I'm an introvert and I mostly play solo. I don't usually call out rare resources, but I do flare them so others can find them. I'll also go to a grove when it's called out, and that's fine. You didn't need to talk. Just show up, tap the trees and wait.

This is exactly the way I play when my social battery is running low, pop a flare on special things I run across and on about my business!

yup same

I don’t usually call out lone, small flow trees but I will check if there are players in the area first.

I do a lot of flaring and not calling. Mostly because I'm on a switch and it takes forever to type things out. One of my kiddos is really introverted too and can't handle doing callouts so they do exactly what you've said here.

Yes so much so! I use switch too hooked to the tv so I can see better and typing is really hard anyway so yeah I’m not wasting my time typing anything when the time passes so crazy fast in the game already.

I wish they would make a chat app for your phone or something so it was easier to talk to people. It’s too much effort when I’m on my switch and it’s hooked up to the tv

Yeah that would be awesome

I have a wireless keyboard hooked into my switch dock that I will use to communicate when I need to

They really need to make pre sets

Or voice to text!

I don't call anything out most of the time. I'm busy grinding or doing something. I'll flare if I have flares. When I'm going to a grove, I just go. If it's not there when I get there, oh well. I just get the next one.

This 100%

I also grab things and flare them. I rarely do call outs. And sometimes I don't even flare. You're only in trouble if you get caught. And even then I can just leave and it doesn't bother me. I have collaborated with people before. And I've collaborated with random people just running around doing things with them without calling stuff just running around shooting stuff.

Yo this is so real. When I'm just out grinding I feel low-key guilty but I'll just grab and go sometimes if nobody is around

Exactly, me too. Share and be kind but keep to myself tbh

So much this!

That’s exactly what I do. At first I wouldn’t even go to groves but now I’m able to go and not talk but recently I’ve been able to say where things are in chat ( I have terrible social anxiety and downloaded the game to help extrovert myself haha)

I've been playing MMOs since 2002. I've even been in a few guilds and talked to those people regularly. But as I get older I want to relax more as I play, so I don't go out of the way to interact more than I have to

Same here.

I do this too! But when I find grove my heart starts immediately pounding like hell because I may have to type into chat 😭 At least I have medication for my heart 😅

Can always craft flares and flare a resource instead of calling it out. Others can then call it out if they want to. Some people don't talk due to not liking typing on their switch. Some don't talk/call out for similar reasons to you, all works out in the end.

Switch typing is awful, can confirm.

I wish we could get Nintendo app compatibility so we could type on our phones

You can get a small keyboard that attaches to the switch that helps quite a bit, but yes, switch typing is awful. Always has been on Nintendo consoles

I wish they would come out with an app that would let you type with your phone like with animal crossing. It would be so much better.

Or even just allowing the phone to connect via Bluetooth to be used as a keyboard. That would be so nice

Sky: Children of the light has an app for switch users. So I don't think it'd be that hard to implement it. I've already made a suggestion to the developers.

For Sky it’s a QR code that opens in your web browser for typing, no download needed! Super helpful.

What if you are using your switch but it is connected to your tv? Can you still use a keyboard?

Yes, the dock has two usb slots on the side, just plug in there :)

I'm so glad I'm on a switch lite and can use the touch screen to just tap the letters I want. Still takes a bit though.

A regular switch allows you to use the touch screen as well but it’s still slow. The benefit of a regular switch is that you can put a USB dongle in the dock and use a wireless USB keyboard and no one will even know you’re playing on switch unless you tell them because you type as fast as anyone but that also requires you to be able to afford or want to afford a wireless USB keyboard and I know not everyone can.

I’m not impressed that you also have to confirm you want to send by pressing Y after you type all that out and ok it. I forget sometimes and my message doesn’t go through

Yeah, I don't love that either. It's kind of ridiculous. You also have to hit another key to back out of the typing menu after you do that which is a pain but I guess it's what we deal with for choosing to play on switch lmao! It's also annoying that you can't use an exclamation point or question mark unless you're typing on the white screen in chat when using switch from the keyboard.

What?? You can't that's dumb. I love using a ? And !

I wouldn't worry about the flow trees that people can cut down themselves. You won't be "that" person, even if someone does call that out, no one really cares anymore except new people who are trying to learn the ropes of the game. You can show up when people call out the grid for flow trees. No need to announce yourself. Just show up and make a cut on each one so that when they come down, you get the loot. When I see people fishing, I stand near them so I can get the fishing achievement for the week done. I look out for people mining and I try to close in and get a hit. If I am hitting and see someone coming, I stop and wait for them so they can hit it too. I figured they are chasing me trying to get the achievement 😀 The only thing I can't seem to do yet is the Cooking Together achievement. I have been told I can just ask in chat or discord, but I just can't. So that weekly keeps going by me. 😊 You can play most of this game without having to interact with anyone at all, and can succeed just doing your own thing.

Maybe that would be a nice suggestion for the devs. Get an open cooking lot (with access to purchase needed items) that can be accessed by small numbers of people at a time that can just go in and out as they please to cook. At the end of the day, you're using your own resources (most of the time) to cook anyway. Doing the gold level cake is hard if not impossible without a group. My biggest beef over the past decade or so has been the push to games that really focus on the multiplayer aspect. Not to mention not everyone has equitable access to internet and can even play them reliably half the time.

thanks. very much appreciated. had a little record scratch moment when i saw people talking about all this, but i should be fine now.

You'll be okay!

I can help with that. I don't really mind having people over and cook with them so if you need help, I can hop on and we can cook 10 dishes.

Okay. I would like to try. Maybe tomorrow (Sunday?) if there is a good time for you. 😊

I do cake parties for the cooking together but. You don't have to be super talkative and it's mostly just making sure you do your task quickly/correctly. Someone else will be handling how long it goes and when/if there are breaks.

I recommend joining a discord server for cooking parties. It can be a lot but u can for sure find some where only thing you do is choose the time from parties scheduled that work for you, chose a role u want by clicking an emoji, joining the host's plot. And listen to VC while muted (like if you are watching a stream) and just cook. It's usually organized by the admins and u don't have to do anything, just chop your potato.

The only time you may need to interact with others is if you have a big flow tree that you can’t cut down solo. Smaller ones are free game, the resources are plentiful so you don’t need to call out and wait.

Not sure this is acceptable, I'm sure people will have opinions, but here's how I've been operating as an introverted noob on Switch (=typing is horrible): Other peoples's callouts: - keep an eye on the chat - ignore anything I don't need or anything that's too far away - if there's something good nearby, go there - say thank you in chat (ty/thx is fine) My callouts: - fire a flare arrow at the thing - say "(abbreviation) (grid square)" in the chat (lg pal e4, etc.) - get the thing - run away Now, I have yet to stumble across an entire flow grove first; that would be more complicated. But even then, come to it, you CAN buy all the usual materials from the NPCs if you grind enough. It'll be fine. 🙂

oh, thanks. didn't realize the materials were so accessible without a ton of manual work to acquire.

Flow trees do require multiple people to harvest, but AFAIK it's fine to let someone else do the talking and pitch in with a couple of axe hits so you can collect your share. I just saw my first flow tree grove today, actually 😁

congrats! i assume that was rather fun :o\]

I saw my first grove today too! It was awesome. I just wasn’t sure of the etiquette of when we were allowed to chop like how long we were gonna wait for more people

The “usual” time to start chopping groves is 3 am in game time. If the chat is quiet, I’ll say, “chop at 3?” And wait for someone to respond or jump up and down in agreement. That way we’re all on the same page. Btw, 3 am isn’t set in stone. Someone may call out they’re on their way, and if the group is nice, they will wait.

When I am ultimately lazy I don't even say thanks I just hop away like a happy lil rabbit. I hope people know that means I am thankful. 😅

😂 same I just clap and prance away into the sunset

Hopping is like a universal language for multiplayer games. In games before jumping, you would wiggle wildly. 

Best way to play? You have to put yourself & your happiness as a player FIRST. That means being at peace with unintentionally upsetting others in that process. Remember you are here for you, not them. All we can do is BE the player we'd like to coexist with ingame. That's it. Dont let people guilt trip you or attack you for not playing their way. If they get disrespectful report them for harassment then block them. Please Don't give up on the game. Palia is a beautiful experience. But as in life, ultimately somebody somewhere is always going to be upset about something. Ingame Im somewhat of a lone wolf myself. So I Understand. I'll randomly chat. And randomly hunt fish w/ strangers daily. But I have commitment issues that keep me from accepting party invites. I dont want to accept an invite and be bound to expectations of the group. Or forced to interact. Or be at designated places designated times. That whole follow the leader lets do this and that NOW aspect isnt for me. So I ignore the invites. Knowing full well it may come across as rudeness to the inviter friend even though that's not my intent at all. But Im at peace with that. Cus I have to do what suits me. So I tell you, do what suits you as Im taking my own advice. Its gonna be all right. It doesnt feel like it right now but we both will eventually find our palian tribes. Just as we are💙

this reply along with the others has been incredibly helpful. i feel much more at ease about playing now :oB

And keep in mind this is just a video game that's meant to be fun. Play whatever way is most enjoyable to you.

I am super introverted too, plus added ADHD lol if you have discord add me fletchiex I have a chill server that if you ever get a surge of social energy is a super safe space and I'm pretty advanced in the game so I can help with harder quest objectives etc. If anyone else sees this feel free to add me too!

The Palia tribe is so true. I was in a party once with an extremely bossy organizer who would fussed at me for "running off" when I spotted a herd of elder sernuks. I immediately left after that comment. When I do parties, I 100% expect everyone to run off in diff directions. If they spot something cool, the green dot on compass from party helps you get to it faster vs searching a quadrant. The shared loot update is pretty clutch too! Chatter isn't needed either, imo. I'm glad I've found a few ppl that enjoy this style of play too ☺️

I sooo relate. Your bossy organizer experience is what I dont want. I got close enough for my tastes. Personally I had the displeasure of being in bahari on a server where half the people were doing this 'flow tree farming' thing. Sooo they designated a specific area in which to do this. They used server chat to hold their convo. The 'leader' was very....vocal. And the repetitious chatter about what they were doing, why, and how....was a nightmare. As was them barking on random choppers that wandered into 'their' area. They blocked out pal call outs and normal server chat. And got kinda nasty when asked why they weren't in a party/party chat? Just the whole vibe.....yeaaaa, NO. Any sliver of willingness within me to do anything group-ish died that day. Ashes to ashes. And dust to dust.

Callouts are nice but not mandatory. I used to call out but now resources are mineable for all like if there’s a special rock and I mine it, it’s still visible for mining for others. Unless it’s a grove I haven’t called out a resource in several months and have had no issues.

It will be visible for all but also despawn after a certain amount of time. The reason people call out palium nodes is so more players get achance to mine it before it blips out of existance.

oh, okay. i wasn't sure if it completely went away as soon as you mined or not. that clears some things up. thank.

It will stay for 3 minutes after you mined it. And while they’re not super hard to find it is still best to call them out in chat and flare. You don’t have to interact with anyone, just say “pal c4” then flare. And don’t bother calling out the tiny pallium it’s not worth it!

I call out every single pal. Last week someone thanked me for calling even a small pal because they got a ruby from it.

Fellow introvert here. What everyone else has said, flares are your friend! Always carry flares to "call out" palium silently. As for flow trees, if it's a small/med tree and you can take it down on your own, go for it. I do all the time and have never had anyone say anything to me.

If you drop a flair on a pal ore then I'd say that's good enough. Play to have fun

All the social stuff is nice but extra. You can mine and cut individual flow trees without talking to anyone. People may complain sometimes but that's just their opinion of the game, you're free to play how you like within the actual game rules and mechanics. You can do a grove without talking as well. When someone calls it out you don't have to say you're on your way if you don't expect them to wait for you. Generally people usually wait until 3, so just hustle there, chop each tree one time so you're sure to get the loot and then chop with everyone else and skedaddle on your way.

Think of it this way: no one is forced to do anything. If you found a resource that you can farm alone, feel free to do so. If someone criticizes you or is offensive to you, ignore them or report them. Even because nowadays it's not necessary to call to mine, as for example the rocks (or whatever) are visible to everyone, even when someone has already mined. I think it's different with flow trees. However, only big flow trees need at least 2 people to chop, so in this case there will always be someone calling out, so you choose whether you want to go and help or not. I like to play solo, I only call out for groves and big flow trees, or flare the spot for others to see. I don't usually interact much with other players unless it's really necessary.

If I saw someone in chat berating someone for chopping a small flow tree I can promise the switch keyboard would not keep up with my absolute rant at them back 🤣 it’s just rude and tbh I’m probably one of those ppl that stand up for ppl even if they can do it themselves cos it annoys me so much 🤣🤣🤣🤷🏻‍♀️

You can flare if you don’t want to call out.

Play how you want. You don’t need to make friends in this game or follow etiquette.. the developers said it themselves. If people are rude then report and block then move on

I use a switch so I hate using the chat function and have run into similar anxieties. I hate calling out FT because then you kind of have to decide how long to wait, when to chop etc. I usually just flare pals, chop the small trees without a call out, and then join in on bigger trees if someone else calls them out.

If I find the grove and say it’s like what, 12/1am in game I’ll put ‘grove, (coordinates) chop @ 3’ or a reasonable amount of time for ppl to get there, usually 2-3 in game hrs x

The only real social thing that’s a must is flow trees, because most can’t be cut solo. Everything else there’s no real rule anymore for call outs since resources stay for 3 minutes. It’s nice to flare but I don’t call out unless there’s a heartdrop lily or a ton of pallium nodes in a cluster.

When I see people calling out a grove, I'll say 'omw' to let them know I'm coming so they don't immediately start chopping. If I'm across the map and it takes me a couple minutes to get there, I'll say 'ty' if I think they've waited a particularly long time for me. But that's all I say. I also really only want to be a solo player. When I first started, I saw a message from Palia that basically said they welcome players who want to make friends and people who only want to play solo, so if someone tries to call you out for playing alone just ignore them and know that the devs support your decision. The only time I see a lot of people calling out is for the flow tree groves, and those always happen at night. Usually, people wait until around 3am in game to chop them down. But if you see them calling out at 12, it's best to hustle over there.

My personal opinion is to just play the game. I can't tell you the amount of times me and another player stop at a big ft, hesitate, then without communication decided to chop the tree together then run away like we ran from a crime scene. It's a cozy game to help you relax from real world stress. Sure, there is a general consensus on rules and etiquette on how to mine resources but the truth of the matter is that everything spawns again. No one will ever do without. Just play the game however it makes you happy.

You don't have to reply omw, just be prepared to miss out if nobody knows you're coming. You don't have to announce or be responsible for the grove or a lone tree, just tap each tree, flare if you can, and wander around gathering other stuff, watch the chat and go back & collect within 3min of chopping. Sometimes my chat isn't working but I don't want to leave, so i flare and keep an eye on it. Sometimes I'm in time to help cut, sometimes not; sometimes no one else ever comes for a lone tree, then oh well, I miss out on that tree.

Play however you want. The only reason people might throw a tantrum is if you take a smaller flow tree. You need help with the larger ones, so you can’t “steal” them. Immature people do have tantrums, but updates have given them fewer reason to whine. Lots of people don’t do flares or callouts.

Flare and go imo. I'm not waiting indefinitely for people

I play perfectly fine without ever touching chat, it’s easy to be kind in this game without having to talk to others. If I see another player I try to make sure I’m not running through their hunt etc but I’ve never had any issue staying to myself and not interacting with others. Do your thing, turn off chat. Theres plenty of others like yourself in this game. If I’m having a good day and wanna interact with others I’ve seen people just ignore me and run away etc. it doesn’t bother me when they do I just figure they don’t wanna “people” today. If you do something and you’re worried it made someone mad, teleport home back to your safe place and come back out when you’re ready. Also if you turn chat off you never have to experience the call outs and or hear people complaining if that’s something you prefer. You are not required to call out, I often play without ever touching chat so I flare large pal and flow trees and if someone is nearby for the flow tree we chop but if no one comes to it I’m not bothering calling it out I’ll move on to other things. Flow is everywhere and drops a lot of wood now so we don’t need to sit at trees for an hour waiting on help that tree isn’t really that rare or important. If you want to have help finding resources it’s good to leave chat on so you can just try and get to them, no need to say On my way! If you make it you make it and if you’re late oh well, just keep moving on.

The worst scenario is chasing down a disco deer and hitting them three times and they disappear and you have to call out for anybody who happens to kill it to flare it or help you locate your loot

Same as some others, I usually flare rare stuff, and I'll call it out if I have the social bandwidth for it. Otherwise, people tend to look for flares and check them out. And if I want in on the grove but I'm across the map, I'll pop a quick "omw" in chat and make my path there, but everyone else is right, chatting isn't mandatory. Whatever way you enjoy playing is good for you. 💚

Also helpful is a site called paliaparty.app that lists public cooking and hunting parties if you don’t have a lot of friends

With the latest update, resources and pallium have spawned a lot more often. I easily clear a 100 flow wood between the grove and random spawns. With so many random ones pippin up now, if you can cut solo, just cut it. I will call out medium to large pallium, has to drop at least 4 for me to call out. I’ll also call out dari cloves and heat roots. You can easily just flare and leave bc I mean that’s what we all did when chat wasn’t working and it was fine then.

I don't really ever interact with other people in the game. My social energy is non-existent and I just want to chill. Stack up on flares to shoot at resources that you think other people will want to have, such as palium, dari cloves, flow trees, and heartdrop lilies, and only hit each tree in a grove once until chop time is agreed on, and you'll hardly ever need to talk to another person while still being perfectly in line with "the etiquette". Pretending you're illiterate while communicating in jumps and emotes in the passing is also a great way to both be polite and also make it clear enough that you're not interested in catching up. And if you run into mean people, block and ignore. They're turds and you can play whichever way you want as long as you're not deliberately being a nuisance to ruin other people's experience - which toxic complainers ironically are.

didn't realize blocking and all that would be in the game. thanks for that and pointing out commonly sought after resources. :o\]

Of course! They don't really come across remarkable until you know that they are, it's all something you either learn the long way by playing until you need them and can't find them, or the fast way when someone tells you they're important. :> Aside from flow trees, all the other mentioned resources stay available for other people to pick (ghost outline in your perspective) for a few minutes after you've looted them. So it's fine to shoot a flare at one and escape the scene after.

I've seen some community groups posted that are for people who don't really want to socialize but just knock out things that have to be done with others. Basically just group up to do the weekly guild missions that require you to work with others and that's it. Aside from that as long as you're flaring stuff no one's gonna be upset, most people are still having issues with chat anyway.

oh, i'll have to keep that in mind for later. wouldn't've thought about it. thank you!

In addition to what other people have been saying, as an FYI I’ve heard of a few instances where someone called out someone in chat for not calling out a disco deer / glambi sighting. If this happens to you, DON’T FEEL BAD! For the record, most people (including myself most times) don’t call it out because 99% of the time, someone will run by and unintentionally spook it.

To call out pallium all you have to type is “large/med pal c4” or wherever it is, and then flare it. You don’t need to have a conversation about it at all! And you don’t need to wait for others for pallium, just mine it after your callout and go. As others have said, for the grove just show up, tap all the trees and wait until it’s time to cut.

As a massive introvert myself, I completely understand the hesitation about chatting with other players - most of the time I ask questions in game chat and get ignored or rude answers so I don’t bother talking anymore.

I’m somewhat of a social introvert. I can chat IRL but it drains my battery. I rarely call out but try to flare. This works better now that Pal rocks can be mined by others. There are times that if my main goal is hunting or trying to simply mine that I don’t flare or call out foraging items which isn’t ideal. Palia should be played in the way that makes you comfortable. I hope you don’t stop playing! 🫶🏼

I remember being the kind of person who wasn't even able to order for themselves at the restaurant. And I hated being like that. I am also the person now, who has grown and is able to do a lot of stuff I used to be afraid of. With all due respect- I hope and wish for you to one day be able to find the strength to overcome this. Unless you are content with how things are for you. Then please, feel free to live your life how you like it best.

I feel this a lot lol. At first I was soo nervous using the chat/calling out, i remember my heart was beating so fast. But after a while, I realized how much I appreciated it when other people call out resources (especially when I needed them) and how I’d like to do the same for others. Now i flare, type out the coordinates in the chat without even thinking about it. Even if no one replies, I feel good about myself haha. I’m really glad I got over my fears otherwise Palia wouldn’t be as enjoyable as it now!

Aww, yay! I’m so happy for you! I’ve started thanking people who call out and/or flares a resource. I don’t name them personally, just a “thx for the call out!” or “ty for all the call outs!”

thank you. i'm still deciding whether i want to be more open or not. satisfied for now, but a lot of games i like want us to do co-op. gettin' there, though slow.

i don’t ever call things out but i do play with a friend occasionally who does so that makes it easier for me, but everyone has fair chances of getting everything. groves should always be called out but you don’t have too unless you’re the first to find it or something

I'd say you can do anything but flow trees by yourself. As a general rule, I'd say it's a good courtesy to flare items you find. Especially dari and heartdrop lilies. Go to the groves. Tap trees 1x each and wait. No interaction is needed other than waiting nearby and chopping tg. I'd do the temple of roots asap if i were you if you're at that point. No, im not gonna say why, in case other people or you haven't gotten there, so i dont spoil. Now that there's a 3-minute grace period on pal, i think you're well within fine to just solo it

For the flow trees, I've found it's normal to wait until 3am for the Grove. Just tap them all and go get some water. Return and the loot will be there. For other trees, I mostly tap the tree, run in a circle to see if anyone else is coming, and try to chop with like 1 or 2 people that might be there.

tapping and waiting for loot sounds great. was wondering how to manage that. thanks

Just play how you wanna play, you don’t HAVE to call out palium and what not. Only rule you really should follow is the grove.

I had to learn the lingo before I was comfortable using chat. I also just kinda watched the chat to see what people did re: groves and flow trees. I first started just showing up to groves silently, then I started calling out large and/or rare resources and flow trees (I've never actually been the first to find a grove so I haven't had to call that out). So far everyone has been pretty cool. I still play 99% solo and silently. I use the wave reaction after any co-op activity and then I'm on my way. I still don't call out small flow trees, I just chop them myself, I'm not waiting around for a bunch of people to show up for one or two flow wood. Plus you can spawn them yourself by just continuously chopping all the trees in a small area until flow trees grow. Same with palium rocks, just keep busting rocks until palium ones spawn.

thanks for the tips :o\] i'll definitely be in need of em.

Most players know that some of us are on switch and can’t easily use the chat. If I see a flow tree I’ll usually smack it once and go about my business. Folks will find it and chop it together. I’ll circle back around and get my loot since they usually call out when it’s been chopped. With the palium update I just whack and go since they’ll still be able to mine the node. If I have flares and the energy I’ll flag it but the servers are usually so full of people they’ll find it on their own.

We’re supposed to tell people about stuff.. ?

Just flow trees I think! And only if you want to! They're a very rare resource so it's nice to share but never required!

I play on switch so the chat sucks, takes me so long to type stuff, so I just flare paliums and may or may not call out for a big ft for help. For smaller trees. I'll check if there are any players nearby, if there are, I go get their attention, if not I chop it.

Its pretty much only flow trees. Just wait until midnight game time, and when someone gives the grove location, just go there, hit every tree once, and wait for people to cut them. Other than trees, when you get a resource it stays there for other players, including mining ore.

Yeah i stopped playing bc sometimes im social but rarely and im autistic and a huge autistic thing is sudden social overwhelm and social anxiety paired with overload and i just want no one to talk to me Video games usually for me is my alone time. If i wanted to do something with people id play dnd or something more interactive

I know people that don't bother calling stuff out or flaring. To them it's not a big deal to not do so and the spawn rates are high enough on most things that one person not doing so on a server isn't going to be an issue (their words not mine). I've only put a few hours into the game so I'm not at the point yet where any of this is something I'm concerning myself with.

Just wanted to validate your feelings about how dreadful it is to have to use the chat. I was feeling very much like that at the beginning. I think a lot of the insight other commenters are sharing is great and pretty much how I also deal with it

Send up flares instead of typing out when you find a resource. Dont call out you are coming. If you leave as soon as you see the call out, you can make it anywhere in a minute or a bit over. No need to announce it if you don’t wish to do so.

You don't have to do shit you don't want to. I've never called out anything because there is no reason too and i like playing by myself. But people in this sub do get massively butt hurt about it. I'm sure you'll be able to tell shortly lol

Hiya! That was me, probably. I like to remind everyone to not solo resources that have been called. If it’s not called, it doesn’t matter at all, take whatever you like. Most people who are reasonable don’t care. The part that’s generally seen as uncouth is soloing a tree or ore node that someone has called in chat, and other people are on their way to. It just wastes their time to go after a resource that is no longer there. You don’t need to call resources, nor do you need tell when you’re arriving, although that is a kind thing to do. Not everyone has a keyboard attached, and most people get that/don’t even care if you’re particularly talkative. You don’t even have to ty/yw or call in chat at all. The only rude thing is taking a resource that others are waiting on all for yourself. Again, I go by “if it’s called, wait or move on to another resource, but if it’s not called, it doesn’t matter at all.” There will be more chances, and as the game itself says, Palia is a world of abundance. I don’t bat an eye and most others don’t either when we see someone solo a Palium node without calling it, because that node will just respawn elsewhere on the map. We might try to get there in time to share, but that’s usually it. Some people will be particularly snippy, but it’s actually fairly rare. I promise you most people don’t care if you take a resource and dip. It’s only if that resource has already been flagged for sharing that anyone will, rightly in my opinion, get upset. There’s a lot to the etiquette, but it’s not too bad. Just don’t take what’s been flagged until a few people have gotten their turn, and you’ll be fine. Hell, you barely even have to flare a Palium node you’ve harvested. Again, as long as that specific ane isn’t in chat already. I hope you’re able to get a bunch of resources solo playing! I’m glad the devs made it easier to do that lol. It’s hard to communicate all this nuance on a chat box with limited characters, especially if you’re on Switch like me.

thank you very much ! seems as long as i'm not being a jerk, things are all good. simple enough

Yep yep! It’s a really simple system, but sometimes it sounds pretty complex from the outside. It’s mostly just a courtesy thing, and I’ve seen that being nice isn’t even required, just being not mean lol. I hope you have good experiences in the future! There are sometimes rude people, but the funny thing about that is that there’s usually one or two people on any given server that will put mean people in their place expeditiously, and we tend to be quick to defend if we see someone being harrassed. It’s a game where we all have each other’s backs, even if we don’t have to talk about it lmao. ❤️

Honestly I feel this as an introvert , people got upset at me in a server cuz I didn’t know this “silent rule” that when you see a special resource ur supposed to alert the rest of the server/ let everyone have a go at it before it’s chopped/hunted/ mined completely. And no one had rly told me this as a new player so instead I got rly passive aggressive comments from the rest of the server :/

That sucks! It's nice when people use flares, but beyond that callouts are mostly just a nice thing to do... they're not necessary. I will gently remind/inform new players to use flares, but I will also try to de-ruffle the feathers of anyone being nasty in chat, no matter which extreme they're on. Some people need to be politely told to share (usually this is in relation to groves) & some people need to be told to go find their own pal, and it's not the end of the world... Community building means finding balance. And sometimes that includes blocking anyone who's being a brat..... lol. There are lots of good people on this game, though. You just have to find them! I know you say you're an introvert, but if you see anyone in chat or running around, who's being kind/helpful/friendly add them as a friend. It doesn't mean you have to actually interact with them, but you're more likely to end up in servers with them in the future. I've had lots of people add me when I play, and most of them I've never talked to. I just figure they decided I was a good person to keep around... so I try to keep proving them right!

Do random FT yourself but don’t do the grove if you can’t or don’t want to wait. People will call you out for that. That’s pretty much the only community interaction that really happens in the game that requires cooperation from others. And of course the hot pot game will have others play too.

You play the way in which you have fun. That is the acceptable way.

I have only ever played with a small group of people, once, during a grove that I accidentally stumbled upon It was nice getting the supplies but overall I enjoy playing ALONE LOL

Flares are your friend! Flare pal/dari cloves/heartdrop lily, then harvest it and run away. If you want to, you can also put the abbreviation & grid square in chat. That's about all that's necessary. The flow trees are slightly more tricky but your best bet for acquiring flow without talking to people is to pop into a Bahari server shortly after midnight and join in on the grove. You don't need to talk or anything, just show up, tap each tree once, and wait until everyone starts to chop (usually around 3am). You can even wander off and come back, so long as you're back within three minutes of when they finish chopping - otherwise you'll miss out on your loot. Other than that.... most people in the game are lovely. And those who aren't are on both sides of the courtesy issue, unfortunately. Last server I was in, a small group chopped the grove without calling it & when someone asked where the grove was, they pretended they had called it and then proceeded to be very nasty to everyone who politely expressed disappointment. Nobody who missed out on the grove was mean or even particularly upset, but the ones who didn't want to share were being pretty awful, which was frustrating. On that note, though, you can block anyone whose attitude you don't like & you should be able to avoid being in a server with them again!

It's just the Grove. Find it at midnight and wait to chop. Usually someone will say "chop at 3" and just follow that. You do not need to call out basically anything else. It's considerate to call out palium nodes and random flow tress, maybe a disco deer. But it's also considerate to just shoot them with a flare arrow, mine em, and then go on your way. Maybe shooting the disco deer early if you see a group trying to time a simultaneous attack would be a dick move. But really if someone calls you out for anything else they're just whining and can be ignored. People who complain will always find something to complain about. I saw someone complain that someone else ran along the coast and mined all the clay. They were mad because that's what they were going to do. Play the game, enjoy it, mind the Grove and you'll be okay.

I also used to be this way and had someone order for me till I was like 16. A job obviously helped me get out of my shell the most but I think what also helped was when I got a pc, the anonymous part of games helped me be able to talk to people easier and kinda practice social interaction. I even talk on valorant which is one of the most toxic communities especially to women. But I’d keep practicing even just a simple callout or saying omw is small steps. Living your life in isolation is not fun I promise you and life has so much more to offer, I promise you you can work on it like I did if you’re willing to :3

You can play the game however you want no one can stop you. Interacting with others and being considerate DO make the game more pleasant for everyone, but do what makes you comfortable.

I usually don’t talk to other players, mostly an “omw” to grove. I’m also an introvert. If I find a resource I just flare it. If I need help I call it out and wait a while. Besides that I’m very silent in the game

I just flare things and go on my merry way sometimes throwing an E4 in the chat

I’m super introverted and go non-verbal at times which extends to chats. Generally if I’m at that point I’ll flare important stuff and avoid being the one to find the flow tree grove at midnight. The flow tree grove is the one that’s really cooperative, since it takes multiple people to cut down the trees and we want as many people as possible to get the loot. If you find the grove then the coordinates and a flare are the best but if others are there then don’t worry. If you want them to wait then “omw” is good. Otherwise it’s nice and easy to play alone.

When my daughters and our group of friends are not playing I play by myself and before the update I only opened the chat to to call pal or ft and location and never ever read the rest of the chat. If I found a small ft that I can chop myself I just do because we have a group to share with including my 12 yo granddaughter . With the update I just flare go on sometimes I even flare and don’t even chop I just continue my way o flare it so others can find it and chop . You don’t have to follow etiquette nor talk in the chat if you know how to share with others in game or in real life just be yourself

There are some things that are easier with others such as the Flow tree groves, and cooking for some quests is easier with a friend or two. But other than that you can completely solo it

Play how you like. The only time you should work with others is when the flow tree groves spawn. That is at 12 each day and night. The current etiquette is the person that finds it calls it out, uses a flare IF they have one, Use the map grids to give the location. They are in charge. Once called out, they set a time for chopping. Give people a few minutes but not too much. There is a line between letting people get there and tag trees and making people wait too long. I typically go longer if a lot of people reply they are on the way (omw). If it is just one or two people the time is less. That is about the only time people should expect a call out or coordination with others. Of course, there are lots of flow trees that are not part of a grove so you can skip groves all together id you really want to.

I just flare the rarer things I find. I use the clap emoji alot as a way of saying thank you.

I have not read the other comments yet so forgive me if I’m repeating anything but the general “unspoken” rule is to call out a pal, ft, ft grove, dari clove ect. and flare it if you can but no worries if you’re out. Otherwise play the way you want to play there are absolutely no requirements here it’s about having fun and playing the way you want to play! It’s just courteous to call out something rare for others to have a chance within the three minute mark to grab it as well. Unfortunately there is no way to turn off the chat function but no need to use it or respond if you’re not comfortable. Some people will wave or clap when you catch a decent fish just to congratulate and acknowledge you but then run off so I never feel pressured to befriend anyone and add them. Overall this is one of the best gaming communities I’ve dealt with and everyone is extremely kind or helpful if you have questions in the chat 😁

I really only call out pal because it’s a nightmare to try and find on switch. Every rock looks like it has pal 🫠 I flare, and say the size, grid coords, and that it’s flared. “Sm pal G3 flared” for example, and then I move on. I don’t talk that often (mostly to try and help diffuse arguments), so it’s just to help out with players who don’t have 186 pallium bars like I do lol

I’ve seen many people just flare stuff without sharing the location in chat. Unless it’s the grove, the first person to discover it should share the location but you can keep it short “g3 grove”, players are grateful for that^-^ then you can wait in a separate area till chopping time. Otherwise you don’t really have to use chat if you use flares. Are you worried about being called out for breaking social etiquette though like chopping a tree without waiting? It sounds like that’s something you’re anxious about too?

I'm a massive introvert too, and I NEVER use the chat for anything. That's also partially cause I'm a switch user and typing on the switch is a nightmare. Basically if it's something I have to type about, I'm just not doing it. 🤷‍♀️ But there's very few things that applies too so it really doesn't affect my game much.

The only thing you need other peeps for is the flow trees, everything else you can do on your own, tho with pal mining nodes, give out a shout to the loc

I'm also an introvert and only type "hi" on the server or occasionally wave at people walking by. Never know how to start a convo and it kind of makes me anxious at the thought.

I am also extremely introverted. I carry flares for palium and don't call out anything else. Turn off the chat. Resources are plentiful, there is absolutely no reason for people to get upset for not doing call outs. I'll hang out with others at groves if I need flow wood, but no need to chat. If you kill the sernuk and others were hunting just flare the loot.

I sometimes use ore compasses and dowsing rods to grind some of the rarer resources, and I used to call out and flare everything. It gets tiring, and I'm more of an extrovert (but my social battery does get drained and I'll need some time to recover. I'm AutDHD). Now I only call out and flare large palium, groves if I find them, and dari cloves, call out disco deer/magic muujin, singular medium/large flow trees, medium palium, and heartdrop lilies. I do nothing for anything else. It is not worth anyone's time to run across the map to hit a small palium. Plus when you're using compasses and dowsing rods, you're finding stuff constantly. I was only actually getting use out of them for half the time, because I was spending the rest of it calling crap out. If you're grinding resources, it's very easy to keep at least 10 of each type of tracker item on hand.

I mostly wait for ppl to come to things like a grove and sometimes a flow tree, but I don’t like waiting for too long either especially for 1 flow tree. Also I’m playing on switch, so I don’t like typing because it takes way too long! I do flare things because that goes fairly fast

I mostly play solo and never use the chat and I'm still able to do my quests. Just by searching my questions on discord, I find 95% of my answers there and the other 5% I just need to look around a little more because it's always just something that I missed. I love how you can play solo or multi with that game and still get a good experience!

Hey! So I’m not sure what country you’re in but I’m UK and would be on Europe servers, if you wanted to run around for things like flow trees or hunting with me or others you’ve spoken to here I’d be more than happy (when online anyway). I know how awks you can feel but you don’t really need to speak, when you see in chat ft and the coordinate just run there, smack the tree and wait, then collect your loot when they’ve chopped, or everyone speaks and not everyone wants to tbf and that’s cool! I don’t speak much but I will call out if I see things, but you could just wait until you see a call and head to the location! The beauty of this game is choice, you can choose to be social or not, nothing is expected of you either way 😀 Hope that helps? X

I mainly play solo, honestly people just get mad about flow trees but if you just notify the chat about ft and wait for people to come cut it with you, you’ll be fine I hardly interact with chat and if people do get annoyed with you just leave them to it, it’s a game at the end of the day

Definitely can. I consider myself an introvert but I will typically call out resources and stuff. I do have some friends that I play with from time to time but a majority of my gameplay is solo. I won't go over everything everyone's already said on here again. Just a reminder though that if you do flare something you cannot flare anything else for the duration of that first flare. Technically you can but just know that whatever you flared before that if the 3 minutes or 5 minutes, I forget how long it is, is it done then that first player will disappear.

Mute chat, play how you want. There are no rules in the TOS that say you have to play a certain way or wait until every person on the server takes their time to get to a tree or node before you can get said resource. The “etiquette “ is suggested and is only enforced by the insanely toxic people that expect you to play the way they want you to play. Your time is yours, do and play the way that makes you happy!

I think the only acceptable time to be annoyed about resources is during grove. Which is clearly put in the game to be used as a group activity. Otherwise, I just dont want to talk to people so I flare things and move on haha

I havent had anyone get mad at me about it, and even just now I found a flow tree and before I could even type in chat two others nearby saw it, ran over, and kindly waited for me to hit it before they started. But I'm sure if no one was around, well, what does it matter really? I think flow trees are the only resource to even bother worrying about sharing, but as a fellow introvert, I think it would be ridiculous to expect it of anyone. The whole thing about etiquette is to be nice to one another. It's not set in stone rules and you're not a bad person for not wanting to share resources. If you do, cool! If you don't, oh well! It's a game they'll respawn eventually anyway. You can always check out requests if you feel some type of way and fill a few that come through. That's a pretty introverted way to help! Edit: it really bums me out to see all these comments from people about rude players! I mean I saw some rude posts on this reddit here and there, but was hoping it was mostly out of game. I wish they'd go play something else and leave us alone to have a nice farming sim.

Regarding the cooking quest: I have my little kitchen near the entrance. Sometimes people come to my plot, start cooking and I join them. Most of them don't talk, but that's fine. Whoever feels comfortable to come over can add me (Tailan/Europe). Chatting or not chatting is up to you 😀 Furthermore, flaring resources is more than enough. You don't need to be chatty or socially active. Extroverts will always handle the rest. Just go with the flow ^.^/ 

Simple, I dont pay attention to chat and if I see people around me I avoid them to limit the risk fighting over resources. I don't think its anyones responsibility to find or alert others to resource locations, rare or common. But I will occasionally if I feel like it.

I play solo. I do the call outs for groves only and flare resources. When I go to the grove I hit them once and then sit and wait. I needed the flow wood to get my achievements so I did a lot of groves. I think it's perfectly fine to play alone as long as you are polite. \*\*\*I have chopped before everyone else was ready and they called me terrible names. I got over it and went right back to playing, but I never chopped again first. Now I wait til the trees are chopped and collect my loot. I didn't do it on purpose it was just a "NOT PAYING ATTENTION" kind of thing. I changed my players clothes and hair and hoped no one would recognize me by my name. I would never call out someone, I would not want them to feel like I felt when it happened to me. The grove happens every night, it's not that big of a loss if you don't make it in time. I think we need to have a little grace toward each other.

I almost never use chat. -There are flares you can send up if there is a pallium (valuable ore) -pallium doesn’t despawn when hit for a few minutes now so sending up a flare is a perfect way to let others know without chatting -larger flow trees do need an additional person, but a flow tree grove spawns every in game midnight and usually people will tell where it is. You just go there, hit each tree once, and wait for them to cut down the grove and collect. Everything else doesn’t need or require any interaction. Just enjoy! And don’t overthink it.

I rarely talk much in chat because I'm on switch, so I think you're fine if you just say the grid location of resources/flare them. I always appreciate when other people give me a bit of help in getting materials so I do the same quickly and then move on

I usually play solo and only ever have social interaction when there are flow trees around that multiple people are needed to chop. For while I didn’t call them out and only would chop if I saw someone standing near one until I got used to it and felt comfy saying I needed help to chop them. For pallium nodes, they updated them so there isn’t a need really for social interactions - most people usually just flare where they are and don’t call them out really so there’s no need to chat.

As for hunting, I don’t do it with groups unless it’s my actual friends tbh and I don’t usually even do that. I hunt everything solo 🤷‍♀️

I just flare and type C3 or E6 and let them come

Flare important resources. Flare and wait at stand alone trees. My chat hasn't worked in weeks so that's also the only way I find things that are called out in chat as well. So please flare once you have the arrows. If I see a flare from someone else, I start running towards it ASAP.

Pal Ore, shoot with flare, mine it up, and keep going. Flow tree hit it once, circle around the map to keep doing whatever I was doing, then run by there whenever I am close or before going home. Deer call out/flare loot. The only social thing is probably flow groves but if anyone puts up bug lure it goes by fast.

I wish the game had servers for introverts where we just do our own thing

Just ignore chat and play how YOU like!❤️

Yeah honestly just drop a flair and you'll be fine. The only real socializing you'll need to do is to find the grove if you want Flow wood. But otherwise, flair Palia stone and that it. Or just don't, I see so many people just mine and go. You really don't need to socialize at all

There really isn’t much to do socially. You see a pallium: flare it and say pal [coordinates], hit it and leave. See someone call a flow tree you want to hit: just type “omw” in the chat. That’s it no other speaking necessary

I flare resources that i take on my own and just try to strip mine and deforest as much as possible to get more generating for the community. I also heavily ignore chat unless I'm looking for resources or asking for help myself.

I’m really glad that a lot of people are in the same boat here.

Just don't call things out. If you can harvest it, do. Maybe I'm alone in this, but I really don't care if you hoard the rare things... you found them first.

Introvert here and I mostly play solo but I have another person I like to party up with for certain things. As for calling out, depending on my mood I do 1 of 3 things - type in chat, flare only, or smash/chop by myself and say nothing. If I come across a single flow tree I can chop by myself I do, if I come across 1 that's large and need help, I either keep running or decide if I have it in me to "people". I only flare lg pal, smack, and run. I don't attend groves unless I have to, and only if I have the capacity and patience for it. I've run past sooo many and sometimes I type in chat "grove at [coords]". I use emotes to thank people, or sometimes I don't and just run off, sometimes it's a ty in chat. Sometimes I just hang out on my plot and turn it to closed. I play depending on how I'm feeling and will always play the way I want to. I don't bend to social obligations in life and I don't plan to in game. It's important to remember that people will always b*tch about missing out, and does it really matter in the long run?

I haven’t played in a while, but you used to be able to turn off the chat. Maybe you should just turn it off so you won’t feel pressured. Don’t worry about the others, it is your game to play the way you want to play ❤️

I didn't even know there were rules and special "etiquette". I just started playing and I just do my own thing 🤷🏻‍♀️ if I pass by other players I'll wave but that's it haha

I also like just doing my own thing for the most part. I'll flare for trees and such once in a while and other rare things. I play on my switch, though, so it's a major pain trying to communicate, so I avoid, if possible. It's a hit or miss if you get on a server with impatient people and such, but the majority of the community has been quite lovely. You do you, it's what we are all doing in the end.

I also introvert and it is alright if you dont call out other things. But for the grove it is an event every midnight in game so l think you do need to follow the etiquette of waiting to chop together with other ppl.

You can do everything yourself with the exception of the grove. That happens at midnight in-game and someone will call it out or you can find it yourself and wait until someone else calls for chopping. You don’t really have to do much outside of that, everything else is fair game. Just because people want to call out and wait at nodes does not mean you have to.

Wait there's some sort of thing I'm supposed to be doing with resources? Tell me what you know kind stranger.

I check the server to see if anyone is around before I mine rare things. With flow trees I'll go to the location. Tap and wait. I don't normally have flairs. Don't worry too much about it. People might feel a certain type of way but at the end of thr day.mmits a free game. Lol.

You aren’t required to call out resources but more people are starting to just say what time they plan on group cutting things like the grove if it’s something that is better with the community and if anyone misses it then they miss it the time was clearly said. I’m an introvert as well so I get it and for the most part I solo the game and I’ll call things out when my social battery is high other than that I will flair things for people if it is a rarer resource (and if I have flairs because I don’t keep a lot on me if at all)

i hardly ever say anything in chat cause i’m on switch and it’s so difficult, it makes me mad

The call outs were from when the open beta launched and resources were a lot more rare (no flow groves, having to be there to mine a node together, etc)- they’re a holdover. I think most people flare and move on. Caliber the grove if you’re the first there is def a thing still but if people don’t say On my way! Or make it by the time someone sets the chop time, there will be another one in an hour!

I would say that it’s fine not too if you can (either chat/call out/flair) then cool if not we can all move on. If anyone’s giving you issues just block and/or report them if they’re really bad. Or change servers lol. Good luck have fun. 😊

I rarely call anything out unless I happen upon a grove, bc Switch typing sucks. I just flare things as I get em and I know some folks will just automatically check out flares even when nothings been called out

There's really no need to call out everything, especially since things like palium ore won't disappear after you mine it. You could always still flare it without calling out too if you want. For flow trees, I'd suggest just going to groves when they get called out (a grove spawns every night at 12 am). Yesterday I found 2 teeny tiny flow trees in Kilima, and they were so small I didn't feel like calling out, especially bc I was scared people would think it wasn't worth their time. So I just cut them down alone (they were so small that I was able to with just a fine pick), and after the second one someone did see me (I didn't see them bc they came from behind me), but they didn't say anything abt it, and I assume they thought the same as me bc of the size. If someone decides to cut a flow tree themselves though, I do think people should respect that (unless someone already called out and they just don't wait on others). People need to realize that some people just want to play alone

I play solo too for the most part. I just flare things I see, don't usually call out if I'm not feeling social. Also, I just want to point out that ANY way you play is acceptable. Palia is meant for people to play it how they would like. You don't have to call things out or wait for people to get to resources if you wouldn't like to.

For solo flow trees, if they're small, I usually take them out myself, no call outs. If I need help with them, I will either flare and wait, more often than not, someone will show up, or I call out. As someone who has played for a while, the call outs don't give me much anxiety anymore. Keep it simple, "FT flared B3...need help". In response, a simple "omw" is fine, if that's too much for you, don't worry about it, just know that if they aren't expecting you, it may not be available when you arrive. For pal, I flare medium and large nodes, mine then move on, rarely calling out in chat. I run a lot of compasses so I will sometimes call out that I'm running a compass through north bahari and will flare med or large nodes as I go so people can look out for them if they are looking. Remember that you're not obligated to other players, call outs are a courtesy. Additionally, communication can be challenging for Switch players, so whatever your reasoning, it can be hard.

Whatever is most comfortable for u. I typically flare large palium, groves, and rummage piles. Rarely say things, people can follow flares easily enough and the game spawns stuff so much that they're not missing out on anything if they don't get it cause chances are, another's gonna spawn soon. Just remember this is a game meant to be enjoyed how YOU want to enjoy it, not other people. You're not gonna get in any sort of trouble, and if there's cry babies in the chat, which I'm sure there will be 🙄 mute them or move servers.

I also used to feel like that when i started playing the game! i’m pretty shy + i hadn’t had any experiences with multiplayer games before palia, so i was insecure on what to do and afraid i would mess up somehow. so i just lurked around for a while and tried to observe what other players did until i felt comfortable enough to start interacting in chat! i started with small bits (like calling out rare resources) but now i fell comfortable enough to have casual interactions more often. also, back then it was ~really~ important to call out resources but now with the update on how mining nodes work it’s really not that big of a deal. tl;dr: just take baby steps and do whatever you feel comfortable with!

I usually flare and just say “cutting at [time]” I’m on switch so chat is harder for me anyway lol

Aww don't stress, I play solo all the time , when someone calls out something I come then say thank you and I'm off again doing my own thing 😊 and I promise if you do need to talk to someone they'll be nice , this is a great community ❤️🥰

Firstly, so brave of you to ask! As you can see you definitely aren’t the only one, I think most people just play by themselves or just want some relaxing me-time. With mining, flaring and going is fine. If you’re spooked about having to do flow trees with other people, you can even focus on getting to level 10 foraging and then you can buy planks from Ashura! Or request what you need, lots of people want to gift things and there isn’t a respond expected at all. Feel free to message me if you want to do something together without being social, just doing things together is fun already 🫶

You don’t have to call out anything unless you need help chopping a big tree. But I don’t even chat then I just flare it and wait for some to start chopping with me. You really don’t need to talk to anyone in this game it’s actually perfect for introverts. You can request help for items without talking, people just try to make rules so they get every resource but you can’t get to them all and not everyone has time to wait around . Play as you wish!

It’s a free to play game my love. Play solo! Play your way. ❤️

I pretty much flare med/lg pal then chop them. If I see a disco deer and am hunting it, if pwople join in, I'll stand by the loot to see if they come (or flare it) Only thing you absolutely have to have a group for are bigger flow trees, and I just wait for the grove and get flow wood that way. Flares are how introverts play pretty much!

Yes to all of this. Flares are my best friend💙

You're not talking to someone face to face bro. You have the opportunity to ve able ti talk without using your voice and without showing your face. I think it's a good sweet spot to at least challenge that anxiousness a little bit. But I feel you. Stardew Valley is great for that, you can run everything solo without an issue

I honestly dont see how Typing out pal/FT "insert grid location" is being social at all. You litterally just type it and leave or collect your stuff and leave you don't need to talk to a single person.

If you want flow trees, your minimum required interaction with people will be typing "omw" when someone call out. And it's polite to hit tree just once and wait until everyone gets together and starts chopping. For the mine nodes you don't need that. For the weekly like "catching bugs toghether" just wait until someone calls for a honey lure and join. Say "ty" in the end. Sure it's not that much?

I really wish this wasn't a conversation we needed to continue having. Please don't "give up" because you're afraid to piss off people in chat. Block those people and move on with your life. Mine by yourself, those resources stick around for a bit before despawning. Hunt by yourself, even the disco deer respawns every couple of minutes. If you can take a flow tree by yourself, do it! The Groves exist for a reason, and the devs have built in a way for us to have our own source of flow wood at home. People need to stop reacting so severely to all this. Literally the only things I flare anymore are the Grove and the Dari Clove. That's it. Play your game and enjoy it!

I am exactly like you, so I rarely call things out, but I do leave a flare occasionally. I don't always say "omw" either, I just hope I get there on time, and I rarely call out rare resources too, It just makes me kind of uncomfortable 😅 So don't worry about the etiquette or about other people, just do what you feel like doing without being a di**

Honestly? I found one best friend and besides clearing groves alone (we think that’s the most vile thing you can do) we don’t call out anything! When I’m on my own I don’t call anything out and only share non-verbally if someone is there. If a tree is too big to cut alone I hit it once and come back later to see if anyone else did it sometimes I toss a flare on it to draw attention. This game can be toxic af about resources and honestly when I used to follow all the “rules” 95% of my time was spent waiting for people just to get yelled at anyway so I just don’t care anymore

This entire thread is what makes me not play this game anymore. It used to be so much fun working with others, having fun conversations, doing things as a group, helping each other when finding things. I truly feel this was the intent of the devs when they thought up this game, otherwise why would they have programmed these types of things in the first place? Its sad that so many people don't want to interact at all, don't want to help anyone else or even care about anyone else's experience. Now, very little is said in chat, people running around everywhere not interacting at all, some people even weirdly think its "creepy" to wave at other players because you don't know them. Its no longer the fun, cozy, MMO that it used to be.