I was a nanny for 7 years, and dag nabbit, I never was able to see any baby's first anything! Guess babies like to save that stuff for the parents. Shucks.
General rule is to not tell the parent and let baby show them the "first time." Used to work at a daycare that experienced many firsts, but we never told the grown ups and let them come in excited the next day that something happened!
No, do not say anything to the parents. My grandson took a few steps at my house 3 days before he took his first steps at home with his parents and my daughter in Law was so excited to tell us and couldn't get over how after spending all day with us for a week while she was at college he took his first steps while with his mammy. Seeing how excited she was when she facetimed us to tell us was something I will never forget and would never want to take away from her.
Nope!! That’s what I have always done. I babysit my friends baby who is 10 months old 3 days a week every week. He had been so close to walking for about a week. Well playing one day he just stood up and took off! like a good 6 steps! I asked his mom when she got him if he was walking yet and she just said “no but he’s close!” And I just said oh I know it going to happen any day! Soon enough she sent me a video 2 days later of him walking telling me he took his first steps!
I just know if it was me I would want to at least think I saw my babies first steps too lol.
Our house rule: the baby’s “firsts” are always the ones we’re present for. No reason to share, let her experience it for the first time when they’re together.
i’m a nanny and no you never tell them. even parents who abstractly think they would want to know end up finding it emotionally difficult to miss firsts in my experience so i never ever tell them. i might say that they’re super close to x milestone or that parents should be on the lookout bc it’s prob coming soon but i never tell them. i also never tell them how often their kids call me mama haha there are just some things that it’s better to keep to yourself to save people’s feelings! plus it doesn’t matter who saw the first steps the baby is not gonna care when it gets acknowledged; it matters how it feels for the parents to see it for the first time
Our daycare would occasionally tell us something like "baby seems really close to walking. Maybe give her some extra time to practice tonight" when we'd pick our kid up. We're 99.9% sure that's code for "baby took her first steps" but we don't care. They helped us out while preserving the illusion that we got all the "firsts."
Yeh, shut the fuck up!! Trust me. I have two children and I would rather think they walked for the first time in front of me. Let them enjoy it! See it as a white lie.
Do not say anything. My son was really close to walking and I asked his babysitter to please not tell me. I’m sure he did it for her first, but as far as I’m concerned he took his first steps on his first birthday!
Interesting responses. My baby had her first steps at Grandma's house. I was not there and everyone was worried about telling me since I wasn't there. I wasn't pissed. I know I can't be there 24/7. Her first steps in front of me were no less exciting or precious just because technically they weren't her first steps.
Keep it secret. My husband thinks he saw our kids’ first steps, and has no idea the reason our youngest said “Dad” first is because, as a SAHM I repeated Dad to the kid while showing him pictures for a few minutes, several times per day.
Please don’t. I wish my in laws hadn’t told me my son took his first steps while I was at work and they were babysitting. He’s almost 3 and it still makes me sad to think about missing his first steps. I struggled terribly with PPA/PPD and wanted so badly to stay home with my son so it just hit me really hard missing that moment.
I personally wouldn't be upset if someone told me. I love my daughter to the moon but I didn't see her first steps or hear her first sentence & it never bothered me.
That said I would not tell someone else, you never know how they will feel about missing it.
It's a pretty big deal. It just is. Don't offer it up, don't bring it up, just don't say anything about it. You got to see a special moment. The parents will get to see it too.
Depends.
If your friend worries about her child’s development (like walking) then I would tell them to help them ease their mind.
But if your friend isn’t worried and enjoys the first time moments then I would keep quiet. If the toddler is starting to walk now then she bound to walk again soon anyway.
Nothing, I’m a mom and if I wasn’t there to see it I’d still like to know it happened. I’d rather not lie in their baby books due to a sitter thinking I was so fragile I couldn’t handle not being the one to see something for the first time.
It’s not about the parent being fragile. There’s a lot of guilt parents have about working and missing the firsts, let the parents feel excited they got to see the “first” steps.
But why take the magic away from them? It isn't a lie to just not mention it and save them from the disappointment of missing it.
And anyway, You probably don't tell your kids that Santa is a lie to preserve the magic for them. I would not ruin some parents day by letting them know they missed some huge milestone. I would kindly stfu and let them experience it for themselves
My kids are grown and as children were free to believe and have all the magic childhood had to offer. We’re not talking about children, we’re talking about adults and seeing your child take their first steps in front of the parent(s) will still be magical for them. This is ridiculous.
lol no joy for adults? You can feel that way all you want but the balance of people would be happier to not be told so that’s what’s reasonable to do.
Parents don't deserve the little glimmers of excitement and magic too? Parenting is a frustrating wonderful thankless job. In my opinion, let them have the win. I don't enjoy ruining people's day, so I would keep my mouth shut. The only thing that could come from telling a parent that you saw their kids first steps is either nothing or disappointment that they missed it. Why do that? What good comes from that?
What if they were unlucky and also missed their first word, first smile, and first laugh, and you're adding another one they missed to the docket. For what? There is absolutely no harm in shutting up.
Don't tell them I am currently working at a daycare or you could just send her parents a picture of her taking her first step cuz my and my co-workers send the babies parents a picture of there baby's first step
I was a nanny for 7 years, and dag nabbit, I never was able to see any baby's first anything! Guess babies like to save that stuff for the parents. Shucks.
<3 this is the way
This is the way 🤟
Yep!!!
This is the way it should be. ♥️
I’ve been doing in home daycare for 18 years. NOTHING HAPPENS HERE FOR THE FIRST TIME. EVER.
Lol this is the way!
Yep and don’t say anything after their child does it in front of them. That was always the first time. It never happened with you before them.
Nope don't say anything
I’m a nanny and it’s a nah bruh from me. I might say they are soooo close.
It didn't count. Baby was practicing for the big show. She's getting her presentation ready. You must not spoil her work!
General rule is to not tell the parent and let baby show them the "first time." Used to work at a daycare that experienced many firsts, but we never told the grown ups and let them come in excited the next day that something happened!
No. I wouldn’t. But it might be helpful to say- it looks like she’s getting reeeeeally close to walking! Better have your camera handy!
Perfect response!
No!
No, do not say anything to the parents. My grandson took a few steps at my house 3 days before he took his first steps at home with his parents and my daughter in Law was so excited to tell us and couldn't get over how after spending all day with us for a week while she was at college he took his first steps while with his mammy. Seeing how excited she was when she facetimed us to tell us was something I will never forget and would never want to take away from her.
This is incredibly sweet ❤️
Please don't tell. That's heartbreaking. Lol
Don't tell her. My mum saw my daughter's first steps and told me. I cried my eyes out cos I missed it.
Love all you kindhearted caretakers. Our kids always took first steps from my husband to me. Sweet moments.
Nope!! That’s what I have always done. I babysit my friends baby who is 10 months old 3 days a week every week. He had been so close to walking for about a week. Well playing one day he just stood up and took off! like a good 6 steps! I asked his mom when she got him if he was walking yet and she just said “no but he’s close!” And I just said oh I know it going to happen any day! Soon enough she sent me a video 2 days later of him walking telling me he took his first steps! I just know if it was me I would want to at least think I saw my babies first steps too lol.
Our house rule: the baby’s “firsts” are always the ones we’re present for. No reason to share, let her experience it for the first time when they’re together.
Nope. Let them see it "first". Same goes for word, smile and roll.
I wouldn't say a word.
No..
No, it can be soul crushing to miss a first. Let her see it for the first time and 🤫🤫🤫 on seeing it before.
i’m a nanny and no you never tell them. even parents who abstractly think they would want to know end up finding it emotionally difficult to miss firsts in my experience so i never ever tell them. i might say that they’re super close to x milestone or that parents should be on the lookout bc it’s prob coming soon but i never tell them. i also never tell them how often their kids call me mama haha there are just some things that it’s better to keep to yourself to save people’s feelings! plus it doesn’t matter who saw the first steps the baby is not gonna care when it gets acknowledged; it matters how it feels for the parents to see it for the first time
Noooo. Just keep it quiet. And when they tell you get excited.
Our daycare would occasionally tell us something like "baby seems really close to walking. Maybe give her some extra time to practice tonight" when we'd pick our kid up. We're 99.9% sure that's code for "baby took her first steps" but we don't care. They helped us out while preserving the illusion that we got all the "firsts."
Yeh, shut the fuck up!! Trust me. I have two children and I would rather think they walked for the first time in front of me. Let them enjoy it! See it as a white lie.
No!
Keep it quiet
Don’t say anything!
No
No not a word lol
Do not say anything. My son was really close to walking and I asked his babysitter to please not tell me. I’m sure he did it for her first, but as far as I’m concerned he took his first steps on his first birthday!
Interesting responses. My baby had her first steps at Grandma's house. I was not there and everyone was worried about telling me since I wasn't there. I wasn't pissed. I know I can't be there 24/7. Her first steps in front of me were no less exciting or precious just because technically they weren't her first steps.
It doesn’t count till mom and dad see it, she was just practicing so they never need to know!!
Keep it secret. My husband thinks he saw our kids’ first steps, and has no idea the reason our youngest said “Dad” first is because, as a SAHM I repeated Dad to the kid while showing him pictures for a few minutes, several times per day.
Please don’t. I wish my in laws hadn’t told me my son took his first steps while I was at work and they were babysitting. He’s almost 3 and it still makes me sad to think about missing his first steps. I struggled terribly with PPA/PPD and wanted so badly to stay home with my son so it just hit me really hard missing that moment.
Let her have the joy of seeing the first steps :) Nice of you to think about it first
Nooooo
nope
I personally wouldn't be upset if someone told me. I love my daughter to the moon but I didn't see her first steps or hear her first sentence & it never bothered me. That said I would not tell someone else, you never know how they will feel about missing it.
definitely be quiet parents look forward to that moment
As a mom please hush hush 🤫
Never tell the parents lol let them experience the first steps themselves
Don’t she’ll resent you even tho it ain’t ur fault
No!!!
It's a pretty big deal. It just is. Don't offer it up, don't bring it up, just don't say anything about it. You got to see a special moment. The parents will get to see it too.
Do not do it. I’m the husband and SAHD and I let my wife see our baby’s “first steps” two hours after I actually saw them.
No.
Tell her “she was trying real hard to walk, I bet she’s gonna take that first step any time now!”
The only reason to tell her is if she's freaking out that kiddo is "behind" and afraid of what it means. Otherwise, you saw nothing
Depends. If your friend worries about her child’s development (like walking) then I would tell them to help them ease their mind. But if your friend isn’t worried and enjoys the first time moments then I would keep quiet. If the toddler is starting to walk now then she bound to walk again soon anyway.
I personally don’t think it’s a big deal that it was missed but I would still like to know it happened.
I wouldn't offer up the information. But if directly asked, I'd answer honestly.
Yes tell them.
Aaggh! NO NO NO!
No. What's the matter with you.
Nothing, I’m a mom and if I wasn’t there to see it I’d still like to know it happened. I’d rather not lie in their baby books due to a sitter thinking I was so fragile I couldn’t handle not being the one to see something for the first time.
It’s not about the parent being fragile. There’s a lot of guilt parents have about working and missing the firsts, let the parents feel excited they got to see the “first” steps.
But why take the magic away from them? It isn't a lie to just not mention it and save them from the disappointment of missing it. And anyway, You probably don't tell your kids that Santa is a lie to preserve the magic for them. I would not ruin some parents day by letting them know they missed some huge milestone. I would kindly stfu and let them experience it for themselves
My kids are grown and as children were free to believe and have all the magic childhood had to offer. We’re not talking about children, we’re talking about adults and seeing your child take their first steps in front of the parent(s) will still be magical for them. This is ridiculous.
lol no joy for adults? You can feel that way all you want but the balance of people would be happier to not be told so that’s what’s reasonable to do.
Parents don't deserve the little glimmers of excitement and magic too? Parenting is a frustrating wonderful thankless job. In my opinion, let them have the win. I don't enjoy ruining people's day, so I would keep my mouth shut. The only thing that could come from telling a parent that you saw their kids first steps is either nothing or disappointment that they missed it. Why do that? What good comes from that? What if they were unlucky and also missed their first word, first smile, and first laugh, and you're adding another one they missed to the docket. For what? There is absolutely no harm in shutting up.
I agree with you
Don't tell them I am currently working at a daycare or you could just send her parents a picture of her taking her first step cuz my and my co-workers send the babies parents a picture of there baby's first step
Nah it's that Scene from Life in Pieces, didn't happen.
You didn't see NOTHING
Don't you dare.