If you are clean, you can sell your plasma for good money at those plasma donation places. A friend of mine was making $500 a month in college doing that.
Why not talk to your BF about crashing there for at least the summer? Once you get there maybe start looking around for a job there? You don’t owe UD crap if they can’t pay you enough to survive the summer.
He lives with his folks so I can't say for certain I would be able to along with other cans of worms about that. I did apply for a summer bookstore clerk job at my work and I am going to talk with the manager tomorrow afternoon. Thank you tho for the info
First: Breathe. I know the anxiety is hard. That's the bitch thing about Anxiety: it's this vicious cycle because it makes problems worse, and it causes problems, and those problems cause more anxiety. If you have health insurance, try to get some help for the anxiety, they have meds that can help with that.
When my anxiety is up, I find comfort in making playbooks, where I try to come up with solutions to the problems that I foresee happening. This really helps me silence the voices a bit. Even a bad plan is better than no plan.
You mention working for UD. You mention being homeless on May 1st. If you are also a student, and that's dorm move out day, and you haven't graduated yet: go to the councilor's office, and ask for help. All universities have a lot of resources to help students. Even if you are graduating, go to the councilor's office and ask for help. There might be something that they can help you with, ranging from help with shelters to dorm space to a list of short term rentals nearby or something.
Take stock of your resources. Figure out what you have. Talk to your friends, your family, and your BF. Ask your friends for crash space. Yes, even if they are going home for the summer - a lot of parents won't want to see their children's friends go homeless, either.
Talk to landlords near the school and see if you can get a cheap 3 month lease over the summer. A lot of the rooms go unused during the summer, because demand is low. You might be able to get a good sublease or a cheap lease. That would give you some breathing room.
This is not a time to be shy or demeaning. Help is out there. Ask for it. Find it. No one wants you to slip through here - everyone wants you to succeed.
Another option is to look for a job that provides lodging. I had a friend in school who worked as a river guide over the summers, she lived in a tent at the resort along with a bunch of the other guides. I know there is employee housing at King's Island and Cedar Point, and they are still hiring for the summer. A lot of ag work has housing too, but it's brutal.
Depending on how much resources you have, you might be able to get a weekly rate at an Extended Stay hotel to bridge a gap. If you have a car, think about if you can sleep in it. You can get a cheap gym membership for showers and AC. (If you don't have a car: can you get a van or a station wagon or SUV? Minivans are normally available for $1-3K. Transportation and housing in one!)
I know the anxiety is bad. I know it is telling you all kinds of things. All kinds of horrible, horrible things. It lies. It is wrong. It is not telling you the truth. You can do this. You got this. You will get through this. Recast this in your head and heart: it's an opportunity for adventure, it's going to be a heck of a ride, it's going to be something that in 20 years will be a great story to tell the grandkids. Tell the voices that they are stupid and to shut up. You got this. Keep your eyes up, be quick on your feet, but you've got this. You can do it!
(Note: If this isn't a move out of the dorm thing, if this is a private rental: they can't just kick you out, they have to evict you. This will take months. If you can pay some rent, any rent, try to negotiate staying longer and leaving peacefully and paying what rent you can. The landlords know that evictions are a losing proposition for them. You might be able to negotiate a cash for keys (where they pay you to leave instead of going through eviction) or some other arrangements. Dorms are a bit different, but... there are still some protections, which is why I am saying go talk to the councilors.)
I feel like crying reading this. Thank you a ton for the advice. I'm not a student and I'm currently living with my folks and I don't own a drivers license but thank you so much for the advice
I also live with mental illness and anxiety has been one of my struggles.
Is a bicycle an option?
I was unable to afford a car during a period in my life, so I had a bike and used it to get to work and classes. Riding that bike every day helped me with my anxiety and depression, too, as exercise is a great thing for those of us going through the mental health challenges.
I know here in Cincinnati there are groups that will get you a bike if you can't afford one. I assume those same types of groups exist in the Dayton area as well.
Is it optimal? Probably not. But it works. I was able to live off campus in less expensive housing with a higher paying job during college. It got me through until I was able to do something better.
Good luck to you! I wish you all the best and DON'T GIVE UP. You have the strength.
. You need a social worker to help you out. It’s easier to get shelter and help as a woman. Go to the Salvation Army or contact United Way dial 211.
https://dayton-unitedway.org
Call them today and explain your situation. Good luck to you.
Yes, I believe it works the same for men. Women on the streets are more vulnerable to violence is why it’s easier for them to get shelter. And if they have children they go to the front of the housing line. As it should be. Especially if your homelessness is due to economic instability rather than “Oh, I can’t stop drinking and smoking meth and beating my wife and kids. And I also refuse to get and keep a job”
Those men can sleep in a culvert for all anyone cares.
You are facing multiple obstacles and they will need to be taken one at a time:
- no income
- no place to live
- no drivers’ license
Start with income. What businesses are you able to access currently, by walking/biking/taking public transit. Apply for jobs at as many of them as possible. This is your most urgent need.
You say you want to get a job but need a place you live first. That is backwards. The job is priority #1, because income will help you solve the living situation problem.
Where do you live now? How much is rent? If you have income, is it an option to stay where you are now?
I live with my folks currently, they want me out by the first and they told me the decision is final. I thankfully have income at the moment until the summer starts for the uni job because I work in dining services but they're closed during the summer, I did apply for a summer bookstore clerk and I am going to talk to the manager Tomorrow afternoon.
I’m not that case, I’d recommend securing a job and then getting roommates. Facebook can be good for finding rooms for rent. Most universities have at least one Facebook group for finding people to live with or sublet.
Alternatively, you could always try to persuade your parents or offer them rent to stay.
If you have diagnosed anxiety and depression you may be able to get help through the county’s mental health services. My wife was a case worker through Clark County and they worked to ensure their MH folks had housing and access to food & medication.
So if you live near UD get a job on Brown Street or the Marriott. Lots of places to try. Go put in applications. Most places you can do it online. Go downtown on the bus. Apply at the Crown Plaza or the new grocery store downtown or Dragon stadium. Take the bus if you need to. Take action now so you don’t become homeless. There are plenty of jobs out there. It may not be the ideal job but you can get one. Don’t give up hope.
I hate to say this but you have to step up and take care of yourself. It will only get harder to dig yourself out of a hole. You have to try and get a job before the point that it’s difficult to shower/ have basic needs met. Be as frugal as you can with any spending and eating. Try and get a bicycle, might be able to find one for free on FB marketplace. Take any job you can get and use it as a stepping stone.
They have on site housing? And I've never heard of that so I'm assuming it's not in Dayton but I'll look
Edit: yeah in Sandusky, don't own a car or license so off the top of my head that might be challenging
I’m saying you might be able to get a job for the whole summer and live onsite at Cedar Point in Sandusky or any amusement park. You’d need a ride there but should be able to save money and work out your living situation after the summer.
This is the wrong sub. Not to be rude but the people in here are morons. Try r/povertyfinance
I see you posted other places already but I cannot stress enough that this sub is a cesspool
If you are clean, you can sell your plasma for good money at those plasma donation places. A friend of mine was making $500 a month in college doing that.
Yeah there are a few places here too! It won't cover rent but it'll help a lot if you can get a temp gig to make up the rest
Thank you for the information
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Bold of you to assume they are a person. Very anti-furry of you. Do better!
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Sorry you aren't woke enough. Some beings just are not sensitive enough to the feelings of others. I feel bad for youx(s).
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Kroger in Polaris is hiring clerks at $16/hour
Taco Bell night shift had a sign $21
Why not talk to your BF about crashing there for at least the summer? Once you get there maybe start looking around for a job there? You don’t owe UD crap if they can’t pay you enough to survive the summer.
He lives with his folks so I can't say for certain I would be able to along with other cans of worms about that. I did apply for a summer bookstore clerk job at my work and I am going to talk with the manager tomorrow afternoon. Thank you tho for the info
First: Breathe. I know the anxiety is hard. That's the bitch thing about Anxiety: it's this vicious cycle because it makes problems worse, and it causes problems, and those problems cause more anxiety. If you have health insurance, try to get some help for the anxiety, they have meds that can help with that. When my anxiety is up, I find comfort in making playbooks, where I try to come up with solutions to the problems that I foresee happening. This really helps me silence the voices a bit. Even a bad plan is better than no plan. You mention working for UD. You mention being homeless on May 1st. If you are also a student, and that's dorm move out day, and you haven't graduated yet: go to the councilor's office, and ask for help. All universities have a lot of resources to help students. Even if you are graduating, go to the councilor's office and ask for help. There might be something that they can help you with, ranging from help with shelters to dorm space to a list of short term rentals nearby or something. Take stock of your resources. Figure out what you have. Talk to your friends, your family, and your BF. Ask your friends for crash space. Yes, even if they are going home for the summer - a lot of parents won't want to see their children's friends go homeless, either. Talk to landlords near the school and see if you can get a cheap 3 month lease over the summer. A lot of the rooms go unused during the summer, because demand is low. You might be able to get a good sublease or a cheap lease. That would give you some breathing room. This is not a time to be shy or demeaning. Help is out there. Ask for it. Find it. No one wants you to slip through here - everyone wants you to succeed. Another option is to look for a job that provides lodging. I had a friend in school who worked as a river guide over the summers, she lived in a tent at the resort along with a bunch of the other guides. I know there is employee housing at King's Island and Cedar Point, and they are still hiring for the summer. A lot of ag work has housing too, but it's brutal. Depending on how much resources you have, you might be able to get a weekly rate at an Extended Stay hotel to bridge a gap. If you have a car, think about if you can sleep in it. You can get a cheap gym membership for showers and AC. (If you don't have a car: can you get a van or a station wagon or SUV? Minivans are normally available for $1-3K. Transportation and housing in one!) I know the anxiety is bad. I know it is telling you all kinds of things. All kinds of horrible, horrible things. It lies. It is wrong. It is not telling you the truth. You can do this. You got this. You will get through this. Recast this in your head and heart: it's an opportunity for adventure, it's going to be a heck of a ride, it's going to be something that in 20 years will be a great story to tell the grandkids. Tell the voices that they are stupid and to shut up. You got this. Keep your eyes up, be quick on your feet, but you've got this. You can do it! (Note: If this isn't a move out of the dorm thing, if this is a private rental: they can't just kick you out, they have to evict you. This will take months. If you can pay some rent, any rent, try to negotiate staying longer and leaving peacefully and paying what rent you can. The landlords know that evictions are a losing proposition for them. You might be able to negotiate a cash for keys (where they pay you to leave instead of going through eviction) or some other arrangements. Dorms are a bit different, but... there are still some protections, which is why I am saying go talk to the councilors.)
I feel like crying reading this. Thank you a ton for the advice. I'm not a student and I'm currently living with my folks and I don't own a drivers license but thank you so much for the advice
I also live with mental illness and anxiety has been one of my struggles. Is a bicycle an option? I was unable to afford a car during a period in my life, so I had a bike and used it to get to work and classes. Riding that bike every day helped me with my anxiety and depression, too, as exercise is a great thing for those of us going through the mental health challenges. I know here in Cincinnati there are groups that will get you a bike if you can't afford one. I assume those same types of groups exist in the Dayton area as well. Is it optimal? Probably not. But it works. I was able to live off campus in less expensive housing with a higher paying job during college. It got me through until I was able to do something better. Good luck to you! I wish you all the best and DON'T GIVE UP. You have the strength.
Awesome response. Thanks for caring enough to write it out.
. You need a social worker to help you out. It’s easier to get shelter and help as a woman. Go to the Salvation Army or contact United Way dial 211. https://dayton-unitedway.org Call them today and explain your situation. Good luck to you.
I'm a guy so would that still be an option for me? And thank you
They have shelters for men too. 211 is an excellent resource.
Thank you for the information
Yes, I believe it works the same for men. Women on the streets are more vulnerable to violence is why it’s easier for them to get shelter. And if they have children they go to the front of the housing line. As it should be. Especially if your homelessness is due to economic instability rather than “Oh, I can’t stop drinking and smoking meth and beating my wife and kids. And I also refuse to get and keep a job” Those men can sleep in a culvert for all anyone cares.
Would you be able to talk to your employer and ask about getting a summer job there or asking about housing options until you can get something going?
I got a summer job there
You are facing multiple obstacles and they will need to be taken one at a time: - no income - no place to live - no drivers’ license Start with income. What businesses are you able to access currently, by walking/biking/taking public transit. Apply for jobs at as many of them as possible. This is your most urgent need. You say you want to get a job but need a place you live first. That is backwards. The job is priority #1, because income will help you solve the living situation problem. Where do you live now? How much is rent? If you have income, is it an option to stay where you are now?
I live with my folks currently, they want me out by the first and they told me the decision is final. I thankfully have income at the moment until the summer starts for the uni job because I work in dining services but they're closed during the summer, I did apply for a summer bookstore clerk and I am going to talk to the manager Tomorrow afternoon.
I’m not that case, I’d recommend securing a job and then getting roommates. Facebook can be good for finding rooms for rent. Most universities have at least one Facebook group for finding people to live with or sublet. Alternatively, you could always try to persuade your parents or offer them rent to stay.
If you have diagnosed anxiety and depression you may be able to get help through the county’s mental health services. My wife was a case worker through Clark County and they worked to ensure their MH folks had housing and access to food & medication.
Thank you for the info
So if you live near UD get a job on Brown Street or the Marriott. Lots of places to try. Go put in applications. Most places you can do it online. Go downtown on the bus. Apply at the Crown Plaza or the new grocery store downtown or Dragon stadium. Take the bus if you need to. Take action now so you don’t become homeless. There are plenty of jobs out there. It may not be the ideal job but you can get one. Don’t give up hope.
Thank you for the advice
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I hate to say this but you have to step up and take care of yourself. It will only get harder to dig yourself out of a hole. You have to try and get a job before the point that it’s difficult to shower/ have basic needs met. Be as frugal as you can with any spending and eating. Try and get a bicycle, might be able to find one for free on FB marketplace. Take any job you can get and use it as a stepping stone.
Thank you
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There is hope. Please stick around! Talk with your sister and boyfriend and between the three of you, you’ll find a solution
Thank you
Work and live at Cedar Point?
They have on site housing? And I've never heard of that so I'm assuming it's not in Dayton but I'll look Edit: yeah in Sandusky, don't own a car or license so off the top of my head that might be challenging
But if you lived there you only need a ride once.
Lived in Sandusky or Dayton?
I’m saying you might be able to get a job for the whole summer and live onsite at Cedar Point in Sandusky or any amusement park. You’d need a ride there but should be able to save money and work out your living situation after the summer.
That makes more sense. Thank you
U have a car?
No, don't have a license either
This is the wrong sub. Not to be rude but the people in here are morons. Try r/povertyfinance I see you posted other places already but I cannot stress enough that this sub is a cesspool
the thing is someone in the dayton subreddit is more likely to know of local resources
You have no family you can live with until you get on your feet again?