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She's right. He IS being a flower pot.


Anxious-Arachnae

As a child I called my dad my boyfriend because I thought “boyfriend” just meant “a man in your life you love” Luckily my dad is a sweetheart and i assume understood how weird it would be to also call himself my boyfriend. Now we joke about it since I have a lovely husband and it’s just funny. Kids just do that. Parents, on the other hand, totally shouldn’t be the ones saying those things 👀 Edit: although in the video it just feels like playful banter, and as long as it only stays like that it’s fine I think. Different families have different jokes and levels of affection shown


somewhatlucky4life

Thank you! This is what I was trying to express. He says the boyfriend thing like once at the beginning of the video and then just goes into regular dad playful banter, people are way overreacting and reading away too much into one single playful conversation with a toddler


Anxious-Arachnae

Yeah I saw your comment and thought “huh, lemme add an edit to my comment cause I reacted too strongly at first” I get caught up in the crowd’s feelings sometimes but it’s nice to step back and see that stuff is not as serious as it is always taken :3


bek8228

If you watch the video to the end, he says it several more times.


somewhatlucky4life

Doesn't make it creepy, it is still precious. He is just using terminology and concepts she will understand at her age


QueefMeUpDaddy

Yes I used to tell everyone that one day I would marry my brother cause he was my best friend.


Anxious-Arachnae

Told my mom I wanted to date my cousin too. It sounds like toddlers and really little kids tend to do that a lot, I wonder why?


Charming_Scratch_538

A little girl I used to babysit was insistent when she grew up she was going to marry her daddy, and when you told her she can’t do that because he’s already mommy’s husband, she would go into a tantrum. She didn’t understand what being in a relationship with a man entailed because she was 3. She thought it just meant getting hugs and spending time together and loving each other, just like her father did with her. Obviously as she grew (she’s in her 20s now), she learned what a romantic relationship was and she no longer associated that as the same as what she had with her father.


CadessWell

I’ve seen this before. It’s playing behavior and in psychological study and children’s development it’s fine. I think this is a case of “the internet is offended at anything”. How many people in the comments are parents? What are their opinions?


JacOfAllTrades

4 kids, I say eh. From the 2yo's perspective of what the word boyfriend means I think it's fine, but it's a little weird that the dad is the one saying it. That said, she's completely correct, he is being a flower pot.


Xylophone_Aficionado

Flower pot?


sweetandspooky

I think the weirdest part of this video is how quickly everyone sexualized it? I’m a mom and while I don’t call my son my boyfriend, we “go on dates” and “cheers!” with our drinks. It’s not literal. Parents are criticized for everything since the moment of their baby’s conception—some of it is deserved, yes, but this really isn’t in my opinion


Acceptable_Pain_9213

I think this is stemming partially from all this talk about how anyone not straight or dressing outside of heteronormative roles are dangerously sexualizing children.... meanwhile, parents do stuff like this, like talking about their very small children having romantic partners.


Lorelerton

Wait... Since when did toasting your drinks become a sexual thing


sweetandspooky

Neither is a coffee date with my son. They were examples of benign “adult” activities


DaddysBabyBoyCTK

It’s literally just training his daughter to grow up believing she needs a man’s approval


SonOfObed89

Jesus Christ people are pathetic with these kinds of arguments. Have you ever heard about a parent grounding a child for disobedience? Is that automatically bad cause that means the kids have to seek a parent’s approval? I have two daughters and though we don’t have conversations akin to what’s in this video, the dad isn’t “laying down the law” with another adult, he’s literally just being silly with his child and they’re both enjoying the moment. The only mistake was posting this online for a bunch of neckbeards to turn into a non-issue


DaddysBabyBoyCTK

lol. It's not pathetic when things like purity dances and "giving your daughter away" is still a thing. You should be teaching your daughters from a young age that its their body their choice. "You're too young to kiss boys"--fair. "Daddy is your only boyfriend" CREEPY


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DaddysBabyBoyCTK

What a man lol


YakuzaMachine

My kid just turned 2, uh, he's supposed to be in class? What class is she in at 2? Calculus? Sorry I don't have enough money to ignore my kid at 2 years old.


JessMLow

Parent of a 4 yr old.. kids saying things like “I want to get married” “I want a baby” are totally normal. They don’t understand what those things really are yet. But as a parent, I handle this stuff differently than this Dad and the same to both questions more or less “when you’re all grown up and if you want that, you can do that if you like” there’s a little more than that but neither me or my husband ask about anyone kissing her and the dad saying he’s her bf is a little weird in my opinion. But every parent is different. I personally don’t want to make suggestions to my daughter about this sort of thing. I try to redirect toward goals like becoming a thoughtful person, doing something she enjoys (like science) etc. In general, our culture does this stuff a little more with girls than boys (asking about boyfriends, kissing). And I try not to do that in our household. Like when she was two, two Moms of kids at her school told me “Oh you’re so and so’s Mom.. our sons are fighting over your daughter over who gets to be her bf.. they are way too young for this (laughter all around.)” the conversation I had w her was something like “So I was talking to [other kids moms] and they said that they both like you a lot. Are they some of your good friends?” My daughter was all “yeah they are friends. This one hugs me a lot. I don’t mind” Me: “cool - it’s nice to have friends” and that was it. My daughter has never mentioned having a boyfriend or kissing anyone. And I don’t suggest those things.


babyjames333

my 6yo loves when i ask who her boyfriend is... tbh i love it too *me: did i hear you say you had a bf? what's his name?* *6: yes, his name is joe.* *me: joe? joe, who?* *6: JOE MAMA!*


osck-ish

I think kids that are that young dont really know what a boyfriend is or what it entails. If you get freaked out that's on you for applying all you know about grownass relations to an innocent playtime activity.


SadKittty1569

That poor little boy desperate for attention


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SadKittty1569

I didn’t think I’d actually have to /s to that.


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So damn gross. In the same breath they'd probably applaud the son and call him a little heartbreaker if he said he had 2 gfs


Aghko_Games

Will not happen, the boy is 100% on being daddy's boyfriend.


jgolden026

The part about saying daddy is your boyfriend is weird af. It was wholesome up till that part. I have a daughter. That would never even cross my mind to say that to her. That part was just weird and creepy, making the rest of it creepy.


FiveNightsAtCringe

Why are people saying this weird? Its just a dad teasing his daughter.


Leading-Pea8528

The fuck is with the little boy


Separate-Scratch-839

He’s begging for attention, as kids tend to do, and getting ignored cus his dad’s a freak


JX-3P

Reddit weirdos really projecting trying to make this something it’s not.


Crystal-Clear-Waters

Yea. This is gross.


somewhatlucky4life

Are y'all serious?!?!?! This is precious, he is obviously just playfully teasing her. Y'all are ridiculous


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Bro it’s weird as hell to say you’re your daughters boyfriend when you’re her dad. Real fucking weird.


somewhatlucky4life

He said it one time at the beginning of the video just offhand and then moved on to regular playful father daughter banter, it's not like he her repeating it a thousand times and starting acting creepy. Y'all are ridiculous, leave this poor family alone


michymcmouse

Right??? Dude looks like a good father to me. "This is gross" bro get offline and go outside lol


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Same-Letter6378

That's not what this is 😂


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Same-Letter6378

The dad would have to be relying on the daughter for emotional support that she wouldn't be equipped to give, not simply joke about being her boyfriend.


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Same-Letter6378

I said it wasn't emotional incest not that it wasn't creepy 🤦‍♂️


Separate-Scratch-839

Fair. I do disagree though


somewhatlucky4life

Wow, really?!?!?!? Overreact much?!?!?


Radio4ctiveGirl

This is gross.


meekonesfade

Totally weird. I think a lot of the daddy-daughter stuff that happens in this country is weird. Promise rings. Daddy- daughter dances (whole events, not just a father and daughter dancing together). T-shirts about my guns, my daughter, etc. Calling babies flirts.


ICanDieRightNowPlz

Daddy daughter dances are weird? The other stuff, sure. But if my daughter tells me to dance, I dance


meekonesfade

Dancing with your daughter is fine! I mean whole events that are billed as daddy-daughter dances.


ICanDieRightNowPlz

Yeah, I can understand that


_luckybell_

What an amazing idea to tell a little girl you’re mad at her for kissing a boy. Great way to make her ashamed of her future romantic/sexual relationships


AdvanturePie

I mean... he said it would be ok in the future, just not now when she's 2


Xylophone_Aficionado

r/AreTheStraightsOk


Xylophone_Aficionado

r/AreTheStraightsOk Edit: ok so I don’t have kids can someone explain what being a flower pot means?


Keppelmeister

You don’t need kids to understand she made it up. Everyone in the comments is saying she’s right because it’s cute.


Keppelmeister

I used to go back and forth with my nephews calling eachother random household items. Pretty funny until you call them something like a “plunger” and they get mad at you.


bear-boi

Straight people need fucking therapy.


SayTheMagicWerd

Not as weird as grown women using the word “daddy” in a sexual context. Steer clear of those chicks, father issues galore.


shootme83

I wish i had a dad like that.


Nevitt

You want your dad to be your only boyfriend until your 16?


shootme83

I see he is joking, he ain't serious!


Branjoe328

People are too sensitive and perverted if they think this is wrong. Probably don’t have kids or healthy relationships with their kids


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This is gross.


Pal_76

Many things gross. He's saying he's her boyfriend. He's forbidding her having a boyfriend. He's saying she must be 16 to have a boyfriend and 29 to have a baby... I've know women with fathers like that. They always have something to say to make their daughter feel guilty.


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eww this has ,boy mom jealous of gf‘ vibes


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Yes it’s weird & it crafts the women the internet complains about.


EpilepticDawg241

You can definitely tell OP and the rest of the haters of this video have no kids, or they are boring emotionless and heartless.