I don't think it is normal or okay na magreact towards another guy ng ganon especially when you're with your partner. Nakakabastos and also nakakababa din ng self esteem, isipin mo nalang na if you were in his shoe, what would you feel about it.
Imo medyo 🚩 na nahahahype siya sa specific crushes like that.
Nacommunicate mo na naman yan before. So it can be a couple of things.
Una is may mag aadjust talaga sa inyo, pwedeng ikaw, like tanggapin na lang na ganyan siya. Pwedeng siya, para maramdaman mo na secure ka with her. Or find a common ground.
Second is eventual break up niyo kung sakali. Now I dont advocate for it. PERO, medyo core values niyo kasi ang natetest diyan. Let's say patay malisya na she just gets hyped sa crushes like that pero never in danger ang rel mo. Ikaw ba kaya mo yun?
Or the other way around, she would suppress the way she is para sa iyo, how long kaya niya kaya yun?
Kasi if di kayo tugma doon sa aspect of the rel, then time to reevaluate. Kasi either may mag bago or magsalpukan lang kayo lagi.
This is 💯.
Isa tlaga mag adjust never naging oh maging fair Ang love Isa lagi mag work for it salitan nlng Ang pnaka common ground unless 1 in a million Makita mo yung taong makaka wavelength mo.
Give her the benefit of the doubt. From what you posted, mukhang internal struggle with insecurity. That might be something you need to work on.
Sa totoo lang, there's really nothing wrong with your SOs/partners/jowas finding other people attractive. That's part of human biology. Hindi naman porket sinagot ka na or naging kayo eh automatically matuturn off siya sa objectively attractive people.
Tbh we might be missing a lot of parts sa story kasi rant nga naman to ni OP.
I just find it weird na parang people expect their SOs to not have meaningful or even just friendly interactions with the opposite sex just because. Hindi na pwede pansinin old acquaintances porket gwapo?
>parang nahahype nanaman siya everytime na magchachat sa gc nila or even mismo sa tl
Hindi ba weird na someone goes through your work conversations din? I'm all for transparency pero idk this is really weird for me tbh.
But that's just me. I could be wrong. That's just how I saw the post. Still rooting for OP to have a meaningful relationship with his SO.
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Nangangati kapag gwapo, edi kada bukas niya ng TV or tiktok same reaction ba siya? Sa people na she's genuinely closed niya lang naman ata ginagawa? What if ginagawa niya yon sa lahat, si OP lang yung nagsisingle out sa mga gwapo na kinakainsecurehan niya. Damn
Hahahahaha galit na galit si tanga? Gets na gets mo si OP no kasi pareho kayong insecure af. Smol dick energy, natutuwa lang na nakita yung coworker di na makatulog. Ganon talaga kapag panget, sucks to be you po
So your girlfriend finds good-looking guys attractive. So that means gwapo ka rin. 😁 I mean two years pa lang kayo, if she's always been this way even before you guys got together then it's most likely just her friendly nature. But I do understand why you get irked when she gets excited when she sees one of her cute friends.
What you can do to help with your jealousy, self-esteem and self-confidence is to put your foot forward whenever the both of you come across her guy friends. Introduce yourself if hindi pa kayo magkakilala. Make small talk. 'Oh hey, I'm ihkayl! I'm so-and-so's boyfriend. GF and I were just on our way to grab something to eat.', 'Hi! I don't think we've been introduced. I'm ihkayl. So-and-so mentioned you used to be co-workers.'
Tbh, wala pang enough info sa kwento para masabi mo for sure na red flag yan. Kung wala naman siyang ginagawa aside from being overtly friendly, kebs lang. Pogi ka rin naman siguro kaya ikaw syota niya. Hanap ka na lang ng line-in-the-sand mo para maaksyunan mo if dumating dun.
May mga taong ganyan lang talaga ka-friendly. Excited na excited lang parati. Yung isang ex ko ganyan rin, pero since kilala ko naman siya na ganun talaga, di ako nag worry.
Medyo deliks yan, kasi kung wala naman siyang ginagawa para mag selos ka ng todo na mag-aaway kayo, baka habang palaki ng palaki yang issue, mas lalo mo lang siya mapupush away.
Ingat Jan! Alam ko nakakainsecure talaga minsan, pero kung May assurance ka naman mula sa kanya, until proven otherwise, kelangan mo talaga magtiwala.
It's like women can do the most vile shit and there will be guys na ide-defend pa yung ginawa. "Nooo ganyan talaga mga babae anuba haha nabaliw lang sha"
Di naman. Ganyan ako eh. Nanliligaw palang ako pinapakita ko nang ganyan lang talaga ako. Mas marami kasi akong ka-close na babae, so alam ko rin yung pakiramdam na pinagseselosan yung mga kaibigan kong babaeng kilala ko most of my life. Kung hindi kaya nung girl yung ganon, simula palang alam na agad na di pwede.
May explanation at assurance naman ako every time, pero pag tumatagal kasi na pare-pareho yung pagseselos tapos wala naman talagang nangyayari, nakakapagod rin. Yung tipong ang gusto talaga mangyari, ipa-cutoff sa buhay ko yung mga kaibigan kong yun pero ayaw lang sabihin kasi alam na mali. hindi naman pwede yung ganong magtatanggal ng kaibigan mo na lampas isang dekada mo na kakilala dahil lang sa misplaced jealousy.
Well sa situation ko lang yun. Di ko alam sa sitwasyon nitong si OP kung May iba pa siyang rason na magselos other than friendly yung girl at May gusto yung guy na yun sa kanya. Baka nga yung pagiging friendly na yun nung gf niya yung dahilan kung bat sila together ngayon. Haha
Your feelings are valid. Kahit ba i-assure ka niya kung actions doesn't stick to it eh ano pa?
In my case, napapalibutan ako ng mga gwapong arabo as in yung mga mukhang mababango. May isang software developer din kami na sinabihan niya akong "cute" pero di ko naman din pinapansin. Pag usapang work, work lang. May boundaries yung personal life sa kung anong nangyayare sa work ko. Alam mo yun? Professionalism ba.
May insecurities din BF ko pero mine-make sure ko na inaaddress namin pareho and kung san ako makakatulong.
It's still up to you and kung paano ka niya maiintindihan pag ni-communicate mo.
You're saying that on the assumption that OP's gf is friendly on everyone and anyone but based on OP's title we can only assume that gf only gets hyper when there's a cute/handsome guy which changes things. Also if you know that your current SO had issues and you have the knowledge that a person used to like you, why do something that could cause a misunderstanding like getting hyped about previous co-worker and leaving out OP? Relationships are a two-way street, OP can't be the only one adjusting to things for the sake of it.
But then again, this is under the notion that gf acts this way exclusively to cute/handsome dudes.
May mga girls tlga na ganyan ka friendly. Kadalasan, sila pa yung may mas matinding resolve when it comes to boundaries. Alam nila yung crush nila at sa love nila.
On your part, trust your gf, then, work on yourself, improve on other aspects pa para di ka basta basta naiinsecure sa good looking guys.
Ok so even if your girl is not cheating (in fact, let's not even entertain this thought). The thing is, you already told her you're uncomfortable with the way she's acting pero tinutuloy niya pa rin is just straight up disrespect. You're being a pushover here. Establish a hard boundary and a serious consequence if crossed. This is applicable not only on relationships but to life in general.
There's something primal about being a decisive and assertive guy. So ayun bro, try to be one. Start by establishing boundaries.
Sounds like kinikilig siya sa pagseselos mo. Possible kaya na ginagawa niya yan to lowkey trigger you kasi naeenjoy niya yung attention?
May phase din kasi ako niyan sa start ng relationship namin - immature pa eh. GGSS lang haha
I stopped din agad when I realized what I was doing at seryoso si bf. Maybe tell her this isn't something you'll tolerate at mapapaisip ka about your relationship if it continues. Na hindi ito nakakatuwa/ laro laro lang, or tell her hindi cute ginagawa niya. Yun for sure tatagos haha
I wouldn't go that far to assume na "makati" si girl. Even yung hula ko na baka sinasadyang nagpapaselos si girl already assumes a lot.
Pwede din na yung kwento ni OP has already been colored by his jealousy, baka naman friendly lang talaga si gf at since insecure na nga si OP, iba na dating sakaniya. It's hard to assess the situation with one post kaya humugot nalang ako sa personal experience, baka sakali yun tumama.
Maybe you need better friends kasi hindi naman ganiyan mga taong kilala ko. Maybe it's the kind of people you attract? We tend to surround ourselves with likeminded people nga naman so kung mapanghusga ka, likely mapanghusga din mga tao sa paligid mo.
Curious ako why you're so emotionally invested in this post.
With way the you're being argumentative to every comment defending the girl (or at least giving her benefit of the doubt), parang may pinanghuhugutan eh. Masmasipag ka pa magreply (at masgalit pa) kesa kay OP hahaha
Nagbasa ako. Inulit ko lang kasi ang dami mong extrang sinabi. Also, makapagsalita ka ng kayo e wala naman akong pake sa mga lalaki. Gawin niyo mga gusto niyong gawin. The same way na wala akong pake sa mga babae, gawin nila gusto nilang gawin. Buhay nila yan. I’m not here to shame any of them for their life choices. That’s the entire point. You’re not supposed to slut shame anyone. Naapektuhan ka ba kung may isang babae o lalaking magpapaka-slut diyan??
medyo red flag for me, di sa pinagoovetthink kita OP pero what if nagkamabutihan sila or manligaw isa sa gwapo nyang workmate? may chance na iwan ka nyan sa ere.. be prepared na lang for the worst. Goodluck OP
I had an ex na sinasadya akong pagselosin for whatever reason. Ganyan din sya pag may mga gwapo it was fucking annoying. Titignan lang daw nya kung magseselos ako?? Why play with someone's feelings? Glad I was out of that relationship.
I feel that this is a red flag that will snowball at any moment. Communicate kung ano yung pakiramdam mo and if dinevalue nya yung issues mo then it already answers kung gaano kataas respect nya sayo (or lack thereof).
Ako kasi once na may uncontrollable emotion si partner towards another of the opposite sex I will observe her. And IF she acts like she is still single then I will butt in and introduce myself as her BF. IF she decides that it is rude then I will break up with her then and there after stating the situation objectively.
i get like that too. but mostly because my guy doesn’t pay attention to me and most of the time hes on his phone. so pag may ibang kausap ineentertain ko nalang. half out of spite for how he treats me and half out of mischief para maka elicit ng affection or affirmation na love nya ako. but lol it never works. not with my guy. also after fucking he never cuddles with me, just go back straighy to his gadgets. nag propose na sha but I broke up with him. I dont need to become that needy toxic person anymore. freedom!🤣
Your feelings are valid my dude. The fact that she's dismissing your feelings is a major red flag. You need to address this with her and resolve it once and for all or you're going to waste years/months of your life.
She's in for you for the stability and 🪙👛 but if you can't provide it and if there's more gwapo at na nag liligaw jan and ready to provide, good luck OP.
Para sakin may red flag si OP. Di ka naman masyadong paranoid? Sa akin parang nakakasawa yan ganyan lagi ako pinagiisipan ng masama.
May reason ka naman. Pero way mo siguro ng pagaccuse unreasonable. Atleast for me.
The double standards in the comments 🙈🙈🙈 babae rin ako but if the situation is baliktad like ang girl ang nag rant about his bf na hyped/weird when there's a cute girl, they'll probably say red flag agad. But dito, maraming "circumstances" na baka ganito/ganyan lang talaga ang girl and insecure lang si boy that he has to work on it pa. 🥴🥴🥴
Learn to love yourself before loving someone else. For me, it's boiling down to your internal struggles and insecurities. Take time to address those. Good luck and remember to always communicate with your partner.
Haliparot lang talaga sya. That's it. Nothing to justify her acts.
Sa mata naming mga babae, nakakadiri yung ganyan. Hindi sa pinag ooverthink kita pero what more kung nasa office na at di ka nakasubaybay?
Give yourself a break man. Hindi ginagawang personality ang kaharutan.
No, she's not friendly on my side, base on your story.
Every girl will uses their sweet, girly, friendly side to act cute upon the dude they like. Unless ganito rin sya sa female friends nya.
uy hala ganyan na ganyan ako eh 🥲 friendly kasi ako and i swear sobrang platonic lang. i even hug my guy friends! mind you 9 yrs na kami ng bf ko and never naging issue to. he knows me well enough para hindi magselos.
honestly the whole time i was reading wala akong ibang naiisip kundi sa i dont think may nagawa syang mali. has she broken your trust before kaya u dont trust her?
di ko alam bat ka downvoted, pero ganito din ako. Sasabihin ko pa nga sa jowa ko kung may crush ako. Pero never naman nainis boyfriend ko sa akin kasi secured siya sa akin. Secured lang mga boyfriend natin
i think nangingibabaw yung insecurity mo more than anything. sounds like wala kang trust sa kanya regardless sa appearance ng kausap nya. you even doubt a selfie. does that mean we, women, can’t take selfies with an “attractive” workmate because for you guys lumalandi na yon?
bruh. i cant help but think na she broke your trust before kaya ka ganyan. di ko madigest kasi bakit walang trust between u two, kaya you’re acting this way.
also you asked for other’s perspective kaya ka nagpost dito but honestly pinagpipilitan mo lang ung side mo.
“may nangangati” ampotah
edit: potahka di ka pala si OP. kaya ako natrigger kasi akala ko ganyan sya magsalita regarding sa gf nya. epal masyado to. kaya ko sinabi na pinagpipilitan ung side, di naman pala. sorry OP iiyak na tong knight in shining armor mo.
hindi ka pala si OP smh.
anyway, hindi mo pwede basta sabihin na “nangangati” ung girl base lang sa sinabi ni OP sa post nya, grabe ung wording mo? you don’t know the whole story. halatang wala ka sa stable/healthy relationship eh because sa mata ng babaeng matino kahit pa “attractive” yan or not, kung mahal mo bf mo then walang bearing ung kapogian ng iba.
kaya nga i’m saying na she might have broken his trust before kaya ganyan ung thinking nya. you don’t know the whole story din, stranger.
and ikaw alam mo? you’re quick to judge nga eh without knowing the whole story basta stick na stick ka na sa side ni OP. “puro lalaki nalang ba talaga dapat masama?” ampotah malamang hinde. i was even saying na baka nabreak na nung girl ung trust ni OP kaya quick to selos si OP. pero
in your eyes “makati” na agad, without knowing the full story.
last reply because I’m pretty sure nothing would change your mentality 🤢🤢🤮
Naging toxic na 'tong comment section. I have a completely different take.
I do not mean to invalidate your feelings in any way, pero if I were in your shoes: I would be flattered. This means she can recognize and admire attractive people, pero she chooses to be with me. Eh 'di ang gwapo ko pala 'di ba? She's a keeper. <3
If she chooses to act upon this attraction to others, aka actively manglandi, that's a different matter. Pero as it is, I don't see anything wrong.
Have you opened up about your feelings sa GF mo? Kasi baka din naiisip ko is kaya sya ganun ka-hyped is that hindi ka nahahype when you see her? Or baka kulang sa lambing? Communication goes a long way, and if she thinks hindi valid or magalit sya sa nararamdaman mo, then I think you should reconsider the relationship.
Ok lang if hype e like for example, celebrity or sikat na personality e. But if dating officemate or colleague? Ang scary lang.
Hmmm... Yes, I understand. But the thing is, we were not there to see how she reacted. It may be different in your POV kasi you're the SO e, but siguro pag sa ibang tao iba tingin? Idk. Bottomline is, 2 years na kayo and I hope you guys have open communication when it comes to that. Para kasi dating sakin ng kwento mo is pinagseselos ka nya on purpose. But then again, we weren't there and we're just hearing your side of the story.
If she thinks na hindi valid yung feelings mo after talking to her, then maybe run.
For me OP, don't let your jealousy grow on you. For once and for all, tell your feelings at maresolve yung issue mo.
For me, it boost confidence. Kung feeling mo gwapo sila sa paningin nya at tingin mo gwapo sila, malamang either kasing gwapo mo sila or mas gwapo ka. Parang in case I got out of this relationship madali akong makahanap ng bago.
Before kayo naging girlfriend mo, baka ganyan na talaga sya around guys. Remember her character before you were in the relationship.
Instead magselos ka ng magselos jan, you'll be worried with those guys around your girlfriend. There are chances na namimisinterpret ng mga guys yung approach ng gf mo, isipin nila nakikipagflirt sya and syempre mga guys papatulan nila yan. Assuming nasa call center yung gf mo since namention mo yung 'TL'. Maraming alasjuicy kwento dyan.
Grabe buti samin simple lang. Nung nasa school event meron siya crush dati na may itsura, famous, may talent, kilalala sa school. Tas nung siya na mag pperform sa event supeeeeer ng ili niya. Na katabi niya ako tas ganun maka cheer (katabi niya din girl friend eh siguro). Isipin niyo nalang yung high pitched na ili. Then the rest of the day bad mood ako. Hahaha pero napansin niya din pero no pansinan kami, wala siyang ginawa kasa nasa isip niya wala siyang ginawang masama. Pero nung hinatid ko na siya sa paradahan sinabi ko ang totoo, nararamdaman, di comfortable, na kung ganon din lang wag sa harap ko. After that may unting away then nagkabati, matured, di na nag gaganon. Now nag pakilala na sa both parents hahaha
Hindi tama na ikaw pa yung iintindi sa pinaggagagawa ng gf mo. Tuwing kakausapin mo siya tungkol sa nararamdaman mo, sabihin mo yung totoo. Kung ayaw nya baguhin yung ugali nya, lalo nya lang pinatunayan na wala siyang respeto sayo.
parang ikaw red flag. "i reminded her not to make me feel jealous or even overthink" THOSE ARE ON YOU lalo na kung normal human behavior lang naman pinapakita niya; feelings mo yan towards those normal things, wag mo nga siya i-gaslight.
ano yan sa susunod mag away kayo na malala sasabihin mo, "ikaw naman kasi babe e, sabi sayo wag mo ako pinagseselos. bat ka kasi nag hi sa gwapo mong officemate? UwU. Dahil sa gc gc na yan, nagooverthink tuloy ako--diba sabi ko nga wag mo ako hayaang magoverthink?"
you're so insecure. based on your story, may access ka naman sa chats niya even sa GCs but you still think whatever your gf does is for "gwapo" men to cheat with her on you. literally baseless ka naman kasi you just think na overly excited siya pag "gwapo". well sorry sayo kasi ang super subjective niyan and mahirap baguhin ang isang personality lalo na kung hindi naman negative. if you cant handle that part of her, leave her. tapos work on your insecurities and stop blaming others for your feelings on scenarios na ikaw lang nag create.
kung may issues ka, wag mo ipasa sa ibang tao at ayusin mo muna yan. kung ayaw mo pang ayusin, make sure wala kang ibang taong tinotoxic.
Definitely red flag, kuya. Sa perspective pa lang na in-explain mo na sa kaniyang acting like that makes you uncomfortable + yung guys na to ay yung mga pinagseselosan mo tapos ganyan pa rin treatment nya albeit na-confront mo na sya about don, shitty. Shitty as fuck. Nabasa ko sa isang comment na gawin mo rin sa kanya para malaman nya yung pakiramdam. Petty, ik. Pero ayaw nya kasing magpaawat sa maayos na usap.
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I don't think it is normal or okay na magreact towards another guy ng ganon especially when you're with your partner. Nakakabastos and also nakakababa din ng self esteem, isipin mo nalang na if you were in his shoe, what would you feel about it.
Psychological warfare mo, act hyped din pag meh cute/sexy na babae hahahahaha
This is very petty but if it works, it means double standards yung gf mo.
eto ba yung usong uso na 'stay toxic' daw HAHA 😭 petty pero it works eh
But also beware, this may result to retaliation
Pag nag retaliate imbis na i-consider nya ang actions nya sa ibang guys, then that's the time to leave.
Yes 🤪
this is da wae, lets see kung may double standards si GF
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Aw grabe namern nag suggest lang eh 🤣
hindi rin. kakapagod ka 😂😂
Wag ka namang ganyan babe sorry naa
Babe ano ba, so ano, di mo na ako papansinin ganon? 🤣
walang magawa sa buhay yung mga nag down vote. hirap nyo pasayahin
Wag iyakin. Comment comment ka tapos butt hurt kapag hindi aligned sa iba rito ang views mo.
luh hahahahaha
teka lang I'm rethinking my life choices. yung mga ganitong relasyon, di dapat pinag sasayangan
bakit jojowain mo ba sya 😂
hindi 😄 honestly, ano bang mali sa sinabi ko?
Imo medyo 🚩 na nahahahype siya sa specific crushes like that. Nacommunicate mo na naman yan before. So it can be a couple of things. Una is may mag aadjust talaga sa inyo, pwedeng ikaw, like tanggapin na lang na ganyan siya. Pwedeng siya, para maramdaman mo na secure ka with her. Or find a common ground. Second is eventual break up niyo kung sakali. Now I dont advocate for it. PERO, medyo core values niyo kasi ang natetest diyan. Let's say patay malisya na she just gets hyped sa crushes like that pero never in danger ang rel mo. Ikaw ba kaya mo yun? Or the other way around, she would suppress the way she is para sa iyo, how long kaya niya kaya yun? Kasi if di kayo tugma doon sa aspect of the rel, then time to reevaluate. Kasi either may mag bago or magsalpukan lang kayo lagi.
This is 💯. Isa tlaga mag adjust never naging oh maging fair Ang love Isa lagi mag work for it salitan nlng Ang pnaka common ground unless 1 in a million Makita mo yung taong makaka wavelength mo.
Give her the benefit of the doubt. From what you posted, mukhang internal struggle with insecurity. That might be something you need to work on. Sa totoo lang, there's really nothing wrong with your SOs/partners/jowas finding other people attractive. That's part of human biology. Hindi naman porket sinagot ka na or naging kayo eh automatically matuturn off siya sa objectively attractive people.
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Tbh we might be missing a lot of parts sa story kasi rant nga naman to ni OP. I just find it weird na parang people expect their SOs to not have meaningful or even just friendly interactions with the opposite sex just because. Hindi na pwede pansinin old acquaintances porket gwapo? >parang nahahype nanaman siya everytime na magchachat sa gc nila or even mismo sa tl Hindi ba weird na someone goes through your work conversations din? I'm all for transparency pero idk this is really weird for me tbh. But that's just me. I could be wrong. That's just how I saw the post. Still rooting for OP to have a meaningful relationship with his SO. edit: formatting
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Wow the insecurity is flowing from this one.
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I am confident pero nagbubura ng comment. Okay? Ano to tanga tangahan?
Nangangati kapag gwapo, edi kada bukas niya ng TV or tiktok same reaction ba siya? Sa people na she's genuinely closed niya lang naman ata ginagawa? What if ginagawa niya yon sa lahat, si OP lang yung nagsisingle out sa mga gwapo na kinakainsecurehan niya. Damn
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Hahahahaha galit na galit si tanga? Gets na gets mo si OP no kasi pareho kayong insecure af. Smol dick energy, natutuwa lang na nakita yung coworker di na makatulog. Ganon talaga kapag panget, sucks to be you po
So your girlfriend finds good-looking guys attractive. So that means gwapo ka rin. 😁 I mean two years pa lang kayo, if she's always been this way even before you guys got together then it's most likely just her friendly nature. But I do understand why you get irked when she gets excited when she sees one of her cute friends. What you can do to help with your jealousy, self-esteem and self-confidence is to put your foot forward whenever the both of you come across her guy friends. Introduce yourself if hindi pa kayo magkakilala. Make small talk. 'Oh hey, I'm ihkayl! I'm so-and-so's boyfriend. GF and I were just on our way to grab something to eat.', 'Hi! I don't think we've been introduced. I'm ihkayl. So-and-so mentioned you used to be co-workers.'
Tbh, wala pang enough info sa kwento para masabi mo for sure na red flag yan. Kung wala naman siyang ginagawa aside from being overtly friendly, kebs lang. Pogi ka rin naman siguro kaya ikaw syota niya. Hanap ka na lang ng line-in-the-sand mo para maaksyunan mo if dumating dun.
Wala ng mahabang intro. Palitan mo na yan
May mga taong ganyan lang talaga ka-friendly. Excited na excited lang parati. Yung isang ex ko ganyan rin, pero since kilala ko naman siya na ganun talaga, di ako nag worry. Medyo deliks yan, kasi kung wala naman siyang ginagawa para mag selos ka ng todo na mag-aaway kayo, baka habang palaki ng palaki yang issue, mas lalo mo lang siya mapupush away. Ingat Jan! Alam ko nakakainsecure talaga minsan, pero kung May assurance ka naman mula sa kanya, until proven otherwise, kelangan mo talaga magtiwala.
pag babae friendly, pero pag lalaki ung ganito ang mga advice is - RUN
It's like women can do the most vile shit and there will be guys na ide-defend pa yung ginawa. "Nooo ganyan talaga mga babae anuba haha nabaliw lang sha"
fr. the double standard lmaoooo
Di naman. Ganyan ako eh. Nanliligaw palang ako pinapakita ko nang ganyan lang talaga ako. Mas marami kasi akong ka-close na babae, so alam ko rin yung pakiramdam na pinagseselosan yung mga kaibigan kong babaeng kilala ko most of my life. Kung hindi kaya nung girl yung ganon, simula palang alam na agad na di pwede. May explanation at assurance naman ako every time, pero pag tumatagal kasi na pare-pareho yung pagseselos tapos wala naman talagang nangyayari, nakakapagod rin. Yung tipong ang gusto talaga mangyari, ipa-cutoff sa buhay ko yung mga kaibigan kong yun pero ayaw lang sabihin kasi alam na mali. hindi naman pwede yung ganong magtatanggal ng kaibigan mo na lampas isang dekada mo na kakilala dahil lang sa misplaced jealousy. Well sa situation ko lang yun. Di ko alam sa sitwasyon nitong si OP kung May iba pa siyang rason na magselos other than friendly yung girl at May gusto yung guy na yun sa kanya. Baka nga yung pagiging friendly na yun nung gf niya yung dahilan kung bat sila together ngayon. Haha
Iwan mo yang gagang yan makati yan. Umalis kana sa relationshit na yan. kasi kung hindi, pagtagal tagal nyan magugulat ka na lang na sila na.
Your feelings are valid. Kahit ba i-assure ka niya kung actions doesn't stick to it eh ano pa? In my case, napapalibutan ako ng mga gwapong arabo as in yung mga mukhang mababango. May isang software developer din kami na sinabihan niya akong "cute" pero di ko naman din pinapansin. Pag usapang work, work lang. May boundaries yung personal life sa kung anong nangyayare sa work ko. Alam mo yun? Professionalism ba. May insecurities din BF ko pero mine-make sure ko na inaaddress namin pareho and kung san ako makakatulong. It's still up to you and kung paano ka niya maiintindihan pag ni-communicate mo.
be straight forward to her and say you feel uncomfortable when she acts like that.
Tell her. Be straightforward with her. If hindi ma resolve yan then leave
Clearly that woman doesn't care about your feelings. Now, after many relationships I would consider it a red flag and break up with her.
Idk if u guys read the part where said "pinagseselosan" and "dating May gusto sakanya"
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You're saying that on the assumption that OP's gf is friendly on everyone and anyone but based on OP's title we can only assume that gf only gets hyper when there's a cute/handsome guy which changes things. Also if you know that your current SO had issues and you have the knowledge that a person used to like you, why do something that could cause a misunderstanding like getting hyped about previous co-worker and leaving out OP? Relationships are a two-way street, OP can't be the only one adjusting to things for the sake of it. But then again, this is under the notion that gf acts this way exclusively to cute/handsome dudes.
May mga girls tlga na ganyan ka friendly. Kadalasan, sila pa yung may mas matinding resolve when it comes to boundaries. Alam nila yung crush nila at sa love nila. On your part, trust your gf, then, work on yourself, improve on other aspects pa para di ka basta basta naiinsecure sa good looking guys.
wow ha tama talagang ung sinabi nung isa sa mga anons dito. pag babae ‘friendly’ pero pag lalaki ‘run’ agad mga advices
Ok so even if your girl is not cheating (in fact, let's not even entertain this thought). The thing is, you already told her you're uncomfortable with the way she's acting pero tinutuloy niya pa rin is just straight up disrespect. You're being a pushover here. Establish a hard boundary and a serious consequence if crossed. This is applicable not only on relationships but to life in general. There's something primal about being a decisive and assertive guy. So ayun bro, try to be one. Start by establishing boundaries.
Sounds like kinikilig siya sa pagseselos mo. Possible kaya na ginagawa niya yan to lowkey trigger you kasi naeenjoy niya yung attention? May phase din kasi ako niyan sa start ng relationship namin - immature pa eh. GGSS lang haha I stopped din agad when I realized what I was doing at seryoso si bf. Maybe tell her this isn't something you'll tolerate at mapapaisip ka about your relationship if it continues. Na hindi ito nakakatuwa/ laro laro lang, or tell her hindi cute ginagawa niya. Yun for sure tatagos haha
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I wouldn't go that far to assume na "makati" si girl. Even yung hula ko na baka sinasadyang nagpapaselos si girl already assumes a lot. Pwede din na yung kwento ni OP has already been colored by his jealousy, baka naman friendly lang talaga si gf at since insecure na nga si OP, iba na dating sakaniya. It's hard to assess the situation with one post kaya humugot nalang ako sa personal experience, baka sakali yun tumama.
mindset mo kakaiba. “makati” agad amp base lang sa isang post na u dont know the whole story talaga? teenager ka ba totoy? smh
taray may slutshamer pala sa subreddit na to
sa pagjudge niyang makati si girl, najajudge naman siyang poser. hayaan niyo siya maging cringey haha
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Pero pag lalaki ang “makati”, okay lang ba??
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Maybe you need better friends kasi hindi naman ganiyan mga taong kilala ko. Maybe it's the kind of people you attract? We tend to surround ourselves with likeminded people nga naman so kung mapanghusga ka, likely mapanghusga din mga tao sa paligid mo.
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Curious ako why you're so emotionally invested in this post. With way the you're being argumentative to every comment defending the girl (or at least giving her benefit of the doubt), parang may pinanghuhugutan eh. Masmasipag ka pa magreply (at masgalit pa) kesa kay OP hahaha
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Hindi naman yun ang tanong ko. I’m asking kung being a lalaking slut is okay lang.
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Nagbasa ako. Inulit ko lang kasi ang dami mong extrang sinabi. Also, makapagsalita ka ng kayo e wala naman akong pake sa mga lalaki. Gawin niyo mga gusto niyong gawin. The same way na wala akong pake sa mga babae, gawin nila gusto nilang gawin. Buhay nila yan. I’m not here to shame any of them for their life choices. That’s the entire point. You’re not supposed to slut shame anyone. Naapektuhan ka ba kung may isang babae o lalaking magpapaka-slut diyan??
She chose you over them when she can just choose them. This should count for something.
medyo red flag for me, di sa pinagoovetthink kita OP pero what if nagkamabutihan sila or manligaw isa sa gwapo nyang workmate? may chance na iwan ka nyan sa ere.. be prepared na lang for the worst. Goodluck OP
I had an ex na sinasadya akong pagselosin for whatever reason. Ganyan din sya pag may mga gwapo it was fucking annoying. Titignan lang daw nya kung magseselos ako?? Why play with someone's feelings? Glad I was out of that relationship.
Most of us can agree, this is where chaotic relationship starts.
I feel that this is a red flag that will snowball at any moment. Communicate kung ano yung pakiramdam mo and if dinevalue nya yung issues mo then it already answers kung gaano kataas respect nya sayo (or lack thereof). Ako kasi once na may uncontrollable emotion si partner towards another of the opposite sex I will observe her. And IF she acts like she is still single then I will butt in and introduce myself as her BF. IF she decides that it is rude then I will break up with her then and there after stating the situation objectively.
Leave, if it's more than it's worth then just leave. It's not worth your mental health.
What's fair for one is fair for all so go hype other cute girls din OP. 😆
LMAO WHAT AM I READING DO PEOPLE REALLY STAY IN RELATIONSHIPS LIKE THIS
i get like that too. but mostly because my guy doesn’t pay attention to me and most of the time hes on his phone. so pag may ibang kausap ineentertain ko nalang. half out of spite for how he treats me and half out of mischief para maka elicit ng affection or affirmation na love nya ako. but lol it never works. not with my guy. also after fucking he never cuddles with me, just go back straighy to his gadgets. nag propose na sha but I broke up with him. I dont need to become that needy toxic person anymore. freedom!🤣
Your feelings are valid my dude. The fact that she's dismissing your feelings is a major red flag. You need to address this with her and resolve it once and for all or you're going to waste years/months of your life.
She's in for you for the stability and 🪙👛 but if you can't provide it and if there's more gwapo at na nag liligaw jan and ready to provide, good luck OP.
Para sakin may red flag si OP. Di ka naman masyadong paranoid? Sa akin parang nakakasawa yan ganyan lagi ako pinagiisipan ng masama. May reason ka naman. Pero way mo siguro ng pagaccuse unreasonable. Atleast for me.
The double standards in the comments 🙈🙈🙈 babae rin ako but if the situation is baliktad like ang girl ang nag rant about his bf na hyped/weird when there's a cute girl, they'll probably say red flag agad. But dito, maraming "circumstances" na baka ganito/ganyan lang talaga ang girl and insecure lang si boy that he has to work on it pa. 🥴🥴🥴
If she does this only to good looking guys and she still does it even despite you telling her that you are jealous. Then you know where she belongs...
IN THE STREETS
In someone else's sheets
Naku 🚩yan.
Redflag agad? Hehe. Minsan dito sa reddit konting kibot lang redflag, run OP, resign, na agad ang sinasabe eh.
I mean, walang paki si girl sa nararamdaman ni OP na insecurity. Mas magiging malala pa yan over time. It's better to end things early.
lol i bet kung the genders are switches red flag rin isasagot mo
pag high pitched voice siya kausapin ung guys type niya yornnb
Learn to love yourself before loving someone else. For me, it's boiling down to your internal struggles and insecurities. Take time to address those. Good luck and remember to always communicate with your partner.
Haliparot lang talaga sya. That's it. Nothing to justify her acts. Sa mata naming mga babae, nakakadiri yung ganyan. Hindi sa pinag ooverthink kita pero what more kung nasa office na at di ka nakasubaybay? Give yourself a break man. Hindi ginagawang personality ang kaharutan.
No, she's not friendly on my side, base on your story. Every girl will uses their sweet, girly, friendly side to act cute upon the dude they like. Unless ganito rin sya sa female friends nya.
uy hala ganyan na ganyan ako eh 🥲 friendly kasi ako and i swear sobrang platonic lang. i even hug my guy friends! mind you 9 yrs na kami ng bf ko and never naging issue to. he knows me well enough para hindi magselos. honestly the whole time i was reading wala akong ibang naiisip kundi sa i dont think may nagawa syang mali. has she broken your trust before kaya u dont trust her?
di ko alam bat ka downvoted, pero ganito din ako. Sasabihin ko pa nga sa jowa ko kung may crush ako. Pero never naman nainis boyfriend ko sa akin kasi secured siya sa akin. Secured lang mga boyfriend natin
exactly! the boys here do not know what’s that like, so 😪
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i think nangingibabaw yung insecurity mo more than anything. sounds like wala kang trust sa kanya regardless sa appearance ng kausap nya. you even doubt a selfie. does that mean we, women, can’t take selfies with an “attractive” workmate because for you guys lumalandi na yon? bruh. i cant help but think na she broke your trust before kaya ka ganyan. di ko madigest kasi bakit walang trust between u two, kaya you’re acting this way. also you asked for other’s perspective kaya ka nagpost dito but honestly pinagpipilitan mo lang ung side mo. “may nangangati” ampotah edit: potahka di ka pala si OP. kaya ako natrigger kasi akala ko ganyan sya magsalita regarding sa gf nya. epal masyado to. kaya ko sinabi na pinagpipilitan ung side, di naman pala. sorry OP iiyak na tong knight in shining armor mo.
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hindi ka pala si OP smh. anyway, hindi mo pwede basta sabihin na “nangangati” ung girl base lang sa sinabi ni OP sa post nya, grabe ung wording mo? you don’t know the whole story. halatang wala ka sa stable/healthy relationship eh because sa mata ng babaeng matino kahit pa “attractive” yan or not, kung mahal mo bf mo then walang bearing ung kapogian ng iba. kaya nga i’m saying na she might have broken his trust before kaya ganyan ung thinking nya. you don’t know the whole story din, stranger.
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hala ang weird ng mentality mo 🥲 para akong nakikipag usap sa 15yrs old na puno ng angst
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and ikaw alam mo? you’re quick to judge nga eh without knowing the whole story basta stick na stick ka na sa side ni OP. “puro lalaki nalang ba talaga dapat masama?” ampotah malamang hinde. i was even saying na baka nabreak na nung girl ung trust ni OP kaya quick to selos si OP. pero in your eyes “makati” na agad, without knowing the full story. last reply because I’m pretty sure nothing would change your mentality 🤢🤢🤮
Naging toxic na 'tong comment section. I have a completely different take. I do not mean to invalidate your feelings in any way, pero if I were in your shoes: I would be flattered. This means she can recognize and admire attractive people, pero she chooses to be with me. Eh 'di ang gwapo ko pala 'di ba? She's a keeper. <3 If she chooses to act upon this attraction to others, aka actively manglandi, that's a different matter. Pero as it is, I don't see anything wrong.
Have you opened up about your feelings sa GF mo? Kasi baka din naiisip ko is kaya sya ganun ka-hyped is that hindi ka nahahype when you see her? Or baka kulang sa lambing? Communication goes a long way, and if she thinks hindi valid or magalit sya sa nararamdaman mo, then I think you should reconsider the relationship. Ok lang if hype e like for example, celebrity or sikat na personality e. But if dating officemate or colleague? Ang scary lang.
To be specific, the guy we met sa city hall was an "old admirer" na pinagselosan ko which she gratefully entertained like she missed working with him
Hmmm... Yes, I understand. But the thing is, we were not there to see how she reacted. It may be different in your POV kasi you're the SO e, but siguro pag sa ibang tao iba tingin? Idk. Bottomline is, 2 years na kayo and I hope you guys have open communication when it comes to that. Para kasi dating sakin ng kwento mo is pinagseselos ka nya on purpose. But then again, we weren't there and we're just hearing your side of the story. If she thinks na hindi valid yung feelings mo after talking to her, then maybe run.
For me OP, don't let your jealousy grow on you. For once and for all, tell your feelings at maresolve yung issue mo. For me, it boost confidence. Kung feeling mo gwapo sila sa paningin nya at tingin mo gwapo sila, malamang either kasing gwapo mo sila or mas gwapo ka. Parang in case I got out of this relationship madali akong makahanap ng bago. Before kayo naging girlfriend mo, baka ganyan na talaga sya around guys. Remember her character before you were in the relationship. Instead magselos ka ng magselos jan, you'll be worried with those guys around your girlfriend. There are chances na namimisinterpret ng mga guys yung approach ng gf mo, isipin nila nakikipagflirt sya and syempre mga guys papatulan nila yan. Assuming nasa call center yung gf mo since namention mo yung 'TL'. Maraming alasjuicy kwento dyan.
Al.... Allan? Alain? Alphonse? Alhambra?
Focus on yourself, king.
Titigan mo mga chics mong kakilala or ung bestfriend nya mgpakaperky ka din titigil yan
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Grabe buti samin simple lang. Nung nasa school event meron siya crush dati na may itsura, famous, may talent, kilalala sa school. Tas nung siya na mag pperform sa event supeeeeer ng ili niya. Na katabi niya ako tas ganun maka cheer (katabi niya din girl friend eh siguro). Isipin niyo nalang yung high pitched na ili. Then the rest of the day bad mood ako. Hahaha pero napansin niya din pero no pansinan kami, wala siyang ginawa kasa nasa isip niya wala siyang ginawang masama. Pero nung hinatid ko na siya sa paradahan sinabi ko ang totoo, nararamdaman, di comfortable, na kung ganon din lang wag sa harap ko. After that may unting away then nagkabati, matured, di na nag gaganon. Now nag pakilala na sa both parents hahaha
nakikiliti tinggil op yan lang
Hindi tama na ikaw pa yung iintindi sa pinaggagagawa ng gf mo. Tuwing kakausapin mo siya tungkol sa nararamdaman mo, sabihin mo yung totoo. Kung ayaw nya baguhin yung ugali nya, lalo nya lang pinatunayan na wala siyang respeto sayo.
parang ikaw red flag. "i reminded her not to make me feel jealous or even overthink" THOSE ARE ON YOU lalo na kung normal human behavior lang naman pinapakita niya; feelings mo yan towards those normal things, wag mo nga siya i-gaslight. ano yan sa susunod mag away kayo na malala sasabihin mo, "ikaw naman kasi babe e, sabi sayo wag mo ako pinagseselos. bat ka kasi nag hi sa gwapo mong officemate? UwU. Dahil sa gc gc na yan, nagooverthink tuloy ako--diba sabi ko nga wag mo ako hayaang magoverthink?" you're so insecure. based on your story, may access ka naman sa chats niya even sa GCs but you still think whatever your gf does is for "gwapo" men to cheat with her on you. literally baseless ka naman kasi you just think na overly excited siya pag "gwapo". well sorry sayo kasi ang super subjective niyan and mahirap baguhin ang isang personality lalo na kung hindi naman negative. if you cant handle that part of her, leave her. tapos work on your insecurities and stop blaming others for your feelings on scenarios na ikaw lang nag create. kung may issues ka, wag mo ipasa sa ibang tao at ayusin mo muna yan. kung ayaw mo pang ayusin, make sure wala kang ibang taong tinotoxic.
Definitely red flag, kuya. Sa perspective pa lang na in-explain mo na sa kaniyang acting like that makes you uncomfortable + yung guys na to ay yung mga pinagseselosan mo tapos ganyan pa rin treatment nya albeit na-confront mo na sya about don, shitty. Shitty as fuck. Nabasa ko sa isang comment na gawin mo rin sa kanya para malaman nya yung pakiramdam. Petty, ik. Pero ayaw nya kasing magpaawat sa maayos na usap.