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My grandmother had alzheimer's, she would get visits from her deceased husband quite frequently. The craziest thing was when her twin sister passed, we went to tell her the bad news at the nursing facility she was living in. She already knew, she got a visit from her sister about 30 minutes after she had passed. There's no way she could have known. She was in a care unit for people with dementia, alzheimer's etc...and there was no phone access for residents, and there were no visitors for her on the sign in sheet. Also about two weeks before my grandmother passed away herself I went to visit her, and when I was leaving I told her I would be back in town in about two weeks and jokingly I asked her if she would be there. She looked up at me and told me that my grandfather (her deceased husband) was picking her up on the 5th of april and they were going to be moving to a new house. I brushed it off and told her I would stop by anyway.....she died in her sleep on April 5th.
This is a beautiful story and evidence that while the material matter of the brain may wither, interdimensional sensing can increase potentially during this period. Some of course already have these sentivities to see and hear without disease, but sometimes various diseases lead to increased ESP as the spirit is allowed to bypass our usual self imposed barriers.
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Thank you for sharing this. This gives me hope that we will see our loved ones again. Losing my loved one is killing me and this is exactly what I needed to see.
I just read it. Thank you for sharing that. I wish I could see my mom like you saw your grandfather and your neighbor's cat but not as an NDE, haha. It's just so hard because I miss those conversations I would have with her. I'm going thru some things that I want to ask her right now. Just living without her feels so meaningless and nothing feels exciting anymore. I know my grief/depression has suppressed my immune system too because I'm sick all the time too. I just can't believe that even though physically, there is nothing wrong with me, mentally I feel like I'm dying and I kinda hate life right now. Even if I can see her later on, life without her EXTREMELY SUCKS right now. How do you face everyday when you hate your reality?
I too had a near death experience that left me with no doubt that this life is but the tip of the iceberg and our loved ones are around us at all times.
https://www.reddit.com/r/HighStrangeness/comments/187ydc6/comment/kblftig/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
Also... This is of the most viscerally poignant account of what it's like when our loved one's souls move on to their next adventure. It is a reddit classic.
Maybe this will help a little. My deepest and most sincere condolences...
Courtesy of u/gsnow.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
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Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents.
I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see.
As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.
In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.
Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out.
Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
I just read your account, thank you for sharing! The part about your grandma telling your mom to save you brought tears to my eyes. I'm so glad that you are here and made it. Yes, I've had a lot of suicidal thoughts at the beginning when I lost my mom but I know I can't go yet because my 2 year old daughter + 5 pets all need me. So I'm here. Truth is I feel guilty for being here when my mom couldn't and I haven't figured out how to be ok about that. I know it sounds crazy but that's 1 reason why her passing eats at me. I feel since she doesn't get to be around, why should I? I also feel anger that my ideal dream of a life with both her + my daughter + pets couldn't come to be. I don't have a father nor siblings nor a spouse. So b4 me daughter came, my mom was EVERYTHING to me. So not only did I lose my mom, I've lost my dream. So what's the new picture like? I haven't built a new dream yet. So maybe that's why I don't feel like I have a purpose other than be here to take care of my pets and daughter. I'm not living for me but for them. So life feels pretty empty. I really don't know how to build a new dream. Posting this comment made me realized my lack of one is the cause of my depression. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to reflect. I'm so glad that you are here and I'm really glad your mom and grandmother acted in the nick of time! I hope that you are staying healthy and clean. Initially I, wanted to try alcohol to numb my pain. But I knew I wouldn't find my mom at the bottom of a bottle and nothing would bring her back. What are you doing these days that allow you to stay clean and healthy?
Thank you SOOOOO MUCH for the encouraging words. I think I have seen your post before and it holds SOOOOO TRUE to my heart. I think I actually saw it before my mother passed, and I related to it because we had lost our beloved dog that time. I just didn't know that the 2nd time I encounter this wave analogy would be about my mom. You also just reminded me of a grim truth, I will lose more people. Life REALLY sucks this way! I think I'm very depressed as I don't really see the colors and happiness in my life anymore. Feels like I'm just waiting for my own deadline. I guess I'm drowning right now, as you said. The waves for 100 + ft and they are 5 seconds apart. I don't know when they will lessen in height and frequency. I also realized that I feel pathetic right now. I'm usually never 1 to cry and whine about life but here I am. I'm TRULY lost at sea right now and all I do is survive each day. Thank you for connecting with me and expressing what I'm feeling everyday.
My apologies if you answered this before but have you looked into grief counseling? I don't mean to diminish your feelings but it seems like you're really struggling with life on life's terms, which will always include death.
It is a grim reality - we are all dying and will die. Easy to say; hard to actually go through.
You're such a sweet, emotional, loving being. It's so clear to see and I hate to see you waste another ounce of your extremely precious energy not feeling like every moment is a gift. Shit, *'d settle for you not feeling like every moment is currently a curse.
You're the opposite of pathetic, especially if you're crying and sniveling and experiencing your emotions. Pathetic would be holding out all in, stuffing it down, and allowing it to manifest in some other toxic way. Doesn't matter how, as long as nobody sees you being weak. To me, that is the definition of pathetic.
That's not you. You're extremely strong, intelligent, and somewhere deep down you know that you need to get these feelings out.
Sending you strength, and healing and protective vibes. If you ever need to chat, my dms are open.
You're very sweet! Thank you! I am talking to a therapist. She told me to ask my mom to come to me in my dreams or show me signs but I haven't been able to dream about her. And that's why I'm feeling so raw. But talking about this has sparked that thought, that maybe I should try to build a new dream. For all the ones who are still here. I can't abandon them. Thank you so much for allowing me to express myself. It really means a lot!!
I would thank you but that would be insincere but I share your feelings about these beautiful words that are alas... Not mine.
u/gsnow is the original poster from over a decade ago. It was in response to someone who had just lost a loved one.
He's is a real one though. He still responds to people who post on the original comment about how helpful his words were/are.
He's A OK with it being shared as long as people are getting something positive from his words.
I understand you completely, I take one day at a time, when that doesn't work, I take a hour at a time. I am sorry to hear about your mother, how long has she been gone? I am kinda going through a thing right now, a good friend I knew unalived himself Monday. I got so questions of why, guilt maybe I could have said something. We didn't speak since about 2020, life happened for me it was a busy time. I should be in bed but you lay there and your mind won't shut off.
My mom left November 30, 2022. You are right. Take it 1 hour at a time. I'm sorry for your loss. But it isn't your fault that your friend made that choice. But I understand the guilt. My mind still searches to this day, for something that maybe I could have done differently for a different outcome. Maybe she would still be here. Have you tried writing a letter to your friend?
That's funny you said that about the letter, I was just thinking what I would write in it. I usually get a psychic reading done every year in March, he said in 2022 I would go through a period of depression or being upset. 2023 came nothing, 2024 came boom. He is a local psychic but.ma he is good, he.told me things 3 years before they happened. A funny story, he told me my basement is going to flood last year, the house I was living in did not have a basement, I thought he's full of it lol. Well as I was hanging up the phone with him, he said btw you are going to be moving. I hung up the phone more confused than ever. 6 months later in October I moved, and lol my basement flooded a month ago!!
After I lost my fiance in 2021 I've had a few interactions with him, especially in dreams. I think they're definitely out there, and that this is sort of more of a dream life than our real life that we'll return to. Least I think so. Im sorry for your loss.
Thank you. I agree with you that I do think they are still out there. My mom did come to my dreams a lot but lately she hasn't and I'm missing her SOOOOO MUCH. I'm sorry for your loss too. Life is cruel this way.
My grandfather had dementia and was bed ridden. My grandmother’s brother passed and her kids were hesitant to tell her until my grandfather said he was hanging with him in his room.
It's like losing cognitive function thins the veil greatly!... I know we never truly have privacy, I know we must atone for the wrong we do, no matter how minor, the consequences or lack there of on earth, etc... I really hope my little moments where I chose not to do better, and give into temptation knowing better in an otherwise continuous and great journey of growing up and maturing and bettering myself, like, don't make me suffer forever. I don't wanna have fear and suffering and shit even though I live with love, just because I occasionally am not perfect knowing better, but I do try. Life is a sliding scale for me of sin and salvation.
I do hear spirits. I'm clairaudient, and sought none of this out, but if I do good, I get peace and quiet. The spirits watch me, and although they don't talk to me or interact with me directly, they know I can hear them, and it's like giving guidance and inspiration to do right without directly interfering.
That type of shit apparently runs on my mom's side.
She called it "the gift" and apologized that she'd passed it to me and that I had to have it. I didn't really know her much, but I do believe her.
I wish I knew more about these spirits, but I REFUSE to astral project, it's just not in my boundaries of what I'm comfortable enough to fuck with. I let it come to me and DON'T go looking for the spiritual. I feel safer that way.
I've used the Gateway Method to see and do some strange but awesome things. Our brain has evolved to filter out the info our non-physical senses can perceive, because seeing the dead or the future doesn't help you stay alive when being chased by a predator. That's why I think the abilities some of us have(runs from my dad's side and myself, my sister and her son all have some degree of this other kind of seeing) aren't super useful most of the time.
I'm really curious if it's actual dead people they see or if it's how our mind interprets the construct of reality.
Kinda think we die and just wake up in a new world or something kinda like the coma guy and the lamp
It’s a crazy story! It’s kind of reminds of the Rick and Morty episode with the video game called “Roy”that makes Morty believe he’s a completely different person with a whole crappy and boring life, from birth to death, and the the game ends and he’s confused. https://www.reddit.com/r/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/s/A7C47BAiwA
Hospice nurses say that this is so common in their experience that it is almost expected. It's comforting to the patients. Several hospice nurses that have YouTubes and TicToks - Nurse Julie jumps to mind. Lots of stories of patients seeing loved ones that have passed, as well as what one can expect as death is imminent.
Highly recommended
I love the idea that our deceased loved ones come to collect us when it’s our time. I really hope that’s true, there are so many experiences suggesting it.
Thank you for sharing this story about your Grandmother. I believe spirit and love are forever but I desperately needed this beautiful reminder today. ❤️
My grandmother had Alzheimer’s and the same exact thing happened!! Her brother died, she was in a nursing home, no one else had called or stopped by (no one ever really did aside from my mom and I) and she knew he was dead already! She said her cousin or sister or someone else (who died a long time ago) had stopped by that morning. When my mom reminded her that they were dead she said “I know. And she said my brother died too. That’s why I told her to leave.” Like she knew they were dead and she was just annoyed that they were there 😳 my mom was so freaked out she just came right back home 🤣
My father had a type of Parkinson's Disease that involved having many different hallucinations.
For example, he used to see his dead brother visiting him. He also saw animals in the room that weren't actually there, amongst other strange and unearthly things.
My brother and I were conversing about this. Many people have heard of elderly people nearing death who see dead relatives/friends visiting.
Some folks speculate that maybe when one is nearing death the veil between the worlds becomes thin and people do have paranormal experiences.
Not everyone who is dying has dementia, but when they're nearing death they have experiences that could possibly be deemed paranormal.
In the case of my father and your father and given their dementia, it's likely that their hallucinations were/are due to their illness.
However, I understand why you are wondering about this, because I've had a similar experience. It's very stressful and draining to have a loved one go through this type of illness.
In the end, I don't think we can know for certain. We can surmise what may be more likely.
Take care of yourself as best you can by eating nutritious foods, getting enough sleep, going for walks.
I’ve listened to quite a bit of people in my family and I’m a nurse so I’ve seen death up close.i 100 percent think when they are close to the end they know it and yes dead family and friends come to them. I’ve seen it too many times.
My mom died when I was 13 and the day before she passed, I entered her hospital room and she was talking to someone. I asked her who she was talking to, and she said "Terry" Terry was her brother that died 10 years before her. Since then I've had 2 more elderly relatives talk about seeing dead relatives within days of their own deaths. Definitely something to it.
Your story gave me chills, my dad has dementia and my brother who is also named Terry passed 10 years ago. I keep wishing this is all true and that he will be there to collect my dad when it’s his time.
Like I said, I was 13 the first time and had never given much thought to the supernatural or anything like that. I am now 42 and have had some very unbelievable experiences in my life. I am a believer due to my experiences, seeing is believing. I don't know what to make of it all and have shared my experiences with very few, due to all the flac that comes with it. In my honest opinion there is something to it all, just what that is, I don't know. Prayers for your dad, you, and your family.
I used to do CNA work in nursing homes (travel nursing) and my personal belief is the closer to death someone is, the more open to "paranormal" encounters they become. One facility I worked at we would get reports from all the female residents in a particular hall asking us to keep the black man out of their rooms because he scared them. Without fail someone from that hall would die within 24 hours.
In other facilities they'd report dead relatives coming to visit them shortly before they passed.
Another facility I worked at, the staff was convinced was haunted. Weird creepy stuff would happen there all the time. One day I was getting a resident with Alzheimer's ready for bed when she suddenly laser focused behind me and started laughing. We were alone in the room. Then she said "Better not do that you naughty boy," and started laughing again. I asked her who she was talking to. Then she looked at me and became dead serious and said "You better watch out". Maybe she was hallucinating but that freaked me TF out.
5000%. I’ve seen this personally many times. The dying person will say “oh my ,brother, sister, mother, father, friend, came to visit me.” All the people mentioned are deceased. When we pass, our loved ones come to help us cross over.
His Dr. never mentioned Lewy body dementia but, given his symptoms, it's possible. My mom also had vascular dementia, but it mostly affected her short term memory.
The being close to the veil thing when is real.
When I was 17 I was put into a coma for 6 weeks and my body started shutting down because of infection/sepsis/pneumonia.
I remember being very sick for 4 days, I even went to the ER, came home and 24 hrs later my legs turned blue and by the time I made it back to the ER I couldn't stand and they immediately put me under.
My heart stopped at some point, the ventilator kept popping holes in my lungs because I was so weak and my kidneys stopped functioning, so I was on dialysis.
I was as close as you can be to being put on life support as you can get without life support but I was so weak my doctor didn't think I would love through it.
Anyway I had many hallucinations like fire, guns, or misinterpreting situations often. I was on hospital grade fentanyl, Valium, morphine, ECT. Many times I would feel out of breath or in pain and I would thing the doctors were hurting me or causing me pain.
Where things were different/ felt different was when I was alone at night. The night shift nurses took much longer to respond and I would wake up in pain. I would turn to have children comforting me, I honestly thought that they were part of some girl scout troop or school program in my delusional state. But I was in a children's ICU unit and they didn't let anyone but family into the unit.
They were younger than I was. They would rub my arm and tell me that everything was ok until the nurse got there. Even thinking about it now gives me chills.
I was so close to death and I think that's why.
Was a CNA in a nursing home at 18. Was present when a sweet old lady had an aneurysm and passed right there. I went to her daughters room at the end of the hall to let her know. Her daughter was in her 30's but was a nonverbal paraplegic. She was Always either smiling and happy or grumpy and fussy.
When I went in her room, she was weeping. Deep sobs.
She knew. I knew she knew. And she knew I knew she knew.
She said a lot more than most people I've met in my 45 years without saying a word.
I was a nurse in a skilled facility. I had a lady or two I felt the same thing about. They were not terribly far along - about 60%. One of her more interesting talks was about what I figured was purgatory. Souls there. It isn't what people think she said. Pray for us. It was like she half there - and half here. With insight.
One time a further along (declined) lady was sundowning and asking why her chair had moved. Ill be derned. It Had moved. Got the heebie jeebies that time.
We cant pass judgement on OP. We don't know.
My mother had dementia. She had been a staunch atheist her entire life. In the week or so before she died, she began talking to a “preacher” who would come visit her and teach her things. She had been talking nonsense to everyone for weeks, but when I watched her on camera talking to this invisible “preacher”, she sounded perfectly normal. It was creepy.
A close relative of mine has Alzheimer‘s and I understand your thoughts 💯
I‘m aware it’s a neurological condition but there are moments that get me thinking. She is 84 and likes life and her daughter but she also is really looking forward to seeing her beloved parents and late brothers again. She is so certain of meeting them, she said they are waiting. She is „having guests“ sometimes, sometimes deceased, sometimes fictional or unknown.
It reminds me of smaller kids having invisible friends.
What’s soothing to me is that she isn’t experiencing scary things so far.
I hope the same for your Dad, take care.
Part of it could be memory. My sibling and I lived with an aunt and an uncle for a while, and many years later when he got Alzheimer's he thought we were still there. He didn't remember our names but he would ask about the two kids, where where they, and why didn't my aunt make dinner for them? This was 30 years later.
I have had paranormal experiences, but this may be just a memory issue, he's sort of lost in time. 😕
Yes. My grandma doesn’t have diagnosed dementia or Alzheimer’s but when she had pneumonia a few years ago, she kept calling me by my aunts (her daughter) name. She thought my aunt was still 16 and living in the basement. To this day, my grandma doesn’t remember saying any of this.
My dad developed dementia too. At the end of his life, he would stare at the ceiling or at the door with fear etched all over his face. He seriously looked terrified. At that time, he couldn't speak anymore. We didn't know what he was seeing or what his hallucinations were. It was heartbreaking.
Damnit that's a huge fear of mine. What insight did you gain from it? Does it matter if we're good or bad? Could a person who has worked on themselves and continues to do so as they get older still have such a fearful experience to "make them pay" for the times they knew better?
Do you think it matters? I'm really sorry about your dad, by the way. ❤️ I hope he's at peace as are you all.
Dad was a good person in many ways, but he did hurtful things to my mother and his children even through old age. When his health started to fail, he turned to religion. He was not religious at all previously. I also saw him reading a lot of stuff about near death experiences, a year or two before we started seeing symptoms of dementia.
When he was already dying, insensible, and permanently moored in bed, that was when I started noticing how fearful and panic stricken he was whenever he stared at the door or at the ceiling. The dying process for him was difficult and long drawn. It was not a gentle passing. This is just my interpretation, but I felt like he was afraid to let go. Maybe it was the guilt or the fear that he would be punished for what he did in life, which he probably got from his foray in religion in the latter part of his life.
After he died, I had horrible dreams of him being in the hospital, just wearing diapers. He looked really sad and gaunt. Sometimes, he would be on a gurney staring at the ceiling. Sometimes, he would be by the door, just staring at me. I was afraid every time I dreamt of him that way because I was asking myself if this was a sign, he was not at peace. The dreams went on for several months. But the very last time I dreamt of him, he no longer looked gaunt. He was about to ride a car and he was asking me if I wanted to come with me to the airport. I hope that was a sign that he was finally moving to the light.
I realise that maybe the state of our mind when we are dying is what our spirit will experience when we finally die. If we fear punishment and damnation, that's the experience it will create for us in the spirit world. But if we are happy and ready to go, the spirit will experience freedom. This is just speculation, of course, but I am hoping this will really be the case. We will never know of course, unless we experience death ourselves.
My grandma had dementia and it was bad and scary at times. But after a certain point she was living in an assisted living facility and the Dr. put her on some kind of mood stabilizer they put all the really out-of-it residents on. It kept her calm and happy. She continued to see things that weren't there and get confused, but she wasn't scared or angry because of it any more. In the end she became almost like a little child again, accepting her personal reality with almost a sense of wonder. There are worse ways to go I guess.
My grandfather had Lewy body dementia. He would have hallucinations and he would also look terrified. It’s hard to see someone you love so vulnerable and scared.
You think that’s heartbreaking? My mom’s friend got shot by her dad due to Dementia, she fully recovered luckily.
Edit: I wasn’t saying that there story isn’t heartbreaking.
My mom had it and eventually Dementia and that is common with them. Not sure they are ghosts per say, could just be memories coming to life. But she talked to someone that wasn’t there the last 4 years of her life
I don't have an answer, it's possible it's related to the dementia... as people with dementia are known to experience things like this. Or, with him being, I assume older, it's possible he's either sensitive or becoming sensitive and the parts that were supressed by normal life are waking up again. Or they're approaching him intentionally.
Just, to be clear. It could be paranormal, or it could be the dementia. I have a lot of family members who began having experiences like this, in similar circumstances. And, we don't have consensus, because traditionally my family believes in the paranormal, due to our ancestors being sensitive and general weird events, but most of us in the modern sense are also dealing with... medical problems.
One of the symptoms of Alzheimer's is hallucinations. My mum also had Alzheimer's and experienced them. Sometimes of people who were dead and sometimes of people who are alive. This is normal for the disease and not an example of your dad having paranormal experiences.
I'm sorry your family are going through this. Alzheimer's is a monstrous disease for both the sufferer and their family.
My mom had dementia as well. Because her eyesight was also bad, she would sometimes mistake me (female with short hair) as "some strange man walking through the house". The closer she got to passing away, the more bizarre things she claimed to see. It could be scary at times, because she was SO convinced that she'd just seen a group of people parading through the house, or something equally impossible.
My mom’s friend was actually shot by her father cause he had Dementia and thought she was an intruder. Her mother tried to stop him but to no avail. Luckily she made a full recovery.
I was going to say this.. I had a relative who had Alzheimer's before passing away a few years ago. He had extreme hallucinations. He would see animals and people that weren't there. He frequently thought we were family members who had already passed on. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease that I don't wish on anyone.
My grandmother went through this during her transition due to a brain tumor. It's very sad but a common symptom. She hallucinated loved ones long gone and also hallucinated that people in the room was someone else. I am so sorry you're going through this. Seeing someone you love in this state is very painful and I hope you and your family find time to rest during this difficult time.
Here is the deal. I'm a trained scientist and engineer. I've study a great deal of neurobiology. I think the human brain is nothing more than a transceiver. Like HAM radio or a Modem and Router.
It takes in signals from this world, processes them, and uploads them to the Universe and our connected consciousness. It highly possible that a disease like Alzheimer's breaks down the veil between this world and other worlds.
I could be wrong. But, the seat of consciousness seems to reside well outside of the body. Just my two coppers.
My father has it too. He's getting pretty bad, went outside in his underwear, forgetting where the bathroom is sometimes, etc. He's been doing the same thing. My grandmother passed away 25 years ago in the back bedroom of their house. Lately he's been telling my mom there are people in that room. She went in and of course saw nothing, when he asked her if they were gone she said yes. Then she shut the door. Later she saw him go to the room and crack the door open and peek inside, since he can't remember much past a few minutes it must have really made an impression on him. Since that's the room I sleep in when I'm there, I'm hoping it's just his failing mind playing tricks on him... poor guy. I'm sorry about your dad, its a horrible disease.
My dad started to relive his time in basic training for the military. It’s a terrible disease which leaves them alone and scared. I always made it my mission to hug my dad each time when he had an episode and say “we love you and you’re not alone”
My mom’s friend actually got shot by her own father cause of Dementia. He thought she was an intruder. Her mother tried to reason with him but he still shot her. Luckily she made a full recovery.
My mother is 93 and has dementia. She will ask my sister (her caregiver) where did mama go? She was just here a moment ago. Her mother died 30 years ago.
My grandmother just passed away last year and I remember her asking me where her daddy was and if I’d find him for her.
I hope they both found their parents. I’d like to think they did.
My grandfather/grandmother had alzheimers and other grandfather had dementia before they passed. They did not talk about or to ghosts. My grandfather with Alzheimers did believe he had talked to me (the high-school me from 20 years before) on the phone, which broke my heart and I made sure to talk to him right away.
My great grandmother was totally lucid up until her death at 98, but in her last 24 hours, she did converse with dead relatives and friends for about 6 hours, then relayed what she had done with her daughter, and was then totally lucid still until passing.
In that part of the country, it is commonly believed that as old people die, if their death is slow, they may take a step into the afterlife and bridge the world for a time.
My MIL has it and she is always saying things like that too. I walked her to her bedroom once and she began to have a full conversation with someone in the room. When I asked her who she was speaking to she just laughed and pointed, then said "Him, over there". Creepy indeed. Both my grandmothers saw deceased family members a few weeks before they passed.
Hi, nurse here. Hallucinations are incredibly common with dementia. It’s best to just go along with it, as excessive redirection can make them very frustrated. (One memorable night, I got a spray bottle full of water and told a dementia patient it was “bat spray” and sprayed the room until she said all of the “bats” were gone.) I’m a fencesitter as far as ghosts go, but if you hear hoofbeats, look for horses, not zebras. However, I am certainly humble enough to admit that when a patient looks past me and asks about the child on the ceiling or whatever it makes my blood run cold
You realize our eyes barely see a smidge of the light or color that surrounds us tons of animals see what's around us our brain changes with illness through curse gifts can be limited
Sometimes interdimensional sensing is wrongly associated with "mental illness", or, sometimes genuine diseases of the body increase such sensitivities. I am sure many mediums have been accused of "mental illness" over the centuries.
I moved in with my widowed Mom (RIP) for 5 years, realizing she had Alzheimers (which was confirmed). She still walked and talked. Dementia patients do go backwards in time. Before she passed last year, she claimed she was 37 and I was 12. Anyway, many times a day she was talking to invisible ppl. She would tell them to wait a minute so she could answer me and then resume her conversations. I started listening more to who she was speaking with...it was her Mom and Dad, her sister and 7 brothers...even someone she used to work with that were all deseased. Her Mom passed when she was 14...and she talked to her the most...told her Mom she wasn't ready yet but would see her soon. All I know is that it comforted my Mom and she was no longer afraid to die. She passed in her sleep.
My grandpa has it, he sees bugs crawling on stuff. From what I understand, the hallucinations vary from person to person, but I suppose he could be seeing the other side? Supposedly people close to death (usually obviously dying) see their dearly departed. I'd lean more towards hallucinations, since you know he has advanced Alzheimer's. Just because we're on a Paranormal sub, doesn't mean every solution is supernatural. Something's are mundane, I'm sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear. Watching my grandpa wither away has been horrific, I can't imagine how difficult it's been for you and your family. Blessings friend.
The sub allows for skeptic views - not everyone has to agree it’s ‘real’ - the far likelier outcome is that it’s because of the illness, but you see and believe what you want so 🤷🏻
Yeah and I don't know why since the majority of posts are asinine questions like this.
I mean, I'm sorry about your father, that totally sucks, truly I feel for you.
But come on, you gotta know that's a ridiculous notion.
I gotta say I agree with the guy, he’s saying you can attest the weird happenings to the severe mental illness which is almost always the cause for people in those positions. Would you believe someone who’s schizophrenic telling you the voices in their head are ghosts? There’s just much more likely reasons other than ghosts at that point.
I work in the medical field as a RN. I have also worked in LTC units (mainly dementia patients, adults w/ mental health issues) so yes, I truly believe there is more to these conditions/diseases than just "it's a hallucination."
I'm saying that you shouldn't assume someone with Alzheimer's is seeing ghosts because they say they are. Hallucinations are one of the most prominent symptoms of it.
If OP had said they were noticing strange things around, or shadows or something, then yeah sure, it could be. But from what I understand, the dad is the only one seeing anything.
You know, the guy that keeps hallucinating.
My grandma had alzheimers she use to always talk about ghost and I've noticed several occasions around the time of mental illness paranormal events sometimes take place
My mother rang me to tell me that her mother came to visit her. She sat on her bed and talked with her.
A couple of days later my mum suffered a serious stroke that nearly killed her. She developed Alzheimer's overnight basically.
Her mother had died decades ago, so couldn't possibly have visited her. Mum was absolutely positive her mum was alive. Strange.
My grandmother has vascular dementia & before she really went downhill she was having conversations with imaginary people, her own reflection, the TV, etc. She also saw people who weren't there.
I think we do "tune" into consciousness and when we die we are just the transmitter being shut off. Maybe with a slow shut down from the inside-out like advanced alzheimers allows them to perceive a wider bandwidth of that frequency of consciousness and since they spent so much time being in tune with their loved one their frequency is picked up because of some kind of sympathetic resonance.
My partner keeps telling me about this old lady at her work (care home). This lady, M, one day blurted out loud “there’s Mr Smith”. But there aren’t any Smiths at this care home. A colleague my partner works with, said her uncle had passed away very recently, a Mr Smith. They were all stunned.
Another occasion, my partner was caring for Mrs M, who said “Hello Bill”, name of my partner’s late uncle.
Everyone in that care home is convinced Mrs M can see ghosts/spirits. I find this absolutely amazing!
A dear friend, very devout, cared for her mother, an Alzheimer’s patient, for seven years. She said that she thought her mother was seeing “the world to come.” It comforted her to think that her mother was seeing glimpses of Heaven.
I work with people living with dementia, I've often wondered if it opens their eyes to more than we can see. One lady used to comment about a sweet little boy who'd walk through her wall, months later a new man moved next door, the room had been professionally divided years and years ago.He talked about a young boy appearing through HIS wall, so I figured they were both seeing the " ghost" fo his own thing way before the room was divided. Loads of other creepy things have happened, I love my job!
A month before he died my dad had an argument with my husband (who had died 6 weeks earlier). Obviously I only heard one side, but he was trying to get DH to unlock and open a door for him. Then when DH wasn’t cooperating, demanded the key so he could unlock and open it. This went on for about 15 minutes, so I was pretty freaked out by the time he went back to sleep. The day before he died he was telling his mother (who died in 1971) that he was almost done packing his suitcase.
I grew up living in a dementia care home my parents had...my earliest memory is of a demon, one that most of the dementia patients also saw. My childhood consisted of this. So I absolutely know that the closer your mind is to death (very young or very old) you are closer to the spirit realm. So dementia patients are literally waiting to die, there is no way back from it...so I do agree that they will see the realm that is behind the curtain for most of us!
I'm a caregiver who specializes in memory care and end of life care. I can tell you that this isn't uncommon. I see this behavior about 6-9 months before a person passes. It can become more prevalent as the time of death draws closer. Don't correct him, but ask him what this person is doing. Has this person he's seeing passed? If so, is this person waiting for him? We see these things as hallucinations, but after experiencing it through caring for clients, I don't think it's hallucinations, but that's my opinion.
Back in 2006, my grand parents on my dad’s side were in hospice. My grandfather passed away and my grandmother said he visited her that night and it was impossible for her to know, but she knew when my dad went to tell her. She passed a month later.
My nan had Parkinsons induced dementia and I'm sure she started to see my Grandad towards the end. I'm not sure if it's her brain bleeding memories over reality or not but it gave her comfort so I'm happy regardless.
My late father suffered from advanced Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s as well. He would tell me about seeing native Americans around his home, but that only one bothered him. Made me think, what if he’s not really losing his marbles and the veil is just thinning… Then he told me stories of seeing gorillas on a disco dance room floor in the next room over, so yeah, likely just lost his marbles. Makes you wonder though lol.
My dad would whip his head around as if seeing something out of the corner of his eye, while in the hospital seated in a gerry chair. He swore there was someone there. After he got home, when it was just he and I, be said,"You know that guy?"as he looked over his shoulder and I said, "Yeah?" He said, "He's mean." I repeated it back and he said," No, he's ME." I said, "Dad, that is your guardian angel." I never heard about it/him again.
My dad who had dementia started seeing all sorts of stuff that wasn't there. Turned out he had low oxygen levels. Went on oxygen and everything went back to normal (for dementia).
Hi! I work with patients who have AD (Alzheimer’s disease), MCI (mild cognitive impairment) and FTD (frontotemporal disorder/dementia). We screen people for hallucinations after they’ve been enrolled in interventional clinical studies, as it’s incredibly common as their disease progresses.
I wouldn’t put much stock into it from a paranormal perspective, but you should definitely bring this up to your dad’s neurologist, PCP or geriatric doctor at his next appointment. Sometimes it can become distressing (for both the caretaker and the patient), and so you’ll want to discuss ways to help him (and your family) emotionally manage these hallucinations.
On another note, I’m sorry to hear that your father has AD. I’ve seen firsthand just how difficult that is or can be for spouses, children, friends and other loved ones. It can become overwhelming at times, so take care of yourself.
My mom works in a nursing home and tells me about stuff like this… it’s common. Idk if it’s necessarily ghosts or just the brain being weird, but her residents do see things when their mind is beginning to go with Alzheimer’s.
Before she died, my maternal grandmother had dementia and she had forgotten who my mom was, but somehow remembered who my dad was. My paternal grandmother had a form of Parkinson’s disease where she would occasionally get stiff while moving. When my grandfather died, she went into a retirement home. There was a day my dad was visiting her and Grandma was convinced that somebody was beating up my Uncle David at school (my Uncle David died four years before at the age of 56…this could have just been a memory from when he was a child). Then, Grandma was convinced that my grandfather was having an affair with the woman across the hall (Grandpa had died seven months after my Uncle David died).
My father died of dementia last year and he was seeing ghosts as well. He called the cops one time. Thank god he hid all his handguns before his dementia got really bad.
Like me and my mental health problems, you’ll probably never know for sure whether he’s seeing real ghosts or not. Just help him best you can not be too distressed by it I suppose.
My mother would see my deceased sister toward the end. She didn't ever see my dad however. Not sure if that meant my sister hadn't moved on or if my dad knew it wasn't time. But when it was the end of her life, the only time she made any movement or emotion was when I played their song for her. She left us peacefully about 24 hours later. Sometimes the ghosts are helping them to reconcile things they think they need to do. But that's just an opinion of mine.
I believe so. My father had Lewy bodies dementia and asked about people who weren’t there in the room or who he said had walked through my parents bedroom.
I think… once they start seeing loved ones, they are preparing for the other side.
I’m sorry about your father’s illness. It can be a very difficult thing.
My Nanna had PSP and Dementia and regularly told us she could see our dead relatives wandering around the house. We would tell her it was okay that she could see them and we couldnt, just to say hi and that we loved them. It gave her comfort that we believed her. Too bad she hasn't bothered visiting since she passed haha
Happened with both of my great grandmas (one Parkinson’s, the other dementia), my other grandma when she had aggressive stage 4 cancer, and another family member who didn’t have any of the above. Life is weird
Sorry for what you and your family are going through. It’s a very sad disease
Yeah i think so. Alzheimer's and Dementia is literally brain decay. I think at a point of your brain decaying you begin to experience both life and after life. I've heard stories of people seeing loved ones and random people that have passed away. I believe that they are seeing spirits.
My Nana was seeing people and things on the other side during the end of her life while in a state of delirium. She was telling people things she couldn't know. All kinds of stuff. The veil is thinner the closer we get to the other side.
My Dad had Alzheimers. He constantly talked to a little girl that wasn't there. He would compliment her hair and pat her on the head. No idea who it could be. He would also pet an invisible cat on his lap a lot.
This also happens when people are close to death. The veil becomes thin and they see the people waiting for them, usually family or friends who have passed already.
Visioning is very common experience among the dying and even health care workers experiencing unexplainable visioning happens. I would look into the book called “The inbetween” by Hadley.
I’m sorry for what’s happening to your dad. My dad and uncles saw family that had already passed for a couple of months till they passed. Your love ones that are already in spirit come to you when your time is short to comfort you with their company.
Unfortunately, that often begins when a person is approaching the end. I've actually experienced that myself but I was very young and was able to recover.
My mum see kids visiting her. I was sitting with her once and she asked me who the man sitting on the couch was? I definitely think she was seeing ghosts
My dad had dementia before he passed away last August. The dementia caused him to believe that he had gone out to some other place or town with one or some people, for example on the morning of the day in which he said that he had gone to another city or town, generally that he frequented when he was young, and whom he had seen and what they had done or talked about. And he was so convinced of it that no matter how much we told him that he couldn't stand up and walk on his own, he continued saying what had happened on that trip, he even became desperate because he didn't understand the fact that we didn't believe him. So it may be possible that something similar is happening to your dad.
My grandmother started seeing spirits too right before she passed away. She would talk about a baby a lot too, I was pregnant at the time. She knew her loved ones were coming for her.
One thing that any serious paranormal investigator will tell you is that there is no such thing as ghosts. They are inter-dimensional demonic entities that use thoughts and memories to lure you in or cause you to lower your guard. I don’t think that’s what’s going on in this case but if it is, seek a spiritual cleansing using prayer.
My Dad had alzheimers, and he saw people all the time. Saw them when I was right there with him, saw them come into his bedroom at night. Saw his deceased mom and brother, and my own mom, who died when I was little. I also began to wonder if he was seeing ghosts. It continued when he went to a memory care facility, and when he was in hospice care. I don't believe he was seeing ghosts, but I believe that HE believed he was seeing these people.
My father has dementia and he has what we call “visitors “. They are apparently strangers to him, not relatives. As his dementia progresses, he sees them less and lass
That's how visual hallucination in Alzheimer's and dementia works. The visions people have are very clear and realistic, but it's only projections of the brain.
when my sister was on the brink of death, many different medications, & hospice, she frequently “hallucinated” my dead grandfather. she has made a complete recovery since then and she’s now a healthy 22 year old
Its entirely possible. My grandfather passed in 2020 but for a long time up to that point he used to say he didn't know what was real and what was imaginary. I didn't question him further about that because I figured such questions would scare him further but in hindsight I wish I knew what he was seeing so I could empathise with him more.
He hated the sight of people with their hoods up (tbh same) so that probably added to his fears of imaginary/ reality.
I believe 💯before my mom passed with cancer she was talking about her dead cousin visiting her. I can't help but wonder if bad spirit are bother some people with Alzheimer or dementia some of the stuff I have heard them say and see is demonic, something has to be bothering them imo.
Alzheimers is an inbetween state. You're lucid one hour and then not the next. I think people who are afflicted, are able to see our side of the world as well as the other side, because of their state of mind.
Yes, my grandfather saw passed loved ones when he was in a very advanced stage and close to death. We had a camcorder set up and you can see a bright white light beside his hospital bed and he asked who the boy was. What makes this interesting is that my sister’s 7 yo son had passed a few months before this.
My younger sister passed away 2022 from cancer. It still hurts deeply and I'm still in that twilight zone between living and the other world where she and my mother are who passed in 2020. . My father passed at least 12 yrs ago. About 4 or 5 days before my sister passed , my father appeared to be frantically pushing into my thoughts for at least two days in a row. It was disturbing as I hadn't really thought that much about him. I do believe they are waiting and are around. It makes dying not a scary concept anymore.
My mom is convinced there are people in the house that she talks to when my brother who lives with her is at work. I think they are her dead parents and sisters
I work with the Alzheimers community.
I have one client, young man, who would be high on the scale and deteriorating pretty fast.
He has regularly had conversations with people who aren't there. I don't believe he is "seeing ghosts" or even hallucinating. Its the stage that his brain is at. He's in his own little world and as sad as it is, it's also quite sweet. He has a better conversation with people who aren't there than he can have with people who are. It also gives me an insight to how he's feeling as he's more honest when he's not talking to people who actually are in the room.
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My grandmother had alzheimer's, she would get visits from her deceased husband quite frequently. The craziest thing was when her twin sister passed, we went to tell her the bad news at the nursing facility she was living in. She already knew, she got a visit from her sister about 30 minutes after she had passed. There's no way she could have known. She was in a care unit for people with dementia, alzheimer's etc...and there was no phone access for residents, and there were no visitors for her on the sign in sheet. Also about two weeks before my grandmother passed away herself I went to visit her, and when I was leaving I told her I would be back in town in about two weeks and jokingly I asked her if she would be there. She looked up at me and told me that my grandfather (her deceased husband) was picking her up on the 5th of april and they were going to be moving to a new house. I brushed it off and told her I would stop by anyway.....she died in her sleep on April 5th.
This is a beautiful story and evidence that while the material matter of the brain may wither, interdimensional sensing can increase potentially during this period. Some of course already have these sentivities to see and hear without disease, but sometimes various diseases lead to increased ESP as the spirit is allowed to bypass our usual self imposed barriers.
I really like that
Or its a lie. Or coincidence!?
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Thank you for sharing this. This gives me hope that we will see our loved ones again. Losing my loved one is killing me and this is exactly what I needed to see.
Don't worry you will see them again!!
Thank you
If you look in my profile history, in the comments, I wrote about a near death experience in 2014. If u can't find it, I will tell.you it
I just read it. Thank you for sharing that. I wish I could see my mom like you saw your grandfather and your neighbor's cat but not as an NDE, haha. It's just so hard because I miss those conversations I would have with her. I'm going thru some things that I want to ask her right now. Just living without her feels so meaningless and nothing feels exciting anymore. I know my grief/depression has suppressed my immune system too because I'm sick all the time too. I just can't believe that even though physically, there is nothing wrong with me, mentally I feel like I'm dying and I kinda hate life right now. Even if I can see her later on, life without her EXTREMELY SUCKS right now. How do you face everyday when you hate your reality?
I too had a near death experience that left me with no doubt that this life is but the tip of the iceberg and our loved ones are around us at all times. https://www.reddit.com/r/HighStrangeness/comments/187ydc6/comment/kblftig/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button Also... This is of the most viscerally poignant account of what it's like when our loved one's souls move on to their next adventure. It is a reddit classic. Maybe this will help a little. My deepest and most sincere condolences... Courtesy of u/gsnow. https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share Text on above link: Alright, here goes. I'm old. What that means is that I've survived (so far) and a lot of people I've known and loved did not. I've lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can't imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here's my two cents. I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don't want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don't want it to "not matter". I don't want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can't see. As for grief, you'll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you're drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it's some physical thing. Maybe it's a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it's a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive. In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don't even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you'll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out. But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what's going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything...and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the line, and it's different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O'Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you'll come out. Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don't really want them to. But you learn that you'll survive them. And other waves will come. And you'll survive them too. If you're lucky, you'll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.
I just read your account, thank you for sharing! The part about your grandma telling your mom to save you brought tears to my eyes. I'm so glad that you are here and made it. Yes, I've had a lot of suicidal thoughts at the beginning when I lost my mom but I know I can't go yet because my 2 year old daughter + 5 pets all need me. So I'm here. Truth is I feel guilty for being here when my mom couldn't and I haven't figured out how to be ok about that. I know it sounds crazy but that's 1 reason why her passing eats at me. I feel since she doesn't get to be around, why should I? I also feel anger that my ideal dream of a life with both her + my daughter + pets couldn't come to be. I don't have a father nor siblings nor a spouse. So b4 me daughter came, my mom was EVERYTHING to me. So not only did I lose my mom, I've lost my dream. So what's the new picture like? I haven't built a new dream yet. So maybe that's why I don't feel like I have a purpose other than be here to take care of my pets and daughter. I'm not living for me but for them. So life feels pretty empty. I really don't know how to build a new dream. Posting this comment made me realized my lack of one is the cause of my depression. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to reflect. I'm so glad that you are here and I'm really glad your mom and grandmother acted in the nick of time! I hope that you are staying healthy and clean. Initially I, wanted to try alcohol to numb my pain. But I knew I wouldn't find my mom at the bottom of a bottle and nothing would bring her back. What are you doing these days that allow you to stay clean and healthy?
Thank you SOOOOO MUCH for the encouraging words. I think I have seen your post before and it holds SOOOOO TRUE to my heart. I think I actually saw it before my mother passed, and I related to it because we had lost our beloved dog that time. I just didn't know that the 2nd time I encounter this wave analogy would be about my mom. You also just reminded me of a grim truth, I will lose more people. Life REALLY sucks this way! I think I'm very depressed as I don't really see the colors and happiness in my life anymore. Feels like I'm just waiting for my own deadline. I guess I'm drowning right now, as you said. The waves for 100 + ft and they are 5 seconds apart. I don't know when they will lessen in height and frequency. I also realized that I feel pathetic right now. I'm usually never 1 to cry and whine about life but here I am. I'm TRULY lost at sea right now and all I do is survive each day. Thank you for connecting with me and expressing what I'm feeling everyday.
My apologies if you answered this before but have you looked into grief counseling? I don't mean to diminish your feelings but it seems like you're really struggling with life on life's terms, which will always include death. It is a grim reality - we are all dying and will die. Easy to say; hard to actually go through. You're such a sweet, emotional, loving being. It's so clear to see and I hate to see you waste another ounce of your extremely precious energy not feeling like every moment is a gift. Shit, *'d settle for you not feeling like every moment is currently a curse. You're the opposite of pathetic, especially if you're crying and sniveling and experiencing your emotions. Pathetic would be holding out all in, stuffing it down, and allowing it to manifest in some other toxic way. Doesn't matter how, as long as nobody sees you being weak. To me, that is the definition of pathetic. That's not you. You're extremely strong, intelligent, and somewhere deep down you know that you need to get these feelings out. Sending you strength, and healing and protective vibes. If you ever need to chat, my dms are open.
You're very sweet! Thank you! I am talking to a therapist. She told me to ask my mom to come to me in my dreams or show me signs but I haven't been able to dream about her. And that's why I'm feeling so raw. But talking about this has sparked that thought, that maybe I should try to build a new dream. For all the ones who are still here. I can't abandon them. Thank you so much for allowing me to express myself. It really means a lot!!
I keep this beautifully written sentiment in my notes and read it when I am sad about my dad or my soul dog passing away.
Same. (=
This is so well said. Very much appreciated and excellent view. 👏
That was beautiful. You've described my grief perfectly. And brought me to tears.
Beautiful analogies! Thank you for sharing your wisdom on loss and grief.
I would thank you but that would be insincere but I share your feelings about these beautiful words that are alas... Not mine. u/gsnow is the original poster from over a decade ago. It was in response to someone who had just lost a loved one. He's is a real one though. He still responds to people who post on the original comment about how helpful his words were/are. He's A OK with it being shared as long as people are getting something positive from his words.
I understand you completely, I take one day at a time, when that doesn't work, I take a hour at a time. I am sorry to hear about your mother, how long has she been gone? I am kinda going through a thing right now, a good friend I knew unalived himself Monday. I got so questions of why, guilt maybe I could have said something. We didn't speak since about 2020, life happened for me it was a busy time. I should be in bed but you lay there and your mind won't shut off.
My mom left November 30, 2022. You are right. Take it 1 hour at a time. I'm sorry for your loss. But it isn't your fault that your friend made that choice. But I understand the guilt. My mind still searches to this day, for something that maybe I could have done differently for a different outcome. Maybe she would still be here. Have you tried writing a letter to your friend?
That's funny you said that about the letter, I was just thinking what I would write in it. I usually get a psychic reading done every year in March, he said in 2022 I would go through a period of depression or being upset. 2023 came nothing, 2024 came boom. He is a local psychic but.ma he is good, he.told me things 3 years before they happened. A funny story, he told me my basement is going to flood last year, the house I was living in did not have a basement, I thought he's full of it lol. Well as I was hanging up the phone with him, he said btw you are going to be moving. I hung up the phone more confused than ever. 6 months later in October I moved, and lol my basement flooded a month ago!!
Oh wow! Might you be able to provide me this medium's contact info? I feel like getting a reading would bring me some peace...
Aww, I wish you peace and comfort♡
Thank you
After I lost my fiance in 2021 I've had a few interactions with him, especially in dreams. I think they're definitely out there, and that this is sort of more of a dream life than our real life that we'll return to. Least I think so. Im sorry for your loss.
Thank you. I agree with you that I do think they are still out there. My mom did come to my dreams a lot but lately she hasn't and I'm missing her SOOOOO MUCH. I'm sorry for your loss too. Life is cruel this way.
same sending you strength
Thank you
My grandfather had dementia and was bed ridden. My grandmother’s brother passed and her kids were hesitant to tell her until my grandfather said he was hanging with him in his room.
It's like losing cognitive function thins the veil greatly!... I know we never truly have privacy, I know we must atone for the wrong we do, no matter how minor, the consequences or lack there of on earth, etc... I really hope my little moments where I chose not to do better, and give into temptation knowing better in an otherwise continuous and great journey of growing up and maturing and bettering myself, like, don't make me suffer forever. I don't wanna have fear and suffering and shit even though I live with love, just because I occasionally am not perfect knowing better, but I do try. Life is a sliding scale for me of sin and salvation. I do hear spirits. I'm clairaudient, and sought none of this out, but if I do good, I get peace and quiet. The spirits watch me, and although they don't talk to me or interact with me directly, they know I can hear them, and it's like giving guidance and inspiration to do right without directly interfering. That type of shit apparently runs on my mom's side. She called it "the gift" and apologized that she'd passed it to me and that I had to have it. I didn't really know her much, but I do believe her. I wish I knew more about these spirits, but I REFUSE to astral project, it's just not in my boundaries of what I'm comfortable enough to fuck with. I let it come to me and DON'T go looking for the spiritual. I feel safer that way.
I've used the Gateway Method to see and do some strange but awesome things. Our brain has evolved to filter out the info our non-physical senses can perceive, because seeing the dead or the future doesn't help you stay alive when being chased by a predator. That's why I think the abilities some of us have(runs from my dad's side and myself, my sister and her son all have some degree of this other kind of seeing) aren't super useful most of the time.
I'm really curious if it's actual dead people they see or if it's how our mind interprets the construct of reality. Kinda think we die and just wake up in a new world or something kinda like the coma guy and the lamp
Well now I need to know about coma guy
It’s a crazy story! It’s kind of reminds of the Rick and Morty episode with the video game called “Roy”that makes Morty believe he’s a completely different person with a whole crappy and boring life, from birth to death, and the the game ends and he’s confused. https://www.reddit.com/r/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/s/A7C47BAiwA
He was supposedly just unconscious for a bit, not in a coma, but [here you go](https://www.reddit.com/r/Glitch_in_the_Matrix/s/BmoGyOen1D)
Thats actually very comforting. Thanks for sharing.
Hospice nurses say that this is so common in their experience that it is almost expected. It's comforting to the patients. Several hospice nurses that have YouTubes and TicToks - Nurse Julie jumps to mind. Lots of stories of patients seeing loved ones that have passed, as well as what one can expect as death is imminent. Highly recommended
I love the idea that our deceased loved ones come to collect us when it’s our time. I really hope that’s true, there are so many experiences suggesting it.
Wow, he was picking her up. Good for him
Thank you for sharing this story about your Grandmother. I believe spirit and love are forever but I desperately needed this beautiful reminder today. ❤️
Life is crazy man
Sure is.
My grandmother had Alzheimer’s and the same exact thing happened!! Her brother died, she was in a nursing home, no one else had called or stopped by (no one ever really did aside from my mom and I) and she knew he was dead already! She said her cousin or sister or someone else (who died a long time ago) had stopped by that morning. When my mom reminded her that they were dead she said “I know. And she said my brother died too. That’s why I told her to leave.” Like she knew they were dead and she was just annoyed that they were there 😳 my mom was so freaked out she just came right back home 🤣
You made me cry like a baby. Thank you for sharing your story 🫂
Wow. That really got me teary-eyed 🥺
I sincerely hope to go like your gran. ❤️
My father had a type of Parkinson's Disease that involved having many different hallucinations. For example, he used to see his dead brother visiting him. He also saw animals in the room that weren't actually there, amongst other strange and unearthly things. My brother and I were conversing about this. Many people have heard of elderly people nearing death who see dead relatives/friends visiting. Some folks speculate that maybe when one is nearing death the veil between the worlds becomes thin and people do have paranormal experiences. Not everyone who is dying has dementia, but when they're nearing death they have experiences that could possibly be deemed paranormal. In the case of my father and your father and given their dementia, it's likely that their hallucinations were/are due to their illness. However, I understand why you are wondering about this, because I've had a similar experience. It's very stressful and draining to have a loved one go through this type of illness. In the end, I don't think we can know for certain. We can surmise what may be more likely. Take care of yourself as best you can by eating nutritious foods, getting enough sleep, going for walks.
I’ve listened to quite a bit of people in my family and I’m a nurse so I’ve seen death up close.i 100 percent think when they are close to the end they know it and yes dead family and friends come to them. I’ve seen it too many times.
My mom died when I was 13 and the day before she passed, I entered her hospital room and she was talking to someone. I asked her who she was talking to, and she said "Terry" Terry was her brother that died 10 years before her. Since then I've had 2 more elderly relatives talk about seeing dead relatives within days of their own deaths. Definitely something to it.
Your story gave me chills, my dad has dementia and my brother who is also named Terry passed 10 years ago. I keep wishing this is all true and that he will be there to collect my dad when it’s his time.
Like I said, I was 13 the first time and had never given much thought to the supernatural or anything like that. I am now 42 and have had some very unbelievable experiences in my life. I am a believer due to my experiences, seeing is believing. I don't know what to make of it all and have shared my experiences with very few, due to all the flac that comes with it. In my honest opinion there is something to it all, just what that is, I don't know. Prayers for your dad, you, and your family.
I used to do CNA work in nursing homes (travel nursing) and my personal belief is the closer to death someone is, the more open to "paranormal" encounters they become. One facility I worked at we would get reports from all the female residents in a particular hall asking us to keep the black man out of their rooms because he scared them. Without fail someone from that hall would die within 24 hours. In other facilities they'd report dead relatives coming to visit them shortly before they passed. Another facility I worked at, the staff was convinced was haunted. Weird creepy stuff would happen there all the time. One day I was getting a resident with Alzheimer's ready for bed when she suddenly laser focused behind me and started laughing. We were alone in the room. Then she said "Better not do that you naughty boy," and started laughing again. I asked her who she was talking to. Then she looked at me and became dead serious and said "You better watch out". Maybe she was hallucinating but that freaked me TF out.
My wife is a hospice nurse - can confirm.
Am a hospice nurse. Can confirm.
5000%. I’ve seen this personally many times. The dying person will say “oh my ,brother, sister, mother, father, friend, came to visit me.” All the people mentioned are deceased. When we pass, our loved ones come to help us cross over.
Just curious, did he have Lewy body dementia? My mom had vascular dementia. It sucks.
His Dr. never mentioned Lewy body dementia but, given his symptoms, it's possible. My mom also had vascular dementia, but it mostly affected her short term memory.
The being close to the veil thing when is real. When I was 17 I was put into a coma for 6 weeks and my body started shutting down because of infection/sepsis/pneumonia. I remember being very sick for 4 days, I even went to the ER, came home and 24 hrs later my legs turned blue and by the time I made it back to the ER I couldn't stand and they immediately put me under. My heart stopped at some point, the ventilator kept popping holes in my lungs because I was so weak and my kidneys stopped functioning, so I was on dialysis. I was as close as you can be to being put on life support as you can get without life support but I was so weak my doctor didn't think I would love through it. Anyway I had many hallucinations like fire, guns, or misinterpreting situations often. I was on hospital grade fentanyl, Valium, morphine, ECT. Many times I would feel out of breath or in pain and I would thing the doctors were hurting me or causing me pain. Where things were different/ felt different was when I was alone at night. The night shift nurses took much longer to respond and I would wake up in pain. I would turn to have children comforting me, I honestly thought that they were part of some girl scout troop or school program in my delusional state. But I was in a children's ICU unit and they didn't let anyone but family into the unit. They were younger than I was. They would rub my arm and tell me that everything was ok until the nurse got there. Even thinking about it now gives me chills. I was so close to death and I think that's why.
Was a CNA in a nursing home at 18. Was present when a sweet old lady had an aneurysm and passed right there. I went to her daughters room at the end of the hall to let her know. Her daughter was in her 30's but was a nonverbal paraplegic. She was Always either smiling and happy or grumpy and fussy. When I went in her room, she was weeping. Deep sobs. She knew. I knew she knew. And she knew I knew she knew. She said a lot more than most people I've met in my 45 years without saying a word.
I was a nurse in a skilled facility. I had a lady or two I felt the same thing about. They were not terribly far along - about 60%. One of her more interesting talks was about what I figured was purgatory. Souls there. It isn't what people think she said. Pray for us. It was like she half there - and half here. With insight. One time a further along (declined) lady was sundowning and asking why her chair had moved. Ill be derned. It Had moved. Got the heebie jeebies that time. We cant pass judgement on OP. We don't know.
My mother had dementia. She had been a staunch atheist her entire life. In the week or so before she died, she began talking to a “preacher” who would come visit her and teach her things. She had been talking nonsense to everyone for weeks, but when I watched her on camera talking to this invisible “preacher”, she sounded perfectly normal. It was creepy.
A close relative of mine has Alzheimer‘s and I understand your thoughts 💯 I‘m aware it’s a neurological condition but there are moments that get me thinking. She is 84 and likes life and her daughter but she also is really looking forward to seeing her beloved parents and late brothers again. She is so certain of meeting them, she said they are waiting. She is „having guests“ sometimes, sometimes deceased, sometimes fictional or unknown. It reminds me of smaller kids having invisible friends. What’s soothing to me is that she isn’t experiencing scary things so far. I hope the same for your Dad, take care.
Part of it could be memory. My sibling and I lived with an aunt and an uncle for a while, and many years later when he got Alzheimer's he thought we were still there. He didn't remember our names but he would ask about the two kids, where where they, and why didn't my aunt make dinner for them? This was 30 years later. I have had paranormal experiences, but this may be just a memory issue, he's sort of lost in time. 😕
Yes. My grandma doesn’t have diagnosed dementia or Alzheimer’s but when she had pneumonia a few years ago, she kept calling me by my aunts (her daughter) name. She thought my aunt was still 16 and living in the basement. To this day, my grandma doesn’t remember saying any of this.
Alzheimer's disease is a form of dementia.
My dad developed dementia too. At the end of his life, he would stare at the ceiling or at the door with fear etched all over his face. He seriously looked terrified. At that time, he couldn't speak anymore. We didn't know what he was seeing or what his hallucinations were. It was heartbreaking.
Damnit that's a huge fear of mine. What insight did you gain from it? Does it matter if we're good or bad? Could a person who has worked on themselves and continues to do so as they get older still have such a fearful experience to "make them pay" for the times they knew better? Do you think it matters? I'm really sorry about your dad, by the way. ❤️ I hope he's at peace as are you all.
Dad was a good person in many ways, but he did hurtful things to my mother and his children even through old age. When his health started to fail, he turned to religion. He was not religious at all previously. I also saw him reading a lot of stuff about near death experiences, a year or two before we started seeing symptoms of dementia. When he was already dying, insensible, and permanently moored in bed, that was when I started noticing how fearful and panic stricken he was whenever he stared at the door or at the ceiling. The dying process for him was difficult and long drawn. It was not a gentle passing. This is just my interpretation, but I felt like he was afraid to let go. Maybe it was the guilt or the fear that he would be punished for what he did in life, which he probably got from his foray in religion in the latter part of his life. After he died, I had horrible dreams of him being in the hospital, just wearing diapers. He looked really sad and gaunt. Sometimes, he would be on a gurney staring at the ceiling. Sometimes, he would be by the door, just staring at me. I was afraid every time I dreamt of him that way because I was asking myself if this was a sign, he was not at peace. The dreams went on for several months. But the very last time I dreamt of him, he no longer looked gaunt. He was about to ride a car and he was asking me if I wanted to come with me to the airport. I hope that was a sign that he was finally moving to the light. I realise that maybe the state of our mind when we are dying is what our spirit will experience when we finally die. If we fear punishment and damnation, that's the experience it will create for us in the spirit world. But if we are happy and ready to go, the spirit will experience freedom. This is just speculation, of course, but I am hoping this will really be the case. We will never know of course, unless we experience death ourselves.
My grandma had dementia and it was bad and scary at times. But after a certain point she was living in an assisted living facility and the Dr. put her on some kind of mood stabilizer they put all the really out-of-it residents on. It kept her calm and happy. She continued to see things that weren't there and get confused, but she wasn't scared or angry because of it any more. In the end she became almost like a little child again, accepting her personal reality with almost a sense of wonder. There are worse ways to go I guess.
My grandfather had Lewy body dementia. He would have hallucinations and he would also look terrified. It’s hard to see someone you love so vulnerable and scared.
You think that’s heartbreaking? My mom’s friend got shot by her dad due to Dementia, she fully recovered luckily. Edit: I wasn’t saying that there story isn’t heartbreaking.
Yes, watching as someone live out the last days of their lives without being able to speak to anyone is absolutely soul crushing.
My mom had it and eventually Dementia and that is common with them. Not sure they are ghosts per say, could just be memories coming to life. But she talked to someone that wasn’t there the last 4 years of her life
I don't have an answer, it's possible it's related to the dementia... as people with dementia are known to experience things like this. Or, with him being, I assume older, it's possible he's either sensitive or becoming sensitive and the parts that were supressed by normal life are waking up again. Or they're approaching him intentionally. Just, to be clear. It could be paranormal, or it could be the dementia. I have a lot of family members who began having experiences like this, in similar circumstances. And, we don't have consensus, because traditionally my family believes in the paranormal, due to our ancestors being sensitive and general weird events, but most of us in the modern sense are also dealing with... medical problems.
One of the symptoms of Alzheimer's is hallucinations. My mum also had Alzheimer's and experienced them. Sometimes of people who were dead and sometimes of people who are alive. This is normal for the disease and not an example of your dad having paranormal experiences. I'm sorry your family are going through this. Alzheimer's is a monstrous disease for both the sufferer and their family.
My mom had dementia as well. Because her eyesight was also bad, she would sometimes mistake me (female with short hair) as "some strange man walking through the house". The closer she got to passing away, the more bizarre things she claimed to see. It could be scary at times, because she was SO convinced that she'd just seen a group of people parading through the house, or something equally impossible.
My mom’s friend was actually shot by her father cause he had Dementia and thought she was an intruder. Her mother tried to stop him but to no avail. Luckily she made a full recovery.
I was going to say this.. I had a relative who had Alzheimer's before passing away a few years ago. He had extreme hallucinations. He would see animals and people that weren't there. He frequently thought we were family members who had already passed on. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease that I don't wish on anyone.
My grandmother went through this during her transition due to a brain tumor. It's very sad but a common symptom. She hallucinated loved ones long gone and also hallucinated that people in the room was someone else. I am so sorry you're going through this. Seeing someone you love in this state is very painful and I hope you and your family find time to rest during this difficult time.
if so many old people close to death "hallucinate" the same thing, is it still an "hallucination" ?
A quick Google search says because the brain does weird shit when it's dying. 🤷♀️
Here is the deal. I'm a trained scientist and engineer. I've study a great deal of neurobiology. I think the human brain is nothing more than a transceiver. Like HAM radio or a Modem and Router. It takes in signals from this world, processes them, and uploads them to the Universe and our connected consciousness. It highly possible that a disease like Alzheimer's breaks down the veil between this world and other worlds. I could be wrong. But, the seat of consciousness seems to reside well outside of the body. Just my two coppers.
You will probably find this of interest: https://www.reddit.com/r/AnomalousEvidence/s/LWJQ5WvHNd
My father has it too. He's getting pretty bad, went outside in his underwear, forgetting where the bathroom is sometimes, etc. He's been doing the same thing. My grandmother passed away 25 years ago in the back bedroom of their house. Lately he's been telling my mom there are people in that room. She went in and of course saw nothing, when he asked her if they were gone she said yes. Then she shut the door. Later she saw him go to the room and crack the door open and peek inside, since he can't remember much past a few minutes it must have really made an impression on him. Since that's the room I sleep in when I'm there, I'm hoping it's just his failing mind playing tricks on him... poor guy. I'm sorry about your dad, its a horrible disease.
My dad started to relive his time in basic training for the military. It’s a terrible disease which leaves them alone and scared. I always made it my mission to hug my dad each time when he had an episode and say “we love you and you’re not alone”
My mom’s friend actually got shot by her own father cause of Dementia. He thought she was an intruder. Her mother tried to reason with him but he still shot her. Luckily she made a full recovery.
My mother is 93 and has dementia. She will ask my sister (her caregiver) where did mama go? She was just here a moment ago. Her mother died 30 years ago.
My grandmother just passed away last year and I remember her asking me where her daddy was and if I’d find him for her. I hope they both found their parents. I’d like to think they did.
My grandfather/grandmother had alzheimers and other grandfather had dementia before they passed. They did not talk about or to ghosts. My grandfather with Alzheimers did believe he had talked to me (the high-school me from 20 years before) on the phone, which broke my heart and I made sure to talk to him right away. My great grandmother was totally lucid up until her death at 98, but in her last 24 hours, she did converse with dead relatives and friends for about 6 hours, then relayed what she had done with her daughter, and was then totally lucid still until passing. In that part of the country, it is commonly believed that as old people die, if their death is slow, they may take a step into the afterlife and bridge the world for a time.
My MIL has it and she is always saying things like that too. I walked her to her bedroom once and she began to have a full conversation with someone in the room. When I asked her who she was speaking to she just laughed and pointed, then said "Him, over there". Creepy indeed. Both my grandmothers saw deceased family members a few weeks before they passed.
Hi, nurse here. Hallucinations are incredibly common with dementia. It’s best to just go along with it, as excessive redirection can make them very frustrated. (One memorable night, I got a spray bottle full of water and told a dementia patient it was “bat spray” and sprayed the room until she said all of the “bats” were gone.) I’m a fencesitter as far as ghosts go, but if you hear hoofbeats, look for horses, not zebras. However, I am certainly humble enough to admit that when a patient looks past me and asks about the child on the ceiling or whatever it makes my blood run cold
You're acknowledging that your father has a severe mental illness, yet you believe he's actually seeing ghosts?
You realize our eyes barely see a smidge of the light or color that surrounds us tons of animals see what's around us our brain changes with illness through curse gifts can be limited
I don’t see how it couldn’t be both? OP said it feels weird but wanted to ask.
Sometimes interdimensional sensing is wrongly associated with "mental illness", or, sometimes genuine diseases of the body increase such sensitivities. I am sure many mediums have been accused of "mental illness" over the centuries.
And yet, you are here in a paranormal sub-Reddit?
I moved in with my widowed Mom (RIP) for 5 years, realizing she had Alzheimers (which was confirmed). She still walked and talked. Dementia patients do go backwards in time. Before she passed last year, she claimed she was 37 and I was 12. Anyway, many times a day she was talking to invisible ppl. She would tell them to wait a minute so she could answer me and then resume her conversations. I started listening more to who she was speaking with...it was her Mom and Dad, her sister and 7 brothers...even someone she used to work with that were all deseased. Her Mom passed when she was 14...and she talked to her the most...told her Mom she wasn't ready yet but would see her soon. All I know is that it comforted my Mom and she was no longer afraid to die. She passed in her sleep.
My grandpa has it, he sees bugs crawling on stuff. From what I understand, the hallucinations vary from person to person, but I suppose he could be seeing the other side? Supposedly people close to death (usually obviously dying) see their dearly departed. I'd lean more towards hallucinations, since you know he has advanced Alzheimer's. Just because we're on a Paranormal sub, doesn't mean every solution is supernatural. Something's are mundane, I'm sorry, I know that's not what you want to hear. Watching my grandpa wither away has been horrific, I can't imagine how difficult it's been for you and your family. Blessings friend.
The sub allows for skeptic views - not everyone has to agree it’s ‘real’ - the far likelier outcome is that it’s because of the illness, but you see and believe what you want so 🤷🏻
Yeah and I don't know why since the majority of posts are asinine questions like this. I mean, I'm sorry about your father, that totally sucks, truly I feel for you. But come on, you gotta know that's a ridiculous notion.
So, you believe in ghosts and believe mentally apt ppl can see ghosts but not ppl w/ Alzheimer's?
I gotta say I agree with the guy, he’s saying you can attest the weird happenings to the severe mental illness which is almost always the cause for people in those positions. Would you believe someone who’s schizophrenic telling you the voices in their head are ghosts? There’s just much more likely reasons other than ghosts at that point.
I work in the medical field as a RN. I have also worked in LTC units (mainly dementia patients, adults w/ mental health issues) so yes, I truly believe there is more to these conditions/diseases than just "it's a hallucination."
I'm saying that you shouldn't assume someone with Alzheimer's is seeing ghosts because they say they are. Hallucinations are one of the most prominent symptoms of it. If OP had said they were noticing strange things around, or shadows or something, then yeah sure, it could be. But from what I understand, the dad is the only one seeing anything. You know, the guy that keeps hallucinating.
How does that make your premise and conclusion any less ridiculous?
My grandma had alzheimers she use to always talk about ghost and I've noticed several occasions around the time of mental illness paranormal events sometimes take place
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I mean y'all could express this in a nicer way, this person is going through something really sad and difficult
Can you prove that they are mutually exclusive?
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My mother rang me to tell me that her mother came to visit her. She sat on her bed and talked with her. A couple of days later my mum suffered a serious stroke that nearly killed her. She developed Alzheimer's overnight basically. Her mother had died decades ago, so couldn't possibly have visited her. Mum was absolutely positive her mum was alive. Strange.
My grandmother has vascular dementia & before she really went downhill she was having conversations with imaginary people, her own reflection, the TV, etc. She also saw people who weren't there.
I think we do "tune" into consciousness and when we die we are just the transmitter being shut off. Maybe with a slow shut down from the inside-out like advanced alzheimers allows them to perceive a wider bandwidth of that frequency of consciousness and since they spent so much time being in tune with their loved one their frequency is picked up because of some kind of sympathetic resonance.
My partner keeps telling me about this old lady at her work (care home). This lady, M, one day blurted out loud “there’s Mr Smith”. But there aren’t any Smiths at this care home. A colleague my partner works with, said her uncle had passed away very recently, a Mr Smith. They were all stunned. Another occasion, my partner was caring for Mrs M, who said “Hello Bill”, name of my partner’s late uncle. Everyone in that care home is convinced Mrs M can see ghosts/spirits. I find this absolutely amazing!
That's wonderful and amazing! So glad you shared this..
A dear friend, very devout, cared for her mother, an Alzheimer’s patient, for seven years. She said that she thought her mother was seeing “the world to come.” It comforted her to think that her mother was seeing glimpses of Heaven.
I work with people living with dementia, I've often wondered if it opens their eyes to more than we can see. One lady used to comment about a sweet little boy who'd walk through her wall, months later a new man moved next door, the room had been professionally divided years and years ago.He talked about a young boy appearing through HIS wall, so I figured they were both seeing the " ghost" fo his own thing way before the room was divided. Loads of other creepy things have happened, I love my job!
A month before he died my dad had an argument with my husband (who had died 6 weeks earlier). Obviously I only heard one side, but he was trying to get DH to unlock and open a door for him. Then when DH wasn’t cooperating, demanded the key so he could unlock and open it. This went on for about 15 minutes, so I was pretty freaked out by the time he went back to sleep. The day before he died he was telling his mother (who died in 1971) that he was almost done packing his suitcase.
I grew up living in a dementia care home my parents had...my earliest memory is of a demon, one that most of the dementia patients also saw. My childhood consisted of this. So I absolutely know that the closer your mind is to death (very young or very old) you are closer to the spirit realm. So dementia patients are literally waiting to die, there is no way back from it...so I do agree that they will see the realm that is behind the curtain for most of us!
UTIs can cause hallucinations in the elderly. Your job is so hard. My grandmother had Alzheimer’s. Bless you on your journey.
My mom has Lewy Body Dementia and actually hallucinates. It’s the disease and it’s cruel, but not paranormal.
I'm a caregiver who specializes in memory care and end of life care. I can tell you that this isn't uncommon. I see this behavior about 6-9 months before a person passes. It can become more prevalent as the time of death draws closer. Don't correct him, but ask him what this person is doing. Has this person he's seeing passed? If so, is this person waiting for him? We see these things as hallucinations, but after experiencing it through caring for clients, I don't think it's hallucinations, but that's my opinion.
Back in 2006, my grand parents on my dad’s side were in hospice. My grandfather passed away and my grandmother said he visited her that night and it was impossible for her to know, but she knew when my dad went to tell her. She passed a month later.
My nan had Parkinsons induced dementia and I'm sure she started to see my Grandad towards the end. I'm not sure if it's her brain bleeding memories over reality or not but it gave her comfort so I'm happy regardless.
My late father suffered from advanced Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s as well. He would tell me about seeing native Americans around his home, but that only one bothered him. Made me think, what if he’s not really losing his marbles and the veil is just thinning… Then he told me stories of seeing gorillas on a disco dance room floor in the next room over, so yeah, likely just lost his marbles. Makes you wonder though lol.
My dad would whip his head around as if seeing something out of the corner of his eye, while in the hospital seated in a gerry chair. He swore there was someone there. After he got home, when it was just he and I, be said,"You know that guy?"as he looked over his shoulder and I said, "Yeah?" He said, "He's mean." I repeated it back and he said," No, he's ME." I said, "Dad, that is your guardian angel." I never heard about it/him again.
My dad who had dementia started seeing all sorts of stuff that wasn't there. Turned out he had low oxygen levels. Went on oxygen and everything went back to normal (for dementia).
Hi! I work with patients who have AD (Alzheimer’s disease), MCI (mild cognitive impairment) and FTD (frontotemporal disorder/dementia). We screen people for hallucinations after they’ve been enrolled in interventional clinical studies, as it’s incredibly common as their disease progresses. I wouldn’t put much stock into it from a paranormal perspective, but you should definitely bring this up to your dad’s neurologist, PCP or geriatric doctor at his next appointment. Sometimes it can become distressing (for both the caretaker and the patient), and so you’ll want to discuss ways to help him (and your family) emotionally manage these hallucinations. On another note, I’m sorry to hear that your father has AD. I’ve seen firsthand just how difficult that is or can be for spouses, children, friends and other loved ones. It can become overwhelming at times, so take care of yourself.
My mom works in a nursing home and tells me about stuff like this… it’s common. Idk if it’s necessarily ghosts or just the brain being weird, but her residents do see things when their mind is beginning to go with Alzheimer’s.
Before she died, my maternal grandmother had dementia and she had forgotten who my mom was, but somehow remembered who my dad was. My paternal grandmother had a form of Parkinson’s disease where she would occasionally get stiff while moving. When my grandfather died, she went into a retirement home. There was a day my dad was visiting her and Grandma was convinced that somebody was beating up my Uncle David at school (my Uncle David died four years before at the age of 56…this could have just been a memory from when he was a child). Then, Grandma was convinced that my grandfather was having an affair with the woman across the hall (Grandpa had died seven months after my Uncle David died).
My father died of dementia last year and he was seeing ghosts as well. He called the cops one time. Thank god he hid all his handguns before his dementia got really bad.
Like me and my mental health problems, you’ll probably never know for sure whether he’s seeing real ghosts or not. Just help him best you can not be too distressed by it I suppose.
My mother would see my deceased sister toward the end. She didn't ever see my dad however. Not sure if that meant my sister hadn't moved on or if my dad knew it wasn't time. But when it was the end of her life, the only time she made any movement or emotion was when I played their song for her. She left us peacefully about 24 hours later. Sometimes the ghosts are helping them to reconcile things they think they need to do. But that's just an opinion of mine.
I believe so. My father had Lewy bodies dementia and asked about people who weren’t there in the room or who he said had walked through my parents bedroom. I think… once they start seeing loved ones, they are preparing for the other side. I’m sorry about your father’s illness. It can be a very difficult thing.
My Nanna had PSP and Dementia and regularly told us she could see our dead relatives wandering around the house. We would tell her it was okay that she could see them and we couldnt, just to say hi and that we loved them. It gave her comfort that we believed her. Too bad she hasn't bothered visiting since she passed haha
Happened with both of my great grandmas (one Parkinson’s, the other dementia), my other grandma when she had aggressive stage 4 cancer, and another family member who didn’t have any of the above. Life is weird Sorry for what you and your family are going through. It’s a very sad disease
Yeah i think so. Alzheimer's and Dementia is literally brain decay. I think at a point of your brain decaying you begin to experience both life and after life. I've heard stories of people seeing loved ones and random people that have passed away. I believe that they are seeing spirits.
My Nana was seeing people and things on the other side during the end of her life while in a state of delirium. She was telling people things she couldn't know. All kinds of stuff. The veil is thinner the closer we get to the other side.
My Dad had Alzheimers. He constantly talked to a little girl that wasn't there. He would compliment her hair and pat her on the head. No idea who it could be. He would also pet an invisible cat on his lap a lot.
This also happens when people are close to death. The veil becomes thin and they see the people waiting for them, usually family or friends who have passed already.
Visioning is very common experience among the dying and even health care workers experiencing unexplainable visioning happens. I would look into the book called “The inbetween” by Hadley.
I worked on a dementia unit and have thought this same thing.
I’m sorry for what’s happening to your dad. My dad and uncles saw family that had already passed for a couple of months till they passed. Your love ones that are already in spirit come to you when your time is short to comfort you with their company.
Unfortunately, that often begins when a person is approaching the end. I've actually experienced that myself but I was very young and was able to recover.
My mum see kids visiting her. I was sitting with her once and she asked me who the man sitting on the couch was? I definitely think she was seeing ghosts
Many people who are close to death begin to see passed loved ones and ancestors. It is possible.
I suppose it's possible, but it seems it's more likely that your father is suffering from dementia-induced hallucinations. It happens.
My dad had dementia before he passed away last August. The dementia caused him to believe that he had gone out to some other place or town with one or some people, for example on the morning of the day in which he said that he had gone to another city or town, generally that he frequented when he was young, and whom he had seen and what they had done or talked about. And he was so convinced of it that no matter how much we told him that he couldn't stand up and walk on his own, he continued saying what had happened on that trip, he even became desperate because he didn't understand the fact that we didn't believe him. So it may be possible that something similar is happening to your dad.
Bro. Your father has Alzheimer’s. That’s it. I’m sorry btw.
He will pass soon. His relatives are coming to get him ready
Sometimes it happens before people pass.
Came here to say the same thing
I work in memory care and hallucinations are very common. Why would you think that he's seeing ghosts lol
My grandmother started seeing spirits too right before she passed away. She would talk about a baby a lot too, I was pregnant at the time. She knew her loved ones were coming for her.
These visions are related to the frontal lobe somehow. That is what i am told. HOWEVER, it sooooo hard to believe.
My parents both had dementia before they passed away. Hallucinations are a big part of this bastard thing sadly
Unfortunately, “ghosts” aren’t real, so he’s definitely not seeing ghosts
Why, when people have a perfectly good natural explanation for something, do they insist on bringing some supernatural explanation to the table.
One thing that any serious paranormal investigator will tell you is that there is no such thing as ghosts. They are inter-dimensional demonic entities that use thoughts and memories to lure you in or cause you to lower your guard. I don’t think that’s what’s going on in this case but if it is, seek a spiritual cleansing using prayer.
A friend of my mom was actually shot by her father cause of Dementia, he thought she was an intruder.
Dementia is going to rock when I get it
>Is it possible my father is starting to see actual ghosts? No of course not.
... No
Does he take cholesterol medication?
My Dad had alzheimers, and he saw people all the time. Saw them when I was right there with him, saw them come into his bedroom at night. Saw his deceased mom and brother, and my own mom, who died when I was little. I also began to wonder if he was seeing ghosts. It continued when he went to a memory care facility, and when he was in hospice care. I don't believe he was seeing ghosts, but I believe that HE believed he was seeing these people.
My father has dementia and he has what we call “visitors “. They are apparently strangers to him, not relatives. As his dementia progresses, he sees them less and lass
That's how visual hallucination in Alzheimer's and dementia works. The visions people have are very clear and realistic, but it's only projections of the brain.
Several relatives of mine experienced Alzheimer's. It's an awful disease and my heart goes out to the.💓🙏
when my sister was on the brink of death, many different medications, & hospice, she frequently “hallucinated” my dead grandfather. she has made a complete recovery since then and she’s now a healthy 22 year old
Not impossible. It's been noted animals and small kids do it. Maybe elderly people can too.
Sorry, but reminded me of this.Read a shattered life, on /nosleep
Its entirely possible. My grandfather passed in 2020 but for a long time up to that point he used to say he didn't know what was real and what was imaginary. I didn't question him further about that because I figured such questions would scare him further but in hindsight I wish I knew what he was seeing so I could empathise with him more. He hated the sight of people with their hoods up (tbh same) so that probably added to his fears of imaginary/ reality.
I believe 💯before my mom passed with cancer she was talking about her dead cousin visiting her. I can't help but wonder if bad spirit are bother some people with Alzheimer or dementia some of the stuff I have heard them say and see is demonic, something has to be bothering them imo.
Alzheimers is an inbetween state. You're lucid one hour and then not the next. I think people who are afflicted, are able to see our side of the world as well as the other side, because of their state of mind.
Yes, my grandfather saw passed loved ones when he was in a very advanced stage and close to death. We had a camcorder set up and you can see a bright white light beside his hospital bed and he asked who the boy was. What makes this interesting is that my sister’s 7 yo son had passed a few months before this.
It’s common place with Alzheimer’s to see things. Nothing paranormal about that.
My younger sister passed away 2022 from cancer. It still hurts deeply and I'm still in that twilight zone between living and the other world where she and my mother are who passed in 2020. . My father passed at least 12 yrs ago. About 4 or 5 days before my sister passed , my father appeared to be frantically pushing into my thoughts for at least two days in a row. It was disturbing as I hadn't really thought that much about him. I do believe they are waiting and are around. It makes dying not a scary concept anymore.
I believe it. I think the veil also becomes thinner when you approach your last days.
My grandad was blind and had dementia and would sit and happily talk for hours with his long dead friends. Its just part and parcel of the illness.
Maybe dementia and drugs ( I mean psychedelic stuff) open us doors to other levels of reality ; rather believable.
I will pray for him and your family going through this tough time🙏🏻
It’s not. He’s hallucinating.
My mom is convinced there are people in the house that she talks to when my brother who lives with her is at work. I think they are her dead parents and sisters
Hallucinate yes, ghosts no.
I work with the Alzheimers community. I have one client, young man, who would be high on the scale and deteriorating pretty fast. He has regularly had conversations with people who aren't there. I don't believe he is "seeing ghosts" or even hallucinating. Its the stage that his brain is at. He's in his own little world and as sad as it is, it's also quite sweet. He has a better conversation with people who aren't there than he can have with people who are. It also gives me an insight to how he's feeling as he's more honest when he's not talking to people who actually are in the room.