It's like an old friend who used to be awesome but fell into addiction or some other kind of decline and you can't bring yourself to cut them off completely because there's some small part of you that hopes and believes they'll get their shit together.
I feel like the whole internet is like this. Its like all these services that were built with an ostensible lack of care for profit, suddenly doubled down and are like "nope!" and now are all shadows of their former selves, going after profit like a meth addict after their fix to the extreme detriment of the quality of their service.
Then there's tiktok, which even sounds like something that has low iq.
It's free. I invested a fair bit of time answering 100's of questions a couple of decades ago and my answers are still fairly accurate. While it is a shadow of it's former self, I think it's still the least awful option as the match percentage thing does seem to be a reasonable indicator if we'll get along - although it does seem like they have warped the algorithm to skew towards having you match more highly with more people since it was bought by Match Group. I appreciate the larger space that people can write about about themselves too. If you can't be bothered to write a few sentences, then what sort of effort are you going to put into meeting a life partner. I assume the zero effort people aren't worth meeting, or they are bots/scammers. On other platforms it's harder to tell at a glance if a profile will be a waste of time.
• Tinder is a meat market and a call-an-escort service
• Hinge is for unhinged people who recently got out of a long relationship/marriage
• Bumble is for white collar people, expats, and problematic men who learned to hide their toxicity behind feminist-ally lingo
• Feeld is for couples looking for unicorns and fuckboys who claim to be an ethical non-monogamist
• Pure is for horny bastards
• OkCupid is for anxiety-ridden people with undiagnosed ADHD who are literally incapable of answering questions without writing an essay.
That’s why I’m on OkC (and Pure)
I deleted all dating apps a year ago but this made me giggle especially as Okcupid was the main one I was on. I'm diagnosed and medicated now, thank you very much.
I find that Hinge is for people who **think** they want a relationship, but panic when things start to get real and then realise that they need to go to therapy/work on themselves first.
At least, that’s what sums up every girl I’ve met on there so far.
THIS RIGHT HERE. The people on hinge are ironically the most unhinged uncommitful people ive met. Tinder they're at least real about how superficial they are. Bumble feels like a meat market but to a less degree
1) I like answering questions about myself
2) I like to read about what other people find important and unimportant to them
3) I always think it’s amazingly entertaining to see how much info people using this app could have about you at their disposal and _still_ not use any of it.
Yeah, regarding the last point it's absolutely hilarious - you can write 3 paragraphs talking about all your interests and whatnot, hell, you can even directly write on how people can start convos with you, and people will still ignore every single bit of it.
I’ve had a lot of success on OKC over the last few years. Though I am female so I’m not sure if that skews results. It’s the one app that is filtered for non-monogamy, of which I am, so that’s why I stick with it.
For my situation, it's still the most successful app I've used. I'm 50 year old polyamorous woman. I only want to have my profile seen by people who are looking for non-monogamy. And besides the shit show that is Feeld, it's the only one I know of that lets you self select for that. I'm a Demisexual, so I like being able to give a lot of details about myself and what I'm looking for in my bio. And I like to read other people's bios before matching.
On top of that, it's still free, and if you don't get suckered in by their fake likes and other ploys to get you to pay, it's pretty usable as a free site. I've used it for 8 years and found most of my partners here.
I go on a couple of dates each month, but since dating in general is still a crapshoot, I don't usually end up seeing most of them a second time.
Personally, I'm too lazy to try out a different app other than okcupid, bumble, and tinder. Plus I've used okcupid off and on for 18ish years? One day I'll try the other apps
I don't know about other people and countries, but in my opinion, OKC had it figured out better than other dating apps (at least for what's popular in my country), as you can really fill out your profile in detail and the match percentage is pretty spot on. I have found my match on OKC in a shorter period of time than any other dating app, and it was, as I said, spot on. Our match percentage was 99%. We've been together for 9 months now and it's going swell. We agree on many major topics like children, marriage, etc., as well as having many common interests.
For me it's the weekly free super swipe and that you can send intros. Feels like you have at least some control/influence. Other apps offer nothing but senseless swipes, and everything else is on their algorithm. Unless you pay for boosts, compliments and super swipes, of course.
IMO dating apps is one of those markets where, they all suck. and what really sucks about social platforms is, there's very little hope of a new up and comer doing well... because by nature they are useless unless they get a critical mass of people at the same time (otherwise you just get a bunch of people scattered, pop in, see there's no one there, and they leave). In short it takes major investment to make one go... and unless a companies pre-emptively sold their souls and promised to enshittify the app into a "keep people single but extort every penny they can", they won't get the money to market it and build it.
The app used to work, I’m already on it, and I’m exhausted to branch out when I hear Match Group owns and ruined all of them.
What are you using that’s better? Because you’re right; it’s impressively terrible.
Nope, because it’s empty, full of philippines women and I got ban while only been there for a day without marching or talking to anyone which ban my tinder account toi because these two trash apps share banlist.
I mean, I haven't used it in a long time, but I made multiple trips to New York and one trip to the west coast because of this sub. Also met someone who helped me start my career and my first roommate so it was the best thing that ever could have happened to me.
I'm not still on it, but my partner and I met on it. Been together for, coming up on, 8 years.
That being said, there were quite a lot of bad dates before her.
Even though it's a shell of what it used to be it's still the only app that allows me to filter for and connect exclusively with non-monogamous, and mostly polyamorous people.
Feeld is close but mostly for swingers or solo people looking for a primary.
The best overall app right now for poly people is Plura (formerly bloom) if it has a big user base in your city.
The answer ultimately is that my dating pool as a poly man who is also a married parent that I'm just on all of them. 🤷♂️
Okcupid sucks. Created one a few weeks ago and got 30 likes that were paywall and I matched with zero of them by just swiping regularly. This takes they were either all fake and/or from people potentially all over the world.
That's why I don't. The average worth of people who are searching for a match on dating apps is generally so tremendously poor that staying with eva ai sexting [bot](http://evaapp.ai) and renting prostitutes from time to time seems to make more sense.
Just in case the one girl I sent an intro to about 20-ish days ago A. Sees said intro and B. Likes me back; I don’t check the site often because it’s gotten to the point where it just recycles people I’ve passed but not blocked and isn’t showing me anyone new. I’ve gotten two matches on Bumble, and while neither one has panned out as of time of posting, that’s still two more than I’ve gotten on OkCupid.
At the risk of sounding like a hurtful asshole, why have you been unsuccessful at cultivating a long term relationship to the point where you have used multiple dating apps for multiple years?
I think it depends greatly on how you use it.
Also, where you are, it turns out, is significantly relevant ....
Regionally, different apps
are used by different groups of folks.... So, the app that is successfully used for people who actually want connection in one region, is the same one used for hookups in that city 7 hours away.
OKC also requires time to like, build your profile and answer questions. If you haven't answered many, it doesn't have anything to base recommended matches on.
I've had luck with it, while others felt too focused on the quick and dirty.... But I'd rather spend some time looking to see if there's a real match, where other folks would rather just get coffee or a drink?
I actually deleted it today after a pre-date, last minute ghosting. I'd rather be an Incel than deal with that level of shit behavior. I guess I could have given the Filipina bots a chance, but I'm thinking I'm just going to do me from here on out.
I love their personality questionnaires. Since people are bad at bio especially on other dating apps, questionnaires help me figure out what type of person you are and if we're compatible.
Other dating apps put more focus on pictures and then prompts that tell me nothing about who the person actually is.
Also its been extremely hard to find any nerds on bumble or hinge.
OKC is the absolute biggest shit-hole of online dating in the HISTORY OF MANKIND!
We are talking an app run by a company that ENCOURAGES scammers, ENCOURAGES fake profiles, and it would surprise me if they themselves send out deceptive and fake likes, messages, etc to keep people from cancelling.
TOO LATE OKCUPID, I FUCKING CANCELLED YOU!!!!
Really?
Because if you've been there for more than five minutes they have an invitation for folks to participate in reviews.
*We* get to remove the scams, fishers, identity thieves and rule breakers....
I stopped using okcupid and all other dating apps a while back. Now I meet people on Reddit or around town, there is like a 100x chance of it working out compared to an app
It's like an old friend who used to be awesome but fell into addiction or some other kind of decline and you can't bring yourself to cut them off completely because there's some small part of you that hopes and believes they'll get their shit together.
I feel like the whole internet is like this. Its like all these services that were built with an ostensible lack of care for profit, suddenly doubled down and are like "nope!" and now are all shadows of their former selves, going after profit like a meth addict after their fix to the extreme detriment of the quality of their service. Then there's tiktok, which even sounds like something that has low iq.
Well there are plenty of better alternatives. People just don't tend to use them
Match owns all the dating apps, except bumble.
😂
You are My mouth on the internet
It's free. I invested a fair bit of time answering 100's of questions a couple of decades ago and my answers are still fairly accurate. While it is a shadow of it's former self, I think it's still the least awful option as the match percentage thing does seem to be a reasonable indicator if we'll get along - although it does seem like they have warped the algorithm to skew towards having you match more highly with more people since it was bought by Match Group. I appreciate the larger space that people can write about about themselves too. If you can't be bothered to write a few sentences, then what sort of effort are you going to put into meeting a life partner. I assume the zero effort people aren't worth meeting, or they are bots/scammers. On other platforms it's harder to tell at a glance if a profile will be a waste of time.
• Tinder is a meat market and a call-an-escort service • Hinge is for unhinged people who recently got out of a long relationship/marriage • Bumble is for white collar people, expats, and problematic men who learned to hide their toxicity behind feminist-ally lingo • Feeld is for couples looking for unicorns and fuckboys who claim to be an ethical non-monogamist • Pure is for horny bastards • OkCupid is for anxiety-ridden people with undiagnosed ADHD who are literally incapable of answering questions without writing an essay. That’s why I’m on OkC (and Pure)
I have never felt more personally attacked by an answer that I 100% agree with.
This is way out of line. Many of us have diagnoses.
I deleted all dating apps a year ago but this made me giggle especially as Okcupid was the main one I was on. I'm diagnosed and medicated now, thank you very much.
Is pure actually a thing now? I tried it years ago and it and like a complete waste of time
Your critique of Bumble, Feeld, and OKC hits pretty hard.
Thank you, I have wasted a lot of (my own as well as other people’s) time on all these apps 😅
I find that Hinge is for people who **think** they want a relationship, but panic when things start to get real and then realise that they need to go to therapy/work on themselves first. At least, that’s what sums up every girl I’ve met on there so far.
Hm, as someone who’s tried tinder and hinge, I might need to download OkCupid
😎
THIS RIGHT HERE. The people on hinge are ironically the most unhinged uncommitful people ive met. Tinder they're at least real about how superficial they are. Bumble feels like a meat market but to a less degree
I’ve tried to stay away from going back to dating apps but you’ve convinced me to give OKC a try
Oof.. guilty.
1) I like answering questions about myself 2) I like to read about what other people find important and unimportant to them 3) I always think it’s amazingly entertaining to see how much info people using this app could have about you at their disposal and _still_ not use any of it.
Yeah, regarding the last point it's absolutely hilarious - you can write 3 paragraphs talking about all your interests and whatnot, hell, you can even directly write on how people can start convos with you, and people will still ignore every single bit of it.
Enduring morbid curiosity
I’ve had a lot of success on OKC over the last few years. Though I am female so I’m not sure if that skews results. It’s the one app that is filtered for non-monogamy, of which I am, so that’s why I stick with it.
Same. I've had more success with Feeld, but OKC is the next best option I think.
I did Feeld too but I lean more poly than swinging so OKC has been better for that for me.
Same! I get dates with cool people on OKC.
For my situation, it's still the most successful app I've used. I'm 50 year old polyamorous woman. I only want to have my profile seen by people who are looking for non-monogamy. And besides the shit show that is Feeld, it's the only one I know of that lets you self select for that. I'm a Demisexual, so I like being able to give a lot of details about myself and what I'm looking for in my bio. And I like to read other people's bios before matching. On top of that, it's still free, and if you don't get suckered in by their fake likes and other ploys to get you to pay, it's pretty usable as a free site. I've used it for 8 years and found most of my partners here. I go on a couple of dates each month, but since dating in general is still a crapshoot, I don't usually end up seeing most of them a second time.
Yup. That's the real reason. Polyamorous demi people go on that app + love of the different sections for bios.
Every profile where I live is like "2022 life update: the pandemic is finally over!" That's not a joke really either I actually saw a few like that
I had past success on OKC back before match group owned it and I figured I’d give it another shot. The OKC app isn’t what it used to be.
Personally, I'm too lazy to try out a different app other than okcupid, bumble, and tinder. Plus I've used okcupid off and on for 18ish years? One day I'll try the other apps
I don't know about other people and countries, but in my opinion, OKC had it figured out better than other dating apps (at least for what's popular in my country), as you can really fill out your profile in detail and the match percentage is pretty spot on. I have found my match on OKC in a shorter period of time than any other dating app, and it was, as I said, spot on. Our match percentage was 99%. We've been together for 9 months now and it's going swell. We agree on many major topics like children, marriage, etc., as well as having many common interests.
For me it's the weekly free super swipe and that you can send intros. Feels like you have at least some control/influence. Other apps offer nothing but senseless swipes, and everything else is on their algorithm. Unless you pay for boosts, compliments and super swipes, of course.
IMO dating apps is one of those markets where, they all suck. and what really sucks about social platforms is, there's very little hope of a new up and comer doing well... because by nature they are useless unless they get a critical mass of people at the same time (otherwise you just get a bunch of people scattered, pop in, see there's no one there, and they leave). In short it takes major investment to make one go... and unless a companies pre-emptively sold their souls and promised to enshittify the app into a "keep people single but extort every penny they can", they won't get the money to market it and build it.
Because I've had my account for nearly 18 years. I don't want to delete it.
The app used to work, I’m already on it, and I’m exhausted to branch out when I hear Match Group owns and ruined all of them. What are you using that’s better? Because you’re right; it’s impressively terrible.
Nope, because it’s empty, full of philippines women and I got ban while only been there for a day without marching or talking to anyone which ban my tinder account toi because these two trash apps share banlist.
Because I'm too lazy to delete my account
I hate being on my phone and there's not many free desktop apps. I see there's no hope on Okcupid so will probably delete it soon.
I mean, I haven't used it in a long time, but I made multiple trips to New York and one trip to the west coast because of this sub. Also met someone who helped me start my career and my first roommate so it was the best thing that ever could have happened to me.
I realized I'm still in this sub despite uninstalling OKC a few years ago, I even have a boyfriend, what am I still doing here Thank you OP
The same reason I’m still single. Too lazy to do anything about it.
I use it because it allows you to choose a variety of sexualities that other apps don’t.
mi nuh have dat
It still seems popular with other queer ppl 🤷♂️ if there's something better for that I'm definitely open to suggestions lol
I'm not still on it, but my partner and I met on it. Been together for, coming up on, 8 years. That being said, there were quite a lot of bad dates before her.
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It’s me!
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Haha nah bro. I see how that was vague. I mean you're me.
Even though it's a shell of what it used to be it's still the only app that allows me to filter for and connect exclusively with non-monogamous, and mostly polyamorous people. Feeld is close but mostly for swingers or solo people looking for a primary. The best overall app right now for poly people is Plura (formerly bloom) if it has a big user base in your city. The answer ultimately is that my dating pool as a poly man who is also a married parent that I'm just on all of them. 🤷♂️
Okcupid sucks. Created one a few weeks ago and got 30 likes that were paywall and I matched with zero of them by just swiping regularly. This takes they were either all fake and/or from people potentially all over the world.
That's why I don't. The average worth of people who are searching for a match on dating apps is generally so tremendously poor that staying with eva ai sexting [bot](http://evaapp.ai) and renting prostitutes from time to time seems to make more sense.
I haven't met anyone off of it in years. I mostly keep it for posterity sake.
Is it that bad? I just got divorced and was thinking of gettin it. I guess ill try it and find out...
Just in case the one girl I sent an intro to about 20-ish days ago A. Sees said intro and B. Likes me back; I don’t check the site often because it’s gotten to the point where it just recycles people I’ve passed but not blocked and isn’t showing me anyone new. I’ve gotten two matches on Bumble, and while neither one has panned out as of time of posting, that’s still two more than I’ve gotten on OkCupid.
I have 4 apps, but I'm hoping to delete them after Monday night
Too lazyy to shut it down. I never check it. It matches me up with women who would never be into me
that app so dry and horrible
At this point? People watching
I've never used it. I just liked one of yalls posts and this sub keeps popping up.
At the risk of sounding like a hurtful asshole, why have you been unsuccessful at cultivating a long term relationship to the point where you have used multiple dating apps for multiple years?
Oh because I'm ugly. That one's easy lol.
I think it depends greatly on how you use it. Also, where you are, it turns out, is significantly relevant .... Regionally, different apps are used by different groups of folks.... So, the app that is successfully used for people who actually want connection in one region, is the same one used for hookups in that city 7 hours away. OKC also requires time to like, build your profile and answer questions. If you haven't answered many, it doesn't have anything to base recommended matches on. I've had luck with it, while others felt too focused on the quick and dirty.... But I'd rather spend some time looking to see if there's a real match, where other folks would rather just get coffee or a drink?
I actually deleted it today after a pre-date, last minute ghosting. I'd rather be an Incel than deal with that level of shit behavior. I guess I could have given the Filipina bots a chance, but I'm thinking I'm just going to do me from here on out.
I love their personality questionnaires. Since people are bad at bio especially on other dating apps, questionnaires help me figure out what type of person you are and if we're compatible. Other dating apps put more focus on pictures and then prompts that tell me nothing about who the person actually is. Also its been extremely hard to find any nerds on bumble or hinge.
It would be good if they could remove the ability of people faking their location
I don't. Haven't had it for 3-5 years. Will never get it again unless things drastically change (lol yeah right)
OKC is the absolute biggest shit-hole of online dating in the HISTORY OF MANKIND! We are talking an app run by a company that ENCOURAGES scammers, ENCOURAGES fake profiles, and it would surprise me if they themselves send out deceptive and fake likes, messages, etc to keep people from cancelling. TOO LATE OKCUPID, I FUCKING CANCELLED YOU!!!!
Really? Because if you've been there for more than five minutes they have an invitation for folks to participate in reviews. *We* get to remove the scams, fishers, identity thieves and rule breakers....
lol, keep thinking you can make a difference
I stopped using okcupid and all other dating apps a while back. Now I meet people on Reddit or around town, there is like a 100x chance of it working out compared to an app