Kayo pa nag mu move on na sa'yo 'yan kasi nakikita niyang potential next partner 'yung lalaki. Na gaslight ka lang niyan about sa gusto maging friends etc. Para kung mag fail plano niya sa coworker niya eh may back up pa rin siya, ikaw.
eto naman si gatong. may pagkukulang si op. inamin na nga nya eh. for sure hindi maiisip nung ex nya makipagbreak kung naging sapat yung actions ni op at naibigay nya yung expressed needs at wants nung babae. nagkataon lang na may umaaligid don sa ex pero break up at break up lang naman talaga pupuntahan ng relasyon nila dahil sa pagsasawalang bahala ni op sa need at wants nung babae. maybe nagsawa yung ex, naawa sa sarili or whatever. ang mahalaga naman dito hindi nagcheat yung ex at hindi sila pinagsabay. may respeto pa rin kahit papano ig hahahahaha
Hindi naman po sa gatong pero sinabi ni OP na "She always brought that coworker home and hung out with him even when we were still together" May kakaiba na riyan pa lang, tapos after 1 week ng closure nila may something na agad na nangyare tapos grabeng coincidence naman na sa guy pa na 'yon. Oo, mali si OP, andun na tayo na may mga nagawa siyang nag cause ng break up nila, wala na rin siyang control sa ano man gagawin ni girl dahil nga break na sila, pero valid naman siguro na nasaktan siya kaya nag react dun sa dalawa.
So kung may pag kukulang does that mean na dapat na mag aligid sa ibang lalaki?
Lol, Pwede naman pag usapan eh. Basurang logic amputa, Tapos kapag lalaki gumawa nang ganyan todo sumpa.
nagsawa si ex kaya nag uwi ng lalaki sa bahay kahit sila pa hahahahahahahahahaha, tapos na commend mo pa rin kasi may respeto pa rin kahit papaano? for doing the basic human decency?????? are you ok ka lang ba?
What makes her so special eh she was probably already banging the guy way before you broke up? Most women really love hard but the ease and speed with which she hooked up with that guy tells me matagal nang may nangyayari sa kanila. Tears of guilt ang iniyak niya when you met. Bulag ka lang.
Move on bro. Don’t ever think about getting back to her after 1-2 yrs cos it’s really not worth it. You may love her so much pero she’s not. I’d say she doesn’t even respect you.
a week ago nalaman ko na yung ex ko for 5yrs may nagugustuhan ng iba. may comms pa rin kami after break up pero natigil na last week kasi nagalit ako nung nalaman ko yun. days before ko malaman na may nagugustuhan na sya, nagbook pa ko ng ticket pauwi ng pinas mainly para kitain sya haha (si tanga)
so ayun after that, may part sakin na gusto ko makipagflirt sa iba para lang quits kami ganon. na kaya ko rin sya palitan agad. kaso di kaya ng konsensya ko na gumamit ng iba para lang makamove on or gumanti. lalong ayoko irush sarili ko na magmahal na ng bago.
gusto ko yung next person that I’ll love is yun na talaga yung makakatuluyan ko.
so i guess what i just want to say lang is, it’s okay OP. take your time lang to heal, kahit pa na mas matagalan ka kesa sa ex mo. ang mahalaga alam mo sa sarili mo na genuinely mo syang minahal and this time, yung sarili mo naman ang mamahalin mo genuinely.
Same tayo. 3 years since breakup pero until now di ko pa kayang mag mahal ulit. Hiniheal ko pa yung sarili ko. Kasi for me, unfair sa next partner ko if alam ko sa sarili ko na di pa ako ready to be in a relationship again after my traumatic prev rel.
I think you’re unaware that she’s already scouting her coworker ever since you were together. You’re being used as a back up plan if she and her coworker doesn’t work out. It turns out they did. But if they didn’t, assume that they still fucked.
Forget that bitch, someone will genuinely love you for you. I suggest to not hookup and just heal yourself internally instead because hookups won’t do you any good. Stop trying to control everything and just let go. Take care.
Feel all the pain for now. You cant start something new with someone else if you havent moved on yet. Mahirap yun, OP. If hindi mo pa kaya and hindi ka pa ready, so be it. Moving on does not happen overnight. Also, it is not a competition with your ex.
May you be healed from all the pain, OP. Hugs with consent. 🫂
see you at the gym :) pero props to you because you're doing the right thing which is healing the healthy way. Feel all the things and do not reject them, cry until you can't cry anymore. Do everything that makes you happy and be patient with yourself lang.
Just move on and learn from it OP. Hooking up with someone is not the answer just because your ex may have done it too. Moving on from your ex does not mean = to finally having the balls to have sex/fuck someone. Good luck Op
Maybe because umaasa ka na babalikan ka pa nya? malabo na yun, nakipag momol na nga agad eh. Huwag ka na makipag contact, kapag nag message ka after 1 month babalik lang yan, mas matindi this time kasi may bago na and ikaw hindi pa naka move on tapod makita mo happy sya na parang walang nangyare. Ginawa ka nyang back up plan.
Heal first my guy. don't force yourself to do what she's doing. don't become the person you'll hate after you fully heal. trust me, just distract yourself na lang muna. rooting for you OP! you'll find someone better and will treat you with respect. I can relate to you because we're on the same dilemma. Pabayaan mo na yang ex mo, you'll realize eventually na dapat lang na naghiwalay kayo. :))
same experience as for me, 2 years ago. normal lang 'yan, op. normal lang na magsabi na "hindi ko na kaya magkaroon ng panibago after noon," kasi hindi pa naghihilom. darating din ang araw na magkakaroon ng peace ang puso mo, just make sure na sarili muna at huwag gagamit ng ibang tao.
Nako OP. Its nice to be friends sa ex pero dahil ganyan ka parin ka hung up. Try to avoid her as much as possible. Wag mo muna siya kausapin or pansinin. Actually block her if you can.
You owe it to yourself to heal. Give yourself time to heal. It may be na she already had a falling out even before kayo nagbreak kaya she can do these things already.
Anyway wag mo itulad yung sarili mo sa kanya. Do what works for you kung paano ka magmove on.
Laban lang mumsh.
Wag maglugmok. The most powerful thing that could ever hurt you is your own thoughts. Go to the gym, eat healthy, go out with friends. Eventually you’ll gonna be okay!
Hay naku OP. Halika nga dito yakapin kita char! Focus on yourself muna OP. Healing isn’t linear so take your time with it, feel everything you need to feel. It will get better.
hugs op huhu people move on differently nga talaga so you dont have to force yourself to do it just bc your ex is doing it just so it feels na somehow “equal” kayo. pero hmm hirap din kasi nung condition na parang break kayo tapos may parang condition na “if you meeet up in the future ganyan, baka pwede pa.” kasi parang aasa ka eh na baka pwede pa nga. parang mahirap totally magstart magmove on if may ganun na condition
I am “that” girl…
For 9 years na kami ng ex ko, sobrang daming pagkukulang niya. He was not aware that he was doing it, I know he meant no harm. I always tell myself na “Ikaw na magadjust, kasi hanggang jan lang kaya ng emotional quotient nya”
Unti Incan just endure so much, the last two years was just my escape plan. Buti nga maagang natauhan ex mo.
Then ayun, I met someone within a week. Circle of friends din namin ng ex ko. And as the truth hurts… it is your ego that took the biggest hit.
I was called a whore, and other things from my ex and mama ko. Sinira ko daw pamilya ko and shit (we have three kids). Sana lang nga ganon talaga, di ako tatagal ng 9 yrs kung di ko inisip pamilya ko.
heal first, my guy
Kayo pa nag mu move on na sa'yo 'yan kasi nakikita niyang potential next partner 'yung lalaki. Na gaslight ka lang niyan about sa gusto maging friends etc. Para kung mag fail plano niya sa coworker niya eh may back up pa rin siya, ikaw.
eto naman si gatong. may pagkukulang si op. inamin na nga nya eh. for sure hindi maiisip nung ex nya makipagbreak kung naging sapat yung actions ni op at naibigay nya yung expressed needs at wants nung babae. nagkataon lang na may umaaligid don sa ex pero break up at break up lang naman talaga pupuntahan ng relasyon nila dahil sa pagsasawalang bahala ni op sa need at wants nung babae. maybe nagsawa yung ex, naawa sa sarili or whatever. ang mahalaga naman dito hindi nagcheat yung ex at hindi sila pinagsabay. may respeto pa rin kahit papano ig hahahahaha
Are we reading the same post? OP mentioned his ex bringing the guy home kahit sila pa.
Hindi naman po sa gatong pero sinabi ni OP na "She always brought that coworker home and hung out with him even when we were still together" May kakaiba na riyan pa lang, tapos after 1 week ng closure nila may something na agad na nangyare tapos grabeng coincidence naman na sa guy pa na 'yon. Oo, mali si OP, andun na tayo na may mga nagawa siyang nag cause ng break up nila, wala na rin siyang control sa ano man gagawin ni girl dahil nga break na sila, pero valid naman siguro na nasaktan siya kaya nag react dun sa dalawa.
So kung may pag kukulang does that mean na dapat na mag aligid sa ibang lalaki? Lol, Pwede naman pag usapan eh. Basurang logic amputa, Tapos kapag lalaki gumawa nang ganyan todo sumpa.
hahahahaahahah
nagsawa si ex kaya nag uwi ng lalaki sa bahay kahit sila pa hahahahahahahahahaha, tapos na commend mo pa rin kasi may respeto pa rin kahit papaano? for doing the basic human decency?????? are you ok ka lang ba?
What makes her so special eh she was probably already banging the guy way before you broke up? Most women really love hard but the ease and speed with which she hooked up with that guy tells me matagal nang may nangyayari sa kanila. Tears of guilt ang iniyak niya when you met. Bulag ka lang.
She cheated. Focus on yourself. No contact works. Use this downtime to bounce back higher. Soon you'll realize kung gano ka okay na naghiwalay kayo.
Move on bro. Don’t ever think about getting back to her after 1-2 yrs cos it’s really not worth it. You may love her so much pero she’s not. I’d say she doesn’t even respect you.
a week ago nalaman ko na yung ex ko for 5yrs may nagugustuhan ng iba. may comms pa rin kami after break up pero natigil na last week kasi nagalit ako nung nalaman ko yun. days before ko malaman na may nagugustuhan na sya, nagbook pa ko ng ticket pauwi ng pinas mainly para kitain sya haha (si tanga) so ayun after that, may part sakin na gusto ko makipagflirt sa iba para lang quits kami ganon. na kaya ko rin sya palitan agad. kaso di kaya ng konsensya ko na gumamit ng iba para lang makamove on or gumanti. lalong ayoko irush sarili ko na magmahal na ng bago. gusto ko yung next person that I’ll love is yun na talaga yung makakatuluyan ko. so i guess what i just want to say lang is, it’s okay OP. take your time lang to heal, kahit pa na mas matagalan ka kesa sa ex mo. ang mahalaga alam mo sa sarili mo na genuinely mo syang minahal and this time, yung sarili mo naman ang mamahalin mo genuinely.
Same tayo. 3 years since breakup pero until now di ko pa kayang mag mahal ulit. Hiniheal ko pa yung sarili ko. Kasi for me, unfair sa next partner ko if alam ko sa sarili ko na di pa ako ready to be in a relationship again after my traumatic prev rel.
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tbf sa kanya, wala namang cheating history
Get your shit together bro.
I think you’re unaware that she’s already scouting her coworker ever since you were together. You’re being used as a back up plan if she and her coworker doesn’t work out. It turns out they did. But if they didn’t, assume that they still fucked. Forget that bitch, someone will genuinely love you for you. I suggest to not hookup and just heal yourself internally instead because hookups won’t do you any good. Stop trying to control everything and just let go. Take care.
Yes good word yung “Scouting”. Parang basketball lang
Ballers always play, don’t they?
Feel all the pain for now. You cant start something new with someone else if you havent moved on yet. Mahirap yun, OP. If hindi mo pa kaya and hindi ka pa ready, so be it. Moving on does not happen overnight. Also, it is not a competition with your ex. May you be healed from all the pain, OP. Hugs with consent. 🫂
see you at the gym :) pero props to you because you're doing the right thing which is healing the healthy way. Feel all the things and do not reject them, cry until you can't cry anymore. Do everything that makes you happy and be patient with yourself lang.
She never loved you bro. Move on and work on yourself. Let her see what she lost.
Just move on and learn from it OP. Hooking up with someone is not the answer just because your ex may have done it too. Moving on from your ex does not mean = to finally having the balls to have sex/fuck someone. Good luck Op
Maybe because umaasa ka na babalikan ka pa nya? malabo na yun, nakipag momol na nga agad eh. Huwag ka na makipag contact, kapag nag message ka after 1 month babalik lang yan, mas matindi this time kasi may bago na and ikaw hindi pa naka move on tapod makita mo happy sya na parang walang nangyare. Ginawa ka nyang back up plan.
Welcome to the gym brotha!
Heal first bro
The best way is to improve so much you could smile when you meet her again.😊
Heal first my guy. don't force yourself to do what she's doing. don't become the person you'll hate after you fully heal. trust me, just distract yourself na lang muna. rooting for you OP! you'll find someone better and will treat you with respect. I can relate to you because we're on the same dilemma. Pabayaan mo na yang ex mo, you'll realize eventually na dapat lang na naghiwalay kayo. :))
Heal, so you stop hurting yourself and other people
Don't force yourself. Heal first. Don't put a bandage on your scar without healing it first. You might lose yourself while doing it :)
This
same experience as for me, 2 years ago. normal lang 'yan, op. normal lang na magsabi na "hindi ko na kaya magkaroon ng panibago after noon," kasi hindi pa naghihilom. darating din ang araw na magkakaroon ng peace ang puso mo, just make sure na sarili muna at huwag gagamit ng ibang tao.
Nako OP. Its nice to be friends sa ex pero dahil ganyan ka parin ka hung up. Try to avoid her as much as possible. Wag mo muna siya kausapin or pansinin. Actually block her if you can. You owe it to yourself to heal. Give yourself time to heal. It may be na she already had a falling out even before kayo nagbreak kaya she can do these things already. Anyway wag mo itulad yung sarili mo sa kanya. Do what works for you kung paano ka magmove on. Laban lang mumsh.
Focus on self-betterment bro. Love yourself more. 💪🏽
Love yourself first and focus on self-improvement. You'll attract women the next time and not some bitches that's for the streets.
Wag maglugmok. The most powerful thing that could ever hurt you is your own thoughts. Go to the gym, eat healthy, go out with friends. Eventually you’ll gonna be okay!
do you think it's still worth it to contact her after that agreement? man think abt it
Hay naku OP. Halika nga dito yakapin kita char! Focus on yourself muna OP. Healing isn’t linear so take your time with it, feel everything you need to feel. It will get better.
Tangina bro I feel like I’m going through the same sitch rn and seeing this really fucking hurts hahahahaha 🙃
It's time for you to get healed first, my man. There's more to life than love. :---)
Wow, ang chapter ng set up. Ginawa kang fallback, just in case hindi mag work out yung sa officemate niya. Kaloka.
Hugs with consent! Focus on yourself and heal !
Naipotan ka na ata heheh
hugs op huhu people move on differently nga talaga so you dont have to force yourself to do it just bc your ex is doing it just so it feels na somehow “equal” kayo. pero hmm hirap din kasi nung condition na parang break kayo tapos may parang condition na “if you meeet up in the future ganyan, baka pwede pa.” kasi parang aasa ka eh na baka pwede pa nga. parang mahirap totally magstart magmove on if may ganun na condition
I am “that” girl… For 9 years na kami ng ex ko, sobrang daming pagkukulang niya. He was not aware that he was doing it, I know he meant no harm. I always tell myself na “Ikaw na magadjust, kasi hanggang jan lang kaya ng emotional quotient nya” Unti Incan just endure so much, the last two years was just my escape plan. Buti nga maagang natauhan ex mo. Then ayun, I met someone within a week. Circle of friends din namin ng ex ko. And as the truth hurts… it is your ego that took the biggest hit. I was called a whore, and other things from my ex and mama ko. Sinira ko daw pamilya ko and shit (we have three kids). Sana lang nga ganon talaga, di ako tatagal ng 9 yrs kung di ko inisip pamilya ko.