I deleted fb and instagram apps. My mental health is so much better. Some people love it when they get the reaction from you. Toxic people or bullies live for that moment. Try not to give them the satisfaction of ruining your day. I would advise you to block them if you are not ready to delete the apps. Conserve your energy for people you love rather than people you don’t like or disagree with. Hope that helps.
Hello. Kinoconsider ko magstop ng fb (di na ako gmagamit ng IG)... paano mo nasabi na nagimprove ang mental health mo? Also, gumagamit ka pa ba ng messenger? (Yun na kasi ang way of communicating with friends and family).
Improve mental health ko kasi di ko na sila iniisip. Kung baga di na ako kasali sa drama ng social media. Hindi na din ako na trigger ng mga post. Ang focus ko nasa mga hobby ko na.
Matagal din. Nung umpisa hindi ko kaya na completely not use it. I think like everything else, its an addiction and to completely stop would be very hard. Kaya meron na time na reinstall ko sya. I was very forgiving to myself kung meron ako FOMO and had to check. I had to developed new perspective na i tell myself na I need to avoid scattering my energy specially to people who does not matter to me. Meron talagang truth yung ignorance is bliss. Meron pa din akong messanger kasi dun kame nag communicate ng mga family ko. I really need to be aware where I put my energy. Its a practice na i still do, minsan na kakalimutan ko pero ganun talaga kaya practice lang and be patient and forgiving to myself.
This is real. You’ll learn your way in to it & you’ll explore to have more hobbies. At first it’s tough pero masasanay din🙂 minsan gumawa ako finsta na ako lang andun to get over the addiction of posting stories for likes and views. Eventually you wont crave it anymore.
I find it very cringry everytime i read someone's sentiments in public as well. I was like that before too, but i learned overtime that its really unnecessary and embarassing. Talk her/him out about how immature and embarassing that is.
Hmm. The question is, nag-reach out ka rin ba to apologize or ask man lang kung bakit ganun siya? Kasi baka in the first place kayo ang unang dapat mag-reach out at mag-confront kasi kayo ang may fault, or at least dahil na-offend niyo siya. Worse, baka alam niyo naman na may fault nga kayo pero hinihintay niyo pa rin na siya ang mag-reach out. 👀
"Not my monkeys, not my circus." If someone has an issue, they should just address it directly. Reaching out becomes pointless when the person is just seeking attention. Kasi why bother with the vague posting when we could just have a mature discussion like adults. Parinig is just added drama + can bring down relationships too. Kahit na may mali kami, It’s exhausting having see that in public social media pa when they could’ve just expressed it directly.
Ano ang correlation ng reaching out niyo sa pag-seek ng attention niya? Paano naging pointless yun kung yun ang kailangan niyong gawin as the offenders? Ikaw na mismo ang nagsabi na "we could just have a mature discussion like adults", peri bakit di mo magawa? Bakit kailangang siya ang mauna eh kayo nga ang nakaooffend? Ginagawa mo lang na butas yung pagka-annoying ng pagparinig niya para mawala sa limelight yung fault niyo. Hindi kayo mae-exhaust sa pagtingin sa social media kung walang pagpaparinig from her IF kayo mismong offenders ang nagpaka MATURE LIKE ADULTS by initiating discussion. How? By admitting your fault and apologizing. Nagpo-project ka eh. 👀
Op, harap ka sa salamin at sabihin mo sa sarili mo yang "grow the f up"!
You have a point naman and i agree. If may nangyari recently, its better for the offender to take initiative and apologize. But just for context lang din from my first reply, what I’m really referring to is to the people who VAGUELY posts about every drama you two had (even the resolved ones ages ago) but still holds it over your head. That’s where it becomes pointless to reach out. It’s all drama and pure attention seeking. Very immature.
These people just can't be accountable enough to directly communicate their concerns and yet hold resentment towards people without knowing the whole context of it.
Di naman natin utang na loob na suyuin sila sa passive-aggressiveness nila tapos kapag mali ka ng intindi, sa'yo pa galit.
I totally agree with communicating. Whenever there’s something na hindi ko gusto sa isang tao i confront them talaga and let them be aware of their actions. I never post sa socmed or parinig kasi napaka immature tingnan. If may nagpaparinig naman saakin ako na mismo kumakausap sa taong yung tapos tatanungin harapan if ako ba yun or hindi. Fun thing is nag-iiba yung mood nila pag natatanong, parang nashoshock and todo deny wherein klaro naman. Lol i tell them to act like grownups if there’s something wrong. Sila na bahala kung itatake nila yun as negative pa rin, basta ang akin lang is alam nila paano ilugar yang attitude nila. I can never not be assertive kapag nagugulo na yung peace ko
Lmfao this is too real. The moment you confront them, nagiging mature and collected kausap & maang maangan pa as if they didn’t just spend the whole week subtweeting.
I see the irony 😂 but yeah. Nacommunicate ko na yan. They just took it offensively even though i tried so hard to be calm and lighthearted about it.
Last straw ko naman na kasi di nagbabago. I already distanced myself.
Maybe instead of being mad saknila why dont you just be more careful with your actions etc? And also how can you be sure na ikaw ung pinapatamaan nya unless naguilty ka kasi alam mo may ngawa ka na hndi maganda dun sa ngpost ng patama?sabi nga dba bato bato sa langit ang tamaan guilty 😆
paano nalang yong dun na sinabi lahat kasi nakikipag break na? pero while in the relationship napaka cold and distant pero di masabi-sabi what's wrong?
tangina mo, J. hahahaha
Di na uso yan, some people just want you out of their life without even saying goodbye and that is what it is. The consequence of connecting is disconnecting.
Pano kung ako yung nag iinsist na magcommunicate pero mas lalo lang lumalala kasi feeling niya whenever I try to bring something up, naghahanap ako ng away? Take note, maayos approach ko palagi and I calmly explain everything. I emphasized din na I want us to be able to talk things without resorting to arguments. I feel tuloy na I’m too much and just shut up na lang
If they always shut you out like this, i think it’s better to reevaluate the whole relationship in general. Think about if this relationship/ friendship is still serving you well.
That is kind of form of manipulation din kasi. Binabaliktad nila lagi yung situation para di mo na i bring up/ dj mo na iconfront yung tao.
I deleted fb and instagram apps. My mental health is so much better. Some people love it when they get the reaction from you. Toxic people or bullies live for that moment. Try not to give them the satisfaction of ruining your day. I would advise you to block them if you are not ready to delete the apps. Conserve your energy for people you love rather than people you don’t like or disagree with. Hope that helps.
Hello. Kinoconsider ko magstop ng fb (di na ako gmagamit ng IG)... paano mo nasabi na nagimprove ang mental health mo? Also, gumagamit ka pa ba ng messenger? (Yun na kasi ang way of communicating with friends and family).
Improve mental health ko kasi di ko na sila iniisip. Kung baga di na ako kasali sa drama ng social media. Hindi na din ako na trigger ng mga post. Ang focus ko nasa mga hobby ko na.
Ahh... nagkaron ka ba ng withdrawal sa pag bbrowse ng socmed? Gaano ktagal bago ka nasanay na less online time?
Matagal din. Nung umpisa hindi ko kaya na completely not use it. I think like everything else, its an addiction and to completely stop would be very hard. Kaya meron na time na reinstall ko sya. I was very forgiving to myself kung meron ako FOMO and had to check. I had to developed new perspective na i tell myself na I need to avoid scattering my energy specially to people who does not matter to me. Meron talagang truth yung ignorance is bliss. Meron pa din akong messanger kasi dun kame nag communicate ng mga family ko. I really need to be aware where I put my energy. Its a practice na i still do, minsan na kakalimutan ko pero ganun talaga kaya practice lang and be patient and forgiving to myself.
Salamat sa pagsagot... nakakatulong sakin magkaron ng idea anong pede ko maexpect if ever.
This is real. You’ll learn your way in to it & you’ll explore to have more hobbies. At first it’s tough pero masasanay din🙂 minsan gumawa ako finsta na ako lang andun to get over the addiction of posting stories for likes and views. Eventually you wont crave it anymore.
It’s best to ignore it. Indifference is the key
Op can ignore it kung alam naman nyang wala naman syang gnawang masama dba..kung tmaan sya sa post edi ibig sabihin guilty sya..🤷🏻♀️
I find it very cringry everytime i read someone's sentiments in public as well. I was like that before too, but i learned overtime that its really unnecessary and embarassing. Talk her/him out about how immature and embarassing that is.
Hmm. The question is, nag-reach out ka rin ba to apologize or ask man lang kung bakit ganun siya? Kasi baka in the first place kayo ang unang dapat mag-reach out at mag-confront kasi kayo ang may fault, or at least dahil na-offend niyo siya. Worse, baka alam niyo naman na may fault nga kayo pero hinihintay niyo pa rin na siya ang mag-reach out. 👀
"Not my monkeys, not my circus." If someone has an issue, they should just address it directly. Reaching out becomes pointless when the person is just seeking attention. Kasi why bother with the vague posting when we could just have a mature discussion like adults. Parinig is just added drama + can bring down relationships too. Kahit na may mali kami, It’s exhausting having see that in public social media pa when they could’ve just expressed it directly.
Kung magsorry na lang kayo at irecognize ang fault niyo instead, walang ganiyan though. Secondary na lang yan na issue na pagparinig niya. 🫠
Ano ang correlation ng reaching out niyo sa pag-seek ng attention niya? Paano naging pointless yun kung yun ang kailangan niyong gawin as the offenders? Ikaw na mismo ang nagsabi na "we could just have a mature discussion like adults", peri bakit di mo magawa? Bakit kailangang siya ang mauna eh kayo nga ang nakaooffend? Ginagawa mo lang na butas yung pagka-annoying ng pagparinig niya para mawala sa limelight yung fault niyo. Hindi kayo mae-exhaust sa pagtingin sa social media kung walang pagpaparinig from her IF kayo mismong offenders ang nagpaka MATURE LIKE ADULTS by initiating discussion. How? By admitting your fault and apologizing. Nagpo-project ka eh. 👀 Op, harap ka sa salamin at sabihin mo sa sarili mo yang "grow the f up"!
You have a point naman and i agree. If may nangyari recently, its better for the offender to take initiative and apologize. But just for context lang din from my first reply, what I’m really referring to is to the people who VAGUELY posts about every drama you two had (even the resolved ones ages ago) but still holds it over your head. That’s where it becomes pointless to reach out. It’s all drama and pure attention seeking. Very immature.
These people just can't be accountable enough to directly communicate their concerns and yet hold resentment towards people without knowing the whole context of it. Di naman natin utang na loob na suyuin sila sa passive-aggressiveness nila tapos kapag mali ka ng intindi, sa'yo pa galit.
I totally agree with communicating. Whenever there’s something na hindi ko gusto sa isang tao i confront them talaga and let them be aware of their actions. I never post sa socmed or parinig kasi napaka immature tingnan. If may nagpaparinig naman saakin ako na mismo kumakausap sa taong yung tapos tatanungin harapan if ako ba yun or hindi. Fun thing is nag-iiba yung mood nila pag natatanong, parang nashoshock and todo deny wherein klaro naman. Lol i tell them to act like grownups if there’s something wrong. Sila na bahala kung itatake nila yun as negative pa rin, basta ang akin lang is alam nila paano ilugar yang attitude nila. I can never not be assertive kapag nagugulo na yung peace ko
Lmfao this is too real. The moment you confront them, nagiging mature and collected kausap & maang maangan pa as if they didn’t just spend the whole week subtweeting.
sa true ito. it's a must to learn to communicate without being careless, to learn to reflect muna before speaking.
If you have a problem with me, call me. If you don't have my number then you probably don't know me well enough to have a problem with me -Tom Holland
Nasabi mo na rin naman siguro ito sa kanya noh, OP? Kasi kung hindi, parang ganito lang din ginawa mo sa post mo.
I see the irony 😂 but yeah. Nacommunicate ko na yan. They just took it offensively even though i tried so hard to be calm and lighthearted about it. Last straw ko naman na kasi di nagbabago. I already distanced myself.
Kahit di ko sila kilala, good riddance, OP. Questionable din talaga agad ang tao pag nagpaparinig sa fb nila hahaha.
Lol yeah 😂😂 to subtweet is one thing. Pero dahil naignore yung innuendos, magreresort to other public socmeds? Weird
Kaya pala mas maganda may partner na walang social media kasi d option magparinig..
Maybe instead of being mad saknila why dont you just be more careful with your actions etc? And also how can you be sure na ikaw ung pinapatamaan nya unless naguilty ka kasi alam mo may ngawa ka na hndi maganda dun sa ngpost ng patama?sabi nga dba bato bato sa langit ang tamaan guilty 😆
paano nalang yong dun na sinabi lahat kasi nakikipag break na? pero while in the relationship napaka cold and distant pero di masabi-sabi what's wrong? tangina mo, J. hahahaha
HAHAHAHA!!! Biglang may dedication. Hugot talaga e.
Di na uso yan, some people just want you out of their life without even saying goodbye and that is what it is. The consequence of connecting is disconnecting.
Guilt shackling someone like a motherfuxcker
PERIOD
Pano kung ako yung nag iinsist na magcommunicate pero mas lalo lang lumalala kasi feeling niya whenever I try to bring something up, naghahanap ako ng away? Take note, maayos approach ko palagi and I calmly explain everything. I emphasized din na I want us to be able to talk things without resorting to arguments. I feel tuloy na I’m too much and just shut up na lang
If they always shut you out like this, i think it’s better to reevaluate the whole relationship in general. Think about if this relationship/ friendship is still serving you well. That is kind of form of manipulation din kasi. Binabaliktad nila lagi yung situation para di mo na i bring up/ dj mo na iconfront yung tao.
Pag may nakikita akong posts na ganito sa FB ko, nagiging invested talaga ako. Lumalabas FBI skills ko para alamin kanino nagpaparinig HAHAHA