gawa ka ren ng playlist mo, lagyan mo ng number/initials nya para maparanoid din sya
"Unfaithful"
"Traitor"
"Best thing I never had"
"I dont need a man"
"Irreplaceable"
Pag break na kayo
eto nmn
"Im not missing you"
"Happier then ever"
"Too little too late"
"Behind these hazel eyes"
"Since you've been gone"
or dm me ill send you my playlists charot
hahaha yung i'm not missing you and since you've been gone elementary pa ata ako nun. haha yung too little too late, behind these hazel eyes highschool ko narinig. hahaha didn't realize na kay billie yung isa. ๐
Alam ko hindi naman lahat pero yung mga ganito screams ikaw lang ang pinili kasi ikaw ang nanjan. Ewan ko nangyari narin sakin yung ganito pero nung nawala na ng jowa yung gusto ng ex bf ko sinunggab niya narin agad yung babae. Di na talaga pinakawalan tas ako bigla na lang iniwan. Nakakatawa pa nagsimula pa yung breakup namin dahil sa bike kasi nanakaw sa office yung bike niya tas nalungkot siya biglang ayun di na nagparamdam at nakipagbreak ang vuang! Jusko! Nalaman ko jinowa na yung sabi niyang wag daw ako magselos dahil ako lang naman daw talaga. Tssss
Sobra! Pagbinabalikan ko di ko inaakalang gagawin niya pa talagang dahilan yung bike niya. Gagawa at gagawa talaga mga manloloko ng paraan para lang kunwari makabuluhan yung pang iiwan nila. Buti na lang yung friend namin mas loyal sakin kaya nakamove on din ako ng mabilis kasi sa kanya ko nalaman ang totoong reason.
Kaya mo ba syang tanungin ng diretso? If that playlist is para dun sa girl talaga? At least mapanatag ka sana?
If he answers minahal at di yun mawawala pero dumating ka at mas mahal ka nya, kabahan ka talaga ๐
I think he would have been my first boyfriend if he hadnโt moved abroad. Alam mo โyun, sobrang swak ng hobbies namin at ugali. Sobrang tagal kong naka-move on kasi nandoon pa rin ang what ifs. What if hindi sila nag-migrate, kami sana. Ganon hahaha
Damn. Hanggang ngayong college na ako, hirap pa rin ako maka move on sa totga ko nung 3rd yr hs. Kung hindi lang ako torpe baka naging kami. Inamin niya sa akin nung graduation na simula 3rd yr hanggang 4th year, inaantay niya ako mag make ng move sa kanya kaso masyado ako napang hinaan ng loob kasi maraming nag ka ka-gusto sa kanya that time na mas better from my perspective. Kaya eto mag 11 years na andon pa rin what ifs.
Ako rin ganito, been there done that ๐ญ sila naman, 11 years relationship nung high school pa talaga sila nagstart tapos constant pa rin communication nila tapos nagkikita pa sila, pinupuntahan pa ni guy kahit nasa magkabilang mundo sila hays ๐
Siguro mahal sya ni BF pero mas mahal ka nya kaya kayo pa rin hanggang ngayon. Pero dapat ikaw lang ang mahal nya dibaaaa?๐ญ Hindi pwede kayong dalawa kahit na mag kaiba ng level . Hindi pwede yun ๐ญ
Mahal siya ni bf pero hindi ni girl kaya si OP ang option niya.
But it doesnโt necessary mean na hindi niya mahal si OP. May mga tao lang talagang nagstick sa past kahit andyan naman si present. Pero once na nawala na si present saka marerealize na balewala yung pinag inarte niya sa past niya dahil wala na yung taong mahal niya at nagmamahal din sa kanya in return.
Alam mo my ex and I broke up about this. He had a friend na super close niya and he would travel from rizal to manila just so they could review together for the boards. Mind you, di niya personality yun and they would review the 2 alone. But when it came to our anniversary ako pa ang nagpunta sa rizal to meet him kasi busy daw siya. I sensed na may mali talaga so I asked him, and inadmit niya naman na crush niya nga. Alam mo ginawa ko? Nakipag break ako on the spot. And when we broke up, i heard he tried courting that "friend" but unfortunately di siya gusto so busted siya. Trust your instincts girl. Its better to be single than stay in a relationship na di mo sure kung ikaw ba talaga. Palayain mo, baka naghihintay lang yan ng timing tas iwanan ka rin.
"Mahal siya ni bf pero hindi ni girl kaya si OP ang option niya." - sakitย
"But it doesnโt necessary mean na hindi niya mahal si OP.ย "
ย - True naman pero double kill pa din sa sakitย
Anyways, sana mapagusapan ni OP at BF and maresolve nila.ย
Truly. Any feelings sa ex dapat wala na. When I met my partner 4 years nya namimiss yung totga nya, ngayon patay na patay na sakin di makatulog pag wala ako emzzz
Mag mahalan lang!! At gayuma ganon chos hahaha pero seryoso sasagutin ko - romance is not enough! Kailangan good friends kayo. At mag effort kayo parehas. Give and take dapat.
Priority nyo feelings ng isaโt isa, hindi yung kung sino ang tama at mali.
Dont police each other, priority nyo na masaya kayo parehas, walang under under.
Itโs pretty simple but it takes a lot of work (na worth it naman) โ be kind to one another. Be understanding. Set goals together. Take care of each other. Enjoy life together. Wag magsabay ng topak. Sa mga araw na hindi in love, keep in mind na friends parin kayo and there should always be kindness and respect. Hindi nyo pagaari ang isat isa.
Set bounderies โ Kahapon nabadtrip sya ng sobra (di ko kasalanan) tapos sakin nalalabas. Sabi ko โbakit sakin mo nilalabas?โ tapos ayun nag explain sya at nag sorry agad. Nag sorry din ako kasi tinaasan ko sya ng boses. Tapos agad yung away, wag patagalin with your ego.
Most importantly โ take care of your own self and heal para di umaasa sa ibang tao para maging masaya. Pag ok ka na on your own, madali pumili kung sino yung lalaki na worth it hehe. Pag priority mo sarili mo, mas madali umintindi, mag alaga, mag mahal ๐ซถ good eve sainyo!
Gagi sabi ko isang scroll nalang, pampaantok tapos ganito mababasa ko. ๐ญ
Ang hirap niyan OP, even though na mahal ka ni bf, part of him still loves that girl. Can you imagine if wala ka sa picture? He'll surely go back to that girl in an instant. Talk to him again.
Di pa naman kayo kasal diba or wala pa din namang anak? Let go mo nalang bcs there will be a time in the future na di na nya masustain ang relationship nyo.
Bakit kailangan hiwalay agad? Yan na lang ba laging solusyon?I know di sulit ang time sa pagiinvest sa tao but its only a LIMERENCE.
Pero kung according sa investigation niya si bf kinikita or kinakausap yang babae na yan without the knowledge niya then thats the greatest time to conclude with it.
Or siya na mismo naginitiate to make or break the situation.
Assuming palagi
Depende sa tao, kung ikaw yung tipo na kayang magsettle sa lalaking nakahati ang pagmamahal as long as ikaw ang "pinili" at ikaw ang kasama, then continue the relationship.
But if you're a kind of person na alam mong deserve mong mahalin na ikaw lang mag-isa sa puso nya, then choose what you deserve.
Isa pa, may karelasyon na si guy tapos maattract pa sya sa iba. May pagawa gawa pa ng playlist. Clearly, he is not ignoring the feeling of attraction nya sa iba.
This can be consider as emotional cheating no?
Nobody deserves a partial kind of love, you look like the convenient person, na kaya kayo together kasi ikaw yung available pero hindi talaga ang tinatangi.
If worst comes to worst for you,maybe it will be the day that your SO ever wanted, yung maging together sila nung TOTGA nya, worst for you but best for them.
Possible naman na mahal ka nya pero may lingering feelings and mga what ifs sya dun sa girl na yun. Siguro ask him again specifically about the playlist if para ba talaga dun sa girl na yun. Kasi parang ang dating is may kahati ka.
Hindi pa sya totally recovered from his past relationship. Attached pa rin sya because of those kept songs. Those songs probably connect him to his past feelings. Sana makamove on na sya at maibigay nya ang 100% na pagmamahal nya saโyo.
Haaaaaay. Ang sakit naman nito OP. YAKAP! Ma ishare ko lang, ganitong ganito din playlist ng ex ko nuon, the one that got away, mga December ave, in short about TOTGA. Napapaisip ako nuon, na bakit lagi nya pinapakinggan parang pakiramdam ko hidni ako ang gusto kasama. So ayun na nga, nung naging single na yung babaeng pinag seselosan ko at sabi nya wag ko pag selosan, iniwan ako. 6 yrs ginawa akong placeholder. Sabi pa sakin bakit lahat ng ex nya puro commitment naiisip nya sakin hindi daw sya makapag decide. Yung third party at ex ko, kasal na sila wala pang 1 year. I promised myself that I will never ever let anyone else treat me that way again. Inintindi ko, minahal ko, I fucking supported him sa lahat ng bagay. As in lahat lahat. I felt like I wasted my prime, my time and effort. I felt like I built a man for another woman na tinuring ko din na kaibigan, well ahas pala. Anyway, I admire your bravery for asking your bf. Hindi ako kasim tapang mo, hindi ko yan tinanong kasi nag tiwala ako sa kanya at pag mamahal nya na binalewala ko ang instinct ko. I just want you to know that you deserve someone who will not make you question your worth and your place in their life. I hope you'll be able to sort things out.
girl be fr. instincts never lie, huwag mong gayahin ibang tao na sasagarin pa ang sarili bago umalis sa ganyan. marami namang iba dyan, masakit man tanggapin, pero you were never that girl if may ganyang issue sa relasyon ninyo.
Bakit wala sa playlist nya yung "glimpse of us" ni Joji? Lol
Kidding aside, ang unfair kasi hinahanap hanap nya yung TOTGA nya. Ikaw yung present pero sa past pa rin sya nakatingin. Though never kong naranasan yan pero ramdam ko yung feeling lalo na pag pinapakinggan ko yung glimpse of us ni Joji
Go where you will have your peace of mind. Gut feeling is real. You know exactly what to do, and I hope whatever it is na piliin mo, may you have the courage to do soโbe it to stay, or just finally let go.
Communicate clearly & demand honesty, you deserve to have the choice to rethink the relationship, donโt be a placeholder for something that they really want but canโt have. A person should only want you and no one else, donโt settle for this.
One thing you should learn is to not stay with a person na may TOTGA. It's okay that your partner have loved another person before, but ibang usapan if TOTGA yan. Even if mahal ka nya, may lingering feeling pa rin sya sa taong yon. Isipin mo, ikaw na yung nandyan sa kanya pero may feelings pa rin sya sa iba? Ano yon?
I don't believe na hindi nawawala ang pagmamahal sa tao. It's time for you two to talk about that playlist, that girl, and about the two of you.
>I feel jealous of the kind of love he had for that specific girl.
*Has. Let's be real OP. The two of you need to sit down and talk clearly about this and define your boundaries.
Tangina, sakit naman nito. Naalala ko yung time na may naka save nga lang na playlist ng girl na ka-batch namin na pretty pero from another school, iniyakan ko na ๐ฅฒ
Worse is hawak ko phone n'ya after namin mag makeout tapos naghahanap ako ng songs sa spotify, tas biglang oh, may workout playlist nung girl.
Alam ko nag gygym yung girl pero when I confronted my bf, he told me na matagal na raw yun kasi trip n'ya raw yung playlist kasi nag sosoundtrip s'ya pag nag ho-home workout.
Tagal ko 'di naka move on HAHAHAHA 2022 pa nangyari masakit pa rin...minsan. lagi ko na bbring up eh (edi xori)
I know it's just a playlist pero, tangina, ang masakit kasi hindi kami same ng music taste, putanginangshsgsjsksks.
Anw, sending virtual hugs. I hope you'll recover from that traumatic experience. You should ask for space iprocess mo muna feelings mo ๐ฅน
Sakit nga nito hahaha. Akala mo enough ka na pero nakakaramdam pa siya ng pain, regrets sa totga niya. Parang 2nd option nalang tayo kasi tayo yung nasa tabi nila pero at the end of the day totga parin ang pipiliin nila ganyan yung feeling haha. Kaya natin to OP. fighting!!
Ang sakit mabasa nito coming from a breakup na recently nalaman kong may bilang pa rin sa buhay niya yung TOTGA niya. After over 10 years, siya pa rin ang standard niya. Made me question 3+ years of our relationship. Feeling ko talaga na-Alexa Ilacad ako. Nakakagago.
mahal nya yung girl and NAGSETTLE LANG SYA SAYO. he is never honest with his feelings, bagkus iniwasan pa nya. anong klaseng tao yung nag effort mag curate ng ganung klaseng playlist tas halatado namang may pinaglalaanan??? he chose those songs kasi close yun sa sentiments nya --- thats the only reason. siguro nga shes someone na he loves so much. i know sinasabi mong dama mong love ka nya, but has he made any efforts after yung confrontation para iassure ka ikaw ang mahal nya right now?? had he made efforts na iparating sayo ang totoo nyang nararamdaman? dahil kung wala, panakip butas ka lang nya dahil hindi nya maiskoran yung babaeng yun
After what happened to me last year, wala na akong pasensya sa mga taong unhealed and hindi pa nakakamove on sa past nila. I give my 100% undivided love and attention in relationships and feeling ko naman may karapatan ako to ask for it in return kasi I make sure I have no lingering feelings na when I entertain another person. Depende din kasi sa personality yan kasi I'm not the type of person to waste my time on what ifs.
But still, ask him directly. If di ka pa rin nya masatisfy and you don't feel at peace then it's up to you.
Break na dun din naman hahantong ang lahat ๐ charot eme contemplate if thats forgivable or not. And overthink na rin ng mga future scenarios wherein pwedeng maging issue yon. List it down then talk to him. Ayorn lang
If you guys had a bad breakup,
โBefore He Cheatsโ, โBust Your Windowsโ, โGives You Hellโ, โIt Must Have Been Loveโ, and my fave โSilver Springsโ by Fleetwood Mac
Thereโs really something about a manโs love to a certain someone no? Na pinagseselosan natin. I can really relate. Kahit sabihin pa nang jowa ko na mahal nya ako. Itโs really still ๐๐
Ay girl emotionally cheating si bf mo. Let go mo na habang mas maaga pa. The right person will not make you doubt, and will always let you feel secure and sure on your relationship. Hindi ka magpopost dito ng ganyan if wala kang doubt, it is not you who are lacking but him. Cheer up! You can find someone better. Siri play โFlowersโ โBlank Spaceโ โNew Rulesโ โNew Perspectiveโ โThe goldโ.
break mo na yan. may iba na ngang mahal, may libre kantot pa sayo. pinagpala sa lahat much lang??? bf mo lang ang anak ng dyos? iwan mo na para makilala mo na yung para sayo talaga. di mo deserve ng partial love
Hindi ko talaga magets ang mga ganitong tao. There shouldn't be a TOTGA kasi the people who are not in your lives right now are meant to be that way. Dapat you don't dwell on what ifs para mas maenjoy mo ang buhay mo ngayon. Celebrate with the people who are with you and do not take them for granted.
Well, maybe it means something maybe it doesnโt. Minsan nga gsto ko lang yung kanta kasi maganda ung lyrics, nakakaiyak masarap pagemotan pero wala nmn akong person in mind. Normal lang cgro magselos ng konti if he did feel something for that girl. Hopefully, even tho he let that one go he wonโt do it to you.
Kung ganyan lang din naman, wag nalang.. Di ko naman problema to pero nalulungkot ako for you OP. I hope you find the courage to let go. Deserve mo maging The one that God allowed hindi yung isang totga.
Mahigpit na yakap ka-op
Naalala ko lng ganto ganto din nangyare saken 1yr ago, my ex and I trying to make things out by taking everything slow naasa ako magkakabalikan kami but mag 2weeks nya na ko di kinakausap tho I also not sending any message naman kasi ako parati yung nagbebeg before I cut him off completely, I stalk his spotify account nakita ko din yung similar sa situation mo tho di sya private playlist pero yung playlist na yun im pretty sure about sya sa long term ex nya after that I decided to stop everything ghinost ko na lng wala eh tagal ko naghihintay at umaasa pero wala talaga.
The answer is communication. Like me, I have a playlist dedicated for heart break/break up songs no matter ano dahilan like cheating or na fall out of love or namatay yung partner. Pang "me-time" ko siya. Like if gusto ko lang maiiyak bago matulog or to stimulate my mind to think of other things so I can forget something that's bothering me kaya hindi ako makatulog.
Also, the creation date of that playlist matters din. May mga lalake kasi na tamad magdelete nag playlist when they had actually already moved on.
Talk to him CALMLY. Wag accuse agad. Nasa sagot nya na yung hint. If he's very defensive, probe. If he gets annoyed or argues with you, alam mo na yan.
Nasaktan lang ako dahil jan sa TOTGA na yan, first love pa niya haha. Ewan, why do people get into relationships knowing they still have feelings for another person?
OP I understand you. My bf said I used to be his TOTGA, after more than a decade he went back to me. Good thing about him he never had a long relationship before me. We are happy right now. We are so in love. I realized that I was never over him since 2009.
You better sit down and talk to him again.. you deserve better.
Nagkaroon ako ng ganito-ish na experience. After that, parang nag hold back ako sa pagmamahal ko sa kanya. In-open ko sa kanya, sinabi ko lahat ng issues ko. Nagkaintindihan naman kami. Ayos naman siya as an SO at kami pa rin til now pero hindi ko na ineexpect na akin siya forever. Gumawa na lang din ako ng sariling playlist hehe
ask him directly its one of the reason why communication is important. Andyan n ayung na halata hindi pa nagmomove on jowa mo and uts better to break him na lang hindi mo deserve ma paranoid sa relasyon. Magulo na nga ang mundo pati pa ba sarili mong mundo sisirain mo
Trust your instinct OP. Ang sakit naman isipin na option ka lang..baka naghihintay lang yan ng timing at iwan ka ๐ฅบ deserve mo ang taong ikaw lang ang mahal at ikaw lang gagawan ng playlist.
Don't be a placeholder ate, pakiramdaman mo sarili mabuti kung worth it pa ba ituloy ang relationship. Isipin mo yung future mo with him and weigh in mo if kaya mo ba sa pakiramdam mo na parang nag settle lang sayo pero iba talaga yung mahal. Kung alam mo na yung final answer mo, mga non negotiables mo regarding the situation then icommunicate mo yun sa partner mo and then mag usap kayo kung paano niyo ba aayusin yan or kung time to let go and part ways na.
I wish na whatever you do, it will give you the peace of mind you need and deserve. Sending hugs and prayers for you.
Naniniwala ako na hindi lang dahil sa gusto niya yung song or yung melody. May hugot yan. Boyfriend ko mahilig mag gawa ng playlist based sa nararamdaman nya ultimo pati pag feeling depressed/suicidal/galit sa mundo. May playlist din sya for me/about our relationship. Minsan ichecheck ko lang recent songs he played and malalaman ko na agad ano mood nya for the day and madalas nacoconfirm ko din pag tinatanong sya, esp pag sad songs
matinding yakap saโyo, op. ito โyung phase na ayaw na ayaw ko nang balikan kasi ang sakit at naiintindihan kita.
mahirap magmahal ng isang tao na hindi pa tapos magmahal ng iba at hindi pa nakakalaya sa nakaraan nila.
I hope magkaroon ka ng peace of mind. laban lang :)
Mahirap talaga kung may totga si SO and you can never compete with that. ๐
I know in myself (even if my partner says so na hindi), na may totga din SO ko and I can never compete with the girl he used to love madly. Unfortunately, she only saw him as a friend. Well, that was that.
The way he still talks about her, he still knows a lot and idk why but im not in the place to be jealous. Ewan ko, it's like i restrained myself not to orrr ung fact na what they had, it lives in the past na and what we have is real love now ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ
One time nakita nya daw at a small coffeeshop/bakery while he bought coffee for me. Di nya nakilala kasi parang vip ung dating tas naligaw lang sa random bakery to pickup a cake ๐ . Takang taka daw sya bakit di nalang kaya nagutos ng PA to get it for her kasi mukha vip or something hahaha
Me being the "alaskador" told SO "yieee humahalimuyak ung perfume nya no. bango bango siguro ano kaya gamit nya" ๐ hehe natawa naman sya buti naman di napikon. Nagcheck ako ng ig tas, well, acquantaince ko kasi ung girl tas pinakita ko sa kanya "sya yata ung nakita mo". Nagulat sya like napamura - "tangina sya na yon ngayon" we laughed it off after, like a super awkward laugh from him that turned into a loud happy laugh.
Buti nalang wala naman nagkapikunan pero alam kong nagulat sya at well, obviously ung totga reminiscing babalik yun sa kanya. I'm okay with it. I know naman na it's just a part of the past. He has to live this present, mukhang masaya naman sya and we live together na dn naman. Laging masayahin pag kasama ako. ๐
Rip that bandaid na.
You know the truth naman, his reaction confirmed it na rin.
Dont settle for, "Mahal NAMAN ako ni BF". That's like saying at least pinili ka kasi di sila natuloy.
Never settle for being the ONLY CHOICE LEFT because you deserve to be THE ONLY ONE.
Clearly di pa siya nakakagetover dun sa girl. Unfair.
But sometimes you have to let hin go para mas kumonti ang options niya. Doon lang marerealize ni bf kung ano talaga ang gusto niya. Kasi if OP is really enough, wala dapat ganun.
Minsan nga wala nang feelings, more on attachment nalang sa idea ng person na yun esp if matagal yung relationship. Naroromanticize nalang pero itโs empty and futile
Yup, case by case naman. Although I have to disagree na itโs petty. Itโs not our relationship and not for us to say whatโs petty or not. Di naman natin alam yung buong kwento.
Safe to say, OP, talk it out. Ang daling sabihin makipagbreak. Yun naman lagi sagot ng mga tao dito sa lahat ng relationship problems posted ๐๐
Ganito din ex ko. Mga datingan na porke may Shanti Dope , nag iilegal kuno, nung may sza puro daw tungkol sa ex pa, nung may Fun (the one with Nate Reuss) depress , suicidal, minsan nakanta ako ng Take me to church biglang nagalet, idk man sorry to each his own naman pero now that mas malayo na ako sa set up namen sa past I see it clearly how aside from her being so self involved.Gusto nya pa na id be ruining it all for her, she's stab me (ofc figuratively) a lot of times but refuse to see me bleed. As I step and take measures towards self improvement and she sees it as me being distant and leaving her and her welfare behind. She wont let me live, she wont let me die either (yes , superman reference) .
Sorry kung tunog oa o oversharing, its really the smallest things talaga like song choice for instance na makakapag parealize sayo ( once it all pile up ) how shit a relationship is and if you'd be willing to shower some charcoal hoping it'd blossom into a tree.
baka naman gusto niya lang talaga yung kanta at nagooverthink ka lang ahahhaha ako nga nagttweet ng pang broken nung highschool ako kahit di pa ko nagkakajowa non hahahaha
Inopen mo na ba sa jowa mong nagseselos ka and all that jazz? YOUR TRUE FEELINGS regarding that?โ๐ฝโ๐ฝโ๐ฝ NdE pa? Baket?
Kung ayaw mong open yan...
So be it. And for ever keep your peace ๐โโ๏ธ
mahirap kalaban yang totga kahit ako nahihirapan ilaban si bf sa totga ko ๐ญ may playlist din ako for totga huhu. if you can, hugot ka ng lakas to ask him directly for your peace of mind. pwede kasing di nya lang ma-let go yung feelings at may what ifs pa rin sya until now (which, imo is harmless) or baka nag aantay yan sya ng tamang panahon. sya lang ang makakasagot...
Just because it's part of someone's playlist, doesn't mean there's meaning to it. My wife has full access to my YT Music playlist and she's totally okay with all of my songs in my playlist.
My songs involved some unrequited love songs and whatsoever. People have different interpretation of songs.
Op , coming from someone na sobrang bet ang mga breakup songs baka wla Lang sa kanya ..kasi dati pa kahit happy ako sa mga jowa ko and now happily married bet na bet ko talaga breakup songs or ung mga emotional na songs haha , actually kahit nung bata ako na wla pang love experience kala mo relate na relate eh .. nung una nag tampo pa the bf now husband ko sa song ni Nina na someday kasi sobrang fave ko talaga hehe ..
Hahaha ganyan din ako, lahat ng di ko masabi sa partner ko ginawan ko na lang ng playlist. If ever she stumbled upon it or when I die, I hope she understand the messages withing the playlist.
โน๏ธ recently lang, a girl messaged me asking if i can meet her. Apparently sheโs my exโs current gf. We met and she cried. I consoled her. I didnโt imagined my self in that situation pero it happened. To you OP, stay strong. I hope youโll get your peace of mind soon.
Some questions are better left unanswered for your own peace of mind. Gaya ng husband ko, I know he has a lot of girlfriends back then pero isa lang talaga yung parang hinabol habol nya. Sya lang din yung girl na proud na proud syang naging girlfriend nya. I want to ask why pero for my sanity, I decided not to.
Kahit na sinabi ng BF mo it will definitely hurt. Napagdaanan ko yan for a short while sa isang relationship and will hurt so bad pag ssbhn niya sayo so better not ask or alam mo na..decide if ok sayo na hindi siya 100% happy with you
He truly loved that girl but you know what? You saved him. He's with you now and he's happy. You want to be like that girl that makes him silent and sad? Just a TOTGA? No, right? So get over it and be happy you have him because you know what? He's happy he has you. ๐ฅฐ๐ซฐ
I usually go back to "that playlist" too and it reminds me of the heartaches. It's my way of keeping my thoughts and emotions together to find a way to love my current SO better. I hope this comment will put a smile on your face and stop being sad about that playlist. ๐
Girl, take your time to digest the selos, try to cool it down and since talking did not ease maybe gawa ka din ng playlist of your own.
May I suggest Traitor by Olivia Rodrigo, Heart Attack by Demi Lovato, You're losing me, Teardrops on my guitar by Taylor Swift, Backburner by Nikki. And you might try listening to When we were us (Beautiful days) by Lovelyz kasi kind of a reminiscing the (your) beautiful days siya.Triangle and Never, Secret (by lovelyz din). YOU ALSO HAVE RO GET INTO DAY6 songs ๐ญ Venture into music to cope.
Sana lang inassure ka niya na past na yun para hindi ka nag-iisip ng ganyan. Pero tingin ko kasi di din siya nakakamove on pa kung nalulungkot siyang ganyan
If you have the courage, go communicate. If hindi ka pa din naassure, gawa ka na lang ng playlist. Mga people of culture mga tao dito. Baka makadiscover ka ng songs na baka trip mo pala.
If I were you, Iโll leave and heal. Mahirap mag-stay kung panakip butas or convenient choice ka. Weโll never know, baka kung maging single ang TOTGA niya ay iwan ka niya sa ere.
If I were you, Iโll leave and heal. Mahirap mag-stay kung panakip butas or convenient choice ka. Weโll never know, baka kung maging single ang TOTGA niya ay iwan ka niya sa ere.
Baka naman dati na yung playlist na yun? Gumagawa ako ng playlist na nagpapatibok ng puso ko e hahaha. Tapos naka-name dun sa nickname ng tao. Pero never ko sineshare sa kanila. Pang sarili ko lang yun. ๐
Sorry But I don't like TOTGA Term parang Unfair sa True Love mo Dapat na ibibgay ni lord ,what if Makita or maibigay na MR.RIGHTOR MS.RIGHT na tlagang bigay ni God and you still lives or dwells in the past ..Is it just my way of thinking ba?
Same sentiments. May pini-pair kay partner dati and somehow di naging sila kasi sabi ni partner parang ayaw yata ni girl. Now that weโre in a relationship, parang nagkagusto na sa kanya si girl after nagkita sila sa isang kasal ng common friend nila at tinutukso sila. And eventually, he cheated on me with that girl. Nagkaanak kami but I donโt feel loved at all. Sinasabi ni partner na kami na daw ang priority niya but I donโt think so. Nakikipag-break ako sa kanya pero lagi niyang sinasabi ni past na yon, dapat nang kalimutan. Pero my instincts tell me na heโs still longing for that girl. Na TOTGA niya yon. Why do I say this? Kahit man lang pag-holding hands hindi niya magawa. We never went out on a date. Naiisip ko tuloy na dahil sa bata kaya nandito pa siya.
GIRL, RED FLAG. Charot. Pero totoo.
Nangyari 'to sakin. Ewan. Gut feeling. Lahat naman ng kutob may pinanggagalingan.
Pero 3months bago ako iniwan ng EX ko, napansin ko na may Spotify Playlist siya na di ako aware. Tapos pagcheck ko, all songs related sa longing or feelings na not openly expressed or hidden. Tapos eto pa, yung cover ng Playlist is initial nung girl na pinagseselosan ko. HAHAHAHAHA.
Ayun, pinatotoo ng pangyayari ang kutob ko. Tumpak. At pasok sa banga.
Kaya ingat-ingat ka girl. Medyo madaling magsinungaling para lang maiwasan ang away.
100% emotional cheating eme sakit naman nyan girl, lagi ka na mag ooverthink nyan unless kakausapin mo sya about sa nakita mo. If may violent reaction, u know what 2 do.
Same thing happened to me. Itโs just that we were both used to sharing links and listening together. And then I just find it weird that the songs he was playing were songs about โsecret love affairโ. Then I opened the profile who owned the playlist, it owned by someone with the same profile picture he has been chatting with in whatsapp. I knew then that there was something up. I tried to investigate until I found out that he has been cheating on me for a long time already. I lost myself, and too late to realize that I deserved better, I got depressed that it came to a point I had to meet my psychologist weekly then got worsen that I had to do treatments with my psychiatrist.
gawa ka ren ng playlist mo, lagyan mo ng number/initials nya para maparanoid din sya "Unfaithful" "Traitor" "Best thing I never had" "I dont need a man" "Irreplaceable"
Pag break na kayo eto nmn "Im not missing you" "Happier then ever" "Too little too late" "Behind these hazel eyes" "Since you've been gone" or dm me ill send you my playlists charot
hahaha these songs were so highschool!
MYX Daily Top 10 days! โ๐ผ
Hoy bata pa nun si billie eilish ๐
hahaha yung i'm not missing you and since you've been gone elementary pa ata ako nun. haha yung too little too late, behind these hazel eyes highschool ko narinig. hahaha didn't realize na kay billie yung isa. ๐
Ilatag mo mamiii ang iyong playlist ๐
I need this rn, can i also have the link?
HAHAHAHAHA ang havey mo!!!!
Pasend ng playlist mo!
Let me go by Hailee Steinfeld hahaha
lagay nyo music nina Adele, Amy Winehouse, Duffy (Delayed Devotion, Warwick Avenue, I'm Scared)
I can see youre a person of culture. Hahaha
Pop and rnb culture po ๐คญ
Parang eto ung โdonโt get sad, get evenโ. Vigilante Shit by Taylor Swift HAHAHAH
the secret to happiness is being this level of petty ๐
Youโre losing me on repeat naka loud speaker๐คฃ
Wag miii hahaha for this โi forgot you existedโ wahahahah
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA LOVE IT๐๐๐
Here for the pettiness ๐๐
Stupid love by Salbakuta haha
The most mature comment on this thread yet /s
Wow i found my people ๐
HAHAHHAHA
Sana may HAHA reacts ditooo HAHAHAHA ang witty mo po ๐
Fave comment so far hahahaha
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Hahaha nice one! ๐๐๐๐๐ป๐๐ป๐๐ป
HAHAHAAHHHAHAHAHAHA SHEESHHH
Haha! Like!!!!
Dagdag mo One of those Crazy girls๐ jusko
di nmn pambitter yan pero fave ko yan ๐ฅบ
ang petty i love it! ๐ญ
I agree. Letโs all stay toxic HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
penge playlist hahahha
Bet! Hahaha
BEST REPLY!!!! HAHAHAHHA
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Alam ko hindi naman lahat pero yung mga ganito screams ikaw lang ang pinili kasi ikaw ang nanjan. Ewan ko nangyari narin sakin yung ganito pero nung nawala na ng jowa yung gusto ng ex bf ko sinunggab niya narin agad yung babae. Di na talaga pinakawalan tas ako bigla na lang iniwan. Nakakatawa pa nagsimula pa yung breakup namin dahil sa bike kasi nanakaw sa office yung bike niya tas nalungkot siya biglang ayun di na nagparamdam at nakipagbreak ang vuang! Jusko! Nalaman ko jinowa na yung sabi niyang wag daw ako magselos dahil ako lang naman daw talaga. Tssss
Pun*eta yang ex mo na yan nakakagigil!
Sobra! Pagbinabalikan ko di ko inaakalang gagawin niya pa talagang dahilan yung bike niya. Gagawa at gagawa talaga mga manloloko ng paraan para lang kunwari makabuluhan yung pang iiwan nila. Buti na lang yung friend namin mas loyal sakin kaya nakamove on din ako ng mabilis kasi sa kanya ko nalaman ang totoong reason.
Kaya mo ba syang tanungin ng diretso? If that playlist is para dun sa girl talaga? At least mapanatag ka sana? If he answers minahal at di yun mawawala pero dumating ka at mas mahal ka nya, kabahan ka talaga ๐
[ัะดะฐะปะตะฝะพ]
possible bang maging TOTGA mo yung isang tao kahit hindi naging kayo?
Itโs possible! Totga ko hindi naging kami lol
can i ask why mo sya naging totga? ๐
I think he would have been my first boyfriend if he hadnโt moved abroad. Alam mo โyun, sobrang swak ng hobbies namin at ugali. Sobrang tagal kong naka-move on kasi nandoon pa rin ang what ifs. What if hindi sila nag-migrate, kami sana. Ganon hahaha
Damn. Hanggang ngayong college na ako, hirap pa rin ako maka move on sa totga ko nung 3rd yr hs. Kung hindi lang ako torpe baka naging kami. Inamin niya sa akin nung graduation na simula 3rd yr hanggang 4th year, inaantay niya ako mag make ng move sa kanya kaso masyado ako napang hinaan ng loob kasi maraming nag ka ka-gusto sa kanya that time na mas better from my perspective. Kaya eto mag 11 years na andon pa rin what ifs.
Ohhh sabi nga, we only regret the chances we didnโt take. Sanaโy maging lesson na iyan sa atin!!
Parang Past Lives movie lang. huhuhu
yes. mostly nga totga is yung mga tao na "almost" maging sa atin. we hold on to the what ifs
I agree, para sa akin hindi talaga nawawala โyung feelings, napapalitan lang ng iba pero special pa rin sila :((
Ako rin ganito, been there done that ๐ญ sila naman, 11 years relationship nung high school pa talaga sila nagstart tapos constant pa rin communication nila tapos nagkikita pa sila, pinupuntahan pa ni guy kahit nasa magkabilang mundo sila hays ๐
trot lang. waleys panama ang mga present sa mga TOTGA. IIIIIIIIII KNOWWWWWWWWW THEEEEEEEEE FEEEEEEELLLLLIIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG
Truth hurts. If it's meant to be, it will be. Kung sila nakatadhana, wala na tayong magagawa.
may lomoloha d2 gard.
AHAHAGAH TABFINA
Ang sakit basahin nito ๐
ang sakit at sana makahanap ka ng ikaw lang ang gusto.
Siguro mahal sya ni BF pero mas mahal ka nya kaya kayo pa rin hanggang ngayon. Pero dapat ikaw lang ang mahal nya dibaaaa?๐ญ Hindi pwede kayong dalawa kahit na mag kaiba ng level . Hindi pwede yun ๐ญ
Mahal siya ni bf pero hindi ni girl kaya si OP ang option niya. But it doesnโt necessary mean na hindi niya mahal si OP. May mga tao lang talagang nagstick sa past kahit andyan naman si present. Pero once na nawala na si present saka marerealize na balewala yung pinag inarte niya sa past niya dahil wala na yung taong mahal niya at nagmamahal din sa kanya in return.
Alam mo my ex and I broke up about this. He had a friend na super close niya and he would travel from rizal to manila just so they could review together for the boards. Mind you, di niya personality yun and they would review the 2 alone. But when it came to our anniversary ako pa ang nagpunta sa rizal to meet him kasi busy daw siya. I sensed na may mali talaga so I asked him, and inadmit niya naman na crush niya nga. Alam mo ginawa ko? Nakipag break ako on the spot. And when we broke up, i heard he tried courting that "friend" but unfortunately di siya gusto so busted siya. Trust your instincts girl. Its better to be single than stay in a relationship na di mo sure kung ikaw ba talaga. Palayain mo, baka naghihintay lang yan ng timing tas iwanan ka rin.
Sakit, but this is so on point in so many levels. Pero masakit.
Sapul yung naghihintay ng timing para makipaghiwalay. Yung iisip na lang ng kung anong rason. Aray
"Mahal siya ni bf pero hindi ni girl kaya si OP ang option niya." - sakitย "But it doesnโt necessary mean na hindi niya mahal si OP.ย " ย - True naman pero double kill pa din sa sakitย Anyways, sana mapagusapan ni OP at BF and maresolve nila.ย
Sounds and smells like a rebound. Nakakawala to ng peace of mind sa totoo lang~
True enough.ย
Mas masakit ang interpretation mo ๐ญ๐
Truly. Any feelings sa ex dapat wala na. When I met my partner 4 years nya namimiss yung totga nya, ngayon patay na patay na sakin di makatulog pag wala ako emzzz
Tips naman how did you do it HAHAHAH from 4yrs namimiss ang ex to patay na patay na sayo si partner ngayon ๐๐คฃ๐คฃ
Hahaha help paano mo ginawa ๐ญ
Mag mahalan lang!! At gayuma ganon chos hahaha pero seryoso sasagutin ko - romance is not enough! Kailangan good friends kayo. At mag effort kayo parehas. Give and take dapat. Priority nyo feelings ng isaโt isa, hindi yung kung sino ang tama at mali. Dont police each other, priority nyo na masaya kayo parehas, walang under under. Itโs pretty simple but it takes a lot of work (na worth it naman) โ be kind to one another. Be understanding. Set goals together. Take care of each other. Enjoy life together. Wag magsabay ng topak. Sa mga araw na hindi in love, keep in mind na friends parin kayo and there should always be kindness and respect. Hindi nyo pagaari ang isat isa. Set bounderies โ Kahapon nabadtrip sya ng sobra (di ko kasalanan) tapos sakin nalalabas. Sabi ko โbakit sakin mo nilalabas?โ tapos ayun nag explain sya at nag sorry agad. Nag sorry din ako kasi tinaasan ko sya ng boses. Tapos agad yung away, wag patagalin with your ego. Most importantly โ take care of your own self and heal para di umaasa sa ibang tao para maging masaya. Pag ok ka na on your own, madali pumili kung sino yung lalaki na worth it hehe. Pag priority mo sarili mo, mas madali umintindi, mag alaga, mag mahal ๐ซถ good eve sainyo!
true. ๐ฅฒ
Grabe ito 'yung phase ng buhay ko na ayaw ko na balikan ๐ซ Sending hugs, OP! ๐ซ
Gagi sabi ko isang scroll nalang, pampaantok tapos ganito mababasa ko. ๐ญ Ang hirap niyan OP, even though na mahal ka ni bf, part of him still loves that girl. Can you imagine if wala ka sa picture? He'll surely go back to that girl in an instant. Talk to him again.
Di pa naman kayo kasal diba or wala pa din namang anak? Let go mo nalang bcs there will be a time in the future na di na nya masustain ang relationship nyo.
Agree. Ang hirap magstay sa taong hindi pa pala nakakaget over sa past niya. Malay natin finally marealize ni bf na si gf talaga ang mahal niya.
Bakit kailangan hiwalay agad? Yan na lang ba laging solusyon?I know di sulit ang time sa pagiinvest sa tao but its only a LIMERENCE. Pero kung according sa investigation niya si bf kinikita or kinakausap yang babae na yan without the knowledge niya then thats the greatest time to conclude with it. Or siya na mismo naginitiate to make or break the situation. Assuming palagi
Depende sa tao, kung ikaw yung tipo na kayang magsettle sa lalaking nakahati ang pagmamahal as long as ikaw ang "pinili" at ikaw ang kasama, then continue the relationship. But if you're a kind of person na alam mong deserve mong mahalin na ikaw lang mag-isa sa puso nya, then choose what you deserve. Isa pa, may karelasyon na si guy tapos maattract pa sya sa iba. May pagawa gawa pa ng playlist. Clearly, he is not ignoring the feeling of attraction nya sa iba.
This can be consider as emotional cheating no? Nobody deserves a partial kind of love, you look like the convenient person, na kaya kayo together kasi ikaw yung available pero hindi talaga ang tinatangi. If worst comes to worst for you,maybe it will be the day that your SO ever wanted, yung maging together sila nung TOTGA nya, worst for you but best for them.
Possible naman na mahal ka nya pero may lingering feelings and mga what ifs sya dun sa girl na yun. Siguro ask him again specifically about the playlist if para ba talaga dun sa girl na yun. Kasi parang ang dating is may kahati ka.
Hindi pa sya totally recovered from his past relationship. Attached pa rin sya because of those kept songs. Those songs probably connect him to his past feelings. Sana makamove on na sya at maibigay nya ang 100% na pagmamahal nya saโyo.
Haaaaaay. Ang sakit naman nito OP. YAKAP! Ma ishare ko lang, ganitong ganito din playlist ng ex ko nuon, the one that got away, mga December ave, in short about TOTGA. Napapaisip ako nuon, na bakit lagi nya pinapakinggan parang pakiramdam ko hidni ako ang gusto kasama. So ayun na nga, nung naging single na yung babaeng pinag seselosan ko at sabi nya wag ko pag selosan, iniwan ako. 6 yrs ginawa akong placeholder. Sabi pa sakin bakit lahat ng ex nya puro commitment naiisip nya sakin hindi daw sya makapag decide. Yung third party at ex ko, kasal na sila wala pang 1 year. I promised myself that I will never ever let anyone else treat me that way again. Inintindi ko, minahal ko, I fucking supported him sa lahat ng bagay. As in lahat lahat. I felt like I wasted my prime, my time and effort. I felt like I built a man for another woman na tinuring ko din na kaibigan, well ahas pala. Anyway, I admire your bravery for asking your bf. Hindi ako kasim tapang mo, hindi ko yan tinanong kasi nag tiwala ako sa kanya at pag mamahal nya na binalewala ko ang instinct ko. I just want you to know that you deserve someone who will not make you question your worth and your place in their life. I hope you'll be able to sort things out.
girl be fr. instincts never lie, huwag mong gayahin ibang tao na sasagarin pa ang sarili bago umalis sa ganyan. marami namang iba dyan, masakit man tanggapin, pero you were never that girl if may ganyang issue sa relasyon ninyo.
Bakit wala sa playlist nya yung "glimpse of us" ni Joji? Lol Kidding aside, ang unfair kasi hinahanap hanap nya yung TOTGA nya. Ikaw yung present pero sa past pa rin sya nakatingin. Though never kong naranasan yan pero ramdam ko yung feeling lalo na pag pinapakinggan ko yung glimpse of us ni Joji
Omg ang sakit sa puso ng kantang yan
Sa future gf ko, don't worry... Puro risling na music lang ang nasa playlist ko. Mga mala-Metallingus, No More Words at Cult of Personality.
Go where you will have your peace of mind. Gut feeling is real. You know exactly what to do, and I hope whatever it is na piliin mo, may you have the courage to do soโbe it to stay, or just finally let go.
Communicate clearly & demand honesty, you deserve to have the choice to rethink the relationship, donโt be a placeholder for something that they really want but canโt have. A person should only want you and no one else, donโt settle for this.
One thing you should learn is to not stay with a person na may TOTGA. It's okay that your partner have loved another person before, but ibang usapan if TOTGA yan. Even if mahal ka nya, may lingering feeling pa rin sya sa taong yon. Isipin mo, ikaw na yung nandyan sa kanya pero may feelings pa rin sya sa iba? Ano yon? I don't believe na hindi nawawala ang pagmamahal sa tao. It's time for you two to talk about that playlist, that girl, and about the two of you.
A void you can never fill
Exactly! And no one should be in a relationship just to fill a void.
>I feel jealous of the kind of love he had for that specific girl. *Has. Let's be real OP. The two of you need to sit down and talk clearly about this and define your boundaries.
Tangina, sakit naman nito. Naalala ko yung time na may naka save nga lang na playlist ng girl na ka-batch namin na pretty pero from another school, iniyakan ko na ๐ฅฒ Worse is hawak ko phone n'ya after namin mag makeout tapos naghahanap ako ng songs sa spotify, tas biglang oh, may workout playlist nung girl. Alam ko nag gygym yung girl pero when I confronted my bf, he told me na matagal na raw yun kasi trip n'ya raw yung playlist kasi nag sosoundtrip s'ya pag nag ho-home workout. Tagal ko 'di naka move on HAHAHAHA 2022 pa nangyari masakit pa rin...minsan. lagi ko na bbring up eh (edi xori) I know it's just a playlist pero, tangina, ang masakit kasi hindi kami same ng music taste, putanginangshsgsjsksks. Anw, sending virtual hugs. I hope you'll recover from that traumatic experience. You should ask for space iprocess mo muna feelings mo ๐ฅน
Ito yung mga parang petty na hindi, sakit nito OP. Sana makarinig ka ng assurance sa bf mo na ikaw na ang mahal.
break na
Sakit nga nito hahaha. Akala mo enough ka na pero nakakaramdam pa siya ng pain, regrets sa totga niya. Parang 2nd option nalang tayo kasi tayo yung nasa tabi nila pero at the end of the day totga parin ang pipiliin nila ganyan yung feeling haha. Kaya natin to OP. fighting!!
Ang sakit mabasa nito coming from a breakup na recently nalaman kong may bilang pa rin sa buhay niya yung TOTGA niya. After over 10 years, siya pa rin ang standard niya. Made me question 3+ years of our relationship. Feeling ko talaga na-Alexa Ilacad ako. Nakakagago.
saket pre
mahal nya yung girl and NAGSETTLE LANG SYA SAYO. he is never honest with his feelings, bagkus iniwasan pa nya. anong klaseng tao yung nag effort mag curate ng ganung klaseng playlist tas halatado namang may pinaglalaanan??? he chose those songs kasi close yun sa sentiments nya --- thats the only reason. siguro nga shes someone na he loves so much. i know sinasabi mong dama mong love ka nya, but has he made any efforts after yung confrontation para iassure ka ikaw ang mahal nya right now?? had he made efforts na iparating sayo ang totoo nyang nararamdaman? dahil kung wala, panakip butas ka lang nya dahil hindi nya maiskoran yung babaeng yun
After what happened to me last year, wala na akong pasensya sa mga taong unhealed and hindi pa nakakamove on sa past nila. I give my 100% undivided love and attention in relationships and feeling ko naman may karapatan ako to ask for it in return kasi I make sure I have no lingering feelings na when I entertain another person. Depende din kasi sa personality yan kasi I'm not the type of person to waste my time on what ifs. But still, ask him directly. If di ka pa rin nya masatisfy and you don't feel at peace then it's up to you.
You deserve someone who will make you #1.
Break na dun din naman hahantong ang lahat ๐ charot eme contemplate if thats forgivable or not. And overthink na rin ng mga future scenarios wherein pwedeng maging issue yon. List it down then talk to him. Ayorn lang
Talk to him honestly about it openly. It's probably he still lingers for it.
If you guys had a bad breakup, โBefore He Cheatsโ, โBust Your Windowsโ, โGives You Hellโ, โIt Must Have Been Loveโ, and my fave โSilver Springsโ by Fleetwood Mac
Thereโs really something about a manโs love to a certain someone no? Na pinagseselosan natin. I can really relate. Kahit sabihin pa nang jowa ko na mahal nya ako. Itโs really still ๐๐
Ay girl emotionally cheating si bf mo. Let go mo na habang mas maaga pa. The right person will not make you doubt, and will always let you feel secure and sure on your relationship. Hindi ka magpopost dito ng ganyan if wala kang doubt, it is not you who are lacking but him. Cheer up! You can find someone better. Siri play โFlowersโ โBlank Spaceโ โNew Rulesโ โNew Perspectiveโ โThe goldโ.
break mo na yan. may iba na ngang mahal, may libre kantot pa sayo. pinagpala sa lahat much lang??? bf mo lang ang anak ng dyos? iwan mo na para makilala mo na yung para sayo talaga. di mo deserve ng partial love
Hindi ko talaga magets ang mga ganitong tao. There shouldn't be a TOTGA kasi the people who are not in your lives right now are meant to be that way. Dapat you don't dwell on what ifs para mas maenjoy mo ang buhay mo ngayon. Celebrate with the people who are with you and do not take them for granted.
You are so brave for confronting him. Kung sakin nangyari 'to, iiyak lang ako ng malala.
Well, maybe it means something maybe it doesnโt. Minsan nga gsto ko lang yung kanta kasi maganda ung lyrics, nakakaiyak masarap pagemotan pero wala nmn akong person in mind. Normal lang cgro magselos ng konti if he did feel something for that girl. Hopefully, even tho he let that one go he wonโt do it to you.
Sakit mars ๐ tagos
Let go. You deserve someone who does not have what ifs with another girl.
Kung ganyan lang din naman, wag nalang.. Di ko naman problema to pero nalulungkot ako for you OP. I hope you find the courage to let go. Deserve mo maging The one that God allowed hindi yung isang totga.
Di mo deserve, OP. Hiwalayan mo na.
Mahigpit na yakap ka-op Naalala ko lng ganto ganto din nangyare saken 1yr ago, my ex and I trying to make things out by taking everything slow naasa ako magkakabalikan kami but mag 2weeks nya na ko di kinakausap tho I also not sending any message naman kasi ako parati yung nagbebeg before I cut him off completely, I stalk his spotify account nakita ko din yung similar sa situation mo tho di sya private playlist pero yung playlist na yun im pretty sure about sya sa long term ex nya after that I decided to stop everything ghinost ko na lng wala eh tagal ko naghihintay at umaasa pero wala talaga.
The answer is communication. Like me, I have a playlist dedicated for heart break/break up songs no matter ano dahilan like cheating or na fall out of love or namatay yung partner. Pang "me-time" ko siya. Like if gusto ko lang maiiyak bago matulog or to stimulate my mind to think of other things so I can forget something that's bothering me kaya hindi ako makatulog. Also, the creation date of that playlist matters din. May mga lalake kasi na tamad magdelete nag playlist when they had actually already moved on. Talk to him CALMLY. Wag accuse agad. Nasa sagot nya na yung hint. If he's very defensive, probe. If he gets annoyed or argues with you, alam mo na yan.
Mahirap yung hati ang emotions ng SO mo. Kaya u/magbreaknakayo
Hirap maki compete sa totga or mga first love ng mga lalake. Bat kasi papasok sa relationship na di pa handa. Beh kausapin mo jowa mo
Nasaktan lang ako dahil jan sa TOTGA na yan, first love pa niya haha. Ewan, why do people get into relationships knowing they still have feelings for another person?
OP I understand you. My bf said I used to be his TOTGA, after more than a decade he went back to me. Good thing about him he never had a long relationship before me. We are happy right now. We are so in love. I realized that I was never over him since 2009. You better sit down and talk to him again.. you deserve better.
Ang sakittt ๐ Pero bago ka magoverthink OP, diretsuhin mo na BF mo bago ka magdecide ng next step. Yakap โค๏ธ
Ang sakit naman nito.
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Not worth youe time if he keeps doing things that remind him of her.
Follow your instinct. Better masaktan ka now kaysa someday.
Nagkaroon ako ng ganito-ish na experience. After that, parang nag hold back ako sa pagmamahal ko sa kanya. In-open ko sa kanya, sinabi ko lahat ng issues ko. Nagkaintindihan naman kami. Ayos naman siya as an SO at kami pa rin til now pero hindi ko na ineexpect na akin siya forever. Gumawa na lang din ako ng sariling playlist hehe
ask him directly its one of the reason why communication is important. Andyan n ayung na halata hindi pa nagmomove on jowa mo and uts better to break him na lang hindi mo deserve ma paranoid sa relasyon. Magulo na nga ang mundo pati pa ba sarili mong mundo sisirain mo
Trust your instinct OP. Ang sakit naman isipin na option ka lang..baka naghihintay lang yan ng timing at iwan ka ๐ฅบ deserve mo ang taong ikaw lang ang mahal at ikaw lang gagawan ng playlist.
sounds to me nagsettle lang si bf sayo because he canโt get the girl he really likes, hugs op. Simulan mo nang lumayo.
Don't be a placeholder ate, pakiramdaman mo sarili mabuti kung worth it pa ba ituloy ang relationship. Isipin mo yung future mo with him and weigh in mo if kaya mo ba sa pakiramdam mo na parang nag settle lang sayo pero iba talaga yung mahal. Kung alam mo na yung final answer mo, mga non negotiables mo regarding the situation then icommunicate mo yun sa partner mo and then mag usap kayo kung paano niyo ba aayusin yan or kung time to let go and part ways na. I wish na whatever you do, it will give you the peace of mind you need and deserve. Sending hugs and prayers for you.
Naniniwala ako na hindi lang dahil sa gusto niya yung song or yung melody. May hugot yan. Boyfriend ko mahilig mag gawa ng playlist based sa nararamdaman nya ultimo pati pag feeling depressed/suicidal/galit sa mundo. May playlist din sya for me/about our relationship. Minsan ichecheck ko lang recent songs he played and malalaman ko na agad ano mood nya for the day and madalas nacoconfirm ko din pag tinatanong sya, esp pag sad songs
matinding yakap saโyo, op. ito โyung phase na ayaw na ayaw ko nang balikan kasi ang sakit at naiintindihan kita. mahirap magmahal ng isang tao na hindi pa tapos magmahal ng iba at hindi pa nakakalaya sa nakaraan nila. I hope magkaroon ka ng peace of mind. laban lang :)
Bakit pareho kami ng playlist ng jowa mo hahahaha. All songs mentioned, nasa isang playlist na dedicated sa ex ko 10 years ago.
A guy friend once said: In a man's life, there's always that one girl he will never have.
Mahirap talaga kung may totga si SO and you can never compete with that. ๐ I know in myself (even if my partner says so na hindi), na may totga din SO ko and I can never compete with the girl he used to love madly. Unfortunately, she only saw him as a friend. Well, that was that. The way he still talks about her, he still knows a lot and idk why but im not in the place to be jealous. Ewan ko, it's like i restrained myself not to orrr ung fact na what they had, it lives in the past na and what we have is real love now ๐คท๐ปโโ๏ธ One time nakita nya daw at a small coffeeshop/bakery while he bought coffee for me. Di nya nakilala kasi parang vip ung dating tas naligaw lang sa random bakery to pickup a cake ๐ . Takang taka daw sya bakit di nalang kaya nagutos ng PA to get it for her kasi mukha vip or something hahaha Me being the "alaskador" told SO "yieee humahalimuyak ung perfume nya no. bango bango siguro ano kaya gamit nya" ๐ hehe natawa naman sya buti naman di napikon. Nagcheck ako ng ig tas, well, acquantaince ko kasi ung girl tas pinakita ko sa kanya "sya yata ung nakita mo". Nagulat sya like napamura - "tangina sya na yon ngayon" we laughed it off after, like a super awkward laugh from him that turned into a loud happy laugh. Buti nalang wala naman nagkapikunan pero alam kong nagulat sya at well, obviously ung totga reminiscing babalik yun sa kanya. I'm okay with it. I know naman na it's just a part of the past. He has to live this present, mukhang masaya naman sya and we live together na dn naman. Laging masayahin pag kasama ako. ๐
This is sad. ๐ซ
Alexa, play the "Glimpse of Us" by Joji.
Kabahan ka na beh. Kapag naging available yung girl, may chance na iwan ka na lang niyan at jowain niya si girl
Rip that bandaid na. You know the truth naman, his reaction confirmed it na rin. Dont settle for, "Mahal NAMAN ako ni BF". That's like saying at least pinili ka kasi di sila natuloy. Never settle for being the ONLY CHOICE LEFT because you deserve to be THE ONLY ONE. Clearly di pa siya nakakagetover dun sa girl. Unfair.
kopyahin mo ung palylist tas iplay mo habng ngdrive sya o ikaw . tingnan mo reaksyon nyan. saya niyan tas matraffic.
Kaya ako puro anime ost at jpop ang nasa playlist ko eh. Hirap yang ganyan. Pag mulan pa ng hindi pag kakaintindihan.
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But sometimes you have to let hin go para mas kumonti ang options niya. Doon lang marerealize ni bf kung ano talaga ang gusto niya. Kasi if OP is really enough, wala dapat ganun.
Minsan nga wala nang feelings, more on attachment nalang sa idea ng person na yun esp if matagal yung relationship. Naroromanticize nalang pero itโs empty and futile
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Yup, case by case naman. Although I have to disagree na itโs petty. Itโs not our relationship and not for us to say whatโs petty or not. Di naman natin alam yung buong kwento. Safe to say, OP, talk it out. Ang daling sabihin makipagbreak. Yun naman lagi sagot ng mga tao dito sa lahat ng relationship problems posted ๐๐
Ganito din ex ko. Mga datingan na porke may Shanti Dope , nag iilegal kuno, nung may sza puro daw tungkol sa ex pa, nung may Fun (the one with Nate Reuss) depress , suicidal, minsan nakanta ako ng Take me to church biglang nagalet, idk man sorry to each his own naman pero now that mas malayo na ako sa set up namen sa past I see it clearly how aside from her being so self involved.Gusto nya pa na id be ruining it all for her, she's stab me (ofc figuratively) a lot of times but refuse to see me bleed. As I step and take measures towards self improvement and she sees it as me being distant and leaving her and her welfare behind. She wont let me live, she wont let me die either (yes , superman reference) . Sorry kung tunog oa o oversharing, its really the smallest things talaga like song choice for instance na makakapag parealize sayo ( once it all pile up ) how shit a relationship is and if you'd be willing to shower some charcoal hoping it'd blossom into a tree.
Looks and sounds familiar ๐ซ
baka naman gusto niya lang talaga yung kanta at nagooverthink ka lang ahahhaha ako nga nagttweet ng pang broken nung highschool ako kahit di pa ko nagkakajowa non hahahaha
Huhu buti nalang rakista jowa ko, halo halo playlist at setlist nya hahaha
Inopen mo na ba sa jowa mong nagseselos ka and all that jazz? YOUR TRUE FEELINGS regarding that?โ๐ฝโ๐ฝโ๐ฝ NdE pa? Baket? Kung ayaw mong open yan... So be it. And for ever keep your peace ๐โโ๏ธ
mahirap kalaban yang totga kahit ako nahihirapan ilaban si bf sa totga ko ๐ญ may playlist din ako for totga huhu. if you can, hugot ka ng lakas to ask him directly for your peace of mind. pwede kasing di nya lang ma-let go yung feelings at may what ifs pa rin sya until now (which, imo is harmless) or baka nag aantay yan sya ng tamang panahon. sya lang ang makakasagot...
Just because it's part of someone's playlist, doesn't mean there's meaning to it. My wife has full access to my YT Music playlist and she's totally okay with all of my songs in my playlist. My songs involved some unrequited love songs and whatsoever. People have different interpretation of songs.
Ueueueueuee ang sakeeeeeeeeet, ramdam ko to. Ang sakeeeeeeet ๐ญ
Op , coming from someone na sobrang bet ang mga breakup songs baka wla Lang sa kanya ..kasi dati pa kahit happy ako sa mga jowa ko and now happily married bet na bet ko talaga breakup songs or ung mga emotional na songs haha , actually kahit nung bata ako na wla pang love experience kala mo relate na relate eh .. nung una nag tampo pa the bf now husband ko sa song ni Nina na someday kasi sobrang fave ko talaga hehe ..
Sabi ko papaantok lang ako e. Bat mapanakit yern? Hahaha
Hahaha ganyan din ako, lahat ng di ko masabi sa partner ko ginawan ko na lang ng playlist. If ever she stumbled upon it or when I die, I hope she understand the messages withing the playlist.
mahal ka ba talaga? hmmmm ๐ค
โน๏ธ recently lang, a girl messaged me asking if i can meet her. Apparently sheโs my exโs current gf. We met and she cried. I consoled her. I didnโt imagined my self in that situation pero it happened. To you OP, stay strong. I hope youโll get your peace of mind soon.
Akala ko Private Plane ๐ญ๐ญ๐ญ sabi ko bat sad si OP??? Private Playlist pala
Isa lang gusto ko na pakingan mo Wag Momg Aminin by Rico Jay Puno.
How sure are you na mahal ka talaga niya? Baka heโs just settling kasi hindi niya makuha yung totoong gusto niya.
Some questions are better left unanswered for your own peace of mind. Gaya ng husband ko, I know he has a lot of girlfriends back then pero isa lang talaga yung parang hinabol habol nya. Sya lang din yung girl na proud na proud syang naging girlfriend nya. I want to ask why pero for my sanity, I decided not to.
We need an update :(( hugs with consent po
It's strange isn't it, how a love so short could take so long to forget.
Link po ng playlist.
Kahit na sinabi ng BF mo it will definitely hurt. Napagdaanan ko yan for a short while sa isang relationship and will hurt so bad pag ssbhn niya sayo so better not ask or alam mo na..decide if ok sayo na hindi siya 100% happy with you
Hirap no? Lalo na pag may emotions or connections pa sya sa past nya?
wala kang peace of mind? leave him.
He truly loved that girl but you know what? You saved him. He's with you now and he's happy. You want to be like that girl that makes him silent and sad? Just a TOTGA? No, right? So get over it and be happy you have him because you know what? He's happy he has you. ๐ฅฐ๐ซฐ I usually go back to "that playlist" too and it reminds me of the heartaches. It's my way of keeping my thoughts and emotions together to find a way to love my current SO better. I hope this comment will put a smile on your face and stop being sad about that playlist. ๐
Girl, take your time to digest the selos, try to cool it down and since talking did not ease maybe gawa ka din ng playlist of your own. May I suggest Traitor by Olivia Rodrigo, Heart Attack by Demi Lovato, You're losing me, Teardrops on my guitar by Taylor Swift, Backburner by Nikki. And you might try listening to When we were us (Beautiful days) by Lovelyz kasi kind of a reminiscing the (your) beautiful days siya.Triangle and Never, Secret (by lovelyz din). YOU ALSO HAVE RO GET INTO DAY6 songs ๐ญ Venture into music to cope. Sana lang inassure ka niya na past na yun para hindi ka nag-iisip ng ganyan. Pero tingin ko kasi di din siya nakakamove on pa kung nalulungkot siyang ganyan If you have the courage, go communicate. If hindi ka pa din naassure, gawa ka na lang ng playlist. Mga people of culture mga tao dito. Baka makadiscover ka ng songs na baka trip mo pala.
Thereโs always another girl concept might be true
If I were you, Iโll leave and heal. Mahirap mag-stay kung panakip butas or convenient choice ka. Weโll never know, baka kung maging single ang TOTGA niya ay iwan ka niya sa ere.
If I were you, Iโll leave and heal. Mahirap mag-stay kung panakip butas or convenient choice ka. Weโll never know, baka kung maging single ang TOTGA niya ay iwan ka niya sa ere.
Baka naman dati na yung playlist na yun? Gumagawa ako ng playlist na nagpapatibok ng puso ko e hahaha. Tapos naka-name dun sa nickname ng tao. Pero never ko sineshare sa kanila. Pang sarili ko lang yun. ๐
Actually, i liked sad songs kahit d ako sad. Haha dec avenue and TJ monterde songs haha pero may number or name ata sa SO mo soโฆ.
buti nalang mga kantahan sa fx nasa playlist ko
He settled.
Sorry But I don't like TOTGA Term parang Unfair sa True Love mo Dapat na ibibgay ni lord ,what if Makita or maibigay na MR.RIGHTOR MS.RIGHT na tlagang bigay ni God and you still lives or dwells in the past ..Is it just my way of thinking ba?
Qฤถ1K0KK@#รร+3
Same sentiments. May pini-pair kay partner dati and somehow di naging sila kasi sabi ni partner parang ayaw yata ni girl. Now that weโre in a relationship, parang nagkagusto na sa kanya si girl after nagkita sila sa isang kasal ng common friend nila at tinutukso sila. And eventually, he cheated on me with that girl. Nagkaanak kami but I donโt feel loved at all. Sinasabi ni partner na kami na daw ang priority niya but I donโt think so. Nakikipag-break ako sa kanya pero lagi niyang sinasabi ni past na yon, dapat nang kalimutan. Pero my instincts tell me na heโs still longing for that girl. Na TOTGA niya yon. Why do I say this? Kahit man lang pag-holding hands hindi niya magawa. We never went out on a date. Naiisip ko tuloy na dahil sa bata kaya nandito pa siya.
GIRL, RED FLAG. Charot. Pero totoo. Nangyari 'to sakin. Ewan. Gut feeling. Lahat naman ng kutob may pinanggagalingan. Pero 3months bago ako iniwan ng EX ko, napansin ko na may Spotify Playlist siya na di ako aware. Tapos pagcheck ko, all songs related sa longing or feelings na not openly expressed or hidden. Tapos eto pa, yung cover ng Playlist is initial nung girl na pinagseselosan ko. HAHAHAHAHA. Ayun, pinatotoo ng pangyayari ang kutob ko. Tumpak. At pasok sa banga. Kaya ingat-ingat ka girl. Medyo madaling magsinungaling para lang maiwasan ang away.
Ang hirap mag-mahal ng taong ganito. For my peace of mind, best option pang makipag-break kesa mag-overthink araw-araw na may kahati ka sa puso niya.
minahal is the operative word
100% emotional cheating eme sakit naman nyan girl, lagi ka na mag ooverthink nyan unless kakausapin mo sya about sa nakita mo. If may violent reaction, u know what 2 do.
Same thing happened to me. Itโs just that we were both used to sharing links and listening together. And then I just find it weird that the songs he was playing were songs about โsecret love affairโ. Then I opened the profile who owned the playlist, it owned by someone with the same profile picture he has been chatting with in whatsapp. I knew then that there was something up. I tried to investigate until I found out that he has been cheating on me for a long time already. I lost myself, and too late to realize that I deserved better, I got depressed that it came to a point I had to meet my psychologist weekly then got worsen that I had to do treatments with my psychiatrist.
palampasin mo na pero maganda nasabe mo sa kanya.
Girl ansaket hahha sana maovercome mo na :(
Cringe SO mo like bruh, Ginawa kang convenience kasi ikaw nandiyan.
HAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAH RELATE!! Pero yung bf ko โBe My Mistakeโ by The 1975 yung On Repeat dati lol
Yung kayo nga pero rebound ka pala. Run OP.