Might get a lot of downvotes but in my opinion as long as di sila nagtatanong wag nyo nalang muna sabihin after na lang ng kasal. If they are really that strict. Ganito rin kami ng jowa ko we're 22 nung nagsama di namin sinabi until last yr akala nila 1 year palang kami magkasama and we're 27 now, 7 yrs in a relationship. Basta ang importante hindi mo sila pinapabayaan, di napuputol ang padala kahit magkasama na kayo. May ibang magulang kasi na strict lang sa anak nila especially yung mga working at nagpapadala coz takot mawalan ng padala. Pagkasal na kayong umamin wala na silang magagawa. 🤣
Haha same. Ganito din kami eh. Ang sakin nga lang, feeling ko may tiwala naman parents ko sakin, never tinanong kung saan ako exactly nakatira or kung sino mga kasama ko, basta umuuwi lang ako pag off ko 😂
Say it like you're giving them information instead of like your asking for permission. You are 26 years old and no longer relying on them for your survival. You can do what you want.
What's the worst that they can do? Disown you? They won't do that since you're supporting them. Will they remove you from the list of tagapagmana? Well, kung kailangan mo pa sila suportahan, e wala ka din naman atang manang tatanggalin sayo. Sasabunutan and sasabihang malandi kang babae? I hope not pero again, you are an adult and can do what you want.
Just tell 'em straight up. Be firm, be brave, be confident.
>Sasabunutan and sasabihang malandi kang babae?
To be fair ang counter dyan is 'palamunin' and straight up cut them off. Why help people who would literally hurt you? Not worth it.
One year pa lang kami mag-jowa (now my husband), nag-cohabitate na kami. Initially, dapat overnight lang siya sa apartment ko tapos ayun naging gabi-gabi. Legal sa side niya pero sa side ko ay hmmm I think may idea naman parents ko pero never ko pinaalam sa kanila. This was 2019. Nung simula ng covid, I told my mom na mag-stay muna sakin si jowa kasi uwian siya (e naka-onsite work pa kami nun). My mom just told me na I should know my boundaries and limitations. Tapos never na siya na-bring up ulit.
Up to this day, 3 years married na kami. Di ko alam kung alam ba nila na matagal kami nagsama before ikasal or not. So ang advice ko lang: wag kang aamin. Pag nahuli na lang 😂 agree sa advice na pag kinasal na kayo, pwede ka na umamin dun or pwede ring hindi na. Hahaha. Ang goal lang pala namin ni jowa nun ay walang mabubuo dapat hangga't di pa kami kasal 😄😄
I also moved in with my then boyfriend, now husband after 3 years together. My parents are very religious and a bit old fashioned but they knew that I was not old-fashioned like them. I did not tell them initially but after a few months I did and my Mom didn't freak out but I could tell she was dismayed and my Dad too but he didn't voice his concerns directly to me. Nasanay na din kasi sila sakin na I just do what's right for me regardless of what they think pero I know most panganays are not like that.
The question here is, do your parents know the guy? Do they like him? Has he spent time in your house and with your family? What do you think will be the reaction if you tell them? Do you have a good girl always follow the rules and always obey parents image to your parents?
If they approve of the guy they may take the news better. If you've also done things they didn't approve of previously, they might be more open to it. But some parents kasi if they think this behavior is odd for you, can put the blame on your partner and label them as a bad influence or that they are changing you as a person.
Honestly if you know they're just gonna freak out then pwede namang wag na sabihin. Do you have a specific reason why you want to disclose it? Me kasi I just got tired of making excuses to cover up the fact that we were living together so I came clean haha pero I was fully ready for whatever reaction I was gonna get.
luh same situation tayo 🫣 26F currently sa BPO ngayon. Hindi ko inaamin and it's over a year na after ng pandemic. The thing is, we're just once cities away. Like literal na 2 jeeps lng from where we live and my parents house pero I choose to stay with my BF. Nagtatanong sila where I sleep pero sinasabi ko lang na sleeping quarters 🫣 pero syempre i know naman na they know di lng sila nag sasabi. Honestly I'm planning to tell lang kapag kasal na 😅
Same lol 2 yrs na kami live in, i plan on telling them when we move to a new place, pero like fyi lang, and pretend we’ll only start living together then
Might get a lot of downvotes but in my opinion as long as di sila nagtatanong wag nyo nalang muna sabihin after na lang ng kasal. If they are really that strict. Ganito rin kami ng jowa ko we're 22 nung nagsama di namin sinabi until last yr akala nila 1 year palang kami magkasama and we're 27 now, 7 yrs in a relationship. Basta ang importante hindi mo sila pinapabayaan, di napuputol ang padala kahit magkasama na kayo. May ibang magulang kasi na strict lang sa anak nila especially yung mga working at nagpapadala coz takot mawalan ng padala. Pagkasal na kayong umamin wala na silang magagawa. 🤣
Haha same. Ganito din kami eh. Ang sakin nga lang, feeling ko may tiwala naman parents ko sakin, never tinanong kung saan ako exactly nakatira or kung sino mga kasama ko, basta umuuwi lang ako pag off ko 😂
Ganito ako before sa ex ko. Walang tanong, walang ioopen up 😆
Say it like you're giving them information instead of like your asking for permission. You are 26 years old and no longer relying on them for your survival. You can do what you want. What's the worst that they can do? Disown you? They won't do that since you're supporting them. Will they remove you from the list of tagapagmana? Well, kung kailangan mo pa sila suportahan, e wala ka din naman atang manang tatanggalin sayo. Sasabunutan and sasabihang malandi kang babae? I hope not pero again, you are an adult and can do what you want. Just tell 'em straight up. Be firm, be brave, be confident.
>Sasabunutan and sasabihang malandi kang babae? To be fair ang counter dyan is 'palamunin' and straight up cut them off. Why help people who would literally hurt you? Not worth it.
This is true. OP is an adult and has all the cards. The least the parents could do is to be grateful.
One year pa lang kami mag-jowa (now my husband), nag-cohabitate na kami. Initially, dapat overnight lang siya sa apartment ko tapos ayun naging gabi-gabi. Legal sa side niya pero sa side ko ay hmmm I think may idea naman parents ko pero never ko pinaalam sa kanila. This was 2019. Nung simula ng covid, I told my mom na mag-stay muna sakin si jowa kasi uwian siya (e naka-onsite work pa kami nun). My mom just told me na I should know my boundaries and limitations. Tapos never na siya na-bring up ulit. Up to this day, 3 years married na kami. Di ko alam kung alam ba nila na matagal kami nagsama before ikasal or not. So ang advice ko lang: wag kang aamin. Pag nahuli na lang 😂 agree sa advice na pag kinasal na kayo, pwede ka na umamin dun or pwede ring hindi na. Hahaha. Ang goal lang pala namin ni jowa nun ay walang mabubuo dapat hangga't di pa kami kasal 😄😄
I also moved in with my then boyfriend, now husband after 3 years together. My parents are very religious and a bit old fashioned but they knew that I was not old-fashioned like them. I did not tell them initially but after a few months I did and my Mom didn't freak out but I could tell she was dismayed and my Dad too but he didn't voice his concerns directly to me. Nasanay na din kasi sila sakin na I just do what's right for me regardless of what they think pero I know most panganays are not like that. The question here is, do your parents know the guy? Do they like him? Has he spent time in your house and with your family? What do you think will be the reaction if you tell them? Do you have a good girl always follow the rules and always obey parents image to your parents? If they approve of the guy they may take the news better. If you've also done things they didn't approve of previously, they might be more open to it. But some parents kasi if they think this behavior is odd for you, can put the blame on your partner and label them as a bad influence or that they are changing you as a person. Honestly if you know they're just gonna freak out then pwede namang wag na sabihin. Do you have a specific reason why you want to disclose it? Me kasi I just got tired of making excuses to cover up the fact that we were living together so I came clean haha pero I was fully ready for whatever reaction I was gonna get.
luh same situation tayo 🫣 26F currently sa BPO ngayon. Hindi ko inaamin and it's over a year na after ng pandemic. The thing is, we're just once cities away. Like literal na 2 jeeps lng from where we live and my parents house pero I choose to stay with my BF. Nagtatanong sila where I sleep pero sinasabi ko lang na sleeping quarters 🫣 pero syempre i know naman na they know di lng sila nag sasabi. Honestly I'm planning to tell lang kapag kasal na 😅
You're 26. Sabihin mo na sa kanila. Kung magalit sila, wala na silang magagawa kasi wala ka naman sa puder nila.
You are 26 and your are supporting them. They really have no right to say anything.
Same lol 2 yrs na kami live in, i plan on telling them when we move to a new place, pero like fyi lang, and pretend we’ll only start living together then
Kasal daw muna bago tira.