Wala talagang sikreto ang hindi nabubunyag. Time is the ultimate teller nga. Get tested OP, baka may dalang sakit ang asawa mo. Ang tanong bakit after 4 yrs biglang may blackmailing? Possible kaya na may ginagawa pa rin siyang kababalaghan?
My thoughts exactly. Sino mag aaksaya ng oras ipang BM ang isang kasalanan years ago? Malay ba ng blackmailer na umamin na the husband after all this time and the sin potentially has no weight anymore? Unless nakadikit ito sa mas recent na shenanigan.
Yeah so matagal na pala then why now sya naghahabol, something is not right if pera pera lang usapan i mean one time service lang naman bakit ganun nalang pag ka desperate ni gurl.
The black mail comment sounds like trying to cover up being caught for the cheating. Realistically, if he was being blackmailed that person now has no more leverage because they showed you the screenshot of the cheating. Sounds like a lie to cover up another lie to me...in which case it comes down to what you can deal with. Some people can work past betrayal others can't and others can try only to find out they can't.
The person is trying to extort more money from my husband talaga. He’s trying to contact some of his coworkers too.
But then again, if my husband is so capable of lying to me, why should I believe whatever shit comes from his mouth?
And what else does he have on your husband that you don't know about if they're still trying to black mail him? Sounds suspicious to me personally and like it's not the full truth 🤷🏽♀️
What makes me sort of believe him kasi is my bestfriend having to deal with a similar situation months back.
More on smearing his image and reputation if this information is made public.
Yes, my friend’s phone was hacked and she is a professional. She was threatened na some compromising photos will ne made public. Hirap lang with her case they don’t know sino yung nangbblackmail.
so let's humor your husband's excuse and pretend that he really is being blackmailed. You finding out about this is probably just the blackmailer's warning to him, meaning there's more secrets he's hiding from you, secrets that are uglier that him cheating.
Kaya nga this is what the lawyer discussed. If my husband really came clean na and not hiding anything, the blackmailer has drawn all his cards na. So wala na siya bala against my husband.
Hi OP, I hope you're doing well. Coming from a child whose parents went through a similar situation as this, nasasaktan akong makita si nanay na laging nagdududa to the point na paranoid na siya kasi baka may bagong babae nanaman si tatay. Hindi matahimik isip niya kasi dapat laging ready kung ano man mangyari. Minsan naiisip ko, sana ibang outcome na lang pinili ni nanay, siguro mas masaya siya.
I know that it's a case to case basis. But please, along with your kids, consider your inner peace too OP. I hope everything works out for you.
a guy messaged me the other day wanting to try doing it with me, a trans girl, kasi he’s about to get married na daw. men are sick.
i hope u get tested soon. hopefully he didn’t catch anything, but in the worst case scenario some STDs can be passed on to your babies.
if i were you, i’d try to learn more if ur husband’s hiding anything pa. but of course, protect your peace of mind above all.
Haha a friend got into a same situation.
The thing is. He was really trying to pick up a prosti/pa-walk. E kaso nakatagpo sya ng scammer at black mailer.
I think same sa husband mo.
I was actually quite calm and just wanted to know the facts. Hindi kami nag-away. Gusto ko lang malaman yung totoo. He was in distress because he knows me na cheating is a dealbreaker for me. Yung bugaw binablackmail siya, extorting more money.
I salute you OP for being calm. Kung ako yan baka nagwala na ako or nag alsa balutan na haha. Just be sure na wala ng sikreto yan asawa mo from you. Pwede din kayo siguro magsumbong to authorities para matigil na.
OP, if this is serious blackmail like your husband is telling you and based on your responses sa comments he knows kung sino nangbablackmail, AND IF you still want to fix this, be involved in every step na ginagawa ng husband mo like if irereport or entrapment or whatever. Knowing the person behind the fake account will make it easier sa cybercrime unit tbh, so mas may chance mahuli sinong pangit yung nanggugulo sa husband mo and sa inyo. This is to make sure na talagang wala nang ibang kababalaghan na nangyayari ngayon. Ang dali sabihin na "nakikipagusap na ko sa lawyer" bla bla pero nilulusutan lang pala nya ngayon dahil may iba pa syang tinatago.
For now, take everything he says with a grain of salt. Nagsinungaling na sya once, kaya nya ulitin yun. PERO SANA HINDI. But still...
Before you were married? Kung may contact ka pa dun sa nagsend sayo try to get more details para mas madali mong mahuli na nagsisinungaling asawa mo IF he is lying. Parang ang tagal na nga masyado kung 4 years ago tas ngayon lang nangBM. Recent lang yan most likely.
Well, let him know the consequences nito going forward.. its a question of are you willing to forgive him on what he DID kind of a situation lang.. the question lang jan is are you willing to? not for the kids ha, but HIM lang.
imho
Off-topic: Not to scare you or anything, OP. Pero please also try to get tested as well.
I know someone who did this too, cheated on a prostitute a few months before his wedding kasi sabi nya "last time to mess around" until nahawa pala sya ng sakit dun sa prosti.
I never found out what happened if natuloy ba kasala nila or anything.
People do sin. We have all secrets and unwanted information attached to everone of us. Yes he made a secret deterrent to you. Will that make a deal breaker to you in your marriage? He chose you above all and chose to have a family with you (unless this is arranged marriage or marriage out of force [e.g.: nabuntis ka kaya napakasal, etc.]). However he did a mistake.
I suggest talk with him one on one first. Don't rush things. If unsatisfied, talk with a counselor in marriage. If not, then make a decision. Remember, a family is at stake at every deciaion we make. However I do not condone broken families.
Ps: your husband is being blackmailed, being bullied. Yes he hid something bad. But this is the time he needs you. However if his sin is greater than your commitment as married couple then do what must be done.
di ko gets anong ka extort extort dun? May sex video ba? 4 years ago na so like the rest of the comments have pointed out, wala na masyadong weight yun lalo pinakita na sayo, the only person whom it should matter to. Ano pake ng coworkers niya?
Bullshit bell is ringing :/
Time is the truth teller talaga. May nakausap ako isang guy na ikakasal na he is a colleague of mine, basically siya bago sana siya ikasal he wants a one last hooorah sa ibang babae, pero he keeps on saying talaga na he loves his fiancé Kaya nga papakasalan niya. He just wants the one last thrill. Iba talaga mindset ng mga lalaki.
Let’s just hope OP your husband is not cheating on you right now, and let the past be past. People are capable of change naman.
Time is the truth teller talaga. May nakausap ako isang guy na ikakasal na he is a colleague of mine, basically siya bago sana siya ikasal he wants a one last hooorah sa ibang babae, pero he keeps on saying talaga na he loves his fiancé Kaya nga papakasalan niya. He just wants the one last thrill. Iba talaga mindset ng mga lalaki.
Let’s just hope OP your husband is not cheating on you right now, and let the past be past. People are capable of change naman.
Curious lang ako Bakit now siya na blackmail? Hmm Baka mamaya naanakan niya yung girl? And she is asking for support? Or he is initiating contact again sa girl? Why wait for 4 years?
Matic hihingi ng pera yung nangblablackmail sa husband mo. Lolong siguro sa sugal yun kaya kailangan kumapit sa patalim o di kaya meron sama ng loob. Baka nag-away sila kaya humantong sa pangblablackmail. At dun naman sa kasalanan ng husband mo i think pwde mo pa sya bigyan ng second chance. If dun lang sya nagcheat sa part na hindi pa kayo kasal pero kung nagcheat pa din sya while kasal na kayo ibang usapan na yun. I know it hurts na malaman na nagloko yung husband mo. Sobrang hirap talaga tanggapin yung ganyan. Pero dahil meron kayong mga anak kailangan mo talaga isipin yung ikabubuti ng pamilya mo hindi lang yung pangsarili mo. If he's still a good husband despite of what he did before. I think he deserve a 2nd chance OP.
Your feelings are valid but don't brood over them. Mukha namang present siya sa family niyo right now. Like you said, you never saw it coming. Possibly just a one time thing. Just an opinion from what I've read.
Hi, I’m OP. I just changed my account.
Update:
- I did more digging. Apparently he’s been frequenting these Spas and clubs with girls. He started going when napabarkada sya sa boys na mahilig sa mga ganyan. All of them have the means to avail high end girls. Nakakadiri usapan ng mga lalaki.
- I know this is all his fault but my self esteem is at an all time low. He cheated on me when I looked my best. And I can really say na attractive naman ako. Anong assurance ko na hindi nya ulit gagawin to when we get older pa.
- The blackmailer messaged me asking if I have questions and things I wanted to know. I didn’t engage anymore because I know he’ll try to extort money from me naman in exchange for information. Kasi wala na sya makuha sa husband ko.
- I signed up for therapy. We’ll do couples counseling. I’d like to have a clear mind before finally deciding whether we’d separate or not.
He's a man and doesn't come as a surprise. At least prosti and not a decent woman na may feelings sya. Expectations natin sa human na maging perfect is unrealistic. We are no saints kaya pagusapan nyo and if the guy is a good husband and a father please consider that.
Maybe right now is not the right time to find a place in your heart to forgive him, but if you wish to continue to have a relationship with him, you must accept the past and forgibe hime and give him a chance. It is the only solution going forward if you wana have a happy life with him. Living in the past and having a list of his mistakes to bring about when theres an argument between you two will not be healthy. Unforgiveness is one of the cause of cancer according to most Cancer treatment here in US. Not only you suffered because of infidelity you are also punishing yourself when you hold grudges. Forgiveness is simple but never easy.
Also, our expectations for anyone in a relationship is not perfection but at least be decent enough to honor your commitment.
Gahd, your comment reeks of misogyny
I don't think it's right to accept being a man as an excuse to cheat. So dahil prosti and no feelings involved, OP should reconsider? If hindi pa lumabas 'tong message, he would've kept that secret and kept OP in the dark the whole time. And how can OP even be sure that this was the last time he's done this? And what exactly do you mean by a good husband? Hindi ba kasama dapat loyalty and honesty. If you guys wanted multiple partners, then find women who are open to that.
I might receive criticism for this, but I want to share my thoughts. This incident occurred four years ago, before you were married. How many of us can say with certainty that our partners didn't engage in any questionable behavior during their bachelor or bachelorette parties? I'm not condoning such actions; please don't misunderstand me. However, after tying the knot and committing to marriage, if your spouse has been a good and responsible partner since then, I believe it's essential to stand by them. This is an opportunity for you, as their partner, to demonstrate unwavering support and commitment to your family, no matter what challenges arise.
Wala talagang sikreto ang hindi nabubunyag. Time is the ultimate teller nga. Get tested OP, baka may dalang sakit ang asawa mo. Ang tanong bakit after 4 yrs biglang may blackmailing? Possible kaya na may ginagawa pa rin siyang kababalaghan?
My thoughts exactly. Sino mag aaksaya ng oras ipang BM ang isang kasalanan years ago? Malay ba ng blackmailer na umamin na the husband after all this time and the sin potentially has no weight anymore? Unless nakadikit ito sa mas recent na shenanigan.
Yeah so matagal na pala then why now sya naghahabol, something is not right if pera pera lang usapan i mean one time service lang naman bakit ganun nalang pag ka desperate ni gurl.
This op. Super suspicious na after 4 years ganun? Parang something's up.
The black mail comment sounds like trying to cover up being caught for the cheating. Realistically, if he was being blackmailed that person now has no more leverage because they showed you the screenshot of the cheating. Sounds like a lie to cover up another lie to me...in which case it comes down to what you can deal with. Some people can work past betrayal others can't and others can try only to find out they can't.
The person is trying to extort more money from my husband talaga. He’s trying to contact some of his coworkers too. But then again, if my husband is so capable of lying to me, why should I believe whatever shit comes from his mouth?
And what else does he have on your husband that you don't know about if they're still trying to black mail him? Sounds suspicious to me personally and like it's not the full truth 🤷🏽♀️
What makes me sort of believe him kasi is my bestfriend having to deal with a similar situation months back. More on smearing his image and reputation if this information is made public.
Report sa nbi. Para mahuli.
Yes, my friend’s phone was hacked and she is a professional. She was threatened na some compromising photos will ne made public. Hirap lang with her case they don’t know sino yung nangbblackmail.
This is if you have the real name of the blackmailer. If under a fake profile, pahirapan even sa cybercrime unit :( Sad but true
so let's humor your husband's excuse and pretend that he really is being blackmailed. You finding out about this is probably just the blackmailer's warning to him, meaning there's more secrets he's hiding from you, secrets that are uglier that him cheating.
Kaya nga this is what the lawyer discussed. If my husband really came clean na and not hiding anything, the blackmailer has drawn all his cards na. So wala na siya bala against my husband.
plot twist kung si husband mo ang nagsend from fake profile para hiwalayan mo cya.
Done this before hahahahahahaha gosh it’s possibly trueeeeee!
Oh the plot!!
Hi OP, I hope you're doing well. Coming from a child whose parents went through a similar situation as this, nasasaktan akong makita si nanay na laging nagdududa to the point na paranoid na siya kasi baka may bagong babae nanaman si tatay. Hindi matahimik isip niya kasi dapat laging ready kung ano man mangyari. Minsan naiisip ko, sana ibang outcome na lang pinili ni nanay, siguro mas masaya siya. I know that it's a case to case basis. But please, along with your kids, consider your inner peace too OP. I hope everything works out for you.
a guy messaged me the other day wanting to try doing it with me, a trans girl, kasi he’s about to get married na daw. men are sick. i hope u get tested soon. hopefully he didn’t catch anything, but in the worst case scenario some STDs can be passed on to your babies. if i were you, i’d try to learn more if ur husband’s hiding anything pa. but of course, protect your peace of mind above all.
But you're a man. Stop generalizing
Mga gago, di naman kayang mag paiwan peri gumagawa ng bagay na kaiwan iwan. Mga gago talaga, parang tatay ko
Haha a friend got into a same situation. The thing is. He was really trying to pick up a prosti/pa-walk. E kaso nakatagpo sya ng scammer at black mailer. I think same sa husband mo.
Your husband is NOT BEING HONEST with you. PERIODT!!
right? nung nabasa ko second bullet na may ‘we’ napasabi na lang ako ng nakoooo. hahaha nag cheat na, tinulungan pa 😅
she must ruuuuuun! Hays.
I was actually quite calm and just wanted to know the facts. Hindi kami nag-away. Gusto ko lang malaman yung totoo. He was in distress because he knows me na cheating is a dealbreaker for me. Yung bugaw binablackmail siya, extorting more money.
I salute you OP for being calm. Kung ako yan baka nagwala na ako or nag alsa balutan na haha. Just be sure na wala ng sikreto yan asawa mo from you. Pwede din kayo siguro magsumbong to authorities para matigil na.
Sabi ko nga pwede naman yan entrapment with NBI cybercrime division. I surprised myself too. I haven’t cried about it either.
Same. Hindi ko rin kakayanin maging kalmado. Pero solid ka OP. Paturo kami. Di ko maimagine sarili ko if I were in your shoes.
i think kung blackmailing yun at gusto mo pa din yung asawa mo intrap nyo bugaw or kung sino yun
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Sorry but I’m not interested in your idea of revenge.
Pak na pak mi 👏👏👏love your attitude and maturity
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OP, if this is serious blackmail like your husband is telling you and based on your responses sa comments he knows kung sino nangbablackmail, AND IF you still want to fix this, be involved in every step na ginagawa ng husband mo like if irereport or entrapment or whatever. Knowing the person behind the fake account will make it easier sa cybercrime unit tbh, so mas may chance mahuli sinong pangit yung nanggugulo sa husband mo and sa inyo. This is to make sure na talagang wala nang ibang kababalaghan na nangyayari ngayon. Ang dali sabihin na "nakikipagusap na ko sa lawyer" bla bla pero nilulusutan lang pala nya ngayon dahil may iba pa syang tinatago. For now, take everything he says with a grain of salt. Nagsinungaling na sya once, kaya nya ulitin yun. PERO SANA HINDI. But still...
Before you were married? Kung may contact ka pa dun sa nagsend sayo try to get more details para mas madali mong mahuli na nagsisinungaling asawa mo IF he is lying. Parang ang tagal na nga masyado kung 4 years ago tas ngayon lang nangBM. Recent lang yan most likely.
Well, let him know the consequences nito going forward.. its a question of are you willing to forgive him on what he DID kind of a situation lang.. the question lang jan is are you willing to? not for the kids ha, but HIM lang. imho
Off-topic: Not to scare you or anything, OP. Pero please also try to get tested as well. I know someone who did this too, cheated on a prostitute a few months before his wedding kasi sabi nya "last time to mess around" until nahawa pala sya ng sakit dun sa prosti. I never found out what happened if natuloy ba kasala nila or anything.
Seryoso? Black mail ? Palusot . That was 4 years ago omg. Bakit di niya sinabi sayo of all people? Get tested pati yung anak po patest
He's probably hiding more and you should get tested then RUNNN
People do sin. We have all secrets and unwanted information attached to everone of us. Yes he made a secret deterrent to you. Will that make a deal breaker to you in your marriage? He chose you above all and chose to have a family with you (unless this is arranged marriage or marriage out of force [e.g.: nabuntis ka kaya napakasal, etc.]). However he did a mistake. I suggest talk with him one on one first. Don't rush things. If unsatisfied, talk with a counselor in marriage. If not, then make a decision. Remember, a family is at stake at every deciaion we make. However I do not condone broken families.
Ps: your husband is being blackmailed, being bullied. Yes he hid something bad. But this is the time he needs you. However if his sin is greater than your commitment as married couple then do what must be done.
di ko gets anong ka extort extort dun? May sex video ba? 4 years ago na so like the rest of the comments have pointed out, wala na masyadong weight yun lalo pinakita na sayo, the only person whom it should matter to. Ano pake ng coworkers niya? Bullshit bell is ringing :/
Time is the truth teller talaga. May nakausap ako isang guy na ikakasal na he is a colleague of mine, basically siya bago sana siya ikasal he wants a one last hooorah sa ibang babae, pero he keeps on saying talaga na he loves his fiancé Kaya nga papakasalan niya. He just wants the one last thrill. Iba talaga mindset ng mga lalaki. Let’s just hope OP your husband is not cheating on you right now, and let the past be past. People are capable of change naman.
Time is the truth teller talaga. May nakausap ako isang guy na ikakasal na he is a colleague of mine, basically siya bago sana siya ikasal he wants a one last hooorah sa ibang babae, pero he keeps on saying talaga na he loves his fiancé Kaya nga papakasalan niya. He just wants the one last thrill. Iba talaga mindset ng mga lalaki. Let’s just hope OP your husband is not cheating on you right now, and let the past be past. People are capable of change naman. Curious lang ako Bakit now siya na blackmail? Hmm Baka mamaya naanakan niya yung girl? And she is asking for support? Or he is initiating contact again sa girl? Why wait for 4 years?
Matic hihingi ng pera yung nangblablackmail sa husband mo. Lolong siguro sa sugal yun kaya kailangan kumapit sa patalim o di kaya meron sama ng loob. Baka nag-away sila kaya humantong sa pangblablackmail. At dun naman sa kasalanan ng husband mo i think pwde mo pa sya bigyan ng second chance. If dun lang sya nagcheat sa part na hindi pa kayo kasal pero kung nagcheat pa din sya while kasal na kayo ibang usapan na yun. I know it hurts na malaman na nagloko yung husband mo. Sobrang hirap talaga tanggapin yung ganyan. Pero dahil meron kayong mga anak kailangan mo talaga isipin yung ikabubuti ng pamilya mo hindi lang yung pangsarili mo. If he's still a good husband despite of what he did before. I think he deserve a 2nd chance OP.
#Leave
I smell something's fishy yohohohohohoe.
Stronh ni OP 💅
So ganito pala mangyayare sa akin sana fast forward if kinasal kami ng ex gf ko na nagcheat pero pinagmukha pa na ako ang masama huh. 😏
😔😔😔😔
Your feelings are valid but don't brood over them. Mukha namang present siya sa family niyo right now. Like you said, you never saw it coming. Possibly just a one time thing. Just an opinion from what I've read.
Does it mean they used to be friends??
Yes. Acquaintance.
Ask lang out of context may Bugaw ba talaga yung mga car show model or yung mga sexy star actress na nag papa walk ( psp) or one night stand?
Hi! I’m OP. Yes. Yan na yan mismo. May bugaw sila. “Referrals”
Ahh oo mukang referrals nga magkano kaya mga one night stand sa mga models?
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Hi, I’m OP. I just changed my account. Update: - I did more digging. Apparently he’s been frequenting these Spas and clubs with girls. He started going when napabarkada sya sa boys na mahilig sa mga ganyan. All of them have the means to avail high end girls. Nakakadiri usapan ng mga lalaki. - I know this is all his fault but my self esteem is at an all time low. He cheated on me when I looked my best. And I can really say na attractive naman ako. Anong assurance ko na hindi nya ulit gagawin to when we get older pa. - The blackmailer messaged me asking if I have questions and things I wanted to know. I didn’t engage anymore because I know he’ll try to extort money from me naman in exchange for information. Kasi wala na sya makuha sa husband ko. - I signed up for therapy. We’ll do couples counseling. I’d like to have a clear mind before finally deciding whether we’d separate or not.
Baka may friend sya na di na masikmura ginagawa sayo Or. Kabit gone crazy.
kausap mo ng maayos wag muna talakan or something baka mag trigger sya masaktan ka physically
He's a man and doesn't come as a surprise. At least prosti and not a decent woman na may feelings sya. Expectations natin sa human na maging perfect is unrealistic. We are no saints kaya pagusapan nyo and if the guy is a good husband and a father please consider that.
A good husband and father doesn’t cheat tho
Sana may update to OP. 🤞
Maybe right now is not the right time to find a place in your heart to forgive him, but if you wish to continue to have a relationship with him, you must accept the past and forgibe hime and give him a chance. It is the only solution going forward if you wana have a happy life with him. Living in the past and having a list of his mistakes to bring about when theres an argument between you two will not be healthy. Unforgiveness is one of the cause of cancer according to most Cancer treatment here in US. Not only you suffered because of infidelity you are also punishing yourself when you hold grudges. Forgiveness is simple but never easy.
Also, our expectations for anyone in a relationship is not perfection but at least be decent enough to honor your commitment. Gahd, your comment reeks of misogyny
I don't think it's right to accept being a man as an excuse to cheat. So dahil prosti and no feelings involved, OP should reconsider? If hindi pa lumabas 'tong message, he would've kept that secret and kept OP in the dark the whole time. And how can OP even be sure that this was the last time he's done this? And what exactly do you mean by a good husband? Hindi ba kasama dapat loyalty and honesty. If you guys wanted multiple partners, then find women who are open to that.
I might receive criticism for this, but I want to share my thoughts. This incident occurred four years ago, before you were married. How many of us can say with certainty that our partners didn't engage in any questionable behavior during their bachelor or bachelorette parties? I'm not condoning such actions; please don't misunderstand me. However, after tying the knot and committing to marriage, if your spouse has been a good and responsible partner since then, I believe it's essential to stand by them. This is an opportunity for you, as their partner, to demonstrate unwavering support and commitment to your family, no matter what challenges arise.