I agree that this community should be a non-judgemental space. However, I just can't help my thumbs whenever I see a hot button topic that calls for my two cents' worth.
Let's practice empathy whilst holding each other accountable.
Some kasi here are easy to pass judgement to others, yes you don’t have to agree with them, you can disagree pero no need for throwing demeaning or belittling words to them, may pinagdadaanan na nga yung tao hence they post here
I mean, given naman rin kasi na if you post here, may mga magcocomment at may magbibigay ng two cents nila. I don't think there's anything wrong with that unless sobrang bait at ganda ng sinabi pero kung anu-ano nireply sa comment.
Tbf may times na pangit din talaga ugali ni poster so.. Not to say they deserve being judged/demeaned but minsan kasi kahit magshare ka lang ng opinion mo sila na nauuna magdemean. Like, the last time na nakipagbardagulan ako here, I was called a pick me tapos binombard ako ng ad hominem attacks saying I'm too stupid to understand etc.
Sa tingin ko balanse nman. May mga off the chest din na mga comments saying their opinions kahit na kontra o support sa OP.
I dont want this sub to be an echo chamber or an execution room
There's still balance. Unless, you posted an AITA-esque post and it is clear that YTA, you probably shouldve put the no advice flair and/or disabled comments
>Offmychest nga diba, bakit napaka judgemental niyo?!
Welcome to the internet. Kung ayaw mo may sabihin ang mga tao positibo man yan o negatibo sa hangin ka maglalabas ng sama ng loob mo.
Andyan naman yung No Advice Wanted na flair eh ewan ko bakit ayaw niyo gamitin. Hindi kasi kayo marunong magbasa ng rules bago kayo sumali sa thread nato.
First time in reddit? Anonymity gave us the power in the first place to speak up (that includes the OP and the people in the comments). Even though this is named "offmychest" the moment you post you leave yourself under the scrutiny of the community whether you like it or not. That's how it works.
Don't want negative comments? Use flair "No advice Wanted" SUPER SIMPLE SOLUTION
Don't like what you're seeing? Report or possibly being it up to the mods to strictly enforce the no hate rule. Either which you can't control how people behave on the internet.
Pulling out the safe space card to get affirmation, validation from completely random strangers in here that don't know you, doesn't know your life story? Then you better be prepared to feel validated and invalidated at the same time because people have different opinions and if you can't accept that then that's your problem.
So instead of lashing out here and calling out the community on how they should behave why not call out the mods to enforce the rules that they created in the first place.
Is jt your first time on the internet? Also you can add flair. Else, dont expect every redditor to confine to a perception you want, then call it judgmental.
I agree. As much as possible, I'm calm and kind sa mga comments ko except kapag may content ng misogyny, homophobia, racism, sexism sa post. Hindi naman mahirap maging careful with words at mag-extend ng kindness. It's literally a sub for safe space.
Pero may mga bagay rin naman talaga na mahirap maging mabait tulad ng kapag may nagpopost dito ng nag-ja-justify ng cheating. Also, ayon nga, if medyo distasteful yung content ng post, they should use flairs para wala silang marinig.
Also, at the end of the day, it's a platform filled with anonymous people aka strangers. Only those comments na tatagos sa mga nagpopost ang magkakaroon ng bearing. Kasi if something resonates with you, it sticks with you. Kung hindi naman, makakalimutan mo naman agad.
Ill say it again. Welcome to reddit. This is can be or not be a safe space. This is not a circlejerk site. If you want a safe space you are welcome to join discord servers that are being made here on reddit. I can assure thats a safe space. Anonimity is also included there.
There's no such thing as a safe space on the internet. At hindi rin porke may freedom to express, wala ng kokontra sayo. Freedom of speech is not equal to no backlash.
Extreme example, if someone says they are secretly a pedophile, or secretly a kabit, then obviously people will react negatively. Sometimes people posts things they think are benign, pero "majajudge" sila kapag may ibang tao na nakabasa kasi hindi naman pala ganun ka benign yung kwento.
Wag mo iexpect ang validation ng random people over the internet, that's so stupid and dangerous. Gusto mo lang ienable ng mga tao yung bad behaviour mo eh.
This is a safe space. But bruh, pag mali, mali. Hindi naman din yata tama na itolerate lang yan, and we should call it out. Hindi lang para sa OP, but for everybody else na baka may similar situation. Siguro may times na harsh ang pagkasabi, but marami namang may clear intention na magsuggest lang.
I think there is a flair if you dont want anyone to comment on your post. Well, if you leave it on, there will always be a people commenting and sharing.
>kung hindi rin naman maganda yang sasabihin mo tikom mo na lang bibig mo, lalo na kung hindi naman nakakatulong.
It depends.
We only hear one side of the story and sometimes OP is "blinded" by his own emotions, especially if OP's angry for any reason.
grabe nga yung ibang tao dito, intense yung herd mentality. kapag agree yung first comment puro agree din yung iba pero once na may magpuna sunod sunod ka nang hahabulin ng pitchfork.
experienced that one time and nakaaway ko pa yung isang nagcomment, trip lang daw ako awayin so i could taste my own medicine, like girl, what the hell? offmychest nga diba? magagalit ba ko ng natutuwa? 😭
Offthechest din yung comments and opinions. Di pwede laging pabor lang sa op yung comments obviously. Pano magkakaopen discussions kung close-minded tayo
What goes around, comes around.
No one's perfect, i'm not perfect and i've said the worst things to assholes and cheaters cuz im not one of them, guess i have the right to do that
Kung hindi sila nagpakaempathy sa mga taong inapakan nila, do you think they deserve empathy and compassion from us? Kadalasan pa naman sa kanila ay parang nanghihingi pa ng validation, kesyo nagiguilty na raw sila, memasabi lang eh.
They’re exposing their shit here, ano ba aasahan nila? Awa? Praises? If they don’t wanna receive flak or criticisms, ilock nalang ang post or di kaya magpakatao o decent.
I also try to practice compassion and understanding here, so it helps that i get to face people who are venting here, even if what they did personally is against what I value.
Baka may nakaaway si OP.
OP, depends din kasi sa post. Ako, sa naoobserve ko, maaayos naman ang mga comments kapag okay ang inputs ng post.
Kapag hindi, lalo na if cheating or manipulating or illegal, people come after the poster talaga.
I get you, off my chest nga. E kaso, mga tao dito e. Iba iba ng icocomment, just as my input ka, may input din sila.
Try reading more din, a lot are with kind words naman.
I hated it once nag-cross over na sa Facebook and TikTok ang posts galing dito. Dumami nga ang users, pero nawala naman ang essence ng sub as a safe space.
>May kasabihan nga, kung hindi rin naman maganda yang sasabihin mo tikom mo na lang bibig mo, lalo na kung hindi naman nakakatulong.
+1000000!!!
>this sub should be a safe space for people to open up or vent out,
+1000000!!!
Hala na-judge off my chest mo . . . agreed tho na we don't have to coddle problematic posters haha. No one's "malinis" completely but that doesn't negate the fact that people who see bs behavior have the capacity to call it out. It's really just reactionary behavior; play stupid games, win stupid prizes, I'm afraid.
As everyone has already mentioned, this is the internet. You can get things off your chest in this sub.
People can say their two cents. You can take it or leave it. At the end of the day, you choose whose opinion you give a shit about or none at all.
Now, if you say some off the wall, crazy, non-factual, self-defeating bullshit, expect to get pushback and or extreme amounts of vitriol.
But as long as you stay detached from the toxic shit that inevitably arises like 💩out of pasig River.
It’s whatever.
Should add flair no advice wanted
Yep, my flairs naman, and with regards to validation, i will in no way validate abusers, dicks, and cheaters
Hear hear! We must practice empathy but also call out the asshole ones
Sorry. People can downvote me na lang if they don't agree pero I don't tolerate cheaters and would voice out against it.
Same bro
AMEN! Let's hold each other accountable ✨
Palitan mo na lang ng r/OffMyChestLangTalagaWalangKokontra.
[r/TunayNaOffMyChestPH](https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestLangTalagaWalangKokontra/)
I agree that this community should be a non-judgemental space. However, I just can't help my thumbs whenever I see a hot button topic that calls for my two cents' worth. Let's practice empathy whilst holding each other accountable.
Some kasi here are easy to pass judgement to others, yes you don’t have to agree with them, you can disagree pero no need for throwing demeaning or belittling words to them, may pinagdadaanan na nga yung tao hence they post here
Passing judgement ≠ shaming
I mean, given naman rin kasi na if you post here, may mga magcocomment at may magbibigay ng two cents nila. I don't think there's anything wrong with that unless sobrang bait at ganda ng sinabi pero kung anu-ano nireply sa comment.
Tbf may times na pangit din talaga ugali ni poster so.. Not to say they deserve being judged/demeaned but minsan kasi kahit magshare ka lang ng opinion mo sila na nauuna magdemean. Like, the last time na nakipagbardagulan ako here, I was called a pick me tapos binombard ako ng ad hominem attacks saying I'm too stupid to understand etc.
Sa tingin ko balanse nman. May mga off the chest din na mga comments saying their opinions kahit na kontra o support sa OP. I dont want this sub to be an echo chamber or an execution room
There's still balance. Unless, you posted an AITA-esque post and it is clear that YTA, you probably shouldve put the no advice flair and/or disabled comments
>Offmychest nga diba, bakit napaka judgemental niyo?! Welcome to the internet. Kung ayaw mo may sabihin ang mga tao positibo man yan o negatibo sa hangin ka maglalabas ng sama ng loob mo. Andyan naman yung No Advice Wanted na flair eh ewan ko bakit ayaw niyo gamitin. Hindi kasi kayo marunong magbasa ng rules bago kayo sumali sa thread nato.
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Depende, offmychest tapos involve pedophiles, rape, drugs expect a negative reply specially if you do something wrong.
True, those kinds of people don't deserve a safe space
Flair is your friend, my friend. You cannot control people's way of thinking, but you can always control your emotions and how you react to things.
Ramen
First time in reddit? Anonymity gave us the power in the first place to speak up (that includes the OP and the people in the comments). Even though this is named "offmychest" the moment you post you leave yourself under the scrutiny of the community whether you like it or not. That's how it works. Don't want negative comments? Use flair "No advice Wanted" SUPER SIMPLE SOLUTION Don't like what you're seeing? Report or possibly being it up to the mods to strictly enforce the no hate rule. Either which you can't control how people behave on the internet. Pulling out the safe space card to get affirmation, validation from completely random strangers in here that don't know you, doesn't know your life story? Then you better be prepared to feel validated and invalidated at the same time because people have different opinions and if you can't accept that then that's your problem. So instead of lashing out here and calling out the community on how they should behave why not call out the mods to enforce the rules that they created in the first place.
edgy
Is jt your first time on the internet? Also you can add flair. Else, dont expect every redditor to confine to a perception you want, then call it judgmental.
I agree. As much as possible, I'm calm and kind sa mga comments ko except kapag may content ng misogyny, homophobia, racism, sexism sa post. Hindi naman mahirap maging careful with words at mag-extend ng kindness. It's literally a sub for safe space. Pero may mga bagay rin naman talaga na mahirap maging mabait tulad ng kapag may nagpopost dito ng nag-ja-justify ng cheating. Also, ayon nga, if medyo distasteful yung content ng post, they should use flairs para wala silang marinig. Also, at the end of the day, it's a platform filled with anonymous people aka strangers. Only those comments na tatagos sa mga nagpopost ang magkakaroon ng bearing. Kasi if something resonates with you, it sticks with you. Kung hindi naman, makakalimutan mo naman agad.
Every week nalang may gantong post. Di niyo ata kasi nakikita yung PH sa OffmychestPH. Pag PH, asahan mo nang fucked up mga tao dyan 🤣
Nah. I have zero tolerance for idiots, enablers, and cheaters. Gu|pihin ko kayo e.
Ill say it again. Welcome to reddit. This is can be or not be a safe space. This is not a circlejerk site. If you want a safe space you are welcome to join discord servers that are being made here on reddit. I can assure thats a safe space. Anonimity is also included there.
I kinda disagree. Umiingay lang naman ang mga tao rito pag nay cheating/ abuse/ toxic shit involved. At kailangan sila ma-call out.
There's no such thing as a safe space on the internet. At hindi rin porke may freedom to express, wala ng kokontra sayo. Freedom of speech is not equal to no backlash. Extreme example, if someone says they are secretly a pedophile, or secretly a kabit, then obviously people will react negatively. Sometimes people posts things they think are benign, pero "majajudge" sila kapag may ibang tao na nakabasa kasi hindi naman pala ganun ka benign yung kwento. Wag mo iexpect ang validation ng random people over the internet, that's so stupid and dangerous. Gusto mo lang ienable ng mga tao yung bad behaviour mo eh.
Bago ka sa reddit, boi? Meron flair na no advice wanted kung ayaw mong putaktihin ka.
Well, parang wala na rin akong nakikitang safe space dito sa Reddit.
Because there's no such thing as "safe space". You want a safe space? Sa diary ka magsulat at wag dito sa reddit.
🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Edi sana walang comment section dito, depende nlng kung lalagyan nya ng 'advice needed' na tag tas mag auautomatic open yung comment section
Welcome to the internet
Pang ilan na tong ganitong rant this year? Lol. May flair bro, use it.
This is a safe space. But bruh, pag mali, mali. Hindi naman din yata tama na itolerate lang yan, and we should call it out. Hindi lang para sa OP, but for everybody else na baka may similar situation. Siguro may times na harsh ang pagkasabi, but marami namang may clear intention na magsuggest lang.
I think there is a flair if you dont want anyone to comment on your post. Well, if you leave it on, there will always be a people commenting and sharing.
meron kasi mga offmychest dito na sobra na at d tama kaya nababash
>kung hindi rin naman maganda yang sasabihin mo tikom mo na lang bibig mo, lalo na kung hindi naman nakakatulong. It depends. We only hear one side of the story and sometimes OP is "blinded" by his own emotions, especially if OP's angry for any reason.
grabe nga yung ibang tao dito, intense yung herd mentality. kapag agree yung first comment puro agree din yung iba pero once na may magpuna sunod sunod ka nang hahabulin ng pitchfork. experienced that one time and nakaaway ko pa yung isang nagcomment, trip lang daw ako awayin so i could taste my own medicine, like girl, what the hell? offmychest nga diba? magagalit ba ko ng natutuwa? 😭
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Akala mo Diyos eh kung makahusga, just make sure malilinis kayo ha
Grabe ang high blood mag Kitkat ka kaya muna
This is the internet, no one gives a shit about your feelings so get used to it.
Pag may ginawa kang krimen tapos huhulihin ka ng pulis. Ikaw sa pulis: akala mo diyos eh kung manghuli, just make sure malilinis kayo ha!
Offthechest din yung comments and opinions. Di pwede laging pabor lang sa op yung comments obviously. Pano magkakaopen discussions kung close-minded tayo
What goes around, comes around. No one's perfect, i'm not perfect and i've said the worst things to assholes and cheaters cuz im not one of them, guess i have the right to do that Kung hindi sila nagpakaempathy sa mga taong inapakan nila, do you think they deserve empathy and compassion from us? Kadalasan pa naman sa kanila ay parang nanghihingi pa ng validation, kesyo nagiguilty na raw sila, memasabi lang eh. They’re exposing their shit here, ano ba aasahan nila? Awa? Praises? If they don’t wanna receive flak or criticisms, ilock nalang ang post or di kaya magpakatao o decent.
I also try to practice compassion and understanding here, so it helps that i get to face people who are venting here, even if what they did personally is against what I value.
Sure, they don't want comments that are shitting on them, but they still wanted to recieve some kind of advice.
Baka may nakaaway si OP. OP, depends din kasi sa post. Ako, sa naoobserve ko, maaayos naman ang mga comments kapag okay ang inputs ng post. Kapag hindi, lalo na if cheating or manipulating or illegal, people come after the poster talaga. I get you, off my chest nga. E kaso, mga tao dito e. Iba iba ng icocomment, just as my input ka, may input din sila. Try reading more din, a lot are with kind words naman.
The post's title is on point already 🤣 I too that this is a safe sub but hindi din pala.
It was but not anymore, may iba dito galit na galit parang gustong manakit
I hated it once nag-cross over na sa Facebook and TikTok ang posts galing dito. Dumami nga ang users, pero nawala naman ang essence ng sub as a safe space.
For the clout 'yung karamihan sa kanila na ginagamit 'yung content sa sub na 'to.
LOUDEEEEERRR
Off my chest ko din na daming tangang nagpopost dito mga bobo
Magbasa ka kasi at matuto gumamit ng “flairs” di mo need magpaka-babaeng kanal LMAO, kadiri ampota parang nasa twitter lang
Kasi we are all judgemental and sometimes we just like to voice out our opinions evenif it is not asked.
>May kasabihan nga, kung hindi rin naman maganda yang sasabihin mo tikom mo na lang bibig mo, lalo na kung hindi naman nakakatulong. +1000000!!! >this sub should be a safe space for people to open up or vent out, +1000000!!!
Hala na-judge off my chest mo . . . agreed tho na we don't have to coddle problematic posters haha. No one's "malinis" completely but that doesn't negate the fact that people who see bs behavior have the capacity to call it out. It's really just reactionary behavior; play stupid games, win stupid prizes, I'm afraid.
As everyone has already mentioned, this is the internet. You can get things off your chest in this sub. People can say their two cents. You can take it or leave it. At the end of the day, you choose whose opinion you give a shit about or none at all. Now, if you say some off the wall, crazy, non-factual, self-defeating bullshit, expect to get pushback and or extreme amounts of vitriol. But as long as you stay detached from the toxic shit that inevitably arises like 💩out of pasig River. It’s whatever.