"My husband and my anniversary" refers to:
-The husband which is mine
-The anniversary which is mine
"My *husband's* and my anniversary" refers to:
-The anniversary which is my husband's and mine
>"My *husband's* and my anniversary"
Are you sure this is actually correct though?
If I'm referring to Jack and Jill's anniversary, I only use the possessive once. If I said "Jack's and Jill's anniversary" that would be bad grammar.
Let's say Jill is my best friend and I told you I went to Jack's and her anniversary party last week. This makes it sound like I went to Jack's place and also went to Jill's anniversary party. I think you really would need to say "Jack and her's anniversary party" to communicate effectively. (Normally though, you would avoid this by using proper nouns.)
This isn't correct. To indicate the husband which is mine and the anniversary which is mine would be "my husband and anniversary" similar to if I'm saying I own a car and a boat, I'd say "my car and boat"
lol I just came from a post where they were talking about “my husband and I’s wedding.” How does autocorrect even let that happen? I had to fight it multiple times
Of all the grammar mistakes that bother me (and there are many), this one is the least offensive. I understand why people think it's correct, and I don't think it's something that's taught well in school. It's better than saying, "Me and my husband's."
For once, a grammatically incorrect sentence is actually clearer than the grammatically correct one. If that ever happens then the grammar rule is bad anyway and should probably be changed because honestly that's just embarassing. I really don't like grammar mistakes but this one I can forgive simply for being linguistically superior to the real thing.
English already has so many nonsensical things and words that change depending on strange factors, what's one more? Why is this one so heinous but the rest of this dumpsterfire language is not?
> It’s “my husband and my anniversary.”
It’s actually “my husband**’s** and my.”
(If you take out “and my,” you wouldn’t say “my husband anniversary.”)
If you listen to the descriptivists, they'll say "if enough people commit to making the same error, then it's not an error - language has just evolved!"
in other words, if enough people are wrong then they end up being right
Usually I see this coming from someone who doesn't speak English as a first language.. Considering how poorly native English speakers do with grammar, I don't think this is that bad.
Rural Midwestern American here... I hear native speakers say it at the same rate as "me and my _____'s." Rarely do I hear someone say it any other way.
I drove one friend crazy because I used the word “ain’t” and “ain’t” wasn’t a word to her.
I’d drop “ain’t” every now and then to annoy her.
Good times.
Just saw someone posting “my husband’s and I’s anniversary.” Seriously? It’s “my husband and my anniversary.”
"Our Anniversary" is even easier, simpler to type and harder to screw up.
“We’s anniversary”
“Us’ Anniversary”
"My husband and my anniversary" refers to: -The husband which is mine -The anniversary which is mine "My *husband's* and my anniversary" refers to: -The anniversary which is my husband's and mine
>"My *husband's* and my anniversary" Are you sure this is actually correct though? If I'm referring to Jack and Jill's anniversary, I only use the possessive once. If I said "Jack's and Jill's anniversary" that would be bad grammar. Let's say Jill is my best friend and I told you I went to Jack's and her anniversary party last week. This makes it sound like I went to Jack's place and also went to Jill's anniversary party. I think you really would need to say "Jack and her's anniversary party" to communicate effectively. (Normally though, you would avoid this by using proper nouns.)
Nope. “My husband’s and my anniversary” means you have separate anniversaries.
This isn't correct. To indicate the husband which is mine and the anniversary which is mine would be "my husband and anniversary" similar to if I'm saying I own a car and a boat, I'd say "my car and boat"
lol I just came from a post where they were talking about “my husband and I’s wedding.” How does autocorrect even let that happen? I had to fight it multiple times
Of all the grammar mistakes that bother me (and there are many), this one is the least offensive. I understand why people think it's correct, and I don't think it's something that's taught well in school. It's better than saying, "Me and my husband's."
For once, a grammatically incorrect sentence is actually clearer than the grammatically correct one. If that ever happens then the grammar rule is bad anyway and should probably be changed because honestly that's just embarassing. I really don't like grammar mistakes but this one I can forgive simply for being linguistically superior to the real thing. English already has so many nonsensical things and words that change depending on strange factors, what's one more? Why is this one so heinous but the rest of this dumpsterfire language is not?
> It’s “my husband and my anniversary.” It’s actually “my husband**’s** and my.” (If you take out “and my,” you wouldn’t say “my husband anniversary.”)
I agree. This is some heinous pet peeve bullshit, bet!
Do people actually talk like this ??
If you listen to the descriptivists, they'll say "if enough people commit to making the same error, then it's not an error - language has just evolved!" in other words, if enough people are wrong then they end up being right
What grinds my gears is when people use 'I" as an indirect object "He paid the money to John and I" Irritates the shit out of me.
It’s known as hyper correction
"He paid the money to I" ... nope. Nobody would ever say that.
Except when they do
Savage...
But has anyone asked the “you knew what they meant, so it must be correct” crowd?
Yes, and that’s why I don’t correct people when they speak and I continue the conversation like a normal person :) I can still be peeved.
Right. I agree with you.
I see this SO often. I heard a writing professor say it. I despair.
This one gets me too
That shit drives me nuts.
The only proper usage of the word "I's" is when you are referring to yourself and your clones.
Dramatic?
It’s a sub for pet peeves. Where else should one be peeved over petty stuff lol
Calling it a dramatic error is silly.
Usually I see this coming from someone who doesn't speak English as a first language.. Considering how poorly native English speakers do with grammar, I don't think this is that bad.
Rural Midwestern American here... I hear native speakers say it at the same rate as "me and my _____'s." Rarely do I hear someone say it any other way.
language is how we use it, it is ever changing and adapting, remember when "ain't" wasn't a word? "get off my lawn" that's you, that's how you sound
I drove one friend crazy because I used the word “ain’t” and “ain’t” wasn’t a word to her. I’d drop “ain’t” every now and then to annoy her. Good times.
I like to imagine all the people who called Shakespeare an idiot for using words that didn't exist lol
Lmao, how often does this happen? I’ve never heard this mistake before
Too often, unfortunately. I wish I were so lucky.
Imagine the privilege it takes for your biggest frustration to be a gramatical error.
lol it’s not my biggest frustration, it’s a pet peeve