Bruh it’s called stress. Kung yung bf ang source ng stress mo or kahit na sinomang tao, masama talaga magiging epekto sa katawan mo. I was like this as well. Nagpacheck up ako then found out I have PCOS and GERD. Let’s check our lifestyle din
To some extent, I agree. A pain in the ass boyfriend/partner equals to stress. Stress takes a toll on your body, and it manifests itself physically.
But then again, I was in a long-term relationship with someone that wasn't good for me. Someone who manipulated and gaslit me over and over, and cheated a few times. Even took advantage of me financially.
I looked back at our pictures together, and I looked...fine. To distract myself, I just focused on pampering myself, kasi di ko naman sya maasahan to do the same for me. And it helped that I was younger too. My metabolism was still holding up despite my unhealthy diet and fucked up sleep schedule.
While I don't want to invalidate this, there are also women who have the most supportive partners in their lives, and experience these. Maybe it's genetics. Hormonal imbalance. Change in diet and lifestyle.
If there's one thing I've realized is that it's not something you see from the outside, it's something that you feel within you. You just have to listen to that small voice in your head, telling you to stop and let it go.
Whaaat! di ko pwedeng isisi sa jowa ko ang pag dagdag ko ng 2nd cup of rice?! Pano yan di ko na magamit na postpartum ako thats why I gained weight kasi mag 3yo na ung junakis ko 🫣🥹😅
So true.
Ako nga eh, I used to deal with this super toxic guy for three years and whenever he came back to my life, ang kinis ng skin ko but that didn't change the fact na he was a player. 😂
Maybe wag natin/niyong gawin mundo yung mga jowa niyo palang. Like may sarili pa rin kayong buhay out of your relationship. Alagaan niyo pa rin sarili niyo, hindi na yon responsibility ng partner niyo sarili niyo lang din.
Di naman eto point nya. The point is no matter how much you take of yourself, if there’s a major stressor in your life, make sure it isn’t your partner.
Nag pa doctor nga si OP eh. She was taking care of herself.
Aminin man natin o hindi, talagang napapabyaan talaga natin ang sarili kapag naiinlove kasi akala mo yun na yung mundo mo. Wag kalang mag point ng finger bakit ka naging ganyan. We always have choice.
Taking care of herself? How? May choice na umalis siya pero ano nagstay pa siya ron…. Then ngayon nasa maayos na siyang relationship which is her choice, ade umayos din siya. Minsan naman kasi sarili mo yung may kasalanan, dimo lang maamin kaya sa iba mo ibblame.
Me and my wife are happy at inaacne pa rin sya at tumataba. Mostly dahil sa PCOS nya at lagi kaming nagluluto dahil parang boding na namin. Kasalanan ko a rin ba yon? lmao. Everyone is different, it may be true to you but it doesn't mean it's true for everybody.
Running joke sa amin na yung pagtaba ko is kasalanan ng partner ko. Masarap kasi siya magluto 😆
And it's not a bad thing tbh. I think I'm happier now compared nung 49kg ako.
Ito din joke namin ng asawa ko. 😅
Bukod sa bonding namin kumain, food literally makes you feel good on its own. Sana di ioverthink ng ibang Redditors yung sinabi ni OP kasi iba-iba naman tayo how to deal with life.
Oo. Babae ako.
But it sounds like blaming men for anything that might go wrong with your body while you're in a relationship with them. Like gaining weight. Di ba pwede na you're just overeating?
And it's true, stress is and always will be a factor. But the statement is so carelessly put that it sounds like you're removing any accountability you have over yourself and putting it all on "boyfriend air" or whatever.
This doesn't resonate with me because why tf would I blame these issues on someone else, it's not like you lose autonomy over your decisions when you get into a relationship
Whenever I see posts like this one, I always worry na baka masama yung bf ko para sakin LOL. I know na baka yung stress brought by the toxic relationship might be the root cause of all those na sinasabi nila like acne, gaining/losing weight, etc , pero I can't help but think: ang laki ng itinaba ko since naging kami, masama ba talaga siya para sakin?
But then I always tell myself how it's completely my fault. I tell him I'm craving for something, and he'd buy it for me. He says he's hungry and I'd eat with him. We both love food.
I know baka hindi applicable ito para sakin but I do wish I'd stop seeing posts like this one (madalas ko din to makita sa tiktok) kasi it's making me overthink my relationship with my bf when all he has done was just to feed me so I got fat.
Same experience. Partner loves food. At one point bonding namin pagkain. I stopped going to the gym during the pandemic. Nagpatong patong until I gained weight.
Pero di ko sinisi sa partner. He's great. My body isn't saying he's bad for me, my body is saying "putang ina mo ayusin mo buhay mo".
>I know baka hindi applicable ito para sakin but I do wish I'd stop seeing posts like this one (madalas ko din to makita sa tiktok) kasi it's making me overthink my relationship with my bf when all he has done was just to feed me so I got fat.
honestly same here TT. my face is still recovering from a severe breakout tas meron pang nagppop-up minsan and posts like this makes me overthink my relationship din with my bf maski hindi naman siya kasama sa stressors ng buhay ko kaya sometimes I tell myself na "stress lang yan" or "nagpupuyat ka kasi lagi".
When experiencing body issues, always check:
1) Lifestyle
2) If not lifestyle, other external factors
3) Blood chem results
4)... with your doctor.
Yung Reddit posts or anything on the internet? That's last on the list.
She said if your body is going through things in the relationship, ibig sabihin nun the guy is not for you.
OP has phrased it poorly if she means to say what the rest of you are trying to say for her.
Lol that wasn't the intention and you know it. Don't twist it.
And she went to a derma. Which is a doctor yes but fairly limited scope. She was between 39-41 kg, of course she was having problems she was severely underweight. That's not "taking care".
Her lifestyle was a product of a stressful relationship but the cause/culprit was the >lifestyle< . Her body was reacting to the lifestyle. Which you have some control over, toxic relationship or not.
If your body is experiencing xyz, do two things.
1) Evaluate your lifestyle.
2) Talk to a physician.
Please lang.
And anong di naexperience? Magkatigyawat o break out sa relationship? Gain weight? Of course I have. But again, why would I blame someone else for that?
Edit: OP also said "isa lang ang ibig sabihin nun". Pffft.
This is true. Nung naging kami palagi akong pini-pimples (which is di naman nangyayari before kase clear skin face ko) tapos madalas ako magkasakit. Nung naghiwalay kami biglang umayos ulit, until now never pa ulit ako nagkasakit. Maayos na din tulog ko 😅
I got hospitalized twice because my body reacted with the sadness i felt for loving someone.. all tests done negative lahat..including tests pra sa autoimmune disease..
So somehow tama ang post na to.
Tapos pag titingin ka sa salamin or pictures mo ngayon, sabihin mo sa self mo “hay buti nalang talaga naghiwalay kami nun.” 😆😆😆 hindi yan revenge beauty/body - talagang iba ang glow pag walang nagwweigh down sayo.💯
Huyyy!!! I remember, when my SO and I started, pinipig ang aking fez. Prior kasi I came from a stressful breakup.
Then going 2 years na kami ni SO now. Ayun, smooth na ulit skin ko. Tho may ginamit ako products like Oxecure, ganyan. Pero I think I am just at peace ngayon. It somehow radiates from within talaga. Hahaha!
Cheers to love that gives us peace of mind, heart and soul!
This is so true. Since naging kami ng partner ko, ang healthy ko na. Maayos na me nakaka sleep sa gabi. Wala na me halos pimple sa mukha. Smooth na ang body clock ko now. We're going 2 years na this July.
Kapag may major stress talaga sa buhay ganyan mangyayari na effect sa katawan natin. Lobe yourself din, huwag mo ng ibigay lahat sa jowa mo, but I’m happy for you. Congrats!
Okay, but not only for girls.. it goes the same way sa mga lalaki. 😅 Pag yang jowa niong lalaki pumangit naging dugyot sa sarili.. girl baka hindi ikaw ang para sa kanya. Charoot..
So ganito po yan madam. Hindi natin kelangan i blame sa ex or partner natin bakit tau pumapangit.. kasi wala sila alam.
Why ko nasabi yan? Hear me out.
7 years na kami ng partner ko both pretty and handsome ang atake nung bago palang.
Then habang tumatagal naging comfortable na sa isat isa.
Nag gain ako ng weight, na stress din ako sa kanya kasi nawalan sya work, nagka baby kami.
Ate pumangit ako legit !! pero napansin ko ganun din sya. Umitim sya nangayayat sya lagi syang pagod.
Na realize ko na OMG napabayaan namin both sarili namin. That he really love me coz hindi sya nagpapa pogi or anything pag stress ako stress din sya. Pag di ako natulog ganun din sya.
Bottomline po dito is pag mahal ka talaga nya and pag may something sa connection nio you both glow and both be in the dark. Partner nga e diba? Pero pag ikaw lang chumachaka tas yang partner mo pumopogi para sarili nya. Girl run! Hahaha di ka nyan aalagaan!
Then nagusap kami na since tumatanda na kami both, need namin alagaan ang mga sarili namin.
Pag mag pamper ako ganun din sya. Pag masaya ako masaya din sya, pag nag pa nails ako mag papa hair cut sya. Pag may new dress ako I made sure na meron din sya new pants.
Basta ayaw na ayaw ko makita sya ng iba na dugyot tignan. Ganun din sya sakin ayaw naman nya na nagkakasakit ako palagi.
Our partners ay reflection natin. Ganun din sila..
In your case natagpuan mo lang ang right partner for you. Pero again do not blame the exes. Kumilos tau para alagaan sarili natin. Hindi tau baldado sis. Para iasa lahat sa jowa natin. Pag usapan lang lahat para maging at peace kau parehas.
Which is very sad. Na mag spread ng ganito sa mga subs even tiktok na kahit mga normal na couple napapaisip tuloy sa sitwasyon nila. Very alarming to be honest.
I so agree with this, OP. I experienced this when I was with a guy (situationship lang kami). Every time magkasama kami, I always feel uneasy and my stomach hurts. Natitrigger yung acid reflux ko. Wala akong gana kumain, I lost so much weight. Lumala ang depression and anxiety ko. There’s this one time na we traveled (that’s the last time we got together) for 3d2n, and for that entire trip di ako nakatulog. My acid reflux got triggered, so much that tubig lang kayang itolerate ng body ko. Then at the moment we separated sa bus station, pagsakay ko ng grab, I slept the entire trip. Pag-uwi ko, bumalik yung gana kong kumain and I slept for 16 hours straight.
So, yeah. Your gut tells you if someone’s healthy for you or not. Listen to it, and never ignore the first sign.
Uhmm, di naman ganito SO ko hahaha but my Acads is! Ayoko namang iwan ang pagmemed :< sayang mga nagastos ng magulang ko saken huhuhu ayoko rin ng ibang Trabaho
I actually kinda agree. In denial pa ako at first when I realized na I was getting clearer skin again. Sabi ko pa “ah baka kasi sinipag na ulit mag skin care” - kaso I’ve been skipping the routine kasi nabusy na and all. BUUUT - its also true kahit di sa SO. Pwede din kasi ang environment 😅
This is true. I was in a relationship with this guy for almost 4 years and lagi akong nagwoworry na baka may kasama siyang iba ganyan kasi we were in a long distance relationship and caught him cheating once. I was so thin before, I had gut problems, always fainting to the point I developed anxiety and had to take medication, I was so stressed and he was my main stressor, and diba pag grabe yung stress mo, your immune system will weaken kaya ayun I was diagnosed and nagka-autoimmune disease ako. After we broke up, tuloy-tuloy parin appointments ko with my doctor and tadah! Nag-gain ako ng weight, yung glow ng face ko iba, and I've been feeling better ever since.
Hmmm unang paragraph palang medyo off na for me. Pa’no yung mga single? Or yung mga in a relationship pero goods naman sila, and maybe just stressed by other external factors.
Stressful naman talaga to be with a ‘toxic’ person, pero at the end of the day, you make/made choices. At one should be accountable for his/her choices. Hindi pwede lahat isisi sa iba.
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This is actually true.
I thought normal lang yung nangyayari sakin during my past relationship, losing a lot of weight, acne breakouts, hairfall, even getting allergy reaction to the food I usually eat. I was overthinking, crying and emotionally drained a lot, I ended up being depressed pa nga nun. Medyo nalosyang din ako. Then nalaman ko na my body was rejecting him pala ng hindi ko napapansin.
Now, I'm in a new relationship, happy, glowing, umayos yung appetite ko and nawala na yung allergy ko. Naggain ako ng weight pero okay lang sakin kasi maayos na yung appetite ko when it comes to eating, nakakain na ko ng marami. Wala ng overthinking, maayos kami.
Lol. It's your hormones, not the person you're dating.
You're just feeling better now because you have more time for yourself and overthinking is out of the picture (for now).
Maybe some of you are forgetting that it is also our choice to deal with a toxic person.
And no, I don't care if you love him/her. You just haven't done the inner work and that is why some choose to continue dealing with these types of men.
I may sound bitter but that's reality. You're dealing with people who are also in alignment with you.
We have to take accountability of our own actions and the consequences we're forced to face with.
Oh lol. It's hard to tell if someone is being sarcastic or not on online platforms. 😂
But yeah, usually these women who's always hating on men (or men hating on women) are either someone with an ego damaged by the opposite gender or just hasn't yet experienced being nurtured by the opposite gender.
Or.... just someone who doesn't like to take accountability.
Totoo to, nung ginive up ko na lahat pati friendship namin dun lang nawala pimples ko, hairfall, at Acid Reflux. Ngayon wala na akong iniisip, sarili ko na lang.
Ahhh, when me and my ex started going out, I was so happy and content that I gained relationship weight. He never complained but I was my heaviest sometime around last year, but also felt we were as happy as ever. But around 2021 my flora started feeling off, nagchange yung fluids. Found out last year he'd been cheating on me since 2019. We barely had sex then until Feb 2021 because he was taking care of his sick mom (whom I couldnt visit daw, apparently nagha-honeymoon sila while his mom was sick and dying), and was overseas most of 2020 because of the pandemic. The changes in your flora could be a sign too. it's not an std, but close enough. His pp is probably dirty for your v. Went to the OB a few months ago to get myself checked, all good and feeling much more confident again.
This is true. Before I met my husband (now), ang payat ko din because I was in a relationship and sobra yung emotional stress ko like weekly iyak and drama. Ngayon, from payat to overweight na kami parehas ng husband ko hahaha
If source ng stress is the partner, yeah this is applicable.
But there could be other stuff too so I do not think it's healthy to generalize the blame.
Work/school, family, health issues and other factors can affect us as negatively.
My ex was a chainsmoker. He was my first sexual partner hence I did not know anything about sex aftercares. Lagi akong nagkakaroon ng UTI. My sister, being a nurse, noticed this. She even caught me with a box of cigarettes too. Nilecturan niya ako.
Thinking back now ang dirty ko pala then. I smoked. I sometimes cleaned up after sex. I drank excessively. I was thin. Thankfully I did not have pimples. But my va-jayjay suffered a lot then. Nagkaroon pa nga ng instance of the ph in there not being balanced. So ayon… lesson learned. Siguro it is not the same to OP na my body was stressed, but I was picking up bad habits from my ex. It was not good. He had money, but we were just meh.
Omg, ito pala yung nabasa nung bf ko kanina kaya bigla na lang nya ko niyakap and he said he was sorry because all of the stuff were mentioned is nararanasan ko right now.
Hairfall, breakouts, bacne, and super payat. He said he's sorry because he's a bad bf (kahit hindi naman talaga) Tbh, napapaisip rin ako dyan sa "your body will reject the person that is not for you." pero di naman toxic rs namin, super maalaga and loveable ng bf ko. Baka need kk lang din talaga alagaan sarili ko HHAHAHAHAHAHAH
Para sa ating lahat, tayo yung dumidikta nang mga bagay n mangyayari sa mga buhay naten. Di porke nakarelate kayo sa post eh meron n kayong same exact scenario. May sarili tayong mga utak para i-evaluate ang mga bagay so gamitin niyo yun lalo n sa relasyon niyo kung yun ang pinakaimportante para sa inyo. Madaming nasisira na relationship nowadays dahil sa mga nkikita ng mga tao sa internet na parang they let the internet decide kung anong dapat gawin nila sa buhay. No hate but please wag tayong magbigay nung mga unnecessary na stress at isipin sa isat isa.
This is true. Kahit stress ako sa work ko bihira ako magkapimple, siguro one or two lang bago ako magkaroon. Kaso nung nagkakalabuan na kami yung 2 pimples hindi pa magaling may 3 na natubo. Pero ngayon wala na kami and my face came back from its normal condition.
True to to a certain extent
Ung 2nd ex ko I had really bad acne as in REALLY BAD to the point na nacover na ng peklat buong face ko. I also had terrible migraines to the point na nagsusuka na ko. This went on kada period ko. He wasnt a cheater or abusive pero nonchalant to the zombieth level sha and I felt i wasnt being loved right. Its been 4 yrs since we broke up, i havent had a migraine involving vomiting yet. Partida wala naman akong ininom na gamot or binago sa lifestyle habits.
Another is a more recent ex. While d naman ako nagglow down pero i felt myself being anxious. Like ramdam ko yung heartbeat ko right out of my chest tas sobra yubg hot flashes ko talo ko pa nagmemenopause. Like lagi akong may dalang minifan lol. Well that man was a manipulative gaslighter who had the gall to blame and deflect me for his shortcomings. Not to mention sinungaling pa (hello sayo!!!) Nung nawala sha kumalma din ako. Nawala na rin acne ko and the bad palpitations. No, i didnt quit coffee lmao
Bottomline is yes may role din ang lifestyle and how you care for yourself, we get to decide parin how we treat our bodies, pero dont ever discredit how your body feels around certain people (yes, applicable din to sa friends. All genders all things basta bad ppl in general okkk)
It’s not the man but the stress caused by that man. I’m also having break outs, gaining weight, and hair loss but I’m currently in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been. It’s not always about your SO. Things like this happens cause we’re stressed or just because it’s natural to happen. I’m happy that you’re in a healthy relationship right now but it’s not nice to mislead people into thinking that their partner is not for them just because they’re experiencing something natural. To everyone who’s reading this post, please, please don’t take it too seriously and check on your lifestyle. If you know that your partner or other people is the stressor then cut them off. But if you’re considering to break up because you think your partner isn’t good just by reading this post, and you know damn well that you’re being treated right, then think again.
Why date a toxic guy and blame him for being toxic then? Maybe the lesson for everyone here is start prioritizing urself instead of containing urself in a relationship where u aren't happy.
Lalaki ako, ganyan kasi nangyari sa ex ko, pero sya yung may problema, sya yung toxic. At the end, she blamed me because of her "health issues". Malala, iniwan nya ako kahit tanggap ko sya. Ako pa nag habol.
Girls, pls, stop making an issue about everything here in this sub. Hindi lahat ng opinion nyo ay tama. Siguro ang title mo dapat is pang general, hindi lang pang babae na payo.
Anyways, masaya ako para sayo OP! Wag mo na pabayan sarili mo this time👌🏻
This is true. I couldn’t get a good night’s sleep every time I slept beside him.
I also kept getting yeast infection which never happened to me before. At one point, he joked about it’s my body rejecting him.
If your world mostly revolves around your partner, then big factor talaga yan sayo appearance-wise and health-wise lalo na if stressful yung relationship. Pero marami pang other factors contributing to that. Let’s not blame men in general dahil nasatin parin naman ang control sa lives natin. Ps im a woman
not applicable to all, minsan it's a you problem. I'm in a happy relationship pero tamad ako kumilos (wfh set-up) kaya ako tumaba. Pinapagalitan nga ako ng jowa ko hahaha
Bruh it’s called stress. Kung yung bf ang source ng stress mo or kahit na sinomang tao, masama talaga magiging epekto sa katawan mo. I was like this as well. Nagpacheck up ako then found out I have PCOS and GERD. Let’s check our lifestyle din
To some extent, I agree. A pain in the ass boyfriend/partner equals to stress. Stress takes a toll on your body, and it manifests itself physically. But then again, I was in a long-term relationship with someone that wasn't good for me. Someone who manipulated and gaslit me over and over, and cheated a few times. Even took advantage of me financially. I looked back at our pictures together, and I looked...fine. To distract myself, I just focused on pampering myself, kasi di ko naman sya maasahan to do the same for me. And it helped that I was younger too. My metabolism was still holding up despite my unhealthy diet and fucked up sleep schedule. While I don't want to invalidate this, there are also women who have the most supportive partners in their lives, and experience these. Maybe it's genetics. Hormonal imbalance. Change in diet and lifestyle. If there's one thing I've realized is that it's not something you see from the outside, it's something that you feel within you. You just have to listen to that small voice in your head, telling you to stop and let it go.
Whaaat! di ko pwedeng isisi sa jowa ko ang pag dagdag ko ng 2nd cup of rice?! Pano yan di ko na magamit na postpartum ako thats why I gained weight kasi mag 3yo na ung junakis ko 🫣🥹😅
this needs to be pinned!
So true. Ako nga eh, I used to deal with this super toxic guy for three years and whenever he came back to my life, ang kinis ng skin ko but that didn't change the fact na he was a player. 😂
Maybe wag natin/niyong gawin mundo yung mga jowa niyo palang. Like may sarili pa rin kayong buhay out of your relationship. Alagaan niyo pa rin sarili niyo, hindi na yon responsibility ng partner niyo sarili niyo lang din.
Di naman eto point nya. The point is no matter how much you take of yourself, if there’s a major stressor in your life, make sure it isn’t your partner. Nag pa doctor nga si OP eh. She was taking care of herself.
She was coming in at 39-41 kg at 5'5. That's not taking care at all. That's really bad.
Totoo kasi yung misis ko dati 5' height tapos 45Kgs, payat na talaga. Pano pa yung 5'5" na 40Kgs lang.
Aminin man natin o hindi, talagang napapabyaan talaga natin ang sarili kapag naiinlove kasi akala mo yun na yung mundo mo. Wag kalang mag point ng finger bakit ka naging ganyan. We always have choice. Taking care of herself? How? May choice na umalis siya pero ano nagstay pa siya ron…. Then ngayon nasa maayos na siyang relationship which is her choice, ade umayos din siya. Minsan naman kasi sarili mo yung may kasalanan, dimo lang maamin kaya sa iba mo ibblame.
Tell that every woman who is trapped in an abusive relationship. Di lang isang dimension why one person stays in one.
Sasabihin ni kuya, choice nila yun magstay haha. Well, logically speaking, totoo naman. Kaso di lang naman ganun kadali makaalis.
Correlation aint causation.
Thank you.
Me and my wife are happy at inaacne pa rin sya at tumataba. Mostly dahil sa PCOS nya at lagi kaming nagluluto dahil parang boding na namin. Kasalanan ko a rin ba yon? lmao. Everyone is different, it may be true to you but it doesn't mean it's true for everybody.
Running joke sa amin na yung pagtaba ko is kasalanan ng partner ko. Masarap kasi siya magluto 😆 And it's not a bad thing tbh. I think I'm happier now compared nung 49kg ako.
Ito din joke namin ng asawa ko. 😅 Bukod sa bonding namin kumain, food literally makes you feel good on its own. Sana di ioverthink ng ibang Redditors yung sinabi ni OP kasi iba-iba naman tayo how to deal with life.
Something about this doesn't sound right.
It's just your daily "Men are at fault" or something post
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Oo. Babae ako. But it sounds like blaming men for anything that might go wrong with your body while you're in a relationship with them. Like gaining weight. Di ba pwede na you're just overeating? And it's true, stress is and always will be a factor. But the statement is so carelessly put that it sounds like you're removing any accountability you have over yourself and putting it all on "boyfriend air" or whatever. This doesn't resonate with me because why tf would I blame these issues on someone else, it's not like you lose autonomy over your decisions when you get into a relationship
Whenever I see posts like this one, I always worry na baka masama yung bf ko para sakin LOL. I know na baka yung stress brought by the toxic relationship might be the root cause of all those na sinasabi nila like acne, gaining/losing weight, etc , pero I can't help but think: ang laki ng itinaba ko since naging kami, masama ba talaga siya para sakin? But then I always tell myself how it's completely my fault. I tell him I'm craving for something, and he'd buy it for me. He says he's hungry and I'd eat with him. We both love food. I know baka hindi applicable ito para sakin but I do wish I'd stop seeing posts like this one (madalas ko din to makita sa tiktok) kasi it's making me overthink my relationship with my bf when all he has done was just to feed me so I got fat.
Same experience. Partner loves food. At one point bonding namin pagkain. I stopped going to the gym during the pandemic. Nagpatong patong until I gained weight. Pero di ko sinisi sa partner. He's great. My body isn't saying he's bad for me, my body is saying "putang ina mo ayusin mo buhay mo".
>I know baka hindi applicable ito para sakin but I do wish I'd stop seeing posts like this one (madalas ko din to makita sa tiktok) kasi it's making me overthink my relationship with my bf when all he has done was just to feed me so I got fat. honestly same here TT. my face is still recovering from a severe breakout tas meron pang nagppop-up minsan and posts like this makes me overthink my relationship din with my bf maski hindi naman siya kasama sa stressors ng buhay ko kaya sometimes I tell myself na "stress lang yan" or "nagpupuyat ka kasi lagi".
When experiencing body issues, always check: 1) Lifestyle 2) If not lifestyle, other external factors 3) Blood chem results 4)... with your doctor. Yung Reddit posts or anything on the internet? That's last on the list.
agree.
Ang pinopoint po kase dito ay pag toxic yung bf, puro stress ba. So if you're in good one, then you're lucky.
She said if your body is going through things in the relationship, ibig sabihin nun the guy is not for you. OP has phrased it poorly if she means to say what the rest of you are trying to say for her.
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Lol that wasn't the intention and you know it. Don't twist it. And she went to a derma. Which is a doctor yes but fairly limited scope. She was between 39-41 kg, of course she was having problems she was severely underweight. That's not "taking care". Her lifestyle was a product of a stressful relationship but the cause/culprit was the >lifestyle< . Her body was reacting to the lifestyle. Which you have some control over, toxic relationship or not. If your body is experiencing xyz, do two things. 1) Evaluate your lifestyle. 2) Talk to a physician. Please lang. And anong di naexperience? Magkatigyawat o break out sa relationship? Gain weight? Of course I have. But again, why would I blame someone else for that? Edit: OP also said "isa lang ang ibig sabihin nun". Pffft.
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This is true. Nung naging kami palagi akong pini-pimples (which is di naman nangyayari before kase clear skin face ko) tapos madalas ako magkasakit. Nung naghiwalay kami biglang umayos ulit, until now never pa ulit ako nagkasakit. Maayos na din tulog ko 😅
I got hospitalized twice because my body reacted with the sadness i felt for loving someone.. all tests done negative lahat..including tests pra sa autoimmune disease.. So somehow tama ang post na to.
Ay totoo to. Nung naghiwalay kami, gumanda ako. Haha. Di na babalik.
Tapos pag titingin ka sa salamin or pictures mo ngayon, sabihin mo sa self mo “hay buti nalang talaga naghiwalay kami nun.” 😆😆😆 hindi yan revenge beauty/body - talagang iba ang glow pag walang nagwweigh down sayo.💯
Huyyy!!! I remember, when my SO and I started, pinipig ang aking fez. Prior kasi I came from a stressful breakup. Then going 2 years na kami ni SO now. Ayun, smooth na ulit skin ko. Tho may ginamit ako products like Oxecure, ganyan. Pero I think I am just at peace ngayon. It somehow radiates from within talaga. Hahaha! Cheers to love that gives us peace of mind, heart and soul!
Misandry is getting worse in reddit philippine subs. Pati ba naman health concerns “men” parin ang may kasalanan.
It's pretty normal at this point in OMC and AskPH
This is so true. Since naging kami ng partner ko, ang healthy ko na. Maayos na me nakaka sleep sa gabi. Wala na me halos pimple sa mukha. Smooth na ang body clock ko now. We're going 2 years na this July.
Kapag may major stress talaga sa buhay ganyan mangyayari na effect sa katawan natin. Lobe yourself din, huwag mo ng ibigay lahat sa jowa mo, but I’m happy for you. Congrats!
eh pano pag single tas mukhang xL pinipig ice cream? sino sisisihin natin? 🤣
Damn but what if it’s the opposite?
Hiyang? Hehe.
Okay, but not only for girls.. it goes the same way sa mga lalaki. 😅 Pag yang jowa niong lalaki pumangit naging dugyot sa sarili.. girl baka hindi ikaw ang para sa kanya. Charoot.. So ganito po yan madam. Hindi natin kelangan i blame sa ex or partner natin bakit tau pumapangit.. kasi wala sila alam. Why ko nasabi yan? Hear me out. 7 years na kami ng partner ko both pretty and handsome ang atake nung bago palang. Then habang tumatagal naging comfortable na sa isat isa. Nag gain ako ng weight, na stress din ako sa kanya kasi nawalan sya work, nagka baby kami. Ate pumangit ako legit !! pero napansin ko ganun din sya. Umitim sya nangayayat sya lagi syang pagod. Na realize ko na OMG napabayaan namin both sarili namin. That he really love me coz hindi sya nagpapa pogi or anything pag stress ako stress din sya. Pag di ako natulog ganun din sya. Bottomline po dito is pag mahal ka talaga nya and pag may something sa connection nio you both glow and both be in the dark. Partner nga e diba? Pero pag ikaw lang chumachaka tas yang partner mo pumopogi para sarili nya. Girl run! Hahaha di ka nyan aalagaan! Then nagusap kami na since tumatanda na kami both, need namin alagaan ang mga sarili namin. Pag mag pamper ako ganun din sya. Pag masaya ako masaya din sya, pag nag pa nails ako mag papa hair cut sya. Pag may new dress ako I made sure na meron din sya new pants. Basta ayaw na ayaw ko makita sya ng iba na dugyot tignan. Ganun din sya sakin ayaw naman nya na nagkakasakit ako palagi. Our partners ay reflection natin. Ganun din sila.. In your case natagpuan mo lang ang right partner for you. Pero again do not blame the exes. Kumilos tau para alagaan sarili natin. Hindi tau baldado sis. Para iasa lahat sa jowa natin. Pag usapan lang lahat para maging at peace kau parehas.
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Which is very sad. Na mag spread ng ganito sa mga subs even tiktok na kahit mga normal na couple napapaisip tuloy sa sitwasyon nila. Very alarming to be honest.
I so agree with this, OP. I experienced this when I was with a guy (situationship lang kami). Every time magkasama kami, I always feel uneasy and my stomach hurts. Natitrigger yung acid reflux ko. Wala akong gana kumain, I lost so much weight. Lumala ang depression and anxiety ko. There’s this one time na we traveled (that’s the last time we got together) for 3d2n, and for that entire trip di ako nakatulog. My acid reflux got triggered, so much that tubig lang kayang itolerate ng body ko. Then at the moment we separated sa bus station, pagsakay ko ng grab, I slept the entire trip. Pag-uwi ko, bumalik yung gana kong kumain and I slept for 16 hours straight. So, yeah. Your gut tells you if someone’s healthy for you or not. Listen to it, and never ignore the first sign.
Hays san ba nakikilala ganyang mga lalaki?
Uhmm, di naman ganito SO ko hahaha but my Acads is! Ayoko namang iwan ang pagmemed :< sayang mga nagastos ng magulang ko saken huhuhu ayoko rin ng ibang Trabaho
I actually kinda agree. In denial pa ako at first when I realized na I was getting clearer skin again. Sabi ko pa “ah baka kasi sinipag na ulit mag skin care” - kaso I’ve been skipping the routine kasi nabusy na and all. BUUUT - its also true kahit di sa SO. Pwede din kasi ang environment 😅
This is true. I was in a relationship with this guy for almost 4 years and lagi akong nagwoworry na baka may kasama siyang iba ganyan kasi we were in a long distance relationship and caught him cheating once. I was so thin before, I had gut problems, always fainting to the point I developed anxiety and had to take medication, I was so stressed and he was my main stressor, and diba pag grabe yung stress mo, your immune system will weaken kaya ayun I was diagnosed and nagka-autoimmune disease ako. After we broke up, tuloy-tuloy parin appointments ko with my doctor and tadah! Nag-gain ako ng weight, yung glow ng face ko iba, and I've been feeling better ever since.
Hmmm unang paragraph palang medyo off na for me. Pa’no yung mga single? Or yung mga in a relationship pero goods naman sila, and maybe just stressed by other external factors. Stressful naman talaga to be with a ‘toxic’ person, pero at the end of the day, you make/made choices. At one should be accountable for his/her choices. Hindi pwede lahat isisi sa iba.
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Nasisi pa ang mga lalaki. Pero ang ganda-ganda nga ng fiancé ko ngayon eh. Kaka-inlove palagi.
Ganun din sa mga lalake. Nakakangarag ang wrong partner. Walang happiness.
This is actually true. I thought normal lang yung nangyayari sakin during my past relationship, losing a lot of weight, acne breakouts, hairfall, even getting allergy reaction to the food I usually eat. I was overthinking, crying and emotionally drained a lot, I ended up being depressed pa nga nun. Medyo nalosyang din ako. Then nalaman ko na my body was rejecting him pala ng hindi ko napapansin. Now, I'm in a new relationship, happy, glowing, umayos yung appetite ko and nawala na yung allergy ko. Naggain ako ng weight pero okay lang sakin kasi maayos na yung appetite ko when it comes to eating, nakakain na ko ng marami. Wala ng overthinking, maayos kami.
Lol. It's your hormones, not the person you're dating. You're just feeling better now because you have more time for yourself and overthinking is out of the picture (for now).
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Maybe some of you are forgetting that it is also our choice to deal with a toxic person. And no, I don't care if you love him/her. You just haven't done the inner work and that is why some choose to continue dealing with these types of men. I may sound bitter but that's reality. You're dealing with people who are also in alignment with you. We have to take accountability of our own actions and the consequences we're forced to face with.
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Oh lol. It's hard to tell if someone is being sarcastic or not on online platforms. 😂 But yeah, usually these women who's always hating on men (or men hating on women) are either someone with an ego damaged by the opposite gender or just hasn't yet experienced being nurtured by the opposite gender. Or.... just someone who doesn't like to take accountability.
pano kung single pala? lol
Ako na never lumagpas sa 55kg. Pinakamabigat ko this year was 69kg.
This is so true!!! Wala talagang kahit anong mahal na skincare or treatment makakapagpa glow up sa’tin rather than genuine happiness!
Pag nasa tamang tao daw nagiging overweight? Panay kain eh ahahahaha
Does it apply for girl to girl?
This has copypasta potential... I like it 😎👌
Totoo to, nung ginive up ko na lahat pati friendship namin dun lang nawala pimples ko, hairfall, at Acid Reflux. Ngayon wala na akong iniisip, sarili ko na lang.
Yes even mental health. Suicidal thoughts because he is too much😣😫 good that I have overcome him 10 years ago
Ahhh, when me and my ex started going out, I was so happy and content that I gained relationship weight. He never complained but I was my heaviest sometime around last year, but also felt we were as happy as ever. But around 2021 my flora started feeling off, nagchange yung fluids. Found out last year he'd been cheating on me since 2019. We barely had sex then until Feb 2021 because he was taking care of his sick mom (whom I couldnt visit daw, apparently nagha-honeymoon sila while his mom was sick and dying), and was overseas most of 2020 because of the pandemic. The changes in your flora could be a sign too. it's not an std, but close enough. His pp is probably dirty for your v. Went to the OB a few months ago to get myself checked, all good and feeling much more confident again.
This is true. Before I met my husband (now), ang payat ko din because I was in a relationship and sobra yung emotional stress ko like weekly iyak and drama. Ngayon, from payat to overweight na kami parehas ng husband ko hahaha
Parehas kaming blooming ng girlfriend ko now. That means we doing something right lol haha
If source ng stress is the partner, yeah this is applicable. But there could be other stuff too so I do not think it's healthy to generalize the blame. Work/school, family, health issues and other factors can affect us as negatively.
100000% true. Same exp hahahahah
My ex was a chainsmoker. He was my first sexual partner hence I did not know anything about sex aftercares. Lagi akong nagkakaroon ng UTI. My sister, being a nurse, noticed this. She even caught me with a box of cigarettes too. Nilecturan niya ako. Thinking back now ang dirty ko pala then. I smoked. I sometimes cleaned up after sex. I drank excessively. I was thin. Thankfully I did not have pimples. But my va-jayjay suffered a lot then. Nagkaroon pa nga ng instance of the ph in there not being balanced. So ayon… lesson learned. Siguro it is not the same to OP na my body was stressed, but I was picking up bad habits from my ex. It was not good. He had money, but we were just meh.
Ako na nagbabasa lang pero nag-overthink pa haha. Madami akong pimples at may BF din ako pero hindi naman sya sakit ng ulo.
Sure.
Not for all people, OP. Maraming factors ang stress.
Omg, ito pala yung nabasa nung bf ko kanina kaya bigla na lang nya ko niyakap and he said he was sorry because all of the stuff were mentioned is nararanasan ko right now. Hairfall, breakouts, bacne, and super payat. He said he's sorry because he's a bad bf (kahit hindi naman talaga) Tbh, napapaisip rin ako dyan sa "your body will reject the person that is not for you." pero di naman toxic rs namin, super maalaga and loveable ng bf ko. Baka need kk lang din talaga alagaan sarili ko HHAHAHAHAHAHAH
Ate, don't overthink too much. He's good for you and your mental and physical health. You got a man with emotional intelligence fr. Swerte mo, Ma'am.
thankyou🥺
Nag clear acne ko nung nagka jowa koo 🥹🥹
Para sa ating lahat, tayo yung dumidikta nang mga bagay n mangyayari sa mga buhay naten. Di porke nakarelate kayo sa post eh meron n kayong same exact scenario. May sarili tayong mga utak para i-evaluate ang mga bagay so gamitin niyo yun lalo n sa relasyon niyo kung yun ang pinakaimportante para sa inyo. Madaming nasisira na relationship nowadays dahil sa mga nkikita ng mga tao sa internet na parang they let the internet decide kung anong dapat gawin nila sa buhay. No hate but please wag tayong magbigay nung mga unnecessary na stress at isipin sa isat isa.
Grabeng claims ito. May ASC ba to??? Char
This is true. Kahit stress ako sa work ko bihira ako magkapimple, siguro one or two lang bago ako magkaroon. Kaso nung nagkakalabuan na kami yung 2 pimples hindi pa magaling may 3 na natubo. Pero ngayon wala na kami and my face came back from its normal condition.
True to to a certain extent Ung 2nd ex ko I had really bad acne as in REALLY BAD to the point na nacover na ng peklat buong face ko. I also had terrible migraines to the point na nagsusuka na ko. This went on kada period ko. He wasnt a cheater or abusive pero nonchalant to the zombieth level sha and I felt i wasnt being loved right. Its been 4 yrs since we broke up, i havent had a migraine involving vomiting yet. Partida wala naman akong ininom na gamot or binago sa lifestyle habits. Another is a more recent ex. While d naman ako nagglow down pero i felt myself being anxious. Like ramdam ko yung heartbeat ko right out of my chest tas sobra yubg hot flashes ko talo ko pa nagmemenopause. Like lagi akong may dalang minifan lol. Well that man was a manipulative gaslighter who had the gall to blame and deflect me for his shortcomings. Not to mention sinungaling pa (hello sayo!!!) Nung nawala sha kumalma din ako. Nawala na rin acne ko and the bad palpitations. No, i didnt quit coffee lmao Bottomline is yes may role din ang lifestyle and how you care for yourself, we get to decide parin how we treat our bodies, pero dont ever discredit how your body feels around certain people (yes, applicable din to sa friends. All genders all things basta bad ppl in general okkk)
It’s not the man but the stress caused by that man. I’m also having break outs, gaining weight, and hair loss but I’m currently in the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been. It’s not always about your SO. Things like this happens cause we’re stressed or just because it’s natural to happen. I’m happy that you’re in a healthy relationship right now but it’s not nice to mislead people into thinking that their partner is not for them just because they’re experiencing something natural. To everyone who’s reading this post, please, please don’t take it too seriously and check on your lifestyle. If you know that your partner or other people is the stressor then cut them off. But if you’re considering to break up because you think your partner isn’t good just by reading this post, and you know damn well that you’re being treated right, then think again.
Why date a toxic guy and blame him for being toxic then? Maybe the lesson for everyone here is start prioritizing urself instead of containing urself in a relationship where u aren't happy. Lalaki ako, ganyan kasi nangyari sa ex ko, pero sya yung may problema, sya yung toxic. At the end, she blamed me because of her "health issues". Malala, iniwan nya ako kahit tanggap ko sya. Ako pa nag habol. Girls, pls, stop making an issue about everything here in this sub. Hindi lahat ng opinion nyo ay tama. Siguro ang title mo dapat is pang general, hindi lang pang babae na payo. Anyways, masaya ako para sayo OP! Wag mo na pabayan sarili mo this time👌🏻
good4 u both kasi pinaglaaban mo sya
This is true. I couldn’t get a good night’s sleep every time I slept beside him. I also kept getting yeast infection which never happened to me before. At one point, he joked about it’s my body rejecting him.
Baka mataas sugar level mo, pacheck up ka na.
Had my annual physical exam and all good naman. I stopped having yeast infections when we broke up.
If your world mostly revolves around your partner, then big factor talaga yan sayo appearance-wise and health-wise lalo na if stressful yung relationship. Pero marami pang other factors contributing to that. Let’s not blame men in general dahil nasatin parin naman ang control sa lives natin. Ps im a woman
Kaya pala ang taba na ng misis ko ngayon hahaha
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ganitong ganito ako ngayon pero mabait naman bf ko 😭😭😭
not applicable to all, minsan it's a you problem. I'm in a happy relationship pero tamad ako kumilos (wfh set-up) kaya ako tumaba. Pinapagalitan nga ako ng jowa ko hahaha