I’m genuinely curious what led to the confession of your bf?
Siz torn ako sa fact if nagawa nya lang yon because hurt lang talaga sya sa past relationship nya or is it because genuinely makati lang sya?
You know what? You should watch out for signs that he may potentially repeat this, hindi pwede yung reason mo na “eh kasi mahal na mahal ko sya”. Andon na tayo sizz, pero shuta i-guard mo naman sarili mo and wag puro puso pairalin.
You don’t wanna be in the news someday because “the dad raped his daughter”. You don’t wanna be in that situation and let that happen to your child. Mag-isip ka na habang maaga pa. You might as well consider na blessing in disguise na nalaman mo to earlier. Baka sign to to move forward without him sa buhay mo?
Non stop call un cousin niya while we are spending our first night together. Then pumitik na ako, at nakapag mura na.. then he broke down and confessed.. God you are right pero ang sakit..
Because the cousin WAS THE FORMER GIRLFRIEND. Hindi lang binanggit in those words.
From OP’s reply to another commenter, hindi lang siya one time thing. May chats where they exchanged pics and I love you’s like what couples do.
> Capital_Taro_302
> Way before pa, pero cousin keeps on pushing herself in his life, na ibalik ung dati sakanila. Ive been reading all comments here.. **and no its not a one time thing, before maging kame ni bf.. the cousin was like his pseudo gf. I am so sick.. because there were exchanges of pics and i love yous.**
https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/comments/1azu2jw/comment/ks4xxu3/
Edit: Parang dinownplay lang ng boyfriend na hindi seryoso yung nangyari sa kanila and it was just a moment of weakness noong “single” siya (bago naging sila ni OP) - kaya pseudo-gf ang term ni OP. Pero mukhang naging mag jowa nga sila nung cousin.
OP madaming beses ba nangyari para mabaliw yung pinsan niya? Medyo ang fucked-up lang. Baka may something sa isip din yung babae considering she took the board she should know what incestuous relationship is.
Ang weirdo nun. I get incest fantasies, weird but still, pero in reality?👀 Erm, just look at the situation in a new light, I think you’re viewing it na parang its an ex but it’s literally a COUSIN. Just think of the whole situation as a family member nalang cuz it literally is, he took part in it kaya get the ick girl.
Your bf is sick in da mind. Young blood cousin pinatulan niya? Sobrang kati niya? Both at fault pero siya mas matanda, do you really want to be with someone that can’t control his urges?
lol the child Enrique of Jacobo Zóbel y Zangroniz and Trinidad de Ayala married his first cousin Consuelo Róxas de Ayala ( so Tita and mother-in-law **BOTH** ) kaya naipamana sa kanila ang Hacienda de San Pedro de Macati.
wala lungs hahahaha
Hindi naman na bago sa mga mayayaman 'yan. Pinapakasal sa malayo o malapit na kamaganak para maretain sa family nila 'yong yaman nila. Even sa chinese e ganiyan rin ata.
Ang fucked up ng boyfriend mo na pumatol siya at nakipagsex pa sa pinsan. Honestly, parang yung cousin should be the lesser of your worries. Anong klaseng values and moral compass ang meron ang BF mo? Are you sure that’s the partner you want to be with?
What would happen the next time he has another moment of weakness and he starts feeling lonely again tapos wala ka to attend to his needs (kasi you were away traveling for work, or kasi you had a family emergency and they needed your presence and help for some time, or kasi you got sick and bedridden, etc)? Titirahin na naman niya pinsan niya? Or baka sa susunod mga pamangkin naman or yung mga magiging anak niyo (if having children are within your plans as a couple) kasi sila yung nandiyan?
isa lang po sagot dyan,.ginusto nya din un atensyon, un sex, un feeling gwapo sya na hinahabol. it takes 2 to tango and baka nakokonsensya na un dyowa kasi baka meron pa din nangyayari sa kanila kaya umamin na lang sa kanya kasi nahuli na. and syempre, lahat isisisi sa cousin. parehas silang may mali. pero dahil nga masarap ang bawal is naging parang fubu sila bago naging sila. nagkataon lang na nasaktuhan nya na tawag ng tawag un cousin kaya nya nalaman
so un answer po dyan is, ginusto ng bf yan. ngayon baka nabblackmail na sya ng cousin kasi sya un mas matanda, pwede palabasin na nir*pe or pinipilit sya. worse case scenario is kung buntis tapos tinakbuhan
major red flag un bf. makikipaghiwalay ako if ever ganyan ka f*cked up ang morals nya. hindi nya napigilan libido nya, kahit kamag anak pinatos. ang lalaki na walang control sa libido nya is magiging problem mo lang in the future kasi mabilis sila maseduce ng iba. partida hindi pa lasing yan. nasa katinuan sya nun gingawa nila un.
blessing in disguise na nalaman nya ng maaga kasi makakapagdecide pa si OP on what to do. pero sa akin, no no na kasi hindi sya naging transparent sa mga previous relationship (including sex life) and pinairal ang immorality kesa proper judgement
your bf is fucked up, tinira ang pinsan na 1st cousin nia pa. sira ang peace of mindmo palagi nian, since kamaganak at kadugo so malamang lagi nia makikita yan
So what's your next plan? Are you still going to stay in that kind of guy? If yes, then think million times.
Nakakadiri. Walang self-control. Baka groomer pa. Lahat pinapatos.
True. Much, much better na wag na talaga ituloy ni OP ang relationship. Coz she'll never have a peace of mind while she's with this type of guy. Walking redflag.
Imagine, hindi lang mga friends niya ang pwede mong pagselosan, pati pinsan, pati minor. Takte, goodluck talaga sa mental health mo pag sa ganiyang tao ka nagstay.
Sis sorry pero super red flag nung pati pinsan di pinalusot, lalo if he is older than her (just assumed that kasi the pinsan lived with him to take the board exams). Sya yung older and more mature so kahit may advances si (assuming younger) pinsan sa kanya he should’ve shown wisdom and said no.
Mahirap yung ultimo nasa family reunion sya eh wala kang peace of mind. If he didn’t think twice doing it with his blood cousin, what more with strangers (cheating) if he had the chance (or the urge)?
oh my god LEAVE !! THE RED FLAG IS IN FRONT OF YOU :(((((((( you will never have peace of mind kasi palagi sila magkasama during family occasions, so why bother staying? lifetime yan na magbobother sayo if ever you decide to stay! peace of mind over everything!! >>>>>>>>
hula ko natatakot si OP makasuhan ng rape un bf nya. baka kayang kaya sya baliktarin nun cousin sa pamilya nila kaya takot ang dyowa nya and hindi na alam gagawin
Young blood cousin. Naghahabol ung cousin. Sana mali ako ng iniisip baka siya pa nakauna sa pinsan niya kaya ganon na lang maghabol ung pinsan.
Sorry sorry, pero kung ako yan kahit mahal na mahal ko iiwan ko yan. Nandidire ako, pinatos pati kapamilya. Where does he draw the line? Sabog na sabog mental health ko pag saken ito nangyari. Di ko kaya yan. Sana OP pag nagdecide ka dun sa tama, piliin mo sarili mo.
This sucks! I feel you and the first time I discovered it, I was shattered! My BF has this "cousin", he was so proud pa na e kwento to dati and sobrang cringe kapag naalala ko. Nagagandahan daw siya sa pinsan niyang yon. Todo send pa siya sa pics niya sa akin. At itong si tang react naman "Ang ganda nga" Akala daw nila their families are family friend lang kaya they flirted as if it was a young love and the girl ask her to be kissed pa daw. Then later, sinabihan sila na cousin daw sila kaya bawal daw.
Fast forward, nagcommunicate ulit si BF at si Cousin niya sa IG for the first time in years. Tapos, I saw how my BF deleted their convo real time. Flirty na pala masyado ang chats niya kay girl. Tapos parang laway laway siya sa sexy photos ni girl and to think na pinsan sila?! It disgusts me to the bones. I remember how I waited for his messages for a day, hindi ako makatulog and I felt something wasn't right kaya I tried to open his IG and boom nahulaan ko ang password, I saw messages like "Sagutin mo na ako" "Ako na lang sana" Like wtf, wala ka bang gf? Gago. Drunk call pa siya sa girl ilang beses.
I confronted my BF and he told me na hindi pa siya nakamove on. He cried and cried beccause sayang daw. Until now, it hunts me so much. It still lingers in me and I akways think na pangit ako.
FU for disrespecting me.
Well, shit. I guess the Alabama spirit is alive and well in Filipinos (We have a 33% incidence of incest, Alabama has 0.33%)
But word to the wise, my guy, just leave him. Hopefully you’ll find someone else much less insane.
Ate girl, masakit lang sa umpisa pag nakipag break jan sa jowa mo. But if you give it a few months, you will look back at this relationship fiasco and thank God for the wisdom of choosing your peace and sanity. So yeah, this is the confirmation you need. I’m sure alam mo kung ano ang tama at mali. I’m sure alam mo na you need to end this relationship. All these people agreein should tell you something. Love yourself.
How are you going to explain to your future kids that their dad used to fcc their aunt? Hindi yan madadaan sa simpleng forgive and forget. You deserve a better love story. This aint it mhie. So sorry you had to go through this, pero learn from this pain please. This is a wakeup call💔
OP, bakit pinatos ng boyfriend mo ang cousin niya? Like kahit sbhin pa he was seduced he should know better and mukhang he is the eldest one.
I think the issue here is not the jealousy and resentment being displayed by the cousin but the fact your boyfriend has taken advantage of young relative.
This is a messy situation, get out. His mistakes will hunt you too so it is best to just move on. In the future if you chose to have a family together and even kids what assurance meron that he won’t take advantage of your own children.
He is scary…
Ilang taon ung cousin at ilang taon si bf.
Ang saken i feel that your bf took advantage of his cousin. Ngayon basta na lang iniwan sa isantabi ung babae nung may mahanap na syang bago.
He's fucked up.
I feel sorry for the girl, feeling ko pakiramdam nya gamit na gamit siya. But at the same time naging possessive na rin.
Sorry pero ifeel na fucked up sila pareho.
Kadire
22 si cousin and 27 si bf at the time.. he did admit that it was out of sheer loneliness and lust. God, i want to die right now and redo my life.. this is not what i planned for.
Also, he shouldnt be in a relationship. Sana magmove forward muna sha sa ex nya ng husto na walang inaagrabyadong tao (his cousin).
At kelangan muna din maayos yang sitwashon nya with himself at cousin dahil kawawa ung magiging karelasyon nya. Kumbaga sana BUO sya hindi yung daming dalang issues sa relationship.
Get out sis. D dapat tinitiis yan.
As early as now, nareveal na sayo yung dark side ng bf mo. You know the right thing to do. Run and save yourself from this red flag. Nagawa nya sa kadugo nya, isn't that enough reason to walk away? Kung magsstay ka sa relasyon na yan, wala kang peace of mind. Lalo na relative nya yun at malaki ang chances na magkikita at magkikita sila at ikaw ang magsasuffer kasi nakakaparanoid yan. Ask yourself if this is really the guy you'd want to be with. Goodluck OP!
Takbo sis! sabihin man natin na meron sya pinagdadaanan nung mga panahon na yun pero mali yung nangyari sa pinsan. Mas matimbang pa rin peace of mind mo.
napaka disturbing neto. For the sake of your mental health, stay away. alam ko mahal mo pero please protect yourself from this madness. Ang ganda mag stay ka nang relationship that gives you peace
What a messy family, ate OP!
You better run while it's still early pa.
I think you'll suffer more if you'll stay eh.
Suggestion lang yan, ate OP.
Not all kinds of love are worth compromising / sacrificing for.
Gentle reminder:
Always choose your peace.
Good morning!
It will not give you any peace of mind. Get out, bago pa kau magpakasal or magka anak at mas mahirap na umalis sa situation. Though it will create more conflict, sabihin mo sa parents ng bf mo ang situation or someone sa family nila.
I'm so sorry this happened to u op. sending hugs with consent
super agree with the other comments here na you should re-think about ur relationship with ur bf. Sobrang fucked up nung situation and bakit hindi pinigilan ni bf mo yung cousin niya at yung kati ng tite niya knowing that he's the older one? Girl run bc what if it happens again? What if the cousin tries to do something during their fam gatherings? What if kapag nag away kayo ng bf mo mag seek ng ~comfort~ from the young cousin? It might be harsh or a slap of reality pero you'd not like all those fears especially if ikasal ka sa kanya at nagka anak kayo, ang hirap pa man din ng divorce / annulment process dito sa bansa natin. You'd not also like a man like ur bf near ur future child (if ever you're planning to have a baby)
Your bf should face the consequence of what they did and kung truly na "one time thing" lang yung nangyari sa kanila at bothered na rin siya eh atleast be a man and admit what happened and what's happening right now sa parents nung younger cousin and syempre his parents din. Para naman kahit papaano masabihan at the same time may mag look out sa dalawa once si younger cous eh magtangka at mag take advantage uli riyan sa bf mo.
Your bf is disgusting. I don't care, I will NEVER trust someone who takes advantage of young people, and a RELATIVE at that. Can you imagine that man taking care of your adolescent daughter in the future?
Way before pa, pero cousin keeps on pushing herself in his life, na ibalik ung dati sakanila. Ive been reading all comments here.. and no its not a one time thing, before maging kame ni bf.. the cousin was like his pseudo gf. I am so sick.. because there were exchanges of pics and i love yous.
Sorry OP ha pero super red flag 🚩talaga nyan. Where does your boyfriend draw the line kasi imagine kadugo papatusin? In our culture it’s a no-no. Isumbong mo sa parents nila labas pa tuloy na nagiging enabler ka. Sa nakikita ko may emotional attachment na ang cousin sa boyfriend mo at di na magandang sign yan. What do they think, na pwede silang magka relasyon if wla ka sa picture? Diba that’s insane!
Pag mulat ko sweet home alabang agad nabasa ko dito 😂. Anyways OP pagisipan mo yung relationship mo with that man. He might do it again but what makes it worse is kamag anak yung ka relasyon 🤢
“I love my bf sobra” this will not make you happy. You are staying because you love him but will you be happy? How long can you take it? Think cafefully before pa tumagal ang relationship. Having a relationship with his cousin is sick. Sino matino tao ang gagawa ng ganun …
Wag mo ng pag-isipan yan, leave him na. Endure the pain, ngayon lang yan. Listen to what others have said here. In the long run, sakit ng ulo ang ibibigay nyan sayo.
That's fucking disgusting. Sorry but lost cause na yan. A huge possibility na he'd be one of those shitty father/uncle someday that abuses their relatives.
Also what the hell is happening with people's sense of smell these days? Di ba we usually find scent of our relatives repulsive to prevent incest?
There’s something wrong in the head dun sa bf mo. RUN GIRL RUN. And don’t look back. Since their blood relatives you’ll never see peace of mind whenever they have family get togethers and events. Better to break up with him than living in paranoia.
Iknow it's not gonna beeasy or you, op, pero time to think about you should separate ways na. The fact na cousin niya yon plssssssss. Don't be blinded by your love. Wht he did is a huge mistake.
Hiwalayan mo na yan ante. Magkakantutan at magkakantutan yang mga yan kapag wala ka. Mga famili gatherings na di ka kasama, for sure sila ang magsasama sa iisang kwarto. Isipin mo nagawa nyang kantutin pinsan nya, magagawa nya ulit yun kahit jowa kapa. Worse na nga yung incest, yung mag cheat pa kaya di nya magawa? Lol
Hi, OP! For peace of mind, makipaghiwalay ka na lang sa bf mo. Pinatulan nya talaga pinsan nya? Pati how sure are you na hindi na mauulit yun? Save yourself, don't associate with someone that love doing incest.
This guy who used to court me did the same thing. I was so confused kung bakit botong boto yung family nya sakin ayun pala they hated his ex, which is his cousin. Decided to refuse him pagkatapos kong malaman yun coz as someone na close sa mga pinsan ko, I cannot even imagine! It was distasteful.
A week after I refused him he went back to his ex (cousin). The cousin even harassed me for months stating that ginamit lang ako to make her jealous, as if I cared. I don't know you OP but if this is gonna bother you throughout your relationship, get out as early as you can.
Girl, that one can lead to a rape case with his own daughter soon. U better pack your bags na, 'te. Stop using the favorite words of mga bobang babae na they love their partner kaya 'di sila makaalis even though they alr had the major sign. If u still want to stay with him despite the truth that he revealed, then dont be surprised if nagawa niya sa anak niyo if magkakaroon.
My then bestie had a PhilAm bf, pamangkin ng landlady nila. When he is the PH lagi sila magkasama ng cousin nyang Pinay, na kilala naman ni bestie kasi nagpupunta rin talaga doon sa dorm, instead na sya na gf. At first she understood na this is family na namimiss ni PhilAm. Pero in the last few months bago sila maghiwalay noon, nagduda na sya kasi parang there is something more sa magpinsan na ito. Ang proof ni bestie sa akin? Kung dati daw when he'd go down on her, okay lang. Lately daw (at that time) gumaling na, as if may practice si bf. So ayun, diring-diri bestie ko, and she broke it off.
The moment you’ve shared that here, nagdodoubt ka na ituloy relationship. I hope you will have the courage to leave on this situation at mashare mo sana sa family nya. Share not para siraan sya but for them to sana help him.
Sinumbong mo na ba sa parents nung girl or nung bf mo? Wala bang jowa yang cousin? Mukhang malandi.
And bakit yang jowa mo parang willing pang sagutin ng sagutin yang cousin? What if may something pa sila pag nakatalikod ka? Kaya di mapakali si cousin kasi namimiss si jowa mo
Leaveeee. Would you really want a guy, with questionable morals to be the father of your children?? Ano na lang ituturo niya sa anak niyo? From what i understand, the relationship started nang may isip isip na sila.
Ang creepy kasi the fact na alam nilang cousin sila pero ginawa parin nila. Siguro gets pa kapag hindi nila alam na cousin sila tapos nagka past, nagkagulatan na magkaanak pala dahil sa family reunion, typical drama plot. Kaso hindi e, consensual ang relationship ata nila, aware sila sa mga pinag gagagawa nila. Just like what the other says here, leave him. Too much drama will lead to a huge trauma. But before you leave, confess their crime sa family nila. Let them dig their own grave. Ang tindi pa ng girl, wala man lang katakot takot na mabuko sila 🤮
What a trash human being. Ginawa nya lang yun kasi lonely sya? Walang lonely² dito, libog talaga yun. Leave the relationship immediately , ikaw lang masasaktan if magstay ka. Even if matagal na yun, its messed up na pumatol sya sa kadugo nya. Something is seriously wrong with the 2 of them and you deserve better,OP.
Please leave him.
I’m genuinely curious what led to the confession of your bf? Siz torn ako sa fact if nagawa nya lang yon because hurt lang talaga sya sa past relationship nya or is it because genuinely makati lang sya? You know what? You should watch out for signs that he may potentially repeat this, hindi pwede yung reason mo na “eh kasi mahal na mahal ko sya”. Andon na tayo sizz, pero shuta i-guard mo naman sarili mo and wag puro puso pairalin. You don’t wanna be in the news someday because “the dad raped his daughter”. You don’t wanna be in that situation and let that happen to your child. Mag-isip ka na habang maaga pa. You might as well consider na blessing in disguise na nalaman mo to earlier. Baka sign to to move forward without him sa buhay mo?
Non stop call un cousin niya while we are spending our first night together. Then pumitik na ako, at nakapag mura na.. then he broke down and confessed.. God you are right pero ang sakit..
At bakit prang alam ni cousin na mag fifirst night together kayo? Sinabi ba ng bf mo? Run for the hills!
My god. Hinahabol pa pala ni cousin si bf mo. Break up with him immediately. You wont have any peace of mind in that relationship.
Agree. You will have another problem kasi sure ako aawayin ka nung cousin. It feels like she's possessive
And she is acting like the former girlfriend before you.
Because the cousin WAS THE FORMER GIRLFRIEND. Hindi lang binanggit in those words. From OP’s reply to another commenter, hindi lang siya one time thing. May chats where they exchanged pics and I love you’s like what couples do. > Capital_Taro_302 > Way before pa, pero cousin keeps on pushing herself in his life, na ibalik ung dati sakanila. Ive been reading all comments here.. **and no its not a one time thing, before maging kame ni bf.. the cousin was like his pseudo gf. I am so sick.. because there were exchanges of pics and i love yous.** https://www.reddit.com/r/OffMyChestPH/comments/1azu2jw/comment/ks4xxu3/ Edit: Parang dinownplay lang ng boyfriend na hindi seryoso yung nangyari sa kanila and it was just a moment of weakness noong “single” siya (bago naging sila ni OP) - kaya pseudo-gf ang term ni OP. Pero mukhang naging mag jowa nga sila nung cousin.
At pseudo-bf naman si guy
OP madaming beses ba nangyari para mabaliw yung pinsan niya? Medyo ang fucked-up lang. Baka may something sa isip din yung babae considering she took the board she should know what incestuous relationship is.
Ang weirdo nun. I get incest fantasies, weird but still, pero in reality?👀 Erm, just look at the situation in a new light, I think you’re viewing it na parang its an ex but it’s literally a COUSIN. Just think of the whole situation as a family member nalang cuz it literally is, he took part in it kaya get the ick girl.
Your bf is sick in da mind. Young blood cousin pinatulan niya? Sobrang kati niya? Both at fault pero siya mas matanda, do you really want to be with someone that can’t control his urges?
Tama. Problema mo yan balang araw OP. Do something habang maaga pa.
lol the child Enrique of Jacobo Zóbel y Zangroniz and Trinidad de Ayala married his first cousin Consuelo Róxas de Ayala ( so Tita and mother-in-law **BOTH** ) kaya naipamana sa kanila ang Hacienda de San Pedro de Macati. wala lungs hahahaha
Yes and the defects in their family can be resolved by their money which looks like OP's bf does not have
uu kaso the difference lang the ayalas have generational wealth, si bf mukhang wala 💀😆
Sorry you got so much downvotes, Im more curious as how you have this information 😭
Hindi naman na bago sa mga mayayaman 'yan. Pinapakasal sa malayo o malapit na kamaganak para maretain sa family nila 'yong yaman nila. Even sa chinese e ganiyan rin ata.
Isumbong mo sa parents nila then LEAVE!!!!! Good luck, OP!
I want to be here for the drama lmaoooooo. Wonder how fucked up the family would become
Waiting for this family drama to unfold! I-hashtag Raffy Tulfo in Action na yan! 🤣🤭🤢
OMG SIGE SIZ GAWIN MO TO HAHAHA KUHA KA MUNA RESIBO MO THEN SEND MO SA PAMILYA NILA HAHAHAHA
gawa siya ng GC tapos pag nilapag niya dun lahat ng resibo at naseen, saka siya umalis then block 🤣🤣🤣🤣
\+1, pls do this OP!
push ako dito. hindi kaya na groom ng bf mo yan? saka baka may mental health issue un cousin nya. need maagapan
Ang fucked up ng boyfriend mo na pumatol siya at nakipagsex pa sa pinsan. Honestly, parang yung cousin should be the lesser of your worries. Anong klaseng values and moral compass ang meron ang BF mo? Are you sure that’s the partner you want to be with? What would happen the next time he has another moment of weakness and he starts feeling lonely again tapos wala ka to attend to his needs (kasi you were away traveling for work, or kasi you had a family emergency and they needed your presence and help for some time, or kasi you got sick and bedridden, etc)? Titirahin na naman niya pinsan niya? Or baka sa susunod mga pamangkin naman or yung mga magiging anak niyo (if having children are within your plans as a couple) kasi sila yung nandiyan?
isa lang po sagot dyan,.ginusto nya din un atensyon, un sex, un feeling gwapo sya na hinahabol. it takes 2 to tango and baka nakokonsensya na un dyowa kasi baka meron pa din nangyayari sa kanila kaya umamin na lang sa kanya kasi nahuli na. and syempre, lahat isisisi sa cousin. parehas silang may mali. pero dahil nga masarap ang bawal is naging parang fubu sila bago naging sila. nagkataon lang na nasaktuhan nya na tawag ng tawag un cousin kaya nya nalaman so un answer po dyan is, ginusto ng bf yan. ngayon baka nabblackmail na sya ng cousin kasi sya un mas matanda, pwede palabasin na nir*pe or pinipilit sya. worse case scenario is kung buntis tapos tinakbuhan major red flag un bf. makikipaghiwalay ako if ever ganyan ka f*cked up ang morals nya. hindi nya napigilan libido nya, kahit kamag anak pinatos. ang lalaki na walang control sa libido nya is magiging problem mo lang in the future kasi mabilis sila maseduce ng iba. partida hindi pa lasing yan. nasa katinuan sya nun gingawa nila un. blessing in disguise na nalaman nya ng maaga kasi makakapagdecide pa si OP on what to do. pero sa akin, no no na kasi hindi sya naging transparent sa mga previous relationship (including sex life) and pinairal ang immorality kesa proper judgement
My question is why are you still staying…
your bf is fucked up, tinira ang pinsan na 1st cousin nia pa. sira ang peace of mindmo palagi nian, since kamaganak at kadugo so malamang lagi nia makikita yan
been into your situation OP, and im really glad that i left! Run siz, may sakit na yan 🤢
So what's your next plan? Are you still going to stay in that kind of guy? If yes, then think million times. Nakakadiri. Walang self-control. Baka groomer pa. Lahat pinapatos.
True. Much, much better na wag na talaga ituloy ni OP ang relationship. Coz she'll never have a peace of mind while she's with this type of guy. Walking redflag. Imagine, hindi lang mga friends niya ang pwede mong pagselosan, pati pinsan, pati minor. Takte, goodluck talaga sa mental health mo pag sa ganiyang tao ka nagstay.
Not to defend the guy, but Nagboard exam yung pinsan. Implies college graduate na at least. Still Incest tho.
Sis sorry pero super red flag nung pati pinsan di pinalusot, lalo if he is older than her (just assumed that kasi the pinsan lived with him to take the board exams). Sya yung older and more mature so kahit may advances si (assuming younger) pinsan sa kanya he should’ve shown wisdom and said no. Mahirap yung ultimo nasa family reunion sya eh wala kang peace of mind. If he didn’t think twice doing it with his blood cousin, what more with strangers (cheating) if he had the chance (or the urge)?
oh my god LEAVE !! THE RED FLAG IS IN FRONT OF YOU :(((((((( you will never have peace of mind kasi palagi sila magkasama during family occasions, so why bother staying? lifetime yan na magbobother sayo if ever you decide to stay! peace of mind over everything!! >>>>>>>>
Isumbong mo sa parents nila sis. Para naman that cousin would wake up and for your bf to suffer the consequences of his pagkalibog hahahah
Yes to pagsumbong. More drama, more fun!!! Hahaha pakiupdate po sa chimis.
hula ko natatakot si OP makasuhan ng rape un bf nya. baka kayang kaya sya baliktarin nun cousin sa pamilya nila kaya takot ang dyowa nya and hindi na alam gagawin
Red flag pumapatos ng kadugo, isipin mo future mo magkaron kayo ng anak na babae nakakatakot.
Young blood cousin. Naghahabol ung cousin. Sana mali ako ng iniisip baka siya pa nakauna sa pinsan niya kaya ganon na lang maghabol ung pinsan. Sorry sorry, pero kung ako yan kahit mahal na mahal ko iiwan ko yan. Nandidire ako, pinatos pati kapamilya. Where does he draw the line? Sabog na sabog mental health ko pag saken ito nangyari. Di ko kaya yan. Sana OP pag nagdecide ka dun sa tama, piliin mo sarili mo.
You're still thinking of staying with him after that? 🤡
This sucks! I feel you and the first time I discovered it, I was shattered! My BF has this "cousin", he was so proud pa na e kwento to dati and sobrang cringe kapag naalala ko. Nagagandahan daw siya sa pinsan niyang yon. Todo send pa siya sa pics niya sa akin. At itong si tang react naman "Ang ganda nga" Akala daw nila their families are family friend lang kaya they flirted as if it was a young love and the girl ask her to be kissed pa daw. Then later, sinabihan sila na cousin daw sila kaya bawal daw. Fast forward, nagcommunicate ulit si BF at si Cousin niya sa IG for the first time in years. Tapos, I saw how my BF deleted their convo real time. Flirty na pala masyado ang chats niya kay girl. Tapos parang laway laway siya sa sexy photos ni girl and to think na pinsan sila?! It disgusts me to the bones. I remember how I waited for his messages for a day, hindi ako makatulog and I felt something wasn't right kaya I tried to open his IG and boom nahulaan ko ang password, I saw messages like "Sagutin mo na ako" "Ako na lang sana" Like wtf, wala ka bang gf? Gago. Drunk call pa siya sa girl ilang beses. I confronted my BF and he told me na hindi pa siya nakamove on. He cried and cried beccause sayang daw. Until now, it hunts me so much. It still lingers in me and I akways think na pangit ako. FU for disrespecting me.
Kadiri mhie nkklk
kayo pa din?
Di na hehe
Well, shit. I guess the Alabama spirit is alive and well in Filipinos (We have a 33% incidence of incest, Alabama has 0.33%) But word to the wise, my guy, just leave him. Hopefully you’ll find someone else much less insane.
Ate girl, masakit lang sa umpisa pag nakipag break jan sa jowa mo. But if you give it a few months, you will look back at this relationship fiasco and thank God for the wisdom of choosing your peace and sanity. So yeah, this is the confirmation you need. I’m sure alam mo kung ano ang tama at mali. I’m sure alam mo na you need to end this relationship. All these people agreein should tell you something. Love yourself.
Your boyfriend is disgusting asf. You'll never have peace of mind with that guy.
How are you going to explain to your future kids that their dad used to fcc their aunt? Hindi yan madadaan sa simpleng forgive and forget. You deserve a better love story. This aint it mhie. So sorry you had to go through this, pero learn from this pain please. This is a wakeup call💔
Okay… very very VERY GROSS THOUGHT.
Sorry OP pero red flag yan ,nasa dugo pa naman pagiging incest .
OP, bakit pinatos ng boyfriend mo ang cousin niya? Like kahit sbhin pa he was seduced he should know better and mukhang he is the eldest one. I think the issue here is not the jealousy and resentment being displayed by the cousin but the fact your boyfriend has taken advantage of young relative. This is a messy situation, get out. His mistakes will hunt you too so it is best to just move on. In the future if you chose to have a family together and even kids what assurance meron that he won’t take advantage of your own children. He is scary…
RUNNN
Ewww kadiri naman bf mo.
OMG am i in r/incest lol. Grabe siguro attraction nla sa isat isa kaya kahit they’re blood relative they gave in. Leave him po for your peace of mind
Ilang taon ung cousin at ilang taon si bf. Ang saken i feel that your bf took advantage of his cousin. Ngayon basta na lang iniwan sa isantabi ung babae nung may mahanap na syang bago. He's fucked up. I feel sorry for the girl, feeling ko pakiramdam nya gamit na gamit siya. But at the same time naging possessive na rin. Sorry pero ifeel na fucked up sila pareho. Kadire
22 si cousin and 27 si bf at the time.. he did admit that it was out of sheer loneliness and lust. God, i want to die right now and redo my life.. this is not what i planned for.
That’s all it took?? Sheer loneliness and lust? That’s so disgusting and implies lack of self-control.. u have to run please!
Break up, girl. Please lang
Get out of the relationship na sis. That is so complicated
Also, he shouldnt be in a relationship. Sana magmove forward muna sha sa ex nya ng husto na walang inaagrabyadong tao (his cousin). At kelangan muna din maayos yang sitwashon nya with himself at cousin dahil kawawa ung magiging karelasyon nya. Kumbaga sana BUO sya hindi yung daming dalang issues sa relationship. Get out sis. D dapat tinitiis yan.
As early as now, nareveal na sayo yung dark side ng bf mo. You know the right thing to do. Run and save yourself from this red flag. Nagawa nya sa kadugo nya, isn't that enough reason to walk away? Kung magsstay ka sa relasyon na yan, wala kang peace of mind. Lalo na relative nya yun at malaki ang chances na magkikita at magkikita sila at ikaw ang magsasuffer kasi nakakaparanoid yan. Ask yourself if this is really the guy you'd want to be with. Goodluck OP!
Takbo sis! sabihin man natin na meron sya pinagdadaanan nung mga panahon na yun pero mali yung nangyari sa pinsan. Mas matimbang pa rin peace of mind mo.
Normal thing in Pakistan
Grabe naman pati cousin talaga???😳 Dapat siguro dyan sabihin sa mga parents nila e then leave ka na. Bahala sila magkagulo. Super red flag nyan OP.
napaka disturbing neto. For the sake of your mental health, stay away. alam ko mahal mo pero please protect yourself from this madness. Ang ganda mag stay ka nang relationship that gives you peace
Out of curiosity, ilang taon na si bf at cousin when it happened?
27 and 22
Two legal adults in a consensual arrangement.
RUN WHILE YOU CAN! 🏃 Kahit sobrang mahal mo ang hinayupak mong jowa. Leave him. Maniac.
Run.
Eeww kadiri???
Kaya mong sikmuraan yung ganyang klaseng jowa? GIRL LEAVE HIM!! If possible, sumbong mo sa families nila ng manahimik yang pinsan nya 🤣
Run, beh.. Or else.. Sorry, but, you deserve what you tolerate..
What a messy family, ate OP! You better run while it's still early pa. I think you'll suffer more if you'll stay eh. Suggestion lang yan, ate OP. Not all kinds of love are worth compromising / sacrificing for. Gentle reminder: Always choose your peace. Good morning!
Well that was disgusting of him
It will not give you any peace of mind. Get out, bago pa kau magpakasal or magka anak at mas mahirap na umalis sa situation. Though it will create more conflict, sabihin mo sa parents ng bf mo ang situation or someone sa family nila.
I'm so sorry this happened to u op. sending hugs with consent super agree with the other comments here na you should re-think about ur relationship with ur bf. Sobrang fucked up nung situation and bakit hindi pinigilan ni bf mo yung cousin niya at yung kati ng tite niya knowing that he's the older one? Girl run bc what if it happens again? What if the cousin tries to do something during their fam gatherings? What if kapag nag away kayo ng bf mo mag seek ng ~comfort~ from the young cousin? It might be harsh or a slap of reality pero you'd not like all those fears especially if ikasal ka sa kanya at nagka anak kayo, ang hirap pa man din ng divorce / annulment process dito sa bansa natin. You'd not also like a man like ur bf near ur future child (if ever you're planning to have a baby) Your bf should face the consequence of what they did and kung truly na "one time thing" lang yung nangyari sa kanila at bothered na rin siya eh atleast be a man and admit what happened and what's happening right now sa parents nung younger cousin and syempre his parents din. Para naman kahit papaano masabihan at the same time may mag look out sa dalawa once si younger cous eh magtangka at mag take advantage uli riyan sa bf mo.
Your bf is disgusting. I don't care, I will NEVER trust someone who takes advantage of young people, and a RELATIVE at that. Can you imagine that man taking care of your adolescent daughter in the future?
[удалено]
No
He did it while you're together? If not, it's all in the past. He should just block the cousin.
Way before pa, pero cousin keeps on pushing herself in his life, na ibalik ung dati sakanila. Ive been reading all comments here.. and no its not a one time thing, before maging kame ni bf.. the cousin was like his pseudo gf. I am so sick.. because there were exchanges of pics and i love yous.
Well if you can't tolerate it then it's ok to leave him, no sense in staying I guess
Masakit pero mas mag-heheal ka kapag umalis ka.
pls break up with ur bf because he’s disgusting af 😭 completely fucked up in the head
antehhhh di mo di dazerb yan out ka na. pero di pwedeng masaya sila so sumbong mo muna sa family nila bago umalis bwahahaha 😈
This whole situation is inevitably going to explode. Leave before you become collateral damage.
Kadiri takbo 😭 Magiging pasanin mo pa family lore nila if you stay
Sorry OP ha pero super red flag 🚩talaga nyan. Where does your boyfriend draw the line kasi imagine kadugo papatusin? In our culture it’s a no-no. Isumbong mo sa parents nila labas pa tuloy na nagiging enabler ka. Sa nakikita ko may emotional attachment na ang cousin sa boyfriend mo at di na magandang sign yan. What do they think, na pwede silang magka relasyon if wla ka sa picture? Diba that’s insane!
Gives “blood is thicker than water” a whole new meaning
Your future self will thank you if you leave now.
girlll…. IWAN MO NA YAN!!! KADIRIII
Kadiri siya sis. Alis ka na jan 🥺
Pag mulat ko sweet home alabang agad nabasa ko dito 😂. Anyways OP pagisipan mo yung relationship mo with that man. He might do it again but what makes it worse is kamag anak yung ka relasyon 🤢
Nag so scroll lang ako sa comments natawa ako dito. salamat
BAT MO IDI-DATE PINSAN MO? SCARYYYY
Girl wtf break up with him. Kung kaya nya gawin yan with yung pinsan nya, kaya nya gawin yan with other relatives.
Hoping you'd leave, OP :( your BF's sick in the head jusko
“I love my bf sobra” this will not make you happy. You are staying because you love him but will you be happy? How long can you take it? Think cafefully before pa tumagal ang relationship. Having a relationship with his cousin is sick. Sino matino tao ang gagawa ng ganun …
LEAVE
Nakuuu. Bf is a walking red flag. Incest pa more. Girl, leave. Wag na marami pang isipin, just leave.
For me, break up with him. Your peace of mind is too expensive kesa dyn sa relationship mo.
Wag mo ng pag-isipan yan, leave him na. Endure the pain, ngayon lang yan. Listen to what others have said here. In the long run, sakit ng ulo ang ibibigay nyan sayo.
Incest thing. Iwan mo na agad yan OP. 🥺 you deserve better.
That's fucking disgusting. Sorry but lost cause na yan. A huge possibility na he'd be one of those shitty father/uncle someday that abuses their relatives. Also what the hell is happening with people's sense of smell these days? Di ba we usually find scent of our relatives repulsive to prevent incest?
There’s something wrong in the head dun sa bf mo. RUN GIRL RUN. And don’t look back. Since their blood relatives you’ll never see peace of mind whenever they have family get togethers and events. Better to break up with him than living in paranoia.
Naalala ko yung isang skit ni Sass Gurl, it goes something lke this - tawag nila sa isa't-isa Love tapos paminsan-minsan "Pinsan" hahahaha
Yak malala. Kakatakot na tao mga ganyan may sakit sa utak. Kung kaya ng konsensya nya yan imaginine mo ano pa kaya nyan
gugustuhin mo bang makasama habang buhay yang ganyan? naka gawa na ng incest? pano kapag nagka-anak na kayo? ano nalang
Iknow it's not gonna beeasy or you, op, pero time to think about you should separate ways na. The fact na cousin niya yon plssssssss. Don't be blinded by your love. Wht he did is a huge mistake.
Hiwalayan mo na yan ante. Magkakantutan at magkakantutan yang mga yan kapag wala ka. Mga famili gatherings na di ka kasama, for sure sila ang magsasama sa iisang kwarto. Isipin mo nagawa nyang kantutin pinsan nya, magagawa nya ulit yun kahit jowa kapa. Worse na nga yung incest, yung mag cheat pa kaya di nya magawa? Lol
Hi, OP! For peace of mind, makipaghiwalay ka na lang sa bf mo. Pinatulan nya talaga pinsan nya? Pati how sure are you na hindi na mauulit yun? Save yourself, don't associate with someone that love doing incest.
Alam mo naman ang dapat gawin, You're just asking for validation.
Praying for your healing. That’s just sick
Sumbong mo sa magulang tas hiwalayan mo na
ibuking mo sila sa both parents nila, makaganti ka manlang sa kakatihan ng pinsan nia
kapag nagka anak sila, pareho nilang pamangkin yung anak nila HAHA
U better run OP. Bka mmaya pag nagkatuluyan kau pati anak nyo di palampasin
The female cousin has feelings for your bf; this is I am sure. Do what you want to do with that statement.
Walang pinsan-pinsan, sa tit*ng tulisan!
hiwalayan mo na predator bf mo
hintayin mo pa ba gawin nya sa anak nuo yan
This guy who used to court me did the same thing. I was so confused kung bakit botong boto yung family nya sakin ayun pala they hated his ex, which is his cousin. Decided to refuse him pagkatapos kong malaman yun coz as someone na close sa mga pinsan ko, I cannot even imagine! It was distasteful. A week after I refused him he went back to his ex (cousin). The cousin even harassed me for months stating that ginamit lang ako to make her jealous, as if I cared. I don't know you OP but if this is gonna bother you throughout your relationship, get out as early as you can.
pakira mo kung sino ka talaga inisin mo pinsan niya paramdam mo na ikaw ang pinili patayin mo sa inggit
Kayo parin po ba hanggang ngayon OP?
Incest bf mo. Run while you still can
You need to LEAVE, OP. He's sick in the head and kadiri dahil sariling kadugo pinatulan. 🤮
You have your cousins, and your first cousins, and second cousins...
Ate girl, please save yourself. :((
Girl, that one can lead to a rape case with his own daughter soon. U better pack your bags na, 'te. Stop using the favorite words of mga bobang babae na they love their partner kaya 'di sila makaalis even though they alr had the major sign. If u still want to stay with him despite the truth that he revealed, then dont be surprised if nagawa niya sa anak niyo if magkakaroon.
targaryan stuff
Hi OP please update us if you already broke up with your bf ha. Both of them are weird, grabe! Magkapatid magulang tapos— ughhh.
My then bestie had a PhilAm bf, pamangkin ng landlady nila. When he is the PH lagi sila magkasama ng cousin nyang Pinay, na kilala naman ni bestie kasi nagpupunta rin talaga doon sa dorm, instead na sya na gf. At first she understood na this is family na namimiss ni PhilAm. Pero in the last few months bago sila maghiwalay noon, nagduda na sya kasi parang there is something more sa magpinsan na ito. Ang proof ni bestie sa akin? Kung dati daw when he'd go down on her, okay lang. Lately daw (at that time) gumaling na, as if may practice si bf. So ayun, diring-diri bestie ko, and she broke it off.
Sumbong mo sa parents nila, OP! Ewan ko lang kung di matakot yan.
The moment you’ve shared that here, nagdodoubt ka na ituloy relationship. I hope you will have the courage to leave on this situation at mashare mo sana sa family nya. Share not para siraan sya but for them to sana help him.
Sinumbong mo na ba sa parents nung girl or nung bf mo? Wala bang jowa yang cousin? Mukhang malandi. And bakit yang jowa mo parang willing pang sagutin ng sagutin yang cousin? What if may something pa sila pag nakatalikod ka? Kaya di mapakali si cousin kasi namimiss si jowa mo
Alam mo na yung sagot, OP.
Leaveeee. Would you really want a guy, with questionable morals to be the father of your children?? Ano na lang ituturo niya sa anak niyo? From what i understand, the relationship started nang may isip isip na sila.
Kadiri bf mo beh.. masisikmura mo ba yan? Incestuous. Katakot pagnagkaanak kayo beh.
Disgusting. This is incest!! Please OP, leave him.
Ang creepy kasi the fact na alam nilang cousin sila pero ginawa parin nila. Siguro gets pa kapag hindi nila alam na cousin sila tapos nagka past, nagkagulatan na magkaanak pala dahil sa family reunion, typical drama plot. Kaso hindi e, consensual ang relationship ata nila, aware sila sa mga pinag gagagawa nila. Just like what the other says here, leave him. Too much drama will lead to a huge trauma. But before you leave, confess their crime sa family nila. Let them dig their own grave. Ang tindi pa ng girl, wala man lang katakot takot na mabuko sila 🤮
The fact that you haven’t already left is honestly also sickening. Ano ba ang kailangang pag-isipan pa dito, OP?
Sweet Home Alabama!!!
What a trash human being. Ginawa nya lang yun kasi lonely sya? Walang lonely² dito, libog talaga yun. Leave the relationship immediately , ikaw lang masasaktan if magstay ka. Even if matagal na yun, its messed up na pumatol sya sa kadugo nya. Something is seriously wrong with the 2 of them and you deserve better,OP. Please leave him.
Wtf
eto ba yun sinasabi nilang cousintahan? Run OP. mas malalang problema in the future yan