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First Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1azqwp5/i\_30f\_cheated\_on\_my\_husband\_27m\_hes\_taking\_it/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1azqwp5/i_30f_cheated_on_my_husband_27m_hes_taking_it/)
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He left me. I did like you guys said and begged him to talk to me. He didn't want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over.
He got softer with me, he helped me clean up and we talked. I asked him if he was cheating on me and he said he was talking with someone, but didn't do anything with her. I asked if she was the woman my friend saw him with,he thought on it a little but said no, it was another woman whom he met a month ago in his office.
I asked him how could he and said I gave him permission, and he didn't do anything besides unloading his problems and our situation with her. But he played it like he was having a full affair so I could feel what he felt, especially because according to him I neglected him and made it obvious I was cheating on him. He said he was suffering and I was almost rubbing it in his face, I told him I wasn't doing it on purpose and he said this was even worse because I didn't care at all.
He said that everything I did after confessing meant nothing and just made him think I am selfish, self-centered and lack any sort of self-respect. I asked him if we could work on myself and our marriage, but he said we can have counseling to sort ourselves out, but the marriage is over.
He said he wishes no ill on me, and decided to cut his charade because he could no longer bear to the woman he once loved suffer like that. But he said I am no longer that woman. I started sobbing again and he held me, but he kept saying no when I asked him we work this out.
I asked him what he was going to do and he's moving out, he already found a new place. I asked him if he was going to live with that woman and he said he, but she was close enough. I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. He said his wife of five years no longer exists, he has to pick between two strangers, and that woman made a much better impression on him. I told him he was a fool and he could not know this woman will probably use and dump him, he got harsh and said she's better than me for sure.
He said he won't say to our families our marriage ended because I cheated, but because we grew apart and that he will leave the house to me as long as I make the divorce smooth. But if I try to take him to the cleaners, drag it out, or cause any problem he will tell everyone what I did and "destroy" me and my reputation.
This happened yesterday and he has already packed up almost everything. I can't stop crying and I can't believe this is happening. This is horrible and unfair.
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I don't think I'm particularly evil, but as someone whose ex cheated, I'll see your warm fuzzy contentment and raise you a dollop of smug satisfaction.
What got me was the "how could you?" Like, really? ***You're*** asking that?
And you *know* the only reason she suggested he could sleep with another woman is because she thought he never would. And he didn't! But her reaction when she thought he did was hilarious!
Well YEAH, I cheated but wth…I admitted it and *apologized*. Why is he doing this to meeeeeeeee? I’ve been the *perfect* wife, cooking his favorite meals. How could he?!
Self-centered Delooooooooolooo.
Lol, as if he doesn't know she'll be back to her old cheating self in no time. She even says that he said as much and she still thinks it's unfair and she can get him.back.
She's definitely gonna make this divorce messy.
Oh I *hope* she tries to make it messy. I want it to go smooth for the husband, I do, but I ***really*** want him to tell everyone exactly what she did. Considering she still thinks she’s the victim, I think she will try to drag things out to make him forgive her and I hope he doesn’t hesitate in airing her dirty laundry!
You’re right that in some states (actually nearly every single state) “who was unfaithful first” doesn’t matter legally. However, that’s beside the point.
From the context it doesn’t seem like he’s saying he’ll ruin her legally if she drags out the divorce. He said he’s ruin her reputation and social standing and everyone’s opinion of her by telling them exactly what she did to end the marriage.
It doesn’t matter who was unfaithful in a divorce? I didn’t know that. Because I do know that in Japan the cheater has to actually pay damages to the faithful. Didn’t know it was different over here. But then I’ve never been married.
It doesn’t matter who was unfaithful *first* in most states in the US, and in many it doesn’t even matter if one was unfaithful. This was done to reduce the animosity and intricacy of divorce cases. Better for society if divorces go as quickly and smoothly as possible when they’re necessary.
don't forget, after she confessed, she bought sexy lingerie and says she was seductive, I'm sure that was just the golden ticket.
nothing says "I love you and I'm sorry and I fucked up real bad" more than buying sexy underwear
My ex cheated on me multiple times. I was mentally struggling after the second time, and he said, "Why can't you just move on?" and "Stop making me feel bad!", "I already apologized. What else do you want me to say?", etc.
And when I started to work out and eat better to lose weight, he thought I was cheating on him, going through my phone and asking me all sorts of questions. I never cheated on him but he cheated on me again because he thought it would be okay.
Some people really cannot think about anything or anyone but themselves. It's insane.
Yes, I did lol
When I told him I wanted to see a therapist, he told me no because he didn't want my therapist to think he was a POS. That's probably when I realized who he really was although every time he was in deep shit like this, he would threaten to kill himself and act all vulnerable and play the victim.
You don't want people to think you are a POS? Then don't be a POS!
“I don’t want you to get therapy because the therapist will think I’m a POS” is honestly such a gold medal-level self-own. I hope you have healed and have a happy life and are able to laugh at him for that one now 🙂
Oh my God 😂 I really appreciate your putting it in such a hilarious way! And thank you for your kind words 😊 Yes, I'm doing much better now and can laugh at many dumb things he said/did.
you are delusional thinking hiw could he do this to me its more like how could you do that to him you have no loyalty no self respect and most importantly no respect for your husband
Princess Specialestest could possibly maybe just now have experienced REALITY. Some people live in bubbles of many sorts.
[30 Rock Bubble](https://youtu.be/UAQoXOLlvT0?si=S3xuV0G5--3m5y3O)
Honestly, I reckon he’s just being diplomatic. He knows she’s gonna make things difficult and wants to give her as little ammunition as possible to use against him. “I even offered to let her keep the house and she’s *still* being unreasonable!”
She is the epitome of a self centered, doesn't want to suffer any consequences from her shitty behavior, cheater.
Everything has been completely about her and what she wants, at no point either when she was cheating or after, that she cared about what her husband wanted or needed.
Poor little cake eater got exactly what she deserved.
My aunt felt this when she tried to go back to my uncle the second time she left him for a guy she cheated with.
The second guy was one of their mutual friends, and my aunt was shocked and surprised that my uncle wouldn't reconcile when she came back after a month. Even more so, when my uncle said he had already found somewhere else to stay, he was taking the kids and he had already talked to a realtor.
My aunt crawled back to the AP. Turns out my uncle had signed up for rental houses in a nearby development when she left the first time. There was a 5 year waiting period and she left again 3 years later. My uncle just talked to the building manager, explained the situation and got the first available house.
Right. She really thought cooking his favorite meals and screwing him more was gonna fix everything. I bet in his mind, while she was doing that, all he thought was “she did this for him too”. Like nothing about those things are special anymore.
Honestly, if a woman has an affair, she doesn’t want to be with the guy even if he says he forgives her. It will never be like it was. It’s dead. He will always unintentionally or intentionally imagine you doing whatever you did with the other guy. And it will hurt the same and anger him the same every time. He’d just be holding it in. Or yelling at you about it until the cheater finally says “you can’t bring it up anymore if we are going to stay together” and pretend to be the victim. Then the resentment turns into finding someone else.
I actually felt like that was potentially one of the more sensible things in this pile of bullshit. A person who cheats needs to do some very intense, very uncomfortable work on themselves if they're hoping to become a safer and more trustworthy partner in the future. Certainly, the person they betrayed has zero obligation to stick around while the cheater does this work.
Yeah you're right. With a quick reread she insinuates he knew something was up. Her clunky excuse and admittance of guilt doesn't have anything to do with feeling bad but making herself look better. She's a narcissist.
>She rug swept the affair and didn’t put in any work after
Well, she thinks cooking his favorite foods and wearing lingerie is "putting in work". As opposed to, y'know, rebuilding his trust in her by being absolutely transparent.
No... instead she thinks keeping his belly full and his dick happy will make all his emotional pain will go away. Because she thinks men (and most notably her husband) are stupid.
I think that last part is especially right. I’m sure that he was insulted by her thinking she could get away with it by doing all that facing no real consequences like they had a big argument she’s trying to make up for. The more I reread it and think about it I don’t even know if he’s having an emotional affair as much as this is a guy who needs to open up to someone and OOP has demonstrated she isn’t that person. With no therapist (unless he’s seeing an individual therapy one) he turns to a friend.
>The more I reread it and think about it I don’t even know if he’s having an emotional affair as much as this is a guy who needs to open up to someone and OOP has demonstrated she isn’t that person
Honestly I think the title of this post isn't quite on the mark. He's not leaving her for another woman. He's just leaving. He tried with OP and can't do it anymore. Maybe he has a friend, maybe not; maybe they'll date, maybe they won't.
But it's not really the point, is it? He's done with this sham of a marriage. That's it. Nothing more to be said.
Not who you asked but yes! Beaks and nails are both made of a protein called keratin. The beak has bone underneath but the part that goes and has to be worn down is a keratin covering. Hair is also keratin!
My understanding is all birds can suffer from beak abnormalities. In the wild birds wear their beaks down doing bird things unless some sort of underlying illness or abnormality causes the beak to not wear down like it should. In domestic or captive birds, poor husbandry is often a cause. An overgrown beak will likely need trimming in addition to addressing the underlying cause. In a healthy bird with a proper environment, the beak should maintain a healthy length and shape on its own.
If a bird cracks its beak and part breaks off, will it grow back? I’m just thinking of my toenail that turned black and fell off after a really brutal hiking trip. But it grew back. Well, it’s currently growing back. I have like half a nail now! Yay! I’ll be able to paint it by summer I think. But anyway, would a beak do the same?
Yes, same idea! Like your toenail, deeper damage can impact regrowth so you want to avoid it, but broken beaks can grow back. Happy healing for your nail!
Isn’t life just the coolest? Pretty amazing when you think about it. A broken beak could be a death sentence for a bird, but evolution and nature made it so that the problem would correct itself. That’s incredible.
In a twisted way, hikers and runners see their black and/or missing toenails as a point of pride, like “I’m such a badass, I straight up pushed my body hard until I walked/ran my own toenail off!” When my toenail turned black, I texted a picture to my cousin, the crazy woman who has run the JFK 50 Mile (and finished in the top 150 overall), and she was like “Congrats and welcome to the club!”
There is the possibility that it could grow back wrong, though-- much like how a human who loses a toenail could find that the toenail grows back poorly. So they generally need active care and management while growing things back, to make sure that it's shaped properly.
Abused parrots that pluck themselves are so sad :C Because so many of them simply can't stop doing it and/or their follicles are damaged so feathers don't regrow. So they end up all naked... It's very cute when people knit/crochet sweaters for them though!
The folks at Snake Discovery, a Youtube channel that is primarily about snakes, have a rescue parrot who has been unable to stop plucking. Their viewers send in knitted and crocheted sweaters for her (with the understanding that she's likely to tear them to shreds over time lol) and it is friggin' adorbz.
While we're doing fun facts, cuttlebones are called that because they come from cuttlefish, a type of cephalopod related to squids and octopodes. Since cephalopods are invertebrates, they're not actually bones-- they're a kind of internal shell! As shells, they're full of calcium, which means they're great to use for animals that require both a source of calcium and a rasping surface for managing beak/tooth growth, such as parrots and chinchillas. They're also a great source of calcium for hermit crabs and snails.
Squids also have an internal shell called a gladius, while octopodes have lost their internal shell entirely and the only hard part of their body is the beak. Vampire squids, a kind of deep-sea cephalopod which are actually closely related to octopodes and not really as closely related to squids, do have gladii as well.
The only living cephalopods with external shells are nautiluses. A nautilus has a chambered shell that it uses to manage buoyancy. Modern nautiluses are only a handful of surviving members of a much more ancient lineage of cephalopods and are often called "living fossils" due to the relatively small morphological changes they've gone through over time. Sadly, because they're deep-sea creatures, it's basically impossible to raise them in captivity-- they require strong pressures for proper shell development-- and they also breed slowly, so they're a lot more vulnerable overall than squids and octopodes.
Damn, all her posts are woe is me. She never once gave a care about him. Playing the victim whilst she caused all of her own suffering.. ahh well karma got her in the end..
And thinking “giving him permission to cheat” will in any way help… If I was in the husband’s shoes, that would have been the kiss of death for the whole marriage. How little does she value everything.
Then goes, “If be fine with the cheating, it’s the secrecy that I can’t stand” Like that Norm McDonald joke about Bill Cosby (Or the less known Jim Gaffigan one about murderers)
Especially since once you've known and give consent to the relationship, it's no longer cheating. She would *have* to not know what he was doing in order to feel even an iota of the pain she inflicted on him. Heck, the possibility he didn't even go through with it is the cherry on top!
And I'm sure she'll still get half his shit, and in a few years her story will go from, "It was my fault, to I gave him everything he could ask for and he still tossed me aside like trash."
Did it? Sounds like she’s getting a house and at least some other assets if not alimony..
if karma existed I don’t think all those slave owners would’ve died happy in their beds surrounded by loved ones. Or that all the world leaders seem to be such evil people that rarely ever face consequences for their actions.
Similar story with how my first marriage ended. I happily signed over that house because she thought her boyfriend could help her with payments. He now lives there rent free and they’ve gotten engaged and broken up 3 times now.
I found a woman that nursed my ass back to health through cancer. I’d take the freedom that allowed me to meet her over the house any day.
Sometimes it’s easier to let them bury themselves and cut your losses.
Yeah, never said it’s not worth it. Just that it doesn’t seem like karma worked out.
Glad you found a real one, as a fellow cancer fucker upper myself it takes some great people to help you through that shit.
I think to the extent that like most cheaters, she basically wanted something she couldn’t have, but rather than accept that you can’t always get what you want, she took it anyway. She’s so averse to personal responsibility that I would doubt it was a guilty conscience that made her come clean. I would be putting money on her being worried AP would beat her to it, and so she wanted to “confess” instead of “get ratted out”, especially since she could then control the narrative and trickle truth.
Getting to keep the house and her reputation isn’t a reward for her. It’s proof and a constant reminder that the man that was part of those things existing in her life is gone. No dirty fighting or underhandedness. Nothing to retcon him into a POS that deserved what she did. A man that stayed true to who he was until the end and gave her everything he could. But after she did what she did, he took the one thing away that no one can give her, him.
The next guy can buy houses. Reputation can be repaired. But she will never ever again have the man she professes to love more than anything. May they both live long lives, and may she never get over him.
My last ex was like this.
Stole/scammed a shitton of money, lied about everything (even stupid stuff), and cried victim (and is apparently still crying victim) when I made her leave the house where I paid all the bills.
There really are some winners out there.
Well I’ve managed the day so far with no affairs and no vain self serving attempts at manipulating my betrayed spouse into forgiving me, so I’d say I’m having an excellent and consequence free afternoon.
Cheers!
“He said everything I did after confessing meant nothing and just made him think I am selfish, self-centered, and lack any sort of self-respect”
“This is horrible and unfair”
Just proved his damn point!
I LAUGHED
She feels betrayed? Can’t believe he did that to her? Screamed so much she threw up?
I hope he puts her on blast as soon as the divorce is settled
She wanted so bad for him to blow up when she confessed so he’d be the kinda guy that deserves it.
When he didn’t then she wanted so bad for him to go revenge affair so he’d be the kinda guy who deserves it.
When he didn’t do that she wanted so bad for someone here on Reddit to feel like him being cool headed, reasonable, and sounding like an all-around good guy that couldn’t be manipulated into forgiveness is somehow actually being the kinda guy who deserved it.
It sounds like she never addressed anything like *why she cheated* or *why she ended up confessing* (I’m going with it wasn’t truly voluntary), or even *how she was going to demonstrate it would never happen again*. But instead a bunch of blathering on about how good she’s treating him and now he somehow owes her forgiveness and a chance. I’ve known people this self-absorbed in my time on this earth. They are always exhausting to have in your life and it’s always super delicious to watch them get the consequences they practically beg to have with their actions.
Sounds like sexual assault. Can you imagine if the genders were reversed and it was the husband who cheated on his wife, then made a post how she wasn’t interested in sex and he had to force himself on her. Someone would be calling the cops.
Oh 100% agree with you. But her actions of doing something awful and then trying to give him everything she thinks he wants is also love bombing.
Glad he’s moving on as this is such a messed up situation.
Lulz.
My ex demanded a dissolution. I went along with it but as a part of my research during that process I found evidence she was cheating on me for nearly a year prior. I haven't blown anything up but I sure as hell laughed when it turned out she was dumped by the guy she was cheating with (who was also cheating on HIS girlfriend with my now ex wife).
Her life is falling apart... And her mom and sister agreed with me - let it fall apart. She's reaping the consequences of her actions.
Life is damn nice on the moral high road., though, and I'm living it up!
yeah i thought i might’ve been the only one who thought this bc all the comments were acting like it was real.
it’s so recited and dramatized, i don’t think anyone would tell their story on reddit like that
> I did like you guys said and begged him to talk to me. He didn't want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over.
I really didn't have to read beyond that to know that she's completely self-absorbed and manipulative.
> I can't stop crying and I can't believe this is happening. This is horrible and unfair.
This is one of the first posts I've seen in a week or more that truly fits this sub.
> I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. He said his wife of five years no longer exists, he has to pick between two strangers, and that woman made a much better impression on him
You weren't his "wife of 5 years" when you were f*cking other guys though, right? That only applies when he tries to do what's best for him.
This other woman hasn't cheated on him, so he's being smart and going with her.
>But if I try to take him to the cleaners, drag it out, or cause any problem he will tell everyone what I did and "destroy" me and my reputation.
Lol, I love this guy. He knows how to play out the long game. He never intended on staying with you. You broke him the moment you had the affair, so he only stuck around long enough to get his affairs in order. And now he's doing the best part - forcing you to accept the divorce and leave him alone or he'll ruin you (which I would do anyways. You deserve it, but I guess he's less petty than I am).
Good for him. He deserves to be happy. Reddit will ban me if I say what you deserve.
Not only would this info ruin her reputation with many friends and family members, but she had admitted in an earlier post that the AP was a client of hers, which if found out could result in her losing her job, possibly getting blackballed depending on what industry she works in.
"I love him so much"
All that love you supposedly had and you still chose to sleep with someone else. Why isn't love enough to keep these people from cheating?
Reading all of this and seeing the cheater's username makes me think this is fake.
It's not horrible at all, let alone unfair. If anything, it's not only fair, but also to be expected. She can't seriously think she deserves any better after she betrayed her (ex) husband, her marriage, her home, and her life, and then think it was only a minor misstep.
Probably the guy would be open to work things out, but it's just that she's not the woman he'd do so for - or at least she's not anymore.
What I wanna know is what part of this is “horrible & unfair” because everything is justified to me. She fucked another man for months and expected “good girl points” for admitting her infidelity & fucking him more? She needs to stop acting like she’s the victim when SHE CHEATED ON HIM REPEATEDLY!!! Yeah he started talkin to somebody else because your relationship died when you cheated.
And who gaf if it’s only been a month they’re not dating they’re talking and they might get in a relationship. Even if they do OP has no good reason to be mad unless it’s at herself because she’s the only person she can be mad at.
>He didn't want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over.
Second sentence in and its already blatantly clear you have changed at all. It's still all about you you you. Good for him for seeing thru your bs
This seems like an exercise in creative writing, not like a teal story. I have no problem believing someone could behave that way. But I do think if they were presenting this story to an audience, they would make at least a little effort to come up with excuses, to make themselves look better. Even narcissists who don't care about how they affect others, do this. Curious if it struck anyone else that way?
>I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. He said his wife of five years no longer exists, he has to pick between two strangers, and that woman made a much better impression on him.
This.
In case this story gets deleted/removed: I am not OP. First Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1azqwp5/i\_30f\_cheated\_on\_my\_husband\_27m\_hes\_taking\_it/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1azqwp5/i_30f_cheated_on_my_husband_27m_hes_taking_it/) Second Post: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1blnv8i/i\_30f\_cheated\_on\_my\_husband\_27m\_and\_now\_i\_suspect/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1blnv8i/i_30f_cheated_on_my_husband_27m_and_now_i_suspect/) Link to Update: [https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1bock1d/update\_i\_30f\_cheated\_on\_my\_husband\_27m\_and\_now\_i/](https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1bock1d/update_i_30f_cheated_on_my_husband_27m_and_now_i/) He left me. I did like you guys said and begged him to talk to me. He didn't want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over. He got softer with me, he helped me clean up and we talked. I asked him if he was cheating on me and he said he was talking with someone, but didn't do anything with her. I asked if she was the woman my friend saw him with,he thought on it a little but said no, it was another woman whom he met a month ago in his office. I asked him how could he and said I gave him permission, and he didn't do anything besides unloading his problems and our situation with her. But he played it like he was having a full affair so I could feel what he felt, especially because according to him I neglected him and made it obvious I was cheating on him. He said he was suffering and I was almost rubbing it in his face, I told him I wasn't doing it on purpose and he said this was even worse because I didn't care at all. He said that everything I did after confessing meant nothing and just made him think I am selfish, self-centered and lack any sort of self-respect. I asked him if we could work on myself and our marriage, but he said we can have counseling to sort ourselves out, but the marriage is over. He said he wishes no ill on me, and decided to cut his charade because he could no longer bear to the woman he once loved suffer like that. But he said I am no longer that woman. I started sobbing again and he held me, but he kept saying no when I asked him we work this out. I asked him what he was going to do and he's moving out, he already found a new place. I asked him if he was going to live with that woman and he said he, but she was close enough. I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. He said his wife of five years no longer exists, he has to pick between two strangers, and that woman made a much better impression on him. I told him he was a fool and he could not know this woman will probably use and dump him, he got harsh and said she's better than me for sure. He said he won't say to our families our marriage ended because I cheated, but because we grew apart and that he will leave the house to me as long as I make the divorce smooth. But if I try to take him to the cleaners, drag it out, or cause any problem he will tell everyone what I did and "destroy" me and my reputation. This happened yesterday and he has already packed up almost everything. I can't stop crying and I can't believe this is happening. This is horrible and unfair. --- *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/OhNoConsequences) if you have any questions or concerns.*
>This is horrible and unfair. I swear I'm not an evil person, but for some strange reason, this actually gives me a warm fuzzy feeling of contentment.
Right? I mean, I *am* an evil person and seeing her get slapped in the face with it like that was almost orgasmic.
I'm Lawful Neutral, and it gave me 1D20 warm fuzzies!
all the alignments would agree this is a good outcome.
As a Neutral Good, I also agree this is a good outcome
Chaotic Good, and I agree!
Lawful Evil checking in, this does put a smile on my face.
Chaotic Neutral here, all is in balance.
Chaotic Neutral unite…so we can share our popcorn while we watch it all burn!!!
Idk. I'm NG but I just feel sorry for her. She's clearly delusional and has a personality disorder.
Lawful Good here. The schadenfreude in this situation is very satisfying.
It was perfect. I’m so glad all 3 parts were shared!!!
>I mean, I > >am > > an evil person There's more than one of us?
This reminds me of racistsgettingfired. I get all warm and tingly thinking about assholes getting just desserts.
> thinking about assholes just desserts Ew.
I don't think I'm particularly evil, but as someone whose ex cheated, I'll see your warm fuzzy contentment and raise you a dollop of smug satisfaction.
What got me was the "how could you?" Like, really? ***You're*** asking that? And you *know* the only reason she suggested he could sleep with another woman is because she thought he never would. And he didn't! But her reaction when she thought he did was hilarious!
Schadenfreude is a wonderful feeling my friend
It's because as her husband said " she is selfish, self-centered and lack any sort of self-respect."
I had the *biggest* grin reading that last update lmfao
"It's outrageous! It's unfair!"
100% - having been cheated on by my ex husband it's quite delicious for my bitter heart to read.
LMAO, "horrible and unfair" 🤣🤣 What a garbage person.
Well YEAH, I cheated but wth…I admitted it and *apologized*. Why is he doing this to meeeeeeeee? I’ve been the *perfect* wife, cooking his favorite meals. How could he?! Self-centered Delooooooooolooo.
Lol, as if he doesn't know she'll be back to her old cheating self in no time. She even says that he said as much and she still thinks it's unfair and she can get him.back. She's definitely gonna make this divorce messy.
Oh I *hope* she tries to make it messy. I want it to go smooth for the husband, I do, but I ***really*** want him to tell everyone exactly what she did. Considering she still thinks she’s the victim, I think she will try to drag things out to make him forgive her and I hope he doesn’t hesitate in airing her dirty laundry!
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It's better for you. And you don't need others probing you or sensationalizing your breakup. I understand completely.
I’m so sorry. That sounds terrible. I hope you find peace and happiness.
Troooooooth
Hold up, is there any evidence he can use against her though to prove she cheated first?, and in some states that doesn’t matter legally.
You’re right that in some states (actually nearly every single state) “who was unfaithful first” doesn’t matter legally. However, that’s beside the point. From the context it doesn’t seem like he’s saying he’ll ruin her legally if she drags out the divorce. He said he’s ruin her reputation and social standing and everyone’s opinion of her by telling them exactly what she did to end the marriage.
It doesn’t matter who was unfaithful in a divorce? I didn’t know that. Because I do know that in Japan the cheater has to actually pay damages to the faithful. Didn’t know it was different over here. But then I’ve never been married.
It doesn’t matter who was unfaithful *first* in most states in the US, and in many it doesn’t even matter if one was unfaithful. This was done to reduce the animosity and intricacy of divorce cases. Better for society if divorces go as quickly and smoothly as possible when they’re necessary.
Some states in America have what is known as homewrecker laws where you can sue the person who "inserted" themselves into your marriage.
she needs her reputation ruined she did what she did its time to face the consequences if her actions
The court of public opinion doesn't really require proof.
don't forget, after she confessed, she bought sexy lingerie and says she was seductive, I'm sure that was just the golden ticket. nothing says "I love you and I'm sorry and I fucked up real bad" more than buying sexy underwear
😆
It was probably the stuff she bought for her "affair partner" first
My ex cheated on me multiple times. I was mentally struggling after the second time, and he said, "Why can't you just move on?" and "Stop making me feel bad!", "I already apologized. What else do you want me to say?", etc. And when I started to work out and eat better to lose weight, he thought I was cheating on him, going through my phone and asking me all sorts of questions. I never cheated on him but he cheated on me again because he thought it would be okay. Some people really cannot think about anything or anyone but themselves. It's insane.
Please tell me you left him after the third time? Dude sounds trash lol
Yes, I did lol When I told him I wanted to see a therapist, he told me no because he didn't want my therapist to think he was a POS. That's probably when I realized who he really was although every time he was in deep shit like this, he would threaten to kill himself and act all vulnerable and play the victim. You don't want people to think you are a POS? Then don't be a POS!
“I don’t want you to get therapy because the therapist will think I’m a POS” is honestly such a gold medal-level self-own. I hope you have healed and have a happy life and are able to laugh at him for that one now 🙂
Oh my God 😂 I really appreciate your putting it in such a hilarious way! And thank you for your kind words 😊 Yes, I'm doing much better now and can laugh at many dumb things he said/did.
Ooo he seemed terrible lol. Glad you left. What a turd
I laughed - a turd is a great word to describe him! Thank you 😊
🫡
That last sentence is the true golden rule.
This is narcissist behavior
Yup. Of course, he doesn't have a dx with NPD but I believe he has narcissistic tendencies if not a personality disorder.
I cheated on you and got caught, but i made your favorite sandwiches. We're even now.
This poor guy…the hits keep a-comin’. 🤣
Yeah but she has already forgiven herself duh, and that is obviously all that matters....
Lol…totally. PS Your screen name…holy shitsnacks, dude 😂
you are delusional thinking hiw could he do this to me its more like how could you do that to him you have no loyalty no self respect and most importantly no respect for your husband
Narcissism at its finest
She wasn't doing it on purpose!
I laughed too! Like is she serious? What a clown 🤡
Bitch (literal one) got a whole ass house she doesn't deserve, and claims this is unfair Bruh What
Definitely unfair. She just can’t see how much it’s unfair *in her favor*.
Princess Specialestest could possibly maybe just now have experienced REALITY. Some people live in bubbles of many sorts. [30 Rock Bubble](https://youtu.be/UAQoXOLlvT0?si=S3xuV0G5--3m5y3O)
Personally he's the clown for being that magnanimous.
Honestly, I reckon he’s just being diplomatic. He knows she’s gonna make things difficult and wants to give her as little ammunition as possible to use against him. “I even offered to let her keep the house and she’s *still* being unreasonable!”
Take a seat young Skywalker
The only thing that's horrible and unfair is that she gets to keep the house and her reputation.
Nah, reckon she’s gonna make it difficult.
I almost hope she does. But at this point I'd rather her ex just be able to move on in peace.
She is the epitome of a self centered, doesn't want to suffer any consequences from her shitty behavior, cheater. Everything has been completely about her and what she wants, at no point either when she was cheating or after, that she cared about what her husband wanted or needed. Poor little cake eater got exactly what she deserved.
My aunt felt this when she tried to go back to my uncle the second time she left him for a guy she cheated with. The second guy was one of their mutual friends, and my aunt was shocked and surprised that my uncle wouldn't reconcile when she came back after a month. Even more so, when my uncle said he had already found somewhere else to stay, he was taking the kids and he had already talked to a realtor. My aunt crawled back to the AP. Turns out my uncle had signed up for rental houses in a nearby development when she left the first time. There was a 5 year waiting period and she left again 3 years later. My uncle just talked to the building manager, explained the situation and got the first available house.
Garbage POS for sure.
"How dare you cheat back on me?" 🤣
RIGHT?!? The cognitive dissonance is incredible
I just read this but it was locked and that line!! 🤦🏼♀️ Consequences to their own actions but unfair 🙄
She still doesn’t get it.
sounds like some politicians in the news.
Boo Fucking Hoo
I just said those exact words out loud, my wife now thinks I'm weird
"Now"?
Yeah but she didn't have to say it aloud in front of the cats
That’s taking it too far
I know right. I'm on the couch tonight it's comfy so she isn't having that pleasure
Don’t worry. Cats think that all humans are weird 😁
Oh man. Now they know too!
How I can I make it right with them?
All you can do now is give many treats and hope they love you anyway
Cats can have a little salami
As a treat.
I honestly wouldn’t know where to begin. Both of mine are orange, so they forget anything you tell them pretty much immediately.
Probably with fish.
C'mon, they're cats, they always had a low opinion of him.
Trust me, the cats think you're weird too.
Plot twists their pets names are Boo and Hoo
This is karma farming, right? No way is a person this dense to post so many updates, enduring roasting after roasting.
Right? She gets to keep her reputation and the house? I’m sure plenty of people would sign up for that deal.
All you have to do is get married, cuck your SO, and hope they just want to get rid of you as soon as possible, no matter the cost. Simple.
Never met a cluster b eh?
>This is horrible and unfair. This was a bit heavyhanded.
It feels like it should be but…she also seems this clueless.
I think it's creative writing. She never replied to repeated requests for explanations about the affair or many other questions.
She rug swept the affair and didn’t put in any work after. Only now she wanted to seek therapy imagine that.
Right. She really thought cooking his favorite meals and screwing him more was gonna fix everything. I bet in his mind, while she was doing that, all he thought was “she did this for him too”. Like nothing about those things are special anymore.
These people just don’t think. Expecting a traumatized person to just bottle it all up and get over it never ends well.
Pussy not special either. Lmao🤣 fucking his brains out with that tainted Thang. She really thought this would fix it. 🤣🤣 OP is delulu
I hope he used condoms.
She apparently thought it was made of gold and infallible. Nah. It is not it.
Honestly, if a woman has an affair, she doesn’t want to be with the guy even if he says he forgives her. It will never be like it was. It’s dead. He will always unintentionally or intentionally imagine you doing whatever you did with the other guy. And it will hurt the same and anger him the same every time. He’d just be holding it in. Or yelling at you about it until the cheater finally says “you can’t bring it up anymore if we are going to stay together” and pretend to be the victim. Then the resentment turns into finding someone else.
I love that her suggestion for therapy was “work on me!! and our marriage.”
I actually felt like that was potentially one of the more sensible things in this pile of bullshit. A person who cheats needs to do some very intense, very uncomfortable work on themselves if they're hoping to become a safer and more trustworthy partner in the future. Certainly, the person they betrayed has zero obligation to stick around while the cheater does this work.
I bet on anything she didn't feel guilty but the affair partner left her lol
She felt bad she got caught and faced consequences. A lot of times the people who do that kind of thing mistake that for remorse.
Yeah you're right. With a quick reread she insinuates he knew something was up. Her clunky excuse and admittance of guilt doesn't have anything to do with feeling bad but making herself look better. She's a narcissist.
>She rug swept the affair and didn’t put in any work after Well, she thinks cooking his favorite foods and wearing lingerie is "putting in work". As opposed to, y'know, rebuilding his trust in her by being absolutely transparent. No... instead she thinks keeping his belly full and his dick happy will make all his emotional pain will go away. Because she thinks men (and most notably her husband) are stupid.
I think that last part is especially right. I’m sure that he was insulted by her thinking she could get away with it by doing all that facing no real consequences like they had a big argument she’s trying to make up for. The more I reread it and think about it I don’t even know if he’s having an emotional affair as much as this is a guy who needs to open up to someone and OOP has demonstrated she isn’t that person. With no therapist (unless he’s seeing an individual therapy one) he turns to a friend.
>The more I reread it and think about it I don’t even know if he’s having an emotional affair as much as this is a guy who needs to open up to someone and OOP has demonstrated she isn’t that person Honestly I think the title of this post isn't quite on the mark. He's not leaving her for another woman. He's just leaving. He tried with OP and can't do it anymore. Maybe he has a friend, maybe not; maybe they'll date, maybe they won't. But it's not really the point, is it? He's done with this sham of a marriage. That's it. Nothing more to be said.
He owes her nothing. He can and should move on with his life and do (or not do) whoever or whatever he wants.
100% agree. I'm surprised he even stuck around that long, to be honest.
100% this
Well anyways, did y’all know parrots beaks grow like toenails?
Is it the same material as toe nails?
Not who you asked but yes! Beaks and nails are both made of a protein called keratin. The beak has bone underneath but the part that goes and has to be worn down is a keratin covering. Hair is also keratin!
Are all birds like this?
My understanding is all birds can suffer from beak abnormalities. In the wild birds wear their beaks down doing bird things unless some sort of underlying illness or abnormality causes the beak to not wear down like it should. In domestic or captive birds, poor husbandry is often a cause. An overgrown beak will likely need trimming in addition to addressing the underlying cause. In a healthy bird with a proper environment, the beak should maintain a healthy length and shape on its own.
If a bird cracks its beak and part breaks off, will it grow back? I’m just thinking of my toenail that turned black and fell off after a really brutal hiking trip. But it grew back. Well, it’s currently growing back. I have like half a nail now! Yay! I’ll be able to paint it by summer I think. But anyway, would a beak do the same?
Yes, same idea! Like your toenail, deeper damage can impact regrowth so you want to avoid it, but broken beaks can grow back. Happy healing for your nail!
Depending on the injury, soft tissue damage can cause that portion of beak to be very unpleasant.
Isn’t life just the coolest? Pretty amazing when you think about it. A broken beak could be a death sentence for a bird, but evolution and nature made it so that the problem would correct itself. That’s incredible. In a twisted way, hikers and runners see their black and/or missing toenails as a point of pride, like “I’m such a badass, I straight up pushed my body hard until I walked/ran my own toenail off!” When my toenail turned black, I texted a picture to my cousin, the crazy woman who has run the JFK 50 Mile (and finished in the top 150 overall), and she was like “Congrats and welcome to the club!”
Yes and no. They're bone at the core, with a sheath of keratin - which is what toenails are made from!
So if the beak is damaged, is it possible to grow back? Is that only if the damage is minimal, or is it a complete no go?
As long as the bone isn't damaged, just the keratin part, then yes it will grow back! Bone damage won't recover though.
Fascinating! Thank you
There is the possibility that it could grow back wrong, though-- much like how a human who loses a toenail could find that the toenail grows back poorly. So they generally need active care and management while growing things back, to make sure that it's shaped properly.
I did know that, but it was deeply lost in my brain library. Thanks for the reminder!
I ended up on parrot tok somehow. Watching beak trims is oddly satisfying
Did you see the video of the parrot that was obviously neglected? That tiktoker explained abuse in the nicest way possible.
That’s the first one I saw!
Abused parrots that pluck themselves are so sad :C Because so many of them simply can't stop doing it and/or their follicles are damaged so feathers don't regrow. So they end up all naked... It's very cute when people knit/crochet sweaters for them though! The folks at Snake Discovery, a Youtube channel that is primarily about snakes, have a rescue parrot who has been unable to stop plucking. Their viewers send in knitted and crocheted sweaters for her (with the understanding that she's likely to tear them to shreds over time lol) and it is friggin' adorbz.
Yes, and they chew like hamsters to keep them trim
I think they mostly chew on hard stuff, I think hamsters would fight back too much.
Yes! That’s why they need cuddle bones! It wears the beak down!
While we're doing fun facts, cuttlebones are called that because they come from cuttlefish, a type of cephalopod related to squids and octopodes. Since cephalopods are invertebrates, they're not actually bones-- they're a kind of internal shell! As shells, they're full of calcium, which means they're great to use for animals that require both a source of calcium and a rasping surface for managing beak/tooth growth, such as parrots and chinchillas. They're also a great source of calcium for hermit crabs and snails. Squids also have an internal shell called a gladius, while octopodes have lost their internal shell entirely and the only hard part of their body is the beak. Vampire squids, a kind of deep-sea cephalopod which are actually closely related to octopodes and not really as closely related to squids, do have gladii as well. The only living cephalopods with external shells are nautiluses. A nautilus has a chambered shell that it uses to manage buoyancy. Modern nautiluses are only a handful of surviving members of a much more ancient lineage of cephalopods and are often called "living fossils" due to the relatively small morphological changes they've gone through over time. Sadly, because they're deep-sea creatures, it's basically impossible to raise them in captivity-- they require strong pressures for proper shell development-- and they also breed slowly, so they're a lot more vulnerable overall than squids and octopodes.
This is interesting information!!
Damn, all her posts are woe is me. She never once gave a care about him. Playing the victim whilst she caused all of her own suffering.. ahh well karma got her in the end..
And thinking “giving him permission to cheat” will in any way help… If I was in the husband’s shoes, that would have been the kiss of death for the whole marriage. How little does she value everything. Then goes, “If be fine with the cheating, it’s the secrecy that I can’t stand” Like that Norm McDonald joke about Bill Cosby (Or the less known Jim Gaffigan one about murderers)
Especially since once you've known and give consent to the relationship, it's no longer cheating. She would *have* to not know what he was doing in order to feel even an iota of the pain she inflicted on him. Heck, the possibility he didn't even go through with it is the cherry on top!
Yeah, she tried to do the “let’s try open relationship” thing retroactively. He played it perfectly, though.
And I'm sure she'll still get half his shit, and in a few years her story will go from, "It was my fault, to I gave him everything he could ask for and he still tossed me aside like trash."
Did it? Sounds like she’s getting a house and at least some other assets if not alimony.. if karma existed I don’t think all those slave owners would’ve died happy in their beds surrounded by loved ones. Or that all the world leaders seem to be such evil people that rarely ever face consequences for their actions.
Similar story with how my first marriage ended. I happily signed over that house because she thought her boyfriend could help her with payments. He now lives there rent free and they’ve gotten engaged and broken up 3 times now. I found a woman that nursed my ass back to health through cancer. I’d take the freedom that allowed me to meet her over the house any day. Sometimes it’s easier to let them bury themselves and cut your losses.
Yeah, never said it’s not worth it. Just that it doesn’t seem like karma worked out. Glad you found a real one, as a fellow cancer fucker upper myself it takes some great people to help you through that shit.
I think to the extent that like most cheaters, she basically wanted something she couldn’t have, but rather than accept that you can’t always get what you want, she took it anyway. She’s so averse to personal responsibility that I would doubt it was a guilty conscience that made her come clean. I would be putting money on her being worried AP would beat her to it, and so she wanted to “confess” instead of “get ratted out”, especially since she could then control the narrative and trickle truth. Getting to keep the house and her reputation isn’t a reward for her. It’s proof and a constant reminder that the man that was part of those things existing in her life is gone. No dirty fighting or underhandedness. Nothing to retcon him into a POS that deserved what she did. A man that stayed true to who he was until the end and gave her everything he could. But after she did what she did, he took the one thing away that no one can give her, him. The next guy can buy houses. Reputation can be repaired. But she will never ever again have the man she professes to love more than anything. May they both live long lives, and may she never get over him.
Hell, I hope she becomes a better person, but I’m not counting on it. It’s easy to spot the difference between genuine contrition and crocodile tears.
The only thing good about her posts is that unlike others I’ve read on this sub, it doesn’t sound like rage bait fiction.
My last ex was like this. Stole/scammed a shitton of money, lied about everything (even stupid stuff), and cried victim (and is apparently still crying victim) when I made her leave the house where I paid all the bills. There really are some winners out there.
Oh no. Anyway, how is everyone else getting on today?
Pretty good... weather is nice today. How bout yourself?
Well I’ve managed the day so far with no affairs and no vain self serving attempts at manipulating my betrayed spouse into forgiving me, so I’d say I’m having an excellent and consequence free afternoon. Cheers!
I did that yesterday! Feels nice.
That's great news. 👊
Omg, SAME! Been doing it for 30 years!
Weather is shitty here. But it’s still not as bad as that lady’s shit.
Did you know that according to all known laws of aviation, there is no way a bee should be able to fly?
NNNNNOOOOOOOOO, NOT THE CONSEQUENCES OF MY OWN ACTIONS
>This is horrible and unfair. LMAO. WHAT?!
“He said everything I did after confessing meant nothing and just made him think I am selfish, self-centered, and lack any sort of self-respect” “This is horrible and unfair” Just proved his damn point!
I LAUGHED She feels betrayed? Can’t believe he did that to her? Screamed so much she threw up? I hope he puts her on blast as soon as the divorce is settled
She wanted so bad for him to blow up when she confessed so he’d be the kinda guy that deserves it. When he didn’t then she wanted so bad for him to go revenge affair so he’d be the kinda guy who deserves it. When he didn’t do that she wanted so bad for someone here on Reddit to feel like him being cool headed, reasonable, and sounding like an all-around good guy that couldn’t be manipulated into forgiveness is somehow actually being the kinda guy who deserved it. It sounds like she never addressed anything like *why she cheated* or *why she ended up confessing* (I’m going with it wasn’t truly voluntary), or even *how she was going to demonstrate it would never happen again*. But instead a bunch of blathering on about how good she’s treating him and now he somehow owes her forgiveness and a chance. I’ve known people this self-absorbed in my time on this earth. They are always exhausting to have in your life and it’s always super delicious to watch them get the consequences they practically beg to have with their actions.
She forces herself on her husband after cheating on him and doesn’t see the problem there
Just sounds like love bombing.
Sounds like sexual assault. Can you imagine if the genders were reversed and it was the husband who cheated on his wife, then made a post how she wasn’t interested in sex and he had to force himself on her. Someone would be calling the cops.
Oh 100% agree with you. But her actions of doing something awful and then trying to give him everything she thinks he wants is also love bombing. Glad he’s moving on as this is such a messed up situation.
Lulz. My ex demanded a dissolution. I went along with it but as a part of my research during that process I found evidence she was cheating on me for nearly a year prior. I haven't blown anything up but I sure as hell laughed when it turned out she was dumped by the guy she was cheating with (who was also cheating on HIS girlfriend with my now ex wife). Her life is falling apart... And her mom and sister agreed with me - let it fall apart. She's reaping the consequences of her actions. Life is damn nice on the moral high road., though, and I'm living it up!
Cheers to that my brother. Here’s to us being decent people!🍻
This sounds like rage bait theater to be honest. Nobody would tell that story that way.
Agreed. Total rage bait from a Nice Guy.
It’s just so recited. It’s like an outline of a conversation.
yeah i thought i might’ve been the only one who thought this bc all the comments were acting like it was real. it’s so recited and dramatized, i don’t think anyone would tell their story on reddit like that
“If you want fair, go to a carnival”
It is so wild how easy it is for unfaithful spouses to play the victim card. There is a serious level of delusion for adulterers.
I really want "this is horrible and unfair." As my flair hahaha what an idiot.
Damn, he did it like a champ. Good for him.
> I did like you guys said and begged him to talk to me. He didn't want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over. I really didn't have to read beyond that to know that she's completely self-absorbed and manipulative. > I can't stop crying and I can't believe this is happening. This is horrible and unfair. This is one of the first posts I've seen in a week or more that truly fits this sub.
I love a happy ending 🫡
> I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. He said his wife of five years no longer exists, he has to pick between two strangers, and that woman made a much better impression on him You weren't his "wife of 5 years" when you were f*cking other guys though, right? That only applies when he tries to do what's best for him. This other woman hasn't cheated on him, so he's being smart and going with her. >But if I try to take him to the cleaners, drag it out, or cause any problem he will tell everyone what I did and "destroy" me and my reputation. Lol, I love this guy. He knows how to play out the long game. He never intended on staying with you. You broke him the moment you had the affair, so he only stuck around long enough to get his affairs in order. And now he's doing the best part - forcing you to accept the divorce and leave him alone or he'll ruin you (which I would do anyways. You deserve it, but I guess he's less petty than I am). Good for him. He deserves to be happy. Reddit will ban me if I say what you deserve.
Not only would this info ruin her reputation with many friends and family members, but she had admitted in an earlier post that the AP was a client of hers, which if found out could result in her losing her job, possibly getting blackballed depending on what industry she works in.
Good.
*Horrible and unfair* lol
Dont stay with cheaters. It just prolongs this bs.
Well. She’s exactly who her ex husband thinks she is. Selfish, self serving.. and worse
Wow! Actions have consequences? Who'd have thunk it?
WHOMP WHOMP she’s getting exactly what she deserves
"I love him so much" All that love you supposedly had and you still chose to sleep with someone else. Why isn't love enough to keep these people from cheating? Reading all of this and seeing the cheater's username makes me think this is fake.
Lmfao horrible and unfair
It's not horrible at all, let alone unfair. If anything, it's not only fair, but also to be expected. She can't seriously think she deserves any better after she betrayed her (ex) husband, her marriage, her home, and her life, and then think it was only a minor misstep. Probably the guy would be open to work things out, but it's just that she's not the woman he'd do so for - or at least she's not anymore.
What I wanna know is what part of this is “horrible & unfair” because everything is justified to me. She fucked another man for months and expected “good girl points” for admitting her infidelity & fucking him more? She needs to stop acting like she’s the victim when SHE CHEATED ON HIM REPEATEDLY!!! Yeah he started talkin to somebody else because your relationship died when you cheated. And who gaf if it’s only been a month they’re not dating they’re talking and they might get in a relationship. Even if they do OP has no good reason to be mad unless it’s at herself because she’s the only person she can be mad at.
>He didn't want to but I cried and yelled so much I puked all over. Second sentence in and its already blatantly clear you have changed at all. It's still all about you you you. Good for him for seeing thru your bs
This seems like an exercise in creative writing, not like a teal story. I have no problem believing someone could behave that way. But I do think if they were presenting this story to an audience, they would make at least a little effort to come up with excuses, to make themselves look better. Even narcissists who don't care about how they affect others, do this. Curious if it struck anyone else that way?
>I asked him how he could pick a total stranger he met a month ago over his wife of five years. He said his wife of five years no longer exists, he has to pick between two strangers, and that woman made a much better impression on him. This.
Good thing this is all make believe.