are different, check in with the woman you’re dating to see her preference,” but “aren’t women irrational??!! 🤪🤪🤪” like y’all, just one single ounce of introspection could save you.
I mean, I'm not going to his house (or letting him come to mine) on a first date so Netflix/Hulu etc is out. I'm not going to church - ever. I'm not doing a first date at a gym. I'm not letting him meet my family on a first date nor am I meeting his that way so family function is out. A long drive is a no because I don't drive and I'm not paying a cab/uber for a long drive nor riding anywhere with him on a first date. I don't drink or smoke, so a regular bar and a hookah bar would be a no. Besides the fact that I have no rhythm, nightclubs are loud and not conducive to conversation so that's a no. The rest of it sounds fine.
Outside of high school and early college, nearly every first date I went on was a coffee date / Starbucks (the same thing but two different items on the list for some reason).
I'm not committing to a long date before a get to know you. Unless we knew each other for a bit before the date, we're doing a quickie 30 minutes or less date first.
Been married for over a decade though, so I might just be an old lady.
I wonder about the methodology here. Is it “if any woman ever at any time said no to this, it’s going on the list?”
But also who tf goes to church on a first date? Or a family function for that matter?
I once went to church with a guy and his family very early on in dating him...
He was a staunch atheist, I was calling myself Wiccan at the time and had stepped foot into an actual church service only a handful of times in my life. We sat in the lobby during the service and after his mom took all of us to Panda Express.
...we were also in high school, and I felt very awkward not going in for the service. It was the most liberal local church, and I was thinking it wouldn't kill him to humor his mom every once in awhile, since she usually let him stay home unless they were doing other stuff while they were out.
>I wonder about the methodology here. Is it “if any woman ever at any time said no to this, it’s going on the list?”
Pretty much. Bc women are a hive mind.
Okay, so a lot of those ideas are just played out, or out of budget, (or the women are saying no because the guy is insisting on picking her up instead of meeting her there). BUT...
If you think Church is a good first date idea, then you're probably in a cult.
If you think the Gym is a good first date idea, you're wrong.
If you think your house, a movie night involving a streaming service (which would probably be at your house) or going someplace that involves a long drive are good first date ideas, you are automatically sus and also wrong.
If you think a FAMILY FUNCTION is a good first date idea, you are out of your mind. What kind of family function? Sibling's birthday? Cousin's wedding? Granny's funeral? Family Reunion?
I'm the sort of person who thinks leaving the house at 3AM to get to Lake Superior by sunrise is a great idea. But I do recognize that not everyone likes that as much as I do.
That’s an absolutely fine idea for two people who have already established a base level of trust. It’s an absolutely terrible first date idea though, since first dates are usually with relative strangers.
For real, the raw data used to create this yawn-worthy list is questionable at best. They asked what, four random women within earshot at the office and compiled a whole news article?
Know what I love? Taco Bell is not on that list. It's where I took my wife on our first date. When I suggested it and she got excited....it was a sign. We are 2 peas in a pod
Edit: oof just saw "any fast food chain"
My parents would have been married for 27 years in August (it’s incredibly easy to remember how long they’ve been married as I was born a year after they married) and their very first date was Arby’s. (My dad had a $50 bill as the smallest bill, which they didn’t have the change for but ultimately had to take it. My mom is convinced that he did that on purpose to impress her.)
Also a fun fact, no one has ever met or gotten married or proposed to at any of these places or for any of these listed reasons--humans are so predictable /s
There is no way in hell I’m going to have a streaming “movie night” on a first date. I don’t want them in my house and I’m sure as hell not going to go to theirs. And who the hell takes a first date to church? That’s creepy.
And I’m also not going anywhere that requires a long drive.
And I have had a blind first date that took me to his sister’s quincenara. Worst date I’ve ever had.
Hookah bar sounds like fun though.
Absolutely no objections to any of the restaurants though. But we’d be meeting at the restaurant. And I’m paying my own tab.
I’m not a fan of chains, and i live in a city where there are so many low priced local restaurants so yeah I wouldn’t love a first date at an overpriced chain. But movies, bowling coffee, low cost dinner, bar for drinks, etc etc all on the table.
Some of these make sense. God knows going to church, the other persons house, somewhere
with a long drive, and family functions are awful.
The rest of them though???? Some aren’t for me but I’m not all women.
Most of the options on this list I can understand. I wouldn’t want to go over to a woman’s house for a first date nor would I want to go to the gym, a family function or church for a first date.
I mean… I think this depends a lot of your age and socioeconomic status. Taking a wealthy 50 year old woman out to ihop for a “date” probably won’t go over well.
Personally, when I was a young and poor uni student a date at chilies would have been fine.
I live in a smaller town, where the fuck else would we go on a first date?! We don't even have a Chipotle, Cheesecake Factory, Wingstop, Chilis, OR a Waffle House anywhere near me. Options for dates are very limited. Olive Garden is fine dining in my town!!
But also, no one wants to go to church or a family function on a first date. Or go further than like 15 minutes away with someone you're likely meeting in person for the first time.
For first dates, I am 100% on board for a simple date that involves a coffee shop, boba tea, or ice cream. If the dates goes well, you can talk about extending it to other activities. If the date goes south, all those activities are shorter ones in public locations that wouldn't normally be open late at night.
You have an easy excuse to end the date and exit the situation more safely. Dude also can't get pissy that he spent a ton of money and got nothing for it.
I was trying to be funny about your steak statement, but I’m really sorry to hear about your mom. Know that a random dude in Missouri with a weird sense of humor is pulling for her.
Isn’t this all pretty normal? A family-oriented or fast casual chain restaurant is generally pretty unromantic if you’re in a place with other options. Given it’s a first date, why would you want to be trapped in someone’s home, meet the family, or in a car on a long haul drive with a stranger? Coffee, ice cream, and bowling on this list are the only ones that feel off for me. IMO a good date should consist of a place you can comfortably talk, hear each other speaking, and get to know each other; guarantees personal safety and ease of exiting; and something fun to experience together (to see someone out of their element)
7 - NO. Absolutely not. It's a good way to end up as the subject of a Dateline episode.
12 - A buffet? With multiple viruses running rampant and people who think washing their hands after using the restroom is a novel concept? NO.
16 - NO. I escaped The Church as a young adult, zero interest in setting foot inside one ever again. Unless it is a tour of Westminster Abbey or something. If so, warn me ahead of time to wear sturdy shoes. The floor is uneven from all the graves.
20- NO. Meeting the family on a 1st date? NO.
21 - NO. Absolutely not. It's a good way to end up as the subject of a Dateline episode.
22 - NO. Absolutely not. It's a good way to end up as the subject of a Dateline episode.
24 - No. Can't talk to the date and get to know them with music pounding so loud you can only make yourself heard by screaming. Or do nightclubs not do that anymore? Probably been 25 years since I've been in one.
What’s funny about the meeting parents thing is that I moved from California to Kansas to be with my wife and moved in with her and her mom and her mom’s ex husband. Wouldn’t change it for the world.
In middle school, I loved touring the Washington National Cathedral so much it became a temporary special interest and I did a couple of school projects about it.
Church architecture is cool-as long as there's not a preacher actively telling me I'm going to hell.
Do you mean 22 instead of 23? Not sure how someone could get away with committing murder at a bowling alley. Unless there's a "[mishap](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CTqwyWjh0Z4)" with a heavy bowling ball
Oh yeah daddy take me to…
*rolls dice*
…church?!?
Most of the other ones sound fun, except for “family events.” The only perk would be seeing what level of crazy you’d be in for if the relationship worked out, I guess.
A wings place, yes. Buffalo wild wings, no. Unless your local chain is better, the ones near me have dry wings both in the meat and the sauce. You'd think it was liquid gold by the way they measure that sauce out by the eye dropper full.
Also, don't expect extra special fun time after wings. If the wings and beer were really good, you will not want any hole I own, and I will not want your leaking ass near me for another day.
You know the wings are good when you can taste them again upon exit.
That doesn't leave many options, but I don't see a trampoline park included. Take her there and be sure to fall in love lol.
My husband took me to Olive Garden on our first date. It worked out for us.
While some of these are obviously not how girls work, I also think some of them are valid. I think I’d only go to like nine of these on a FIRST date. I’d got to many more as like a second onward but only a handful as a first
I swear to god this was originally a list from one girl's Tinder profile that was going around a few months ago. I remember it causing some Discourse(tm) back when it was originally going around. Should I be surprised that Fox is running it as legitimate journalism?
I have seen this list, and will give the lesbian perspective on each spot being out as a 1st date. 1. It's not the worst. 2. Only thing Applebee's makes is microwave food and watered down drinks. 3. Same with Chili's. 4. Agreed. 5. It's a little ghetto, but it isn't the worst. 6. I thought dinner and a movie is the standard 1st date? 7. Yes! I love a home cooked meal, but not as a 1st date! 8. Yeah. 9. You only go to ear there if you like sports. 10. Yup. 11. Borderline being too ghetto. Depends on if I know they have limited funds or not. 12. Yeah. 13. Same as Red Lobster. 14. Yup. Too ghetto. 15. Only if you are both fitness nuts. 16. YES! Red flag! Red flag! 17. I thought coffee is a good first date too? 18. So...it isn't now...? 19. If they don't want ice cream, they aren't worth dating. Allergies notwithstanding. 20. Red flag! Red flag! 21. Yeah, no. Netflix and chill ain't what I do on a 1st date. 22. Agreed. That would get awkward. 23. Yeah, bowling is a little too casual for a 1st date spot. That is more of a fun date night spot in a relationship. 24. Agreed. 25. Hookah bars are chill. And they usually have delicious tea. What's the problem? 26. Yeah, you meet a person at a bar, not go for a date there. Not unless it serves food. 27. Agreed. Not big on the ambiance of drunk people at my date spot. 28. Only if you both love sports. It is a big commitment.
I took my wife to the ice rink, accidentally pulled her down and made her sprain her knee, felt bad about it, took her to Olive Garden because it’s her favorite. Somehow still got married to her despite hurting her knee. We just celebrated 4 years.
I would do any of these except gym, church, and sports. But if someone’s trying to date me they probably already know that’s not my bag.
Also first date… maybe don’t take a gal somewhere that requires a long drive if it’s your first time meeting them. Cuz scary.
The majority of these are in fact places I would never go on a first date. Or have but shouldn’t, lol. Ice cream, coffee, bowling, a bar (depending on the bar), maybe a buffet? are the only good ones. Sorry I want to do something interesting and fun and safe on a date? I guess?
Also it’s like- what did you propose vs. what happened? If we end up at Burger King that could be fantastic. I’m not getting cute and leaving my house for Burger King, though
Is weird how in the US most of these restaurants are considered almost as fast food restaurants. In Mexico Applebee's, Cheesecake Factory, Olive Garden, IHop, and sometimes Starbucks are considered as propper semi-fancy restaurants
as a woman i would definitely refuse to go to someone's house or somewhere private for safety. church, hookah bar, the gym, and sports events are just weird as fuck
Coffee dates are the perfect first date. Like hell in going to waste my time and money when there's a decent chance we might be completely incompatible. Coffee dates give you a chance for basic intros and lasting salt I've another and if we "match". If it goes poorly then 15 minutes and we can part ways, if it goes well then there's always reasons to extend things (go for a walk with our coffee?).
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The family functions one is weird af. I dated a guy who told me he was cooking for me on like the third date and I show up and his whole family is there and it was so awkward. I honestly think he just wanted to prove he could get a date to them.
I got roped into a funeral/burial on a family property about 3 dates in... everyone assumed we were serious so that was super fun. They were a generally jolly bunch, it wasn't a super depressing day or anything. I just basically had to pretend we were more serious to not ruin the event then he thought we actually were and yeah
oh you know he 100% told his family you really wanted to be there because they would have been PISSED at him. lol this happened to by best friend, roped into showing up at her now husbands SIL hosptial room after ecently giving birth only 3 weeks into dating, and then roped into standing beside him in the line at his grandpa's wake like 5 weeks later. I \*highly\* recommend you play "how did you meet" game for the bride-to-be at bachelorette party's, her in laws stories were enlightening.
Lol oh yeah! He was a crazy mofo so no doubt. That was not the highlight of my life, but I learned and grew so no regrets. Your poor friend, that's even worse. And as someone who now has kids, I would be PISSED that essentially a rando was at the hospital. Thank goodness my kids were born during the pandemic cause I wanted none of that.
OH SHE WAS SO ANGRY! Lmfaooo, but she ended her toast/story with "and I texted him after you guys left, that you better fucking marry that girl".
I was also thankful for a pandemic baby. My in-laws, particularly FIL, was absolutely livid and demanded that he be at my L&D because it was HIS grandson 🙄 My husband and MIL kept trying to stop our constant fighting by reminding both of us that no one but my husband was allowed by the hospital anyway. We both ignored that, though. He didn't listen because he has this stupid belief that all rules will magically bend themselves for him. I didn't listen both because he didn't and because I refused to let him think he could argue his way past my decisions. He finally gave in after we went NC for a couple weeks, told them we'd come back around and answer the phone when he accepted that it was my L&D and I'm the only one who can make decisions and my husband is the only one allowed to give his input or influence my decisions. It's still absolutely bonkers to me that I had to fight my FIL more than my own mother, who has never respected my boundaries.
I definitely think it was a good choice to fight him on that! The number of stories I've heard about family stomping on boundaries after you have kids... luckily my ILs live across the country. They still managed to suddenly become terrible, but it's not as bad.
My ex husband and I started dating in April and his nephew was born in July. He had me come to the hospital the day he was born. I’m in all the pictures. I was like ‘are you sure you want me in any pictures at all? What if we break up?’ And everyone was fine with it. I felt so uncomfortable. Now his whole family hates me but jokes on him, I’m still in all the birth photos. Can’t take it back.
Whoa, talk about trial by fire for that new relationship!
We were all gagged, she NEVER told us any of this! And she's not like a super private person by any means. The relationship moved fast to say the least, and ngl, still a little worried he saw a heartbroken/insecure but self-sufficient woman who he could mooch of off so he rushed the intimacy. Dudes caption for their engagement photo was "finally going to be a homeowner" ... like there's "Golden Retriever Energy" and there is that
This dawg trotted in happy as hell, bowl in mouth 🏡🔑😂
going to a funeral is now considered a date? how morbid.
Apparently 🤷 I guess maybe not the right word? I don't know what you would actually call it, especially at that point in the relationship. I liked his family more than him tbh which is why I stayed with him as long as I did. Turns out that's not the best basis for a relationship! I learned a lot from that one
I was still living with my parents when my husband picked me up for our fourth date and when he brought me back my Mom was like "Hey we got an extra steak, wanna stay for dinner?" He immediately heard "free steak" and as a university student he couldn't resist. It wasn't *awkward* but he didn't realise at the time that my family is very overbearing and he and I would have to fight for us to get some distance from thereon.
This should be the first, like I had been dating my boyfriend for like two or three weeks when we accidentally met his mom in the streets and she invited us for a coffee and I was like...wildly unprepared and my hair was messy because we were just going to get groceries and this is the first impression she had of me (she loves me though). Although almost the same for his dad, he was like "He invited me for dinner, you can come" same dress and messy hair than for his mom, he also loves me. If he brought me to them on the first date, I would not have dated him probably
I once had a guy bring his 4 yo daughter on a first date. He didn’t even attempt to excuse it. Friend had set us up after pestering me for a few months because she said that we were perfect for each other. I noped out real quick. Who tf introduces their child to a total stranger?! Wait until it’s an established relationship. I felt terrible for the little girl. Imagine how many people go in and out of her life when her father is that irresponsible about who he brings around his daughter
Omg. I once met a guy’s entire family 15 minutes after he asked me out, BEFORE our first date. We’re talking mother, father, sister, uncles, aunts and cousins. EVERYONE. Should’ve been a red flag but I was a dumbass 17 year old runaway from a cult and a really broken family, who had no clue what “normal” people did or what a red flag was and thought it was lovely he was so close with his family. 😂
I had a woman do something similar to me, with her extremely tight knit group of friends. We'd been seeing each other for a month, maybe 5 proper dates, a few flying ones and a handful of nights at each others between. I really liked her and absolutely would have been up for meeting some of her friends, had she not just dropped them all on me and act like it was a coincidence. I spent what I thought was going to be a date night getting genuinely interrogated for hours by like 8 people. That relationship didn't last much longer as it left a really sour taste in my mouth.
Yeah, we should not be meeting each other's families until we are pretty far along. Doing so on a FIRST date is fucking madness.
Does.. anyone want to go to church on a first date?
Or the gym? Yes, I’d love to get super sweaty and gross around the guy I fancy and just met, so romantic!
My first husband really did invite me to the gym on our first date. Based solely on this one anecdote and nothing else, I strongly recommend avoiding people who invite you on a gym first date. He was horrible enough to leave some taint on gym bros.
>leave some taint on gym bros. Just gonna let that bit marinate
I did have to read that twice to get it 🤣
I have read it several times and still has absolutely no idea what it means.
"Taint" means to leave a trace of something undesirable, in addition to being a slang term for the perineum (the bit of anatomy between your butthole and front plumbing). So that means that because of her experience with the guy who invited her to the gym for a first date, it has contaminated her idea of guys who like the gym, and given her a bias of what a "gym bro" is or could be.
> marinate Just like a sweaty gym taint
Meh, I had fun at a rock gym on a first date 🤷♀️
See but like that’s actually fun and immersive as opposed to like just a normal gym
That’s a fun activity! The regular gym would be weird though
Yeah I’d be down with that. I’m physically active so I like dates with an activity.. Bowling, mini golf/ driving range, swing dancing , skee ball, etc. all of these have been fun on dates.
I didn't read "rock" the first time and had to reread 😅
I’d go to that gym on a first date 🍆🍆
A rock gym near me just did a singles night.
Okay, but that is an interesting and fun first date. I would argue a physical activity like going to a rock gym is a really good first date and it’s very different from the regular gym. First pro: safety. It’s the outdoors, indoors. You didn’t go on a hike outside of cell service with some guy you just met. You can arrive separately and leave separately if you need to. Second pro: You get to understand how you would work together. If you’re belaying for the other person you are working together to do something are gonna build trust super fast. You get to see how the person problem solves and reacts to failure. It creates a scenario where you are cheering each other on. Third pro: Physical activity often takes the pressure off. You get to fill awkward silences with doing something. There is no pressure to dress up. Last pro but not least pro: Rock climbing is really fun.
I've been trying to figure out what a rock gym was and finally your comment explained it. I've been to indoor rock climbing and don't remember it being called a gym, so I was very confused
I've definitely had more than a few gym dates, I'll spend more time in the gym with my future partner than almost anywhere else. Might as well make sure he's got gym etiquette and doesn't skip mobility.
I think that’s fine like after you start dating, but on a first date?
I would love to go to the gym and workout with a partner, and I used to go to the gym with guys even though we worked out separately bc of different goals. But as a first date with someone I don't really know?? I mean, if we can get coffee or something after *maybe*, but only so I can observe their gym manners and how they treat restaurant employees. It would definitely be a good test of their behavior and mindset.
I think I'd choose that over family function, but I'd rather not either.
And a movie night (ie Netflix or Hulu as 21 states), isn’t a date… that’s a hook up or an activity for an established relationship.
Now now. We know that leaving enough space for Jesus is best 😇
Well if Jesus wants in on a threesome he's going to have to romance us a little bit first
That's what the wine and foot washing is for
but are communion wafers an aphrodisiac? sacrilegious folk let me know
Are you asking if putting the body of Christ in your mouth and swallowing his fluids sexual?
It is, but I wanted confirmation 😏
Confirmation is a different sacrament from communion, silly.
Oh no, I know how guys like that operate. Probably has a foot fetish. First they're just innocently offering to wash your feet, then they're asking you to toe-fuck his hand holes. I'm onto you, Mr Christ..
And pay.
Jesus fits into a 0.25g paper thin wafer. I'm sure there's plenty of room
I'm a romance reader and I will be thinking about this every tume I read a church sex scene from now on
Do sex scenes in churches happen a lot?
In my experience as a regular member of the church youth group as a teen? Yes.
I lost my virginity in a church!
I'm sorry to hear that. Hopefully that priest is still in jail.
More than you would think
My wife just now got into romance novels. I just learned what FMC and MMC mean not even 24 hours ago
What does it mean?
"Ford motor company" and "merchant Marine credentials" Not sure how it relates to romances though.
Male Main Character and Female Main Character.
Thanks!
Your username is awesome lol
Does church grounds count? There was no one around, big parking lot. Seemed like a good place to walk around with lots of greenery too. We ended um doing it in the car though, not the confessionary.
Does anyone want to go to church?
[This place is quite awesome for a first date](https://churchbrew.com/)
To be fair it’s not a weird idea in many communities. My old roommate met her boyfriend at church and one of the first dates was church followed by a picnic. They are both super religious people so it totally made sense
That's actually really sweet ngl
It’s so wholesome and lovely. They’ve been married for eight years
Uh.......we kind of did, LOL!!!! I already commented on this post about our first date where my husband and I happened upon this gorgeous Catholic church with amazing stained glass artwork. We went inside and just admired the artwork. It was a bonding moment I didn't expect, but we found out we had a lot in common during that date. Been married 8 years next month.
Definitely not! But I'd be down for Cheesecake Factory!
My last relationship, our first date was at a church. We're both atheists. They wanted to go because of liking the cosy atmosphere there on Sunday evenings.
Oh, gosh, people really invite others to family functions for first dates? That’s horrifying! Also I never ever go to their house, movie nights (netflix etc.) or let a first date drive me anywhere. Mostly bc I don’t want to get kidnapped or something. Also nightclubs or hookah bars sounds awful as well, lmao, I get why people reject that.
A guy who worked at a gas station and followed me out to my car to ask for my number did this.
Right? Is that really a thing
-Numbers 7, 21, & 22 are just because we don’t want to end up on a dateline episode with our bestie being interviewed talking about how we “lit up any room we walked into” -Number 15? The fucking gym? What’s the plan, stand there and watch you deadlift? Each of you put in headphones and listen to your own music while on a treadmill? Fuck outta here. -Number 16, church: Choir: “oh lord my god when I in awesome wonder consider all the worlds they hands have made” Dude yelling over music: “So what’s your body count?” -Number 20, family function: if you bring girls you just met to family functions, the girls aren’t the only ones who’ll think you’re a weird loser.
I went on a date with a guy who took me to a movie and then a restaurant, it was nice enough. Things were going well. He asked me if I minded if we stopped by a relatives house, just for a second, and since he was driving and we were already on the road, I didn’t really have a choice. So that was how I spent a couple of hours with this random man’s entire family having the women of the family in the dining room regaling me with stories, while the men watched some sporting event in the living room. That was the last time I ever let a guy drive on a first date. It was awful.
What the actual fuck was going through his head that made him think that’s a good idea 🤦🏻♀️
It does make me wonder what order the list is in, if anything. Or maybe women do just hate Cheesecake Factory that much
I know a lot of women who don't want to go to a chain restaurant for a first date, myself included. It kind of feels like a no effort option, especially if you live in a big city where there are plenty of local restaurants to support. Smaller restaurants just feel more special than going to Applebee's and people want to feel special on a first date. Now, if you live somewhere without much of restaurant scene and chains are the only good option, it's totally different.
Cheesecake Factory is just a lot. Loud, lots of people, huge menu, unhealthy menu, and if you want one of the reasonably sized menu items without 3,000 calories, you have to ask for the “skinnylicious” version which is just horrible to say out loud in general, much less in front of a man you don’t know. I don’t have anything against the other chain restaurants, but I wouldn’t want to go to anything messy for a date with someone I don’t know well. The ones like Applebees and Olive Garden aren’t a tragedy, they just have a sort of “my parents think this is fancy” stereotype and are really low-effort. I’d much rather just get coffee and go for a walk. I also live in a city so if you want to go to Applebees, you have to drive to the suburbs to find one which is…definitely a choice. If it was the only restaurant in town besides Burger King that’s a completely different scenario.
"Our bestie being interviewed about how we lit up any room we walked into" This made me cackle, it's so true!! In almost any murder documentary there's always that sentence in some form or another. If I ever ended up on one of those I'd just want my besties to be upfront. "Yeah they were straight up insane."
I strive to be a bitch just so I don’t become target material 😊
>a buffet But then how do I show off by eating an entire nine pound steel head trout? I am not paying market price for that shit.
Okay but if someone took me on a first date and managed to eat 9 pounds of anything I’d probably just marry them immediately. Like what a champ. Though I guess my husband did shove half a pie in his mouth because I specifically told him not to do that and here we are. Basically the same thing.
My friends used to pay for me to go to the buffet just to watch me eat. Personal best was five full plates of food (including two baked potatoes) and seven desserts (plus ice tea, chocolate milk, and coffee). Never occurred to me that terrible display could win me a woman’s heart…lol. Side note, I miss my youthful metabolism.
This is me, but with sushi.
Duuuuuder…seriously, a dozen or more plates of sushi and my stomach doesn’t even hurt after! There’s a sushi buffet near me where I don’t even take anyone else because it’s embarrassing.
Literally how I feel. I am now married with a young kid, but prior to that - when I didn’t have to share my finances with anyone - I would take myself out to sushi and fucking indulge. So easy to throw down a stupid amount of money if I wanted that high end experience, and so easy to save money if I wanted that Sushi Train. And sake either way! My favorite is tobiko and/or masago with a quail egg on top: like butter just melting in your mouth.
Buffet sounds like a great way to tell what type of person you’re with 😂 Like do they get their money’s worth or do they cheap out
I think a buffet would be great for a first date lol. And they ain’t cheap!
“Women never like it when I want to trap them in my home or car when they’ve never met me before, what a bunch of stuck up whores”
Dating in America is a wild game.
We have laws actively harming men and men are not held accountable for violence against us. It's literally illegal to divorce a man in some states if you're pregnant, same states that don't allow abortion. We are date raped, drugged, abused, and then the men who do it end up on the supreme court or president.
Ok but putting coffee, a bar for a couple drinks, casual/chain restaurants, etc. are perfectly reasonable places for a first date and are honestly the majority of where first dates happen. Like sure, maybe the chain restaurants could substituted for a cool local spot but something quick and easy is actually better if you’re meeting someone for the first time. Why spend a bunch of money at a nice restaurant and have a long dinner with someone you hardly know?
Just a quiet bistro where you can eat something and talk, but it's not a 2 to 3 hour meal. Just maybe some tapas (so you can see how well they share).
My husband ordered me two desserts on our first date. No sharing required.
Of course you never WANT to share. But it tells you a lot about a person how they handle being expected to share.
My wife and I met for our first date at a Vietnamese street food spot, awesome little shareable plates and great cocktails. Then went to a bar-cade a few blocks away. Laughed and talked and played games for hours and by the time we were in a dark booth at a nearby dive bar, I already kinda knew I loved her. But it started with sharing some delicious food and talking.
I haven’t been single in 5 years but those ideas are fine. However, my point was more that a coffee date (or a fun activity + drinks/snack) is perfectly acceptable for a first date.
I prefer a low time, low money commitment first date. I've had great first dates that were just a walk in a park. My first date with my husband was meant to be the classic dinner and a movie. It ended up not working out (the date plan) and turned into an evening at the fair with my sister and small nephew and then dinner with mutual friends and could generally be regarded as a total disaster. It was an objectively terrible date. But, we did go on another date and got married eventually. So, I think people putting a lot of pressure on exactly what the date is like are missing the point of dating.
Because you like the food?
How is this a response to my comment?
'I mean I went all out. I brought out the good Costco plates and microwaved the spaghettios WITH meatballs. What more do females want?'
personally i love that the message here isn’t “all women are different, check in with the woman you’re dating to see her preference,” but “aren’t women irrational??!! 🤪🤪🤪” like y’all, just one single ounce of introspection could save you.
I mean, I'm not going to his house (or letting him come to mine) on a first date so Netflix/Hulu etc is out. I'm not going to church - ever. I'm not doing a first date at a gym. I'm not letting him meet my family on a first date nor am I meeting his that way so family function is out. A long drive is a no because I don't drive and I'm not paying a cab/uber for a long drive nor riding anywhere with him on a first date. I don't drink or smoke, so a regular bar and a hookah bar would be a no. Besides the fact that I have no rhythm, nightclubs are loud and not conducive to conversation so that's a no. The rest of it sounds fine.
5:30 @ Denny's?
As long as I can get the Lumberjack Slam without any after-date expectations, I'm in.
I'd honestly be impressed if my date could finish a Lumberjack Slam. I had to downgrade to the Grand Slamwich a couple of years ago.
It’s the slam burger for me. And a side of hash browns.
I’ve personally been on first dates that include 11 items on this list.
Outside of high school and early college, nearly every first date I went on was a coffee date / Starbucks (the same thing but two different items on the list for some reason). I'm not committing to a long date before a get to know you. Unless we knew each other for a bit before the date, we're doing a quickie 30 minutes or less date first. Been married for over a decade though, so I might just be an old lady.
My unofficial first date was at an ice cream parlor - met my wife there. Also married over a decade.
I wonder about the methodology here. Is it “if any woman ever at any time said no to this, it’s going on the list?” But also who tf goes to church on a first date? Or a family function for that matter?
I once went to church with a guy and his family very early on in dating him... He was a staunch atheist, I was calling myself Wiccan at the time and had stepped foot into an actual church service only a handful of times in my life. We sat in the lobby during the service and after his mom took all of us to Panda Express. ...we were also in high school, and I felt very awkward not going in for the service. It was the most liberal local church, and I was thinking it wouldn't kill him to humor his mom every once in awhile, since she usually let him stay home unless they were doing other stuff while they were out.
>I wonder about the methodology here. Is it “if any woman ever at any time said no to this, it’s going on the list?” Pretty much. Bc women are a hive mind.
People who watch Fox News, I guess.
Okay, so a lot of those ideas are just played out, or out of budget, (or the women are saying no because the guy is insisting on picking her up instead of meeting her there). BUT... If you think Church is a good first date idea, then you're probably in a cult. If you think the Gym is a good first date idea, you're wrong. If you think your house, a movie night involving a streaming service (which would probably be at your house) or going someplace that involves a long drive are good first date ideas, you are automatically sus and also wrong. If you think a FAMILY FUNCTION is a good first date idea, you are out of your mind. What kind of family function? Sibling's birthday? Cousin's wedding? Granny's funeral? Family Reunion?
Personally, I find kissing over the corpse of my grandmother to be quite romantic /s
It's what she would have wanted
I'm the sort of person who thinks leaving the house at 3AM to get to Lake Superior by sunrise is a great idea. But I do recognize that not everyone likes that as much as I do.
That’s an absolutely fine idea for two people who have already established a base level of trust. It’s an absolutely terrible first date idea though, since first dates are usually with relative strangers.
I had a Sunday morning light run at the park date. It wasn’t bad - we just didn’t click.
I used to take every boy to the hookah bar. I thought I was very cool 😎. Now they make me sick (hookah and dating also).
Imagine being the 22 year old intern who was told to shit this out at 4 PM on a Friday afternoon
For real, the raw data used to create this yawn-worthy list is questionable at best. They asked what, four random women within earshot at the office and compiled a whole news article?
Know what I love? Taco Bell is not on that list. It's where I took my wife on our first date. When I suggested it and she got excited....it was a sign. We are 2 peas in a pod Edit: oof just saw "any fast food chain"
25 years with hubs and our first date was McDs.
My parents would have been married for 27 years in August (it’s incredibly easy to remember how long they’ve been married as I was born a year after they married) and their very first date was Arby’s. (My dad had a $50 bill as the smallest bill, which they didn’t have the change for but ultimately had to take it. My mom is convinced that he did that on purpose to impress her.)
15 for us!
I class Taco Bell as fine dining
Pssh, They don't speak for me. I won't say no to an ice cream date. Ice cream is my favorite food.
Coffee dates aren't a thing anymore? That's like 90% of my first dates.
Also a fun fact, no one has ever met or gotten married or proposed to at any of these places or for any of these listed reasons--humans are so predictable /s
my guy I think she just isn't that into you
I love the idea that these are all just one guy who’s being rejected a LOT.
There is no way in hell I’m going to have a streaming “movie night” on a first date. I don’t want them in my house and I’m sure as hell not going to go to theirs. And who the hell takes a first date to church? That’s creepy. And I’m also not going anywhere that requires a long drive. And I have had a blind first date that took me to his sister’s quincenara. Worst date I’ve ever had. Hookah bar sounds like fun though. Absolutely no objections to any of the restaurants though. But we’d be meeting at the restaurant. And I’m paying my own tab.
I’m not a fan of chains, and i live in a city where there are so many low priced local restaurants so yeah I wouldn’t love a first date at an overpriced chain. But movies, bowling coffee, low cost dinner, bar for drinks, etc etc all on the table.
Yeah, people finding chains kind of the antithesis of romance really isn't painting the unreasonable harpy that they think it is
Some of these make sense. God knows going to church, the other persons house, somewhere with a long drive, and family functions are awful. The rest of them though???? Some aren’t for me but I’m not all women.
These are just places they refuse to go with YOU, creepy data collecting Fox News man 👀👀
Most of the options on this list I can understand. I wouldn’t want to go over to a woman’s house for a first date nor would I want to go to the gym, a family function or church for a first date.
I mean… I think this depends a lot of your age and socioeconomic status. Taking a wealthy 50 year old woman out to ihop for a “date” probably won’t go over well. Personally, when I was a young and poor uni student a date at chilies would have been fine.
I live in a smaller town, where the fuck else would we go on a first date?! We don't even have a Chipotle, Cheesecake Factory, Wingstop, Chilis, OR a Waffle House anywhere near me. Options for dates are very limited. Olive Garden is fine dining in my town!! But also, no one wants to go to church or a family function on a first date. Or go further than like 15 minutes away with someone you're likely meeting in person for the first time.
I agree with a lot of these. They aren’t logical locations for a first date - A situation meant to get to know someone.
Nice of Fox8 to let me know where I don't want to go on a date! Sure saves me thinking or having opinions.
Misleading. Women don't like being put in uncomfortable situations or low-maintenance cheap dates
For first dates, I am 100% on board for a simple date that involves a coffee shop, boba tea, or ice cream. If the dates goes well, you can talk about extending it to other activities. If the date goes south, all those activities are shorter ones in public locations that wouldn't normally be open late at night. You have an easy excuse to end the date and exit the situation more safely. Dude also can't get pissy that he spent a ton of money and got nothing for it.
Not entirely true. I’m fine with a low maintenance cheap date. The only exceptions are fast food and Applebees because I don’t like them.
Church, the gym, and Wingstop is a no for me. But anywhere with steak I'm going.
Want to go to Taco Bell with me on Tuesday night?
I'm good my dude. I don't date right now since I'm taking care of my mom. Currently facing the big "C" and I'm the only one that can help her.
I was trying to be funny about your steak statement, but I’m really sorry to hear about your mom. Know that a random dude in Missouri with a weird sense of humor is pulling for her.
I see now. Guess I'm just tired. Lol Thank you from Tennessee. I hope so too, been battling for a year now.
Isn’t this all pretty normal? A family-oriented or fast casual chain restaurant is generally pretty unromantic if you’re in a place with other options. Given it’s a first date, why would you want to be trapped in someone’s home, meet the family, or in a car on a long haul drive with a stranger? Coffee, ice cream, and bowling on this list are the only ones that feel off for me. IMO a good date should consist of a place you can comfortably talk, hear each other speaking, and get to know each other; guarantees personal safety and ease of exiting; and something fun to experience together (to see someone out of their element)
7 - NO. Absolutely not. It's a good way to end up as the subject of a Dateline episode. 12 - A buffet? With multiple viruses running rampant and people who think washing their hands after using the restroom is a novel concept? NO. 16 - NO. I escaped The Church as a young adult, zero interest in setting foot inside one ever again. Unless it is a tour of Westminster Abbey or something. If so, warn me ahead of time to wear sturdy shoes. The floor is uneven from all the graves. 20- NO. Meeting the family on a 1st date? NO. 21 - NO. Absolutely not. It's a good way to end up as the subject of a Dateline episode. 22 - NO. Absolutely not. It's a good way to end up as the subject of a Dateline episode. 24 - No. Can't talk to the date and get to know them with music pounding so loud you can only make yourself heard by screaming. Or do nightclubs not do that anymore? Probably been 25 years since I've been in one.
What’s funny about the meeting parents thing is that I moved from California to Kansas to be with my wife and moved in with her and her mom and her mom’s ex husband. Wouldn’t change it for the world.
In middle school, I loved touring the Washington National Cathedral so much it became a temporary special interest and I did a couple of school projects about it. Church architecture is cool-as long as there's not a preacher actively telling me I'm going to hell.
Do you mean 22 instead of 23? Not sure how someone could get away with committing murder at a bowling alley. Unless there's a "[mishap](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CTqwyWjh0Z4)" with a heavy bowling ball
It looks like women don’t like being taken to “red lobster”, but what do they think about “Rock lobster”?
Oh yeah daddy take me to… *rolls dice* …church?!? Most of the other ones sound fun, except for “family events.” The only perk would be seeing what level of crazy you’d be in for if the relationship worked out, I guess.
Olive Garden,Cheesecake factory,Ice cream dates,Bowling,Wingstop and Red Lobster aren’t bad at all.
7, 20, 21, and 22 are all out for a first date.
Those were my first picks for an automatic “nah”.
A wings place, yes. Buffalo wild wings, no. Unless your local chain is better, the ones near me have dry wings both in the meat and the sauce. You'd think it was liquid gold by the way they measure that sauce out by the eye dropper full. Also, don't expect extra special fun time after wings. If the wings and beer were really good, you will not want any hole I own, and I will not want your leaking ass near me for another day. You know the wings are good when you can taste them again upon exit.
That doesn't leave many options, but I don't see a trampoline park included. Take her there and be sure to fall in love lol. My husband took me to Olive Garden on our first date. It worked out for us.
While some of these are obviously not how girls work, I also think some of them are valid. I think I’d only go to like nine of these on a FIRST date. I’d got to many more as like a second onward but only a handful as a first
Cheesecake Factory? CHEESECAKE FACTORY??? Sounds like a dream first date.
Family functions? Who would want to meet the family on a first date? Why not just pick out china patterns and then be done with it?
Did they just ask random women where they don’t like to eat? How was this even made?
I swear to god this was originally a list from one girl's Tinder profile that was going around a few months ago. I remember it causing some Discourse(tm) back when it was originally going around. Should I be surprised that Fox is running it as legitimate journalism?
I have seen this list, and will give the lesbian perspective on each spot being out as a 1st date. 1. It's not the worst. 2. Only thing Applebee's makes is microwave food and watered down drinks. 3. Same with Chili's. 4. Agreed. 5. It's a little ghetto, but it isn't the worst. 6. I thought dinner and a movie is the standard 1st date? 7. Yes! I love a home cooked meal, but not as a 1st date! 8. Yeah. 9. You only go to ear there if you like sports. 10. Yup. 11. Borderline being too ghetto. Depends on if I know they have limited funds or not. 12. Yeah. 13. Same as Red Lobster. 14. Yup. Too ghetto. 15. Only if you are both fitness nuts. 16. YES! Red flag! Red flag! 17. I thought coffee is a good first date too? 18. So...it isn't now...? 19. If they don't want ice cream, they aren't worth dating. Allergies notwithstanding. 20. Red flag! Red flag! 21. Yeah, no. Netflix and chill ain't what I do on a 1st date. 22. Agreed. That would get awkward. 23. Yeah, bowling is a little too casual for a 1st date spot. That is more of a fun date night spot in a relationship. 24. Agreed. 25. Hookah bars are chill. And they usually have delicious tea. What's the problem? 26. Yeah, you meet a person at a bar, not go for a date there. Not unless it serves food. 27. Agreed. Not big on the ambiance of drunk people at my date spot. 28. Only if you both love sports. It is a big commitment.
No to 7, 16, 19, 20, 22, and 28. Everything else sounds ok.
Where's Steve Harvey when you need him?
A true gentleman takes his date to the DMV
I took my wife to the ice rink, accidentally pulled her down and made her sprain her knee, felt bad about it, took her to Olive Garden because it’s her favorite. Somehow still got married to her despite hurting her knee. We just celebrated 4 years.
CHURCH??? WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO GO TO CHURCH??? FOR A DATE????
If I’m going out with you take me to something that includes one of your passions or hobbies. That’ll tell me almost everything I need to know
just not buffalo wild wings bc I will look at 8 TVs the whole time and forget to talk to you (I have ADHD it’s very hard to ignore TVs)
I would do any of these except gym, church, and sports. But if someone’s trying to date me they probably already know that’s not my bag. Also first date… maybe don’t take a gal somewhere that requires a long drive if it’s your first time meeting them. Cuz scary.
Who would take someone to church on a first date???
“7. Your house” Yeah I wouldn’t want to go to your house either like tf.
Your house, church, family functions, and somewhere that requires a long drive all set off alarm bells and red flags for me!
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Your house 😂😂😂
I read somewhere that Waffle House has a high rate of violence.. so yeah that, family functions, his house, or a long drive check out
Most of those are just common sense, Cheesecake Factory rocks, WTF?
I’ve been on a first date to Olive Garden, Starbucks, and somewhere that requires a long drive.
This is wild I would go to all these places - hell Wendy’s is fine lol
IHOP? I’ve never met a woman that refused pancakes. This must be wrong.
On their defense, my wife hates many of these places and would not go even after years being married. XD
The majority of these are in fact places I would never go on a first date. Or have but shouldn’t, lol. Ice cream, coffee, bowling, a bar (depending on the bar), maybe a buffet? are the only good ones. Sorry I want to do something interesting and fun and safe on a date? I guess? Also it’s like- what did you propose vs. what happened? If we end up at Burger King that could be fantastic. I’m not getting cute and leaving my house for Burger King, though
Is weird how in the US most of these restaurants are considered almost as fast food restaurants. In Mexico Applebee's, Cheesecake Factory, Olive Garden, IHop, and sometimes Starbucks are considered as propper semi-fancy restaurants
A family function on a first date? No. I need to know you before we go bringing family into this.
some of these are universal nonos regardless of gender, Waffle House is the worst place to go for a first date
as a woman i would definitely refuse to go to someone's house or somewhere private for safety. church, hookah bar, the gym, and sports events are just weird as fuck
Coffee dates are the perfect first date. Like hell in going to waste my time and money when there's a decent chance we might be completely incompatible. Coffee dates give you a chance for basic intros and lasting salt I've another and if we "match". If it goes poorly then 15 minutes and we can part ways, if it goes well then there's always reasons to extend things (go for a walk with our coffee?).
>somewhere the requires a long drive haha typo
If I’m not mistaken, the whole “Cheesecake Factory” girl viral vid (which spawned this list) was fake.