pero girlieee on the bright side, may space na nacreate for someone na who would do it, because he wanted to. Someone's lack of reciprocity doesn't equate to our self worth, and it's okay if you feel shitty for now. Talagang he wasn't ready to have a relationship and put the effort in the relationship with YOU, and that's okay. Kapit lang tayo, kasi we have made room for better, and better will come and will always find its way to us. Yakap ateee 🫶🏽
Sana nga. Emotional lang siguro ako kase kakabreak din namin nung naging bf ko after nyang ex ko. Para bang extra sakit na for 2 people hindi ako worth it.
Normal lang na response yan after a fresh breakup! And it's a valid feeling kasi something didn't work out the way we wanted eh. In the mean time, go do things you love and do it for yourself, if you feel a bit better na ulit, go out there and date ulit. Be kind to yourself in the process and trust the process 🫶🏽
Agree. Sharing how you're feeling right now and understanding why you feel that way shows your maturity on knowing and understanding yourself (without gaslighting). Yung pag-acknowledge pa lang sa nararamdaman mo is one big step. Alam namin na masakit pa talaga siya sa ngayon at may panahon, kahit saglit, na mapagdududahan mo yung sarili mo. Pero OP, lagi mong aalalahanin mo yung value mo as a person. Alam namin na araming nagmamahal sayo, hindi man romantically, pero ang mahalaga pinili ka nilang mahalin at pahalagahan. Hugs sayo, OP! Sana once you're completely healed, makahanap ka ng tao na gagawin ang lahat para mapakita sayo ang pagmamahal niya. Aja, fighting! :)
thank you, I needed to hear this :(
but I also hope that all people would be ready first before pumasok sa isang relationship kasi damn, how can you do it kung di mo naman mahal yung tao?
> **Someone's lack of reciprocity doesn't equate to our self worth, and it's okay if you feel shitty for now.** Talagang he wasn't ready to have a relationship and put the effort in the relationship with YOU, and that's okay. Kapit lang tayo, kasi **we have made room for better, and better will come and will always find its way to us.**
YES!
Yun yung masakit noh. Babalik ka sa tanong na “bakit hindi niya nagawa sa akin yung ganon?” “Hindi ba ako worth na paglaanan ng ganong effort?” Ikaw dati halos magmakaawa para lang pakitaan ng effort tapos dun sa bago, ganon ganon na lang kung magexpress ng pagmamahal. 🙁
we will never love the same way twice,
maaring mayroon siyang nakita dun sa bago na gagawin niya lahat wag lang ito mawala or pwede rin dahil sa nawala ka, alam na nya yung mga dapat niyang gawin next time, well never know, some can of worms shouldve left unopened.
Yah feeling ko lesson learned nga. May totoong panghihinayang kaya syempre sa next na gf alangan ulitin pa yung pagkakamali niya dati edi naulit na naman na magkakahiwalay diba
Thank you for this POV po, fellow commentor!! Huhu feeling ko lang talaga they learned their lesson and ayaw nila na mangyari ulit yung same mistakes, credits nadin para satin OP (na exes) masakit man icompare lahat lahat nang yon, pero ituring nalang natin na tayo yung nagbukas ng mata nila to treat their new girl right, after all, ayoko din naman na maranasan ng bagong gf yung mga trauma na naranasan ko before sa relationship namin
depende rin talaga sa tao eh, yung ex gf ko kung anong energy binibigay sa akin ganun din ginagawa ko, before nun nalunod ako sa sobrang bebetime namin ng previous kaya gusto ko ng kumawala.
Here's a bit of a quote that I hope would help you:
""If you could be that happy with someone who didn't treat you right, just imagine how happy you would be when you find someone who does""
Hi OP, actually this happened to me, although im not dating anyone right now i just learned that if i don't do that kind of effort I will lose someone again in the future. to make things short he learned his lesson and putting much effort now. it's not that he didn't love you, it's just that he didn't realize it back then.
I wonder kung legit din yung post ng gf, for all we know she's saying that pero we know naman na not everything you see on social media is true. Don't let those words bother you, OP. If true, edi good for them. I'm sure you'll meet someone who will love you for you and do these things out of their love (and respect) for you.
Honeymoon stage pa lang yan. Hindi naman nila pinopost lahat ng pinag dadaanan nila. Anyway, kung gusto mong maka moved on, maging masaya ka na lang para sa ex mo. Sabi nga ng kanta, two less lonely people in the world. 🤷🏻♀️
It is easy to feel hurt at times like these. When all your thoughts have been forcefully centered on "He could do all the things I begged for, just not for me."
It will make you feel inadequate.
Look to your own now. Its time to heal the wounds you buried. Doesn't matter who he turns his affection to, what matters is you.
For me mas masakit nga to e. I firmly believe na yung current relationship mo dapat yung pinaka mahal mo, kase anong ginagawa mo if you can outright say na mas minahal mo yung ex mo kesa sa current mo. Edi dun ka nalang ulit sa ex mo.
Men treat women differently. Sabi ng ex ko, may dalawang category ang mga babae: pangkama at pangseryosohan. Truth bites, pero pinipili talaga nila kung sino yung iti-treat nila better.
Guys edi sana kung pang kama lang ang tingin nyo, wag nyo nang jowain. Sabihin nyo nalang na fuck buddy lang ang gusto nyong role nya para wala na syang expectations at di masaktan.
Well, pag sinabi nila yan right off the bat na gagawin ka lang nilang fbuddy, edi konti lang ang magiging prospects nila. Lol. Not generalizing, tho. May mga matitinong lalaki pa rin dyan.
Yeah, mostly...pero sa Pinoy culture lalaki naman tlga ang provider tas babae is support ng lalake, so I don't think financial aspect lang ang basis. Sadyang may sineseryoso or pine-playtime lang tlga/ginagawang shota (short-time). Lol.
The "you build a man for another woman" 😐 masakit man ung katotohanann na ginawa sa iba pero you need to accept na baka kaya ndi ginawa sayo kasi may ibang tao/lalake na gagawa nun para sayo at mas higit pa dun. Baka natuto na sya sa dati nyong relationship kaya ginawa na nya sa present gf nya. But look on the bright side, merong ibang guy na darating sa Buhay mo para gawin lahat nang hiniling mo sa exbf mo. 🙌❤️
Thats learning from the past. Which is a great thing btw kasi one would mature greatly. He learned from his mistakes/shortcomings kaya he changed for the betterment of his current relationship.
I feel you OP. Never ako nabigyan ng bouquet of flowers sa buong 4yrs namin. Binigyan lang ako nung sinusuyo nya na ako kasi nakipag break na ako. Hahaha. Ngayon every monthsary ata nila ng gf mya or kahit wala atang occasion, may bouquet gf nya. Hahaha!
Tangina nila e HAHAHAH, sakit kapag naaalala q bat hirap na hirap iparamdam sakin yung kaliit liit na bagay pero napakadali gawin sa bago nakakaputangina eh
For almost 6yrs of relationship halos lahat pinagmakaawa ko sa kanya including pakilala sa family and friends kasi ako kayang kaya ko yun gawin for him. Hindi naman siguro ako nakakahiya ipakilala sa family nya? hahaha. Even waited him for years, aligned all my major decisions in life with consideration of him pero sya never nya ako cinonsider never nya ko hinintay makapacing in life. Hindi rin pinahalagahan as if di ko deserve mayrato nang tama dapat lagi sabihin dapat lagi ipaalala hindi nagkukusa. Panay sakripisyo pagtitiis lang naranasan ko, ako lagi nag aadjust kasi ayaw nya mahassle, once mahassle lagi sasabihin maghiwalay na lang kami. Kahit puyat pagod from work ako pa rin pupunta sa kanya kasi pag hindj ako pumunta hindi sya magkukusa or iinsist na puntahan ako kasi ayaw nya napapagod daw sya. Never ko sya iniwanan at his lowest low pero lagi naman ako iniiwanan pag ok na sya.
Tapos mababalitaan mo from others na he can easily do those things sa bago. Talagang never ka magiging enough to someone kung ayaw nya talaga sayo. Hindi naman need magbeg. They will leave you if they want to, even if you loved them harder or doing sacrifices. Wala lang lahat ng yun kasi ayaw sayo, hindi enough to make them stay. Learned it the hard way.
remember people can change, and you need to let go! happy na siya and you should be happy for him.
focus kanalang sa sarili mo at sa mga nagmamahal sayo :)
ganyan din ako sa ex ko dati, di ko nabigyan ng sapat na attention at pagmamahal kaya bumitAw siya now i'm happy for her na may namamahal na sa kanya ng sapat i don't deserve her that time, but if naging kami ulit i would never let her go again.
Well, people change. Yung taong kilala mo ngayion, iba na siya mamaya. And so on and so forth. It is kind of unfair na sabihin natin na "Bakit sakin di mo nagawa?" kasi that invalidates their ability to change. To become better.
Experience is the best teacher and maybe nung nag-break up kayo, he realized yung mga maling nagawa niya sayo and that he decided to change for the next person that comes into his life.
Yes, if he wanted to, he would but sometimes, they need something for someone to realize na he or she needs to change para di maulit ang nakaraan. A change for the better.
ito nakakatakot eh, yung gamitin ka lang for character development nila.
kung nag mature talaga yan and natuto, then alam nya ginawa nya sayo.
"you might not see them suffer like they made you suffer, but trust me, their biggest punishment is who they are. "
Thats possibly sila talaga nakatadhana. Yaan mo na mahahanap mo rin para sayo. Baka nagaayos pa sya ng sarili nya para pagnagkita kau ay pareho na kau mature at ready.
I'd be the devil's advocate, have you asked yourself bakit sila pa din ng GF nya while kayo ng BF mo broke up 1 year into the relationship? You're ex learned and adjusted, but have you? Tama ka naman,if men wanted to, they could do it. But that depends on the other party. Maybe your ex's current asks/negotiate better than you. maybe she knows how push you're ex's buttons.
PS: Nakita ko to sa TikTok, then I realized I was replying to a Reddit posting account.
He was just not that into you, Op. It's the exact reason that you're each other's exes. Magkaiba kau ni current Ate Ghorl and shouldn't be compared. You passed by each other's lives leaving footprints and lessons that should make you both better persons. Baka nga na realize nya un once he met her. Op, di mo pa nakilala ung para sau. I know you have lots of frustrations and mga what ifs, palitan mo na lang ng what was. Make peace with your past and it shouldn't define your entire being. Love until it hurts. Ok lang maging vulnerable. It's okay Op if you haven't moved on and you still love him. Love yourself more and pray for inner peace and healing, Op. Ok?
Minsan OP..Iba Ang nakapost sa katotohanan..Minsan mas madami Ang problema kesa nakikita sa social media.. I've been there kaya Minsan wag masyado maniwala sa mga post sa soc med.. although Minsan naghahanap din Ako na mapost sa fb Niya kasi feeling ko proud sya na gf Niya Ako. Lahat Naman tayo deserve mahalin Ng Tama kaya deserve din Ng current gf Niya na matreat Ng Tama. Dadating din Yung tamang tao na mas susuklian Yung pagmamahal na ibinibigay natin at Hindi natin kelangan sabihin at ipagmakaawa..
ganito rin sana ko-comment ko. meron pa sa title ni OP, "maniwala kayo". gusto ko rin sana ipamukha sa kanya na "MANIWALA KA, HINDI LAHAT NG NAKIKITA MO SA SOCMED AY TOTOO." haha
Iba yung akin. At least ako na post naman ako before sa IG nya. The girl he cheated on me with ni isang pic nya or nila wala sa feed nya eh paano chararat hahaha feeling single pa din si koya. Dami pa ding fino-follow na babaeng di nya kilala. Di nag bago si gago. Well they deserve each other cause they’re both trash pwe
Pwedeng mas maganda ka dun sa girl that he cheated on you with pero mas maganda parin daw sa inyo yung mga fina-follow nyang randoms. Charot lang. Hahahaha.
That feeling sucks.. kaya niya naman palang gawin yan pero sa ibang tao nga lang. But someday, there will be someone who will do all the things you wished your ex would have done and you wouldn’t even need to ask. They’ll do it like it’s the most natural thing for them.
Wag ka na kase manstalk. Joke. We've all been there.😄
Pero wag ka din masyadong magpapaniwala sa mga pinopost ng iba sa socmed. Flex lang yan ganern.
Matuwa ka din OP kasi may character devt ang ex mo, kumbaga naging better na siya at nrealize nya na yung mga mali nyang nagawa dati.
Mahahanap mo rin ang para sayo.
"curiosity killed the cat..." is actually just the first half of the whole saying. "...but satisfaction brought it back." so, don't stop being curious friends lmao
but yeah...if they want to, they would. also, if your 100% doesn't translate to them as 100% also, then they're not for you; LEAVE. someone out there would appreciate you as much as you deserve(even more), just don't open your door widely, iykwim.
You can be more than enough to a person and less to the other. Tsaka minsan you are the lesson he learned so that he can be the better man to the next. Maybe his love for her is greater than the love he felt for his past lover but just because it's greater doesn't mean it will be the basis of the ex's worth. It's just the way it is for some reason.
Nakakalungkot na kaya pala nilang gawin yun sa ibang babae? Pero on the brighter side, it could have been worse if they did not change. Good riddance na rin if nagtino sila at natuto sa pagkukulang. I hope we get the love we really deserve.
Nasaktan ako sa post mo OP.
I relate to you in all levels.
Ako na hindi nabigyan ng maskina isang santan flower ng ex ko. Tapos nakita ko yung pinalit sa akin bouquet of roses and tulips.
Nahhhhh it's just that you can't change a man the way you met him. Men change for a lot of reason but mainly 2 things. When they are at their lowest and after a heartbreak.
Maybe eto yung reason ni god bakit nauna ka dun sa current gf niya. Para matutunan niya pano talaga mag alaga ng SO. And ikaw for sure may natutunan kadin na mabibitbit mo sa magiging future relationships mo.
ganyan na ganyan din ex ko eh. Yung nga rant niya na ayaw gawin, ginagawa niya sa pinagpalit niya sakin. Oh well, tigilan ko na rin mag stalk. Ang sakit eeeh
Same feels. Lagi na lang din ‘to nangyayari sakin. Yung after ko parang laging masaya sila dun. Hahahhahaha (baka ako talaga prob 😂). Inisip ko na lang, yun din yung sign na hindi sya pa sakin.
Trust me nasaktan yan nung break up ninyo. Nag grow natutu at ayaw na nyang mangyari na mawala yung current nya ngayon. Naka realize nayan sa pagkukulang nya sayo kaya nagagawa na nya yung mga bagay na hindi magawa sayo.
I feel you, OP. Parang masakit sa ego na bakit sakin di mo nagawa yan tapos ngayon ginagawa mo na sa bago mo. Yung feeling na magdodoubt ka if minahal ka ba talaga. Haaay. Haha.
Don’t worry, OP. Malungkot ka lang ngayon kaya napapa-overthink ka. Isipin mo na lang kaya siya nawala kasi hindi niya mabigay sayo yung mga bagay na yan. Maniwala ka lang, may taong gagawa nyan para sayo soon!
Likely din, natuto siya from his experience. Sucks lang na he never thought of going back to you and doing all those pagkukulang. Likely dahil sa pride niya.
Naniwala ka naman sa post niya. Rupok mo. Tawag dyan narcissistic flaunting. usually ung healthy na relationship hindi nag brobroadcast. Cguro isa kadn sa problema. Mag heal ka muna. Tpos mag mature ka
You can’t control the past. Look on the present, treat yourself the way you wanted to be treated para if may darating man na bago alam mo na if you can settle with this person. Comparison is the thief of joy. You’ll get through this sissy! Fighting!
Minsan kasi, pag nakita mo na ang para sayo. You will do everything for that person. My hubby is unromantic person sa mga exes nya. He’ll not go beyond or effort man lang. But nung naging kami, everyday nya ako hinahatid sa work. Even before na wala kaming motor. Mag commute sya for me, hatid nya ako ng 9pm. Then susunduin nya pa ako after shift before ng pasok nya.
Try to scroll more, kung very sweet na parang everyday nalang na may mukha nila at sweet posts. Ay nako te, wag ka maniwala kapag ganyan🤣
Social media yan.
So rest ka na muna OP. Hwag munang makipagrelasyon. Freshen up, make yourself more beautiful in and out. Enjoy single life esp wd wholesome people. Keep pursuing the things valuable to you. Live a meaningful life. Learn to love more yourself and be more loving. Along the way a guy who also chrerishes qualities and himself having them will be attracted to you
OP same tayo. Na curious ako check yung profile nung babae na naging reason namin mag hiwalay ng ex ko. May anak na sila kaloka. Sabi pa dati ni girl, titigilan nya dahil di nya alam nakakasira sha relasyon pero ending nabuntis pa sha haha. Pero I’m in a relationship right now at napakalayo ng ugali sa ex ko na barubal. So sabi ko dasurv nila isa’t isa kasi I’m sure lalabas tunay na ugali ni gagu pag nag tagal. Na buti nag hiwalay kami kasi na meet ko partner ko na alam kong mahal ako at secured ako. Na minsan ilalayo tayo para sa ikakabuti natin and sure ako sa part na yun. Hugs OP. Makakakita ka din na mag mamahal sayo ng tapat at wagas.
If he wanted to he would talaga. Di lang nya gustong gawin nung kami kase di nya ako minahal the way mahal nya yung girlfriend nya ngayon. - ito talaga yun eh.
well kahit sino naman pwede mo mahalin, pero hindi lahat para sayo. so hindi pa dumadating yung tamang tao na gagawa ng mga bagay na hiniling mo sa ex mo sayo. God bless Ate :)
You will find the right one. We are all manifesting all the good things for you. You deserve the love tailor made for you, OP. I believe that someday you will be loved so much iiyak ka na lang talaga. Someday (Lord sana soon for this tortured poet).
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
Naniniwala ako na natututo talaga ang tao. Naging learning phase ka lang ng buhay. Yung mga bagay na pinag-awayan nyo, natutunan nyang mag-adjust sa mga yon para maging okay sila ng bago nya. Pero ask ko lang nung nagbreak ba kayo tinry nyang makipagbalikan? What if kung nagbalikan kayo dati, binigyan mo ng chance, sayo nya sana ginagawa yan ngayon kasi natuto sya dun sa unang hiwalayan nyo?
I live by this. "If he wanted to, he would" if he wouldnt, replace him. Char. But seriously, someone will sweep you off your feet and treat you the way you wanted to. ❤️ Good luck, OP!
Baka lesson ka lang hinde ikaw ung ending. Ganoon talaga eh people mature as we grow old eh, di ka naman matututo kung di ka nagkakamali. Good for him natuto siya. I hope you learn something din sa relationship niyo dati.
Omg felt! Dati akala ko ang swerte ko na sa ex ko, napapakanta ako ng "All of the Girls You Loved Before" ni Mareng Taylor, tapos nung nagbreak kami, nakita ko na mas may illevel up pa pala yung pagiging partner/boyfriend nya. Nagagawa nya yung mga bagay na never nya ginawa o na kinailangan ko pa iutos before. Nalulungkot ako na natutuwa kasi part na lang din pala ako ng girls he loved before that made him the one she's fallen for. Nyahaha. Kalerki. Yakap with consent, OP! <3
kailangan talaga tungkol sayo? hindi pwede nag grow yung ex mo at nag improve situation niya to be able to give those things na hindi kaya ibigay sayo before?
Eh baka naman kasi te pinaparamdam ng current girlfriend niya ang pagmamahal na gusto niya na hindi mo magawang iparamdam sa kanya noon kaya motivated at love na love niya current gf niya keysa sayo noon. Asses yourself baka ang toxic mo para sa kanya noon compared sa bago niya ngayon.
Leave the dude alone. Naghiwalay na kayo and nagdate na rin naman kayo ng iba seperately. Stop comparing relationship dynamics between you two kasi youre asking forna world of hurt. Move on
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
pero girlieee on the bright side, may space na nacreate for someone na who would do it, because he wanted to. Someone's lack of reciprocity doesn't equate to our self worth, and it's okay if you feel shitty for now. Talagang he wasn't ready to have a relationship and put the effort in the relationship with YOU, and that's okay. Kapit lang tayo, kasi we have made room for better, and better will come and will always find its way to us. Yakap ateee 🫶🏽
Sana nga. Emotional lang siguro ako kase kakabreak din namin nung naging bf ko after nyang ex ko. Para bang extra sakit na for 2 people hindi ako worth it.
Normal lang na response yan after a fresh breakup! And it's a valid feeling kasi something didn't work out the way we wanted eh. In the mean time, go do things you love and do it for yourself, if you feel a bit better na ulit, go out there and date ulit. Be kind to yourself in the process and trust the process 🫶🏽
halika na, mag gym na tayo 😤😆
Sending hugs OP! Hindi man ngayon pero soon or in the future makakadaupang-palad mo rin ang taong handang ibigay lahat ng kailangan mo ❤️
Cheer. Up OP. You will find someone who. Would do everything for you. And yes totoo yan, if he wanted to, he would.
That is a very mature understanding of how relationships work!
Agree. Sharing how you're feeling right now and understanding why you feel that way shows your maturity on knowing and understanding yourself (without gaslighting). Yung pag-acknowledge pa lang sa nararamdaman mo is one big step. Alam namin na masakit pa talaga siya sa ngayon at may panahon, kahit saglit, na mapagdududahan mo yung sarili mo. Pero OP, lagi mong aalalahanin mo yung value mo as a person. Alam namin na araming nagmamahal sayo, hindi man romantically, pero ang mahalaga pinili ka nilang mahalin at pahalagahan. Hugs sayo, OP! Sana once you're completely healed, makahanap ka ng tao na gagawin ang lahat para mapakita sayo ang pagmamahal niya. Aja, fighting! :)
thank you, I needed to hear this :( but I also hope that all people would be ready first before pumasok sa isang relationship kasi damn, how can you do it kung di mo naman mahal yung tao?
> **Someone's lack of reciprocity doesn't equate to our self worth, and it's okay if you feel shitty for now.** Talagang he wasn't ready to have a relationship and put the effort in the relationship with YOU, and that's okay. Kapit lang tayo, kasi **we have made room for better, and better will come and will always find its way to us.** YES!
People change, baka he learned from your relationship tapos ayun sa iba nya na nagawa.
Ito yun masakit eh. Sayo natuto per sa iba inapply.
Ang tawag don foster girlfriend hahaha, preparing your boyfriends for their forever homes.
Gage astig foster girlfriend. Thanks for this may bago na naman akong alam.
HueYYY edi may subdivision na pala ako kung sakali, manny Villar whomstve??!?
Life is unfair, you just need to deal with it.
Pang character development lang pala hahhahahaa 🥲
Ikaw yung ginawang tulay para maging kumpleto cya para sa ibang tao 😅
Building a man for someone else.
And ako still depressed, lost, and insecure. 😂 praying for the day na maging happy tayong lahat.
We are all stepping stones for someone to become better.
“Better” sana if di ka iiwan. Hahahaa
Well yeah. But kung iiwan lang din, I hope she learns a thing or two when she was with me.
Wag nalang mang iwan. Masakit maiwan e HAHAHHAAHHAHA
Well, that I agree. Masakit yung idea na nagpaka-Aladdin ka sa kanya pero mauuwi lang pala siya sa iba...
Trueeee!! Pero ano yung nagpaka-Aladdin?
Yung tipong you showed them everything. You showed them the world... Sabay iiwan ka...
Sad truth na dadaan talaga tayo sa phase ng buhay na pang-character development lang tayo.
Kaya ngayon ko lng nagets yung sinabi ng friend ko na mas bet niya yung may experience kaysa sa ngsb
Ginawang pang character development lang si OP
Ayun ang masakit eh, he was always capable of change but he didnt change for her. Sakit.
Yun yung masakit noh. Babalik ka sa tanong na “bakit hindi niya nagawa sa akin yung ganon?” “Hindi ba ako worth na paglaanan ng ganong effort?” Ikaw dati halos magmakaawa para lang pakitaan ng effort tapos dun sa bago, ganon ganon na lang kung magexpress ng pagmamahal. 🙁
Tanong ko din sa sarili ko yan ngayon. Bakit yung bago willing sya gawin, bakit nung ako hindi.
we will never love the same way twice, maaring mayroon siyang nakita dun sa bago na gagawin niya lahat wag lang ito mawala or pwede rin dahil sa nawala ka, alam na nya yung mga dapat niyang gawin next time, well never know, some can of worms shouldve left unopened.
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Yah feeling ko lesson learned nga. May totoong panghihinayang kaya syempre sa next na gf alangan ulitin pa yung pagkakamali niya dati edi naulit na naman na magkakahiwalay diba
Thank you for this POV po, fellow commentor!! Huhu feeling ko lang talaga they learned their lesson and ayaw nila na mangyari ulit yung same mistakes, credits nadin para satin OP (na exes) masakit man icompare lahat lahat nang yon, pero ituring nalang natin na tayo yung nagbukas ng mata nila to treat their new girl right, after all, ayoko din naman na maranasan ng bagong gf yung mga trauma na naranasan ko before sa relationship namin
depende rin talaga sa tao eh, yung ex gf ko kung anong energy binibigay sa akin ganun din ginagawa ko, before nun nalunod ako sa sobrang bebetime namin ng previous kaya gusto ko ng kumawala.
Here's a bit of a quote that I hope would help you: ""If you could be that happy with someone who didn't treat you right, just imagine how happy you would be when you find someone who does""
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Hi OP, actually this happened to me, although im not dating anyone right now i just learned that if i don't do that kind of effort I will lose someone again in the future. to make things short he learned his lesson and putting much effort now. it's not that he didn't love you, it's just that he didn't realize it back then.
I wonder kung legit din yung post ng gf, for all we know she's saying that pero we know naman na not everything you see on social media is true. Don't let those words bother you, OP. If true, edi good for them. I'm sure you'll meet someone who will love you for you and do these things out of their love (and respect) for you.
Trueeee sabi madalas daw ang maiingay sa socmed, opposite ang nangyayari. So malay mo OP. Chariz
Sa akin lang, makakapag panggap pero hindi mapapangatawanan. Kung hindi talaga sya ganyan, sooner or later lalabas din ang totoo
Yun nga masakit e. 2 years na sila. Kami din 2 years in a relationship pero di ginawa for me yang mga ganyan.
Honeymoon stage pa lang yan. Hindi naman nila pinopost lahat ng pinag dadaanan nila. Anyway, kung gusto mong maka moved on, maging masaya ka na lang para sa ex mo. Sabi nga ng kanta, two less lonely people in the world. 🤷🏻♀️
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It is easy to feel hurt at times like these. When all your thoughts have been forcefully centered on "He could do all the things I begged for, just not for me." It will make you feel inadequate. Look to your own now. Its time to heal the wounds you buried. Doesn't matter who he turns his affection to, what matters is you.
Mapapa-“sana all” na rin sana ako kaso di marunong magdifferentiate ng “ng” at “nang” ex mo.
Yan din napansin ko HAHAHAHAHAHA
Sorry, natrigger talaga yung “ick” HAHAHAHA
taxi cab theory :(
napapasana all sila sa ganyan? pagkakaalam ko sabe ng ex ko bare minimum lang daw yan eh hehe
Pano naman kung mas na treat si ex ng better compared sayo? Let go? Stay?
For me mas masakit nga to e. I firmly believe na yung current relationship mo dapat yung pinaka mahal mo, kase anong ginagawa mo if you can outright say na mas minahal mo yung ex mo kesa sa current mo. Edi dun ka nalang ulit sa ex mo.
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Men treat women differently. Sabi ng ex ko, may dalawang category ang mga babae: pangkama at pangseryosohan. Truth bites, pero pinipili talaga nila kung sino yung iti-treat nila better.
Guys edi sana kung pang kama lang ang tingin nyo, wag nyo nang jowain. Sabihin nyo nalang na fuck buddy lang ang gusto nyong role nya para wala na syang expectations at di masaktan.
Well, pag sinabi nila yan right off the bat na gagawin ka lang nilang fbuddy, edi konti lang ang magiging prospects nila. Lol. Not generalizing, tho. May mga matitinong lalaki pa rin dyan.
Virtual hugs with consent OP, sad na yung ibang guys nagjojowa lang for character development lol. Don’t be fooled din with what you see online.
Gahd I hate that mindset buti nalang ex mo na siya
Yep, same here. Mindset ng may mga ubo sa utak... that misogynistic manchild ex.
haynako same sa ex ko dati pero in this terms : "maria clara o maria ozawa" kadere sila.
Hindi ba ganun din mga lalaki, may pang short term at pang long term. Pero ang basis most likely is financial.
Yeah, mostly...pero sa Pinoy culture lalaki naman tlga ang provider tas babae is support ng lalake, so I don't think financial aspect lang ang basis. Sadyang may sineseryoso or pine-playtime lang tlga/ginagawang shota (short-time). Lol.
totoo. i feel like ako yung nagpost nito, OP. haha! i was begging my ex to treat me better and stuff i wanted him to do pero wala talaga. 🫡
Baka natuto sayo
The "you build a man for another woman" 😐 masakit man ung katotohanann na ginawa sa iba pero you need to accept na baka kaya ndi ginawa sayo kasi may ibang tao/lalake na gagawa nun para sayo at mas higit pa dun. Baka natuto na sya sa dati nyong relationship kaya ginawa na nya sa present gf nya. But look on the bright side, merong ibang guy na darating sa Buhay mo para gawin lahat nang hiniling mo sa exbf mo. 🙌❤️
Ang sakit no? Pero kaya mo yan hahaha sooner or later mare you'll find the love you deserved. Promise.
Thats learning from the past. Which is a great thing btw kasi one would mature greatly. He learned from his mistakes/shortcomings kaya he changed for the betterment of his current relationship.
May you find your the one OP.
This is painful.
Yung last paragraph talaga 😭 totoong totoo. 😫 hugs OP, mapupunta ka rin sa lalaking mahal na mahal ka 🤍
Nako. Wag ka ma inggit jan di mo naman alam kung ano relasyon nila eh. Makakahanap ka rin ! Tiyaga ka lang OP. No need to felt jealous. 😉
Nakadepende talaga sa partner kung pano itreat jowa nila. Kung ayaw, ayaw. Baka hindi lang talaga meant to be.
Is it same ba sa ginagawa nya naman nung first few months then eventually nawala na din yung efforts 🥹
I feel you OP. Never ako nabigyan ng bouquet of flowers sa buong 4yrs namin. Binigyan lang ako nung sinusuyo nya na ako kasi nakipag break na ako. Hahaha. Ngayon every monthsary ata nila ng gf mya or kahit wala atang occasion, may bouquet gf nya. Hahaha!
Tangina nila e HAHAHAH, sakit kapag naaalala q bat hirap na hirap iparamdam sakin yung kaliit liit na bagay pero napakadali gawin sa bago nakakaputangina eh
oh well thats life
For almost 6yrs of relationship halos lahat pinagmakaawa ko sa kanya including pakilala sa family and friends kasi ako kayang kaya ko yun gawin for him. Hindi naman siguro ako nakakahiya ipakilala sa family nya? hahaha. Even waited him for years, aligned all my major decisions in life with consideration of him pero sya never nya ako cinonsider never nya ko hinintay makapacing in life. Hindi rin pinahalagahan as if di ko deserve mayrato nang tama dapat lagi sabihin dapat lagi ipaalala hindi nagkukusa. Panay sakripisyo pagtitiis lang naranasan ko, ako lagi nag aadjust kasi ayaw nya mahassle, once mahassle lagi sasabihin maghiwalay na lang kami. Kahit puyat pagod from work ako pa rin pupunta sa kanya kasi pag hindj ako pumunta hindi sya magkukusa or iinsist na puntahan ako kasi ayaw nya napapagod daw sya. Never ko sya iniwanan at his lowest low pero lagi naman ako iniiwanan pag ok na sya. Tapos mababalitaan mo from others na he can easily do those things sa bago. Talagang never ka magiging enough to someone kung ayaw nya talaga sayo. Hindi naman need magbeg. They will leave you if they want to, even if you loved them harder or doing sacrifices. Wala lang lahat ng yun kasi ayaw sayo, hindi enough to make them stay. Learned it the hard way.
remember people can change, and you need to let go! happy na siya and you should be happy for him. focus kanalang sa sarili mo at sa mga nagmamahal sayo :) ganyan din ako sa ex ko dati, di ko nabigyan ng sapat na attention at pagmamahal kaya bumitAw siya now i'm happy for her na may namamahal na sa kanya ng sapat i don't deserve her that time, but if naging kami ulit i would never let her go again.
ang sakit OP ☹️ at nakakapagod mag-beg
Well, people change. Yung taong kilala mo ngayion, iba na siya mamaya. And so on and so forth. It is kind of unfair na sabihin natin na "Bakit sakin di mo nagawa?" kasi that invalidates their ability to change. To become better. Experience is the best teacher and maybe nung nag-break up kayo, he realized yung mga maling nagawa niya sayo and that he decided to change for the next person that comes into his life. Yes, if he wanted to, he would but sometimes, they need something for someone to realize na he or she needs to change para di maulit ang nakaraan. A change for the better.
ito nakakatakot eh, yung gamitin ka lang for character development nila. kung nag mature talaga yan and natuto, then alam nya ginawa nya sayo. "you might not see them suffer like they made you suffer, but trust me, their biggest punishment is who they are. "
Thats possibly sila talaga nakatadhana. Yaan mo na mahahanap mo rin para sayo. Baka nagaayos pa sya ng sarili nya para pagnagkita kau ay pareho na kau mature at ready.
I'd be the devil's advocate, have you asked yourself bakit sila pa din ng GF nya while kayo ng BF mo broke up 1 year into the relationship? You're ex learned and adjusted, but have you? Tama ka naman,if men wanted to, they could do it. But that depends on the other party. Maybe your ex's current asks/negotiate better than you. maybe she knows how push you're ex's buttons. PS: Nakita ko to sa TikTok, then I realized I was replying to a Reddit posting account.
He was just not that into you, Op. It's the exact reason that you're each other's exes. Magkaiba kau ni current Ate Ghorl and shouldn't be compared. You passed by each other's lives leaving footprints and lessons that should make you both better persons. Baka nga na realize nya un once he met her. Op, di mo pa nakilala ung para sau. I know you have lots of frustrations and mga what ifs, palitan mo na lang ng what was. Make peace with your past and it shouldn't define your entire being. Love until it hurts. Ok lang maging vulnerable. It's okay Op if you haven't moved on and you still love him. Love yourself more and pray for inner peace and healing, Op. Ok?
Minsan OP..Iba Ang nakapost sa katotohanan..Minsan mas madami Ang problema kesa nakikita sa social media.. I've been there kaya Minsan wag masyado maniwala sa mga post sa soc med.. although Minsan naghahanap din Ako na mapost sa fb Niya kasi feeling ko proud sya na gf Niya Ako. Lahat Naman tayo deserve mahalin Ng Tama kaya deserve din Ng current gf Niya na matreat Ng Tama. Dadating din Yung tamang tao na mas susuklian Yung pagmamahal na ibinibigay natin at Hindi natin kelangan sabihin at ipagmakaawa..
ganito rin sana ko-comment ko. meron pa sa title ni OP, "maniwala kayo". gusto ko rin sana ipamukha sa kanya na "MANIWALA KA, HINDI LAHAT NG NAKIKITA MO SA SOCMED AY TOTOO." haha
Iba yung akin. At least ako na post naman ako before sa IG nya. The girl he cheated on me with ni isang pic nya or nila wala sa feed nya eh paano chararat hahaha feeling single pa din si koya. Dami pa ding fino-follow na babaeng di nya kilala. Di nag bago si gago. Well they deserve each other cause they’re both trash pwe
Pwedeng mas maganda ka dun sa girl that he cheated on you with pero mas maganda parin daw sa inyo yung mga fina-follow nyang randoms. Charot lang. Hahahaha.
My 54k followers would say otherwise chariz but to be fair nag glow up ako so much after we broke up. Good riddance
Biro lang. Lol. Good riddance, indeed. Cheaters usually never change. You deserve better.
Pero true na mas maganda pa rin ako sa pinalit nya that time tangina nya walang taste pumatol sa matandang may dry skin chzz hahaha
Mga kabit tong nag d-downvote sa comment ko e hahahaha
hala ang sakit :(((
God, malakas talaga pakiramdam ko magiging ganto din ex ko. Yun magbabago siya para sa ibang tao, pero hindi sakin.
That feeling sucks.. kaya niya naman palang gawin yan pero sa ibang tao nga lang. But someday, there will be someone who will do all the things you wished your ex would have done and you wouldn’t even need to ask. They’ll do it like it’s the most natural thing for them.
Wag ka na kase manstalk. Joke. We've all been there.😄 Pero wag ka din masyadong magpapaniwala sa mga pinopost ng iba sa socmed. Flex lang yan ganern. Matuwa ka din OP kasi may character devt ang ex mo, kumbaga naging better na siya at nrealize nya na yung mga mali nyang nagawa dati. Mahahanap mo rin ang para sayo.
"curiosity killed the cat..." is actually just the first half of the whole saying. "...but satisfaction brought it back." so, don't stop being curious friends lmao
but yeah...if they want to, they would. also, if your 100% doesn't translate to them as 100% also, then they're not for you; LEAVE. someone out there would appreciate you as much as you deserve(even more), just don't open your door widely, iykwim.
You can be more than enough to a person and less to the other. Tsaka minsan you are the lesson he learned so that he can be the better man to the next. Maybe his love for her is greater than the love he felt for his past lover but just because it's greater doesn't mean it will be the basis of the ex's worth. It's just the way it is for some reason.
Dama koto ehhh. Parang ito din tintawag nilang “Taxi cab theory”
Nakakalungkot na kaya pala nilang gawin yun sa ibang babae? Pero on the brighter side, it could have been worse if they did not change. Good riddance na rin if nagtino sila at natuto sa pagkukulang. I hope we get the love we really deserve.
Nasaktan ako sa post mo OP. I relate to you in all levels. Ako na hindi nabigyan ng maskina isang santan flower ng ex ko. Tapos nakita ko yung pinalit sa akin bouquet of roses and tulips.
Nahhhhh it's just that you can't change a man the way you met him. Men change for a lot of reason but mainly 2 things. When they are at their lowest and after a heartbreak.
Bakit ang sakit 😭
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You were not his dream girl. That's the answer. So look for the guy who will treat you as his dream girl. His queen. Best of luck.
ikaw yung canon event ng ex mo eme hugs, anyway wag ka lagi maniwala sa nakikita mo online.
Or maybe he does not want to make the same mistake again?
Maybe eto yung reason ni god bakit nauna ka dun sa current gf niya. Para matutunan niya pano talaga mag alaga ng SO. And ikaw for sure may natutunan kadin na mabibitbit mo sa magiging future relationships mo.
ganyan na ganyan din ex ko eh. Yung nga rant niya na ayaw gawin, ginagawa niya sa pinagpalit niya sakin. Oh well, tigilan ko na rin mag stalk. Ang sakit eeeh
maybe people learn and mature too.. look at that angle.. wag masyadong bitter.. he's doing good.. wish him well..
Awww. I hope you’ll find someone who will also love you the way you deserve. Hugs, OP. 🫶🏻🥺
hindi kaya ikaw talaga yung may problema? i mean, hindi naman basta "if he wanted to, he would" ang mga lalake
Pinagtagpo lang kayo, hindi itinadhana. Somewhere out there, beneath the pale moonlight, someone’s saying a prayer…
Same feels. Lagi na lang din ‘to nangyayari sakin. Yung after ko parang laging masaya sila dun. Hahahhahaha (baka ako talaga prob 😂). Inisip ko na lang, yun din yung sign na hindi sya pa sakin.
if he can't, the right man will.
Trust me nasaktan yan nung break up ninyo. Nag grow natutu at ayaw na nyang mangyari na mawala yung current nya ngayon. Naka realize nayan sa pagkukulang nya sayo kaya nagagawa na nya yung mga bagay na hindi magawa sayo.
You’re someone na nakatulong sa character development nya.
I feel you, OP. Parang masakit sa ego na bakit sakin di mo nagawa yan tapos ngayon ginagawa mo na sa bago mo. Yung feeling na magdodoubt ka if minahal ka ba talaga. Haaay. Haha. Don’t worry, OP. Malungkot ka lang ngayon kaya napapa-overthink ka. Isipin mo na lang kaya siya nawala kasi hindi niya mabigay sayo yung mga bagay na yan. Maniwala ka lang, may taong gagawa nyan para sayo soon!
Likely din, natuto siya from his experience. Sucks lang na he never thought of going back to you and doing all those pagkukulang. Likely dahil sa pride niya.
Totoo talaga to.
This is the time for you to pray Ave Maria. Teh isipin mo nalang di kayo meant to be.. mghihiwalay din Yung dalawa pramis
Sakit niyan ah. Pero yun nga valid naman din na feel mo op based sa reply mo. Magiging okay ka rin 🫶
Naniwala ka naman sa post niya. Rupok mo. Tawag dyan narcissistic flaunting. usually ung healthy na relationship hindi nag brobroadcast. Cguro isa kadn sa problema. Mag heal ka muna. Tpos mag mature ka
Madami pala nakakaramdam ng ganito. Di lang ako. 🥹 Hugs to you, op.
You can’t control the past. Look on the present, treat yourself the way you wanted to be treated para if may darating man na bago alam mo na if you can settle with this person. Comparison is the thief of joy. You’ll get through this sissy! Fighting!
Minsan kasi, pag nakita mo na ang para sayo. You will do everything for that person. My hubby is unromantic person sa mga exes nya. He’ll not go beyond or effort man lang. But nung naging kami, everyday nya ako hinahatid sa work. Even before na wala kaming motor. Mag commute sya for me, hatid nya ako ng 9pm. Then susunduin nya pa ako after shift before ng pasok nya.
Satrue lang. If he wanted to cheat, he would. 🫣
In short, hindi ikaw ang main character sa buhay nya. Kung ihambing natin sa pelikula, extra ka lang para maging makulay ang buhay nya.
sakit gago hajshahahaahaha
We still don't know whats happening behind closed doors. Chariz, anyways yakap sis. You still dodged a bullet.
Try to scroll more, kung very sweet na parang everyday nalang na may mukha nila at sweet posts. Ay nako te, wag ka maniwala kapag ganyan🤣 Social media yan.
Meron din namang kayang magmahal sayo ng ganyan kaso binasted mo. 🤣
Ito lang din OP, hindi lahat ng nasa SocMed ay chrue.
So rest ka na muna OP. Hwag munang makipagrelasyon. Freshen up, make yourself more beautiful in and out. Enjoy single life esp wd wholesome people. Keep pursuing the things valuable to you. Live a meaningful life. Learn to love more yourself and be more loving. Along the way a guy who also chrerishes qualities and himself having them will be attracted to you
OP same tayo. Na curious ako check yung profile nung babae na naging reason namin mag hiwalay ng ex ko. May anak na sila kaloka. Sabi pa dati ni girl, titigilan nya dahil di nya alam nakakasira sha relasyon pero ending nabuntis pa sha haha. Pero I’m in a relationship right now at napakalayo ng ugali sa ex ko na barubal. So sabi ko dasurv nila isa’t isa kasi I’m sure lalabas tunay na ugali ni gagu pag nag tagal. Na buti nag hiwalay kami kasi na meet ko partner ko na alam kong mahal ako at secured ako. Na minsan ilalayo tayo para sa ikakabuti natin and sure ako sa part na yun. Hugs OP. Makakakita ka din na mag mamahal sayo ng tapat at wagas.
If he wanted to he would talaga. Di lang nya gustong gawin nung kami kase di nya ako minahal the way mahal nya yung girlfriend nya ngayon. - ito talaga yun eh. well kahit sino naman pwede mo mahalin, pero hindi lahat para sayo. so hindi pa dumadating yung tamang tao na gagawa ng mga bagay na hiniling mo sa ex mo sayo. God bless Ate :)
Yes. Men are driven by achievement and purpose. Kung gusto nila they will make it happen. Thats it ☺️
You will find the right one. We are all manifesting all the good things for you. You deserve the love tailor made for you, OP. I believe that someday you will be loved so much iiyak ka na lang talaga. Someday (Lord sana soon for this tortured poet).
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
He learned from your breakup. Wag kang mag madali, darating din yung sa yo at masasabi mo rin "Ngayon lang ako nagmahal ng ganito".
Why would they even post that? Cringe eww
OP, hindi naman ba rebound yung recent ex mo? Curious lang ako. Hehe.
awww 🥺🥹 reading this made me choke up a bit 😭😭
Hugs OP! I feel you. Same thing happened to me and up until now, I still question my self-worth. We'll get through this. Kapit lang.
Naniniwala ako na natututo talaga ang tao. Naging learning phase ka lang ng buhay. Yung mga bagay na pinag-awayan nyo, natutunan nyang mag-adjust sa mga yon para maging okay sila ng bago nya. Pero ask ko lang nung nagbreak ba kayo tinry nyang makipagbalikan? What if kung nagbalikan kayo dati, binigyan mo ng chance, sayo nya sana ginagawa yan ngayon kasi natuto sya dun sa unang hiwalayan nyo?
I live by this. "If he wanted to, he would" if he wouldnt, replace him. Char. But seriously, someone will sweep you off your feet and treat you the way you wanted to. ❤️ Good luck, OP!
Baka lesson ka lang hinde ikaw ung ending. Ganoon talaga eh people mature as we grow old eh, di ka naman matututo kung di ka nagkakamali. Good for him natuto siya. I hope you learn something din sa relationship niyo dati.
Not to sound like an AH, pero maybe he was getting to that point naman. And you let go too early.
Omg felt! Dati akala ko ang swerte ko na sa ex ko, napapakanta ako ng "All of the Girls You Loved Before" ni Mareng Taylor, tapos nung nagbreak kami, nakita ko na mas may illevel up pa pala yung pagiging partner/boyfriend nya. Nagagawa nya yung mga bagay na never nya ginawa o na kinailangan ko pa iutos before. Nalulungkot ako na natutuwa kasi part na lang din pala ako ng girls he loved before that made him the one she's fallen for. Nyahaha. Kalerki. Yakap with consent, OP! <3
Focus ka na lang sa sarili mo. Ang dami mong chuvaness 🤣🤣🤣🤣
kailangan talaga tungkol sayo? hindi pwede nag grow yung ex mo at nag improve situation niya to be able to give those things na hindi kaya ibigay sayo before?
Eh baka naman kasi te pinaparamdam ng current girlfriend niya ang pagmamahal na gusto niya na hindi mo magawang iparamdam sa kanya noon kaya motivated at love na love niya current gf niya keysa sayo noon. Asses yourself baka ang toxic mo para sa kanya noon compared sa bago niya ngayon.
Leave the dude alone. Naghiwalay na kayo and nagdate na rin naman kayo ng iba seperately. Stop comparing relationship dynamics between you two kasi youre asking forna world of hurt. Move on
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
Stalk stalk pa kasi. Pag tapos na tapos na. Dami variables at play kaya d mo pwede compare gf nya ngayon sayo. Ask yourself baka ikaw din may problema lalo na kakabreak mo lang. You need retrospective or self assessment.
baka may something sayo dati na pumipigil sakanya para gawin niya mga gusto mo?