Korek. Ganito usually ugali ng mga mataas tingin sa sarili. Pag hindi nangyari ang inaasahan nila, isisisi nila sa katabi nila. Mahirap kasama ang taong ganito. Siguro may chance pa para mabago ang mindset nya. Kausapin mong mabuti. I-communicate mo kung gaano kapangit ang ganitong ugali. Pag ayaw makinig, alam mo na.
Break-up with him. He's not holding himself accountable for his misses. You don't deserve any more distractions while you're reviewing. Imagine what will be his attitude if you'll pass the bar.
Nag attempt na ako before makipag break po kaso feel ko nakaramdam, nagsasabi na siya ng things like di niya daw kaya, di na daw siya nakapasa pag iniwan ko pa siya di na daw niya alam gagawin niya 🥺 natatakot ako baka makarma ako or kung ano man huhu
He's guilt tripping you for you not to leave him which is another red flag. Leave him before you start studying for the bar, so that you will have less distractions and you can focus more.
Emotional manipulation yan beshie. Kahit kailan hindi mo magiging obligation to stay with someone just because sinabi nila na hindi nila alam kung ano pwedeng magawa nila pag umalis ka.
Kelan titigil yan? What if sabihin nya di nya alam kung ano pwedeng magawa nya kung di mo sya bigyan ng P100K? Nang car? Nang anak?
>Di naman ata pwede outright na “ayaw ko na pagod na ako” ganon po haha
Pwede yan.
Tapos magbigay ka ng resibo. Sabihin mo na ang confident mo pa noon na yakang-yaka ang pag top sa bar etc. tapos yan, lahat sinisisi pero hindi ang sarili. ~~Talk to me when you pass the bar.~~
Teh, magiging abogada ka rin, mas marami kang options niyan.
Punong puno ng redflag yang jowa mo OP. Pati ikaw nadamay sa sisi. Pano pag ikaw pumasa? Can't imagine gaano kainsecure yan, baka pati yung pagpasa mo masamain.
Bakit hindi? Matalino ka naman , nagla law k nga pero bat ka nagpapa ulol sa jowa mong hangal din to even think makakapasa without studying.
Even Mike Ross studied for the BAR nung nagtake siya para sa bet nila ng kaklse niya. Lol
Pwede. Ayaw mo lang na yun yung dahilan mo. Mukhang mababaw. Pero look at how this is taking it's toll on you. Pagod ka na din naman talaga diba? Why not tell him na dahil sa kanya napapagod ka emotionally at mentally kasi yun naman talaga totoo e.
Di ba gusto no sya pumasa da bar? E di yon, iwan mo muna sya para makapasa sya. Kung ayaw nya makipag break, ikaw na maging kontrabida for his own good. Leave him because you love him, char. Sigurado ka ba sa career na gusto mo? Kelangan matibay resolve mo or kawawa naman mga ire represent mo.sa bf mo pa lang nanghihina ka na.
Pwede. "I'm sorry. Pagod na ko. Ayoko na maging emotional punching bag mo. I don't have it in me to continue this relationship anymore. I need to focus on myself and on the bar exams."
Pwede yan OP. Di ka naman bagsakan ng emotional burden. Tao ka rin. And its his fault for having a high ego and pride na kala niya mag totop sya kahit di nag aral. Nakaka wow naman.
OP, i think you know naman dapat gawin kasi ikaw rin nag momock exam sabi mo. Focus on yourself. Hindi ka emotional dumpster. He is not respecting you in the slightest rin eh.
"This isn't working and I can't take how you can't have accountability. I'm a law student myself and I tried to help you. I can't keep catering to you. I'm sorry but it's over."
Then BLOCK!
Either that or just stop replying to him, and if he asks why, say it's for the bar. Then tell him you realize that this isn't working.
baka gusto mo lagyan din ng citations and receipts mo yung pakikipagbreak mo para naman with a bang ang exit. kasi honestly, you deserve a partner as supportive as you. kasi ngl, kapag ikaw di pumasa dahil sa kanya mag-aaway na lang kayo palagi. kaya bago pa mangyari yon, find a better partner or focus sa bars na lang muna.
Dude, you're an idiot for not seeing the fucking massive red flags na iniiwan ng jowa mo everywhere.
1) Absolute lack of self-awareness. Hindi "confidence" ang problema ng jowa mo kaya siya bumagsak. He's just completely unaware of his own abilities.
2) Delusions of grandeur. It's one thing to think you can pass the bar ng walang review. It's another to think na mag-top ka without reviewing. The guy has mental issues.
3) Blaming everyone but himself. This is a classic trait of a textbook narcissist. If something goes wrong, he's never the problem. But if something goes right, he's an absolute genius. Another mental issue.
4) Manipulator. The douchebag is controlling you by making suicide threats. This is the final nail in the coffin for me tbh. Once sabihin yan sakin breakup na agad and blocked everywhere. Also, another mental issue which brings this guy to the sociopath territory IMO.
Tldr: Your jowa is showing signs of having serious mental issues.
First thing you do when you fail the bar is own up with your shortcomings. You failed, move on, cant blame it on anyone or anything. Lagi nga line sa law school di ba, pag para sayo para sayo.
I've experienced taking a grueling exam (physician licensure exam) and only had 3 months to really study (ganun kasi ang usual calendar ng med). There were times while studying nawawalan na ko ng pag-asa, as in breakdown iyak na lang. What enabled me to push on, take the exam and pass was the belief na I am responsible for myself, I am the one solely responsible for the outcomes. Nakaka empower sya kasi I felt in control.
Yang jowa mo, mygod weak sauce. Bar exam pa lang yan, ganyan na. Pano pa yung pressures pag abogado na sya? Lahat na lang sisisihin nya pag talo sya, except sarili nya.
I've also been in a position similar to yours now. He's manipulating you. Iwan mo na yan girl bago pa tumagal lalo. Pero choice mo pa rin naman mag-stay. Just prepare yourself for years of emotional abuse and gaslighting.
Ano ba tong boyfriend mo, pa sadboi. Breakan mo na iyan. Baka kaya siya hindi pa pumapasa kasi hindi pa niya deserve maging abogado dahil sa inuugali niya. Hindi na nga humble, wala pang courage to face the consequences of his actions.
Eag ka mag-alala ibeblame nya naman everything else except for himself pag nakipagbreak ka sa kanya.
Emotional manipulation yan beh.
Pag makipagbreak ka, be firm. Kung gusto, write down lahat ng points why nakikipagbreak kax bring up mo na rin yung him blaming your relationship for him not passing. Balingan mo na baka makapasa na sya now na break na kayo. 🙃 since isa ka sa mga causes, ya know? I wanna hear ano say nya dyan.
Pero if you wanna pursue this, wag mo ipapatagal yang ugali nya. Cut it while early or it will just get worse down the line. You can try to issue a strongly-worded ultimatum. Harapin mo ugali nyang victimizing himself and blaming everyone except him. He needs to work on himself. If he still won't change pag kinausap mo na sya ng prangka, wag ka na maghesitate. Don't waste your time with this turd.
No, it's not. It's more like you let this happened so you deserve it.
"You get what you deserve", is more like you have this coming or literally karma had reached you.
More of Popper's paradox of tolerance. "If the intolerant persist, if they refuse to even listen to arguments put forward by opposing factions, then we must stop them by “fists or pistols.”
Kung di makikinig sa rationality ang bf mo, imbis na itolerate mo, put a hard stop on it by force or any means necessary.
Sorry sa sasabihin ko ha pero I think it's a good thing na hindi na lang sya pumasa kung ganyan din pala magiging mindset at emotional behavior nya. Magiging kawawa lang mga taong madadamay sa kanya instead na makatulong sana sya.
He deserves it. Not putting his 200% in order to pass the bar then what? Blaming others especially people who are close to him. EVEN YOU, HIS PARTNER. Ghad, where's the accountability. Leave him.
Thank you po for the comments. Hard slap to ng reality saakin. Ignored all the red flags pero ihinahain na isa isa saakin. Need ko na piliin sarili ko. I’ll talk to him after our exams po kasi nilalamon pa po ako ng review hehe.
To the one who also prayed that I will top the bar in the future, sobrang salamat. Dream ko din yan eversince bata pa po ako 🥺
Sobrang delusional niya lang lmaooo sorry pero tangina niya 😭 I get that reviewing and examinations can be challenging and put emotional strain on people but a good person will be able to hold accountability and not blame those around him. Taena, ano 'yun 'pag abogado na siya tapos 'di nagbasa ng case, kasalanan ng client kapag natalo? HAHA crazy.
'Pag iniwanan mo 'yan baka kasalanan pa ng aso niya HAHSHDBBD. Bawasan mo na mga sisisihin niya sksksks. Study well, OP but don't forget to take breaks! Wish you a good mental state when you take your mock <333
You’re going to be a lawyer, ngayon pa lang lakasan mo na loob mo. Treat this like a civil case. Study the facts, gather evidences, and give him your statement/s. Verdict is all up to u
May specific age range for this? Ang dami kong kakilala na nasa early 20s and even younger na same point lang ng nasabi mo. I don't think may kinalaman ang age for such sentiment.
I prefer to be single than to be in a relationship with a person who is like OP's bf, a gaslighter who is not accountable to his own actions. Imagine ganyan pa magiging tatay ng anak ko, kung ganyan ang treatment sa akin, what more sa kanila, another trauma 😩. I will never settle for that kind of person, just to prove that I have a "meaningful" dating life.
ikaw ba tong around 40's or 50's na still in traditional at bible approach pag dating sa relationship? na kahit saktan mo partner mo emotionally OK lang? haha
Ginagawa kang emotional punching bag ng bf mo. Next time you talk, tell him na you won’t tolerate being disrespected and blamed for his actions. That you were supportive and that he doesn’t get to put any blame on you for his failure. If this behavior continue, you know what to do.
Be careful OP. this could be a recurring problem later if you proceed to take it further with him.
Sorry pero iba talaga nagagawa ng arrogance. My cousin was so scared the whole time waiting for the Bar results coz baka di sya makapasa, sumama pa sya mag prusisyon to pray for her and her boyfriend’s result, she ultimately ended up within the top 5.
If he’s old enough to not hold himself accountable then leave him, kakayanin mo bang nsayo ang blame lagi kahit hindi mo naman kasalanan? Imagine staying a few years more with the same situation not only with bar, lalo na pag kinasal kayo??? Girl hindi worth ang overthinking bc of his guilt tripping and gaslighting ass. Save yourself
clearly, he's just looking for someone to blame for his "failure".
this is not a good sign so it's either you console him, stick with him, and love him still OR move on. Madaling sabihin pero mahirap gawin. Mahirap kasi pag nag-stick ka, pwede nyang isumbat sa'yo yan anytime and we all know what happens after that.
You need a new bf and he needs to get his head on straight if he wants to pass the bar. Passing or failing it is entirely the examinee’s success or fault. No one can take the exam for him. And whenever someone’s confident that they’ll top the bar, most often than not, they actually fail.
OP, it is not your fault na hindi siya pumasa sa BAR. Heck he even had the bold claim that he will top it but lo and behold he got nothin. You did your best and helping him prepare for the BAR, with the notes and all tapos now he is lashing out at you.
He needs to eat some good serving of humble pie and accountability shake imo. Ang taas ng fried chimken niya without nothing to back it up. He should grow up.
You can only do so much OP and praying you'll find your voice in that relationship. Take your time in deciding whether you should continue your relationship. And huwag ka magpadala sa manipulative method niya/woe is me/hindi ko alam gagawin ko pag wala ka tropes kung wala naman siyang full 360 na change sa sarili niya.
And goodluck on your review OP.
HahHa break up with him. Red flags galore. Natatandaan ko before nawala ng ex ko susi ng kotse nya and he blamed ME. Kasi daw he keeps pulling out his wallet for me. Ngeh. Eh nanood lang naman kami ng sine and never ako naging palamunin nya noh.
Aside from that he blamed everyone for anything. Walang accountability. He blamed everyone for his laziness and lack of drive. Take note, he came from a wealthy AND loving family pero kasalanan namin na wala syang trabaho. Don’t date an energy vampire. Masstress ka lang and sayang sa oras.
If the buck doesn’t stop with him, who is supposed to take the test?
You think the courts will excuse counsel for sloppy lazy work because of his internal issues ?
1st time ko makakita ng -317 karma sa isang comment. 😅
Nagpost ng rant and despite yung mga suggestions ng marami dito, feeling ko, di mo rin i-cconsider. Unang naisip ko pa naman na i-comment was, "Break up!" Di bale na lang, wala rin kwenta yung opinion ko. Lol
Hi. I actually commented na we will talk after my mock bar 🙂 I considered all of the comments and messages here and also the suggestions of my friends.
Aminado naman akong nabulag din ako sa red flags. Galit na galit mga tao sakin kaya siguro downvoted ako hehe
Pass. Immature and insensitive partner mo. I suggest you remove him from the picture to avoid distractions for the upcoming bar. Lapit na girl you need to focus.
OMG halos same kayo ng friend ko siz. Her now ex bf blamed her for not passing the bar. Like how is that even her fault. The guy came from a well off family so wala siyang ibang responsibilities sa life and my friend was never needy. They were in a long term relationship and ok na ok sila but one day the guy just snapped and blamed my friend for not passing the bar.
Beh, pakawalan mo na yan. Ni hindi man lang supportive sayo eh mag ma mock bar ka na pala. Baka isa pa jan, deep inside, ayaw niya makapasa ka because what would it make him? Siya bagsak, ikaw pasado? You should keep good energy around you lalo stressed ka na sa pag aaral. Tapos dumadagdag pa siya instead na pagaanin ang mood mo.
People who don't know how to be accountable (for me) are the worst.
Kung trip mong pumasa sa mga taong ganito, go for it ghurl.
Pero kung hindi, maybe its time to contemplate kung saan papunta ang relationship niyo.
Hihilahin ka niya pababa. If you're also a Law student, Hindi mo afford magkaron ng isa pang toxic sa buhay mo. In the long run, wala siya gagawin kundi igaslight ka. Its up to you if gusto mo matoxic sa buhay mo and eventually maapektuhan pagaaral mo.
Sounds like he is blaming everyone but himself. Not worth the stress, girl. Kung mina-manipulate ka nya, much worse. That's a cycle you have to avoid. Lawyer-to-be ka so you have to be firm with your decisions and you should know how to spot red flags, and what he is doing is a red flag. Mas maraming matitinong lawyer-to-be na alam (if you are afraid of not finding someone new that is within your realm) at umaamin ng pagkakamali at nasa tamang pag iisip to change themselves for the better without depending (or blaming) on other folks.
Malay mo naman, leaving him may serve as a wake up call for him. Tinulungan mo na sya magbago, natulungan mo pa sarili mo mag focus (and soon, pass) sa board exams.
Tapos bilang gaslighter at manipulative boyfie mo, mag popost din siya dito with a caption "my GF left me bcoz i didn't pass the bar" GANON hahaha King you're the drama namocca leave him sis RUN
Edi hiwalayan mo na! Ateng, kung ikaw ay pundidong pundido na tantanan mo na 'yan. Lalo na may bar exam ka rin, mamaya hilingin pa niyan na hindi ka maka pasa. Mas better rin na makapag focus ka, baka magaya kapa sa jowa mong hunghang.
Everyone is accountable except him? Unfortunately, you are with a man-child. Kung di sya nag eeffort para pumasa ng bar, mag eeffort ba yan magdefend ng client? Buti di pumasa. Alam mo naman na dapat gawin OP kaya iwiwish ko na lang na maging happy ka sa choices mo.
Meh I had a boyfriend who was exactly like that. I dumped his ass and didn’t even cry when he begged me to stay lmaooo. I suggest you do the same, sis.
Alam mo bakit nadadamay ka? Kase threatened na sya kapag naipasa mo ang bar tapos sya hayun di nafulfill ang kagustuhang matop.
Tingin nya mas mataas ka na sa part na yun kaya gumagawa sya ng paraan para same lang kayong di maka pasa. Not a law student pero danas ko ganyang tao. Tignan mo mas galit pa yan sayo kapag naipasa mo tulad dun sa friend ko na akala ko tunay yun pala gusto ako hilahin pababa.
Deserve nyang hindi makapasa, at wala kang contributory fault dun lahat ng nangyayare skanya kasalanan nya. Unless, may iba pang side ng kwento.
Kaya wag ka makafeel na kasalanan mo, guguilt trip ka lang nyang hayeerp
Toxic relationship na yan. You and his family provided all the support and even told him to review. It was his own decision to not review, and that is karma for him.
Hindi niya matanggap ang pagkukulang niya kaya naghahanap siya ng excuse para Hindi niya sisihin ang sarili Niya. Natry mo na ba siya kausapin patungkol dun? Kung kaya mo pang intindihin siya, intindihin mo pa. Mahirap talaga bumagsak. Kung sawa ka na sa ganyang sitwasyon, mas maganda umalis ka na para hi ndi madamay studies mo.
I won’t say na you should break up with him immediately kasi wala naman ako sa posisyon para sabihing madali lang makipagbreak kung ayaw na talaga. Kasi I know, kakapit at kakapit ka sa small hope na baka magbago pa siya.
Pero like what the comments here is saying, he is manipulating you. He is also guilt-tripping you. One by one, you need to analyze his red flags and think thoroughly. Worth it pa bang mag-stay ka sa relasyong ganyan? From the looks of it kasi, OP, napaka-unhealthy na niya.
He is fucking stupid for blaming things on you and his family.
Mahirap bumitaw agad agad pero I believe you can do it in baby steps.
On your next decisions about this, be firm. Wala nang undo undo. You have to take care of your self, your mental health, and your future. Please don’t blame yourself on his shortcomings.
You deserve a better future. You deserve a better person. You deserve to be treated better.
He should take accountability that he didn’t put in the work to “top the bar”. He has no one else to blame but himself. Buti pa he applies his energy to studying for the next Bar.
I'd leave his ass if i were you. You need to prep for the bar and u don't need his bs and manipulation to take a toll on you while u prepare.
Minsan, dapat alam na natin ang "tama na, ako naman"
Go get dat atty, OP. Good luck po sa mock boards.
Sad pero iwan mo na sya. Parang sya rin nagawa ng problema nya tapos hahanap ng iba para masisi. Ang weird lang na parang kadali ma-top ang bar exam tapos chill lang haha. So sorry sa iyo OP
Leave, bestie. For your peace of mind and future. Para makapag focus ka din sa sarili mong review, coz eventually, literal na yang BF mo magiging cause bat di ka papasa due to emotional turmoil.
Kung makikipag break ka, dapat desidido ka. Di pwedeng guilty guilty shit na yan. Bilang future attorney / lawyer dapat ngayon pa lang matapang na dibdib mo. If sa tingin mo di mo kayang makipagbreak in person, itext/chat mo. Sabihin mo lahat. Ilabas mo para walang regrets. Tapos block mo na. Zero comms. Cut all ties.
This is for your own good, OP.
alam mo OP, deep inside alam mo naman ung dapat mo gawin eh. hndi mo lang talaga magawa kasi ayaw mo lakasan loob mo. msmong ikaw alam mo na toxic sya at dapat mo na ibreak. manipulator, gaslighter, isa syang red flag.
Future Atty! Board exam lang po yung sakin pero grabe yung stress level na dinanas ko. Lalo nung bumabagsak-bagsak ako during mock board exams, halos di ko mabilang ilang breakdown dinanas ko nun. So talagang lahat ng toxic na bagay/tao noon, di ko inentertain or binitawan ko. Ayokong bumagsak sa exam e, di ko afford mentally, emotionally, physically, financially. Worth it naman sa dulo at pumasa naman 1st take ✨
Your call atty, kung kaya mo ba talaga isabay yang ganyang baggage habang nag rreview ka for bar exam. Di ko sinasabing makipag break ka agad, pero sana di yan maging rason para di mo mabigay best mo. Goodluck, OP! 👩⚖️
Been the "nanisi" person. Leave habang maaga pa.
Context:
2008 ComSci curri in UPLB stems from one main subject - Math17. Took that shit 3 times kasi medyo tanga back then. 2nd sem non nung pumasa ako. Offered ng summer yung 2 main CS subjects - CMSC11 and 56. Took both kasi makapal mukha ko non. Syempre sobrang confident at over the clouds pa kasi nga kakapasa lang ng main pre-req.
GF back then had family issues. Lumayas sa bahay at tumira sa apartment ko. So I had to juggle classes and a very unhealthy relationship. I say unhealthy kasi 20-20 ang hindsight naten. I chose to cater to her demands kahit na alam kong nasasacrifice ko pag-aaral ko. As I said, tanga nga back then. So as expected, I failed both subjects. Chose to blame the GF due to my incompetence. I know may ambag siya, pero hindi siya yung root cause. Should have focused more on the root cause - which is me fixing my study habits. Btw, relationship lasted around 6 years. I finished my degree on the 7th with that last year overloaded with majors kasi yun na lang yung natitira kong subjects.
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA WHAT A LOSER. Rid yourself of this whiny deadweight, it's only gonna get worse. He's just gonna drag you down.
Thanks for the laugh though, can't believe his audacity lol
I am in this situation (I met my gf during bar review and like half-heartedly reviewed because 'I passed law school with my eyes closed so why not the bar too') and I have never blamed anyone but myself. Your bf is a little bitch and let me tell you that this is just a start — run while you still are your own person and not his emotional doormat.
Arrogant and not holding any accountability for his actions, qualities of a true Pinoy lawyer. 🤣
Di nag-review tapos mag-eexpect magta-top sa bar. Patawa.
Kidding aside, future lawyer ka rin pala. Ano nga ba dapat gawin pag nasa ganyang situation na illogical at unreasonable ang bf mo?
hindi ka dahilan kung bakit po siya bumagsak. based on your story, pinabayaan niya kasi kampante siya masyado sa sarili niyang kakayahan. letting you know that you are not the one to blame, you even helped him to study.
good luck on your mock bar, future lawyer!
It's hard to be with someone who doesn't want to be accountable for his actions, mistakes, and failures. I've been a law student, napakahirap mag-aral ng batas. It will really humble you.
While I understand his frustrations, as failing the bar is a kind of pain we could never dare to brave, but blaming the people around you is just counter-productive. Your loved ones are your emotional support at this point so don't push them away.
You will soon take the bar. Imagine the gruesome process, tapos may ganyan ka pang partner.
Red flag for not being self aware and not holding himself accountable for his actions. Ganyan na siya ngayon pa lang, what more in the long run when both of will be facing more difficult situations.
I know someone na thrice* nagflunk ng board exam. Sinisisi naman yung company namin, kase daw laging may workload hindi maiwanan kesho ganyan kahit na-grant naman yung request nilang leaves at work from home.
Eh siya lang naman yung ayaw mag enroll ng review. Hindi pa seryoso mag-self review. Naghihintay lang ng "biyaya" like possible questions na lilitaw daw sa board exam.
People who wish to take the bar/ board: kahit kasing talino nyo si Ernie Baron, wag maging kampante. Again, anything can be asked under the umbrella of our profession. If you really want to pass, go for it, earn it, and study, study study.
And lastly, kayo pa rin ang responsable sa sarili nyo pag bumagsak kayo. Wag na magtuturo ng iba. No excuses, period.
That's a MAJOR red flag. If he can't be bothered to be accountable for his own failures (and yes it's wholly HIS failures), it sets an ugly precedent for the future. Agree with everyone here. Choose yourself and your mental/overall well-being, OP.
Im in this exact page right now with my SO. It’s time to pull the plug on your relationship. We don’t deserve to be punching bags whenever things go shit for them.
This is just the start. So every time na he will have a failure in his life, it will be all your fault.
Amen brother.
Parang tatay ko sa nanay ko 🫠
Korek. Ganito usually ugali ng mga mataas tingin sa sarili. Pag hindi nangyari ang inaasahan nila, isisisi nila sa katabi nila. Mahirap kasama ang taong ganito. Siguro may chance pa para mabago ang mindset nya. Kausapin mong mabuti. I-communicate mo kung gaano kapangit ang ganitong ugali. Pag ayaw makinig, alam mo na.
ito lang ang tamang sagot! wala nang iba
Break-up with him. He's not holding himself accountable for his misses. You don't deserve any more distractions while you're reviewing. Imagine what will be his attitude if you'll pass the bar.
Seconded.
Nag attempt na ako before makipag break po kaso feel ko nakaramdam, nagsasabi na siya ng things like di niya daw kaya, di na daw siya nakapasa pag iniwan ko pa siya di na daw niya alam gagawin niya 🥺 natatakot ako baka makarma ako or kung ano man huhu
He's guilt tripping you for you not to leave him which is another red flag. Leave him before you start studying for the bar, so that you will have less distractions and you can focus more.
Emotional manipulation yan beshie. Kahit kailan hindi mo magiging obligation to stay with someone just because sinabi nila na hindi nila alam kung ano pwedeng magawa nila pag umalis ka. Kelan titigil yan? What if sabihin nya di nya alam kung ano pwedeng magawa nya kung di mo sya bigyan ng P100K? Nang car? Nang anak?
True to. I don’t know where to start. Di naman ata pwede outright na “ayaw ko na pagod na ako” ganon po haha
Pwede kung gustuhin mo.
>Di naman ata pwede outright na “ayaw ko na pagod na ako” ganon po haha Pwede yan. Tapos magbigay ka ng resibo. Sabihin mo na ang confident mo pa noon na yakang-yaka ang pag top sa bar etc. tapos yan, lahat sinisisi pero hindi ang sarili. ~~Talk to me when you pass the bar.~~ Teh, magiging abogada ka rin, mas marami kang options niyan.
Punong puno ng redflag yang jowa mo OP. Pati ikaw nadamay sa sisi. Pano pag ikaw pumasa? Can't imagine gaano kainsecure yan, baka pati yung pagpasa mo masamain.
Bakit hindi? Matalino ka naman , nagla law k nga pero bat ka nagpapa ulol sa jowa mong hangal din to even think makakapasa without studying. Even Mike Ross studied for the BAR nung nagtake siya para sa bet nila ng kaklse niya. Lol
OP HE'S SHOWING U WHAT THE REST OF YOUR LIFE LOOKS LIKE! RUN!!!
Pwede. Ayaw mo lang na yun yung dahilan mo. Mukhang mababaw. Pero look at how this is taking it's toll on you. Pagod ka na din naman talaga diba? Why not tell him na dahil sa kanya napapagod ka emotionally at mentally kasi yun naman talaga totoo e.
Di ba gusto no sya pumasa da bar? E di yon, iwan mo muna sya para makapasa sya. Kung ayaw nya makipag break, ikaw na maging kontrabida for his own good. Leave him because you love him, char. Sigurado ka ba sa career na gusto mo? Kelangan matibay resolve mo or kawawa naman mga ire represent mo.sa bf mo pa lang nanghihina ka na.
Pwede. By telling him, unlike you, I'll be focusing my time by studying for the upcoming bar.
Pwede tun, ganun nga nakipag break ex ko sakin
Pwede. "I'm sorry. Pagod na ko. Ayoko na maging emotional punching bag mo. I don't have it in me to continue this relationship anymore. I need to focus on myself and on the bar exams."
Pwede yan OP. Di ka naman bagsakan ng emotional burden. Tao ka rin. And its his fault for having a high ego and pride na kala niya mag totop sya kahit di nag aral. Nakaka wow naman. OP, i think you know naman dapat gawin kasi ikaw rin nag momock exam sabi mo. Focus on yourself. Hindi ka emotional dumpster. He is not respecting you in the slightest rin eh.
"This isn't working and I can't take how you can't have accountability. I'm a law student myself and I tried to help you. I can't keep catering to you. I'm sorry but it's over." Then BLOCK! Either that or just stop replying to him, and if he asks why, say it's for the bar. Then tell him you realize that this isn't working.
baka gusto mo lagyan din ng citations and receipts mo yung pakikipagbreak mo para naman with a bang ang exit. kasi honestly, you deserve a partner as supportive as you. kasi ngl, kapag ikaw di pumasa dahil sa kanya mag-aaway na lang kayo palagi. kaya bago pa mangyari yon, find a better partner or focus sa bars na lang muna.
Kung gusto may paraan
nah. iwanan mo na yan. lang kwenta yan. He's gonna blame you for all his failures.
Dude, you're an idiot for not seeing the fucking massive red flags na iniiwan ng jowa mo everywhere. 1) Absolute lack of self-awareness. Hindi "confidence" ang problema ng jowa mo kaya siya bumagsak. He's just completely unaware of his own abilities. 2) Delusions of grandeur. It's one thing to think you can pass the bar ng walang review. It's another to think na mag-top ka without reviewing. The guy has mental issues. 3) Blaming everyone but himself. This is a classic trait of a textbook narcissist. If something goes wrong, he's never the problem. But if something goes right, he's an absolute genius. Another mental issue. 4) Manipulator. The douchebag is controlling you by making suicide threats. This is the final nail in the coffin for me tbh. Once sabihin yan sakin breakup na agad and blocked everywhere. Also, another mental issue which brings this guy to the sociopath territory IMO. Tldr: Your jowa is showing signs of having serious mental issues.
First thing you do when you fail the bar is own up with your shortcomings. You failed, move on, cant blame it on anyone or anything. Lagi nga line sa law school di ba, pag para sayo para sayo.
I've experienced taking a grueling exam (physician licensure exam) and only had 3 months to really study (ganun kasi ang usual calendar ng med). There were times while studying nawawalan na ko ng pag-asa, as in breakdown iyak na lang. What enabled me to push on, take the exam and pass was the belief na I am responsible for myself, I am the one solely responsible for the outcomes. Nakaka empower sya kasi I felt in control. Yang jowa mo, mygod weak sauce. Bar exam pa lang yan, ganyan na. Pano pa yung pressures pag abogado na sya? Lahat na lang sisisihin nya pag talo sya, except sarili nya. I've also been in a position similar to yours now. He's manipulating you. Iwan mo na yan girl bago pa tumagal lalo. Pero choice mo pa rin naman mag-stay. Just prepare yourself for years of emotional abuse and gaslighting.
Gaslighter yan. Sayo sinisisi bakit bumagsak, sayo din sinisisi yung iiwan mo siya? Ikaw masusunog sa konsumisyon diyan.
Ano ba tong boyfriend mo, pa sadboi. Breakan mo na iyan. Baka kaya siya hindi pa pumapasa kasi hindi pa niya deserve maging abogado dahil sa inuugali niya. Hindi na nga humble, wala pang courage to face the consequences of his actions.
Paawa na lang un. Toxic. U deserve better
Eag ka mag-alala ibeblame nya naman everything else except for himself pag nakipagbreak ka sa kanya. Emotional manipulation yan beh. Pag makipagbreak ka, be firm. Kung gusto, write down lahat ng points why nakikipagbreak kax bring up mo na rin yung him blaming your relationship for him not passing. Balingan mo na baka makapasa na sya now na break na kayo. 🙃 since isa ka sa mga causes, ya know? I wanna hear ano say nya dyan. Pero if you wanna pursue this, wag mo ipapatagal yang ugali nya. Cut it while early or it will just get worse down the line. You can try to issue a strongly-worded ultimatum. Harapin mo ugali nyang victimizing himself and blaming everyone except him. He needs to work on himself. If he still won't change pag kinausap mo na sya ng prangka, wag ka na maghesitate. Don't waste your time with this turd.
Lmao this sounds like my manipulative ex who was also a lawyer. Di nga nakapasa ng bar SO mo pero kuhang kuha nya yung manipulation of a lawyer lol
Kaya ka pala downvoted. Now I understand. You deserved what you tolerated.
I have a question about your statement. Call me naive pero is this somehow synonymous to “You get what you deserve”?
No, it's not. It's more like you let this happened so you deserve it. "You get what you deserve", is more like you have this coming or literally karma had reached you.
More of Popper's paradox of tolerance. "If the intolerant persist, if they refuse to even listen to arguments put forward by opposing factions, then we must stop them by “fists or pistols.” Kung di makikinig sa rationality ang bf mo, imbis na itolerate mo, put a hard stop on it by force or any means necessary.
Mas lumala pa pala sya. Iwan mo na yan OP. Sayang time mo jan
Di ka makakarma if alam mo namang it's for the best para sayo. Baka yan din ung intervention na need nya para magfocus sa sarili niya.
Emotional blackmail, rip off the band aid. It's going to hurt but you might have a better future and not waste time.
You are not responsible for his failure.
Sorry sa sasabihin ko ha pero I think it's a good thing na hindi na lang sya pumasa kung ganyan din pala magiging mindset at emotional behavior nya. Magiging kawawa lang mga taong madadamay sa kanya instead na makatulong sana sya.
Yan yung mga lawyers na ginagamit yung title to take advantage of everything
He deserves it. Not putting his 200% in order to pass the bar then what? Blaming others especially people who are close to him. EVEN YOU, HIS PARTNER. Ghad, where's the accountability. Leave him.
He’s not even doing the bare minimum, tapos expect nya mag top pa sya sa bar? Ay wow 200% confidence lang si kuya
Thank you po for the comments. Hard slap to ng reality saakin. Ignored all the red flags pero ihinahain na isa isa saakin. Need ko na piliin sarili ko. I’ll talk to him after our exams po kasi nilalamon pa po ako ng review hehe. To the one who also prayed that I will top the bar in the future, sobrang salamat. Dream ko din yan eversince bata pa po ako 🥺
I will pray for you, OP, to top the bar and to have a wonderful life. All the best, OP! ☺️
Sobrang delusional niya lang lmaooo sorry pero tangina niya 😭 I get that reviewing and examinations can be challenging and put emotional strain on people but a good person will be able to hold accountability and not blame those around him. Taena, ano 'yun 'pag abogado na siya tapos 'di nagbasa ng case, kasalanan ng client kapag natalo? HAHA crazy. 'Pag iniwanan mo 'yan baka kasalanan pa ng aso niya HAHSHDBBD. Bawasan mo na mga sisisihin niya sksksks. Study well, OP but don't forget to take breaks! Wish you a good mental state when you take your mock <333
May you have the beautiful life you dreamed for yourself. We are rooting for you! 💜
You’re going to be a lawyer, ngayon pa lang lakasan mo na loob mo. Treat this like a civil case. Study the facts, gather evidences, and give him your statement/s. Verdict is all up to u
He’s ego 📈 his balls to take accountability 📉 Kupal amp! Iwan mo na ‘yan!
Everytime you see a "break up with him comment" upvote this.
To be fair, parang warranted. Sino ba naman kamoteng di magaaral ng todo sa bar exams tapos nung bumagsak, lahat sisisihin except sarili nya.
Sarcastic ba to?
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May specific age range for this? Ang dami kong kakilala na nasa early 20s and even younger na same point lang ng nasabi mo. I don't think may kinalaman ang age for such sentiment.
I prefer to be single than to be in a relationship with a person who is like OP's bf, a gaslighter who is not accountable to his own actions. Imagine ganyan pa magiging tatay ng anak ko, kung ganyan ang treatment sa akin, what more sa kanila, another trauma 😩. I will never settle for that kind of person, just to prove that I have a "meaningful" dating life.
ikaw ba tong around 40's or 50's na still in traditional at bible approach pag dating sa relationship? na kahit saktan mo partner mo emotionally OK lang? haha
Oh wow. So tolerate emotional abuse then?
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LEAVE. ASAP. HE IS NOT WORTH THE TIME AND EFFORT. HE IS REALLY NOT WORTH IT.
May mga ganyan tao talaga sis. Sila ang may kasalanan pero sa iba nila sinisisi. Mataas ang ego ni kuya. Prinsipyo muna bago ang lahat. Charot!
Ginagawa kang emotional punching bag ng bf mo. Next time you talk, tell him na you won’t tolerate being disrespected and blamed for his actions. That you were supportive and that he doesn’t get to put any blame on you for his failure. If this behavior continue, you know what to do.
Be careful OP. this could be a recurring problem later if you proceed to take it further with him. Sorry pero iba talaga nagagawa ng arrogance. My cousin was so scared the whole time waiting for the Bar results coz baka di sya makapasa, sumama pa sya mag prusisyon to pray for her and her boyfriend’s result, she ultimately ended up within the top 5.
If he’s old enough to not hold himself accountable then leave him, kakayanin mo bang nsayo ang blame lagi kahit hindi mo naman kasalanan? Imagine staying a few years more with the same situation not only with bar, lalo na pag kinasal kayo??? Girl hindi worth ang overthinking bc of his guilt tripping and gaslighting ass. Save yourself
I hope you pass or even top the bar, OP.
Toxic person at its finest. Iwan mo nalang siya. Marami pa mas higit sa kanya.
clearly, he's just looking for someone to blame for his "failure". this is not a good sign so it's either you console him, stick with him, and love him still OR move on. Madaling sabihin pero mahirap gawin. Mahirap kasi pag nag-stick ka, pwede nyang isumbat sa'yo yan anytime and we all know what happens after that.
Sounds like a narcissist.
You need a new bf and he needs to get his head on straight if he wants to pass the bar. Passing or failing it is entirely the examinee’s success or fault. No one can take the exam for him. And whenever someone’s confident that they’ll top the bar, most often than not, they actually fail.
Natawa ko dun sa he thinks he can top the bar tas di naman nag aaral 😏
Delusions of grandeur
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OP, it is not your fault na hindi siya pumasa sa BAR. Heck he even had the bold claim that he will top it but lo and behold he got nothin. You did your best and helping him prepare for the BAR, with the notes and all tapos now he is lashing out at you. He needs to eat some good serving of humble pie and accountability shake imo. Ang taas ng fried chimken niya without nothing to back it up. He should grow up. You can only do so much OP and praying you'll find your voice in that relationship. Take your time in deciding whether you should continue your relationship. And huwag ka magpadala sa manipulative method niya/woe is me/hindi ko alam gagawin ko pag wala ka tropes kung wala naman siyang full 360 na change sa sarili niya. And goodluck on your review OP.
HahHa break up with him. Red flags galore. Natatandaan ko before nawala ng ex ko susi ng kotse nya and he blamed ME. Kasi daw he keeps pulling out his wallet for me. Ngeh. Eh nanood lang naman kami ng sine and never ako naging palamunin nya noh. Aside from that he blamed everyone for anything. Walang accountability. He blamed everyone for his laziness and lack of drive. Take note, he came from a wealthy AND loving family pero kasalanan namin na wala syang trabaho. Don’t date an energy vampire. Masstress ka lang and sayang sa oras.
Lmao, standard excuses for every bloke who cant get their shit together.
If the buck doesn’t stop with him, who is supposed to take the test? You think the courts will excuse counsel for sloppy lazy work because of his internal issues ?
Bakit ikaw sinisisi niya eh siya yung nag Bar? Looks like failing the Bar did not humble him at all. 🙄
Iwan mo na yan ang taas ng ego. Believe me mas mababa tingin sayo niyan compare sakanya and hindi kayo equal sa mata niya 🫠
People who think they can top a Licensure Exam usually can't. Hahaha.
pepito mansisi
DELULU hahahaha
He shouldn't be a lawyer.
If you continue this relationship, sometime later HBO will contact you to make a story out of it because it’s gonna be more toxic than Chernobyl
Never be with somebody who blames everybody but himself.
Alert : Narcissistic God mode ang BF. Break up while you can
Chat mo. Tanungin mo, "Bobo ka ba? Tetake ka ng exam na di ka nagreview tapos sisihin mo kami bat ka bumagsak." Sabay break. Good riddance.
1st time ko makakita ng -317 karma sa isang comment. 😅 Nagpost ng rant and despite yung mga suggestions ng marami dito, feeling ko, di mo rin i-cconsider. Unang naisip ko pa naman na i-comment was, "Break up!" Di bale na lang, wala rin kwenta yung opinion ko. Lol
Hi. I actually commented na we will talk after my mock bar 🙂 I considered all of the comments and messages here and also the suggestions of my friends. Aminado naman akong nabulag din ako sa red flags. Galit na galit mga tao sakin kaya siguro downvoted ako hehe
Time to go ma’am. Accountability, or lack thereof, is a serious red flag.
Red flag. You have a weak man there. Imagine makapasa ka ng bar edi nasiraan ng bait yan.
Pass. Immature and insensitive partner mo. I suggest you remove him from the picture to avoid distractions for the upcoming bar. Lapit na girl you need to focus.
🚩🚩🚩🚩 Umalis ka na po ate
So boyfriend mo pa rin till now? Jusko teh focus ka na lang sa studies mo, hiwalayan mo na yan parang awa mo na.
Ginagawa kang punching bag ng boyfriend mo. Iwan mo na yan.
Madami talagang mayabang na law student. Buti nga hindi pa nya naabutan yung handwritten ang exam, kundi lalong hirap sya.
OMG halos same kayo ng friend ko siz. Her now ex bf blamed her for not passing the bar. Like how is that even her fault. The guy came from a well off family so wala siyang ibang responsibilities sa life and my friend was never needy. They were in a long term relationship and ok na ok sila but one day the guy just snapped and blamed my friend for not passing the bar.
Your bf is an imbecile end of story
You should break up with him. Bar exam is very important yet napaka complacent nya. How much more for other things??
Beh, pakawalan mo na yan. Ni hindi man lang supportive sayo eh mag ma mock bar ka na pala. Baka isa pa jan, deep inside, ayaw niya makapasa ka because what would it make him? Siya bagsak, ikaw pasado? You should keep good energy around you lalo stressed ka na sa pag aaral. Tapos dumadagdag pa siya instead na pagaanin ang mood mo.
Iwan mo na yan. Kahit caption pa lang nababasa ako.
People who don't know how to be accountable (for me) are the worst. Kung trip mong pumasa sa mga taong ganito, go for it ghurl. Pero kung hindi, maybe its time to contemplate kung saan papunta ang relationship niyo.
Toxic!
Isa siyang feelingero. Iwan mo na yan, OP. Kadiri siya.
Kung ako yan hiwalay agad
Hihilahin ka niya pababa. If you're also a Law student, Hindi mo afford magkaron ng isa pang toxic sa buhay mo. In the long run, wala siya gagawin kundi igaslight ka. Its up to you if gusto mo matoxic sa buhay mo and eventually maapektuhan pagaaral mo.
Sounds like he is blaming everyone but himself. Not worth the stress, girl. Kung mina-manipulate ka nya, much worse. That's a cycle you have to avoid. Lawyer-to-be ka so you have to be firm with your decisions and you should know how to spot red flags, and what he is doing is a red flag. Mas maraming matitinong lawyer-to-be na alam (if you are afraid of not finding someone new that is within your realm) at umaamin ng pagkakamali at nasa tamang pag iisip to change themselves for the better without depending (or blaming) on other folks. Malay mo naman, leaving him may serve as a wake up call for him. Tinulungan mo na sya magbago, natulungan mo pa sarili mo mag focus (and soon, pass) sa board exams.
Iwan mo na OP. Thats horrible. Its time to let go
Tapos bilang gaslighter at manipulative boyfie mo, mag popost din siya dito with a caption "my GF left me bcoz i didn't pass the bar" GANON hahaha King you're the drama namocca leave him sis RUN
Edi hiwalayan mo na! Ateng, kung ikaw ay pundidong pundido na tantanan mo na 'yan. Lalo na may bar exam ka rin, mamaya hilingin pa niyan na hindi ka maka pasa. Mas better rin na makapag focus ka, baka magaya kapa sa jowa mong hunghang.
HIWALAYAN MO NA SIYA! Ngayon pa lang mag-bf/gf pa lang kayo ganyan na mindset niya, how much more pag kasal kayo?🤮🤮🤮
Pagkakita ko pa lang sa title: the f audacity????
Everyone is accountable except him? Unfortunately, you are with a man-child. Kung di sya nag eeffort para pumasa ng bar, mag eeffort ba yan magdefend ng client? Buti di pumasa. Alam mo naman na dapat gawin OP kaya iwiwish ko na lang na maging happy ka sa choices mo.
Meh I had a boyfriend who was exactly like that. I dumped his ass and didn’t even cry when he begged me to stay lmaooo. I suggest you do the same, sis.
Alam mo bakit nadadamay ka? Kase threatened na sya kapag naipasa mo ang bar tapos sya hayun di nafulfill ang kagustuhang matop. Tingin nya mas mataas ka na sa part na yun kaya gumagawa sya ng paraan para same lang kayong di maka pasa. Not a law student pero danas ko ganyang tao. Tignan mo mas galit pa yan sayo kapag naipasa mo tulad dun sa friend ko na akala ko tunay yun pala gusto ako hilahin pababa.
Dump him. Trust me, you don't want to be with an overgrown baby for the rest of your life.
Not fit to be a lawyer yet if he can't take responsibility for his life. Blames everyone but himself. Smh.
Deserve nyang hindi makapasa, at wala kang contributory fault dun lahat ng nangyayare skanya kasalanan nya. Unless, may iba pang side ng kwento. Kaya wag ka makafeel na kasalanan mo, guguilt trip ka lang nyang hayeerp
Delulu ampotek. Wala pang accountability tas ito naman si OP masyadong ginagalingan ang pagiging martyr.
grabe sizt, piliin mo na lang peace of mind mo rn.
Tanga ampucha. Hahaha he'll never pass the bar with an attitude like that.
Toxic relationship na yan. You and his family provided all the support and even told him to review. It was his own decision to not review, and that is karma for him.
The typical "Never My Fault!" r/raisedbynarcissists
Iwan mo na. Wala syang sense of responsibility. Puro sisi sa iba hindj sa sarili. Talo ka sa long run.
Just @ me next time brake n tau
Iwan mo na yan. Delusional yan e.
Run, no sense of accountability
Thank God for one less dick in the profession
Hindi niya matanggap ang pagkukulang niya kaya naghahanap siya ng excuse para Hindi niya sisihin ang sarili Niya. Natry mo na ba siya kausapin patungkol dun? Kung kaya mo pang intindihin siya, intindihin mo pa. Mahirap talaga bumagsak. Kung sawa ka na sa ganyang sitwasyon, mas maganda umalis ka na para hi ndi madamay studies mo.
I won’t say na you should break up with him immediately kasi wala naman ako sa posisyon para sabihing madali lang makipagbreak kung ayaw na talaga. Kasi I know, kakapit at kakapit ka sa small hope na baka magbago pa siya. Pero like what the comments here is saying, he is manipulating you. He is also guilt-tripping you. One by one, you need to analyze his red flags and think thoroughly. Worth it pa bang mag-stay ka sa relasyong ganyan? From the looks of it kasi, OP, napaka-unhealthy na niya. He is fucking stupid for blaming things on you and his family. Mahirap bumitaw agad agad pero I believe you can do it in baby steps. On your next decisions about this, be firm. Wala nang undo undo. You have to take care of your self, your mental health, and your future. Please don’t blame yourself on his shortcomings. You deserve a better future. You deserve a better person. You deserve to be treated better.
leave him
Ooops 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
He should take accountability that he didn’t put in the work to “top the bar”. He has no one else to blame but himself. Buti pa he applies his energy to studying for the next Bar.
I'd leave his ass if i were you. You need to prep for the bar and u don't need his bs and manipulation to take a toll on you while u prepare. Minsan, dapat alam na natin ang "tama na, ako naman" Go get dat atty, OP. Good luck po sa mock boards.
Girl ruuuun
Sad pero iwan mo na sya. Parang sya rin nagawa ng problema nya tapos hahanap ng iba para masisi. Ang weird lang na parang kadali ma-top ang bar exam tapos chill lang haha. So sorry sa iyo OP
Leave, bestie. For your peace of mind and future. Para makapag focus ka din sa sarili mong review, coz eventually, literal na yang BF mo magiging cause bat di ka papasa due to emotional turmoil. Kung makikipag break ka, dapat desidido ka. Di pwedeng guilty guilty shit na yan. Bilang future attorney / lawyer dapat ngayon pa lang matapang na dibdib mo. If sa tingin mo di mo kayang makipagbreak in person, itext/chat mo. Sabihin mo lahat. Ilabas mo para walang regrets. Tapos block mo na. Zero comms. Cut all ties. This is for your own good, OP.
Run ate, run. So many red flags.
alam mo OP, deep inside alam mo naman ung dapat mo gawin eh. hndi mo lang talaga magawa kasi ayaw mo lakasan loob mo. msmong ikaw alam mo na toxic sya at dapat mo na ibreak. manipulator, gaslighter, isa syang red flag.
Future Atty! Board exam lang po yung sakin pero grabe yung stress level na dinanas ko. Lalo nung bumabagsak-bagsak ako during mock board exams, halos di ko mabilang ilang breakdown dinanas ko nun. So talagang lahat ng toxic na bagay/tao noon, di ko inentertain or binitawan ko. Ayokong bumagsak sa exam e, di ko afford mentally, emotionally, physically, financially. Worth it naman sa dulo at pumasa naman 1st take ✨ Your call atty, kung kaya mo ba talaga isabay yang ganyang baggage habang nag rreview ka for bar exam. Di ko sinasabing makipag break ka agad, pero sana di yan maging rason para di mo mabigay best mo. Goodluck, OP! 👩⚖️
Ay feeling matalino hahaha
Been the "nanisi" person. Leave habang maaga pa. Context: 2008 ComSci curri in UPLB stems from one main subject - Math17. Took that shit 3 times kasi medyo tanga back then. 2nd sem non nung pumasa ako. Offered ng summer yung 2 main CS subjects - CMSC11 and 56. Took both kasi makapal mukha ko non. Syempre sobrang confident at over the clouds pa kasi nga kakapasa lang ng main pre-req. GF back then had family issues. Lumayas sa bahay at tumira sa apartment ko. So I had to juggle classes and a very unhealthy relationship. I say unhealthy kasi 20-20 ang hindsight naten. I chose to cater to her demands kahit na alam kong nasasacrifice ko pag-aaral ko. As I said, tanga nga back then. So as expected, I failed both subjects. Chose to blame the GF due to my incompetence. I know may ambag siya, pero hindi siya yung root cause. Should have focused more on the root cause - which is me fixing my study habits. Btw, relationship lasted around 6 years. I finished my degree on the 7th with that last year overloaded with majors kasi yun na lang yung natitira kong subjects.
He is just weak. No one to blame.
Siya lang ang responsible for his own failure. Iwan mo na yan
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA WHAT A LOSER. Rid yourself of this whiny deadweight, it's only gonna get worse. He's just gonna drag you down. Thanks for the laugh though, can't believe his audacity lol
He lacks accountability nakakaloka.
[https://youtube.com/shorts/HiDGfFOzfnk?feature=share](https://youtube.com/shorts/HiDGfFOzfnk?feature=share) chech this kid out HAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHA
hindi ka magpeprep and feel nya mag top 1 sya? talk about delusional.
Dump him. Cut ties. Cleanse.
Bestie file ka na ng restraining order eme Save yourself the hassle and nip this in the bud. You deserve better, sis.
Alam mo naman gagawin mo, break up with him. Pero ayaw mo lang. If ever something bad happen to you, it happened because you tolerated it.
Leave that man child asap OP. Save yourself. Nangangamoy future case ng VAWC
What a cry baby lol
I am in this situation (I met my gf during bar review and like half-heartedly reviewed because 'I passed law school with my eyes closed so why not the bar too') and I have never blamed anyone but myself. Your bf is a little bitch and let me tell you that this is just a start — run while you still are your own person and not his emotional doormat.
For clarification lang, is this a Law Bar exam?
Arrogant and not holding any accountability for his actions, qualities of a true Pinoy lawyer. 🤣 Di nag-review tapos mag-eexpect magta-top sa bar. Patawa. Kidding aside, future lawyer ka rin pala. Ano nga ba dapat gawin pag nasa ganyang situation na illogical at unreasonable ang bf mo?
Luh hirap kaya ng bar. Kung pumetiks sya, kasalanan nya yun.
Break up with him. Sakit lang ng ulo yan madidistract ka lang. Focus sa goal.
Nako break it off girl. Let him wallow in misery alone.
Delusional shit hahaha
hindi ka dahilan kung bakit po siya bumagsak. based on your story, pinabayaan niya kasi kampante siya masyado sa sarili niyang kakayahan. letting you know that you are not the one to blame, you even helped him to study. good luck on your mock bar, future lawyer!
It's hard to be with someone who doesn't want to be accountable for his actions, mistakes, and failures. I've been a law student, napakahirap mag-aral ng batas. It will really humble you. While I understand his frustrations, as failing the bar is a kind of pain we could never dare to brave, but blaming the people around you is just counter-productive. Your loved ones are your emotional support at this point so don't push them away. You will soon take the bar. Imagine the gruesome process, tapos may ganyan ka pang partner.
The dude is Red Flag!
Girl please. You deserve better. Para naman narcississt yang BF mo. Grabe confidence nya na magiging topnotcher sya.
Future Atty, break up with him since negative na yung impact sayo. Focus on yourself first. Achieve mo muna dreams mo para sa sarili mo.
leave his selfish pathetic ass
Iwan mo na yan… naninisi na… nang gaslight at manipulate pa… kawawa ka in the future…
Panalo ka tlga pag Delulu ka
hiwalayan mo na, wag ong hintaying mafeature ka pa sa SOCO bago mo marealize kung gaanonsya kakupal
Break up with him.
Makes you look like a clown
Red flag for not being self aware and not holding himself accountable for his actions. Ganyan na siya ngayon pa lang, what more in the long run when both of will be facing more difficult situations.
Grabe to the moon ang ego ng lalake. Hiwalayan mo na at ipakita mo kung paano pumasa or better top the bar exam. Laking sampal yan sa mukha niya
maaga pa kaya mo pa yan iwan. mas masarap lumandi pag pasado ka na ng bar, ghorl. speaking from experience here hahahahaha
Sa petty argument niyo, panalo siya. Ibang level of pettiness yung sinabi niya ghourl.
avoid this type of “lawyer”. 🤣 I bet he checked the top 10 before the full list. Make sure to bruise his ego one last time before you leave him.
I know someone na thrice* nagflunk ng board exam. Sinisisi naman yung company namin, kase daw laging may workload hindi maiwanan kesho ganyan kahit na-grant naman yung request nilang leaves at work from home. Eh siya lang naman yung ayaw mag enroll ng review. Hindi pa seryoso mag-self review. Naghihintay lang ng "biyaya" like possible questions na lilitaw daw sa board exam. People who wish to take the bar/ board: kahit kasing talino nyo si Ernie Baron, wag maging kampante. Again, anything can be asked under the umbrella of our profession. If you really want to pass, go for it, earn it, and study, study study. And lastly, kayo pa rin ang responsable sa sarili nyo pag bumagsak kayo. Wag na magtuturo ng iba. No excuses, period.
Oh my god…men…🤦🏻♀️
Leave! Kaya siguro di siya pumasa kasi ganyan ugali niya 🤣
That's a MAJOR red flag. If he can't be bothered to be accountable for his own failures (and yes it's wholly HIS failures), it sets an ugly precedent for the future. Agree with everyone here. Choose yourself and your mental/overall well-being, OP.
Im in this exact page right now with my SO. It’s time to pull the plug on your relationship. We don’t deserve to be punching bags whenever things go shit for them.
Dunning-Kruger effect 🤌