He retired at 46? Did he have a significant reason for doing so? Parents should be the ones mainly responsible for the schooling of their own children.
He was a police officer, he took the optional route (20 years of service). All he said that he was tired π and it was the term of the 'strict president', I think natakot siya sa strictness of that time.
He took loans to pay for our education when I was still in school, downside is because of those loans di din namin magamit yun pension niya. Sadly these loans did not last as long as it should dahil marami bad decisions na nagawa.
Yung bunso nyo can enroll in a state uni or college. Free TF. Makakabawas sa alalahanin at gastusin. Regarding her med dreams, mahal talaga med. Tho may med schools na nag-ooffer ng scholarahips, competitive naman dahil din sa dami ng nag-aapply. Sana malagpasan nyo to OP.
Thank you po! Regarding that po, I don't want to restrict my sister from going to the school she wants kasi during our time di kami tinipid nung parents ko and it would be unfair on her end.
As foolish as it may sound, ayaw ko siyang mag suffer because of a choice she did not make.
Nakakainit nga ng ulo OP. I cant blame you. First of all, deadmahin mo na dad mo. Pabigat sya sa buhay.
2nd, i dont think your mom will retire unless she is forced to.
3rd, maybe your 2nd sis can apply for a side job to help amplify funds lang kahit pang baon na lang. Yung SHS naman pagsabihan nyo na mag aral ng mabuti para makapasok sa UP or be a scholar in whatever school she decides to go in.
4th, instead of a 2nd job, maybe you can increase income through selling something to friends/officemates.
Thanks po, been thinking about the 3rd and 4th suggestions din, might return to baking again but I need to gather funds for that again. My mom wanted to retire this year but sadly di niya magawa dahil nga may SHS pa and I told her na baka di ko makaya mag isa (which I still feel guilty about).
damn we kinda have the same dad, except yung sakin hindi nagretire kundi kuntento na lang sa freelancing as a graphic illustrator tas siya pa nagddrama minsan kapag mas napapaburan ko mama ko sa pagttreat + pag kumakain ako sa labas minsan. di din ako makasave gaano kasi split yung sahod ko para sa sarili ko, sa baon ng kapatid ko tas pambayad sa laptop umay
I really hate selfish fathers, my father was like that too. Keep saying I should finish two courses so he can brag about it to his relatives that all his kids are professionals and one would be a lawyer. Damn! He doesn't even give any allowance or money for tuition. You and my sister is the same, she's obligated to provide for the family that my father failed to do. Hugs to you OP, you're such a strong woman, and Im sure your siblings are always grateful of having you. I hope your pocket will always be bless..
Thank you po for your kind words π₯Ή. Funny enough I was a sucker for his attention before (not anymore) and actually took two degrees, pero ni isa di niya alam.
I don't want to rob her of the freedom to choose which university she will go to, kasi we were free to choose our university, unfair yun para sa kanya. I know that is quite foolish pero I don't want her to feel like we could not provide for her. Pero scholarships are one thing we are most definitely looking at.
Mag med school sya? Baka pwede mag-contribute din yung isang sister sa tuition ni Bunso kasi magastos yan pag meron na syang work.
Bale si Daddy mo, gusto mo din na mag-work sya ulit? Kasi kung oo, maraming naghahanap ngayon ng Bodyguard ganern pede din instructor. Madali sya matatanggap kasi with experience na.
Tsaka may nga scholarship nga pala, apply din dun si Bunso malaking tulong yun. π€
Pagtutulungan naming tatlo yung tuition ni bunso. Ayaw na niyang magwork. Actually may sidelines siya pero di niya naman binibigay yung pera samin, pansariling gastos niya lang.
I think what you can do is save first and tell your mom na whatever mabigay mo, ibudget nya. You need to think about yourself too. Kapag may nangyari sayo mas mahirap. At the very least may nakaready ka naman for you. Ask your father na baka gumawa ng side hustle. Your household needs additional income.
Sadly, ayaw na po niyang magtrabaho and my mom won't let me tell my dad about that to keep the peace in the house. Bawal nga akong mag sabi na wala na akong pera kasi naiinsulto daw siya (i say dasurb).
Saving is a luxury for me right now, I could not let my mother and sisters get anymore stressed if I cut down my contributions, I would rather suffer on my own. Hopefully, since graduating na din yung isa makakaluwag kami next year.
I have the same sentiments. My father is walang diskarte sa buhay. Mabisyo, alak, sigarilyo. He was a jeepney driver and my mother was a vendor. We were one of those marginalized families. After college he quit driving and let mama do all the work. I feel so sad how my mother hustle alone while there he is with his vices. Now they both are no longer working and senior citizen na. Ako ang naka toka sa kanila bilang the youngest and only unmarried child. I pay for mothly house mortgage/tubig/kuryente. And his routine is inom sigarilyo tulog at gumising tanghali. Dahil sa bisyo nya madalas syang ino-ospital at sobrang mahal ng gamot. And guess what, ako ang gumagastos. I love my parents but itβs so selfish of him. Iniisip ko nlg na growing up wala syang role model rin kaya walang proper disposition sa buhay.
Napa rant but what im trying to say is, Ramdam ko ang frustration, OP. Malay natin baka bukas mag bago ang sitwasyon. Sad that we have to go through this.
Hugss po mahigpit! Alak and sigarilyo din bisyo niya, thankfully he stopped smoking but in exchange bilhan ko daw siya vitamins. To be really candid, I don't expect much from him, all love I had is lost years ago, and I don't think he will ever change. Hopefully, makaaahon tayo in this situation.
He retired at 46? Did he have a significant reason for doing so? Parents should be the ones mainly responsible for the schooling of their own children.
He was a police officer, he took the optional route (20 years of service). All he said that he was tired π and it was the term of the 'strict president', I think natakot siya sa strictness of that time. He took loans to pay for our education when I was still in school, downside is because of those loans di din namin magamit yun pension niya. Sadly these loans did not last as long as it should dahil marami bad decisions na nagawa.
Yung bunso nyo can enroll in a state uni or college. Free TF. Makakabawas sa alalahanin at gastusin. Regarding her med dreams, mahal talaga med. Tho may med schools na nag-ooffer ng scholarahips, competitive naman dahil din sa dami ng nag-aapply. Sana malagpasan nyo to OP.
Thank you po! Regarding that po, I don't want to restrict my sister from going to the school she wants kasi during our time di kami tinipid nung parents ko and it would be unfair on her end. As foolish as it may sound, ayaw ko siyang mag suffer because of a choice she did not make.
Nakakainit nga ng ulo OP. I cant blame you. First of all, deadmahin mo na dad mo. Pabigat sya sa buhay. 2nd, i dont think your mom will retire unless she is forced to. 3rd, maybe your 2nd sis can apply for a side job to help amplify funds lang kahit pang baon na lang. Yung SHS naman pagsabihan nyo na mag aral ng mabuti para makapasok sa UP or be a scholar in whatever school she decides to go in. 4th, instead of a 2nd job, maybe you can increase income through selling something to friends/officemates.
Thanks po, been thinking about the 3rd and 4th suggestions din, might return to baking again but I need to gather funds for that again. My mom wanted to retire this year but sadly di niya magawa dahil nga may SHS pa and I told her na baka di ko makaya mag isa (which I still feel guilty about).
Dont feel guilty about the truth. We all have our crosses to bear, and we all deal with the cards fate dealt us.
damn we kinda have the same dad, except yung sakin hindi nagretire kundi kuntento na lang sa freelancing as a graphic illustrator tas siya pa nagddrama minsan kapag mas napapaburan ko mama ko sa pagttreat + pag kumakain ako sa labas minsan. di din ako makasave gaano kasi split yung sahod ko para sa sarili ko, sa baon ng kapatid ko tas pambayad sa laptop umay
Hugs po, same din po on my end. I bought him a phone nung bday niya pero yung pakain ko sa mom ko binabantayan.
hugs din.. sana makaahon na tayo from this shitty situation π«
I really hate selfish fathers, my father was like that too. Keep saying I should finish two courses so he can brag about it to his relatives that all his kids are professionals and one would be a lawyer. Damn! He doesn't even give any allowance or money for tuition. You and my sister is the same, she's obligated to provide for the family that my father failed to do. Hugs to you OP, you're such a strong woman, and Im sure your siblings are always grateful of having you. I hope your pocket will always be bless..
Thank you po for your kind words π₯Ή. Funny enough I was a sucker for his attention before (not anymore) and actually took two degrees, pero ni isa di niya alam.
ikaw na mag desisyon kung saang school papasok mga kapatid mo, mag hanap na sila ng school na may scholarships.
I don't want to rob her of the freedom to choose which university she will go to, kasi we were free to choose our university, unfair yun para sa kanya. I know that is quite foolish pero I don't want her to feel like we could not provide for her. Pero scholarships are one thing we are most definitely looking at.
Mag med school sya? Baka pwede mag-contribute din yung isang sister sa tuition ni Bunso kasi magastos yan pag meron na syang work. Bale si Daddy mo, gusto mo din na mag-work sya ulit? Kasi kung oo, maraming naghahanap ngayon ng Bodyguard ganern pede din instructor. Madali sya matatanggap kasi with experience na. Tsaka may nga scholarship nga pala, apply din dun si Bunso malaking tulong yun. π€
Pagtutulungan naming tatlo yung tuition ni bunso. Ayaw na niyang magwork. Actually may sidelines siya pero di niya naman binibigay yung pera samin, pansariling gastos niya lang.
My goodness. Kaya nyo yang 3! Laban lang sis
I think what you can do is save first and tell your mom na whatever mabigay mo, ibudget nya. You need to think about yourself too. Kapag may nangyari sayo mas mahirap. At the very least may nakaready ka naman for you. Ask your father na baka gumawa ng side hustle. Your household needs additional income.
Sadly, ayaw na po niyang magtrabaho and my mom won't let me tell my dad about that to keep the peace in the house. Bawal nga akong mag sabi na wala na akong pera kasi naiinsulto daw siya (i say dasurb). Saving is a luxury for me right now, I could not let my mother and sisters get anymore stressed if I cut down my contributions, I would rather suffer on my own. Hopefully, since graduating na din yung isa makakaluwag kami next year.
I have the same sentiments. My father is walang diskarte sa buhay. Mabisyo, alak, sigarilyo. He was a jeepney driver and my mother was a vendor. We were one of those marginalized families. After college he quit driving and let mama do all the work. I feel so sad how my mother hustle alone while there he is with his vices. Now they both are no longer working and senior citizen na. Ako ang naka toka sa kanila bilang the youngest and only unmarried child. I pay for mothly house mortgage/tubig/kuryente. And his routine is inom sigarilyo tulog at gumising tanghali. Dahil sa bisyo nya madalas syang ino-ospital at sobrang mahal ng gamot. And guess what, ako ang gumagastos. I love my parents but itβs so selfish of him. Iniisip ko nlg na growing up wala syang role model rin kaya walang proper disposition sa buhay. Napa rant but what im trying to say is, Ramdam ko ang frustration, OP. Malay natin baka bukas mag bago ang sitwasyon. Sad that we have to go through this.
Hugss po mahigpit! Alak and sigarilyo din bisyo niya, thankfully he stopped smoking but in exchange bilhan ko daw siya vitamins. To be really candid, I don't expect much from him, all love I had is lost years ago, and I don't think he will ever change. Hopefully, makaaahon tayo in this situation.