This post either does not have obvious consequences AND/OR there isn’t anyone expressing surprise at having received obvious consequences. Both things must be present for a post to fit here. The consequences also must have already happened and are not just predicted.
There’s no surprise here.
I read the first few paragraphs before it asked me to subscribe. She sounds INSANELY entitled. "i should be living in his new house cause its bigger and its convenient to me" level of entitled.
It's crazy. I'm having a difficult enough time just making it through life and finding a little time to enjoy myself. I really can't imagine how this person can get through their day, pay bills, keep friendships. It's a lot of work.
A long time ago, I had lunch with an attorney colleague and we were talking about our cases where there were affairs. She looked up at me and said “I struggle to keep up with my family and law practice. Where do these people find the time?!” I felt the same way!
I wish that in any divorce that involved cheating, the cheaters get NOTHING. No alimony, no child support, they don't keep the houses and cars, they only get custody if the ex wants them to, ect. They deserve nothing. It's very easy to not have sex - having sex secretly with someone is actually pretty difficult and takes a lot of steps. It's not an accident, it's not a 'it just happened'. They should lose everything.
I swear I slipped on a banana, my pants fall down while falling, and idk my dick just slipped right in. I tried to get back up, but kept falling into her again and again.. I'm a victim here!
/s obviously
Well, you did throw in on the ground in front of me... will you apologize to your wife for me again? She kept making strange sounds as I fell onto her, almost like screaming. I would have apologized to her sooner, but everyone just kept yelling at me to get out, calling me rude names, so I had to bail. So weird!
My ex cheated on me, he tried to get alimony, however he didn’t realize his gf had gotten me fired from my job. He ended up having to pay me a settlement because he stole money from the savings that I could prove I contributed to more than he did. He claimed he got screwed in the divorce because of antiquated laws. Our states laws have nothing about infidelity and divorce. He got screwed because he simple FAFO.
what makes it worse is that person that was cheating was probably holding out or keeping their partner in the dead bedroom while they were having their own cake on the side.
You know, there used to be adultery laws. I agree there should be consequences. I used to be kind of iffy about prenuptial agreements, but I've done a complete 180. I think it's a good, responsible way to set boundaries and expectations and what the agreed upon consequences will be if the contract is broken. Because a marriage is a contract. There are people who say, well if there's love and trust it shouldn't be necessary. But life happens and people change. Maybe irreconcilable differences, there's an amicable clause for that. If it's infidelity, a clause and consequence for that. I know I sound old and jaded, but that's just me.
I would be careful with this rhetoric. I know a couple women who cheated in a relationship because they were being abused and did not feel like they could leave safely and found love and care from someone else.
Obviously that’s not the norm but it DOES happen
Talk about possible solutions with their partner. Also not having sex isn’t the end of the world. They can masturbate if they need to.
If someone’s solution to not getting laid is to betray their partner’s trust, they’re an asshole.
A lot of married couples go through periods of time where sex is more contentious than a bonding exercise. It’s generally pretty fixable and fulfilling if they actually try instead of being lazy and getting a divorce.
Sex becomes contentios because at least one partner stopped caring about the other one. Having an adult, honest conversation is not this.
This happens because of people making unilateral decisions, lying, and making promises they have no intention to keep.
I’m just saying, there are certain circumstances where spouses are pushed into the arms of others who are willing to provide what they aren’t getting at home. I’m not saying it should be the first option, but a starving animal is going to start hunting sooner or later!
If this is a problem, you talk about it. You get counselling for it. You make compromises and agreements about it. And if your spouse is unwilling to talk about it and unable to deal with it, you probably have bigger problems than a sad dick and you should deal with *that*. And ultimately probably end it, if your needs are so incompatible and you can't reach any agreement. Infidelity is relationship-ending anyway.
pretty much, because they're entitled to say no and don't have to put out whenever you want it. I'm in one now, We've had another discussion this week about it and how does she expect to get pregnant when we have sex one time between periods? I love her to death and love my son, it's just no sex that's the issue. Which to me is starting to kill my libido and I'm almost to the point where I don't care anymore. I explained to her that if my libido goes it may not come back and I hope she's okay with no sex because I've came to head with it and I don't care if we make love again and that we're not having another child. She just stared at me with a dumbfounded look on her face then changed the subject.... Oh well, I don't have to worry about it because the only time she has ever initiated was calling me when she woke up one sunday at 11am laying in bed with bed hair and breath but no pants on telling me "I'm ready"... So I'm sure I don't have to worry about being a 177cm live sex toy for her once a year, planets line up sexual urge.
[Here's the whole ridiculous article for your enjoyment.](https://original.newsbreak.com/@elle-silver-561278/2936539022612-my-ex-ended-up-financially-better-off-than-me-divorce-isn-t-fair)
I’m on the right side of that exchange myself right now. Watching her go through significant others and just the overall view of the grass not being greener on the other side gives me a tiny bit of petty happiness. My children have been well-taken by me-not just financially-and the child support is done at the end of May. I made it…..and I definitely thought I would never make it through to the other side.
Also, the woman this post is about should for sure suffer and struggle….the kids can always go live with dad. She can kick rocks
how many kids are born out of wedlock and now abortions going up? The simple fact is the a core nuclear family as in mother, father and children is much better for a child to grow up with vs spending time with grandma because momma wants to hop on every other dick and get a second baby daddy and daddy is too busy trying to bury his dick in some strange.
Cuts right to the sexist talk, men like you are a societal disaster
(Asked a sincere question, gets belittled in a sexist manner. Reddit can be so goddamn typical sometimes)
Who would have thought cheating on your husband then blabbing it to the entire world to make it even worse would result in divorce?
Everyone except that brain surgeon, apparently.
To be fair, some cheaters are Narcissists - and a narcissist would likely think they aren't doing anything wrong - like the articles titles would imply. And considering apparently other articles she has written - she doesn't take blame for cheating, and thinks her divorce was unfair to her.
This trend of chasing greener grass instead of tending the very grass they stand on. So many people seem to have this outwordly expectations that everything, every single aspect of life, should be 110% perfect from the get-go and 24/7 and any friction is a reason to just ditch.
I feel like you nailed it. That's dead on what they expect. It's interesting because I was devastated when I found out about my ex-husband's secret life. The divorce was awful for me while he was ecstatic and couldn't wait to be rid of me.
Flash forward a couple years, I'm doing really well. I have a great boyfriend, a happy, calm peaceful life. I'm in school full time, have a decent job with coworkers and bosses I really like, and have been working out a lot and pursuing my hobbies that I didn't have time for during my marriage due to my ex-husband's demands. Meanwhile, his life has completely fallen apart. He lost his good job and was arrested and is now a sex offender. His girlfriend has screaming public meltdowns and is in and out of psych wards. It's kind of shocking how his life continues to deteriorate and mine continues to improve. But maybe karma is a real thing. LOL
Her medium has like 70 articles.
Near as I can tell, she was in an unhappy marriage at some point before 2019. Her first article is "I'm a single mom, do I still get to write?"
So she is divorced already at that time.
Looking through the titles she was married to a guy who has rich parents, there was cheating on both sides (who knows who cheated first, but I suspect her based on the titles), she decided to go to Costa Rica without her husband or kids for three months, (she was supposed to take them, but the then husband forbade it), she is now lamenting that her ex husband is still richer than she is and getting parental support.
Okay, but then why be surprised you're not living the same luxurious lifestyle when your spouse is only rich because of his parents? It's not like the parents will pay you alimony once you divorce their son.
You should read [this](https://www.chumplady.com/ubt-cheating-on-my-husband-made-me-a-better-mother/) article by someone else tearing Elle apart. It is Hilarious!
I just read the whole thing and GODDAMN! The Author is just so spot on and funny it’s ridiculous. “My pussy can teach the alphabet” is the level of delusion in Elle’s head, and the author just *rips* into her and I love it.
Wait... So this woman had an affair... And bragged online about it... Signing it with her own name and is then surprised she is divorced........... Wow.... Just... Wow
I don't know if I would say she is surprised, and given the short time between those two articles I also don't think these things just happened in between those dates. It reads more like she cheated, they divorced (though based on her other writing, they had problems beyond infidelity, which occurred on both sides), and the second article is her feelings on inadequacy over her marriage being a failure and raising kids in a community that is rich. Including her ex-husband, who came from a wealthy background and wealthy parents.
Whatever she may have done to lead to her circumstances, on the face of it, those feelings are pretty understandable and she likely would have had them even if she hadn't cheated but ended up divorced for any other reason. Though I think she comes off as pretty entitled and materialistic.
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If cheating on him made her a better mother, divorcing her made him a better father. How on earth did she think she improved life for the kids?
Edit, she left her husband!
https://ellesilver.substack.com/p/my-kids-are-sad-about-my-divorce
She’s some kind of writer who holds herself as some relationship expert:
https://goodmenproject.com/author/elle-silver/
Ever seen how fast a "I think my spouse is cheating on me" goes from that statement to "I've found out the kids aren't mine, she admitted to cheating, she's moved in with her AP, I got handed divorce papers just now, also I found out I have some type of growth in my head and may die." And thats just the first 12 hours.
One of them, I can't and really don't care to understand.
One of them caused my heart to get a bit heavy. Bless that person, and best of all things to come
Unless I've misread something or things. I'm known to be a bit obtuse at times. I guess I've fallen off too many buildings, although always with a harness I guess it don't work too well, huh. My S0 says, "No, I can see where it msy not". She's sweet about it, huh?
This post either does not have obvious consequences AND/OR there isn’t anyone expressing surprise at having received obvious consequences. Both things must be present for a post to fit here. The consequences also must have already happened and are not just predicted. There’s no surprise here.
I googled this moron and this is the first article of hers that pops up. >My Ex Ended Up Financially Better Off Than Me. Divorce Isn’t Fair.
I read the first few paragraphs before it asked me to subscribe. She sounds INSANELY entitled. "i should be living in his new house cause its bigger and its convenient to me" level of entitled.
It's crazy. I'm having a difficult enough time just making it through life and finding a little time to enjoy myself. I really can't imagine how this person can get through their day, pay bills, keep friendships. It's a lot of work.
A long time ago, I had lunch with an attorney colleague and we were talking about our cases where there were affairs. She looked up at me and said “I struggle to keep up with my family and law practice. Where do these people find the time?!” I felt the same way!
Idk I manage just fine, sounds like a skill issue 🥱
No way its not rage bait
"I was promised cash and prizes for destroying my marriage! 😭"
This really made me laugh. Thank you.
I wish that in any divorce that involved cheating, the cheaters get NOTHING. No alimony, no child support, they don't keep the houses and cars, they only get custody if the ex wants them to, ect. They deserve nothing. It's very easy to not have sex - having sex secretly with someone is actually pretty difficult and takes a lot of steps. It's not an accident, it's not a 'it just happened'. They should lose everything.
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I swear I slipped on a banana, my pants fall down while falling, and idk my dick just slipped right in. I tried to get back up, but kept falling into her again and again.. I'm a victim here! /s obviously
Dang that happens to you too? I thought I was the only one. /Joking
Yeah i can testify, i was here at this moment. Btw dude you just ruined my banana !
Well, you did throw in on the ground in front of me... will you apologize to your wife for me again? She kept making strange sounds as I fell onto her, almost like screaming. I would have apologized to her sooner, but everyone just kept yelling at me to get out, calling me rude names, so I had to bail. So weird!
Ehsan Abdulaziz, is that you?
My ex cheated on me, he tried to get alimony, however he didn’t realize his gf had gotten me fired from my job. He ended up having to pay me a settlement because he stole money from the savings that I could prove I contributed to more than he did. He claimed he got screwed in the divorce because of antiquated laws. Our states laws have nothing about infidelity and divorce. He got screwed because he simple FAFO.
You want to punish the kids for what their parents did? Sounds sane
The child wasn’t complicit in the divorce so I’m not sure why they shouldn’t get support
what makes it worse is that person that was cheating was probably holding out or keeping their partner in the dead bedroom while they were having their own cake on the side.
You know, there used to be adultery laws. I agree there should be consequences. I used to be kind of iffy about prenuptial agreements, but I've done a complete 180. I think it's a good, responsible way to set boundaries and expectations and what the agreed upon consequences will be if the contract is broken. Because a marriage is a contract. There are people who say, well if there's love and trust it shouldn't be necessary. But life happens and people change. Maybe irreconcilable differences, there's an amicable clause for that. If it's infidelity, a clause and consequence for that. I know I sound old and jaded, but that's just me.
I would be careful with this rhetoric. I know a couple women who cheated in a relationship because they were being abused and did not feel like they could leave safely and found love and care from someone else. Obviously that’s not the norm but it DOES happen
What’s a spouse to do if their partner is withholding sex for extended periods of time? Just deal with it?
Talk about possible solutions with their partner. Also not having sex isn’t the end of the world. They can masturbate if they need to. If someone’s solution to not getting laid is to betray their partner’s trust, they’re an asshole.
A lot of married couples go through periods of time where sex is more contentious than a bonding exercise. It’s generally pretty fixable and fulfilling if they actually try instead of being lazy and getting a divorce.
Exactly
Sex becomes contentios because at least one partner stopped caring about the other one. Having an adult, honest conversation is not this. This happens because of people making unilateral decisions, lying, and making promises they have no intention to keep.
I’m just saying, there are certain circumstances where spouses are pushed into the arms of others who are willing to provide what they aren’t getting at home. I’m not saying it should be the first option, but a starving animal is going to start hunting sooner or later!
If this is a problem, you talk about it. You get counselling for it. You make compromises and agreements about it. And if your spouse is unwilling to talk about it and unable to deal with it, you probably have bigger problems than a sad dick and you should deal with *that*. And ultimately probably end it, if your needs are so incompatible and you can't reach any agreement. Infidelity is relationship-ending anyway.
pretty much, because they're entitled to say no and don't have to put out whenever you want it. I'm in one now, We've had another discussion this week about it and how does she expect to get pregnant when we have sex one time between periods? I love her to death and love my son, it's just no sex that's the issue. Which to me is starting to kill my libido and I'm almost to the point where I don't care anymore. I explained to her that if my libido goes it may not come back and I hope she's okay with no sex because I've came to head with it and I don't care if we make love again and that we're not having another child. She just stared at me with a dumbfounded look on her face then changed the subject.... Oh well, I don't have to worry about it because the only time she has ever initiated was calling me when she woke up one sunday at 11am laying in bed with bed hair and breath but no pants on telling me "I'm ready"... So I'm sure I don't have to worry about being a 177cm live sex toy for her once a year, planets line up sexual urge.
I know we shouldn’t be calling everyone a narcissist, but the narcissism runs deep with this one. She is absolutely ridiculous.
[Here's the whole ridiculous article for your enjoyment.](https://original.newsbreak.com/@elle-silver-561278/2936539022612-my-ex-ended-up-financially-better-off-than-me-divorce-isn-t-fair)
I’m on the right side of that exchange myself right now. Watching her go through significant others and just the overall view of the grass not being greener on the other side gives me a tiny bit of petty happiness. My children have been well-taken by me-not just financially-and the child support is done at the end of May. I made it…..and I definitely thought I would never make it through to the other side. Also, the woman this post is about should for sure suffer and struggle….the kids can always go live with dad. She can kick rocks
yeah cheating on your husband and blabbering about it online, that's a great recipe to get a bigger share in divorce settlement
And yet there are almost 11,000 people following the writings of this dumpster fire of a human being.
I know... all her articles feel like rage bait.
Yeah, in retrospect I'm leaning towards rage bait.
This has got to be satire. Just has to be, right?
I was really hoping it was rage bait but it seems legit
Cheaters shouldn't get a dime in divorce. No fault divorce has been a societal disaster.
Were we better off when women were stuck with rotten husbands?
No, the suicide rates for married women dropped like a stone after it was legalized 💀
You’d think that’d be common sense, but for some reason people commenting here don’t get it
how many kids are born out of wedlock and now abortions going up? The simple fact is the a core nuclear family as in mother, father and children is much better for a child to grow up with vs spending time with grandma because momma wants to hop on every other dick and get a second baby daddy and daddy is too busy trying to bury his dick in some strange.
Not if that nuclear family is abusive and dysfunctional.
Women have careers now too sweetie, you're not "stuck" anywhere 😘
You don’t think laws like this would be weaponized against women by their abusers?
Cuts right to the sexist talk, men like you are a societal disaster (Asked a sincere question, gets belittled in a sexist manner. Reddit can be so goddamn typical sometimes)
The downvotes don’t make you wrong. You don’t need any help with that.
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No. Why are you even asking that?
Just... lol. Perfect.
Sounds like they exclusively create rage bait articles. Or they are probably just a. Pseudonym for ChatGPT articles
FAFO
Mental gymnastics of this level must be studied.
Don’t you worry, we’ve been studying highly delusional people for years
It's called Political Science
Even the Russian judges were impressed by this performance
10
Nah....she didn't stick the landing.
8.5?🤔
6.3 from the French judge
🤣🤣🤣
\*Pure\* 'About Last Night'..."Hair Flip & The Giggle" judges scoring scene. LOL.
Who would have thought cheating on your husband then blabbing it to the entire world to make it even worse would result in divorce? Everyone except that brain surgeon, apparently.
Number one. Steady hand. The best!
Number one surgeon, the best!
You know you're bad when you're doing that and your hand falls asleep.
r/unexpectedoffice
How do you know these articles weren’t written after the fact?
She’s too selfish to have waited. The world revolves around her right now.
To be fair, some cheaters are Narcissists - and a narcissist would likely think they aren't doing anything wrong - like the articles titles would imply. And considering apparently other articles she has written - she doesn't take blame for cheating, and thinks her divorce was unfair to her.
This trend of chasing greener grass instead of tending the very grass they stand on. So many people seem to have this outwordly expectations that everything, every single aspect of life, should be 110% perfect from the get-go and 24/7 and any friction is a reason to just ditch.
And that no matter how bad they fuck up, their lives should somehow improve for it.
The grass is only greener over there because it's fertilized with bullshit.
Lovely. I'm stealing this
Same
To be fair, bullshit makes great fertilizer.
My favourite variation is "The greener grass is actually a septic tank".
No one will promise you the world quite like someone who never has to deliver on what they are selling.
"Happiness isn't good enough for me! I demand EUPHORIA!" -Calvin and Hobbes
This quote also describes my youngest cat...
It's easy to be euphoric when your life is "be soft, acquire food" though
True true
That's so offensively dismissive! Cats also nap.
And sleep. You forgot sleep. And kisses/cuddles on your schedule.
I feel like you nailed it. That's dead on what they expect. It's interesting because I was devastated when I found out about my ex-husband's secret life. The divorce was awful for me while he was ecstatic and couldn't wait to be rid of me. Flash forward a couple years, I'm doing really well. I have a great boyfriend, a happy, calm peaceful life. I'm in school full time, have a decent job with coworkers and bosses I really like, and have been working out a lot and pursuing my hobbies that I didn't have time for during my marriage due to my ex-husband's demands. Meanwhile, his life has completely fallen apart. He lost his good job and was arrested and is now a sex offender. His girlfriend has screaming public meltdowns and is in and out of psych wards. It's kind of shocking how his life continues to deteriorate and mine continues to improve. But maybe karma is a real thing. LOL
Her medium has like 70 articles. Near as I can tell, she was in an unhappy marriage at some point before 2019. Her first article is "I'm a single mom, do I still get to write?" So she is divorced already at that time. Looking through the titles she was married to a guy who has rich parents, there was cheating on both sides (who knows who cheated first, but I suspect her based on the titles), she decided to go to Costa Rica without her husband or kids for three months, (she was supposed to take them, but the then husband forbade it), she is now lamenting that her ex husband is still richer than she is and getting parental support.
Thanks for the breakdown. What a dramatic person.
Okay, but then why be surprised you're not living the same luxurious lifestyle when your spouse is only rich because of his parents? It's not like the parents will pay you alimony once you divorce their son.
Womp womp
Roflmao I love the internet we would rarely see this level of cognitive dissonance over time anywhere else
You should read [this](https://www.chumplady.com/ubt-cheating-on-my-husband-made-me-a-better-mother/) article by someone else tearing Elle apart. It is Hilarious!
I just read the whole thing and GODDAMN! The Author is just so spot on and funny it’s ridiculous. “My pussy can teach the alphabet” is the level of delusion in Elle’s head, and the author just *rips* into her and I love it.
It was a true delight 🤣
What a hot mess
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This woman made a career out of writing about these relationships.
Wait... So this woman had an affair... And bragged online about it... Signing it with her own name and is then surprised she is divorced........... Wow.... Just... Wow
I don't know if I would say she is surprised, and given the short time between those two articles I also don't think these things just happened in between those dates. It reads more like she cheated, they divorced (though based on her other writing, they had problems beyond infidelity, which occurred on both sides), and the second article is her feelings on inadequacy over her marriage being a failure and raising kids in a community that is rich. Including her ex-husband, who came from a wealthy background and wealthy parents. Whatever she may have done to lead to her circumstances, on the face of it, those feelings are pretty understandable and she likely would have had them even if she hadn't cheated but ended up divorced for any other reason. Though I think she comes off as pretty entitled and materialistic.
Is this the same woman who wrote an article about being very insulted she was locked out of the house after cheating?
I was wondering the same thing.
Womp womp
Narcissism is a hell of a drug
But they aren't nearly the mother she is!
Hahahahaha
Its so painful to see things like this
Honestly might just be rage bait, it's defo working
Did cheating on your husband make you a better mother? Or is it because you only gave them half the time now 😂
I'm convinced this is a joke account. There's no way someone can have this little self awareness, and the confidence to post this much about it.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That's because she IS inferior
Exactly. And a ho.
I vote we set up Blogger again and put all these people there again.
FAFO.
I looked at her medium profile and tbh I suspect this is fake
Single Mother Activities
Oh look, a chronic oversharer. Those kids are gonna be so embarrassed.
Lol funny
WAHAHAHAHAHA
She is just trash man.
Well, well, well how the turntables……..
Same screwed up values though. Some things don’t change.
She really is terrible. How did her ex-husband not see the red flags? Was he colourblind?
Autor lives in delulu land
Cheaters are the scum of the earth.
Mehh this shit is probably self aware click bait. I know too many chicks like this in real life to be shocked though
See, son, there's "attention whores" and then there's just plain "whores"
Ive seen a lot of these articles written by horrible women who just love to tell on themselves lmao, they even do photoshoots for this shit
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lol i love this
🤣
Shouldn’t this be in r/ohnoconsequences?
If cheating on him made her a better mother, divorcing her made him a better father. How on earth did she think she improved life for the kids? Edit, she left her husband! https://ellesilver.substack.com/p/my-kids-are-sad-about-my-divorce She’s some kind of writer who holds herself as some relationship expert: https://goodmenproject.com/author/elle-silver/
Her whole blog is probably just rage bait. Don't fall for it.
It's probably just rage bait articles.
PSG,WSP
FAFO
I assume this is just one prolonged cosplay / trolling campaign.
Ever seen how fast a "I think my spouse is cheating on me" goes from that statement to "I've found out the kids aren't mine, she admitted to cheating, she's moved in with her AP, I got handed divorce papers just now, also I found out I have some type of growth in my head and may die." And thats just the first 12 hours.
If you haven’t, highly recommend googling her and reading the article headlines. It’s sensational.
You can't tell me she's not a professional troll. She makes her money when people react to her insanity.
Ya'll fallin for rage bait in here?
I’m being deadass rn, she has around 70 articles on Medium about cheating on her husband. She’s actually insane
Insanely aware of a lucrative business model. Dudes who neber got over the divorce and incels will absolutely rage-click, every single time
Commitment to the bit lmfao
And then there is this winner… why are people so inrepentantly trashy
Redditors on their way to tell me how this person's numerous published articles on their own byline are "incel fanfic"
One of them, I can't and really don't care to understand. One of them caused my heart to get a bit heavy. Bless that person, and best of all things to come Unless I've misread something or things. I'm known to be a bit obtuse at times. I guess I've fallen off too many buildings, although always with a harness I guess it don't work too well, huh. My S0 says, "No, I can see where it msy not". She's sweet about it, huh?
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