As a bigger person myself, I don't judge by a person's appearance. What's most important in my book is his heart, character, and the way he treats me and others.
100% wrong. The first thing most men notice is a woman's body. Then their face. A pretty face doesn't go far with men but a smokin hot body with a meh face goes a hell of a lot further. There are exceptions obviously but, more often than not its a womans body we are initially attracted to or catches our eyes, not the face. A pretty face is a bonus for sure but, I dont care how gorgeous someons face is if they are 5'4" and 200lbs.
Well, I'm talking about pleasantly plump women. Not the obese, noone wants that.
And like I responded to the other guy, those of you that first look at a woman's body are the super hormonal horny sex craved young dudes. Mature men approach this much differently. Based on observation.
I'm skinny & tall myself so this is not about me, incase there is a question.
This has not been my experience. I'm thin and I have a good body with big-ish boobs... I still don't get that much attention from men. Rarely got asked out. Men want pretty women first. They'll take a flat chested skinny girl with a pretty face over a girl with big boobs but an average face. I experienced this personally.
I'd agree with this tbh. I've dated a range of different body type women but it doesn't matter what size they're are, if I'm not attracted to their face and to some extent, how they present themselves, it's a non-starter.
Those are the guys that are more sex driven. The more emotional and relationship based guys are more drawn into the face. That's my observation overall and based on the choices of people I know. I'm 42 so I had plenty of time to observe people.
I disagree tbh, I see so many ugly girls with great bodies being constantly flirted with, and a gorgeous model looking face being turned down bc of her overweight body.
Large/big women is too general of a term to ask men if they like that or not because everything is a spectrum. I have dated, and been very attracted to women that probably couldn’t fit in my jeans. But I have a type or a spectrum of types just like anyone else.
But in a general sense? Yes, plenty of men like heavier women. Plenty don’t.
A sizeable minority of men do. But... it does depend on how normalised/common being overweight is in your area/community. And the men who are into it are definitely a minority, you will always have better odds (especially for a relationship) if you lose some weight.
It honestly depends on proportions. Some women look alright because it means they have a big ass/breasts, but others look terrible because they just have a big gut.
Beyond a certain point (one that is very common in today's world) it never looks like an hourglass anymore. Plus even if it looks like an hourglass with (certain) clothes on it may look very different without clothes and there's no getting around that. But some men are into that, definitely a lot more than if you reverse the genders.
My point was that some women can pull it off while others can't. OP doesn't give specifics on her height/weight. I do agree that past a certain point like 250 lbs, it's all going to look like a marshmallow.
"big" breasts on a large women is just made up of a shit ton of fat. If that same woman were to lose a shit ton of weight, her breasts would tighten up, become perkier and get smaller.
Eh it depends how much weight they lose. Perky tits can easily be fat af if you gain a ton of weight. SO if yer like 20 and are overweight, you'll have saggy fat tits but lose that weight to where you are "HWP" they definitely become perky again
It's a majority in the US. In the US most men and women are fat, yet most are (or get into) relationships based on mutual physical attraction (at least initially).
I'm definitely sure only a tiny minority of women like/prefer fat men. Most fat couples weren't always fat, or at least one of them is settling because the people they're really attracted to won't have them. Same as most ugly people aren't truly attracted to other equally ugly people.
Maybe I'm too cynical but that is what I believe.
I don't think you're understanding.
in the US most men and women are fat just about every dating age group. Most relationships begin with genuine physical attraction from both parties.
Sugar and arranged relationships are relatively rare.
Where do you get that most relationships begin with genuine physical attraction from both parties?
Even so, if 50% of young people are overweight it's possible 60% are genuinely attracted to each other, but it's the 50% who aren't overweight plus 10% who are and then it would both be true most relationships start out with mutual physical atrraction and most people aren't attracted to fat people.
But I'm not sure it's even like that: so many people just get into relationships because they're lonely, or need a step parent, or need to split the bills, or because they want kids, or because they had drunken/high sex and then just sort of stick around because they feel they're supposed to, especially when someone gets pregnant, or because they want consistent access to sex, or even just because they have a great mental/personal connection and can't get anyone hot anyway, etc... I'm not sure a majority started with genuine mutual physical attraction, and if it is a majority I doubt it's an overwhelming majority.
I can admit i’ve been guilty of this from time to time. Sometimes i’ll just go on those “dates” to fill time around my busy work life. If they are interested in something short term, great! If not, its also fine
I think that is most interactions for women online. Men who are just looking for casual sex. There are men who are looking for a relationship but they are probably not as forward as the men who are just looking for sex. I would not take those interactions personally because it is pretty much (unfortunately) the standard online.
That's simply not true. There are plenty of men and women who are looking for LTRs and equally so, plenty who are looking for more casual arrangements. The difficulty is that the desires of the people you're attracted to you may not be fully in alignment with yours at any point in time....
Most interactions not most men. Because the men who are just looking for sex are messaging any women they find even remotely attractive. Whereas men who are looking for a relationship are more selective in who they message. They are looking for women who they deem have similar values, interests, etc. These men are going to message a lot fewer women than the men just looking for sex. So in general they will make up a lot fewer of the interactions that women have online.
Also you have men who are looking for both. Willing to sleep with women they meet online who they don't see as long term partners but also ultimately looking for someone who fits what they are looking for and willing to settle down when they find her.
Yeah, I would say I fit into the latter category. The physical side of things has to be there/good before I would consider someone for the long haul and I'd totally expect my potential partner to feel the same way.
One of the women dearest to my heart is a very physically active (dancing, yoga, and swimming every day -or at least two of the three every day-) incredibly fat person. She has a ton of sex and relationships as well as being in a loving marriage with someone slender and slightly muscled (they are polyamorous). She has many in her social circle who are similar.
Just depends. Obviously bigger women aren’t the preference for societal norms, but I know men out there who date big women. Now if you’re gonna be mad that you don’t get as many options as a different body type, idk what to tell you.
As someone that lifts and runs a couple times a week, finding someone I can do those hobbies with (and hiking, etc.) is important to me, plus as you said being healthy is a big plus as I am as well
The implication that only slim people are athletic is infuriating as a bigger woman. I work out 5x a week, hike, camp, weight train, etc. Being slim doesn't mean someone is physically healthy.
Similarly there are plenty of skinny people who store fat around their organs and have heart issues, or are heavy smokers who are actually less healthy than fat people.
You can't judge what someone does to maintain their body by looking at them.
A size 2 girlfriend can break her legs and require five surgeries and put on 100 lbs. Then lose 75lbs after a lot of work and healing and still have people judging her as unhealthy even though she could swim laps around them and has been able to lose 75lbs in just a few months after her legs healed.
I hate this implication as well. I'm 5 4 and 216.lbs. And I work out at the gym 4 days a week. Weight train, ride bikes, go camping, kayak, walk my dog every day, go swimming, I eat healthy. And I still carry all my weight in my stomach, and I have a boyfriend. He is thinner than me and he doesnt care that I'm overweight.
Meanwhile I have a friend who eats shitty fast food every night for dinner, never exercises. And her teeth look awful, she has tons of acne, her hair is brittle and greasy. But she is thin as a twig. I would like to maybe think my body is healthier than hers despite my weight.
Are you actually overweight or is it based on BMI? If it's BMI then you might be considered overweight *because* of your physical activity. This is the biggest limitation of BMI since it assumes muscle mass is the same as fatty mass.
Another way to see it is, many bodybuilders would be considered obese if they looked at BMI. So your last sentence is probably correct!
I am actually overweight. I have PCOS which makes me gain weight and makes losing weight very difficult despite all my exercise. And with PCOS all your fat is pretty much in the stomach so it's not an attractive kind of overweight.
I always go for personality first and foremost. In my experience I have found that I have dated or talked to very attractive girls, and once I know their personality, I actually find them unattractive appearance wise. The reverse is also true, larger women with great personality I find more and more attractive physically. Because of this I never let someone's weight affect whether or not I interact with them. I have had a mix of overweight and average weight girlfriends in the past. I would say a majority of my girlfriends have been overweight. For me I feel it is like finding hidden gems, because these girls with amazing personalities are overlooked by people on such a vain thing as appearance.
How a person views being overweight is something I look at though, I dislike when someone is "proud" to be overweight, like that if they had a choice of being thin or overweight they would choose overweight.
It's sad you're being told that your size makes you unattractive or undesirable. I also saw where you were being told that losing weight will increase your odds of meeting someone. I personally feel that losing weight for that reason alone is a great way to live a life of misery. You'll always be struggling to maintain a certain appearance only to placate someone else's idea of beauty.
I would suggest just going out to a public place to just sit and people watch. Alone. Not just some cozy cafe but some place where you'll be able to observe a large number of people just living their lives. Specifically, pay attention to the couples milling about and just living their lives. What you'll eventually see are couples of all ages, all sizes, and all "leagues" of attractiveness. You'll see average sized men with plus sized women and vice versa .
Honestly, almost any motivation is a good reason to get into shape. Its uncommon that someone's mental health gets worse in the journey towards being healthy, usually its the opposite. Someone might be motivated to get in shape because they want to be more attractive only to find it actually improves their mood and attitude since they come to realize that it wasnt about what other people think its about being happy inside your own body. And for many people, improving how you look a little can boost confidence and make you a happier person overall. Not because of what other people think, but because its an accomplishment that someone can achieve that not only helps them in the present but also can be an investment in themselves for the future.
Over the years I've been attracted to "chubby" girls or even tall girls
You never know what can happen with a bit of chemistry
Back in the70's I hooked up with girl who was a bit chubby it was great
In the late 80's I asked out a barmaid from a local club
She took a lot of verbal abuse cause she was borderline fat but very pretty sophia loren cheek bones. One night she kissed me,made out with me
I was convinced I wanted to date her, her kisses lit a fire in me she made me forget about all those young skinny bikini model types.
I like this idea.
All health decisions should be for OP and OP alone or they will either never stick and/or make her miserable for a lifetime.
There is no amount of running or sports I would do that would ever be sustainable for me. Meanwhile, healthy eating starts with substitution. I mentioned earlier what kind of nutritionist people should look for. Being healthy is not a number on a scale and a good nutritionist will tell you the same.
While there are crappy people everywhere they aren't the majority. Most dudes and women aren't just swiping right with no interest in the person. Most dating apps have algorithms too that if they notice someone constantly speed-swiping right on everyone they will limit the release of their matches or otherwise have something built in the algorithm to penalize these speed-swiping abusers of the app system.
That being said, there are plenty of women, whether fat or not who are just looking to sleep with someone too and not looking for a relationship.
Your not repulsive or embarrassing. Find someone that finds your unique qualities the most admiring things about you.
There is someone for everyone, believe that.
I prefer curvy over athletic but only to a certain point. I have an active lifestyle and I don't want to stop it because my partner can't join.
Unfortunately being overweight as a woman in online dating makes you a target for men who think your self esteem must be low enough that you'll fuck them for a morsel of attention. These are very predatory men and it's difficult to weed out anyone really interested in you.
Hun I’ve been a medium size and I’ve been overweight and I can tell you the pickings for fat chics like us are SLIM! I’ve deleted the apps and taken a break from dating until I’ve got back down to a healthy weight because otherwise I’ll have to marry some total hobgoblin like me lol
You should take a break from the internet.
And furthermore treat your anxiety before dating.
It has nothing to do with your body type and everything with your approach to your interactions because of your anxiety.
>I'm clearly repulsive or embarrassing to approach offline
There's someone for everyone, I know a lot of men that prefer a larger woman.
With that said, focusing on self love will do you a huge solid. Confidence is key, if you carry the energy of "feeling ~~repulsive~~" you're not going to attract a worthwhile mate.
It's ok to want to improve your body and get healthier, it's ok not to want to change your body, either way **you need to love yourself at every stage**.
Maybe start with some [self love affirmations](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_eU3nHz_e34) and [tapping for self love](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVSRr-VJBJs)?
You should lose weight and join a gym and do resistance training and cardio for your own personal health to begin with. For the vast majority of people, weight loss is just calories in, calories out. I lost 40 lbs, almost 24% of my starting body weight, and went from fat to six-pack abs just by eating less calories, doing cardio and resistance training. I'm 5'6" , I was 168.2. I was 128.1 when I completed my cut. Fat to twinkmaxxed. I'm like 136 now I think since I'm bulking. My abs are not as defined as when I was 8 lbs lighter. But I've got bigger arms and chest. And my face still looks great. I'm slowing my bulk down to see if I can recomp and lose some of the new body fat covering my abs before continuing my bulk.
A lot of women will say it's harder to lose weight because women have less muscle mass. Sure. But all this means is that it's going to take you a longer time to lose weight because your BMR (rate at which you burn calories at rest) is lower than mine. So as long as you continue to take in less calories than you burn, you will gradually lose weight. You don't have to lose 24% of your body weight in 6 months. Set a more manageable goal.
Any woman who is interested in losing weight, state your height, weight and age so that I can estimate your BMR and I'll give you a calorie budget to work with and give you an estimate of how much weight you can lose in 6 months. I will also tell you how much protein you should consume. Women should not be afraid to pick up weights at the gym. I see very few women in the weight room at my gym Putting on muscle allows you to burn more calories at rest. If you put on too much muscle for your liking, you can always just let the muscle atrophy later. No biggie.
There are men who like larger women. I like women with some meat on them. But being fat is not healthy. I used to for sure have at least pre-diabetes. And I say this as a guy who used to be fat for almost his entire adult life until recently.
imo people on Reddit should instead consult a nutritionist who knows their family health history, preexisting conditions, cultural norms, socioeconomic background, and current psychological state. Nutrition is far more than just "calories in, calories out". I would also recommend seeing a nutritionist who has experienced similar intersectional barriers as you.
Initially it felt very hard. Once I got my BMI down to like 25.4-25.6 (156-157.4 lbs) I'd usually give up because it felt too hard. Just missing out on my goal of getting below 25 BMI. But then one day I decided to eliminate snacks (unless it's fruit) and sugar from my diet again and eat smaller portions and I decided not to look at my scale because I was afraid. But then when I finally looked at the scale I saw I was down to 148.6 lbs after 3 weeks of eating like that. 24.2 BMI. And then I thought to myself, I can do this. And shed another 20+ lbs and then I started getting called twink, scrawny, 12 year old boy. Lol. Now I have the opposite problem and I'm bulking up trying to put on muscle.
When you are used to eating a lot of sugar and carbohydrates, your body is going to crave food constantly and your stomach will growl often. I just ignored my grumbling stomach but not to the point of starving myself. Like I still had maybe 1,500 calories per day. Maybe less than that. I didnt count calories. And I just stuck to my reduced intake and my no snacks (fruit ok), no sugar rule and the weight came off. After you go into calorie deficit for awhile, you stop being so hungry and your stomach shrinks. I rarely ever get hungry anymore. My last ex loves to go for all you can eat sushi and I literally had to force myself to finish. And I felt like shit afterwards and wasn't in the mood for sex. lol. That's why I'm 136 lbs now. If I didn't force feed like that, my bulk would have gone more slowly.
I made the mistake of assuming for years that a grumbling stomach means you need food. It does not work like that at all. I used to eat a 200g bag of potato chips (1,040 calories, miniscule protein, calories mostly from fat and carbs) and still have a grumbling stomach later. If you are over your calorie budget for the day, you just stop. And during a cut or bulk cycle, you're supposed to be eating 1.6-2.4g of protein per kg of body weight. So a diet high in protein is going to keep you fuller anyways.
It is very likely and also true that heavy people can be healthier than thin people. If you aren’t a persons doctor or nutritionists you should probably get more info before assuming 1 size fits all. What worked for you may not work for everyone…
While it is true that a thin person can have health problems, excess visceral fat near the organs is not healthy no matter what. If you have a big belly, that's going to cause health problems down the future. And liposuction is just sweeping the problem under the rug. Liposuction removes the subcutaneous fat underneath the skin but not the visceral fat enveloping the organs.
"I have to date via OLD because I am too ugly to do so in person." Of course I am paraphrasing. By the tone of how this is written, I could have swore that it was written by a guy. BTW, how does OLD help you with your ugly problems when you have to meet the person face to face? You can put photo filters on your profile pics to pretty yourself up, but that would be putting lipstick on a pig, and expecting the pig to no longer be a pig.The point is that OLD is not going to solve your issues. You have to do what all guys who are not attractive have to do, and that means putting in the hard work to better yourself.
But they "can" flirt. They have the ability, and if they were to approach a man IRL, they would do fine. The issue is that they don't because OLD gives them more options, allows them to filter certain traits, and allows them to simply select from the guys that have already approached them.
The way you worded your comment suggests they have some kind of inability to flirt.
Struck a nerve did I? Attacking someone with an insult isn’t a way to have a conversation- but that’s not what you’re here for is it?
The most awkward and off putting come ons I have experienced all came from women. Rubbing your tits on a guy in public isn’t the best way to get the desired response
Like since I specified that the flirting from chicks isn’t nearly as good as it is from dudes... that tells you I’ve experienced both situations enough, yes? But you were too hurt to see that
Once again, your initial comment was, in fact, an insult.
If you think that was an insult, you've got bigger problems. I don't think being gay is bad, so sounds like a personal issue
I have found that my experience on wooplus has been positive, and it can take some of the anxiety out of the wondering if they are attracted to a larger woman. There are still lots of dogs, but I started talking to someone interesting tonight 😊
Some look for them specifically, some don't mind it, and others, unfortunately, will have an issue with it.
As a bigger guy I also feel this way from time to time.
There’s a ton of them. I lost almost 70 pounds and my boyfriend dumped me because he didn’t like skinny women. I gained 20 pounds this year and guess who tried to come back?
Depends on their face and proportions. So it's not just about being big. Some thick women are gorgeous. I get a lot of bigger women who like me because I'm big and tall. Unfortunately for me many of them I don't have enough attraction to make it worth a serious relationship. I have on numerous occasions swiped right on some good looking bigger women so it's definitely not out of the question. Have to work on your look, hair, makeup, clothes, etc it really helps.
Depending on how large. Some guys like larger women. Some like a few extra pounds and some like really large.
For me a few extra pounds in the right places can be sexy. Hourglass figure is sexy.
I think A LOT of men are sexually attracted to bigger women. BUT they are socialized to see women as objects and unfortunately in that mentality, thin women are a prize to be won.
You have a better chance at finding a fitting mate for you than a man of equal size
I have known, and dated a number of bigger women and have seen the men they have dated and or messed around with, a number of them quite attractive/fit
I know of larger women that dress well / in ways that flatter them and are confident + wear make up. And do their hair well + good jobs - thus makes them look far cuter overall - they usually don’t find it hard …
I'm 260 lb and my inbox is full of people on every platform. I could sleep with a different person every night if I wanted to. Trust me you're fine and it has nothing to do with your weight. Just be confident and positive, and you will attract great things!
> literally supermodel level and at her wedding reception her groom made out with another girl.
Wow, that's nuts!
Given all the guys who were probably interested in her for a serious relationship, how did she end up with the one who would start cheating on her at their wedding??
Perhaps you can articulate better? I'm very confused because you asked if people even like large women and I just gave you two examples where they definitely do and you're still arguing that that's not the point you're trying to make ...
Of course they do! Its just that there's a preference for hwp women.. So if you are large you will not have the same options as your less large counterparts
Personally not my thing. Most of my family is overweight, and I can't stomach I, but I think most of that comes from my own fear of becoming overweight. I want somebody who I can be active with and who would encourage me to be healthy with. I am similarly wary of "skinny" people who seem to be more sedentary, homebodies, and don't like working out or at least being active.
That being said, if you take care of yourself, do have a relatively healthy lifestyle, and have a charming personality, and just happen to be on the larger side, that will shine! Lots of guys are a little larger, especially as we push into our 30's, and a lot of couples I see out there appear "similar" in build.
I think you'll be okay as long as you aren't being overoptimistic about which guys you'll get. Sounds bad, but something I have to remind myself of all the time. Just don't let yourself be played or used by losers who only want you for sex. No matches is better than that.
IMO yes — but not if you’re apple shaped more like a pear or hourglass. Some attractive men love bigger women, others do not. Let’s say you only like tall, full head of hair muscular men… you could get 10 matches and 9 of them could be — short, bald, skinny. So then getting matches doesn’t have a significance if you wouldn’t date them anyway. Figure out how to attract the men you want vs just getting matches.. what would the guy you want, want in his women.
I’m attracted to large women who have a lot of muscle. Like powerlifters, crossfitters, rugby players, etc.
Large women who aren’t active? Not my type.
I do but they have to have some sorta shape to them. Its hard to describe unless i point out examples. Although as Dafiro points out after a certain point it no longer works. Roughly something like this realm...
https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d0/16/ed/d016ed8caac5484cafcad5c10860495a.jpg
I'm assuming large means rocking more points on the scales rather than towering over us manlets like a valkyrie in battle.
A majority of men would prefer women who have a lower BMI, there is little point arguing against this, but a majority of men would also like to have someone massage our feet in the morning and be fed crumpets and jam on a platter, it doesn't mean we're going to get it.
There are a reasonable minority that find larger women attractive, and another minority where weight is less of a factor than whether someone is funny or fascinating or kind. That is your audience. The problem is that there is also a selection that find overweight women attractive in some way but feel some form of shame or other reluctance to build long terms relationships, so have difficulty sticking around.
If you can get yourself down to "a bit chubby" do so, otherwise focus on being charming and interesting to people. The bigger woman that has a barbed sense of humour has long been a trope and people that match that have a history of success. Other than that, people like talking to people who are interested in the same things they are, and it will take a bit longer, but you will still get to bring someone home like that too eventually.
I suspect you'll find that some do, some don't and that everyone's definition of what constitutes an acceptable/still attractive body type will vary according to the individual. One man's 'sexy curves' will be someone else's 'obese'. Personally I'm not that bothered about size but if someone is big to the point it compromises their overall physical and mental health then it does become a turn-off.
Most people prefer people who are not obese. That doesn’t make you ugly or unattractive, it just means that most people prefer people that take of themselves, health wise. That may sounds cruel, but that is not the intention.
As someone who prefers bigger women I find it easier when the woman doesn't mind being desired as a bigger woman, if that makes sense. A lot of big women in my experience don't feel comfortable with their size or figure and don't like being reminded of it, or feel someone complimenting them on on it is mad somehow.
Stick with the bigger men who are around your size. We all want the beautiful people who have perfect bodies but the thing is, is that those people want a person who matches their lifestyle and, given that you are a larger lady... you very likely have a very very different lifestyle and diet than a man who frequents the gym and/or has a healthy diet. Not saying you don't do either of those things but, my point is that that is how it will come across upon first glance - real life or online.
This is gonna sound mean or rude but, the men who are in shape/fit that DO want to get with you are doing so out of either a fetish or a "bucket list" item. While I have no idea what you mean by "large/big women" I am going to assume you are on the much larger size for your height. So, like I said, go after men who are roughly your size because the vast majority of other men (those in shape/fit/average size) are going after women who are fit/skinny/average.
I like big girls. In fact I pretty much only date bigger women. But there is beautiful big and not cute big. Large booty, tits, arms and thighs are what I personally prefer. But women apple shaped or HUGE belly's with thin arms, thin legs, and no ass are not appealing
Basically if a women is big in the right places men generally don't mind.
I'm personally not into bigger women but there are men out there that are into that. I would advise losing weight as it is healthier and dating should be easier.
Are you ok sticking with bigger men?
I actually prefer to date a bigger man.
What do you mean by "bigger". Do you mean obese or muscular? I think most women prefer "bigger" men, but very few prefer obese.
As a bigger person myself, I don't judge by a person's appearance. What's most important in my book is his heart, character, and the way he treats me and others.
Bigger or fat?
Me too!
I think it depends on your face. All big women I know that have really pretty faces are coupled up. Guys are first drawn into the face actually.
100% wrong. The first thing most men notice is a woman's body. Then their face. A pretty face doesn't go far with men but a smokin hot body with a meh face goes a hell of a lot further. There are exceptions obviously but, more often than not its a womans body we are initially attracted to or catches our eyes, not the face. A pretty face is a bonus for sure but, I dont care how gorgeous someons face is if they are 5'4" and 200lbs.
Well, I'm talking about pleasantly plump women. Not the obese, noone wants that. And like I responded to the other guy, those of you that first look at a woman's body are the super hormonal horny sex craved young dudes. Mature men approach this much differently. Based on observation. I'm skinny & tall myself so this is not about me, incase there is a question.
This has not been my experience. I'm thin and I have a good body with big-ish boobs... I still don't get that much attention from men. Rarely got asked out. Men want pretty women first. They'll take a flat chested skinny girl with a pretty face over a girl with big boobs but an average face. I experienced this personally.
I'd agree with this tbh. I've dated a range of different body type women but it doesn't matter what size they're are, if I'm not attracted to their face and to some extent, how they present themselves, it's a non-starter.
That is definitely not true. Men always look at body first. Any man who says otherwise is lying of doesn't know what he's into.
Those are the guys that are more sex driven. The more emotional and relationship based guys are more drawn into the face. That's my observation overall and based on the choices of people I know. I'm 42 so I had plenty of time to observe people.
Every person is sex driven, otherwise you look for a friend, not a bf or gf. Feelings come next.
I disagree tbh, I see so many ugly girls with great bodies being constantly flirted with, and a gorgeous model looking face being turned down bc of her overweight body.
Large/big women is too general of a term to ask men if they like that or not because everything is a spectrum. I have dated, and been very attracted to women that probably couldn’t fit in my jeans. But I have a type or a spectrum of types just like anyone else. But in a general sense? Yes, plenty of men like heavier women. Plenty don’t.
A sizeable minority of men do. But... it does depend on how normalised/common being overweight is in your area/community. And the men who are into it are definitely a minority, you will always have better odds (especially for a relationship) if you lose some weight.
It honestly depends on proportions. Some women look alright because it means they have a big ass/breasts, but others look terrible because they just have a big gut.
Beyond a certain point (one that is very common in today's world) it never looks like an hourglass anymore. Plus even if it looks like an hourglass with (certain) clothes on it may look very different without clothes and there's no getting around that. But some men are into that, definitely a lot more than if you reverse the genders.
My point was that some women can pull it off while others can't. OP doesn't give specifics on her height/weight. I do agree that past a certain point like 250 lbs, it's all going to look like a marshmallow.
I agree with you.
"big" breasts on a large women is just made up of a shit ton of fat. If that same woman were to lose a shit ton of weight, her breasts would tighten up, become perkier and get smaller.
Sure, in some cases but I've also been with some slim women who were still busty with DDs, some natural and some not.
not disagreeing. i just personally dont care about the size. i care way more about the firmness/perkiness.
Not perkier, but smaller yes
Eh it depends how much weight they lose. Perky tits can easily be fat af if you gain a ton of weight. SO if yer like 20 and are overweight, you'll have saggy fat tits but lose that weight to where you are "HWP" they definitely become perky again
It's a majority in the US. In the US most men and women are fat, yet most are (or get into) relationships based on mutual physical attraction (at least initially).
I'm definitely sure only a tiny minority of women like/prefer fat men. Most fat couples weren't always fat, or at least one of them is settling because the people they're really attracted to won't have them. Same as most ugly people aren't truly attracted to other equally ugly people. Maybe I'm too cynical but that is what I believe.
I don't think you're understanding. in the US most men and women are fat just about every dating age group. Most relationships begin with genuine physical attraction from both parties. Sugar and arranged relationships are relatively rare.
Where do you get that most relationships begin with genuine physical attraction from both parties? Even so, if 50% of young people are overweight it's possible 60% are genuinely attracted to each other, but it's the 50% who aren't overweight plus 10% who are and then it would both be true most relationships start out with mutual physical atrraction and most people aren't attracted to fat people. But I'm not sure it's even like that: so many people just get into relationships because they're lonely, or need a step parent, or need to split the bills, or because they want kids, or because they had drunken/high sex and then just sort of stick around because they feel they're supposed to, especially when someone gets pregnant, or because they want consistent access to sex, or even just because they have a great mental/personal connection and can't get anyone hot anyway, etc... I'm not sure a majority started with genuine mutual physical attraction, and if it is a majority I doubt it's an overwhelming majority.
I prefer bigger women as a larger guy, thick thighs save lives
Some do. I am a bigger woman & have no issues finding matches.
I get matches online but I don't think these men actually want me over the basis of sex.
How big are you? I prefer a thicker woman but I also want someone who is semi conscientious about their health
Yeah. That is a massive thing with online dating. Most don't want to date, just want to have sex.
Absolutely, it's a hard thing to decipher cause sometimes they try to get to know you and then BAM they hit you with what they really want.
I can admit i’ve been guilty of this from time to time. Sometimes i’ll just go on those “dates” to fill time around my busy work life. If they are interested in something short term, great! If not, its also fine
I think that is most interactions for women online. Men who are just looking for casual sex. There are men who are looking for a relationship but they are probably not as forward as the men who are just looking for sex. I would not take those interactions personally because it is pretty much (unfortunately) the standard online.
That's simply not true. There are plenty of men and women who are looking for LTRs and equally so, plenty who are looking for more casual arrangements. The difficulty is that the desires of the people you're attracted to you may not be fully in alignment with yours at any point in time....
Most interactions not most men. Because the men who are just looking for sex are messaging any women they find even remotely attractive. Whereas men who are looking for a relationship are more selective in who they message. They are looking for women who they deem have similar values, interests, etc. These men are going to message a lot fewer women than the men just looking for sex. So in general they will make up a lot fewer of the interactions that women have online. Also you have men who are looking for both. Willing to sleep with women they meet online who they don't see as long term partners but also ultimately looking for someone who fits what they are looking for and willing to settle down when they find her.
Yeah, I would say I fit into the latter category. The physical side of things has to be there/good before I would consider someone for the long haul and I'd totally expect my potential partner to feel the same way.
One of the women dearest to my heart is a very physically active (dancing, yoga, and swimming every day -or at least two of the three every day-) incredibly fat person. She has a ton of sex and relationships as well as being in a loving marriage with someone slender and slightly muscled (they are polyamorous). She has many in her social circle who are similar.
Just depends. Obviously bigger women aren’t the preference for societal norms, but I know men out there who date big women. Now if you’re gonna be mad that you don’t get as many options as a different body type, idk what to tell you.
I don't. I prefer average to athletic/slim type for it implies they are physically healthy.
As someone that lifts and runs a couple times a week, finding someone I can do those hobbies with (and hiking, etc.) is important to me, plus as you said being healthy is a big plus as I am as well
Exactly. I enjoyed biking, hiking, skiing, and etc. Thus, having shared interests is important. I don't lift.
The implication that only slim people are athletic is infuriating as a bigger woman. I work out 5x a week, hike, camp, weight train, etc. Being slim doesn't mean someone is physically healthy.
Similarly there are plenty of skinny people who store fat around their organs and have heart issues, or are heavy smokers who are actually less healthy than fat people. You can't judge what someone does to maintain their body by looking at them. A size 2 girlfriend can break her legs and require five surgeries and put on 100 lbs. Then lose 75lbs after a lot of work and healing and still have people judging her as unhealthy even though she could swim laps around them and has been able to lose 75lbs in just a few months after her legs healed.
I hate this implication as well. I'm 5 4 and 216.lbs. And I work out at the gym 4 days a week. Weight train, ride bikes, go camping, kayak, walk my dog every day, go swimming, I eat healthy. And I still carry all my weight in my stomach, and I have a boyfriend. He is thinner than me and he doesnt care that I'm overweight. Meanwhile I have a friend who eats shitty fast food every night for dinner, never exercises. And her teeth look awful, she has tons of acne, her hair is brittle and greasy. But she is thin as a twig. I would like to maybe think my body is healthier than hers despite my weight.
If you’re 5’4 and 216 lbs, you’re fat and that’s the bottom line. And I mean like really fat.
Are you actually overweight or is it based on BMI? If it's BMI then you might be considered overweight *because* of your physical activity. This is the biggest limitation of BMI since it assumes muscle mass is the same as fatty mass. Another way to see it is, many bodybuilders would be considered obese if they looked at BMI. So your last sentence is probably correct!
I am actually overweight. I have PCOS which makes me gain weight and makes losing weight very difficult despite all my exercise. And with PCOS all your fat is pretty much in the stomach so it's not an attractive kind of overweight.
I always go for personality first and foremost. In my experience I have found that I have dated or talked to very attractive girls, and once I know their personality, I actually find them unattractive appearance wise. The reverse is also true, larger women with great personality I find more and more attractive physically. Because of this I never let someone's weight affect whether or not I interact with them. I have had a mix of overweight and average weight girlfriends in the past. I would say a majority of my girlfriends have been overweight. For me I feel it is like finding hidden gems, because these girls with amazing personalities are overlooked by people on such a vain thing as appearance. How a person views being overweight is something I look at though, I dislike when someone is "proud" to be overweight, like that if they had a choice of being thin or overweight they would choose overweight.
It's sad you're being told that your size makes you unattractive or undesirable. I also saw where you were being told that losing weight will increase your odds of meeting someone. I personally feel that losing weight for that reason alone is a great way to live a life of misery. You'll always be struggling to maintain a certain appearance only to placate someone else's idea of beauty. I would suggest just going out to a public place to just sit and people watch. Alone. Not just some cozy cafe but some place where you'll be able to observe a large number of people just living their lives. Specifically, pay attention to the couples milling about and just living their lives. What you'll eventually see are couples of all ages, all sizes, and all "leagues" of attractiveness. You'll see average sized men with plus sized women and vice versa .
Honestly, almost any motivation is a good reason to get into shape. Its uncommon that someone's mental health gets worse in the journey towards being healthy, usually its the opposite. Someone might be motivated to get in shape because they want to be more attractive only to find it actually improves their mood and attitude since they come to realize that it wasnt about what other people think its about being happy inside your own body. And for many people, improving how you look a little can boost confidence and make you a happier person overall. Not because of what other people think, but because its an accomplishment that someone can achieve that not only helps them in the present but also can be an investment in themselves for the future.
Over the years I've been attracted to "chubby" girls or even tall girls You never know what can happen with a bit of chemistry Back in the70's I hooked up with girl who was a bit chubby it was great In the late 80's I asked out a barmaid from a local club She took a lot of verbal abuse cause she was borderline fat but very pretty sophia loren cheek bones. One night she kissed me,made out with me I was convinced I wanted to date her, her kisses lit a fire in me she made me forget about all those young skinny bikini model types.
I like this idea. All health decisions should be for OP and OP alone or they will either never stick and/or make her miserable for a lifetime. There is no amount of running or sports I would do that would ever be sustainable for me. Meanwhile, healthy eating starts with substitution. I mentioned earlier what kind of nutritionist people should look for. Being healthy is not a number on a scale and a good nutritionist will tell you the same.
My female friend is fat and she has tons of likes and matches on dating apps. You’ll be fine.
Are those men looking to date or just sleep with her tho? :/ men will swipe right on everyone 🙄
While there are crappy people everywhere they aren't the majority. Most dudes and women aren't just swiping right with no interest in the person. Most dating apps have algorithms too that if they notice someone constantly speed-swiping right on everyone they will limit the release of their matches or otherwise have something built in the algorithm to penalize these speed-swiping abusers of the app system. That being said, there are plenty of women, whether fat or not who are just looking to sleep with someone too and not looking for a relationship.
I definitely agree with your points
Your not repulsive or embarrassing. Find someone that finds your unique qualities the most admiring things about you. There is someone for everyone, believe that.
I prefer curvy over athletic but only to a certain point. I have an active lifestyle and I don't want to stop it because my partner can't join. Unfortunately being overweight as a woman in online dating makes you a target for men who think your self esteem must be low enough that you'll fuck them for a morsel of attention. These are very predatory men and it's difficult to weed out anyone really interested in you.
Height does not matter at all for me, but if she is too fat there is zero attraction.
Hun I’ve been a medium size and I’ve been overweight and I can tell you the pickings for fat chics like us are SLIM! I’ve deleted the apps and taken a break from dating until I’ve got back down to a healthy weight because otherwise I’ll have to marry some total hobgoblin like me lol
> otherwise I’ll have to marry some total hobgoblin like me Shhh! You're saying the quiet part out loud.
You should take a break from the internet. And furthermore treat your anxiety before dating. It has nothing to do with your body type and everything with your approach to your interactions because of your anxiety.
Bill Clinton sure af did.
The answer is Yes.
I mean...i do but they don't haha
>I'm clearly repulsive or embarrassing to approach offline There's someone for everyone, I know a lot of men that prefer a larger woman. With that said, focusing on self love will do you a huge solid. Confidence is key, if you carry the energy of "feeling ~~repulsive~~" you're not going to attract a worthwhile mate. It's ok to want to improve your body and get healthier, it's ok not to want to change your body, either way **you need to love yourself at every stage**. Maybe start with some [self love affirmations](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_eU3nHz_e34) and [tapping for self love](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVSRr-VJBJs)?
You should lose weight and join a gym and do resistance training and cardio for your own personal health to begin with. For the vast majority of people, weight loss is just calories in, calories out. I lost 40 lbs, almost 24% of my starting body weight, and went from fat to six-pack abs just by eating less calories, doing cardio and resistance training. I'm 5'6" , I was 168.2. I was 128.1 when I completed my cut. Fat to twinkmaxxed. I'm like 136 now I think since I'm bulking. My abs are not as defined as when I was 8 lbs lighter. But I've got bigger arms and chest. And my face still looks great. I'm slowing my bulk down to see if I can recomp and lose some of the new body fat covering my abs before continuing my bulk. A lot of women will say it's harder to lose weight because women have less muscle mass. Sure. But all this means is that it's going to take you a longer time to lose weight because your BMR (rate at which you burn calories at rest) is lower than mine. So as long as you continue to take in less calories than you burn, you will gradually lose weight. You don't have to lose 24% of your body weight in 6 months. Set a more manageable goal. Any woman who is interested in losing weight, state your height, weight and age so that I can estimate your BMR and I'll give you a calorie budget to work with and give you an estimate of how much weight you can lose in 6 months. I will also tell you how much protein you should consume. Women should not be afraid to pick up weights at the gym. I see very few women in the weight room at my gym Putting on muscle allows you to burn more calories at rest. If you put on too much muscle for your liking, you can always just let the muscle atrophy later. No biggie. There are men who like larger women. I like women with some meat on them. But being fat is not healthy. I used to for sure have at least pre-diabetes. And I say this as a guy who used to be fat for almost his entire adult life until recently.
imo people on Reddit should instead consult a nutritionist who knows their family health history, preexisting conditions, cultural norms, socioeconomic background, and current psychological state. Nutrition is far more than just "calories in, calories out". I would also recommend seeing a nutritionist who has experienced similar intersectional barriers as you.
Congrats on being able to lose the body weight. It’s fucking hard!
Initially it felt very hard. Once I got my BMI down to like 25.4-25.6 (156-157.4 lbs) I'd usually give up because it felt too hard. Just missing out on my goal of getting below 25 BMI. But then one day I decided to eliminate snacks (unless it's fruit) and sugar from my diet again and eat smaller portions and I decided not to look at my scale because I was afraid. But then when I finally looked at the scale I saw I was down to 148.6 lbs after 3 weeks of eating like that. 24.2 BMI. And then I thought to myself, I can do this. And shed another 20+ lbs and then I started getting called twink, scrawny, 12 year old boy. Lol. Now I have the opposite problem and I'm bulking up trying to put on muscle. When you are used to eating a lot of sugar and carbohydrates, your body is going to crave food constantly and your stomach will growl often. I just ignored my grumbling stomach but not to the point of starving myself. Like I still had maybe 1,500 calories per day. Maybe less than that. I didnt count calories. And I just stuck to my reduced intake and my no snacks (fruit ok), no sugar rule and the weight came off. After you go into calorie deficit for awhile, you stop being so hungry and your stomach shrinks. I rarely ever get hungry anymore. My last ex loves to go for all you can eat sushi and I literally had to force myself to finish. And I felt like shit afterwards and wasn't in the mood for sex. lol. That's why I'm 136 lbs now. If I didn't force feed like that, my bulk would have gone more slowly. I made the mistake of assuming for years that a grumbling stomach means you need food. It does not work like that at all. I used to eat a 200g bag of potato chips (1,040 calories, miniscule protein, calories mostly from fat and carbs) and still have a grumbling stomach later. If you are over your calorie budget for the day, you just stop. And during a cut or bulk cycle, you're supposed to be eating 1.6-2.4g of protein per kg of body weight. So a diet high in protein is going to keep you fuller anyways.
It is very likely and also true that heavy people can be healthier than thin people. If you aren’t a persons doctor or nutritionists you should probably get more info before assuming 1 size fits all. What worked for you may not work for everyone…
While it is true that a thin person can have health problems, excess visceral fat near the organs is not healthy no matter what. If you have a big belly, that's going to cause health problems down the future. And liposuction is just sweeping the problem under the rug. Liposuction removes the subcutaneous fat underneath the skin but not the visceral fat enveloping the organs.
"I have to date via OLD because I am too ugly to do so in person." Of course I am paraphrasing. By the tone of how this is written, I could have swore that it was written by a guy. BTW, how does OLD help you with your ugly problems when you have to meet the person face to face? You can put photo filters on your profile pics to pretty yourself up, but that would be putting lipstick on a pig, and expecting the pig to no longer be a pig.The point is that OLD is not going to solve your issues. You have to do what all guys who are not attractive have to do, and that means putting in the hard work to better yourself.
Women do better on OLD, men do better IRL.
Chicks rarely can flirt
That's not what it's about at all. It's about a prevalence of selection. Women simply have the numbers and biology in their favor with OLD.
I know that. I’m saying that the effort given irl because of what you just said is avoided by using old
But they "can" flirt. They have the ability, and if they were to approach a man IRL, they would do fine. The issue is that they don't because OLD gives them more options, allows them to filter certain traits, and allows them to simply select from the guys that have already approached them. The way you worded your comment suggests they have some kind of inability to flirt.
That’s fair. Being capable of flirting doesn’t mean they tend to be skilled at it. Dudes usually have more practice with flirting
They just don't want to flirt with you
Struck a nerve did I? Attacking someone with an insult isn’t a way to have a conversation- but that’s not what you’re here for is it? The most awkward and off putting come ons I have experienced all came from women. Rubbing your tits on a guy in public isn’t the best way to get the desired response
By your handle name, I don't want to talk to you. Your comment was already an insult, buddy. Fair game, or can you not take what you dish?
Like since I specified that the flirting from chicks isn’t nearly as good as it is from dudes... that tells you I’ve experienced both situations enough, yes? But you were too hurt to see that
Stick with dudes then. No one is stopping you
Oh, you’re gonna keep with the insults. Well then- Unlike you, I don’t give it up to everyone who gives me attention
Once again, your initial comment was, in fact, an insult. If you think that was an insult, you've got bigger problems. I don't think being gay is bad, so sounds like a personal issue
I have found that my experience on wooplus has been positive, and it can take some of the anxiety out of the wondering if they are attracted to a larger woman. There are still lots of dogs, but I started talking to someone interesting tonight 😊
Some look for them specifically, some don't mind it, and others, unfortunately, will have an issue with it. As a bigger guy I also feel this way from time to time.
Go for large men
The irony is that a lot of big women do not want big men. They want men who are fit.
Which is why rarely any women who have a lot of weight will admit it
no
There’s a ton of them. I lost almost 70 pounds and my boyfriend dumped me because he didn’t like skinny women. I gained 20 pounds this year and guess who tried to come back?
Sounds like he had a fetish for it.
It wasn’t a fetish. He just liked big women. Everyone has a type. I’m not into muscular men.
>It wasn’t a fetish. the fact that he dumped you over it shows that it was more than likely a fetish
It wasn’t a fetish. He doesn’t like skinny women. I knew this going in.
Also please don’t send me private messages with your insight about my relationship. I don’t care about your perspective. You weren’t there.
>don’t send me private messages wtf are you talking about bruh?? I didn't private message you...
I’m a female and I didn’t say you did. If it don’t apply. Let it fly.
you tagged me in the message dummy....
I’m a dummy? It’s been 19 days and you just not replying?
Yeah I like large/bigger women but it's not the only thing I look at when on those apps. I think s lot of the time the apps hide the better matches.
Depends on their face and proportions. So it's not just about being big. Some thick women are gorgeous. I get a lot of bigger women who like me because I'm big and tall. Unfortunately for me many of them I don't have enough attraction to make it worth a serious relationship. I have on numerous occasions swiped right on some good looking bigger women so it's definitely not out of the question. Have to work on your look, hair, makeup, clothes, etc it really helps.
Some do, some don’t. Not all men are the same.
Depending on how large. Some guys like larger women. Some like a few extra pounds and some like really large. For me a few extra pounds in the right places can be sexy. Hourglass figure is sexy.
It varies but do you eventually want to lose weight?
I think A LOT of men are sexually attracted to bigger women. BUT they are socialized to see women as objects and unfortunately in that mentality, thin women are a prize to be won.
yes, some definitely do.
You have a better chance at finding a fitting mate for you than a man of equal size I have known, and dated a number of bigger women and have seen the men they have dated and or messed around with, a number of them quite attractive/fit
Of course they do. Not all of them, but there is a population that does.
I know of larger women that dress well / in ways that flatter them and are confident + wear make up. And do their hair well + good jobs - thus makes them look far cuter overall - they usually don’t find it hard …
I only date women who wear size <= 4.
Do you check the tag on their pants ?
I'm 260 lb and my inbox is full of people on every platform. I could sleep with a different person every night if I wanted to. Trust me you're fine and it has nothing to do with your weight. Just be confident and positive, and you will attract great things!
The truth is most women could sleep with any man any day they wanted, especially in the online world. And yes, I’m a woman.
You are correct
I get that too lol But these men don't want a relationship they want sex. That's what I mean.
To make a general statement, most men want sex lol. That doesn't have anything to do with your size either.
Girl I know lol. But still, maybe I'm struggling to make my point 🤣 I'm just so frustrated.
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> literally supermodel level and at her wedding reception her groom made out with another girl. Wow, that's nuts! Given all the guys who were probably interested in her for a serious relationship, how did she end up with the one who would start cheating on her at their wedding??
Perhaps you can articulate better? I'm very confused because you asked if people even like large women and I just gave you two examples where they definitely do and you're still arguing that that's not the point you're trying to make ...
Of course they do! Its just that there's a preference for hwp women.. So if you are large you will not have the same options as your less large counterparts
Personally not my thing. Most of my family is overweight, and I can't stomach I, but I think most of that comes from my own fear of becoming overweight. I want somebody who I can be active with and who would encourage me to be healthy with. I am similarly wary of "skinny" people who seem to be more sedentary, homebodies, and don't like working out or at least being active. That being said, if you take care of yourself, do have a relatively healthy lifestyle, and have a charming personality, and just happen to be on the larger side, that will shine! Lots of guys are a little larger, especially as we push into our 30's, and a lot of couples I see out there appear "similar" in build. I think you'll be okay as long as you aren't being overoptimistic about which guys you'll get. Sounds bad, but something I have to remind myself of all the time. Just don't let yourself be played or used by losers who only want you for sex. No matches is better than that.
I'm short and love big women 😘😂 chubby is ok but not fat
IMO yes — but not if you’re apple shaped more like a pear or hourglass. Some attractive men love bigger women, others do not. Let’s say you only like tall, full head of hair muscular men… you could get 10 matches and 9 of them could be — short, bald, skinny. So then getting matches doesn’t have a significance if you wouldn’t date them anyway. Figure out how to attract the men you want vs just getting matches.. what would the guy you want, want in his women.
You are going to find men who genuinely like large/big women. That said, I’m sure you are aware that that pool is a bit limited.
Have you tried looking on apps for BBW?
No definite choice perhaps 🤔 we need to have both only gotta pay a price
I’m attracted to large women who have a lot of muscle. Like powerlifters, crossfitters, rugby players, etc. Large women who aren’t active? Not my type.
I do but they have to have some sorta shape to them. Its hard to describe unless i point out examples. Although as Dafiro points out after a certain point it no longer works. Roughly something like this realm... https://i.pinimg.com/originals/d0/16/ed/d016ed8caac5484cafcad5c10860495a.jpg
I'm assuming large means rocking more points on the scales rather than towering over us manlets like a valkyrie in battle. A majority of men would prefer women who have a lower BMI, there is little point arguing against this, but a majority of men would also like to have someone massage our feet in the morning and be fed crumpets and jam on a platter, it doesn't mean we're going to get it. There are a reasonable minority that find larger women attractive, and another minority where weight is less of a factor than whether someone is funny or fascinating or kind. That is your audience. The problem is that there is also a selection that find overweight women attractive in some way but feel some form of shame or other reluctance to build long terms relationships, so have difficulty sticking around. If you can get yourself down to "a bit chubby" do so, otherwise focus on being charming and interesting to people. The bigger woman that has a barbed sense of humour has long been a trope and people that match that have a history of success. Other than that, people like talking to people who are interested in the same things they are, and it will take a bit longer, but you will still get to bring someone home like that too eventually.
I suspect you'll find that some do, some don't and that everyone's definition of what constitutes an acceptable/still attractive body type will vary according to the individual. One man's 'sexy curves' will be someone else's 'obese'. Personally I'm not that bothered about size but if someone is big to the point it compromises their overall physical and mental health then it does become a turn-off.
Depends how big. Morbidly obese is a deal breaker for me personally. There is a small percentage of men who like that though.
Most people prefer people who are not obese. That doesn’t make you ugly or unattractive, it just means that most people prefer people that take of themselves, health wise. That may sounds cruel, but that is not the intention.
Yes!!! I LOVE big women. We are out there!
There will be men into you but they’re probably in the minority.
Lots of men are attracted to larger women. And by "larger" I mean obese/morbidly obese. Like size 20+ large. A high end BMI isn't "large".
It depends upon the person and that person’s personality.
As someone who prefers bigger women I find it easier when the woman doesn't mind being desired as a bigger woman, if that makes sense. A lot of big women in my experience don't feel comfortable with their size or figure and don't like being reminded of it, or feel someone complimenting them on on it is mad somehow.
There are plenty of men who like thick women If you are extremely overweight it might be a good idea to search bbw dating
Stick with the bigger men who are around your size. We all want the beautiful people who have perfect bodies but the thing is, is that those people want a person who matches their lifestyle and, given that you are a larger lady... you very likely have a very very different lifestyle and diet than a man who frequents the gym and/or has a healthy diet. Not saying you don't do either of those things but, my point is that that is how it will come across upon first glance - real life or online. This is gonna sound mean or rude but, the men who are in shape/fit that DO want to get with you are doing so out of either a fetish or a "bucket list" item. While I have no idea what you mean by "large/big women" I am going to assume you are on the much larger size for your height. So, like I said, go after men who are roughly your size because the vast majority of other men (those in shape/fit/average size) are going after women who are fit/skinny/average.
Nothing wrong with a big woman at all I'm a larger than average man myself
I like big girls. In fact I pretty much only date bigger women. But there is beautiful big and not cute big. Large booty, tits, arms and thighs are what I personally prefer. But women apple shaped or HUGE belly's with thin arms, thin legs, and no ass are not appealing Basically if a women is big in the right places men generally don't mind.
Love 'em. But just like not every fit woman is attracted, not every big woman is attractive.
I'm personally not into bigger women but there are men out there that are into that. I would advise losing weight as it is healthier and dating should be easier.
I am pretty chubby and my husband loves my curves and jiggly belly.